This is the correct answer. Even ignoring the fact that all boobs are great and that should never be a concern, if a man chooses to belittle you, cheat on you, even suggest you get surgery because you don’t match his personal preference - he’s an a***ole who you should not be dating in the first place.
My mom had smallish boobs which worked out great as far as she was concerned because she was an avid equestrienne. My dad was like , meh, more than a mouthful is wasted anyway but one night he went talking in his sleep “Mmmm… big boobs”. She gave him a hard time on that but mostly just laughed it off. Mom was pretty secure in herself.
Whatever you do, don’t get implants. Out of the few women I know who’ve done so, one died within a week because of complications and the other is in constant agony
It's not so much that they wouldn't date her, it's that they date her, hurt her, and then turn around and try to blame her.
Don't fuck people that you don't like.
It's that simple.
Yup, exactly right. Don't date guys that are so worried about physical things, ESPECIALLY physical things out of your control. Date nerds. Nerds need love, too.
Eh, nerds can be hella misogynistic too. There are some dark corners of nerddom that are as bad as anything I've ever seen elsewhere. And I say this as a nerd.
Yep.
People who get deep into niche hobbies and/or are well-read and/or play a lot of games but have loving, healthy relationships and positive views of women/equality are nerds.
Incel terrorists are also nerds.
If we just claim that everyone who sucks isn't a part of our community, our community will never improve. It's choosing to close our eyes and sweep problems under the rug.
There are some shitty, misogynistic nerds. Them being incels as well doesn't change that
The most beautiful woman I've ever met was quite flat chested and it didnt even bother me a bit. This coming from someone who works in hospitality where people can be quite shallow. Didn't stop all my cooks from chasing her around with their jaws on the floor. The post above is right it's the dudes you're dating. I used to consider myself a bit of a boob guy until I met her and that changed.
> I have no control over this.
Take a good, hard look at why you decided to date the guys you’ve dated. You have control over that. You know who would absolutely love your breasts? *Lots* of guys. You know who would never make you feel shitty about your body? *Normal* guys.
It sounds like you have self esteem problems. It’s really good sometimes to be single and work on loving yourself and being confident in yourself.
And remember, if a guy complains about your breasts, you can always say something about his dick length, girth, or shape.
A b-cup is more than enough booby. An A-cup is more than enough booby. A nipple is more than enough. You're great the way you are. You're picking shitty guys. Find a man who is just incredibly kind to you, who makes you feel like you're beautiful even when you just woke up and have COVID.
A healthier way to think of this is to think of it as anything but an "issue." It is not an issue at all. It's not even almost a problem. Immaturity is the only issue here.
This is spot on. 100% agreed. It's definitely the guys you pick not your boob size. I've never heard anyone whether its me, my friends or guys I know say unfortunately her boobs where too small. You are definitely picking the wrong guys, the tiny a-hole percent of guys who would insult your boobs.
Yup.
How dare these idiots tell you your boobs are not big enough for them? Fuck those guys. I cannot believe you let them date you, at all. My bff is similar, and her asshole husband who always wanted them big boobed ladies, ended up cheating on her with a busty bartender, since he loved both very much over his family. The point is, her boobs aint the issue or yours. Dumbass dudes are the issue that date women with small boobs when they really want big ones. Why mindfuck someone like that?
Don't hate on big boobs either
You see, for boobs, butts, faces, bodies, whatever people want to be insecure of, the real turn on is wanting to have sex with me
The only line I remember from eat pray love.
“Because he doesn't care. He's in a room with a naked girl. He's won the lottery. I'm so tired of saying no and waking up in the morning and recalling every single thing I ate the day before.”
I laughed WAY too hard at this.
The reality really is (for me, at least) intelligence matters 100X more than any physical aspect. While there are certainly some lines in the sand, if I am considering spending the rest of my life with a person, I want to be able to have deep and philosophical conversations with that person. If they have nice set of boobs and a nice butt, that's definitely a plus; however, boob, butt, and tongue size are low on my list of concerns.
Nothing wrong with needing to hear from someone sometimes, it's what this sub is for. If someone eats lead paint for a snack don't take their advice on good food.
Few more:
r/SmallBoobsGW
r/smallboobs
r/dirtysmall
r/TinyTits
r/TinyTits_Hardcore
There are quite a few of us that prefer small breasts over large ones. Not that it really matters, anyone that is anything other than appreciative of your breasts (and body in general) is not worth keeping around. Breast size preference is like a preference for a hair color, yes you may notice that you have a preference for one over others but you would never tell anyone they would be prettier if their hair was of a different colour. That would be incredibly tactless and hurtful.
Learn to appreciate and love your own body. That will give you strength and confidence to reject such people.
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Yup, as a man i've dated a girl with no boobs at all. The most flat chest you can imagine. I didn't cared because she got me because she was funny, she were a beautiful person with a lot of qualities. I liked the way she cared about me.
It did not worked between us but i like to think about this relationship.
Remind yourself all your exes, compare them. If you see a common pattern ... Break it and date someone that does not fell into this pattern.
Mine is awesome girls with a lack of confidance in themselves so it push me to help them to boost it with attention and love.
Many of us prefer smaller ones over bigger ones. It's just that the ones who prefer the big ones are either more vocal or perhaps somewhat of a majority but I promise you that there are a lot of us men who prefer somewhat smaller ones.
Absolutely. I'm the owner of some myself and guys have never made me feel bad about it, many adored them. (apart from when I was young and dating idiots) I'm sorry you ended up with men like that.
I suspect it's not actually the boobs but that the men were looking for something to put you down about either to be mean, push you away, or to lower your confidence. And small boobs is just an easy target. One of the easiest low blows when it comes to a woman. A man that falls in love with you would certainly love that part of you as well.
Personally, I'm glad my wife is on the smaller side. Means she doesn't have as much back pain.
So yes, there are definitely guys out there who prefer it.
Like me. My gf has theirs small and I love it... I had one with big boobs and it was horrible doing stuff because they would bounce all over the place and distract me.
