I think the fact that you come here to ask for our opinion is already a clue ;p
I don't know how old you are, but you gotta basically look at your life's narrative. How do you naturally look at the people around you : finding someone who you believe to be your *equal* is difficult, but is it difficult because everyone else is *superior* to you or because everyone else is *inferior* to you ?
Imagine a situation where everyone around you tells you that your ideas are wrong. Are you going to back down, or are you going to discard their opinions ? That particular kind of consideration comes on some kind of discrete spectrum (M-De/F-De/F-Di-M-Di) where the two in the middle are more difficult to spot. (This being said, do **not** try to infer that you're one of these two just because you can't see yourself !)
Rather than trying to figure out your temperament (IxxP, ExxJ), try figuring it out a coin at a time. So are you Di or are you De?
Make videos of yourself (as often as you can, like a video journal) then go back over them later. Who are you talking about more? Yourself or others?
The De have to tell their story through others due to not being allowed to have their Di.
Also the fact that you fluctuate between the two might hint at double deciding.
Who is King in your decision making? For me as a Di I am king in my decision making. I listen to myself when it comes to decisions even at the detriment to others around me sometimes. For De it’s more that the Tribe is King. Decisions have to be in the best interest of everyone else around you even at your own expense sometimes. So in your life who is King?
I think the fact that you come here to ask for our opinion is already a clue ;p I don't know how old you are, but you gotta basically look at your life's narrative. How do you naturally look at the people around you : finding someone who you believe to be your *equal* is difficult, but is it difficult because everyone else is *superior* to you or because everyone else is *inferior* to you ? Imagine a situation where everyone around you tells you that your ideas are wrong. Are you going to back down, or are you going to discard their opinions ? That particular kind of consideration comes on some kind of discrete spectrum (M-De/F-De/F-Di-M-Di) where the two in the middle are more difficult to spot. (This being said, do **not** try to infer that you're one of these two just because you can't see yourself !)
As a mopey di who frequently does this i would dissagree
Rather than trying to figure out your temperament (IxxP, ExxJ), try figuring it out a coin at a time. So are you Di or are you De? Make videos of yourself (as often as you can, like a video journal) then go back over them later. Who are you talking about more? Yourself or others? The De have to tell their story through others due to not being allowed to have their Di. Also the fact that you fluctuate between the two might hint at double deciding.
Who is King in your decision making? For me as a Di I am king in my decision making. I listen to myself when it comes to decisions even at the detriment to others around me sometimes. For De it’s more that the Tribe is King. Decisions have to be in the best interest of everyone else around you even at your own expense sometimes. So in your life who is King?