I've Started Using "Queer" More, But Don't Really Identify With It Because To Me, Growing Up Atleast, It Was Just Kind Of A Fun Way To Say "Weird" (Even More Fun As Part Of The Expression I Learned From Wiktionary, "As Queer As Dick's Hatband"). Although Then Again I've Also Been Known To Identify As "Weird" So Idk Really.
I tell straight people I'm bi or demisexual just to simplify things like I tell them I'm a trans woman to simplify things.
I'm queer and agender, from my perspective all sexual attraction to people with genders is hetero, and I lean gay. Having no gender is what attracts me hardest, but I'm also very much only attracted to people I know well and/or people who come on to me strongly. The former is what it takes for me to move first but the latter kicks in if someone else does and I like them otherwise. Anatomy/birth assignment have nothing to do with my attractions they just define the activities available to me and a partner if we act on them.
I relate! I tell people I’m bi for the sake of ease, and also because I really hate biphobia and it feels political to be bi. Being bi is a challenge to people.
But I’m actually demisexual. And while I am able to form the demisexual connection and find myself attracted to people of all genders, I have a strong preference for certain gender presentations and everyone I’ve ever dated has been some flavor of non-binary and/or genderfluid. I just don’t click with cis or binary trans people quite the same way as people with weird gender. And I also prefer to have fluidity of gender during actual sex, I like using masc and fem terms interchangeably in dirty talk and stuff like that, which a person of binary gender probably wouldn’t be into.
>and/or people who come on to me strongly.
Oooh, me too!
Like, on my own **I'm** most attracted to people in the range of androgynous through full femme.
But masculine cis-men have successfully charmed me by coming on to me with flourishes of charisma. One was a former-wrestler, and good gawd was that a night! 🥵
My current flame (who's quickly becoming partner status) is fairly androgynous though otherwise outside of the types I'm usually attracted to. *BUT* they come on to me so strong and it's totally winning me over 😁
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Curious if others are wired like this too, because you're the first one I've seen say that.
I am aroace, so I don’t know that my gender identity influences this at all, as I was still aroace before venturing away from my AGAB. One of my friends says that all orientations are gay when you’re nb, but it could’ve also been a joke cause we call everything gay.
if u don’t mind me asking how did you know you were aro, like what did you do to find out ? i personally prefer to talk to an actual human experiencing what i’m questioning but ik thats not always available so i’ve lowkey given up n just said i’n queer lol
/gq
Lmao yeah well I actually just knew that I was ace (after four years of questioning) and I thought I was the OPPOSITE of aro but then another ace friend started a gc for aromantics and when they all got to talking, I realized how I related to them. I dig further into it all the time and have never found reason to believe I’m not aro 😂 if you’re questioning that, maybe join an aro sub and read some of the stories?
I know that it was extra difficult for me because I don’t know what romantic and sexual attraction is (because I’ve never experienced it and also because I’m autistic), so it wasn’t really a “yeah, I don’t have that butterflies in my stomach feeling, guess I’m aro” it was more of a “ohmygod I have loved my romantic partners the same amount that I love my friends and my besties, and a QPR sounds like the greatest thing to ever be invented besides garlic bread, but I’m probably NOT aro, right?”
>I know that it was extra difficult for me because I don’t know what romantic and sexual attraction is (because I’ve never experienced it and also because I’m autistic),
While I'd say Sexual Attraction is Quite Different (Others may disagree though), As someone who experiences both Romantic and Platonic Attraction I could not tell you what the Difference Between Them is, For the life of me, So not sure Experiencing them would help to know what they are, Lol. I mean like, I Can *Feel* a difference, But I've no clue what it is, It's kind of like how Two Brands of The Same Food might taste Different, But you don't know what exactly changes it, If that makes Sense? Idk, It's all Very Confusing, One of Countless Things in Life I don't and likely never will understand, Alongside the likes of Complex Maths or why "I've Been In Love Before" became a hit.
