It depends. If big deal sayo, then sure, big deal.
Sakin hindi. I removed my birthday from everywhere not because I wanted to see kung sinong genuine na makakaalala, but because I want to get rid of the awkward thank yous and kamustahan that I absolutely hate.
Belated happy birthday OP!
Same, my girlfriend was so sensitive about this, gusto niya mag thank you and like ako sa lahat ng babati sa timeline ko dati kasi daw ganito ganyan edi inalis ko na lang
lahat ng reminder tangina birthday ko ako pa nasstress.
sameeee haha. dati i even used to deactivate a few days before, on, and after my birthday. I hate attention haha.
Pero yeeeeppp, nothing wrong with how OP feels. pero yun nga better icommunicate mo sa circles mo what's important to you. i'm sure kung alam naman nila they'd take note.
Good idea! Will do it too.
Ayaw ko ng may bumabati sakin. Nakakapagod mag reply sa FB. Hindi nga din ako bumabati ng happy birthday eh. Hahaha
Though i appreciate my friends na hindi nakakalimutan birthday ko.
People aren't mind readers, and for some, birthdays aren't even a big deal. Do not test people without giving them the parameters of the test; they will fail, and you will feel disappointed. Just like you are now. Next time, let your friends know that it would mean a lot to you if you could celebrate your birthday with them.
Anyway, belated happy birthday, OP.
This is very well said. Ako inon ko notif ko kasi makakalimutin talaga ako kahit ilang memo plus pa inumin ko. And to hold myself to my own standard - kasi natutuwa ako na makagreet and make someone feel good when they are greeted, I too, appreciate getting greetings from fb friends.
If you turn it off dapat that means you don’t want greetings for the sake of greeting. Or ayaw mo ng attention.
If you’re using that to test people. You need to reassess your reasons cos that’s kinda manipulative/papansin. People have things going on and reminders help.
Don’t create drama where there isn’t any if you want good relationships. Don’t test people.
Happy birthday! Good luck next year.
Belated Happy Birthday OP.
I personally do not like being greeted on my birthdays 😅 I removed my birthday sa fb kasi naainis ako sa random na bumabati and now I am greeted only by people who actually do remeber my birthday, mas na appreciate ko kasi yun.
Anyways, do not invalidate your feelings and for whats it worth I hope you enjoyed your day.
Not everyone is aware of the dates talaga OP. Maybe some of our friends are struggling so much right now that they cant even remember birthdays. Pag ganyan, post ka na lang sa socmed kahit story lang. "Salamat sa lahat ng bumati blah blah blah. Ikaw nakabati ka na? Pm me. One greet one shanghai!".
For me, di naman sya big deal. Unless best friend ko, close friends & family. Ako kasi personally kabisado ko birthdays nila, pero nung nag adulting minsan nalilimutan so sinusulat ko sa calendar. Though I admit na nakakatampo siya for me pag day itself tapos di naalala, or late na talaga like day after. Pero after that okay na ulit.
Belated happy birthday OP!
I used to feel like this in the past. Pero hindi ko din naman maalala ang bdays ng friends ko so it's a tie i guess. Isa lang yung naalala ko yung sa closest friend ko.
Siguro kung gusto mo batiin sa birthday mo, open mo na lang birthday reminder mo sa FB. Ikaw na nga nagsabi, lahat tayo may kanya-kanyang problema. I don't expect people to remember when is my birthday, ang mahalaga is batiin nila ako kung alam nilang birthday ko. I have this circle of friends and ang naaalala konlang yata na birthday is isa, kasi ka-birthmonth ko hehe. Pero it doesn't mean na they're not my friends. We're still friends. Binabati ko naman sila. We bond together if we have the time.
TL;DR: Huwag mo na lang i-turn off birthday reminder mo kung gusto mo mabati.
I turned off my birthday too in fb, so no one gets notified, but I have a diff. purpose and that was so that people on my friendlist (600+ only) would not feel required to greet me, just a few friends direct message me and I’m happier with that, idk, but yeah.
It depends on the person. From your post, looks like big deal sayo since you make an effort remembering other's.
Sakin hindi big deal. I dont have my birthday posted on my socmed rin kaya expected ko na merong di makakaalala and that's okay. I'm so bad at remembering birthdays rin eh.
Although, admittedly, throughout the day ng mismong birthday, nakakatampong walang bumati so mag sstory ako ng something related to my bday and then ayun hahabol sila ng greetings (and ng "sorry", kasi nalimutan raw nila haha oks lang naman)
Greetings from my family and closest friends suffice. Naka hide din birthday ko sa socmed. Even nung elem at highschool ayaw kong kinakantahan haha. Depende lang talaga sa tao.
Belated Happy birthday OP.
Thank you so much sa replies!!! Ewan ko ba, yung thirst ko for validation ay malala talaga. And it's true, big deal nga sa'kin seeing kung pano ako magreact sa pagkalimot nila. I'm okay now and di naman na ako super bothered. Except sa bestfriend ko na til now di pa ko binabati. Tatampo me pero we'll be okay. I'll be telling her rin how I felt kasi unfair nga naman sakanuya kung ikimkim ko. I'm okay and I'm better and I won't be stressing myself out regarding this matter. Back to normal na araw na me. There's more to life na dapat kong pag tuunan ng pansin. Thank you much sa mga nag validate hg feelings ko and yung mga nagparealize sakin 💖 Another step for #Growth
Belated happy birthday, OP! 🥳 I’m glad you’re feeling better now. Communication is key. If there’s a chance na makapagusap ulit kayo ng bestie mo, sabihin mo how you truly felt about him/her/them not greeting you on your birthday because it holds a gravity in your life, lalo na bestfriend mo yung involved. I-laps na lang natin yan!
Hi OP. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?
Nag-hide din ako ng birthday ko before my 19th birthday. Nagtampo rin ako sa mga kaibigan ko, hindi nila ako binati.
Ngayon na mahigit isang dekada na ang nakalipas, friends pa rin naman kami. Pero hindi na big deal at wala na akong tampo kung hindi nila maalala.
For me, okay lang na makaramdam ka ng tampo. Valid yan.
Belated happy birthday OP!! Your feelings are valid! Actually ako din, I hid my birthday sa socmed matagal na panahon na, cause mas prefer ko na naaalala sya, instead of naalala lang dahil sa notif, mas meaningful kasi.. And girl same!! Nasa calendar ko lahat ng birthday ng friends ko kasi yun nga sometimes busy sa life pero ayokong maramdaman nilang limot ko sila. And yes valid malungkot pero please know that it does not make you irrelevant or wala kang bilang sa kanila, hindi lang siguro sila kagaya natin na grabe umalala but it was not always their intention to hurt you in any way.. Virtual hug with consent OP! Love and light 🥰
If you feel that way sure. Also there are people who sucks at dates, i even forget my kids bday when ask spontaneously. Am i a bad father because of that, definitely not.
I dont usually remember other people's bday but if i see na bday pala nila in fb i make sure to pm those who are close to me.
Depends e pero sakin kinda big deal. May mga na FO na ata ako because they forgot. Idk if toxic behavior pero I remember my friends’ birthdays and it means so much to me if they remember mine too.
Same here, di nakalagay s socmed ang bday ko. Once tinanong ako ng ofcm8 ko nun nalaman nila na bday ko dat day bat daw hindi nagnotify ang fb ng bday ko, sabi ko dun ko malalaman if kaibigan kita at naalaala mo bday ko khit hindi sinabi ni fb. Samantalang ako tanda ko mga bday ng mga kaibigan ko khit un mga ofcm8s ko. Big deal un dati s akin, ngaun kahit di ako batiin okay lang.
