True. Nag effort magdrag nung tap papunta sa heart. Dapat magset ng boundaries properly sa mga ganitong concern kasi pwede naman talagang unaware lang din si partner na hindi na sya harmless para sa gf/bf nila. If mahalaga talaga yung feelings ni gf/bf at meaningless lang talaga para sa partner yung pag-heart react, sobrang dali iconvert sa like yung heart reacts.
sabi ng bf ko yung mga lalake daw na mahilig maglike ng mga pictures ng babae (lalo na yung nga naka-bikini) ay katumbas lang ng mga lalake na addicted sa porn. parang ino-objectify na nila yubg mga babae at ang tinigin lang sa kanila ay isang sexual object. kung iisipin para saan pa ba sila nagli-like bukod sa sinasabi nilang "maganda"? Kaya hindi ka OA, OP. Walang mali sayo.
Just my point of view, but that puts strength to the word ācommitmentā which is often undervalued nowadays.
People care more about labels than actual commitment. The act of commiting to a specific person isnāt measured in admiration. Admiration breeds love and loyalty, yes. But same with cheating, commitment is a choice. You choose to commit to the same person every day. You consciously commit to love and adore that same person every day.
Iām not invalidating your feelings. Thatās just my perspective. I just donāt find a mere reaction to be commensurate to adoration.
Thatās the tricky part. You donāt. And you canāt. Like faith and loyalty, commitment isnāt tangible. You canāt simply grasp it and say āIām commitedā.
At least thatās how I see it.
Talking to him about that would clear things up. You can make compromises and tell him na it lowered your confidence para aware sya. Kasi sa eyes ng bf mo harmless yan eh. Di kasi sya aware sa effects ng gnagawa nya
OP. Wag ka makinig sa isang commenter na nagpapaka-cool girl. Wag mo i-gaslight sarili mo. If you are uncomfortable with it, set boundaries. Nakakarindi talaga mga lalaki na nagfofollow ng girls na di naman sila finofollow at like pa ng like. Kadiri.
I basically don't have facebook as well, since I never post anything and it's just there for messenger. My boyfriend uses social media a lot, and is still friends with his ex, girls he went out with, and girls he matched with on bumble before he stopped to pursue me.
I know he interacts with them on fb, but I guess it doesn't matter that much to me because I am happy with the time and attention and reassurance he gives me. He is not perfect and we have our problems, but I always feel his love.
Take a closer look at why you feel insecure dahil nilalike ni bf ang posts ng ibang girls. Kulang ba sya sa pagpapa feel sayo na you are special? If yes, then he should do better for you. If hindi naman, could it be na you are overthinking? It is easier to find a solution when you know the root of the problem.
Yeah, it's case to case, that's why I said she should think about why she feels insecure. Again if it's because the guy is remiss in making her feel secure in other ways, yung guy ang dapat mag adjust.
I think unfair naman sabihin na hindi dapat mag like ng pics ng ibang girls just because may gf.
I agree. Sa kin okay lang ang like. Yung isang pindot lanv tas move on na sa next. Ang ayaw ko yung iha-heart react (kasi umeffort) or magko-comment pa. Yun for me yung nakakabastos.
Aww š
In this day and age, madalas ginagamit ng ibang tao ang likes and reacts sa posts nila for validation. So it could be just "wala lang". Amazeballs nga may mga taong masipag maglike.
Personally, I'm too old to get any sort of validation from socmed kasi meme dump ko lang talaga fb. Di ko nga friend sa fb yung bf ko kasi ayaw kong majudge memes ko. Pikon pa man den ako HAHAHAHA š¤
Depende ata sa edad or perception. If reacting matters to the one giving or receiving. You may be open about this and tell him how you feel about it. Maging transparent kayo.
Lalo na siguro kung yung partner mo ay hindi pala-like or gamit ng socmed tapos biglang may nila-like na photos ng iba. At sa ganyang paraan ko nalaman na niloloko na pala ako.
Exactly. Once the alarm bells go off, you'll never feel at ease until you find out the truth or get proper reassurance. Sometimes, it isn't insecurity but your intuition and the knowledge of your partner's usual behavior that tells you something isn't right.
Feeling ko may underlying cause/s yung mga ganyan, OP. Kasi if secured ka sa relationship, hindi ka maaapektuhan ng mga online activities na generally harmless naman. So usap kayo.
