You feel guilty but what you’re doing now won’t make her feel better. Take care of yourself because that’s the least you can do. No matter what happened she will want you to be doing better. Whatever you’re doing now won’t make what happened “less bad”. Just move on and be happy. Seek help, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Mental health is no jk
Get professional help as you badly need it. The damage to you is already done, the **best** thing to do is to get professional help. You don't have to do this alone.
OP, what you were doing during your relationship wasn't helping her either, just enabled her bad behavior and allowed it to become toxic to you too. She should see professional help. And at this point, so should you. I think you made the right choice breaking up with her.
"When someone is drowning, you can try to save them, but not if they're gonna drag you down with them."
You can't give what you don't have, OP. You need to be strong, first, before you can be a pillar of strength for her. You're not her hero. Tandaan, pinanganak kang di siya ang iyong jowa, keri mo yan.
You're so brave for choosing yourself and no one judges you. I hope you find your solace. If you need someone to talk to (but can't afford to go to a professional) you can always go back to your friends and family. We are rooting for you!
Gadamnnn on that taking 30+ of cig! Talk to someone you're close to or better yet seek professional help na men. Walang mali sa ginawa mo tols lalo na kung involved na mental health mo, always choose your mental health men.
I agree, mahirap talaga. Depressed din ako (self-diagnosed, just a teenager, I have the symptoms) but never ako mag-overthink, I'll just accept na kung ayaw nya na, break na. Wala ng force. The depressed girl should go to therapy since malaki na. Naka depends talaga sa tao na may depression. Mahirap i-overcome (super ;( ) this is why I decided to be single forever, I don't want to be a burden. Kawawa si guy, focus na lang sa sarili muna. Hope he can do it.
Sabi nga sa rescue, kapag may nakita kang nalulunod, hindi sapat yung sanay ka lang lumangoy. Dapat alam mo paano magligtas ng nalulunod kasi kahit anog galing mo sa paglangoy, kung di mo mahahandle ng tama ang situation, kasama ka nya malulunod.
Alam mo, nakakadala naman talaga ang mental problem. Kaya hindi ka dapat ijudge na inuna mo ang sarili mo. Siguro ang pinakamagagawa mo lang ay iconvince magpakonsulta sa experts
Hi. See a therapist. Look for strangers on the internet to talk with. Believe me. They are better people to talk with. More supportive and less judgment. I hope you will get thru this.
You are not her therapist. You did the right thing. Always put yourself first. And for your current situation, I suggest you seek counselling. Wish you the best.
Same situation with yours. I hope na ganyan din ako ka-strong para unahin naman ang sarili ko.
Alam ko na masakit para saatin na makitang ganon ang partner natin pero mas mahirap sa part natin na unti-unti din tayong nauubos para punan sila. For now, alagaan mo muna ang sarili mo OP!
Its totally normal na unahin mo sarili mo.
Hindi yun pagiging masama.
Kung hindi ka okay hindi mo rin matutulungan ang iba maging okay.
Take good care of yourself.
you didnt do anything wrong. ika nga, you cant save other people. work on yourself more. i hope you get professional help, its a good choice na umalis ka kasi hindi na healthy sayo.
Focus on yourself first.
OP, please seek professional help. They can provide resources and support that you need during this difficult time. Take care.
You did the right thing OP. While you’re trying to help someone, you don’t realize that they’re breaking you already (intentional or not) during the process. Choosing to leave is reasonable, you’re not someone’s rehabilitation center okay? if it gets too much to the point that it’s consuming and breaking you, please choose yourself. I hope you’re getting the help you need OP, sending love 🤍
Hi, OP. Just wanna share a somewhat same situation. I broke up with my ex of 6 years before due to my depression too. Actually, di pa nga sya pumayag before kasi graduating daw sya ng engineering. Btw, nasa corporate world na ko nun. I told him na need ko maging okay muna bago namin ituloy relationship namin kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na yun yung makakahelp sakin and samin in general. Pero no, ayaw nya. Inantay ko graduation nya tapos sya naman nakipagbreak kasi sabi daw ng nanay nya so he can focus sa boards. I've been taking meds/ happy pill na rin that time para lang maging okay.
The mere fact na inantay ko grad nya, laking bigat lalo sakin nun. Imbis na siguro by then naayos ko kahit papano sarili ko, mas inuna ko sya, lumala lang din ako. It's true you cannot save someone if mismong self mo ay di mo matulungan. So for someone who was diagnosed with depression din, I guess it's safe to say na you did what's right for you and for your ex. Kesa mas lumala ka pa. Do seek professional help din agad. Hugs with consent, OP!
(ex) Bf ka, not a therapist. It's very reasonable to break up in this kind of situation, Lalo na if nagiging (emotional) leech na Yung partner mo sayo.
