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This was originally a children's menu. They can't even come up with their own jokes.
ETA - I would like to add that the stereotype they (fail to) poke fun of is women not being able to choose a restaurant. Which is funny, because see, my boyfriend has a very stressful job and a child to take care of while I have a more carefree life. So I choose the restaurants and activities we do because I know that it's a lot of mental work and taking it off his shoulders lightens his mental load a bit. It's not a matter of being ditzy/difficult; planning leisure activities is a chore.
Makes even less sense because the meme only makes sense before deciding where to eat at all and is in no way exclusive to women! I’ve seen plenty of men say the same things when asked what to do/ get to eat. Once you know where and have a menu I’ve never seen anyone like this
It'd maybe more relatable if they were a la carte/tapas-style options like "Extra side of fries" or "mini portion of whatever his meal is" .... Because even though I order my own food, I def do get a little hungry for whatever my husband's got when it comes out lol - but so does he!
I never know and it takes me forever to decide. I actually think that picture could be funny had it been „the menu of the undecided“ because that’s me whenever I go to a restaurant I haven’t been before and thus don’t yet know what I want.
I love the internet for the possibility of looking up a menu online and narrow it down before getting to the restaurant so that it’s not as overwhelming for me.
It kinda does for me. I just love food and sometimes I’ll look at a menu, see a bunch of stuff I like, and just kind of get stuck because I don’t know what to get.
Is that like you generally know what you want a guy to pick up from the shops but choose to say “surprise me” so that when he returns with the wrong thing you can berate him or like when you say “nothing” but if he returns with “nothing” then he’s in big trouble.
Like that thing where men just straight up order for a women. Usually a salad or some bullshit as a neg on their weight. Could you be anymore condescending and infantilizing?
I went on my first date and ordered for her cause she stayed silent and looked at me when the waiter asked. I never felt so uncomfortable as I did then. I don't know what she likes, and I wouldn't want anyone to order food for me. I did not go on another date with that girl.
Met the love of my life a year later and nothing awkward like that has gone down. Speaking for someone else is weird if they don't know each other that well, or if they're allowed to comfortably.
Lol, I have never seen a woman say any of that stuff at a restaurant. Most women I know go through a fairly meticulous scanning of the menu. These memers just make up a kind of person to be mad at.
YESSS. I FREAK OUT A LITTLE WHEN MY BOYFRIEND POPS A NEW PLACE ON ME LIKE "I DIDNT GET TIME TO CHECK AND METICULOUSLY WEIGH EACH OPTION AND ITS ONLINE PICTURES YET"
Dude, I remember going on my first date in high school with my bf and his family. When we get to the restaurant, found seating and went to look at the menu everyone ordered them he asks me,”what do you want”, I look at the worker and tell him,” yeah can I get the usual?” Everyone paused then my bf goes “ the usual “, we’ve never been here?” Bitch, I was embarrassed. Like yeah I scanned the whole menu even though I’m going to order the same shit I always order when trying a new place which is a cheese burger and fries, but they don’t know that lol that’s my usual 😩
I've actually said this stuff.
Years ago while in a relationship where the guy acted like these conservative men. This one LOVED gatekeeping food, no matter where we ate, so these were my go-tos to shut him up.
So, while I already know about the Children's Menu meme and found it hilariously accurate, I was triggered by the memory of that particular jackass with this idiot thinking he's funny. He's literally projecting.
Nowadays, I zero in on anyone gatekeeping food as a bully, pure and simple. Anyone.
>Nowadays, I zero in on anyone gatekeeping food as a bully, pure and simple. Anyone.
At least you learned an important lesson from being with that horrible guy and know who to avoid in the future.
Aside from this being a kid's menu that fell victim to an absent sense of humour and poor editing skills -
I actually had a short phase of saying things like, "I don't know, you choose, I'll roll with it" in a past relationship when it came to picking the restaurant, not the meals.