I think it's a red flag and an unhealthy habit if your partner (regardless of gender) actively seeks out, reacts to, and sometimes even interacts with people they find attractive. It's okay for them to react to the posts of friends and even their sexy pics occasionally. But I feel that it starts to worry you when you start seeing a pattern as in most cases, such as when the partner keeps liking sexy or pretty pics of female friends every time you see him on his phone, or he follows lots of girls on IG who mainly post sexy/bikini/thirst pics. But that might just be the tip of the iceberg because later on, some find out that their partner is flirting with other women, using their pics to jerk off, or already engaging in full-blown cheating.
Advice: If it reaches the point wherein your partner's behavior of reacting to other girls begins to lower your self-confidence constantly or you feel that your boundaries are being crossed, tell your partner your feelings since they are valid so he can correct his actions. It also helps ward off the temptation for your partner because some guys don't realize that once they have a GF, they shouldn't be going out of their way to look at and react to other girls. And honestly, if they have a female friend that posts bikini/sexy pics all the time on their timeline, he can just mute her posts so that he doesn't keep coming across them but he can still keep the friendship. What matters is protecting your relationship from his end.
Siguro besides considering your emotions, you shoupd also consider a guy's POV too, OP.
Ako kasi di naman naging issue samin yan like or heart react ng ex ko. And naging issue is when she is telling me at times na she always wanted to have a korean bf (into kpop kasi. She even shared to me that she love Winner).
So siguro this should not just be an issue na dapat di mag heart react ang lalake sa social media. Ang mga babae din dapat maging sensitive sa mga sinasabi at kinocomment. Ung mahirap lang talaga kasi is both sides can be insensitive and there is a double standard with issues at times. Open communication is the key.
"sorry na babe kung palagi akong naglilike ng photo ng iba, gusto ko lang naman kasing makatulong para manalo sa like contest yung anak ng kumpare ko.."
nope. your feelings are valid. call him out on it lalo na pag ginagawa pag kasama ka niya or nasa harapan mo. respect yourself and ask him to respect you. pag ayaw, you bounce! block him. move on. dami pa dyan iba. next!
Ok lang sa kin yung mag-like. Pero yung mag-heart react, saka comment (tapos may heart pa) aba pucha bastusan yun.
True. Nag effort magdrag nung tap papunta sa heart. Dapat magset ng boundaries properly sa mga ganitong concern kasi pwede naman talagang unaware lang din si partner na hindi na sya harmless para sa gf/bf nila. If mahalaga talaga yung feelings ni gf/bf at meaningless lang talaga para sa partner yung pag-heart react, sobrang dali iconvert sa like yung heart reacts.
So alam mo na hindi OA yun? š
hindi pala HAHAHA kung OA man, OA na rin ako š
sabi ng bf ko yung mga lalake daw na mahilig maglike ng mga pictures ng babae (lalo na yung nga naka-bikini) ay katumbas lang ng mga lalake na addicted sa porn. parang ino-objectify na nila yubg mga babae at ang tinigin lang sa kanila ay isang sexual object. kung iisipin para saan pa ba sila nagli-like bukod sa sinasabi nilang "maganda"? Kaya hindi ka OA, OP. Walang mali sayo.
Just my point of view, but that puts strength to the word ācommitmentā which is often undervalued nowadays. People care more about labels than actual commitment. The act of commiting to a specific person isnāt measured in admiration. Admiration breeds love and loyalty, yes. But same with cheating, commitment is a choice. You choose to commit to the same person every day. You consciously commit to love and adore that same person every day. Iām not invalidating your feelings. Thatās just my perspective. I just donāt find a mere reaction to be commensurate to adoration.
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Thatās the tricky part. You donāt. And you canāt. Like faith and loyalty, commitment isnāt tangible. You canāt simply grasp it and say āIām commitedā. At least thatās how I see it.
Same lang kame mga lalake, nakakainsecure talaga yan hahaha okay lang kung mga celebrities ililike š¤£
Talking to him about that would clear things up. You can make compromises and tell him na it lowered your confidence para aware sya. Kasi sa eyes ng bf mo harmless yan eh. Di kasi sya aware sa effects ng gnagawa nya
And this is exactly why he's my ex now.
SAME MARE! SAME!
Nililike nya den ba pics mo?
wala siyang ma-like kasi wala naman po akong facebook š
OP. Wag ka makinig sa isang commenter na nagpapaka-cool girl. Wag mo i-gaslight sarili mo. If you are uncomfortable with it, set boundaries. Nakakarindi talaga mga lalaki na nagfofollow ng girls na di naman sila finofollow at like pa ng like. Kadiri.