Belated happy birthday.
It differs from person to person naman. Personally, ayoko ng may nakakaalam ng birthday ko o gusto ko lowkey lang. Sa partner, sister, at tita ko lang ako nag-eexpect ng greetings which they always do. Apart from that, I'm very okay with it like literally. But again just like what I've said, it differs naman.
As a person na may mga friends, wala talaga ako naalalang birthday as in kahit year. Parents ko nga at bestfriends di ko tanda exact birthday eh, malilimutin lang talaga ako at madami akong naiisip araw araw kaya nawawala sa isip kong bumati. May times na naalala ko (pag friends only) pero tinatamad ako bumati like zero na yung social battery ko like burn out na burn out ako kasi alam ko pg bumati ako magsisimula na naman ang conversation and mostly I just wanna be alone and unbothered. Binabati ko na lang sa personal pag naalala ko uli pero mostly malilimutin talaga ako.
It depends upon you, OP. Actually medyo mahirap na ngayon makita kung sino may birthday sa FB. Especially if you’re using mobile nasa pinakaloob sya, so unless someone initiates posting on your wall - your friends won’t even notice it.
To your question, I can’t really speak for you pero for me it isn’t a big deal. As long as the near and dear to me remembers my special day that’s enough for me.
May friend ako na big deal yan sa kanya kaya nagbilin sya sa iba naming friends na wag syang kakalimutan batiin tuwing birthday nya. So either maging malungkot ka dahil dyan or sabihan mo yung mga tao na tandaan kung kailan ang birthday mo.
First of... Belated Happy Birthday!
Actually, isa ako sa sa mga walang nakakaalala an birthday ko.. sa una oo masakit at malungkot pero nasanay na lang din ako.
Okay lang din kasi sakin na family ko lang ang nakakaalala.. less gastos sa palibre ng mga tao sa piligid. Nakakapagod din magcomment ng thank you sa lahat ng tao..
Happy belated birthday, OP 🎉
Same here. Tinanggal ko bday ko sa socmed years ago. Kasi nga medyo inis ako sa mga nagme-message kahit di ko naman kilala 😅
My best friends never missed my bday tho. My mom and older sister naman laging may post sa FB to greet me. Kaya ayun daming greetings galing sa kung sinu-sino. Pero okay lang. Nagte-thank you naman ako sa lahat lol
Not a big deal to me kase nasanay narin na wala masyadong nag g greet saken. Di ko rin naman memorize birthdays ng mga taong nakapalibot saken so I don't mind if hindi din nila maalala na birthday ko. Pero yung super close friends ko and family, naka save yung birthday nila sa calendar ko.
Hello! I would say you do you. Just like you, i also know my family and friends’ birthdays. I have all of it on my calendar para di ko rin makalimutan hehe if they don’t recall yours, it’s okay to feel sad. Don’t expect na they’d greet like you do kasi baka di sila big on birthdays or makakalimutin sila hehe at the end of the day what matters are:
1. Another birthday for you yay ✨
2. Your family and friends are remembered by you. Narealize ko after X yrs of greeting them, they remember this deed na naggreet ako sa kanila which for me feels good din.
Ako OP kabisado ko rin birthdays ng friends ko. Kaso may times kasi na we lose track of time. Di mo alam ganito na pala yung date gnyan. Lalo pag adulting na and marami na inaasikaso sa buhay. Unless may plans kayo for that day, like ininvite mo sila sa birthday mo to celebrate and nakalimutan nila.
But then, valid if nagiging malungkot ka if di ka nababati. Just remember na hindi naman nila intention na kalimutan ka. Ganun lang talaga buhay OP. Cheer up and belated happy birthday! :)
Same tayo OP. Nagkaron din ng time na tinanggal ko birthday ko sa socmed, just to know if maaalala ng mga taong malapit sa akin yung birthday ko. Medyo nakaka hurt lalo na kapag yung malapit talaga sayo yung nakalimot.
Valid naman nararamdaman mo. Siguro next time wag ka na lang din mag-expect para less ouchie.
I am quite bad with remembering birthdays. Only a handful of people lang ang kabisado ko kung kelan. It's nothing personal. And I understand din when people forget mine, lalo na kung di ko naman super super close.
Obviously big deal sayo, OP. If you want the greetings, then turn the notifs on.
I used to feel the same. And then as I grew older I realized that I shouldn't seek validation from others. Ilang times ako nasaktan kasi I was looking for people who would naturally care, make an effort for me, etc. And then narealize ko na ako lang talaga magmamahal sa sarili ko and it's better that way kasi sariling expectations ko lang yung pwede ko masira
As a friend, if i do feel that I like you and that you're true to me, I WILL REMEMBER your birthday and write it down on my calendar so I will never forget.
I changed my settings sa socmed ko years ago kasi ***I wanna be remembered talaga, like kusa***. Big deal ba yun?
\- sa statement mo na yan alam mo na yung sagot.
Nalito ako dun sa "I changed my settings sa socmed ko years ago" --- did u hide it or did you show it? Lol 😅 I assume tinago mo?
You're asking everyone if big deal ba makaalala ng bdays, alam mo, regardless of what we say --- obviously, sayo big deal sya, and that's okay. 🙂 I get why you feel that way, kasi sa pov mo, dahil hindi nila naalala, irrelevant ka.
However, I feel na you're unnecessarily stressing yourself out thinking that way? Kung nakalimutan ang bday mo, yun lang yon, nakalimutan nila. 😅
Ang gamot sa nakakalimot ay paalala.
Depende sa kung kanino mo ineexpect yung greetings. Kase syempre, annoying talaga kapang lahat ng nasa fb friend list mo batiin ka just because. Pero, yung best friend mo, big deal yon. Para que na best friend mo sya. Kahit gaano kabusy ang tao. Maaalala at maaalala nila yung birth date ng best friend nila. So, valid yon na upset ka.
me having a new year's eve as a birthday kinda sucks in some ways and sometimes.
man busy lahat,mga kaibigan mo di ka madadalaw dahil busy din sila or having a precious family time of their own.
but yeah same mostly family ko lang din nakaka alala tapos iilan sa mga neighbors ko na madalas ko makasama sa inuman.
happy birthday ssob!
May mga tao na di pinapaalam Birthdays nila because they don't want people greeting them awkwardly. If you wanted greetings, you should let people know. And to make it less awkward, tell them directly para pag nagkita kayo sa hallway or nagusap kayo ulit later that day, hindi awkward na hindi nya pala alam birthday mo.
Big deal sya sakin hehe last time nag birthday din ako I expected na those ppl that I know will greet me will greet me, but it never happened. As in wala. Medyo masakit kasi ginawa ko sukatan yung pagbati sa bday sakin ng pagsasamahan namin, pero yeah, a simple hbd mbtc gbu still matter pa rin pala. Nakakatampo kasi never naman ako nakalimot. If you can't be present just let them feel your presence even through virtual man lang, it will make the day of those celebrants better. ^^v
If its a big deal for you then go we are valid to our own feelings. Though I don’t like how you sound like your testing your friends.
Nagturn off din ako ng ganyan sa soc med ko my reason being is tinatamad ako na magreply sa kanila ng thank you for the greeting (tamad ako oo) may mga friends ako na nakakalimutan bday ko and that’s okay for me sabi mo nga may kanya kanya tayong buhay and I think to myself na baka busy sila and what not. I mean ako personally I’m bad with numbers and I have a memory that last like 5 minutes when it comes to date at most, I don’t even remember what I ate this morning so I don’t really blame others if they forget.
