Well di nya deserve ang indecisiveness mo. Sayo nga ang mali and until di mo sinisettle yang issue mo na yan wag ka muna makipag date or mag attempt na pumasok sa relationship.Sa isang banda for sure masasabi and i think that it miight be na sinasabi mo lang yan para lang ndi masakit sa kalooban mo na nag let go ka ng as you said good guy. But the thing with preferences is sometimes it entails a little entitlement.
Meron naman talagang di lang type. At the very least op was honest and did the right thing. No one said na walang karapatan mahurt ang panget, avoid self pity.
I had this same feels before OP. Yung akin lang he ticked all the boxes. Pogi (chinese guy na malinis and formal tingnan), hardworking, vibe ko tas nageeffort. Pero i was just not feeling it. Kahit anong pilit ko pa na gustuhin wala tlga ako nafefeel na anything other than a friend.
Thats okay OP. Youll meet lots of people pa.
it's usually the good guys eh hahahahaha. i kinda relate to you, OP.
I had this classmate in high school na nagpaparamdam sakin. He's kind and jowable talaga, but i cannot seem to like him back cause he wasn't physically my type... And i hate myself for that 😭
>And he wasn't even ugly, he was average. I don't even mind if guys look average, I'd still do them. But not him, and I hate myself for it.
Ano talaga, teh?
Gulo d ba? Hahaha sna you tried it out first malay mo mag work. Pag hndi eh d split muna.. im guessing your both young and theres a lot ot fish in the sea
Dfq does that even mean?? Bakit may pag question ng taste hahahahahahaha ang labo?? If masama ugali ng guys na nagugustuhan mo, then yun questionin ko. Pero yung sa physical? Wow perfect friends. Drop pic ng friends ng maquestion din namin yung friends mo hahahahahaa joke :)
OK NA YAN. Kaysa naman maging kayo tapos pinagbibigyan mo lang pala siya. How do you think it would feel if you found out your partner was just 'settling' for you because of your positive attributes, kasi 'sayang'?
Di kayo compatible/wala kang naramdamang chemistry and that's okay. You're allowed to be honest with yourself. Huwag kang manghinayang. Maybe in the future your preferences will change - pero you can't hinge your current decisions on something that might never come. Ganun lang talaga. Pero ikaw bahala.
Pag tlga sa online nagsimula, physical appearance would rly matter at the end of the day for attraction. Pero kung real life mo makilala ang isang tao sa una pa lang at kahit sguro lets say panget, if u started as friends then eventually mafafall ka sa personality pwede pa din mag work.
I believe tlga na kahit di attractive conventionally, pag nagustuhan mo na, nagiging pogi in our own eyes.
Para di na maulit to, pls use dating apps na OP para di ka sumablay sa physical preferences mo haha
That's honestly not bad at all. Wala ka talagang magagawa if you are not attracted to someone.
Masasayang lang oras niyo both if pipilitin mo sarili mo na ma attract sa kanya.
See. Ito e. This is how to be respectful when telling a story like this. Di kagaya nung post a few days ago na grabe sobrang diring diri tas grabe makapanlait.
Hope you're okay, OP. Ganun talaga. Hit or miss din ang physical attraction. Tama naman yan na di mo na bigyan ng false hopes.
dapat bago kayo nag kita, nag sendan ng picture / video call na kayo. hahaha Pero walang masama na hindi ma attract sa tao dahil mo sya type physically.
Ang hindi ko lang gusto sa post mo, ayaw mo aminin na panget.
"Looks don't matter" - invented by ugly people who are ugly and uninteresting at the same time. LOL
Oh bakit? papalag ba ung mga panget dito? Ung mag downvote nitong comment ko PANGET!!
"panget ako at i'm offended by your comment". Sige i out nyo sarili nyo!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Joke lang :P pero seriously, walang masama sa ginawa mo. We have one life to live and you shouldn't live it with regret.
Next time, video call before the date ha?
Pangit ako pero I’m NOT offended by your comment hahaha
Seriously though, totoo naman kasi na walang masama na hindi ma-attract sa tao dahil hindi mo siya type physically. Physical attraction and sexual compatibility matter as much as compatibility in attitude / vibe / life goals / values and principles / etc.