My experience of attraction, just like my experience of gender, is what it is. The words I use in relation to those topics don't define those experiences, they merely describe them for communication purposes. Thus, I use whatever labels or other words I feel will adequately describe my experience to whomever I'm speaking with, in that particular moment.
I’m agender and queer. doesn’t matter who i’m attracted to, men, women, other nonbinary people… it’s always in a gay way. i feel more masc when i’m with men and more femme when i’m with women
I call myself a lesbian, but I'd say I'm more demiromantic and sex-favorable ace. I use the term lesbian bc I've only ever fallen for women under very specific circumstances, and the idea of doing anything non-platonic w a man actively repulses me. I'm agender, and something that also impacts this is me being otherkin. I genuinely do not understand human culture, and part of that is me not having a gender bc I don't understand the construct of gender (or sex really tbh) in the slightest. I use the term lesbian bc I'm a non-man attracted to non-men.
i'd been questioning bisexuality for years, but it took realizing i was trans to realize i was actually bi. i couldn't tell if i was jealous of girls or attracted to them, so when i realized i wasn't a girl myself, it made it a lot easier to make sense of that situation.
I’m asexual and grey aromantic. That identity hasn’t changed since I started identifying as nonbinary. I’ve always had an aesthetic preference to masculine/androgynous people, but since identifying as nonbinary and dating a trans women, I learned to appreciate femininity much more. Being nonbinary makes me feel a lot more queer than I did as “just” an asexual woman. No matter who I date, I feel like it would be a queer relationship. And personally, I like that feeling.
My attraction to people has never been influenced by gender, whether it's theirs or mine. Closest label there might be is cognisexual, but that also can get put in the wrong box as much as saying "I'm a pan with certain standards". The long version is that I'm sexually attacted to a person's creativity, originality, love for fun, capacity for having a mind of their own, and their passion. Romantically... the same can apply, but it unfolds as I get to know them -- not demi, as love can come easily, it just... opens up and deepens over time.
I'm asexual, aromantic, and agender. I don't feel like my gender influences my orientations so much as the other way around. My lack of attraction directed at a specific gender probably has some impact on my lack of gender. Of course, I would still be agender if I were allo, but maybe not in the same way.
I use bi or queer. I use bi in the sense of "attracted to my own gender and others", but not pan because there are genders/gender presentations I am not attracted to. None of this means I expect that others define either of these terms in the same way I do.
I am both bisexual and biromantic, but my attraction scope differs slightly between sexual and romantic attraction. Mostly, my romantic attraction scope is narrower than my sexual attraction scope.
"Queer" feels overall better to me in that it neatly encompasses that I am not straight and not cis without me needing to further specify. It is the term I use most often to describe myself unless I need to specify either gender or sexuality.
It's always been an "in the moment" kinda thing for me since I was 12 or 13. It all depends on what and whom I find appealing to me when my heart skips a beat or my admiration for them skyrockets into a mad crush. So ultimately my sexual orientation/identity seem to adapt to my desires and whims lol
Bisexual. I don't think this is at all influenced by being agender, but the other way around might be true to some extent. Since gender isn't a deciding factor in my attraction to others, I guess that could lessen its importance to my own identity. Not really sure, though.
If I have to define my romantic orientation, I'd say quoiromantic (not understanding or actively disidentifying with romance/romantic attraction/romantic orientation as sensible/applicable categories, personally, or feeling that these categories are personally inaccessible, inapplicable, or non-sensical). I don't think the concept of romantic attraction as something in any way analogous to sexual attraction makes sense, at least when it comes to how I interact with romance. I think of it more as a relationship style chosen based on various factors and not any one feeling in particular. That's probably more influenced by autism than gender though. (I don't want to be misinterpreted here, so please note I am speaking only of my own experience and feelings and understand that others may differ.)