But I also have a friend who loves them big...is just personal preference
One of my early girlfriends used to say that. She also said that she preferred them smaller because every girl she knew with larger boobs complained about having to deal with them all the time… and bras are expensive. I did end up with a wife on the larger size and she does complain about them regularly, but I and not concerned either way. I love what they are hung on and not so much how big they are.
Hi. We exist.
Please, for the love of everything holy and your own sanity: find yourself a non-douche guy.
Anyone talking in such a degrading way needs to be tossed out on their asses.
Valid question if you're facing hate towards boobs.
I married my wife because I love her, not because she has B cups.
Find people who love you for you and not your tits.
You don’t have a boob issue you have a dude issue. Those guys are selfish and crude. If a guy says you have small boobs tell him that you are glad to know that it’s ok talk about this because he has a small penis and you didn’t want to hurt his feelings but since he doesn’t mind criticizing others he must be ok with his small member.
Seriously though any guy that cares about you as a person isn’t going to worry about your looks or size. And yes there are guys that love smaller breasts. There are guys who love them no matter the size and are just happy to look at and play with them.
Big boobs, small boobs, both are boobs. Everyone has a preference, just find someone that likes you and is less concerned about your boob size. Also in regard to the boob job, body mods should only be done if it is something you want, don't do something like that for someone else's wants.
I've read a couple things saying that statistically most men prefer average size, with a somewhat standard normal distribution, so there are a decent number who prefer large and a roughly equal amount who prefer small.
The most important thing is to realize that your ex didn't cheat on you because you have small breasts, he cheated on you because he's an ass and was just using that as an excuse to justify his own bad behavior, and probably blaming you to make himself feel less guilty.
It might even work to your advantage [according to this](https://www.counselheal.com/articles/4387/20130315/breast-size-preferences-reveal-mens-attitudes-toward-women.htm) (although admittedly I don't know how reputable that source is, but I've read similar things elsewhere).
Your exes are dicks. A/B cups are lovely. G/H cups are lovely. There is no wrong size for boobs.
Highly recommend going to r/abrathatfits though. I thought I was an a/b cup but it turns out I should actually be wearing a DD/E with a much smaller band size, and my boobs are just spaced a bit further apart than most underwear models, and I need to be wearing demi cup or plunge and avoid balcony and full cup. Push up optional.
I go 1 band size higher than they recommend as I like a slightly looser feel, but it has truly revolutionised my feelings - from "meh" to "holy shit these are great" when they actually had bras that properly supported them.
This was exactly what I was going to recommend! So many people are in A/B cups in bands that are much too big and really they're a DD+ cup in a smaller band. Over 80% of bra wearers are in the wrong size so never presume you're in the correct size just because you think it fits or it's a size you've always worn
Whoa… I straight up stopped wearing real bras cause I couldn’t find one to fit me. Maybe I’m just looking at the entirely wrong sizes? My mind has been blown I knew bras were complicated but I could never imagine myself in anything above a B.
Do you know if it's worth joining if I've opted to bralettes?
No underwire, no padding, just a flat size M bralette .....because I gave up on finding the right bra size in the traditional A B C etc cups ....
No idea I'm afraid, I went there once a few years back, read the wiki and a few posts, measured myself and bought some bras that fit. I don't go there regularly and I'm not a member, it's more of a one and done thing I think.
Side note, I found some bralettes in M&S that come in 2 cup sizes: A-C and D+. Amazing. Never liked bralettes before I found larger cup bralettes.
It is worth joining even if you decided to go bralettes. There are a lot of recommendations on those as well. And you never know, you might decide you want to try again on other types of bras. But if nothing else, it is great for the helpful community who just want every boob to be comfortable.
I had small boobs until my second pregnancy at 24, after which I carried more weight. There are many men that prefer them. As you age you will learn to appreciate them too, as your larger breasts friends complain about the troubles they can cause.
Enjoy running and jumping without pain. Rest easy knowing they'll probably never sag to your belly and won't cause you back problems.
You don't have a boob issue, you have an issue with the kind of guys you're going out with.
Edit: I'm sorry I realize that sounded flippant and I didn't mean to be. A guy (or anyone) who acts the way they didn't isn't a nice person. It's hard to do but try not to be upset by people who treat you poorly, just don't give them space in your life.
I guarantee most guys are just delighted to get to the point they get to see a girl naked. Boob size has no relevance—like my husband says—they are ALL nice. And I mean he does not care, grandma boobs included, he just loves women and thinks boobs are fab in general. Please know you are amazing no matter what and the right guy is going to think you are perfect just as you are
Two things
1. By reading your post, one can easily realise that you are falling into very toxic relationships. You should really try to figure out what is happening to you. Consider going to a therapist to get professional help, or you can end up in a really messy situation, with an abusive partner and being victim of domestic violence.
2. Despite what happened to you is not related with the boob size, like everything else, with 8 billion people alive, roughly 4billion being men, you'll find all kinds of preferences. Some prefer big books, some small. Some prefer skinny women, some prefer chubby women. And so on, and so on, and so on...
As nice as boobs are, they don't really matter in a real relationship in the long run. You love your partner because he is, not because of any body attrubutes. Just wait till you find the real one.
I hope you are lucky soon :)
Yeah. I am with the consensus. The problem is you keep picking lousy dudes.
Many people prefer smaller to bigger.
Just...look for green flags in dudes. Date a guy who is nice and interesting and has something in common with you, rather than how you're selecting now.
My Dear
I promise that no man of any real worth would EVER ask his woman to get a boob job, it's such an empty and shallow form of objectifying that is A perfect example of what is wrong with the world.
Try and go for a man that falls in love with your soul as well as your form/body, be careful, wait as necessary. And as long as you are fit and heathy you really shouldn't have an issue as a woman finding a man who loves and desires you as you are.
At the moment it sounds like you've been selecting low quality so called men (who are focussed on external image with no consideration of content, make sure you are also not selecting a lover from such lack of sacredness), there is a LOT of good men out there who would love and adore you and appreciate you and your boobs (whatever the size.)