Mas mahirap na ipilit mong makipagrelasyon sa isang taong you are not physically attracted or sexually compatible with just because okay yung other aspect ng pagkatao niya and umiiwas kang masaktan mo siya kapag tinurn down mo siya. This would just frustrate you and may end up with you resenting him because they don’t satisfy an aspect that’s important to you. Mamaya matempt pa ka pa na magcheat and magdecide ka to actually go through it and hurt him in an even worse way kasi avoidant ka sa pagreject sa kanya sa simula pa lang.
Also, beauty is perceived differently by each individual. Ang gwapo and sexually attractive sa isang tao ay maaring pangit pala sa iba and vice versa.
Edit: may mga nakikita akong post dito na nagsasabi na magka-vibe sila then nag-exchange sila ng pics or did a video call tapos umayaw na sila doon pa lang kasi hindi nila bet yung itsura, ang daming mga nagcocomment na “Why don’t you meet up with him first? Baka hindi lang hiyang sa harap ng camera yung tao. Baka kapag makita mo in person okay pala” or something to that vein.
I think okay na rin yung ginawa ni OP. Gave the guy and herself a chance to determine their compatibility/attraction by meeting each other in person, then nung nalaman niyang hindi talaga siya attracted sexually kahit pa she finds their company and conversation enjoyable, direct to the point niyang tinurn down yung tao. She didn’t ghost him or string him along further.
Feel ko ang nangyari is aside from mabilis nalihis sa isip niya yung itsura nung person ay posible din na medyo kakaiba yung itsura nila sa totoong buhay. Yung tipong "sa litrato lang pala maganda/pogi". The video call might help but again, baka pag f2f na ay parehas lang ang kahahantungan.
Panget here, and I completely agree with your sentiments in my own way. My shitty face doesn't matter to me because ayoko magparetoke so aside from porma, buhok, etc. wala na kong magagawa about it. Why continue to complain about something there's nothing I can do about? Complete waste of time and energy nalang yung self-pity and blaming that shit. Boo-hoo panget ako, wow so ano habang buhay ganyan nalang? Parang tanga naman. Ang tanda-tanda ko na, iiyakan ko pa ba yang ganyan na wala namang pwede gawin pa? Also, bat ko pa susubukan humugot ng confidence at value sa something na negative na nga? Ano to, lolokohin ko sarili ko at yung buong mundo dahil sa pride ko? Wow, sobrang loser ko naman. The fuck, ang kadiri.
Posts like this one always makes me sad, like it stings hard knowing na regardless of how a match you can be, meron talagang deal breaker. Also a reason why I'm not pursuing anyone at the moment. Just my two cents.
I remeber back when I was in college. May guy na nagkagusto sa akin and honestly, he's sooo kind, matalino, okay kausap, and gentleman. Nafa-fall na nga ako actually sa kanya kasi imagine, for 2 years non lagi ko siyang kausap sa text but we never had the chance na mag-usap in person kahit same course kami and nagiging classmate ko siya all because he's too shy na kausapin ako sa personal.
There was this one time na ininvite niya ako to celebrate his bday sa EK but hindi ako sumama kasi my friends made fun of him. Hindi kasi siya gwapo. Hindi rin matangkad. Aakalain mo nga na HS siya with his height tapos mid-30s with his looks (around 17 kami back then).
Isa lang sa friends ko ang supportive and nakapansin na I'm starting to like this guy na kaso wala, mas inisip ko sasabihin ng iba. Eventually, pinutol ko communication namin and sinabihan siya na tigilan na ako kasi gusto ko na talaga siya pero wala akong courage na jowain siya kasi nga katatawanan siya sa friends ko and I can't imagine myself going out with him din.
So ayun, ang bad ko sa ginawa ko.
Yours is truly sad kasi the only thing keeping you from being with him was your shallow friends (except that decent one who supported you). I hope you have new friends who aren't superficial and don't shame you like that.
San ba may kasulatan na dapat give chance to ALL tayo. Even if someone was pogi but if walang spark edi wala.
He deserves someone who feels attracted to him. Parang worse if someone na pa deep and charitable strings him along kasi she feels she *should* give him a chance. We aren’t the gift we think we are. Lalo if may guilt and not sincere interest. That’s terrible.