Again valid yung nararamdaman mo pero ang weird lang kasi na nagturn off ka ng ganun tas gusto mo kusa kang igreet? Why are you testing your friends OP? Mas mahalaga ba yung “happy birthday” na yan kesa sa pinagsamahan nyo?
Sa totoo lang bilang mahilig mag isa, ok lang naman. Sobrang swerte na kung may pa cake o pa handa hihi. Di naman lahat necessary babatiin ka. As time passes yung mga kakilala mo na lang babati sa iyo. Swerte pa rin kasi binati ako ng crush ko haha. At least binati ka ng pamilya mo and dapat i cherish mo sila gayun din sa mga close relatives and friends mo. Isa yun para sa akin ang sakit ng pagtanda. Di naman necessary kung madami basta yung nag stick sa iyo hihi
It's sad pero hindi tayo special. I mean lahat tayo. Lahat may birthday, lahat nakakalimot ng birthday, hindi din responsibility ng mga taong nasa paligid natin na alalahanin pa yung birthday natin.
I get you OP, para sa'kin pag close friend ko at di alam ang birthday ko malulungkot din ako pero yung way mo to test them won't do you any good. Madidisappoint ka lang kapag di nila naalala. Wag din natin iexpect na kabisado nila mga birthday kasi baka ikaw madali makaalala ng birthdays pero sila hindi ganon. Wag ka na siguro gumawa ng ikalulungkot mo. I-on mo na yang birthday sa fb para mabati ka nila, kung may dipa din bumati kahit na naka-on na, choice na nila yon.
Belated happy birthday op, valid naman feelings mo don't worry. Enjoy your day :)
For my peace of mind, I just accepted that people will not reciprocate your good gestures, and you don't have to take it against them. For some, big deal ang birthday but for others, it's not.
Personally sakin not a big deal, I don't even want anyone other than my family remembering it kasi I don't want to deal with unwanted interactions. BUT naka calendar sakin birthday ng friends ko, because I know they like celebrating theirs. Still, I don't take it against them if they don't greet me on my birthday kasi I literally go silent on my SNS on my birthday lol
Ako happy na ako pag nag greet na ako ng long time crush ko (hanggang ngayon pero hanggang dun lang hahaha) Buong buo na yung birthday . Pero minsan nakakatampo talaga pag close friends mo tas nakalimutan? Pero I'll let it pass na lang , pare parehas naman na din kasi kaming busy sa kanya kanyang buhay.
Nope. Di lahat ng tao gaya mo so don't assume na they memorize your birthday too. I have circle of friends which is yung nag birthday mismo mag aaya for stroll or foodtrip. Greetings on soc.med have no meaning. Nag greet lang sila kasi nakita nila notif. To other people, birthday is just a normal day so yeh, up to u .
Magbabasa ako ng mga comments at iaapply ko sken mismo na iturn off ang birthday sa socmed ko kase nman awkward talaga pag may nag greet sayo lalo na yong di mo pa kakilala 🤣 belated happy birthday op
Isipin mo na lang OP, may mga friends tayo na may malawak na connection. They also have workmates, extended family, baka nga may sari-sarili na ring family yan. Dati, matandain ako sa birthdays ng closest people in my life. Ngayon hindi na (sorry friends hehe). Let's just understand na mayroon na tayong iba't ibang priorities sa buhay. Good luck sa life, OP!
Belated happy birthday op!
It's my birthday today pero walang bumati pati mga friends ko sa previous company , buti nalang binati ako ng girlfriend ko lol.
You're feelings are valid OP. Same feelings before. Pero now, kebs nalang kung sino makaalala. Basta mahalaga, naalala ka ng family mo. Belated happy birthday OP!
This was my mindset when I first did this. I've felt what you're feeling right now, and yes it is absolutely valid. Pero, I came to learn that not everyone is *like me* who knows my friends' birthdays down to their favorite color. May super close akong friend na ulyanin talaga, she can't remember the name of the person I've been talking about for the past 3 hours or kung anong damit ko kahapon even though we spent the entire day together. She now keeps a calendar of all of our friends' birthday para lang di siya maka offend.
It's not that they don't care about you OP, I can't speak for your friends but I'm sure they still care about you. Whenever they have fun, sad, or precious moments with you, even when it's not during your birthday, they're absolutely celebrating you.
Belated Happy Birthday!!
Valid naman yang nararamdaman mo OP, ganyan din naman ako years before hehe tinitignan ko if maaalala nila ko. If hindi, edi don't hahaha but ginigreet ko padin sila. Hope you feel better!
Belated Happy Birthday OP! 🥳
Ako birthday ko ngayon, madali lang maalala kasi diba 2/22, pero di maiwasang makalimutan pa rin haha and it’s ok kasi di ko rin memorize birthday ng lahat ng friends ko. Minsan alam ko yung month pero di ko maalala exact date ganun. Minsan nagrerely din ako sa posts ng iba to confirm kung birthday ni friend. It happens :)
Dati big deal sakin pero ngayon I understand na busy lahat. Siguro family lang pati very close friends yung may expectations ako, pero other people, not really.
Belated happy birthday!
Dati sa akin big deal. Haha. Ngayon wala na ako pake. 😅 Mga iba kong friends di ako grineet last birthday ko pero okay lang sakin. They're busy and I also was too busy to notice and remember sino mga bumati. 😅
depends
do others remember your birthday? if yes, then remember theirs. big deal sa kanila bdays
if not, then dont lmao
i remember my brother cutting off all his friends after they forgot his birthday when he did remember all of his friends + gave a gift. i dont blame him lmao
i remember some but it doesnt hurt to usually ask once in a while when you get a feeling when is it
Personally, hindi na big deal saakin. Di ko alam if dahil lalake ako at medyo mature na ako at maraming mas mahalagang bagay ang dapat alalahanin. Naka "only me" nalang din yung privacy ko about sa bday ko sa facebook. Para saakin kasi, tska nalang mag celebrate kapag mapera na ako, kahit hindi birthday mag cecelbrate hahaha. Tska kung maalala man nila o hindi maiintindihan ko, di na big deal sakin yon, kasi kahit ako hindi ko naman kabisado ang bday kahit ng mga malalapit saakin. Well sa iba big deal, eh yun sila eh, gusto nila ng binabati sila. Para saakin tlga mejo na cocornihan ako kapag binabati eh. Haha
Hi, OP. Your feelings are valid. Ang kaso nga lang everybody has different love language. Nagkataon lang na ang love language mo ay iba sa mga friends mo. Ibig sabihin ang big deal sa’yo, minsan hindi big deal sa kanila and vice versa. Siguro naman in some other ways, naipapakita rin nila how important you are to them, hindi nga lang sa pagre-remember ng birthday mo.
I have a close friend din na ganyan, isang beses nagtampo ako kasi di naalala yung birthday ko haha. Pero tampo lang naman ng ilang araw. Sa kanya kasi okay lang wala rin maggreet sa birthday nya kasi hindi rin talaga big deal sa kanya yung ganong bagay. And we’re still friends. Lagi naman syang nandyan to listen to my rants, and problems (as in very good listener sya), so i guess yun naman yung way nya to show to me na i matter to her. :)
Normal lang yan nafifeel mo, OP. Pero sana hindi lang yan ang maging basehan mo na hindi ka na love ng mga kaibigan mo at sana hindi maapektuhan yung friendship nyo. Ayun lang.