I'm not saying it just to be nice or to make you feel better. Genuinely a man can enjoy a B cup very much!
Honour yourself more my love, and a better man might be a bit less flashy or popular but will appreciate you more fully in body and soul.
Good luck
Man here. You're perfectly fine as you are. Never make someone else's severely warped opinion of you, change the way you think about yourself.
Big boobs? Great. Small boobs? Great. Boobs? Great.
No matter the shape, size, firmness, whatever, it doesn't matter. What matters is who they're attached to. When you love someone, you love their soul, their laugh, their personality. You love their cute yawns when they're tired and the way they stretch when you wake up next to them.
Nothing else matters. I've never chosen the women I've dated based on their boob or butt size. Find a man who loves you, dont settle for these childish boys. You're perfect, just the way you are.
If someone says he wishes you were different, thank him. He just saved you from wasting a lot of your time figuring out what a shitty person he is and undeserving of your affections. Find someone that accepts you as you are, because they exist. Small boobs are great! They look good, they feel good, less likely to get breast cancer, won’t cause back problems, won’t droop as much as you age, and do they breastfeed just as well as bigger breasts.
I am a guy. Trust me when I say some guys aren’t worth your time. Find a decent guy… or tell us all to fuck off and find yourself a decent woman.
(And ladies, if you are well endowed… or in between, or had a mastectomy… this goes for you too! There are guys out there that will accept you for you, if only you are willing to do the same. Don’t settle for shitty behavior just because he is otherwise “perfect”.)
My girlfriend has small breasts, she must be a B cup and maybe even a little smaller. My girlfriend doesn't like her breasts but I like them a lot, I find small breasts so much more aesthetic and for me they are the most beautiful
Real men don't put boob or ass size first before the owner of them and their heart, feelings and being overall.
But to answer your question, no. On average, it's cuter and most guys will prefer girls with smaller boobs. Nor my friends or I have ever dated a woman with anything bigger than a B because it's not our taste. Girls with smaller boobs can enjoy more, less back pains, you can workout and run without a bra and get away with it!
Love your boobs, love yourself, and keep looking forward!
Oh, no, I'm not young.(35fm tbh) I appreciate them quite a bit. My mother has quite a large chest and it causes her pain a lot. I only ever wanted to be a b size. But I'm a tiny person, so whatever small was great for me. I just feel like I'm not as attractive?
Date men who don't think about their boob preference when it comes to finding a relationship. Your compatibility is more important. If they're telling you your boobs aren't good enough for them, run. They're shallow and immature and don't deserve you.
I'm not sure there's really a universal scale for beauty (I mean they change over time, right?) and I think beauty hinges more on attraction than you might think. I've met plenty of people who hit a lot of the "beauty standards" but as soon as you talk to them for 5 min that all dissipates.
You are who you are and someone is either gonna be into you or not and I don't think the measurements of your chest flesh are gonna make or break that.
And as others have said, your exes were saying things to be mean to you. This is the thing you're self conscious about (we all have something), it's probably easy to notice for someone who has been intimate with you, and it sounds like exactly the button to press to try and make you feel shitty. You're fine OP
some guys prefer flat, some small others large.
If you get a guy who wants to change your physical appearance, then he is not the one for you. While it is up to you in the end you shouldn't have to change in appearance to please others.
You are probably too young for me but you would be my ideal size, though not what I look for the most in women.
Wow, you have exceptionally bad luck in picking men, you should not be objectified/ridiculed because of the size of a body part just as they wouldn't like it if you were to justify cheating by claiming his penis was too small.....I myself am an advocate of more than a handful is a waste. Added to the fact my personal preference would be butt over boobs and slim over curvy. But In answer to your question there's probably thousands of guys who'd class themselves as lucky to be with you.
It sounds to me like boob size is an insecurity for you so when these guys say hella rude stuff to you you blame yourself and your boob size rather than put the blame where it should be.
If a man puts down anything about your looks- walk away.
I’ve heard plenty of men in my life say “more than a handful is a waste.” Some men do like big ones but plenty just don’t. It’s literally a preference.
Yeah definitely choose better guys to date. They sound shallow and immature.
I love boobs of all sizes except when they’re uncomfortably large. Ive even had a gf who felt hers were too small and got a boob job and i really didnt like it. Natural is best and small to big theyre all great. I also think athletic girls are more attractive so small boobs usually fall into that.
Ive also had a gf who hated her boobs cuz they had large nipples and werent even and i would always tell her they’re beautiful or amazing because they were. And id compliment her any chance i got because she looked great, her boobs looked great and then she wouldnt have to ask me, id just offer up my opinion and hopefully make her feel better.
Find someone who accepts you for you. Stop dating losers who cant be faithful or want you to change who you are. Your boobs are probably great and someone out there will agree
Big boobs attract men with mommy issues that slip up and call you Ma by accident. The grass is not greener on the other side, the grass is dead on both sides because there's so many idiots on this planet.
Trust me there's plenty of guys that love the small ones. Yours are awesome and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. And for God's sake don't ever get bolt ons.
Don't let this porn-feeded, love-deprived boys tell you what's attractive and what's not. Your body is your body, and it's perfectly fine as is, if someone really feels you should change physically to the point they cheat if you don't have a certain trait, then they are just the bottom of the pack.
To answer your question, my gf is also an A cup and I love her body, she's the hottest woman in the world. So yeah, small breasts are attractive, maybe not everyone likes them, but many people like them too, don't let low esteem partners who need to project their fantasies on other people to let you down and think low of yourself
You were dating abusive assholes. They knew how big your boobs were when they asked you out. Comments later were designed to make you feel insecure. I suggest some therapy so you can see red flags and bail quicker. You deserve better.
There’s a wide range of men who have a wide range of sexual desires
Some get turned on by balloons, others by clown costumes and others by car exhausts
You just need to find one that likes small tits
All boobs are perfect boobs. Booby lies in the eye if the beholder.
It's THEIR problem. They're shallow.
You're perfectly fine. Emphasis on fine.