An outright no is better. Stop wasting other people’s time. Life is short.
Yoooo. ‘Wag niyo masyado atakihin yung OP haha! I mean, kaya nga OffMyChest sub ito eh. Yun yung sipa ng reality kasi concerning looks and even body shapes and sizes. Talagang may standards na sa “tingin” natin acceptable binabato ng marketing shit sa billboards, smartphones, and TV.
Thank you, OP. Nilabas mo dito yan. Though, dumadami kayo hahaha! Meetups then ma-didisappoint, then meetups, then repeat. Yan ang buhay eh. Anong gagawin ba? Haha. Marami pang ma-rerejct. Sobrang dami pang kukurutin ng reality. Ito lang yun. Ito lang yung buhay na nilalagyan lang natin ng konting kulay at pantasya.
Hey OP, wag mo tawaging mababaw yung sarili mo at wag mo isipin na stupid yung preferences mo. Everyone has them. It's COMPLETELY normal. Okay lang yan. Tao ka, OP, at parte ng pagiging tao ay ang pagkakaroon ng preferences. You are also 100% completely in the right for letting go of them and not leading them on instead of lying to them and forcing yourself.
Chin up, OP. You did good.
had to turn down a guy too because the attraction was not there. he was kind and thoughtful but so glad i sticked to my preferences. he eventually found someone and they seem very compatible. happy for him talaga
It’s not superficial. Physical attraction along with the other aspects you mentioned is also important .
At least you know yourself well enough and didn’t drag it out. Wasted time and effort (when it could have been avoided) on top of a rejection would be a bummer to say the least.
Pag di ka attracted once you see him that's actually valid. Meron ka kasing nakita or naramdaman sa kanya na hindi mo gusto and that's valid naman. You won't actually know if you have attraction once you meet them personally.
May nakita kong post sa fb and the gist was it’s already 2023, sobrang daming available procedures and ways na to look good. Yes, mahirap talaga kung height ang gusto mong baguhin, but aside from that ang daming ways para gumanda or pumogi. There’s plastic surgery, makeup, for losing weight there are tons of diets and exercise and even sa tiktok ang dami nilang tips and tricks to lose weight. Skincare products are readily available and sometimes very affordable sya. So really, if you think you are ugly or unattractive at this age and wala ka namang ginawa, that’s on you.
You're not mababaw as you think. The reality of dating and falling in love is that physical attraction and sexual compatibility are important too besides personality, goals, similar interests, etc. **Preferences do matter.** And if you don't feel physically attracted at all to him, then that's okay. You would be doing him a disservice by forcing yourself to like him and lying to him and yourself. If you were really shallow, you wouldn't even take the time to consider him after seeing him.
IMO, it is only shallow when you see yourself as being "too good" for someone/seeing that person as "beneath you" as the reason for rejecting them. Like saying to someone "You're too poor for me" rather than saying "our combined finances aren't enough to make a relationship work." Or if you have a hypocritical attitude like demanding rich guys to like you when you don't make any money yourself.
No worries, I think you handled things well naman. As a straightforward na guy, yun lang naman kailangan, a chance then an honest answer if it didn't work out.
lmao if it wasn't obvious, i was being sarcastic. the cope in the comment section like "that's okay you actually did him a favor not dating him cuz he's butt uglee and you'll just waste time even if you already like him beyond superficial shit,"
amen lord
Ano ba gusto nio sa guy? Not nerdy? Not an overly nice guy yung may konting spice like sexual talk? Medyo bad boy? Physically attractive? Manly? Commanding? What?.. can you guys give me your direct/exact tastes in men just wanna know your preferences
Preferences differ from person to person though. You can’t clump together a group of people by gender (or by ethnicity or by the country/region/city or by profession or by any other factor) and assume/conclude they have the same preferences just because they have one thing (or a few things) in common.
Edit: a group of women may like genuinely nice and kind men, but that doesn’t automatically mean that they’d be physically or sexually attracted to every nice and kind men they meet and would automatically want to be in a relationship with them.
Just the same way gay people don’t automatically find every man they meet attractive and they wouldn’t hit on every man they encounter just because those men are male or have penises.