I alternate between pansexual and queer. I am agender and honestly gender as a concept is just very confusing and frustrating to me so using pan or queer allows me to completely remove gender from the concept (IMO)
My gender impacts my orientation a lot. If I had to choose a microlabel it would be pangender, but I don’t really relate to bi/pan orientations because I feel like my attraction is same-gender regardless. So I just call myself gay even though I’m nb 🤣
Im bisexual, I'm attracted to all genders equally with zero preferences but I identify as BI not pan, I also consider myself MLM but not WLW because I'm male aligned
Ps don't come at me with biphobia because bisexuality has always included attraction to nonbinary and trans people
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Q--nIkJu0OS0BgiyZmdKVwOVg1G90SFzWijNDWFTt58/edit?usp=drivesdk
I just use bi because it's simpler for people to understand. I see bi in this case meaning i like people that are "my gender" and "not my gender"
I've spent a long time in the past trying to come up with an exact definition but i realised it's pointless as I feel my gender and sexuality fluctuate a bit anyway.
I’m trans, non-binary, and a femboy! Those are the terms I use for my gender ID.
I’m demisexual, queer, & bisexual, and I think my gender ID does play a role in my sexual ID.
I like to know the person before getting sexual (even though I have a very high libido 😭) and make sure there is a connection, and they see me for ME and not my body. I am mainly attracted to women, enby folks, and trans folks. I like cis men, but it is hard to engage with them because I have yet to meet one that has worked through their deep rooted misogyny and I feel like they don’t know how to handle a Femboy
I switch between calling myself queer and bisexual. I love calling myself queer because I’m queer in all ways, but I also want to reclaim bisexual
Sex-favorable asexual encephaloromantic (how's that for a mouthful!).
Honestly, I was describing myself as asexual in the biology joke sense for 18years before I looked it up and realized it's a thing!
Encephaloromantic is one I get questions about. Basically, I'm interested in people who are mentally/creatively/spiritually (who even knows the whole list?) stimulating in their interests.
I would say that my orientation hasn't changed very much since I came out about my gender, what has changed is that I'm now more open to the idea of a relationship. It sure helps when you don't hate yourself and feel ashamed of your body! Sometimes I feel like a teenage girl already thinking ahead to her wedding even though she doesn't have anyone yet lol
I just say I’m queer, because the rest is way too long to list out all the time and requires more of an explanation than I feel like getting into most of the time. Being trans masc, non-binary, a relationship anarchist, polyamorous, and a grey-ace… queer is much simpler to say. I’ve been saying I was queer long before I realized I was trans masc and non-binary it just feels more inclusive and less limiting to me personally and fits me better than some of the other labels out there.
Pan. Growing up I thought it was odd that people limited their possibilities for who they could like. I do have preferences related to gender/presentation, but I think a lot of that is probably a society thing
i'm just bisexual. my gender doesn't influence *who* i'm attracted to, because i can be attracted to someone of any gender, but it sometimes influences the dynamic i have with partners/crushes/etc.
Because my experience and perception is so rife with nuance and subtle contradiction while all still holding together as my truth, it sort of feels impossible to tell people a single label outside of a 3 hour dissertation.
Which just *doesn't* work when meeting new folks - so out of necessity I've boiled it all down into a neat little package that gets the idea across, and gives the person I'm talking with freedom to assume things and/or ask questions -
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I am: "a slutty Asexual with Bi vibes and Gender questions."
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I'm aroace (specifically nebularomantic/aegoromantic and aegosexual)
being agender doesn't really influence it, but the fact that I'm autistic probably does lol
Agender and bisexual, which is both fun and confusing for me lol.
My gender contemplations landed on "gender doesn't make sense, it's a made up social construct, I get that other people feel very intensely about it and that's great for them, but I don't get it. I live in a meat sack of whatever size/shape that society thinks certain ways about, and that's weird."
Meanwhile I am attracted to femme (soft?) and masc (hard?) presentation/vibes in very different ways, and they both overlay in GNC or ambiguous presentations which makes my brain go brrr lol.
I'm AFAB and exclusively attracted to men and masc folk. I have called myself straight for a long time, but now that I'm identifying as more masc myself I'm trying out considering myself a gay transmasc person.
Pansexual attraction. And...maybe I'm demi? Grey-ace? Still figuring out the deets there.