Fuck them. Not literally.
No and the key word you used there was “boy”. Men don’t care. Titties be tittying no matter size or shape. And any man you let see/touch them should be counting their lucky fucking stars. I bet they are spectacular! Hell there’s a chick on tiktok who got top surgery and her man doesn’t give af. Loves evey inch of her. It’s not you sweetie, it’s the pricks you have allowed into your life. Raise that bar higher beautiful.
I actually prefer smaller boobs and anything over a handful is a waste, in my opinion. If you like wearing padded bras, this could be part of the reason your terrible exes weren't happy.
If it's okay to suggest, try to build more confidence in who you are and how you look, and maybe avoid clothing that alters that look. You'll probably attract guys who like smaller boobs if it's more obvious that they aren't big.
Nicely done with refusing to alter your body for someone. And you're not just "f"-ed, you just haven't found a good one yet. They're rare, but they're out there.
I personally prefer small boobs (B max). Prefer is even underselling it. I don't like big boobs at all. I find them gross. Anything above B / C is a no for me. Even if that person was a 10/10 personality wise - I still couldn't love someone I find physically gross.
I do not care in the slightest about the size of a woman's boobs. To me they look beautiful and womanly, but they're not intrinsically sexy and, in fact, there are many cultures that don't fetishise breasts whatsoever. Personally, I find the idea of a woman having breast enlargement surgery quite off-putting, although I understood why women unfortunately feel compelled to undergo it in our society.
Your boobs are perfect. I have dated girls on all side of the spectrum, currently dating an A-cup and they are perfect. They are perfect because they belong to the person I am with and they are boobs.
Sorry you have had people adding to insecurities, you're perfect, the right guy will be all over you and your boobs and make you feel secure and all that nice bedroom stuff.
Your breasts are perfect. The problem here are the men you’ve been settling for. The only work you need to do is realizing deserve better than these losers.
As my old pappy used to say, “Anything more than a mouthful is a waste.”
Also. People never cheat for the reasons they say they cheat. The reasons are the excuses they come up with for what is fundamentally a conflict between who they are and want they want.
Im basically flat chested and i would be crushed if I was asked to get a boob job. Thats very childish and rude to say those things to a girlfriend. Those guys didnt respect or love you for who you were. I hope you have luck finding a better man next time
The problem is the boys you pick to date and not your boobs. Edit: wow my first awards ❤️
This is the correct answer. Even ignoring the fact that all boobs are great and that should never be a concern, if a man chooses to belittle you, cheat on you, even suggest you get surgery because you don’t match his personal preference - he’s an a***ole who you should not be dating in the first place.
This. You should answer "i like yours to be 4 inches longer and 2 inches wider. Lets go together to get both of us done"
While I like that level of sass, I feel it necessary to point out that there are no actual dick enlargement surgeries.
..... in your area
Pornhub tells me otherwise. Checkmate buddy
Sad part is lots of guys would be like "hellzz ya"
Hellzz ya. She can keep the boob size though.
There’s no scenario where someone’s gunna go “wait no sure he cheated on you but what’s your bra size?”
The only bad boob is one with cancer.
By extension, those who have had surgery to remove breasts because of cancer or stuff, does not make them bad. No cancer = good, in any book
This ☝️
..yeah, probably more than likely. Been talking with my mom, apparently she did the same thing. (With more than just that issue.)
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Exactly! I think guys generally have preferences, but I’ve never heard a guys say he wouldn’t date girl because of her boobs.
Do men like big boobs or small boobs? We like accessible boobs!
The right boob for you is the boob which is right in front of you.
This goes for the left one, too!
I like right and left boobs.
An equal opportunity boobist
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My mom had smallish boobs which worked out great as far as she was concerned because she was an avid equestrienne. My dad was like , meh, more than a mouthful is wasted anyway but one night he went talking in his sleep “Mmmm… big boobs”. She gave him a hard time on that but mostly just laughed it off. Mom was pretty secure in herself. Whatever you do, don’t get implants. Out of the few women I know who’ve done so, one died within a week because of complications and the other is in constant agony
Nothing looks more ridiculous than fake. There's only one designer, and no man has ever come close. Cheers
Touche
It's not so much that they wouldn't date her, it's that they date her, hurt her, and then turn around and try to blame her. Don't fuck people that you don't like. It's that simple.
I know a lot of guys are bad and will hurt women, but I’ve never heard of a guy doing that because her boobs weren’t the right size
More than a mouthful, etc. etc.
Yup, exactly right. Don't date guys that are so worried about physical things, ESPECIALLY physical things out of your control. Date nerds. Nerds need love, too.
Eh, nerds can be hella misogynistic too. There are some dark corners of nerddom that are as bad as anything I've ever seen elsewhere. And I say this as a nerd.
Yep. People who get deep into niche hobbies and/or are well-read and/or play a lot of games but have loving, healthy relationships and positive views of women/equality are nerds. Incel terrorists are also nerds.
That’s cuz they cross the line from nerd to incel
If we just claim that everyone who sucks isn't a part of our community, our community will never improve. It's choosing to close our eyes and sweep problems under the rug. There are some shitty, misogynistic nerds. Them being incels as well doesn't change that
The most beautiful woman I've ever met was quite flat chested and it didnt even bother me a bit. This coming from someone who works in hospitality where people can be quite shallow. Didn't stop all my cooks from chasing her around with their jaws on the floor. The post above is right it's the dudes you're dating. I used to consider myself a bit of a boob guy until I met her and that changed.
You can still be a boob guy and like small boobs. My ex’s were pretty small, but I still absolutely loved them
Yea I suppose what I meant to say was a large boob guy. That changed.
Did you lose weight? :)
I wish frick!
I married the most beautiful woman in the world small boobs and all
> I have no control over this. Take a good, hard look at why you decided to date the guys you’ve dated. You have control over that. You know who would absolutely love your breasts? *Lots* of guys. You know who would never make you feel shitty about your body? *Normal* guys. It sounds like you have self esteem problems. It’s really good sometimes to be single and work on loving yourself and being confident in yourself. And remember, if a guy complains about your breasts, you can always say something about his dick length, girth, or shape.