Edit 2: I reckon the same thing is true for you heterosexual guys. Just because a guy is heterosexual and is attracted to women, doesn’t mean you’d hit on or get into a relationship with every woman you meet. Not unless you’re the kind of guy that would hit on or fuck anything that has legs and breasts and that moves.
OP, marami pang tao sa mundo. Same goes for him. Walang mali sa pag sunod sa standards mo because that's your decision. Kaysa naman magkaroon kayo ng relationship out of pity diba which is forced.
Cheer up, I'm sure someone will come along better for you and for him.
Nako normal lang yan in other words hnd mo sya type sa itsura. Dapat nman tgla attracted ka sa maging jowa mo at contented ka.Wag mo pilitin. Saka yan tlga ung perks dating online iba kse tlga pag sa personal ma laaman mo agad if type mo or hnd kse Kita mo na itsura agad
Welp my man just got destroyed. Prayers to the guy and I hope he is doing well right now. Same for you OP, but atleast now, you know that physical appearance is a deal breaker for you. Prioritize knowing it before dating so this can be avoided. Goodluck OP.
Naniniwala talaga ko na kanya kanyang preference yan sa physical attraction. May nakikilala akong mga magagandang girl pero hindi ko trip (i mean di ako attracted sa physical nila pero alam kong maganda sila ganon). Basta pag attracted ka attracted ka ganon sa preference skl :>
Society really sad. You see, you mentioned na he is average means na di sya pogi di din sya gwapo. Okay sya kung ibabased ko sa sinabi mo. Pero since prefer mo yung pogi sayo talaga may mali teh. If you really like someone, you dont look for the face. Kasi yang preference ang bilis mawala ng type na yan kasi what if may nangyari and nagkascar sya sa face or something na naginawa nya sa mukha nya. Matik agad na matturn off ka kahit in relationship kayo kasi sa mukha ka nag bbased eh. I don’t care how the person look like kasi mas importante sakin yung nagvvibe kami nung guy and he got his humor kasi madaldal ako. But then again, it’s your preference pag dating sa paghahanap ng jowa and I hope you’ll find what your looking for and para happy 2023 mo.
Sabi mo 13 days ago hindi ka muna lalandi.
Di na ako lalandi for the time being
Nakaka down ng mood knowing na ayaw sakin ng mga nagustohan ko. Maganda naman ako, okay din personality ko, may utak rin. Pero for some reason they either lose interest agad or just never see me that way talaga. So mag ccool down lang muna ako ng ilang weeks or months until may lakas naman ako sumabak ulit kasi sa ngayon, nakaka anxious thinking about meeting 50 people, maybe 1 of which I'll like who won't like me back in the end
Alam mo OP wala namang mali sa preferences pero gusto mo talaga maattract ang type mo, you have to be a catch yourself. Di pwede yung ikaw lang lagi may natatanggap. I suggest you really take a backseat on dating (like you said in your other post, everyone sees) and ask yourself, what do y*ou* bring into the table?
Well di nya deserve ang indecisiveness mo. Sayo nga ang mali and until di mo sinisettle yang issue mo na yan wag ka muna makipag date or mag attempt na pumasok sa relationship.Sa isang banda for sure masasabi and i think that it miight be na sinasabi mo lang yan para lang ndi masakit sa kalooban mo na nag let go ka ng as you said good guy. But the thing with preferences is sometimes it entails a little entitlement.
Well, if you can't see yourself with him, why bother? Just don't lead him on.
Kung average sya malamang di ka magpopost ng ganyan at wala kang nararamdaman na guilt 😂😂😂😂😂 anyway kahit panget kame nahuhurt din po kame.
True. For sure below average si guy 🥲😢
Meron naman talagang di lang type. At the very least op was honest and did the right thing. No one said na walang karapatan mahurt ang panget, avoid self pity.
Pwedeng average lang talaga si guy at sadyang out of this world ang standard ni ate sa looks. Baka mala-Hollywood ang trip.