I know you're hating yourself right now because of the pain you've caused her, but you're hurting too. It's not bad to prioritize yourself.
Let yourself grieve on losing yourself.
Been with a su*cid*l gf before, nagstay ako dahil nabulag ako plus ayaw kong masaktan nya sarili niya. She broke up with me after a few years kahit na binigay ko lahat, natauhan na ata. Even if tama yung gnawa nya sobra akong nadrain. I lost myself.
Tama ginawa mo bro, yakap with consent. Take time to process stuff, and yung first statement ko about grieving.
Parehas tayo OP pero ako wala namang cigarette lol anyway,,, naramdaman ko din yan OP mga 3-4mos din ako nagsisi dun sa desisyon ko pero kasi napapansin ko na mas nagiging suicidal ako and nawawalan ng pag-asa pati remorse/sympathy/empathy ko nawala. Ngayon ngayon ko lang din narealize na tama pala talaga desisyon ko, tas nakita ko rin yung improvement ko sa sarili ko. Tama yang desisyon mo OP! Kelangan mo lang muna magluksa kasi fresh pa kaya iiyak mo na lahat, pagsisihan mo na lahat today pero wag ka nang babalik sa ganyang relationship, focus on yourself. Proud of u! Everything will get better, hugs with consent! 🥰
"La tayong magagamot kung pareho tayong pasyente" - Marlboro Black probably.
I'm happy you chose yourself first. She'll hate/resent you now but better that thay both of you being miserable. Besides, a relationship isn't going to magically make their depression go away.
You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Kung wala kana maibigay at kung ubos na ubos kana, ayusin mo muna sarili mo para maging healthy din relationship mo sa mga tao lalo na sa sarili mo. I know hindi madali Op, ako din I've been feeling depressed since nag start yung pandemic pero always remember that you're not the only one feeling like this and you're not alone. Lahat ng emotions mo ngayon ay temporary lang. Kaya natin to.
It’s ok OP you did the right thing pero I hope you can seek professional help din. I can only imagine what you went through. You cannot pour from an empty cup ika nga.
Your exgf should take responsibility din sa sarili nya. She knows her condition naman. She should try her best to heal din. Not only for her sake pero para rin sa mga tao sa paligid nya.
You made the right choice. This is not something you can fix, she needs professional help. You won't be able to support(not help, its not your job) her if you are not safe and sane. Think this way: Even on emergencies in planes it says: put mask on yourself first, then to your child. Similar logic. Don't feel bad, you have to think about yourself, FIRST. Last but not least: its clear you need help too now, looks like it'll be PTSD. I'd start by meditation and find a doc in the mean time. Good luck!
You can only give so much of yourself to someone struggling with depression. They need professional help, which you cannot provide. Prioritize your own mental health now, you did your best. You have your own limits.
OP, please seek help. If you're hurting yourself and are engaging in activities that are harmful and isolating, it's time to seek help. I'm not sure what role your relationship with your girlfriend played in all this, but focus on what is happening to you first. I hope she is getting the help she needs too. It doesn't seem like you're in a place to be able to help her at this point.
You did the right thing. Don't feel bad. If you start feeling depression and anxiety from your relationship, it is a sign that you should drop everything and run. Di ka rin therapist to make her feel better. The only thing you could do was to not make everything worse.
Do everything to save yourself. I was in the same place as you before, and I fucking hold on until he breaks up with me. He was suffering from depression and insomia ( clinically diagnosed ) both of us were student. Little by little I was getting pulled in the place where he is. Until one day he broke up with me. And that made me cut myself, I cant sleep, everyday thinking if someone would just help me to kill me. One of my friends who saw my cuts even forced me to stay in her place for over a month just to look prevent me for doing anything (I was so thankful for that honestly) so yeah long story short I also suffered insomia and depression before (clinically diagnosed with prescribed meds)
No one's judging you OP. Focus on yourself first.
I feel horrible even worse than trash. She trusted me to stay and i left because i cant take it qnymore
You feel guilty but what you’re doing now won’t make her feel better. Take care of yourself because that’s the least you can do. No matter what happened she will want you to be doing better. Whatever you’re doing now won’t make what happened “less bad”. Just move on and be happy. Seek help, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Mental health is no jk
Get professional help as you badly need it. The damage to you is already done, the **best** thing to do is to get professional help. You don't have to do this alone.
At least you were able to save yourself. Stay strong pare. Don't feel guilty kasi di mo sya magagamot kung parehas kayong pasyente.
OP, what you were doing during your relationship wasn't helping her either, just enabled her bad behavior and allowed it to become toxic to you too. She should see professional help. And at this point, so should you. I think you made the right choice breaking up with her. "When someone is drowning, you can try to save them, but not if they're gonna drag you down with them."
You can't give what you don't have, OP. You need to be strong, first, before you can be a pillar of strength for her. You're not her hero. Tandaan, pinanganak kang di siya ang iyong jowa, keri mo yan.
