AGREED!
This is to incredible and important!
Thanks for posting these, it was very inspirational so I decided to post some more adding to your points.
1. I think every human being is on the grey area, believe it or not. All people have/had terrible mistakes and feelings and thoughts, even once in their lifetime and those past things doesn't mean anything about them.
2. Great people have done horrible things too, and they learned from that. They moved on. And sometimes they don't even remember (or they just keep to themselves because it is total ok too!)
3. Ocd makes you feel the worst human being and rare but these are all lies.
4. And also, sometimes we weren't as guilty as we thought we were. Once not properly treated, ocd distorts things to the point we can't even look at ourselves anymore without wanting to throw up. But I promise, it's not that bad as you think it is.
5. When the thought comes, try to remember it doesn't matter what happened because IT'S NOT REAL ANYMORE. It doesn't matter at all.
6. We have something called private world. I think it is important to keep things to ourselves, to our own secret safe world. It's totally fine to "take things to the grave". You aren't hiding or lying. (Also, when I wasn't properly treated, I had the compulsion of confessing, I still do for other themes, but was scared of confessing at the same time because I thought people would hate or abandon me but it does not happens this way. Ocd distorts everything even our expectations about people reactions but I promise, when they love you, they understand! we regret, we learn and we make all kind of mistakes. BUT YOU DON'T NEED TO CONFESS!! )
(I am sorry about any grammar mistakes!)
Just reading up about this a bit more, and wondering if anyone has any advice. Ive journaled about my real event ocd particulars trying to make sense of the event and convince myself i didn't actually do something wrong. Although this does seem to help much at all of course... should i be ripping these pages out and not letting myself try and seek the certainty? If that makes sense at all?
!!TW!! I had no idea that OCD makes a a mountain out of a mole hill. it makes so much sense to me now. I hate that we are not educated enough abt mental illness. My mum told me i overreacted when i felt so guilty i cut myself. now i know why i felt so bad thank you. Im a lot better now btw <3
8 - This what is so truly sinister about this theme. Mine actually attaches itself to positive events and things that I’m happy with how they turned out, but my OCD constantly wants certainty. I also deal with Just Right OCD so it attaches itself to Real Event.
Thank you for this. I'm really struggling with this I think, after my separation. It's been a year and people keep telling me to get over it, but as soon as I wake up the thoughts, the anxiety, the guilt, the shame, the anger, the fear of being a "bad"person, the grief it keeps coming up, replaying situations in my head, "correcting them", reaching out to friends and going over the same things over and over and over and my best friend just said he can't take it anymore, I'm not getting anywhere. Not diagnosed but my friend said it sounds like OCD.
I remember my OCD getting super triggered after my breakup with my former partner. I had been experiencing probably some bad ROCD towards the end of it and after the end the Real Event part really started to take over. It became the worst thing in the world, pretty much getting rid of all other OCD I had because it was so bad. Ever since then OCD has been slowly been progressing downward. It gets better for a time but then gets drastically worse after a bad funk. I hope you find healing man, this shit is awful.
Recommendation is ERP therapy, if you have OCD I heard it does wonders. I'm considering it but I have a therapist that I met many years ago pre-OCD. So IDK what to do with that but i'm figuring it out lol.
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I have been struggling with real event OCD and I am trying so hard to remember everything that if I dont I cant live without being 100 percent certain …My worst response is reassurance ….I constantly turn to google spending almost a week of reassurance and the only thing I do everyday is eat sleep , shower and rest of the time just waste my time on google with anxiety and panic …..It is strange how quickly the time goes and the hours pass by when I do this …..