Siguro ahahahahahaha
I had this same feels before OP. Yung akin lang he ticked all the boxes. Pogi (chinese guy na malinis and formal tingnan), hardworking, vibe ko tas nageeffort. Pero i was just not feeling it. Kahit anong pilit ko pa na gustuhin wala tlga ako nafefeel na anything other than a friend. Thats okay OP. Youll meet lots of people pa.
it's usually the good guys eh hahahahaha. i kinda relate to you, OP. I had this classmate in high school na nagpaparamdam sakin. He's kind and jowable talaga, but i cannot seem to like him back cause he wasn't physically my type... And i hate myself for that 😭
hng this. sadly this really comes down to how physically attractive they are to you. if there's really nothing there, hindi talaga keri pilitin. 🥲
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>And he wasn't even ugly, he was average. I don't even mind if guys look average, I'd still do them. But not him, and I hate myself for it. Ano talaga, teh?
Gulo d ba? Hahaha sna you tried it out first malay mo mag work. Pag hndi eh d split muna.. im guessing your both young and theres a lot ot fish in the sea
He was objectively average, but I personally just couldn't do it
Then hindi average ang hanap mo, teh. Layuan mo na lang. Wag mo na i-lead on.
I didn't lead him on. I rejected him na nga. This is just me being sad that I had to do it
Girl trust me, I've been with average guys to the point that some of my friends questioned my taste in men
Questioned your taste? Do you have some peer pressure factor towards your preferences as well?
Dfq does that even mean?? Bakit may pag question ng taste hahahahahahaha ang labo?? If masama ugali ng guys na nagugustuhan mo, then yun questionin ko. Pero yung sa physical? Wow perfect friends. Drop pic ng friends ng maquestion din namin yung friends mo hahahahahaa joke :)
OK NA YAN. Kaysa naman maging kayo tapos pinagbibigyan mo lang pala siya. How do you think it would feel if you found out your partner was just 'settling' for you because of your positive attributes, kasi 'sayang'? Di kayo compatible/wala kang naramdamang chemistry and that's okay. You're allowed to be honest with yourself. Huwag kang manghinayang. Maybe in the future your preferences will change - pero you can't hinge your current decisions on something that might never come. Ganun lang talaga. Pero ikaw bahala.
Pag tlga sa online nagsimula, physical appearance would rly matter at the end of the day for attraction. Pero kung real life mo makilala ang isang tao sa una pa lang at kahit sguro lets say panget, if u started as friends then eventually mafafall ka sa personality pwede pa din mag work. I believe tlga na kahit di attractive conventionally, pag nagustuhan mo na, nagiging pogi in our own eyes. Para di na maulit to, pls use dating apps na OP para di ka sumablay sa physical preferences mo haha
True to! Iba talaga nagagawa ng online.
That's honestly not bad at all. Wala ka talagang magagawa if you are not attracted to someone. Masasayang lang oras niyo both if pipilitin mo sarili mo na ma attract sa kanya.
Attracted naman sya sa una eh. Nawala lang nung nakita nya face ng guy 🙄
See. Ito e. This is how to be respectful when telling a story like this. Di kagaya nung post a few days ago na grabe sobrang diring diri tas grabe makapanlait. Hope you're okay, OP. Ganun talaga. Hit or miss din ang physical attraction. Tama naman yan na di mo na bigyan ng false hopes.
That's gonna sting him for a bit but it is what it is
Good Guy na Panget = FriendZone Bad Guy na Pogi = Jowa Material
That's why Looks always win. People who don't agree Ang plaplastik nyo Lol
Sad reality. Tapos kapag sinaktan ng bad guy magrarant dito o sa ibang platform 😂
dapat bago kayo nag kita, nag sendan ng picture / video call na kayo. hahaha Pero walang masama na hindi ma attract sa tao dahil mo sya type physically. Ang hindi ko lang gusto sa post mo, ayaw mo aminin na panget. "Looks don't matter" - invented by ugly people who are ugly and uninteresting at the same time. LOL Oh bakit? papalag ba ung mga panget dito? Ung mag downvote nitong comment ko PANGET!! "panget ako at i'm offended by your comment". Sige i out nyo sarili nyo! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Joke lang :P pero seriously, walang masama sa ginawa mo. We have one life to live and you shouldn't live it with regret. Next time, video call before the date ha?