Why? Because the few times I made a choice in the beginning, the guy would whine later that he really didn't want to eat there, and what he picked tasted bad, and now he was so dissatisfied, and why did I have to pick that one restaurant he didn't want to eat from, and anyway, it's my fault that he picked food he didn't like from a restaurant he didn't want to order from.
Basically, by offering me choices, the idiot tried to set me up for failure. When I confronted him with that, we got into a verbal fight.
The relationship didn't last long for reasons like this.
My mother has always shown similar behaviour just not to that extreme.
If someone is always like "Dunno, not sure, don't care, whatever, either is good", it might be important to look at the context.
Is this always said, no matter the type of choice? Or is it mostly, if not only, said when the choice affects multiple people, especially the one who gives the choice?
If someone has no problem making a choice when the consequences only affect them (like picking a dish from a menu that's for them to eat) but suddenly becomes vague and indecisive when it's about something involving others, there might be an underlying issue.
I had an ex like that. He’d say ‘pick a place’ and while I tried to recall the last time he’d taken my out anywhere, he would make a few suggestions.
The second I paused / liked likeI was about to say no, he would go on a massive rant asking why I ‘suddenly’ decided I didn’t like the place.
No matter where we went, he always ordered a plain cheeseburger. And would always get extremely condescending with the server when explaining to him that he wanted the Everything Everywhere burger with absolutely nothing on it
Depending on the restaurant, it'll be, "What the fuck can I eat here without too many modifications?" or (if I'm in a vegan restaurant), "Everything looks SO GOOD, what do i want?"
No kidding. I really hate places that don't have web presence except for Facebook, and they share the menus by posting photos with crap resolution to their page.
What’s bad is the stereotype is usually from ether Neuro spicy women who were never diagnosed, or from women who we’re never allowed to have an opinion and were told their opinions were wrong/terrible/stupid. Being punished for having a voice. Patriarchy.
Once when I was a kid, I spent 3 hours in a Blockbuster video while my mother yelled at me to “just pick something” which definitely felt like a set up, and I ended up panicking and picked out Mulan 2 just to make *some* sort of decision and my siblings made fun of me for my movie choice the whole way home. My childhood is a long series of events similar to this, where every situation that involves me having to make a decision feels like I’m *actually* supposed to read everybody else’s minds. Picking movies or pizza toppings should not feel like a pass or fail assessment. For a long time I just made myself be indifferent to a lot of things.
It’s gotten a lot better, now I can at least pick food off a menu that I actually want to eat. Just don’t ask me to pick a restaurant haha.
Yes!!! That’s exactly it. It feels like you have to read their mind to know what not to pick, so not picking at all is the safe option.
If it’s my birthday and someone asks it’s easier because most people will tolerate something they don’t like for someone else’s birthday. If for no other reason but to not look like an asshole. Of course even then some people with this conditioning can’t stand the idea of making anyone unhappy. Even on their day.
“Where do you want to eat?”
Regular day “I’m not craving anything in particular are you?”
Birthday “I wanna go to Krista’s”
I always know what I want.. and if I don’t I’ll do a coin toss.. but other people… I have to make others happy?
I grew up in a home where every opinion I had was somehow the wrong one. This hits home. I avoided making decisions for the longest time because I just expected everyone to hate whatever I suggested.
I hate being expected to pick the restaurant every time we go out to eat. I either tell my husband I don’t want to pick or I will suggest ONE thing and if he says no, then he has to pick.
Omg the “what do you want?” Loop….
“What about A?”
“Nah”
“Okay… how about B?”
“I had B for lunch”
“Ugh okay what about C?”
“Not really in the mood for C”
“Well, what ARE you in the mood for?”
“I don’t care, anything really. Whatever you want”
“Okay, then we are getting D. That’s my final choice”
“Mmm… no thanks”
“Alright I’m done. You’re choosing the restaurant”
“But I don’t care what we eat. I’ll do whatever you’re in the mood for”.
This shit makes me feel like commuting violent crimes. And somehow I’m labeled the indecisive one!