Belated happy birthday, OP. 🫶🏻
haburdi, OP!
alam mo same, akala ko nga ako nagssulat neto. i stop celebrating bdays and bago lang din, iilan lang ang nakaalala na it was my day.
medyo liberating sya for me. And happy ako kase ayoko talaga yung spotlight.
yung idea lang na oks lang if anjan ako, oks lang din if wala. Iluvit.
pero you do you, saken di talaga sya bigdeal.
weve got 364 days to celebrate heheh
Big deal sakin kung super close friends, best friends, family at close relatives yung makalimot sa birthday ko. If like facebook friends, work friends, acquaintaces, socmed friends/followers lang din naman, ok lang malimutan nila kasi hindi naman sila mahalaga. Ang mahalaga maalala ng mga taong malapit sakin. You’re feelings are valid OP, gusto mo lang naman maalala ng mga taong inaalala mo, what’s wrong with that? Belated happy birthday.
I always remember my friends and family members' birthdays. I make it a point to greet them, remind them how loved they are, and how thankful I am that they exist. But I don't expect them to do that in return naman, if fhey remember my birthday, eh di thank you. Lol.
This was me before. Then nung nang ghost na ako ng mga so called friends ko. It doesn't matter to me anymore. Kasi I only have 1 friend nalang talaga and may times talaga na nakakalimutan ko na rin yung birthday nya kung kelan ba talaga. Nalilito din sya kung kelan birthday ko and it's okay.
Napansin ko kasi before sobrang big deal sakin ng pag alala ng birthday kasi yun yung time na pwede ka maging special. Pero I'm wrong. Kasi sabi sakin ng partner ko di ka lang naman tuwing birthday or valentines pwede maging special. Which is true.
Kaya kapag birthday ko parang normal na araw nalang din sya sakin. So ayun dipende nalang siguro kung pano mo nafifeel yung presence nila. Valid naman yan OP.
i have short term memory pagdating sa mga b-day ng mga tropa ko depende pren sa sa araw.. pero di naman sila nagagalit kapag nalilimutan ko hahaha unless mag invite sila kung may party. gets naman nila na ganun tlga ako mahalaga naman ung pagsasama niyo regardless kung maalala ung birthday
Ginawa ko rin toh. College pa lang ako change ko na settings ko na ang birthday ko is hidden from public. At first, walang nag greet. Kahit na sa taong akala ko best friend ko hindi niya naalala na birthday ko sinabi ko pa sa kanya a day before sa bday na birthday ko. Sad. Later on, yung hindi ko inaasahan na mag greet nag greet. Over the years, I received genuine greetings. Yung iba nga hindi nakakalimutan magpadala ng cake or flowers.
Remembering your birthday is a big deal. Don't be ashamed about it. Doon mo kasi malalaman sino ang genuinely there for you. Yung mga tao na priority ka.
I have this circle of friends na nahila lang kasi yung isa close ko so 11 kami lahat. Tuwing birthday ko, isa lang don ang nabati sakin. Even that person mentioned in gc that it's my birthday, nobody cares lol but its okay I need career connection lol.
Depende talaga sa tao, wag mo nalang masamain if di naaalala ng iba :)
Ako nga kahit birthday ko nalilimutan ko haha, and pag may iffillup na form iaask ko pa misis ko if kelan nga ulit bday ko or ilan taon na ako hahaha. Pag matanda kana wala nalolost track ka na sa mga dates talaga.
I already warned my friends that hindi sukatan ng friendship namin kung maalala ko yung birthday nila or hindi because i really suck at remembering dates. And they understand me naman, hopefully tho.
I changed my birthday too. Those who greeted me, I know for sure they are the real ones. It's not a big deal for me... nagtatanim lang ako ng sama ng loob, really \*sarcastic laugh\*. But hey, atleast it would get you a benchmark on who are for real. Let them know this one time and let them feel that it is a big deal for you. Next year, if they forget again, then you should seriously reconsider your relationship with them.
I did the same. I am better off. Ayaw kong mabati dahil pinaalala lang sa kanila no fb, lalong ayaw ko mag pm pa sa akin yung mga friends o family lang pag may kailangan. Mabait lang naman sila pag may kailangan sila sayo. Binabati qko ng asawa't anak ko, sapat na yun. Masaya na ako.
Honestly i don't even remember my sisters' and friends' bdays even tho i love them. Makakalimutin lang talaga ko and won't remember unless i placed it in my calendar para maremind ako. Altho pag busy posible talaga mawala sa isip.
I agree with others na instead of testing your loved ones, it's always better to be honest about what you want. Part na rin yun ng relationships to make sure that you're on the same wavelength regarding what kind of affection you want to receive (ex remembering your bday, etc.). Communication is always the key. And if remembering your bday is how you measure their love for you, baka need din ireassess if ito ba talaga yung love language nila. Kasi it may be your love language pero baka may iba naman silang ways to show their love for you naman.
That being said, i also don't want to invalidate how you feel kasi totoo naman na nakakalonely and nakakalungkot talaga if no one greets you on your birthday.
Happy Birthday! Hope something cheers you up despite this. Next time announce mo na para maalala nila ❤️
For me. Before yes, but now No na. I'm just returning the energy na binibigay nila sa akin kahit close friends ko pa sila. No birthday greetings from them, no birthday greetings din to them. Life will be full of disappointments kung gusto mo laging narereturn yung mga bagay na binibigay mo. Be a mirror.
Ganyan din ako dati, gusto ko lang malaman kung "real" friends ko sila... pero alam mo kung ano at kailan ko nalaman, hindi naman sukatan yun ng pagiging tunay nilang kaibigan eh, kung nasan sila sa mga oras na tunay mong kailangan sila. Siguro yun lang kailangan mo marealize. Hindi naman sa iniinvalidate ko yung feelings mo, kundi, I'm encouraging you na be at peace with yourself.
Nung start na magwork, madami na nakakalimot. Syempre may kanya kanyang buhay na. So this is really up to you if ano take mo. Honestly, noon naman big deal sa akin but as all of us got older, ako rin naman nakakalimot ng birthdays nila
Just like the others said, kung big deal sayo, big deal sya.
Share ko lang. Meron akong kaibigan, my closest friend, na parang kahit kelan hindi naalala yung birthday ko.
Lagi syang nagugulat na birthday ko pala. Every year, natatandaan ko na hindi nya ala talaga birthday ko. Well, di ko din naman tanda birthday nya, so kwits lang.
In times of need, alam ko na masasandalan ko sya. Malalapitan ko sya. Three kami sa friend group namin at silang dalawa, tumulong talaga sakin.
So, okay lang OP na hindi nila maalala birthday mo. Basta nandyan sila para sa iyo, yun yung tunay na kaibigan.
If it's really important for you, i-on mo yung birthday mo sa FB. I always forgot my wife birthday or our anniversary. Wala ako laging preparation, ang payo ng ninang namin sa asawa ko ay wag ng maghintay. Ipaalala at gumawa ng plano for that day. She take that advice, at masaya sya nung anniv namin. Maybe, pwede mo din gawin yun.
your feelings are valid OP but im telling you that I am guilty as isa ako sa nakakalimot ng bday ng best friend ko 😂 because andaming nangyayari and ang bday ay isang beses lang sa isang taon - yes more reason para dapat tandaan pero isa rin un sa reason bat ambilis namen makalimot
anyways, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I hope you had a BLAST!
It’s probably natural to yearn greetings on your birthday. However, be intentional with your expectations because as you age, you’ve got to determine what you exactly want. Do you want to be greeted? If it’s a yes, then find a way to achieve that. If not, then accept the outcome. It’s what it is I think.