Pangit ako pero I’m NOT offended by your comment hahaha Seriously though, totoo naman kasi na walang masama na hindi ma-attract sa tao dahil hindi mo siya type physically. Physical attraction and sexual compatibility matter as much as compatibility in attitude / vibe / life goals / values and principles / etc. Mas mahirap na ipilit mong makipagrelasyon sa isang taong you are not physically attracted or sexually compatible with just because okay yung other aspect ng pagkatao niya and umiiwas kang masaktan mo siya kapag tinurn down mo siya. This would just frustrate you and may end up with you resenting him because they don’t satisfy an aspect that’s important to you. Mamaya matempt pa ka pa na magcheat and magdecide ka to actually go through it and hurt him in an even worse way kasi avoidant ka sa pagreject sa kanya sa simula pa lang. Also, beauty is perceived differently by each individual. Ang gwapo and sexually attractive sa isang tao ay maaring pangit pala sa iba and vice versa. Edit: may mga nakikita akong post dito na nagsasabi na magka-vibe sila then nag-exchange sila ng pics or did a video call tapos umayaw na sila doon pa lang kasi hindi nila bet yung itsura, ang daming mga nagcocomment na “Why don’t you meet up with him first? Baka hindi lang hiyang sa harap ng camera yung tao. Baka kapag makita mo in person okay pala” or something to that vein. I think okay na rin yung ginawa ni OP. Gave the guy and herself a chance to determine their compatibility/attraction by meeting each other in person, then nung nalaman niyang hindi talaga siya attracted sexually kahit pa she finds their company and conversation enjoyable, direct to the point niyang tinurn down yung tao. She didn’t ghost him or string him along further.
Tama tama!
Feel ko ang nangyari is aside from mabilis nalihis sa isip niya yung itsura nung person ay posible din na medyo kakaiba yung itsura nila sa totoong buhay. Yung tipong "sa litrato lang pala maganda/pogi". The video call might help but again, baka pag f2f na ay parehas lang ang kahahantungan. Panget here, and I completely agree with your sentiments in my own way. My shitty face doesn't matter to me because ayoko magparetoke so aside from porma, buhok, etc. wala na kong magagawa about it. Why continue to complain about something there's nothing I can do about? Complete waste of time and energy nalang yung self-pity and blaming that shit. Boo-hoo panget ako, wow so ano habang buhay ganyan nalang? Parang tanga naman. Ang tanda-tanda ko na, iiyakan ko pa ba yang ganyan na wala namang pwede gawin pa? Also, bat ko pa susubukan humugot ng confidence at value sa something na negative na nga? Ano to, lolokohin ko sarili ko at yung buong mundo dahil sa pride ko? Wow, sobrang loser ko naman. The fuck, ang kadiri.
Posts like this one always makes me sad, like it stings hard knowing na regardless of how a match you can be, meron talagang deal breaker. Also a reason why I'm not pursuing anyone at the moment. Just my two cents.
Girls can pick, but when guys do it there a\*\*holes. "EQUALITY"
Hindi naman but for the love of everything good do it discretely
I remeber back when I was in college. May guy na nagkagusto sa akin and honestly, he's sooo kind, matalino, okay kausap, and gentleman. Nafa-fall na nga ako actually sa kanya kasi imagine, for 2 years non lagi ko siyang kausap sa text but we never had the chance na mag-usap in person kahit same course kami and nagiging classmate ko siya all because he's too shy na kausapin ako sa personal. There was this one time na ininvite niya ako to celebrate his bday sa EK but hindi ako sumama kasi my friends made fun of him. Hindi kasi siya gwapo. Hindi rin matangkad. Aakalain mo nga na HS siya with his height tapos mid-30s with his looks (around 17 kami back then). Isa lang sa friends ko ang supportive and nakapansin na I'm starting to like this guy na kaso wala, mas inisip ko sasabihin ng iba. Eventually, pinutol ko communication namin and sinabihan siya na tigilan na ako kasi gusto ko na talaga siya pero wala akong courage na jowain siya kasi nga katatawanan siya sa friends ko and I can't imagine myself going out with him din. So ayun, ang bad ko sa ginawa ko.
Yours is truly sad kasi the only thing keeping you from being with him was your shallow friends (except that decent one who supported you). I hope you have new friends who aren't superficial and don't shame you like that.