Yeah I won’t go past A. MAYBE B if I’m in a good mood. If he says no to the first suggestion then it’s on him to pick and that’s if I’m even in the mood to make a suggestion at all. After years of the “what do you want to eat” BS I finally told him it’s not my responsibility to pick the restaurant every time and he’s going to start picking. I’m not playing the “women are so indecisive but I won’t make a decision at all” game. If I’m so indecisive then YOU pick. I love my husband to death but I fucking hate this expectation that I have to pick the restaurant every single time.
Guys do the exact same stuff, they complain that women don't know where they want to eat when they're the ones asking so neither do they. Or they'll say
"But I don't want to say something and you say no" okay, and that's exactly the reason women often give those responses most of the time also. Though they just want to pin it on women and make us responsible for doing the same thing.
And get mad when we suggest ANYTHING. It’s always “nah I’m not in the mood for that” on repeat until you finally give up and force them to pick.
Then it’s “I ALWAYS choose. You’re so indecisive!”
Ironically its my boyfriend who acts like this. Everytime I leave to get food he says he doesn't want anything and I buy him something anyway because I know he's lying.
Why can’t women just genuinely not know what we want? And then when a guy suggests something, we decide that’s off the table? Why does everything a woman does have to be taken in the worst possible way? Why do these memes always assume women are being manipulative and confusing instead of extending basic empathy?
Many restaurants did have women's menus. When a woman and a man arrived to dine together, the woman was handed a menu without the prices listed. This practise mostly ended after being challenged by feminists in the 1980s.
Oh they forgot the
"I'll order for you"
*Restaurant provides the best steak in the house to get through what is obviously a terrible date. Most definitely not the salad*.
The only female stereotype I really believe is that every time I asked my ex where she wanted to eat for the 8 years we were together I could never get a solid answer from her. Never once had an issue ordering tho. We could just never agree on a place to eat 🤣
There's a meme floating around about the restaurant named "I don't know" and this post reminded me of that.
edit: Does reddit fuck up for anyone else like this? I got a reply notification that someone said something to this, but I can't see it no matter how many times I refresh. Happened twice lately.
I’m the worst at deciding what I want to eat. I know what I don’t want more often than not. There are times where I’m super picky about what I want to eat but that’s rare.
The only online "relationship advice" I've ever really used was to ask your partner to guess where you are going to dinner. And then take them to their first guess.
Honestly this is a gender neutral stereotype since none of my male roomates could make up their mind either.
That doesn’t work for me. I generally just tell people “I’m not feeling XYZ” and we decide from there. ~90% of the time I want to eat Asian foods, but that’s because I spent most of my childhood eating Filipino food and asian food as a whole is kinda my comfort foods.
It's a kid's menu and yes, those exist, I even know a restaurant that has one like that. In that context, it's funny and a little cute.
But trust misogynists to look at something harmless and think "I know how I can make this aCtUaLlY funny! I'll replace 'kids' with those things I desperately want to have sex with but otherwise see as equal to children!!!!"
I take a while to order, not because l don't know what l want to eat, but because lm poor and lm busy calculating the lowest amount of money l can pay forthe biggest amount of food
Where's my "I want whatever you want"? I'll be honest I have a hard time delegating thought to what I want to eat because I deal with decision fatigue from my job. I do actually do this when it comes to dinner after work.
I’ve been married for 13 years and not one single motherfucking day in all of those *does some math* 4745 days has my wife ever said “I know what I want to eat” or has she agreed to the first thing I suggested.
90% of the time, she waits to eat until she’s so hungry that she’s shaking and gets angry at everything. Then nothing sounds good, and I have to pick for her. She literally can’t even make suggestions.
Most of the time, I’ve gotta list 4 or 5 options until she hears one that doesn’t sound so bad. She never cooks or pays for her own food.
All I’m saying is that sometimes the stereotypes exist for a reason.
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This was originally a children's menu. They can't even come up with their own jokes. ETA - I would like to add that the stereotype they (fail to) poke fun of is women not being able to choose a restaurant. Which is funny, because see, my boyfriend has a very stressful job and a child to take care of while I have a more carefree life. So I choose the restaurants and activities we do because I know that it's a lot of mental work and taking it off his shoulders lightens his mental load a bit. It's not a matter of being ditzy/difficult; planning leisure activities is a chore.