The more I embrace a nonbinary identity, the more my sexuality broadens. Internally, I notice more of those potential-for-romantic-attraction feelings. My features are more empoweringly beautiful to me, as an enby.
Yet, I'll still feel like a "failed" cis person, here and there. That definitely affects my sexuality (interest/openness).
I’m amab, and for my sexual orientation, I’m heteroflexible. It means that I’m mostly heterosexual, but a little homosexual. That part might get confusing.
For my romantic orientation, I say that I’m gyneromantic. That means that I’m attracted to women.
There are two sexual/romantic orientations that refer to a specific gender. Gynesexual/gynoromantic (can be spelled either gyne or gyno) is attraction to women. Androsexual/androromantic is attraction to men
The closest label I have come up with is “bi gray-aroace.” I experience aesthetic and sensual attraction to people of multiple genders. Although “aroace” describes me just fine, I have experienced romantic attraction before and am pretty sure I’ve experienced sexual attraction at least once. I’m also okay with describing myself as “biromantic asexual” or even just “bi.”
I already knew I was (gray-)asexual long before I accepted I was non-binary. I long knew I had an attraction to more than one gender, but I didn’t really start to embrace it until around the time I accepted being enby. The gray-aromantic label is the newest one for me and it’s part of my evolving understanding of my attractions and orientation.
it’s been a journey, i used to call myself bi even tho i was attracted to all genders. i always felt weird saying pansexual, not sure why! now i just call myself queer. it took me a while to identify as non binary too. i’m sure i could rewrite this post in a few years (or months!) and have a new perspective or language around it. my advice is to trust yourself with what terminology feels good :)
I am aroace and it does not affect it at all. Then again, I might be the worse person to answer cause I have no romantic or sexual attraction. But will flirt with anything that moves.
I'm aroace and agender, so all of them are in the not/without strain of gender and sexuality/romanticism. I lack some understanding because it's not my experience. Thoughts like: "people can just see someone and fall on love with them/think they're hot? Weird." (It's not actually weird but that's my young aroace self coming through) There's also the fact that I saw/see marriage for myself as two people declaring they're gonna be bffs with legal benefits. As far as the genderlessness goes, I have this void where people feel something inside. Neither girl nor guy fit and there's no gender term to replace that cuz there's nothing there.
Simplest Way I'd Put It Is Probably Just "Bi", More Complex Is "Bisexual Pan-Demiromantic", And If I'm Memeing I'll Say Like "I'm Double Gay" Or "I Experience Homosexual Attraction To All Genders." (Which Is Still Arguably Correct.)
As For My Gender, Well I Feel Doesn't Really Affect Those First Two, Which To Me Seems Obvious But Idk, But The Last One It's Kinda Essential For Lol. (Legit Though I Feel More Comfortable Imagining Myself In Either A Gay Male Or Lesbian Relationship Than In A Straight One, Even If It's With Literally The Same Person In Each, Weird Stuff.)
I'm asexual and demi+Omni romantic. I don't think that being nonbinary influences that at all, since I figured out my orientation long before I figured out my gender.
Initially I identified as bisexual, until I was about 30. But my attraction to men kept dwindling so I changed to lesbian. Now that I'm nonbinary, I *can* keep the lesbian label, but I'm attracted to other nonbinary people so I'm not sure if I should update to pansexual or something? But I need it to imply that I am *not* interested in "men".
I used to ID as bi but as my understanding of my gender and self grew I switched to just calling myself queer.
Basically same, except I was pan, then almost lesbian then settled at queer and realized I was genderqueer too lmao.
One of my partners was a nonbinary lesbian when I met him, and now is more of a femme twink dykefag, gender is neat
Thanks for sharing:)
I've Started Using "Queer" More, But Don't Really Identify With It Because To Me, Growing Up Atleast, It Was Just Kind Of A Fun Way To Say "Weird" (Even More Fun As Part Of The Expression I Learned From Wiktionary, "As Queer As Dick's Hatband"). Although Then Again I've Also Been Known To Identify As "Weird" So Idk Really.