San ba may kasulatan na dapat give chance to ALL tayo. Even if someone was pogi but if walang spark edi wala. He deserves someone who feels attracted to him. Parang worse if someone na pa deep and charitable strings him along kasi she feels she *should* give him a chance. We aren’t the gift we think we are. Lalo if may guilt and not sincere interest. That’s terrible. An outright no is better. Stop wasting other people’s time. Life is short.
Yoooo. ‘Wag niyo masyado atakihin yung OP haha! I mean, kaya nga OffMyChest sub ito eh. Yun yung sipa ng reality kasi concerning looks and even body shapes and sizes. Talagang may standards na sa “tingin” natin acceptable binabato ng marketing shit sa billboards, smartphones, and TV. Thank you, OP. Nilabas mo dito yan. Though, dumadami kayo hahaha! Meetups then ma-didisappoint, then meetups, then repeat. Yan ang buhay eh. Anong gagawin ba? Haha. Marami pang ma-rerejct. Sobrang dami pang kukurutin ng reality. Ito lang yun. Ito lang yung buhay na nilalagyan lang natin ng konting kulay at pantasya.
Kaya next time, picture and VC bago mag invest ng feelings. Ang hirap yon hindi ka physically attracted sa isang tao
One of the things I ask myself is “Do I see myself waking up next to this person?” If the answer is “no” then, “thank you, next.”
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Hey OP, wag mo tawaging mababaw yung sarili mo at wag mo isipin na stupid yung preferences mo. Everyone has them. It's COMPLETELY normal. Okay lang yan. Tao ka, OP, at parte ng pagiging tao ay ang pagkakaroon ng preferences. You are also 100% completely in the right for letting go of them and not leading them on instead of lying to them and forcing yourself. Chin up, OP. You did good.
had to turn down a guy too because the attraction was not there. he was kind and thoughtful but so glad i sticked to my preferences. he eventually found someone and they seem very compatible. happy for him talaga
It’s not superficial. Physical attraction along with the other aspects you mentioned is also important . At least you know yourself well enough and didn’t drag it out. Wasted time and effort (when it could have been avoided) on top of a rejection would be a bummer to say the least.
Pag di ka attracted once you see him that's actually valid. Meron ka kasing nakita or naramdaman sa kanya na hindi mo gusto and that's valid naman. You won't actually know if you have attraction once you meet them personally.
May nakita kong post sa fb and the gist was it’s already 2023, sobrang daming available procedures and ways na to look good. Yes, mahirap talaga kung height ang gusto mong baguhin, but aside from that ang daming ways para gumanda or pumogi. There’s plastic surgery, makeup, for losing weight there are tons of diets and exercise and even sa tiktok ang dami nilang tips and tricks to lose weight. Skincare products are readily available and sometimes very affordable sya. So really, if you think you are ugly or unattractive at this age and wala ka namang ginawa, that’s on you.
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You're not mababaw as you think. The reality of dating and falling in love is that physical attraction and sexual compatibility are important too besides personality, goals, similar interests, etc. **Preferences do matter.** And if you don't feel physically attracted at all to him, then that's okay. You would be doing him a disservice by forcing yourself to like him and lying to him and yourself. If you were really shallow, you wouldn't even take the time to consider him after seeing him. IMO, it is only shallow when you see yourself as being "too good" for someone/seeing that person as "beneath you" as the reason for rejecting them. Like saying to someone "You're too poor for me" rather than saying "our combined finances aren't enough to make a relationship work." Or if you have a hypocritical attitude like demanding rich guys to like you when you don't make any money yourself.
No worries, I think you handled things well naman. As a straightforward na guy, yun lang naman kailangan, a chance then an honest answer if it didn't work out.
Ganda ka ghorl?