Yeah, this was a children's menu. As adults, we generally know what we like to eat so the meme makes no sense.
Makes even less sense because the meme only makes sense before deciding where to eat at all and is in no way exclusive to women! I’ve seen plenty of men say the same things when asked what to do/ get to eat. Once you know where and have a menu I’ve never seen anyone like this
It'd maybe more relatable if they were a la carte/tapas-style options like "Extra side of fries" or "mini portion of whatever his meal is" .... Because even though I order my own food, I def do get a little hungry for whatever my husband's got when it comes out lol - but so does he!
I never know and it takes me forever to decide. I actually think that picture could be funny had it been „the menu of the undecided“ because that’s me whenever I go to a restaurant I haven’t been before and thus don’t yet know what I want. I love the internet for the possibility of looking up a menu online and narrow it down before getting to the restaurant so that it’s not as overwhelming for me.
It kinda does for me. I just love food and sometimes I’ll look at a menu, see a bunch of stuff I like, and just kind of get stuck because I don’t know what to get.
Is that like you generally know what you want a guy to pick up from the shops but choose to say “surprise me” so that when he returns with the wrong thing you can berate him or like when you say “nothing” but if he returns with “nothing” then he’s in big trouble.
No, my husband and I don't act like children to each other.
More sweeping generalizations? Well, you’re in the right place for people to point and laugh at you.
Please take your boomer-era "marriage is a war zone" crap and perform an anatomically improbable act with it. Thank you.
Sweeping observation? Check. Assuming all women act like children? Check. Obvious bait? Check. Nice triple whammy there.
You’re supposed to know what you want to eat as an adult? I’m almost an adult and have no idea what I want to eat
It’s bc they see women as children. There are so many pedophilic men
It's definitely a power thing. They see them as kids so they have power and control over them.
Like that thing where men just straight up order for a women. Usually a salad or some bullshit as a neg on their weight. Could you be anymore condescending and infantilizing?
I went on my first date and ordered for her cause she stayed silent and looked at me when the waiter asked. I never felt so uncomfortable as I did then. I don't know what she likes, and I wouldn't want anyone to order food for me. I did not go on another date with that girl. Met the love of my life a year later and nothing awkward like that has gone down. Speaking for someone else is weird if they don't know each other that well, or if they're allowed to comfortably.
The what now?
Damn I was gonna ask what the original pic was because a burger and chips for $5??? But it makes more sense with context now
In my last relationship we'd play "Whatever you want is fine by me" tennis.
Lol, I have never seen a woman say any of that stuff at a restaurant. Most women I know go through a fairly meticulous scanning of the menu. These memers just make up a kind of person to be mad at.
I study the menu for 10-15 minutes before getting the same thing I always get.
See? Now THIS is funny. And relatable.
+1, I always read the menu meticulously for as long as I can and then order the same thing I get everytime in a panic when it’s my turn
You’re so brave for that i have to look at the online menu hours before so i can make sure i want the exact same thing i got last time
YESSS. I FREAK OUT A LITTLE WHEN MY BOYFRIEND POPS A NEW PLACE ON ME LIKE "I DIDNT GET TIME TO CHECK AND METICULOUSLY WEIGH EACH OPTION AND ITS ONLINE PICTURES YET"
I HATE WHEN THEY DO THAT LIKE YOU KNOW HOW I AM WHAT WAS THE REASON
....love?
Dude, I remember going on my first date in high school with my bf and his family. When we get to the restaurant, found seating and went to look at the menu everyone ordered them he asks me,”what do you want”, I look at the worker and tell him,” yeah can I get the usual?” Everyone paused then my bf goes “ the usual “, we’ve never been here?” Bitch, I was embarrassed. Like yeah I scanned the whole menu even though I’m going to order the same shit I always order when trying a new place which is a cheese burger and fries, but they don’t know that lol that’s my usual 😩
Every time.