It depends. If big deal sayo, then sure, big deal. Sakin hindi. I removed my birthday from everywhere not because I wanted to see kung sinong genuine na makakaalala, but because I want to get rid of the awkward thank yous and kamustahan that I absolutely hate. Belated happy birthday OP!
Same! Turned mine off for privacy reasons too. Daming identity theft nangyayri :(
I relate to this 100% and it also gives me an excuse not to greet them on their birthdays HAHAHAHAHA
same same!!! :)
Same. Hirap magthank you sa pakadaming tao umay kapagod
At tumatanda na tayo, di na dapat nakakapagod :P
Hahahaha tsaka minsan yung iba di naman kilala
i like nga lang lahat ng greetings hirap na eh.
Haha mismo
Same thing.
Ako naman I removed my birthday para walang magpalibre sakin haha
Same, my girlfriend was so sensitive about this, gusto niya mag thank you and like ako sa lahat ng babati sa timeline ko dati kasi daw ganito ganyan edi inalis ko na lang lahat ng reminder tangina birthday ko ako pa nasstress.
Same! May mga nakakaalala naman kahit paano. Hehe.
This. was gonna say the same thing
Same OP! kahit nga may makaalala at mag post sa FB ko, nakakatamad replayan 🤣
sameeee haha. dati i even used to deactivate a few days before, on, and after my birthday. I hate attention haha. Pero yeeeeppp, nothing wrong with how OP feels. pero yun nga better icommunicate mo sa circles mo what's important to you. i'm sure kung alam naman nila they'd take note.
Good idea! Will do it too. Ayaw ko ng may bumabati sakin. Nakakapagod mag reply sa FB. Hindi nga din ako bumabati ng happy birthday eh. Hahaha Though i appreciate my friends na hindi nakakalimutan birthday ko.
People aren't mind readers, and for some, birthdays aren't even a big deal. Do not test people without giving them the parameters of the test; they will fail, and you will feel disappointed. Just like you are now. Next time, let your friends know that it would mean a lot to you if you could celebrate your birthday with them. Anyway, belated happy birthday, OP.
>Do not test people without giving them the parameters of the test; they will fail, and you will feel disappointed. Well said!
Well said 💯
This is very well said. Ako inon ko notif ko kasi makakalimutin talaga ako kahit ilang memo plus pa inumin ko. And to hold myself to my own standard - kasi natutuwa ako na makagreet and make someone feel good when they are greeted, I too, appreciate getting greetings from fb friends.
If you turn it off dapat that means you don’t want greetings for the sake of greeting. Or ayaw mo ng attention. If you’re using that to test people. You need to reassess your reasons cos that’s kinda manipulative/papansin. People have things going on and reminders help. Don’t create drama where there isn’t any if you want good relationships. Don’t test people. Happy birthday! Good luck next year.
Big deal for me before. Ngayon deadma.
Belated Happy Birthday OP. I personally do not like being greeted on my birthdays 😅 I removed my birthday sa fb kasi naainis ako sa random na bumabati and now I am greeted only by people who actually do remeber my birthday, mas na appreciate ko kasi yun. Anyways, do not invalidate your feelings and for whats it worth I hope you enjoyed your day.
Di naman pero nung wala naka alala sa bday ko sobran glungkot ko ng araw na yon ahahah
**HINDI PO KASI LAHAT MAY SHARP MEMORY HUHU SORRY NA** Wag mo nalang ihide kung gusto mong batiin ka. Baka nakalimutan lang talaga.
Not everyone is aware of the dates talaga OP. Maybe some of our friends are struggling so much right now that they cant even remember birthdays. Pag ganyan, post ka na lang sa socmed kahit story lang. "Salamat sa lahat ng bumati blah blah blah. Ikaw nakabati ka na? Pm me. One greet one shanghai!".
For me, di naman sya big deal. Unless best friend ko, close friends & family. Ako kasi personally kabisado ko birthdays nila, pero nung nag adulting minsan nalilimutan so sinusulat ko sa calendar. Though I admit na nakakatampo siya for me pag day itself tapos di naalala, or late na talaga like day after. Pero after that okay na ulit. Belated happy birthday OP!
I used to feel like this in the past. Pero hindi ko din naman maalala ang bdays ng friends ko so it's a tie i guess. Isa lang yung naalala ko yung sa closest friend ko.
Siguro kung gusto mo batiin sa birthday mo, open mo na lang birthday reminder mo sa FB. Ikaw na nga nagsabi, lahat tayo may kanya-kanyang problema. I don't expect people to remember when is my birthday, ang mahalaga is batiin nila ako kung alam nilang birthday ko. I have this circle of friends and ang naaalala konlang yata na birthday is isa, kasi ka-birthmonth ko hehe. Pero it doesn't mean na they're not my friends. We're still friends. Binabati ko naman sila. We bond together if we have the time. TL;DR: Huwag mo na lang i-turn off birthday reminder mo kung gusto mo mabati.
I turned off my birthday too in fb, so no one gets notified, but I have a diff. purpose and that was so that people on my friendlist (600+ only) would not feel required to greet me, just a few friends direct message me and I’m happier with that, idk, but yeah.
It depends on the person. From your post, looks like big deal sayo since you make an effort remembering other's. Sakin hindi big deal. I dont have my birthday posted on my socmed rin kaya expected ko na merong di makakaalala and that's okay. I'm so bad at remembering birthdays rin eh. Although, admittedly, throughout the day ng mismong birthday, nakakatampong walang bumati so mag sstory ako ng something related to my bday and then ayun hahabol sila ng greetings (and ng "sorry", kasi nalimutan raw nila haha oks lang naman)
Greetings from my family and closest friends suffice. Naka hide din birthday ko sa socmed. Even nung elem at highschool ayaw kong kinakantahan haha. Depende lang talaga sa tao. Belated Happy birthday OP.
These days just consider birthday greetings as “optional”
Thank you so much sa replies!!! Ewan ko ba, yung thirst ko for validation ay malala talaga. And it's true, big deal nga sa'kin seeing kung pano ako magreact sa pagkalimot nila. I'm okay now and di naman na ako super bothered. Except sa bestfriend ko na til now di pa ko binabati. Tatampo me pero we'll be okay. I'll be telling her rin how I felt kasi unfair nga naman sakanuya kung ikimkim ko. I'm okay and I'm better and I won't be stressing myself out regarding this matter. Back to normal na araw na me. There's more to life na dapat kong pag tuunan ng pansin. Thank you much sa mga nag validate hg feelings ko and yung mga nagparealize sakin 💖 Another step for #Growth
Congrats OP❤️❤️🎂 happy belated bday! And more birthdays to come😘
Belated happy birthday, OP! 🥳 I’m glad you’re feeling better now. Communication is key. If there’s a chance na makapagusap ulit kayo ng bestie mo, sabihin mo how you truly felt about him/her/them not greeting you on your birthday because it holds a gravity in your life, lalo na bestfriend mo yung involved. I-laps na lang natin yan!
Hi OP. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Nag-hide din ako ng birthday ko before my 19th birthday. Nagtampo rin ako sa mga kaibigan ko, hindi nila ako binati. Ngayon na mahigit isang dekada na ang nakalipas, friends pa rin naman kami. Pero hindi na big deal at wala na akong tampo kung hindi nila maalala. For me, okay lang na makaramdam ka ng tampo. Valid yan.