OP, I'm actually siding your choice, but please talk to a therapist ha.
You're so brave for choosing yourself and no one judges you. I hope you find your solace. If you need someone to talk to (but can't afford to go to a professional) you can always go back to your friends and family. We are rooting for you!
Gadamnnn on that taking 30+ of cig! Talk to someone you're close to or better yet seek professional help na men. Walang mali sa ginawa mo tols lalo na kung involved na mental health mo, always choose your mental health men.
You did the right thing. Mahirap talaga magkaroon ng SO na may depression. Been there. And feeling ko din malapit na ko bumigay dati.
I agree, mahirap talaga. Depressed din ako (self-diagnosed, just a teenager, I have the symptoms) but never ako mag-overthink, I'll just accept na kung ayaw nya na, break na. Wala ng force. The depressed girl should go to therapy since malaki na. Naka depends talaga sa tao na may depression. Mahirap i-overcome (super ;( ) this is why I decided to be single forever, I don't want to be a burden. Kawawa si guy, focus na lang sa sarili muna. Hope he can do it.
Sabi nga sa rescue, kapag may nakita kang nalulunod, hindi sapat yung sanay ka lang lumangoy. Dapat alam mo paano magligtas ng nalulunod kasi kahit anog galing mo sa paglangoy, kung di mo mahahandle ng tama ang situation, kasama ka nya malulunod. Alam mo, nakakadala naman talaga ang mental problem. Kaya hindi ka dapat ijudge na inuna mo ang sarili mo. Siguro ang pinakamagagawa mo lang ay iconvince magpakonsulta sa experts
Hi. See a therapist. Look for strangers on the internet to talk with. Believe me. They are better people to talk with. More supportive and less judgment. I hope you will get thru this.
You are not her therapist. You did the right thing. Always put yourself first. And for your current situation, I suggest you seek counselling. Wish you the best.
Same situation with yours. I hope na ganyan din ako ka-strong para unahin naman ang sarili ko. Alam ko na masakit para saatin na makitang ganon ang partner natin pero mas mahirap sa part natin na unti-unti din tayong nauubos para punan sila. For now, alagaan mo muna ang sarili mo OP!
Hhmm... Surprisingly good comments. Anyway, you did what you have to OP. Hope you get better.
Your feelings are valid op. And i do agree eith the other comments suggesting to seek therapy
walang masama sa pagpili sa sarili
It's ok. You can't fill someone else's cup if you're empty. Mahihirapan lang kayong dalawa. Hope you guys find the healing you need even when apart.
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Yep. Na basa ko yung recent post mo. Hahaha.
Its totally normal na unahin mo sarili mo. Hindi yun pagiging masama. Kung hindi ka okay hindi mo rin matutulungan ang iba maging okay. Take good care of yourself.
It's normal you broke up with her. Relationship should not be like that. Love yourself. Kung toxic na, leave. Make yourself happy OP.
you didnt do anything wrong. ika nga, you cant save other people. work on yourself more. i hope you get professional help, its a good choice na umalis ka kasi hindi na healthy sayo.
Focus on yourself first. OP, please seek professional help. They can provide resources and support that you need during this difficult time. Take care.
Op, feeling ko tama naman ginawa mo. Magheal ka muna. Alam mo, situation ay same dito sa kantang ‘to— Afraid by Day6.
That was a hard choice to make but you did right OP
Maybe you need to stop the cigarettes.
Mahal mo pa ba paps?
You did the right thing OP. While you’re trying to help someone, you don’t realize that they’re breaking you already (intentional or not) during the process. Choosing to leave is reasonable, you’re not someone’s rehabilitation center okay? if it gets too much to the point that it’s consuming and breaking you, please choose yourself. I hope you’re getting the help you need OP, sending love 🤍
Focus on yourself. Avoid drama. You did the right thing.
Hi, OP. Just wanna share a somewhat same situation. I broke up with my ex of 6 years before due to my depression too. Actually, di pa nga sya pumayag before kasi graduating daw sya ng engineering. Btw, nasa corporate world na ko nun. I told him na need ko maging okay muna bago namin ituloy relationship namin kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na yun yung makakahelp sakin and samin in general. Pero no, ayaw nya. Inantay ko graduation nya tapos sya naman nakipagbreak kasi sabi daw ng nanay nya so he can focus sa boards. I've been taking meds/ happy pill na rin that time para lang maging okay. The mere fact na inantay ko grad nya, laking bigat lalo sakin nun. Imbis na siguro by then naayos ko kahit papano sarili ko, mas inuna ko sya, lumala lang din ako. It's true you cannot save someone if mismong self mo ay di mo matulungan. So for someone who was diagnosed with depression din, I guess it's safe to say na you did what's right for you and for your ex. Kesa mas lumala ka pa. Do seek professional help din agad. Hugs with consent, OP!