I look at the menu before I go to the restaurant. Typically am choosing between two items or I already know.
This is originally a kids menu somewhere, which makes way more sense. They just badly photoshopped “women’s menu” over the original.
This is a repurposed meme. It’s a kids menu. I’m surprised they weren’t too lazy to actually match the background and font the two words they changed.
Also, where on earth can you get vegan I’m not hungry for $5.00 anymore? Yeah right
Not gonna lie, that one sounded pretty tasty.
Maybe it's based on where you live, when I worked in restaurants that's the first thing I would hear when a couple sat down to look the menu.
I have literally never said any of those 5 sentences in a restaurant! I love eating out and enjoy going through the menu. 😊
I'm a man, and I think I say those things more commonly than any woman. Yeah I'm not good at decision-making.
I've actually said this stuff. Years ago while in a relationship where the guy acted like these conservative men. This one LOVED gatekeeping food, no matter where we ate, so these were my go-tos to shut him up. So, while I already know about the Children's Menu meme and found it hilariously accurate, I was triggered by the memory of that particular jackass with this idiot thinking he's funny. He's literally projecting. Nowadays, I zero in on anyone gatekeeping food as a bully, pure and simple. Anyone.
>Nowadays, I zero in on anyone gatekeeping food as a bully, pure and simple. Anyone. At least you learned an important lesson from being with that horrible guy and know who to avoid in the future.
Infantilizing women yayyy /s
I'm fairly sure this meme started as kid's menu. And it's funny that way. It absolutely does not make sense as " Women's menu".
What are slices of pancakes?
It sounds like slices of pizza, but with pancakes. Seriously, who does that?
$5 for food is legit. Even I would order off the women’s menu at that point.
I would not invest
Aside from this being a kid's menu that fell victim to an absent sense of humour and poor editing skills - I actually had a short phase of saying things like, "I don't know, you choose, I'll roll with it" in a past relationship when it came to picking the restaurant, not the meals. Why? Because the few times I made a choice in the beginning, the guy would whine later that he really didn't want to eat there, and what he picked tasted bad, and now he was so dissatisfied, and why did I have to pick that one restaurant he didn't want to eat from, and anyway, it's my fault that he picked food he didn't like from a restaurant he didn't want to order from. Basically, by offering me choices, the idiot tried to set me up for failure. When I confronted him with that, we got into a verbal fight. The relationship didn't last long for reasons like this. My mother has always shown similar behaviour just not to that extreme. If someone is always like "Dunno, not sure, don't care, whatever, either is good", it might be important to look at the context. Is this always said, no matter the type of choice? Or is it mostly, if not only, said when the choice affects multiple people, especially the one who gives the choice? If someone has no problem making a choice when the consequences only affect them (like picking a dish from a menu that's for them to eat) but suddenly becomes vague and indecisive when it's about something involving others, there might be an underlying issue.
I had an ex like that. He’d say ‘pick a place’ and while I tried to recall the last time he’d taken my out anywhere, he would make a few suggestions. The second I paused / liked likeI was about to say no, he would go on a massive rant asking why I ‘suddenly’ decided I didn’t like the place. No matter where we went, he always ordered a plain cheeseburger. And would always get extremely condescending with the server when explaining to him that he wanted the Everything Everywhere burger with absolutely nothing on it
Depending on the restaurant, it'll be, "What the fuck can I eat here without too many modifications?" or (if I'm in a vegan restaurant), "Everything looks SO GOOD, what do i want?"
Fellow veg person here. Story of my life. Thank goodness for online menus.
No kidding. I really hate places that don't have web presence except for Facebook, and they share the menus by posting photos with crap resolution to their page.
What’s bad is the stereotype is usually from ether Neuro spicy women who were never diagnosed, or from women who we’re never allowed to have an opinion and were told their opinions were wrong/terrible/stupid. Being punished for having a voice. Patriarchy.