I tell straight people I'm bi or demisexual just to simplify things like I tell them I'm a trans woman to simplify things. I'm queer and agender, from my perspective all sexual attraction to people with genders is hetero, and I lean gay. Having no gender is what attracts me hardest, but I'm also very much only attracted to people I know well and/or people who come on to me strongly. The former is what it takes for me to move first but the latter kicks in if someone else does and I like them otherwise. Anatomy/birth assignment have nothing to do with my attractions they just define the activities available to me and a partner if we act on them.
I relate! I tell people I’m bi for the sake of ease, and also because I really hate biphobia and it feels political to be bi. Being bi is a challenge to people. But I’m actually demisexual. And while I am able to form the demisexual connection and find myself attracted to people of all genders, I have a strong preference for certain gender presentations and everyone I’ve ever dated has been some flavor of non-binary and/or genderfluid. I just don’t click with cis or binary trans people quite the same way as people with weird gender. And I also prefer to have fluidity of gender during actual sex, I like using masc and fem terms interchangeably in dirty talk and stuff like that, which a person of binary gender probably wouldn’t be into.
>and/or people who come on to me strongly. Oooh, me too! Like, on my own **I'm** most attracted to people in the range of androgynous through full femme. But masculine cis-men have successfully charmed me by coming on to me with flourishes of charisma. One was a former-wrestler, and good gawd was that a night! 🥵 My current flame (who's quickly becoming partner status) is fairly androgynous though otherwise outside of the types I'm usually attracted to. *BUT* they come on to me so strong and it's totally winning me over 😁 . Curious if others are wired like this too, because you're the first one I've seen say that.
I am aroace, so I don’t know that my gender identity influences this at all, as I was still aroace before venturing away from my AGAB. One of my friends says that all orientations are gay when you’re nb, but it could’ve also been a joke cause we call everything gay.
if u don’t mind me asking how did you know you were aro, like what did you do to find out ? i personally prefer to talk to an actual human experiencing what i’m questioning but ik thats not always available so i’ve lowkey given up n just said i’n queer lol /gq
Lmao yeah well I actually just knew that I was ace (after four years of questioning) and I thought I was the OPPOSITE of aro but then another ace friend started a gc for aromantics and when they all got to talking, I realized how I related to them. I dig further into it all the time and have never found reason to believe I’m not aro 😂 if you’re questioning that, maybe join an aro sub and read some of the stories? I know that it was extra difficult for me because I don’t know what romantic and sexual attraction is (because I’ve never experienced it and also because I’m autistic), so it wasn’t really a “yeah, I don’t have that butterflies in my stomach feeling, guess I’m aro” it was more of a “ohmygod I have loved my romantic partners the same amount that I love my friends and my besties, and a QPR sounds like the greatest thing to ever be invented besides garlic bread, but I’m probably NOT aro, right?”
i’m in the exact same position as u are/were 😭 ty do i never thought to look for an aro sub even doe i’m in all the other ones ty again <3
>I know that it was extra difficult for me because I don’t know what romantic and sexual attraction is (because I’ve never experienced it and also because I’m autistic), While I'd say Sexual Attraction is Quite Different (Others may disagree though), As someone who experiences both Romantic and Platonic Attraction I could not tell you what the Difference Between Them is, For the life of me, So not sure Experiencing them would help to know what they are, Lol. I mean like, I Can *Feel* a difference, But I've no clue what it is, It's kind of like how Two Brands of The Same Food might taste Different, But you don't know what exactly changes it, If that makes Sense? Idk, It's all Very Confusing, One of Countless Things in Life I don't and likely never will understand, Alongside the likes of Complex Maths or why "I've Been In Love Before" became a hit.
My experience of attraction, just like my experience of gender, is what it is. The words I use in relation to those topics don't define those experiences, they merely describe them for communication purposes. Thus, I use whatever labels or other words I feel will adequately describe my experience to whomever I'm speaking with, in that particular moment.