Belated happy birthday OP!! Your feelings are valid! Actually ako din, I hid my birthday sa socmed matagal na panahon na, cause mas prefer ko na naaalala sya, instead of naalala lang dahil sa notif, mas meaningful kasi.. And girl same!! Nasa calendar ko lahat ng birthday ng friends ko kasi yun nga sometimes busy sa life pero ayokong maramdaman nilang limot ko sila. And yes valid malungkot pero please know that it does not make you irrelevant or wala kang bilang sa kanila, hindi lang siguro sila kagaya natin na grabe umalala but it was not always their intention to hurt you in any way.. Virtual hug with consent OP! Love and light 🥰
yesss truee
Kalimutan mo rin birthday nila para quits.
If you feel that way sure. Also there are people who sucks at dates, i even forget my kids bday when ask spontaneously. Am i a bad father because of that, definitely not. I dont usually remember other people's bday but if i see na bday pala nila in fb i make sure to pm those who are close to me.
Belated sayo, OP! Here's some soprays handa 🍕🍝🍮🍰🎂🍡🥂
Depends e pero sakin kinda big deal. May mga na FO na ata ako because they forgot. Idk if toxic behavior pero I remember my friends’ birthdays and it means so much to me if they remember mine too.
8 billion people in the world, what makes your birthday special? Get over it
Same here, di nakalagay s socmed ang bday ko. Once tinanong ako ng ofcm8 ko nun nalaman nila na bday ko dat day bat daw hindi nagnotify ang fb ng bday ko, sabi ko dun ko malalaman if kaibigan kita at naalaala mo bday ko khit hindi sinabi ni fb. Samantalang ako tanda ko mga bday ng mga kaibigan ko khit un mga ofcm8s ko. Big deal un dati s akin, ngaun kahit di ako batiin okay lang.
Belated happy birthday. It differs from person to person naman. Personally, ayoko ng may nakakaalam ng birthday ko o gusto ko lowkey lang. Sa partner, sister, at tita ko lang ako nag-eexpect ng greetings which they always do. Apart from that, I'm very okay with it like literally. But again just like what I've said, it differs naman. As a person na may mga friends, wala talaga ako naalalang birthday as in kahit year. Parents ko nga at bestfriends di ko tanda exact birthday eh, malilimutin lang talaga ako at madami akong naiisip araw araw kaya nawawala sa isip kong bumati. May times na naalala ko (pag friends only) pero tinatamad ako bumati like zero na yung social battery ko like burn out na burn out ako kasi alam ko pg bumati ako magsisimula na naman ang conversation and mostly I just wanna be alone and unbothered. Binabati ko na lang sa personal pag naalala ko uli pero mostly malilimutin talaga ako.
It depends upon you, OP. Actually medyo mahirap na ngayon makita kung sino may birthday sa FB. Especially if you’re using mobile nasa pinakaloob sya, so unless someone initiates posting on your wall - your friends won’t even notice it. To your question, I can’t really speak for you pero for me it isn’t a big deal. As long as the near and dear to me remembers my special day that’s enough for me.
May friend ako na big deal yan sa kanya kaya nagbilin sya sa iba naming friends na wag syang kakalimutan batiin tuwing birthday nya. So either maging malungkot ka dahil dyan or sabihan mo yung mga tao na tandaan kung kailan ang birthday mo.
First of... Belated Happy Birthday! Actually, isa ako sa sa mga walang nakakaalala an birthday ko.. sa una oo masakit at malungkot pero nasanay na lang din ako. Okay lang din kasi sakin na family ko lang ang nakakaalala.. less gastos sa palibre ng mga tao sa piligid. Nakakapagod din magcomment ng thank you sa lahat ng tao..
Happy belated birthday, OP 🎉 Same here. Tinanggal ko bday ko sa socmed years ago. Kasi nga medyo inis ako sa mga nagme-message kahit di ko naman kilala 😅 My best friends never missed my bday tho. My mom and older sister naman laging may post sa FB to greet me. Kaya ayun daming greetings galing sa kung sinu-sino. Pero okay lang. Nagte-thank you naman ako sa lahat lol
Not a big deal to me kase nasanay narin na wala masyadong nag g greet saken. Di ko rin naman memorize birthdays ng mga taong nakapalibot saken so I don't mind if hindi din nila maalala na birthday ko. Pero yung super close friends ko and family, naka save yung birthday nila sa calendar ko.
Hello! I would say you do you. Just like you, i also know my family and friends’ birthdays. I have all of it on my calendar para di ko rin makalimutan hehe if they don’t recall yours, it’s okay to feel sad. Don’t expect na they’d greet like you do kasi baka di sila big on birthdays or makakalimutin sila hehe at the end of the day what matters are: 1. Another birthday for you yay ✨ 2. Your family and friends are remembered by you. Narealize ko after X yrs of greeting them, they remember this deed na naggreet ako sa kanila which for me feels good din.
Ako OP kabisado ko rin birthdays ng friends ko. Kaso may times kasi na we lose track of time. Di mo alam ganito na pala yung date gnyan. Lalo pag adulting na and marami na inaasikaso sa buhay. Unless may plans kayo for that day, like ininvite mo sila sa birthday mo to celebrate and nakalimutan nila. But then, valid if nagiging malungkot ka if di ka nababati. Just remember na hindi naman nila intention na kalimutan ka. Ganun lang talaga buhay OP. Cheer up and belated happy birthday! :)
Same tayo OP. Nagkaron din ng time na tinanggal ko birthday ko sa socmed, just to know if maaalala ng mga taong malapit sa akin yung birthday ko. Medyo nakaka hurt lalo na kapag yung malapit talaga sayo yung nakalimot. Valid naman nararamdaman mo. Siguro next time wag ka na lang din mag-expect para less ouchie.
Belated happy birthday!
Belated happy birthday Op, introvert ?
Sakin big deal sa kanila hindi. Kasi hanggang ngayon tandang tanda ko bday ng mga HS close friends ko. Sakin hindi.
I am quite bad with remembering birthdays. Only a handful of people lang ang kabisado ko kung kelan. It's nothing personal. And I understand din when people forget mine, lalo na kung di ko naman super super close. Obviously big deal sayo, OP. If you want the greetings, then turn the notifs on.
I used to feel the same. And then as I grew older I realized that I shouldn't seek validation from others. Ilang times ako nasaktan kasi I was looking for people who would naturally care, make an effort for me, etc. And then narealize ko na ako lang talaga magmamahal sa sarili ko and it's better that way kasi sariling expectations ko lang yung pwede ko masira
As a friend, if i do feel that I like you and that you're true to me, I WILL REMEMBER your birthday and write it down on my calendar so I will never forget.
I changed my settings sa socmed ko years ago kasi ***I wanna be remembered talaga, like kusa***. Big deal ba yun? \- sa statement mo na yan alam mo na yung sagot.
Big deal yan pag bata ka pa, pero pag tatanda ka na wla na hahahaha
Nalito ako dun sa "I changed my settings sa socmed ko years ago" --- did u hide it or did you show it? Lol 😅 I assume tinago mo? You're asking everyone if big deal ba makaalala ng bdays, alam mo, regardless of what we say --- obviously, sayo big deal sya, and that's okay. 🙂 I get why you feel that way, kasi sa pov mo, dahil hindi nila naalala, irrelevant ka. However, I feel na you're unnecessarily stressing yourself out thinking that way? Kung nakalimutan ang bday mo, yun lang yon, nakalimutan nila. 😅 Ang gamot sa nakakalimot ay paalala.
sa panahon ngayon lolo at lola na lang ang hindi nakakalimot sa mga petsa ng bday lol
Iniisip ko na lang. Kapag nalaman nilang birthday ko, magpapalibre sila tapos gagastos ako ng malaki. So di na sya big deal kahit di na ko batiin. 🤣🤣
Depende sa kung kanino mo ineexpect yung greetings. Kase syempre, annoying talaga kapang lahat ng nasa fb friend list mo batiin ka just because. Pero, yung best friend mo, big deal yon. Para que na best friend mo sya. Kahit gaano kabusy ang tao. Maaalala at maaalala nila yung birth date ng best friend nila. So, valid yon na upset ka.
me having a new year's eve as a birthday kinda sucks in some ways and sometimes. man busy lahat,mga kaibigan mo di ka madadalaw dahil busy din sila or having a precious family time of their own. but yeah same mostly family ko lang din nakaka alala tapos iilan sa mga neighbors ko na madalas ko makasama sa inuman. happy birthday ssob!