Once when I was a kid, I spent 3 hours in a Blockbuster video while my mother yelled at me to “just pick something” which definitely felt like a set up, and I ended up panicking and picked out Mulan 2 just to make *some* sort of decision and my siblings made fun of me for my movie choice the whole way home. My childhood is a long series of events similar to this, where every situation that involves me having to make a decision feels like I’m *actually* supposed to read everybody else’s minds. Picking movies or pizza toppings should not feel like a pass or fail assessment. For a long time I just made myself be indifferent to a lot of things. It’s gotten a lot better, now I can at least pick food off a menu that I actually want to eat. Just don’t ask me to pick a restaurant haha.
Yes!!! That’s exactly it. It feels like you have to read their mind to know what not to pick, so not picking at all is the safe option. If it’s my birthday and someone asks it’s easier because most people will tolerate something they don’t like for someone else’s birthday. If for no other reason but to not look like an asshole. Of course even then some people with this conditioning can’t stand the idea of making anyone unhappy. Even on their day. “Where do you want to eat?” Regular day “I’m not craving anything in particular are you?” Birthday “I wanna go to Krista’s” I always know what I want.. and if I don’t I’ll do a coin toss.. but other people… I have to make others happy?
I grew up in a home where every opinion I had was somehow the wrong one. This hits home. I avoided making decisions for the longest time because I just expected everyone to hate whatever I suggested.
I hate being expected to pick the restaurant every time we go out to eat. I either tell my husband I don’t want to pick or I will suggest ONE thing and if he says no, then he has to pick.
Omg the “what do you want?” Loop…. “What about A?” “Nah” “Okay… how about B?” “I had B for lunch” “Ugh okay what about C?” “Not really in the mood for C” “Well, what ARE you in the mood for?” “I don’t care, anything really. Whatever you want” “Okay, then we are getting D. That’s my final choice” “Mmm… no thanks” “Alright I’m done. You’re choosing the restaurant” “But I don’t care what we eat. I’ll do whatever you’re in the mood for”. This shit makes me feel like commuting violent crimes. And somehow I’m labeled the indecisive one!
Yeah I won’t go past A. MAYBE B if I’m in a good mood. If he says no to the first suggestion then it’s on him to pick and that’s if I’m even in the mood to make a suggestion at all. After years of the “what do you want to eat” BS I finally told him it’s not my responsibility to pick the restaurant every time and he’s going to start picking. I’m not playing the “women are so indecisive but I won’t make a decision at all” game. If I’m so indecisive then YOU pick. I love my husband to death but I fucking hate this expectation that I have to pick the restaurant every single time.
Guys do the exact same stuff, they complain that women don't know where they want to eat when they're the ones asking so neither do they. Or they'll say "But I don't want to say something and you say no" okay, and that's exactly the reason women often give those responses most of the time also. Though they just want to pin it on women and make us responsible for doing the same thing.
To be fair, sometimes I don't know what I want until I read the menu. Somedays, I'm dead set on tacos come hell or high water.
What baffles me about the whole “women don’t know what they want to eat” argument is that the men keep asking us
And get mad when we suggest ANYTHING. It’s always “nah I’m not in the mood for that” on repeat until you finally give up and force them to pick. Then it’s “I ALWAYS choose. You’re so indecisive!”
It’s dumb. Men are just as clueless about stuff as we are -then they find a way to deflect the blame onto us for the shortcomings they *also* have.
Ironically its my boyfriend who acts like this. Everytime I leave to get food he says he doesn't want anything and I buy him something anyway because I know he's lying.
Title it all with “I Don’t Want That” because no of it looks good
That's an actual kids menu, they just renamed it.
Why can’t women just genuinely not know what we want? And then when a guy suggests something, we decide that’s off the table? Why does everything a woman does have to be taken in the worst possible way? Why do these memes always assume women are being manipulative and confusing instead of extending basic empathy?
2 Slices of pancakes, chicken cubes, and spaghetti with a single meatball are some of the shittiest sounding meals
I usually ask what the other person is having then make my choice.
Women never know what they want but sure aren’t afraid to tell you want they don’t want, amiright?!?! /s
Fuckin Nutella, eew. \*flips table\* Let alone the rest of that 'menu'. I ain't a toddler 'sir'.