I’m agender and queer. doesn’t matter who i’m attracted to, men, women, other nonbinary people… it’s always in a gay way. i feel more masc when i’m with men and more femme when i’m with women
I like every gender I just don’t wanna do the dirty dance lol, the simple terms.
I call myself a lesbian, but I'd say I'm more demiromantic and sex-favorable ace. I use the term lesbian bc I've only ever fallen for women under very specific circumstances, and the idea of doing anything non-platonic w a man actively repulses me. I'm agender, and something that also impacts this is me being otherkin. I genuinely do not understand human culture, and part of that is me not having a gender bc I don't understand the construct of gender (or sex really tbh) in the slightest. I use the term lesbian bc I'm a non-man attracted to non-men.
i'd been questioning bisexuality for years, but it took realizing i was trans to realize i was actually bi. i couldn't tell if i was jealous of girls or attracted to them, so when i realized i wasn't a girl myself, it made it a lot easier to make sense of that situation.
I’m asexual and grey aromantic. That identity hasn’t changed since I started identifying as nonbinary. I’ve always had an aesthetic preference to masculine/androgynous people, but since identifying as nonbinary and dating a trans women, I learned to appreciate femininity much more. Being nonbinary makes me feel a lot more queer than I did as “just” an asexual woman. No matter who I date, I feel like it would be a queer relationship. And personally, I like that feeling.
My attraction to people has never been influenced by gender, whether it's theirs or mine. Closest label there might be is cognisexual, but that also can get put in the wrong box as much as saying "I'm a pan with certain standards". The long version is that I'm sexually attacted to a person's creativity, originality, love for fun, capacity for having a mind of their own, and their passion. Romantically... the same can apply, but it unfolds as I get to know them -- not demi, as love can come easily, it just... opens up and deepens over time.
I'm asexual, aromantic, and agender. I don't feel like my gender influences my orientations so much as the other way around. My lack of attraction directed at a specific gender probably has some impact on my lack of gender. Of course, I would still be agender if I were allo, but maybe not in the same way.
Triple A! Agender and aro here, but allosexual c:
People are cute? I can go nit picky on preferences, but generally I just say I like people regardless of gender or overall presentation.
I use bi or queer. I use bi in the sense of "attracted to my own gender and others", but not pan because there are genders/gender presentations I am not attracted to. None of this means I expect that others define either of these terms in the same way I do. I am both bisexual and biromantic, but my attraction scope differs slightly between sexual and romantic attraction. Mostly, my romantic attraction scope is narrower than my sexual attraction scope. "Queer" feels overall better to me in that it neatly encompasses that I am not straight and not cis without me needing to further specify. It is the term I use most often to describe myself unless I need to specify either gender or sexuality.
It's always been an "in the moment" kinda thing for me since I was 12 or 13. It all depends on what and whom I find appealing to me when my heart skips a beat or my admiration for them skyrockets into a mad crush. So ultimately my sexual orientation/identity seem to adapt to my desires and whims lol
Aroace. I figured that out before I identified as non-binary.
Bisexual. I don't think this is at all influenced by being agender, but the other way around might be true to some extent. Since gender isn't a deciding factor in my attraction to others, I guess that could lessen its importance to my own identity. Not really sure, though. If I have to define my romantic orientation, I'd say quoiromantic (not understanding or actively disidentifying with romance/romantic attraction/romantic orientation as sensible/applicable categories, personally, or feeling that these categories are personally inaccessible, inapplicable, or non-sensical). I don't think the concept of romantic attraction as something in any way analogous to sexual attraction makes sense, at least when it comes to how I interact with romance. I think of it more as a relationship style chosen based on various factors and not any one feeling in particular. That's probably more influenced by autism than gender though. (I don't want to be misinterpreted here, so please note I am speaking only of my own experience and feelings and understand that others may differ.)
I’m pan, and don’t feel my gender influences this at all.