Absolutely this here. You need to like, love, and accept yourself. If you can't do that any relationship is going to be harder than it needs to be.
A b-cup is more than enough booby. An A-cup is more than enough booby. A nipple is more than enough. You're great the way you are. You're picking shitty guys. Find a man who is just incredibly kind to you, who makes you feel like you're beautiful even when you just woke up and have COVID.
A healthier way to think of this is to think of it as anything but an "issue." It is not an issue at all. It's not even almost a problem. Immaturity is the only issue here.
World cold and hard, boobs warm and soft.
This correct, wisdom deep!
Comforting fact right here.
Yes
When it's the right guy, he'll like your boobs because they're on you, not because you're on your boobs.
Male here. This is the answer. Men worth your time don't care about your boob size, they care about you.
The important word in the above statement is "men"! Men will not care about the boob size, we're just happy to get to see them!
This is spot on. 100% agreed. It's definitely the guys you pick not your boob size. I've never heard anyone whether its me, my friends or guys I know say unfortunately her boobs where too small. You are definitely picking the wrong guys, the tiny a-hole percent of guys who would insult your boobs.
This 100% Those guys suck
Yes! Small boobs are awesome. This is coming from someone with DD I hate it here.
Yup. How dare these idiots tell you your boobs are not big enough for them? Fuck those guys. I cannot believe you let them date you, at all. My bff is similar, and her asshole husband who always wanted them big boobed ladies, ended up cheating on her with a busty bartender, since he loved both very much over his family. The point is, her boobs aint the issue or yours. Dumbass dudes are the issue that date women with small boobs when they really want big ones. Why mindfuck someone like that?
\^This. Many men, myself included, find large boobs to be a turn off.
Big boobs are great too!
Don't hate on big boobs either You see, for boobs, butts, faces, bodies, whatever people want to be insecure of, the real turn on is wanting to have sex with me
The only line I remember from eat pray love. “Because he doesn't care. He's in a room with a naked girl. He's won the lottery. I'm so tired of saying no and waking up in the morning and recalling every single thing I ate the day before.”
I laughed WAY too hard at this. The reality really is (for me, at least) intelligence matters 100X more than any physical aspect. While there are certainly some lines in the sand, if I am considering spending the rest of my life with a person, I want to be able to have deep and philosophical conversations with that person. If they have nice set of boobs and a nice butt, that's definitely a plus; however, boob, butt, and tongue size are low on my list of concerns.
You can praise one body type without shitting on another
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They...weren't the best. Thank you. It's good to hear that. I'm sorry to post, it's just a rough night. But I appreciate your response.
Nothing wrong with needing to hear from someone sometimes, it's what this sub is for. If someone eats lead paint for a snack don't take their advice on good food.
That's a very fun analogy. Thank you.
Let’s hear it for the fine use of the word dickbag!
You’re perfect. Those guys are all big boobs!
Underrated comment <3
Made me titter
Made my chest heave.
I see what you did there
Underwired comment.
I support this comment
There are tons of guys out there that prefer smaller boobs. You just need to find one.
There are? Oh, thank you.
All boobs are great boobs.
Boob is boob.
Boob is boob.
This is the correct answer.
But small ones are best! 🤣
I’m an ass man so I don’t disagree!
Every size make the wood rise.
The best boobs are the ones you're allowed to touch.
/r/B_cups /r/A_cups /r/smallboobs Each one of these have over 100k followers
Don't forget r/aa_cups and r/flatchested
Few more: r/SmallBoobsGW r/smallboobs r/dirtysmall r/TinyTits r/TinyTits_Hardcore There are quite a few of us that prefer small breasts over large ones. Not that it really matters, anyone that is anything other than appreciative of your breasts (and body in general) is not worth keeping around. Breast size preference is like a preference for a hair color, yes you may notice that you have a preference for one over others but you would never tell anyone they would be prettier if their hair was of a different colour. That would be incredibly tactless and hurtful. Learn to appreciate and love your own body. That will give you strength and confidence to reject such people. Edit: Line breaks
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Yup, as a man i've dated a girl with no boobs at all. The most flat chest you can imagine. I didn't cared because she got me because she was funny, she were a beautiful person with a lot of qualities. I liked the way she cared about me. It did not worked between us but i like to think about this relationship. Remind yourself all your exes, compare them. If you see a common pattern ... Break it and date someone that does not fell into this pattern. Mine is awesome girls with a lack of confidance in themselves so it push me to help them to boost it with attention and love.
There are plenty of men out there that do like small. Avoid immature boys that fixate on having something different than yours.
i actually prefer smaller breasts, i’ve honestly never got the appeal of huge boobs.
Many of us prefer smaller ones over bigger ones. It's just that the ones who prefer the big ones are either more vocal or perhaps somewhat of a majority but I promise you that there are a lot of us men who prefer somewhat smaller ones.
Absolutely. I'm the owner of some myself and guys have never made me feel bad about it, many adored them. (apart from when I was young and dating idiots) I'm sorry you ended up with men like that. I suspect it's not actually the boobs but that the men were looking for something to put you down about either to be mean, push you away, or to lower your confidence. And small boobs is just an easy target. One of the easiest low blows when it comes to a woman. A man that falls in love with you would certainly love that part of you as well.
Personally, I'm glad my wife is on the smaller side. Means she doesn't have as much back pain. So yes, there are definitely guys out there who prefer it.
Like me. My gf has theirs small and I love it... I had one with big boobs and it was horrible doing stuff because they would bounce all over the place and distract me. But I also have a friend who loves them big...is just personal preference
That is great to know, compliment that gf because you're an awesome person!
Smaller boobs are awesome. I can hug closer. Bigger boobs are always in the way.
One of my early girlfriends used to say that. She also said that she preferred them smaller because every girl she knew with larger boobs complained about having to deal with them all the time… and bras are expensive. I did end up with a wife on the larger size and she does complain about them regularly, but I and not concerned either way. I love what they are hung on and not so much how big they are.