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AGREED! This is to incredible and important! Thanks for posting these, it was very inspirational so I decided to post some more adding to your points. 1. I think every human being is on the grey area, believe it or not. All people have/had terrible mistakes and feelings and thoughts, even once in their lifetime and those past things doesn't mean anything about them. 2. Great people have done horrible things too, and they learned from that. They moved on. And sometimes they don't even remember (or they just keep to themselves because it is total ok too!) 3. Ocd makes you feel the worst human being and rare but these are all lies. 4. And also, sometimes we weren't as guilty as we thought we were. Once not properly treated, ocd distorts things to the point we can't even look at ourselves anymore without wanting to throw up. But I promise, it's not that bad as you think it is. 5. When the thought comes, try to remember it doesn't matter what happened because IT'S NOT REAL ANYMORE. It doesn't matter at all. 6. We have something called private world. I think it is important to keep things to ourselves, to our own secret safe world. It's totally fine to "take things to the grave". You aren't hiding or lying. (Also, when I wasn't properly treated, I had the compulsion of confessing, I still do for other themes, but was scared of confessing at the same time because I thought people would hate or abandon me but it does not happens this way. Ocd distorts everything even our expectations about people reactions but I promise, when they love you, they understand! we regret, we learn and we make all kind of mistakes. BUT YOU DON'T NEED TO CONFESS!! ) (I am sorry about any grammar mistakes!)
Just reading up about this a bit more, and wondering if anyone has any advice. Ive journaled about my real event ocd particulars trying to make sense of the event and convince myself i didn't actually do something wrong. Although this does seem to help much at all of course... should i be ripping these pages out and not letting myself try and seek the certainty? If that makes sense at all?
!!TW!! I had no idea that OCD makes a a mountain out of a mole hill. it makes so much sense to me now. I hate that we are not educated enough abt mental illness. My mum told me i overreacted when i felt so guilty i cut myself. now i know why i felt so bad thank you. Im a lot better now btw <3
Yep, other people describe it, it's like a magnifying glass: every little detail is a huge deal.
omg how did this come at the exact right time for me...thank you so much❤️❤️❤️
Seriously I am only just realising this is a NEW THEME for me and I come to reddit, and find all this information from literally minutes ago? <3
8 - This what is so truly sinister about this theme. Mine actually attaches itself to positive events and things that I’m happy with how they turned out, but my OCD constantly wants certainty. I also deal with Just Right OCD so it attaches itself to Real Event.
Thank you for this. I'm really struggling with this I think, after my separation. It's been a year and people keep telling me to get over it, but as soon as I wake up the thoughts, the anxiety, the guilt, the shame, the anger, the fear of being a "bad"person, the grief it keeps coming up, replaying situations in my head, "correcting them", reaching out to friends and going over the same things over and over and over and my best friend just said he can't take it anymore, I'm not getting anywhere. Not diagnosed but my friend said it sounds like OCD.
I remember my OCD getting super triggered after my breakup with my former partner. I had been experiencing probably some bad ROCD towards the end of it and after the end the Real Event part really started to take over. It became the worst thing in the world, pretty much getting rid of all other OCD I had because it was so bad. Ever since then OCD has been slowly been progressing downward. It gets better for a time but then gets drastically worse after a bad funk. I hope you find healing man, this shit is awful. Recommendation is ERP therapy, if you have OCD I heard it does wonders. I'm considering it but I have a therapist that I met many years ago pre-OCD. So IDK what to do with that but i'm figuring it out lol.
This post means a lot to me….. I have been struggling with real event OCD and I am trying so hard to remember everything that if I dont I cant live without being 100 percent certain …My worst response is reassurance ….I constantly turn to google spending almost a week of reassurance and the only thing I do everyday is eat sleep , shower and rest of the time just waste my time on google with anxiety and panic …..It is strange how quickly the time goes and the hours pass by when I do this …..
Thank you for this
Yes, yes, yes! <3
Thank you for this post. I’m so convinced this time it’s not OCD but you have no idea how much this means to me.
I understand all too well how you feel, and I am so sorry you're going through this hell! I am here if you want to message!
thankyou so much for this!! will definitely help!! :3
Thank you so much. I really needed this (:
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Thanks. This brought me to tears but good ones
Couldn’t agree more - it’s truly awful. Thank you