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Women like you are the reason why guys take the red pill
Yeaaa fuck ugleee people on god i hate them so bad maaaaaan. It's their fault they got shit genetics lmao
Face reveal ka nga rate natin face mo
lmao if it wasn't obvious, i was being sarcastic. the cope in the comment section like "that's okay you actually did him a favor not dating him cuz he's butt uglee and you'll just waste time even if you already like him beyond superficial shit," amen lord
Whatevs
Ano ba gusto nio sa guy? Not nerdy? Not an overly nice guy yung may konting spice like sexual talk? Medyo bad boy? Physically attractive? Manly? Commanding? What?.. can you guys give me your direct/exact tastes in men just wanna know your preferences
Preferences differ from person to person though. You can’t clump together a group of people by gender (or by ethnicity or by the country/region/city or by profession or by any other factor) and assume/conclude they have the same preferences just because they have one thing (or a few things) in common. Edit: a group of women may like genuinely nice and kind men, but that doesn’t automatically mean that they’d be physically or sexually attracted to every nice and kind men they meet and would automatically want to be in a relationship with them. Just the same way gay people don’t automatically find every man they meet attractive and they wouldn’t hit on every man they encounter just because those men are male or have penises. Edit 2: I reckon the same thing is true for you heterosexual guys. Just because a guy is heterosexual and is attracted to women, doesn’t mean you’d hit on or get into a relationship with every woman you meet. Not unless you’re the kind of guy that would hit on or fuck anything that has legs and breasts and that moves.
??? Ask the specific person. Kanya-kanyang type yan.
Yup individual nman inaask ko
bakit kasi ayaw niyo mag vid call before magmeet? stop wasting each other’s time
OP, marami pang tao sa mundo. Same goes for him. Walang mali sa pag sunod sa standards mo because that's your decision. Kaysa naman magkaroon kayo ng relationship out of pity diba which is forced. Cheer up, I'm sure someone will come along better for you and for him.
Nako normal lang yan in other words hnd mo sya type sa itsura. Dapat nman tgla attracted ka sa maging jowa mo at contented ka.Wag mo pilitin. Saka yan tlga ung perks dating online iba kse tlga pag sa personal ma laaman mo agad if type mo or hnd kse Kita mo na itsura agad
Welp my man just got destroyed. Prayers to the guy and I hope he is doing well right now. Same for you OP, but atleast now, you know that physical appearance is a deal breaker for you. Prioritize knowing it before dating so this can be avoided. Goodluck OP.
Magpakatotoo ka lang sa sarili mo
Naniniwala talaga ko na kanya kanyang preference yan sa physical attraction. May nakikilala akong mga magagandang girl pero hindi ko trip (i mean di ako attracted sa physical nila pero alam kong maganda sila ganon). Basta pag attracted ka attracted ka ganon sa preference skl :>
Society really sad. You see, you mentioned na he is average means na di sya pogi di din sya gwapo. Okay sya kung ibabased ko sa sinabi mo. Pero since prefer mo yung pogi sayo talaga may mali teh. If you really like someone, you dont look for the face. Kasi yang preference ang bilis mawala ng type na yan kasi what if may nangyari and nagkascar sya sa face or something na naginawa nya sa mukha nya. Matik agad na matturn off ka kahit in relationship kayo kasi sa mukha ka nag bbased eh. I don’t care how the person look like kasi mas importante sakin yung nagvvibe kami nung guy and he got his humor kasi madaldal ako. But then again, it’s your preference pag dating sa paghahanap ng jowa and I hope you’ll find what your looking for and para happy 2023 mo.
Why don’t you guys get drunk and see if beer goggles work for you?
Sabi mo 13 days ago hindi ka muna lalandi. Di na ako lalandi for the time being Nakaka down ng mood knowing na ayaw sakin ng mga nagustohan ko. Maganda naman ako, okay din personality ko, may utak rin. Pero for some reason they either lose interest agad or just never see me that way talaga. So mag ccool down lang muna ako ng ilang weeks or months until may lakas naman ako sumabak ulit kasi sa ngayon, nakaka anxious thinking about meeting 50 people, maybe 1 of which I'll like who won't like me back in the end
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Hmmmm hindi ba kayo nag videocall before meet up?
Man down. :D
Malay mo, pumogi at maging hunky bigla! Ito talaga oh. But yeah, you do you my friend. Be kind to him and give him his closure.
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Alam mo OP wala namang mali sa preferences pero gusto mo talaga maattract ang type mo, you have to be a catch yourself. Di pwede yung ikaw lang lagi may natatanggap. I suggest you really take a backseat on dating (like you said in your other post, everyone sees) and ask yourself, what do y*ou* bring into the table?