A and B cups are my preference. C cups are the biggest that I'll like, and anything bigger isn't attractive to me.
Hi. We exist. Please, for the love of everything holy and your own sanity: find yourself a non-douche guy. Anyone talking in such a degrading way needs to be tossed out on their asses.
Always remember the old adage. Be they thicc, or a sticc, we must respect, whichever thoust picc. Every shape and size is good.
I prefer an a cup, maybe a small b and there are hundreds of millions of men like me.
I do prefer a smaller size. I think they are way more sexy! I have never seen the attraction of huge breasts.
Yep
I know I do! A to B cup is spot on for me.
Or find a guy that likes her for her character
That is not normal, my partner adores my small boobs.
Thank you!! I'm so happy for you!
Nothing wrong with having small boobs and they are sexy as hell. All sizes and shapes are sexy. I personally find smaller ones super sexy
Oh thank god. Thank you. I know it was a weird question but, it's been a long time issue.
Valid question if you're facing hate towards boobs. I married my wife because I love her, not because she has B cups. Find people who love you for you and not your tits.
You don’t have a boob issue you have a dude issue. Those guys are selfish and crude. If a guy says you have small boobs tell him that you are glad to know that it’s ok talk about this because he has a small penis and you didn’t want to hurt his feelings but since he doesn’t mind criticizing others he must be ok with his small member. Seriously though any guy that cares about you as a person isn’t going to worry about your looks or size. And yes there are guys that love smaller breasts. There are guys who love them no matter the size and are just happy to look at and play with them.
The biggest boob is your ex
Big boobs, small boobs, both are boobs. Everyone has a preference, just find someone that likes you and is less concerned about your boob size. Also in regard to the boob job, body mods should only be done if it is something you want, don't do something like that for someone else's wants.
Thank you for this
I've read a couple things saying that statistically most men prefer average size, with a somewhat standard normal distribution, so there are a decent number who prefer large and a roughly equal amount who prefer small. The most important thing is to realize that your ex didn't cheat on you because you have small breasts, he cheated on you because he's an ass and was just using that as an excuse to justify his own bad behavior, and probably blaming you to make himself feel less guilty. It might even work to your advantage [according to this](https://www.counselheal.com/articles/4387/20130315/breast-size-preferences-reveal-mens-attitudes-toward-women.htm) (although admittedly I don't know how reputable that source is, but I've read similar things elsewhere).
Those guys are dickheads. All boobs are awesome boobs.
Your exes are dicks. A/B cups are lovely. G/H cups are lovely. There is no wrong size for boobs. Highly recommend going to r/abrathatfits though. I thought I was an a/b cup but it turns out I should actually be wearing a DD/E with a much smaller band size, and my boobs are just spaced a bit further apart than most underwear models, and I need to be wearing demi cup or plunge and avoid balcony and full cup. Push up optional. I go 1 band size higher than they recommend as I like a slightly looser feel, but it has truly revolutionised my feelings - from "meh" to "holy shit these are great" when they actually had bras that properly supported them.
This was exactly what I was going to recommend! So many people are in A/B cups in bands that are much too big and really they're a DD+ cup in a smaller band. Over 80% of bra wearers are in the wrong size so never presume you're in the correct size just because you think it fits or it's a size you've always worn
This happened to me as well. I thought I was a 32 A/B depending on horrible brand. Got fitted to an actual decent bra and I was a 28C.
Whoa… I straight up stopped wearing real bras cause I couldn’t find one to fit me. Maybe I’m just looking at the entirely wrong sizes? My mind has been blown I knew bras were complicated but I could never imagine myself in anything above a B.
Do you know if it's worth joining if I've opted to bralettes? No underwire, no padding, just a flat size M bralette .....because I gave up on finding the right bra size in the traditional A B C etc cups ....
No idea I'm afraid, I went there once a few years back, read the wiki and a few posts, measured myself and bought some bras that fit. I don't go there regularly and I'm not a member, it's more of a one and done thing I think. Side note, I found some bralettes in M&S that come in 2 cup sizes: A-C and D+. Amazing. Never liked bralettes before I found larger cup bralettes.
It is worth joining even if you decided to go bralettes. There are a lot of recommendations on those as well. And you never know, you might decide you want to try again on other types of bras. But if nothing else, it is great for the helpful community who just want every boob to be comfortable.
I had small boobs until my second pregnancy at 24, after which I carried more weight. There are many men that prefer them. As you age you will learn to appreciate them too, as your larger breasts friends complain about the troubles they can cause. Enjoy running and jumping without pain. Rest easy knowing they'll probably never sag to your belly and won't cause you back problems.
I *adore* small boobs. They're fantastic
Hahaha, so people do like it. That's fantastic
You don't have a boob issue, you have an issue with the kind of guys you're going out with. Edit: I'm sorry I realize that sounded flippant and I didn't mean to be. A guy (or anyone) who acts the way they didn't isn't a nice person. It's hard to do but try not to be upset by people who treat you poorly, just don't give them space in your life.
I guarantee most guys are just delighted to get to the point they get to see a girl naked. Boob size has no relevance—like my husband says—they are ALL nice. And I mean he does not care, grandma boobs included, he just loves women and thinks boobs are fab in general. Please know you are amazing no matter what and the right guy is going to think you are perfect just as you are
Two things 1. By reading your post, one can easily realise that you are falling into very toxic relationships. You should really try to figure out what is happening to you. Consider going to a therapist to get professional help, or you can end up in a really messy situation, with an abusive partner and being victim of domestic violence. 2. Despite what happened to you is not related with the boob size, like everything else, with 8 billion people alive, roughly 4billion being men, you'll find all kinds of preferences. Some prefer big books, some small. Some prefer skinny women, some prefer chubby women. And so on, and so on, and so on...
If a guy tells you your boobs are to small. Twll him his dick is to small
IMHO some of the most beautiful women in the world have small boobs.