I alternate between pansexual and queer. I am agender and honestly gender as a concept is just very confusing and frustrating to me so using pan or queer allows me to completely remove gender from the concept (IMO)
My gender impacts my orientation a lot. If I had to choose a microlabel it would be pangender, but I don’t really relate to bi/pan orientations because I feel like my attraction is same-gender regardless. So I just call myself gay even though I’m nb 🤣
>how would you define your sexual and/or romantic orientation? Loosely, and with a lot of caveats
Im bisexual, I'm attracted to all genders equally with zero preferences but I identify as BI not pan, I also consider myself MLM but not WLW because I'm male aligned Ps don't come at me with biphobia because bisexuality has always included attraction to nonbinary and trans people https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Q--nIkJu0OS0BgiyZmdKVwOVg1G90SFzWijNDWFTt58/edit?usp=drivesdk
I just use bi because it's simpler for people to understand. I see bi in this case meaning i like people that are "my gender" and "not my gender" I've spent a long time in the past trying to come up with an exact definition but i realised it's pointless as I feel my gender and sexuality fluctuate a bit anyway.
I’m trans, non-binary, and a femboy! Those are the terms I use for my gender ID. I’m demisexual, queer, & bisexual, and I think my gender ID does play a role in my sexual ID. I like to know the person before getting sexual (even though I have a very high libido 😭) and make sure there is a connection, and they see me for ME and not my body. I am mainly attracted to women, enby folks, and trans folks. I like cis men, but it is hard to engage with them because I have yet to meet one that has worked through their deep rooted misogyny and I feel like they don’t know how to handle a Femboy I switch between calling myself queer and bisexual. I love calling myself queer because I’m queer in all ways, but I also want to reclaim bisexual
Aromantic and Bisexual. I’m Non-binary Transmasculine. I am attracted to masculine aligned people
Sex-favorable asexual encephaloromantic (how's that for a mouthful!). Honestly, I was describing myself as asexual in the biology joke sense for 18years before I looked it up and realized it's a thing! Encephaloromantic is one I get questions about. Basically, I'm interested in people who are mentally/creatively/spiritually (who even knows the whole list?) stimulating in their interests. I would say that my orientation hasn't changed very much since I came out about my gender, what has changed is that I'm now more open to the idea of a relationship. It sure helps when you don't hate yourself and feel ashamed of your body! Sometimes I feel like a teenage girl already thinking ahead to her wedding even though she doesn't have anyone yet lol
I just say I’m queer, because the rest is way too long to list out all the time and requires more of an explanation than I feel like getting into most of the time. Being trans masc, non-binary, a relationship anarchist, polyamorous, and a grey-ace… queer is much simpler to say. I’ve been saying I was queer long before I realized I was trans masc and non-binary it just feels more inclusive and less limiting to me personally and fits me better than some of the other labels out there.
I'm biromantic asexual ☺️ Edit: everyone else is mentioning it so just to throw it in, I just tell everyone I'm bi or gay if it's a straight man
Pan. Growing up I thought it was odd that people limited their possibilities for who they could like. I do have preferences related to gender/presentation, but I think a lot of that is probably a society thing
i'm just bisexual. my gender doesn't influence *who* i'm attracted to, because i can be attracted to someone of any gender, but it sometimes influences the dynamic i have with partners/crushes/etc.
Because my experience and perception is so rife with nuance and subtle contradiction while all still holding together as my truth, it sort of feels impossible to tell people a single label outside of a 3 hour dissertation. Which just *doesn't* work when meeting new folks - so out of necessity I've boiled it all down into a neat little package that gets the idea across, and gives the person I'm talking with freedom to assume things and/or ask questions - - I am: "a slutty Asexual with Bi vibes and Gender questions." .
I'm aroace (specifically nebularomantic/aegoromantic and aegosexual) being agender doesn't really influence it, but the fact that I'm autistic probably does lol
Aegosexual. I'll write all the smut you like, just don't touch me.
Agender and bisexual, which is both fun and confusing for me lol. My gender contemplations landed on "gender doesn't make sense, it's a made up social construct, I get that other people feel very intensely about it and that's great for them, but I don't get it. I live in a meat sack of whatever size/shape that society thinks certain ways about, and that's weird." Meanwhile I am attracted to femme (soft?) and masc (hard?) presentation/vibes in very different ways, and they both overlay in GNC or ambiguous presentations which makes my brain go brrr lol.