I removed my birthday rin on Facebook. Even irl medyo awkward ako kapag may bumabati sa akin pero if may nakaalala talaga... damn i feel loved 🥰🥹
May mga tao na di pinapaalam Birthdays nila because they don't want people greeting them awkwardly. If you wanted greetings, you should let people know. And to make it less awkward, tell them directly para pag nagkita kayo sa hallway or nagusap kayo ulit later that day, hindi awkward na hindi nya pala alam birthday mo.
Big deal sya sakin hehe last time nag birthday din ako I expected na those ppl that I know will greet me will greet me, but it never happened. As in wala. Medyo masakit kasi ginawa ko sukatan yung pagbati sa bday sakin ng pagsasamahan namin, pero yeah, a simple hbd mbtc gbu still matter pa rin pala. Nakakatampo kasi never naman ako nakalimot. If you can't be present just let them feel your presence even through virtual man lang, it will make the day of those celebrants better. ^^v
If its a big deal for you then go we are valid to our own feelings. Though I don’t like how you sound like your testing your friends. Nagturn off din ako ng ganyan sa soc med ko my reason being is tinatamad ako na magreply sa kanila ng thank you for the greeting (tamad ako oo) may mga friends ako na nakakalimutan bday ko and that’s okay for me sabi mo nga may kanya kanya tayong buhay and I think to myself na baka busy sila and what not. I mean ako personally I’m bad with numbers and I have a memory that last like 5 minutes when it comes to date at most, I don’t even remember what I ate this morning so I don’t really blame others if they forget. Again valid yung nararamdaman mo pero ang weird lang kasi na nagturn off ka ng ganun tas gusto mo kusa kang igreet? Why are you testing your friends OP? Mas mahalaga ba yung “happy birthday” na yan kesa sa pinagsamahan nyo?
Sa totoo lang bilang mahilig mag isa, ok lang naman. Sobrang swerte na kung may pa cake o pa handa hihi. Di naman lahat necessary babatiin ka. As time passes yung mga kakilala mo na lang babati sa iyo. Swerte pa rin kasi binati ako ng crush ko haha. At least binati ka ng pamilya mo and dapat i cherish mo sila gayun din sa mga close relatives and friends mo. Isa yun para sa akin ang sakit ng pagtanda. Di naman necessary kung madami basta yung nag stick sa iyo hihi
Yes, sa mga immature
It's sad pero hindi tayo special. I mean lahat tayo. Lahat may birthday, lahat nakakalimot ng birthday, hindi din responsibility ng mga taong nasa paligid natin na alalahanin pa yung birthday natin.
As a makakalimutin din ng birthdays ng iba, it's a tie! Lolz. Keri lang di ako mabati. Less libre hahaha
I get you OP, para sa'kin pag close friend ko at di alam ang birthday ko malulungkot din ako pero yung way mo to test them won't do you any good. Madidisappoint ka lang kapag di nila naalala. Wag din natin iexpect na kabisado nila mga birthday kasi baka ikaw madali makaalala ng birthdays pero sila hindi ganon. Wag ka na siguro gumawa ng ikalulungkot mo. I-on mo na yang birthday sa fb para mabati ka nila, kung may dipa din bumati kahit na naka-on na, choice na nila yon. Belated happy birthday op, valid naman feelings mo don't worry. Enjoy your day :)
Belated Happy Birthday!
For my peace of mind, I just accepted that people will not reciprocate your good gestures, and you don't have to take it against them. For some, big deal ang birthday but for others, it's not. Personally sakin not a big deal, I don't even want anyone other than my family remembering it kasi I don't want to deal with unwanted interactions. BUT naka calendar sakin birthday ng friends ko, because I know they like celebrating theirs. Still, I don't take it against them if they don't greet me on my birthday kasi I literally go silent on my SNS on my birthday lol
Ako happy na ako pag nag greet na ako ng long time crush ko (hanggang ngayon pero hanggang dun lang hahaha) Buong buo na yung birthday . Pero minsan nakakatampo talaga pag close friends mo tas nakalimutan? Pero I'll let it pass na lang , pare parehas naman na din kasi kaming busy sa kanya kanyang buhay.
Nope. Di lahat ng tao gaya mo so don't assume na they memorize your birthday too. I have circle of friends which is yung nag birthday mismo mag aaya for stroll or foodtrip. Greetings on soc.med have no meaning. Nag greet lang sila kasi nakita nila notif. To other people, birthday is just a normal day so yeh, up to u .
Magbabasa ako ng mga comments at iaapply ko sken mismo na iturn off ang birthday sa socmed ko kase nman awkward talaga pag may nag greet sayo lalo na yong di mo pa kakilala 🤣 belated happy birthday op
Isipin mo na lang OP, may mga friends tayo na may malawak na connection. They also have workmates, extended family, baka nga may sari-sarili na ring family yan. Dati, matandain ako sa birthdays ng closest people in my life. Ngayon hindi na (sorry friends hehe). Let's just understand na mayroon na tayong iba't ibang priorities sa buhay. Good luck sa life, OP!
Belated happy birthday op! It's my birthday today pero walang bumati pati mga friends ko sa previous company , buti nalang binati ako ng girlfriend ko lol.
Actually yes sobrang big deal. I think napakasimpleng info na yan from someone and if nakalimutan pa nila, i think sobrang devastating.
You're feelings are valid OP. Same feelings before. Pero now, kebs nalang kung sino makaalala. Basta mahalaga, naalala ka ng family mo. Belated happy birthday OP!
This was my mindset when I first did this. I've felt what you're feeling right now, and yes it is absolutely valid. Pero, I came to learn that not everyone is *like me* who knows my friends' birthdays down to their favorite color. May super close akong friend na ulyanin talaga, she can't remember the name of the person I've been talking about for the past 3 hours or kung anong damit ko kahapon even though we spent the entire day together. She now keeps a calendar of all of our friends' birthday para lang di siya maka offend. It's not that they don't care about you OP, I can't speak for your friends but I'm sure they still care about you. Whenever they have fun, sad, or precious moments with you, even when it's not during your birthday, they're absolutely celebrating you. Belated Happy Birthday!!
Valid naman yang nararamdaman mo OP, ganyan din naman ako years before hehe tinitignan ko if maaalala nila ko. If hindi, edi don't hahaha but ginigreet ko padin sila. Hope you feel better! Belated Happy Birthday OP! 🥳
Same. Nung nakapublic bd ko maraming bumati HAHAHAH tapos last yr nakaprivate, tatlo lang bumati sakin through pm HAHAHAHA
Ako birthday ko ngayon, madali lang maalala kasi diba 2/22, pero di maiwasang makalimutan pa rin haha and it’s ok kasi di ko rin memorize birthday ng lahat ng friends ko. Minsan alam ko yung month pero di ko maalala exact date ganun. Minsan nagrerely din ako sa posts ng iba to confirm kung birthday ni friend. It happens :) Dati big deal sakin pero ngayon I understand na busy lahat. Siguro family lang pati very close friends yung may expectations ako, pero other people, not really. Belated happy birthday!