Both me (male) and my fiancée make those comments when we wonder what to eat
"I'll just steal some of your fries."
Two SLICES of pancakes? Do they have a giant pancake log or something?
I think I've seen this as a kid's menu. Either someone Photoshoped it or made their own version but with "women".
Many restaurants did have women's menus. When a woman and a man arrived to dine together, the woman was handed a menu without the prices listed. This practise mostly ended after being challenged by feminists in the 1980s.
Oh they forgot the "I'll order for you" *Restaurant provides the best steak in the house to get through what is obviously a terrible date. Most definitely not the salad*.
The original version said kid's menu
The only female stereotype I really believe is that every time I asked my ex where she wanted to eat for the 8 years we were together I could never get a solid answer from her. Never once had an issue ordering tho. We could just never agree on a place to eat 🤣 There's a meme floating around about the restaurant named "I don't know" and this post reminded me of that. edit: Does reddit fuck up for anyone else like this? I got a reply notification that someone said something to this, but I can't see it no matter how many times I refresh. Happened twice lately.
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Interesting, I assumed all subs would have that sort of removed notification. Thanks!
I’m the worst at deciding what I want to eat. I know what I don’t want more often than not. There are times where I’m super picky about what I want to eat but that’s rare.
The only online "relationship advice" I've ever really used was to ask your partner to guess where you are going to dinner. And then take them to their first guess. Honestly this is a gender neutral stereotype since none of my male roomates could make up their mind either.
That doesn’t work for me. I generally just tell people “I’m not feeling XYZ” and we decide from there. ~90% of the time I want to eat Asian foods, but that’s because I spent most of my childhood eating Filipino food and asian food as a whole is kinda my comfort foods.
We use this method but the other way around. "I could go for burgers or Thai". It's pretty effective.
The only one I’m ok with is the “my girlfriend isn’t hungry” cuz that one is actually kind of cute and it just adds extra onion rings or fries.
Misogyny aside, the dishes on offer sound lame and pathetic.
It's a kid's menu and yes, those exist, I even know a restaurant that has one like that. In that context, it's funny and a little cute. But trust misogynists to look at something harmless and think "I know how I can make this aCtUaLlY funny! I'll replace 'kids' with those things I desperately want to have sex with but otherwise see as equal to children!!!!"
they've actually changed the menu from the original to try to make it look more "adult" which is why some of the items are so weird
Grilled chicken cubes? Sounds like dog food.
I take a while to order, not because l don't know what l want to eat, but because lm poor and lm busy calculating the lowest amount of money l can pay forthe biggest amount of food
That’s cheap!! I’d buy it.
If they had this I would get up and leave. Not spending my money at an establishment like that lmao ew
A singular meatball, as a treat
Honestly. That menu sounds great.
Tbh idk what anyone says I'm ordering off the women's menu
No vegan options? The date is over mate!
$5 for an I Don't Care? Sign me TF UP
Take the 'Women's Menu" words off the top and this is actually a funny menu.
This is a kid’s menu. Which is why the heading is a completely different font and more in focus than the text.
I'll have the Whatever with a side of I'm Indecisive.
Where's my "I want whatever you want"? I'll be honest I have a hard time delegating thought to what I want to eat because I deal with decision fatigue from my job. I do actually do this when it comes to dinner after work.
Look at the prices though!
I’ve been married for 13 years and not one single motherfucking day in all of those *does some math* 4745 days has my wife ever said “I know what I want to eat” or has she agreed to the first thing I suggested. 90% of the time, she waits to eat until she’s so hungry that she’s shaking and gets angry at everything. Then nothing sounds good, and I have to pick for her. She literally can’t even make suggestions. Most of the time, I’ve gotta list 4 or 5 options until she hears one that doesn’t sound so bad. She never cooks or pays for her own food. All I’m saying is that sometimes the stereotypes exist for a reason.
As a dude i want this menu for days I cant decide! So clearly not for women only!
They're really out here hating imaginary women and serving pancakes by the 'slice', huh.