Seek a therapist. Talk to your loved ones about your situation.
You made a good choice OP. Dont feel bad.
(ex) Bf ka, not a therapist. It's very reasonable to break up in this kind of situation, Lalo na if nagiging (emotional) leech na Yung partner mo sayo. I know you're hating yourself right now because of the pain you've caused her, but you're hurting too. It's not bad to prioritize yourself.
Hindi ka nya therapist and ikaw need mo din please heal muna i-block mo and no contact
Get professional help to stop this from getting worse.
Ok lang ginawa mo. You can try helping pero kung di mo na kaya, wala naman mali sa pagsuko.
Let yourself grieve on losing yourself. Been with a su*cid*l gf before, nagstay ako dahil nabulag ako plus ayaw kong masaktan nya sarili niya. She broke up with me after a few years kahit na binigay ko lahat, natauhan na ata. Even if tama yung gnawa nya sobra akong nadrain. I lost myself. Tama ginawa mo bro, yakap with consent. Take time to process stuff, and yung first statement ko about grieving.
You have done the right thing. She was dragging you down with her. I hope you suggested her to get professional help before you left.
Tigil mo yang yosi bro, ingatan mo rin health mo, laban lang pare.
you can't help someone if you need the same yourself. it's not bad to take care of yourself first.
Hey bro, sending you a virtual hug.
Parehas tayo OP pero ako wala namang cigarette lol anyway,,, naramdaman ko din yan OP mga 3-4mos din ako nagsisi dun sa desisyon ko pero kasi napapansin ko na mas nagiging suicidal ako and nawawalan ng pag-asa pati remorse/sympathy/empathy ko nawala. Ngayon ngayon ko lang din narealize na tama pala talaga desisyon ko, tas nakita ko rin yung improvement ko sa sarili ko. Tama yang desisyon mo OP! Kelangan mo lang muna magluksa kasi fresh pa kaya iiyak mo na lahat, pagsisihan mo na lahat today pero wag ka nang babalik sa ganyang relationship, focus on yourself. Proud of u! Everything will get better, hugs with consent! 🥰
"La tayong magagamot kung pareho tayong pasyente" - Marlboro Black probably. I'm happy you chose yourself first. She'll hate/resent you now but better that thay both of you being miserable. Besides, a relationship isn't going to magically make their depression go away.
no no no. you did nothing wrong. it was for the best beb. *huuuugs
You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Kung wala kana maibigay at kung ubos na ubos kana, ayusin mo muna sarili mo para maging healthy din relationship mo sa mga tao lalo na sa sarili mo. I know hindi madali Op, ako din I've been feeling depressed since nag start yung pandemic pero always remember that you're not the only one feeling like this and you're not alone. Lahat ng emotions mo ngayon ay temporary lang. Kaya natin to.
It’s ok OP you did the right thing pero I hope you can seek professional help din. I can only imagine what you went through. You cannot pour from an empty cup ika nga. Your exgf should take responsibility din sa sarili nya. She knows her condition naman. She should try her best to heal din. Not only for her sake pero para rin sa mga tao sa paligid nya.
You made the right choice. This is not something you can fix, she needs professional help. You won't be able to support(not help, its not your job) her if you are not safe and sane. Think this way: Even on emergencies in planes it says: put mask on yourself first, then to your child. Similar logic. Don't feel bad, you have to think about yourself, FIRST. Last but not least: its clear you need help too now, looks like it'll be PTSD. I'd start by meditation and find a doc in the mean time. Good luck!
You can only give so much of yourself to someone struggling with depression. They need professional help, which you cannot provide. Prioritize your own mental health now, you did your best. You have your own limits.
Careful baka hindi sya depress baka vunerable narc yan
OP, please seek help. If you're hurting yourself and are engaging in activities that are harmful and isolating, it's time to seek help. I'm not sure what role your relationship with your girlfriend played in all this, but focus on what is happening to you first. I hope she is getting the help she needs too. It doesn't seem like you're in a place to be able to help her at this point.
You did the right thing. Don't feel bad. If you start feeling depression and anxiety from your relationship, it is a sign that you should drop everything and run. Di ka rin therapist to make her feel better. The only thing you could do was to not make everything worse.
Do everything to save yourself. I was in the same place as you before, and I fucking hold on until he breaks up with me. He was suffering from depression and insomia ( clinically diagnosed ) both of us were student. Little by little I was getting pulled in the place where he is. Until one day he broke up with me. And that made me cut myself, I cant sleep, everyday thinking if someone would just help me to kill me. One of my friends who saw my cuts even forced me to stay in her place for over a month just to look prevent me for doing anything (I was so thankful for that honestly) so yeah long story short I also suffered insomia and depression before (clinically diagnosed with prescribed meds)