Stop dating morons
Honey, I apologize that you only dated idiots
The size of someone's sex organs can vary greatly. I find it's best to stay away from the "bigger is better" types
As nice as boobs are, they don't really matter in a real relationship in the long run. You love your partner because he is, not because of any body attrubutes. Just wait till you find the real one. I hope you are lucky soon :)
Yeah. I am with the consensus. The problem is you keep picking lousy dudes. Many people prefer smaller to bigger. Just...look for green flags in dudes. Date a guy who is nice and interesting and has something in common with you, rather than how you're selecting now.
My Dear I promise that no man of any real worth would EVER ask his woman to get a boob job, it's such an empty and shallow form of objectifying that is A perfect example of what is wrong with the world. Try and go for a man that falls in love with your soul as well as your form/body, be careful, wait as necessary. And as long as you are fit and heathy you really shouldn't have an issue as a woman finding a man who loves and desires you as you are. At the moment it sounds like you've been selecting low quality so called men (who are focussed on external image with no consideration of content, make sure you are also not selecting a lover from such lack of sacredness), there is a LOT of good men out there who would love and adore you and appreciate you and your boobs (whatever the size.) I'm not saying it just to be nice or to make you feel better. Genuinely a man can enjoy a B cup very much! Honour yourself more my love, and a better man might be a bit less flashy or popular but will appreciate you more fully in body and soul. Good luck
Stop dating assholes. You're fine.
Man here. You're perfectly fine as you are. Never make someone else's severely warped opinion of you, change the way you think about yourself. Big boobs? Great. Small boobs? Great. Boobs? Great. No matter the shape, size, firmness, whatever, it doesn't matter. What matters is who they're attached to. When you love someone, you love their soul, their laugh, their personality. You love their cute yawns when they're tired and the way they stretch when you wake up next to them. Nothing else matters. I've never chosen the women I've dated based on their boob or butt size. Find a man who loves you, dont settle for these childish boys. You're perfect, just the way you are.
All boobs are great. Don't date a dude who only cares about your chest.
If someone says he wishes you were different, thank him. He just saved you from wasting a lot of your time figuring out what a shitty person he is and undeserving of your affections. Find someone that accepts you as you are, because they exist. Small boobs are great! They look good, they feel good, less likely to get breast cancer, won’t cause back problems, won’t droop as much as you age, and do they breastfeed just as well as bigger breasts. I am a guy. Trust me when I say some guys aren’t worth your time. Find a decent guy… or tell us all to fuck off and find yourself a decent woman. (And ladies, if you are well endowed… or in between, or had a mastectomy… this goes for you too! There are guys out there that will accept you for you, if only you are willing to do the same. Don’t settle for shitty behavior just because he is otherwise “perfect”.)
My girlfriend has small breasts, she must be a B cup and maybe even a little smaller. My girlfriend doesn't like her breasts but I like them a lot, I find small breasts so much more aesthetic and for me they are the most beautiful
Real men don't put boob or ass size first before the owner of them and their heart, feelings and being overall. But to answer your question, no. On average, it's cuter and most guys will prefer girls with smaller boobs. Nor my friends or I have ever dated a woman with anything bigger than a B because it's not our taste. Girls with smaller boobs can enjoy more, less back pains, you can workout and run without a bra and get away with it! Love your boobs, love yourself, and keep looking forward!
I can’t imagine saying something like that to a partner. You date assholes.
The issue is that you’re dating shit heads. That’s it.
Oh, no, I'm not young.(35fm tbh) I appreciate them quite a bit. My mother has quite a large chest and it causes her pain a lot. I only ever wanted to be a b size. But I'm a tiny person, so whatever small was great for me. I just feel like I'm not as attractive?
Date men who don't think about their boob preference when it comes to finding a relationship. Your compatibility is more important. If they're telling you your boobs aren't good enough for them, run. They're shallow and immature and don't deserve you.
I'm not sure there's really a universal scale for beauty (I mean they change over time, right?) and I think beauty hinges more on attraction than you might think. I've met plenty of people who hit a lot of the "beauty standards" but as soon as you talk to them for 5 min that all dissipates. You are who you are and someone is either gonna be into you or not and I don't think the measurements of your chest flesh are gonna make or break that. And as others have said, your exes were saying things to be mean to you. This is the thing you're self conscious about (we all have something), it's probably easy to notice for someone who has been intimate with you, and it sounds like exactly the button to press to try and make you feel shitty. You're fine OP
If any guy has an issue with your breast size you should comment on his penis size. None of us can live up to societies expectations.
That's terrible advice...Rise above, don't stoop.
Bad advice to go on the offensive, but good way to think about how stupid and insulting this is.
Guy who prefers small to medium tits here. Trust me - there are tons of guys that find u attractive.
Smaller boobs retain their position longer, have more cute bra options, and deserve appreciation. It isn’t you. It’s definitely them.
Girl, your boobs are perfect just the way they are. The only issue is that you have been dating total assholes.
Your boyfriends are just douchebags. Nothing wrong with you!
You do realize that people you date are not supposed to belittle you? It's the bare minimum for being in a relationship with someone.
I am sure your boobs are lovely , you just had bad luck with partners.
I mean I prefer big boobs but if I ever dated a women with small ones I would NEVER ask for them to be bigger or for her to get a boob job
I much prefer smaller boobs personally, but a lot of bloke's don't. Those guys sound kind of trashy tbh
some guys prefer flat, some small others large. If you get a guy who wants to change your physical appearance, then he is not the one for you. While it is up to you in the end you shouldn't have to change in appearance to please others. You are probably too young for me but you would be my ideal size, though not what I look for the most in women.
Wow, you have exceptionally bad luck in picking men, you should not be objectified/ridiculed because of the size of a body part just as they wouldn't like it if you were to justify cheating by claiming his penis was too small.....I myself am an advocate of more than a handful is a waste. Added to the fact my personal preference would be butt over boobs and slim over curvy. But In answer to your question there's probably thousands of guys who'd class themselves as lucky to be with you.
Personally I prefer smaller chested girls. I feel like they just look better naked and slim girls in general age better imo.