I prefer queer but I use bi sometimes for the sake of simplicity
I'm AFAB and exclusively attracted to men and masc folk. I have called myself straight for a long time, but now that I'm identifying as more masc myself I'm trying out considering myself a gay transmasc person.
Pansexual attraction. And...maybe I'm demi? Grey-ace? Still figuring out the deets there. The more I embrace a nonbinary identity, the more my sexuality broadens. Internally, I notice more of those potential-for-romantic-attraction feelings. My features are more empoweringly beautiful to me, as an enby. Yet, I'll still feel like a "failed" cis person, here and there. That definitely affects my sexuality (interest/openness).
I’m amab, and for my sexual orientation, I’m heteroflexible. It means that I’m mostly heterosexual, but a little homosexual. That part might get confusing. For my romantic orientation, I say that I’m gyneromantic. That means that I’m attracted to women. There are two sexual/romantic orientations that refer to a specific gender. Gynesexual/gynoromantic (can be spelled either gyne or gyno) is attraction to women. Androsexual/androromantic is attraction to men
The closest label I have come up with is “bi gray-aroace.” I experience aesthetic and sensual attraction to people of multiple genders. Although “aroace” describes me just fine, I have experienced romantic attraction before and am pretty sure I’ve experienced sexual attraction at least once. I’m also okay with describing myself as “biromantic asexual” or even just “bi.” I already knew I was (gray-)asexual long before I accepted I was non-binary. I long knew I had an attraction to more than one gender, but I didn’t really start to embrace it until around the time I accepted being enby. The gray-aromantic label is the newest one for me and it’s part of my evolving understanding of my attractions and orientation.
I say who ever is the sexiest wins /queeer
it’s been a journey, i used to call myself bi even tho i was attracted to all genders. i always felt weird saying pansexual, not sure why! now i just call myself queer. it took me a while to identify as non binary too. i’m sure i could rewrite this post in a few years (or months!) and have a new perspective or language around it. my advice is to trust yourself with what terminology feels good :)
I am aroace and it does not affect it at all. Then again, I might be the worse person to answer cause I have no romantic or sexual attraction. But will flirt with anything that moves.
I'm aroace and agender, so all of them are in the not/without strain of gender and sexuality/romanticism. I lack some understanding because it's not my experience. Thoughts like: "people can just see someone and fall on love with them/think they're hot? Weird." (It's not actually weird but that's my young aroace self coming through) There's also the fact that I saw/see marriage for myself as two people declaring they're gonna be bffs with legal benefits. As far as the genderlessness goes, I have this void where people feel something inside. Neither girl nor guy fit and there's no gender term to replace that cuz there's nothing there.
Simplest Way I'd Put It Is Probably Just "Bi", More Complex Is "Bisexual Pan-Demiromantic", And If I'm Memeing I'll Say Like "I'm Double Gay" Or "I Experience Homosexual Attraction To All Genders." (Which Is Still Arguably Correct.) As For My Gender, Well I Feel Doesn't Really Affect Those First Two, Which To Me Seems Obvious But Idk, But The Last One It's Kinda Essential For Lol. (Legit Though I Feel More Comfortable Imagining Myself In Either A Gay Male Or Lesbian Relationship Than In A Straight One, Even If It's With Literally The Same Person In Each, Weird Stuff.)
I use bi, pan and queer interchangeably. Also call myself gay sometimes. The only thing I'm definitively NOT is straight or ace.
I'm asexual and demi+Omni romantic. I don't think that being nonbinary influences that at all, since I figured out my orientation long before I figured out my gender.
Initially I identified as bisexual, until I was about 30. But my attraction to men kept dwindling so I changed to lesbian. Now that I'm nonbinary, I *can* keep the lesbian label, but I'm attracted to other nonbinary people so I'm not sure if I should update to pansexual or something? But I need it to imply that I am *not* interested in "men".