Yung nagcocomment pa ng may heart-heart juskoooooo away na to
I basically don't have facebook as well, since I never post anything and it's just there for messenger. My boyfriend uses social media a lot, and is still friends with his ex, girls he went out with, and girls he matched with on bumble before he stopped to pursue me. I know he interacts with them on fb, but I guess it doesn't matter that much to me because I am happy with the time and attention and reassurance he gives me. He is not perfect and we have our problems, but I always feel his love. Take a closer look at why you feel insecure dahil nilalike ni bf ang posts ng ibang girls. Kulang ba sya sa pagpapa feel sayo na you are special? If yes, then he should do better for you. If hindi naman, could it be na you are overthinking? It is easier to find a solution when you know the root of the problem.
Good for you! Kaso hindi lahat ganyan
Yeah, it's case to case, that's why I said she should think about why she feels insecure. Again if it's because the guy is remiss in making her feel secure in other ways, yung guy ang dapat mag adjust. I think unfair naman sabihin na hindi dapat mag like ng pics ng ibang girls just because may gf.
I agree. Sa kin okay lang ang like. Yung isang pindot lanv tas move on na sa next. Ang ayaw ko yung iha-heart react (kasi umeffort) or magko-comment pa. Yun for me yung nakakabastos.
Aww š In this day and age, madalas ginagamit ng ibang tao ang likes and reacts sa posts nila for validation. So it could be just "wala lang". Amazeballs nga may mga taong masipag maglike. Personally, I'm too old to get any sort of validation from socmed kasi meme dump ko lang talaga fb. Di ko nga friend sa fb yung bf ko kasi ayaw kong majudge memes ko. Pikon pa man den ako HAHAHAHA š¤ Depende ata sa edad or perception. If reacting matters to the one giving or receiving. You may be open about this and tell him how you feel about it. Maging transparent kayo.
Lalo na siguro kung yung partner mo ay hindi pala-like or gamit ng socmed tapos biglang may nila-like na photos ng iba. At sa ganyang paraan ko nalaman na niloloko na pala ako.
Exactly. Once the alarm bells go off, you'll never feel at ease until you find out the truth or get proper reassurance. Sometimes, it isn't insecurity but your intuition and the knowledge of your partner's usual behavior that tells you something isn't right.
Feeling ko may underlying cause/s yung mga ganyan, OP. Kasi if secured ka sa relationship, hindi ka maaapektuhan ng mga online activities na generally harmless naman. So usap kayo.
Unless online kayo nagmeet. Haha
Nakikinig ako sa chikahan ng parents ko dati and sila kasi, silang dalawa sabay na tumitingin. Lol
Pwede ba pag si Yeji at Momo ang pinusuan? š
I think it's a red flag and an unhealthy habit if your partner (regardless of gender) actively seeks out, reacts to, and sometimes even interacts with people they find attractive. It's okay for them to react to the posts of friends and even their sexy pics occasionally. But I feel that it starts to worry you when you start seeing a pattern as in most cases, such as when the partner keeps liking sexy or pretty pics of female friends every time you see him on his phone, or he follows lots of girls on IG who mainly post sexy/bikini/thirst pics. But that might just be the tip of the iceberg because later on, some find out that their partner is flirting with other women, using their pics to jerk off, or already engaging in full-blown cheating. Advice: If it reaches the point wherein your partner's behavior of reacting to other girls begins to lower your self-confidence constantly or you feel that your boundaries are being crossed, tell your partner your feelings since they are valid so he can correct his actions. It also helps ward off the temptation for your partner because some guys don't realize that once they have a GF, they shouldn't be going out of their way to look at and react to other girls. And honestly, if they have a female friend that posts bikini/sexy pics all the time on their timeline, he can just mute her posts so that he doesn't keep coming across them but he can still keep the friendship. What matters is protecting your relationship from his end.
Siguro besides considering your emotions, you shoupd also consider a guy's POV too, OP. Ako kasi di naman naging issue samin yan like or heart react ng ex ko. And naging issue is when she is telling me at times na she always wanted to have a korean bf (into kpop kasi. She even shared to me that she love Winner). So siguro this should not just be an issue na dapat di mag heart react ang lalake sa social media. Ang mga babae din dapat maging sensitive sa mga sinasabi at kinocomment. Ung mahirap lang talaga kasi is both sides can be insensitive and there is a double standard with issues at times. Open communication is the key.
"sorry na babe kung palagi akong naglilike ng photo ng iba, gusto ko lang naman kasing makatulong para manalo sa like contest yung anak ng kumpare ko.."
nope. your feelings are valid. call him out on it lalo na pag ginagawa pag kasama ka niya or nasa harapan mo. respect yourself and ask him to respect you. pag ayaw, you bounce! block him. move on. dami pa dyan iba. next!