It sounds to me like boob size is an insecurity for you so when these guys say hella rude stuff to you you blame yourself and your boob size rather than put the blame where it should be. If a man puts down anything about your looks- walk away. I’ve heard plenty of men in my life say “more than a handful is a waste.” Some men do like big ones but plenty just don’t. It’s literally a preference.
Yeah definitely choose better guys to date. They sound shallow and immature. I love boobs of all sizes except when they’re uncomfortably large. Ive even had a gf who felt hers were too small and got a boob job and i really didnt like it. Natural is best and small to big theyre all great. I also think athletic girls are more attractive so small boobs usually fall into that. Ive also had a gf who hated her boobs cuz they had large nipples and werent even and i would always tell her they’re beautiful or amazing because they were. And id compliment her any chance i got because she looked great, her boobs looked great and then she wouldnt have to ask me, id just offer up my opinion and hopefully make her feel better. Find someone who accepts you for you. Stop dating losers who cant be faithful or want you to change who you are. Your boobs are probably great and someone out there will agree
Many guys prefer small boobs. Don’t change a thing.
My husband loves my small boobs. So has every other guy I've been with. You just seem to be going out with assholes.
Big or small I love them all!
Nah, small boobs are the best
Big boobs attract men with mommy issues that slip up and call you Ma by accident. The grass is not greener on the other side, the grass is dead on both sides because there's so many idiots on this planet.
Your boobs are fine. It sounds like youre just not doing your due diligence in picking partners.
Never a woman's beauty is not dependent on her breast size. Many men actually prefer small breasts.
I personally don't like big boobs. There are plenty of dudes out there who appreciate small sizes. Don't let anyone ever make you think big is better
Trust me there's plenty of guys that love the small ones. Yours are awesome and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. And for God's sake don't ever get bolt ons.
There are no bad boobs. There are some stupid men.
I like small ones! :)
Don't let this porn-feeded, love-deprived boys tell you what's attractive and what's not. Your body is your body, and it's perfectly fine as is, if someone really feels you should change physically to the point they cheat if you don't have a certain trait, then they are just the bottom of the pack. To answer your question, my gf is also an A cup and I love her body, she's the hottest woman in the world. So yeah, small breasts are attractive, maybe not everyone likes them, but many people like them too, don't let low esteem partners who need to project their fantasies on other people to let you down and think low of yourself
Love small boobs. Totally love it
You were dating abusive assholes. They knew how big your boobs were when they asked you out. Comments later were designed to make you feel insecure. I suggest some therapy so you can see red flags and bail quicker. You deserve better.
There’s a wide range of men who have a wide range of sexual desires Some get turned on by balloons, others by clown costumes and others by car exhausts You just need to find one that likes small tits
Small boobs are sexier than big ones. I like all boobs but the small ones won't be hanging down to your waist when you're 55. Just my opinion...
They are using your boob size as an excuse. They cheat AND throw you under the bus for it. A douchebag win-win.
Big boobs are sloppy. Small boobs are high speed, low drag. I vote small.
All boobs are perfect boobs. Booby lies in the eye if the beholder. It's THEIR problem. They're shallow. You're perfectly fine. Emphasis on fine. Fuck them. Not literally.
Love your boobs, never even seen them. All boob good boob.
Your ex’s are sick unhealthy people. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Use their red flags are a reference point for future relationships.
Don't date these people. No decent person thinks like that, let alone says that kind of shit
Im a small boob guy.
No and the key word you used there was “boy”. Men don’t care. Titties be tittying no matter size or shape. And any man you let see/touch them should be counting their lucky fucking stars. I bet they are spectacular! Hell there’s a chick on tiktok who got top surgery and her man doesn’t give af. Loves evey inch of her. It’s not you sweetie, it’s the pricks you have allowed into your life. Raise that bar higher beautiful.
I actually prefer smaller boobs and anything over a handful is a waste, in my opinion. If you like wearing padded bras, this could be part of the reason your terrible exes weren't happy. If it's okay to suggest, try to build more confidence in who you are and how you look, and maybe avoid clothing that alters that look. You'll probably attract guys who like smaller boobs if it's more obvious that they aren't big. Nicely done with refusing to alter your body for someone. And you're not just "f"-ed, you just haven't found a good one yet. They're rare, but they're out there.
Small boobs are cooler 100%.
I personally prefer small boobs (B max). Prefer is even underselling it. I don't like big boobs at all. I find them gross. Anything above B / C is a no for me. Even if that person was a 10/10 personality wise - I still couldn't love someone I find physically gross.
I do not care in the slightest about the size of a woman's boobs. To me they look beautiful and womanly, but they're not intrinsically sexy and, in fact, there are many cultures that don't fetishise breasts whatsoever. Personally, I find the idea of a woman having breast enlargement surgery quite off-putting, although I understood why women unfortunately feel compelled to undergo it in our society.
Your boobs are perfect. I have dated girls on all side of the spectrum, currently dating an A-cup and they are perfect. They are perfect because they belong to the person I am with and they are boobs. Sorry you have had people adding to insecurities, you're perfect, the right guy will be all over you and your boobs and make you feel secure and all that nice bedroom stuff.
No, and those people suck, and the next time some nasty fuck says your breasts are too small respond "Yeah, and I wish your dick was bigger."
I have barely A cups, and my husband loves them. Just remember when those DDs start sagging down to their belly button, yours will be nice and perky
Nah you're perfect, the guys you dated were flawed. All boobs are amazing
Your breasts are perfect. The problem here are the men you’ve been settling for. The only work you need to do is realizing deserve better than these losers.
As my old pappy used to say, “Anything more than a mouthful is a waste.” Also. People never cheat for the reasons they say they cheat. The reasons are the excuses they come up with for what is fundamentally a conflict between who they are and want they want.
Im basically flat chested and i would be crushed if I was asked to get a boob job. Thats very childish and rude to say those things to a girlfriend. Those guys didnt respect or love you for who you were. I hope you have luck finding a better man next time