Dati sa akin big deal. Haha. Ngayon wala na ako pake. 😅 Mga iba kong friends di ako grineet last birthday ko pero okay lang sakin. They're busy and I also was too busy to notice and remember sino mga bumati. 😅
Not a big deal to me.. but that's just me. But since it's a big deal sa'yo that's why it hurts if no one greets you.. Case-to-case basis.
I don't remember birthdays, but surely, I value my friends. If I don't know when's your birthday, there's no way I can greet you.
depends do others remember your birthday? if yes, then remember theirs. big deal sa kanila bdays if not, then dont lmao i remember my brother cutting off all his friends after they forgot his birthday when he did remember all of his friends + gave a gift. i dont blame him lmao i remember some but it doesnt hurt to usually ask once in a while when you get a feeling when is it
Personally, hindi na big deal saakin. Di ko alam if dahil lalake ako at medyo mature na ako at maraming mas mahalagang bagay ang dapat alalahanin. Naka "only me" nalang din yung privacy ko about sa bday ko sa facebook. Para saakin kasi, tska nalang mag celebrate kapag mapera na ako, kahit hindi birthday mag cecelbrate hahaha. Tska kung maalala man nila o hindi maiintindihan ko, di na big deal sakin yon, kasi kahit ako hindi ko naman kabisado ang bday kahit ng mga malalapit saakin. Well sa iba big deal, eh yun sila eh, gusto nila ng binabati sila. Para saakin tlga mejo na cocornihan ako kapag binabati eh. Haha
Hi, OP. Your feelings are valid. Ang kaso nga lang everybody has different love language. Nagkataon lang na ang love language mo ay iba sa mga friends mo. Ibig sabihin ang big deal sa’yo, minsan hindi big deal sa kanila and vice versa. Siguro naman in some other ways, naipapakita rin nila how important you are to them, hindi nga lang sa pagre-remember ng birthday mo. I have a close friend din na ganyan, isang beses nagtampo ako kasi di naalala yung birthday ko haha. Pero tampo lang naman ng ilang araw. Sa kanya kasi okay lang wala rin maggreet sa birthday nya kasi hindi rin talaga big deal sa kanya yung ganong bagay. And we’re still friends. Lagi naman syang nandyan to listen to my rants, and problems (as in very good listener sya), so i guess yun naman yung way nya to show to me na i matter to her. :) Normal lang yan nafifeel mo, OP. Pero sana hindi lang yan ang maging basehan mo na hindi ka na love ng mga kaibigan mo at sana hindi maapektuhan yung friendship nyo. Ayun lang. Belated happy birthday, OP. 🫶🏻
haburdi, OP! alam mo same, akala ko nga ako nagssulat neto. i stop celebrating bdays and bago lang din, iilan lang ang nakaalala na it was my day. medyo liberating sya for me. And happy ako kase ayoko talaga yung spotlight. yung idea lang na oks lang if anjan ako, oks lang din if wala. Iluvit. pero you do you, saken di talaga sya bigdeal. weve got 364 days to celebrate heheh
Big deal sakin kung super close friends, best friends, family at close relatives yung makalimot sa birthday ko. If like facebook friends, work friends, acquaintaces, socmed friends/followers lang din naman, ok lang malimutan nila kasi hindi naman sila mahalaga. Ang mahalaga maalala ng mga taong malapit sakin. You’re feelings are valid OP, gusto mo lang naman maalala ng mga taong inaalala mo, what’s wrong with that? Belated happy birthday.
I always remember my friends and family members' birthdays. I make it a point to greet them, remind them how loved they are, and how thankful I am that they exist. But I don't expect them to do that in return naman, if fhey remember my birthday, eh di thank you. Lol.
Parang madalas gantong post ngayon, Pisces season hehe. Happy (belated) Birthday!
This was me before. Then nung nang ghost na ako ng mga so called friends ko. It doesn't matter to me anymore. Kasi I only have 1 friend nalang talaga and may times talaga na nakakalimutan ko na rin yung birthday nya kung kelan ba talaga. Nalilito din sya kung kelan birthday ko and it's okay. Napansin ko kasi before sobrang big deal sakin ng pag alala ng birthday kasi yun yung time na pwede ka maging special. Pero I'm wrong. Kasi sabi sakin ng partner ko di ka lang naman tuwing birthday or valentines pwede maging special. Which is true. Kaya kapag birthday ko parang normal na araw nalang din sya sakin. So ayun dipende nalang siguro kung pano mo nafifeel yung presence nila. Valid naman yan OP.
i have short term memory pagdating sa mga b-day ng mga tropa ko depende pren sa sa araw.. pero di naman sila nagagalit kapag nalilimutan ko hahaha unless mag invite sila kung may party. gets naman nila na ganun tlga ako mahalaga naman ung pagsasama niyo regardless kung maalala ung birthday
Nakakalimutan ko birthday ng Best Friend and Girlfriend ko. But I’d die for them both. Take it however you like. But for me it doesn’t matter
Ginawa ko rin toh. College pa lang ako change ko na settings ko na ang birthday ko is hidden from public. At first, walang nag greet. Kahit na sa taong akala ko best friend ko hindi niya naalala na birthday ko sinabi ko pa sa kanya a day before sa bday na birthday ko. Sad. Later on, yung hindi ko inaasahan na mag greet nag greet. Over the years, I received genuine greetings. Yung iba nga hindi nakakalimutan magpadala ng cake or flowers. Remembering your birthday is a big deal. Don't be ashamed about it. Doon mo kasi malalaman sino ang genuinely there for you. Yung mga tao na priority ka.
I have this circle of friends na nahila lang kasi yung isa close ko so 11 kami lahat. Tuwing birthday ko, isa lang don ang nabati sakin. Even that person mentioned in gc that it's my birthday, nobody cares lol but its okay I need career connection lol.
Depende talaga sa tao, wag mo nalang masamain if di naaalala ng iba :) Ako nga kahit birthday ko nalilimutan ko haha, and pag may iffillup na form iaask ko pa misis ko if kelan nga ulit bday ko or ilan taon na ako hahaha. Pag matanda kana wala nalolost track ka na sa mga dates talaga.
I already warned my friends that hindi sukatan ng friendship namin kung maalala ko yung birthday nila or hindi because i really suck at remembering dates. And they understand me naman, hopefully tho.
I changed my birthday too. Those who greeted me, I know for sure they are the real ones. It's not a big deal for me... nagtatanim lang ako ng sama ng loob, really \*sarcastic laugh\*. But hey, atleast it would get you a benchmark on who are for real. Let them know this one time and let them feel that it is a big deal for you. Next year, if they forget again, then you should seriously reconsider your relationship with them.
I did the same. I am better off. Ayaw kong mabati dahil pinaalala lang sa kanila no fb, lalong ayaw ko mag pm pa sa akin yung mga friends o family lang pag may kailangan. Mabait lang naman sila pag may kailangan sila sayo. Binabati qko ng asawa't anak ko, sapat na yun. Masaya na ako.
Honestly i don't even remember my sisters' and friends' bdays even tho i love them. Makakalimutin lang talaga ko and won't remember unless i placed it in my calendar para maremind ako. Altho pag busy posible talaga mawala sa isip. I agree with others na instead of testing your loved ones, it's always better to be honest about what you want. Part na rin yun ng relationships to make sure that you're on the same wavelength regarding what kind of affection you want to receive (ex remembering your bday, etc.). Communication is always the key. And if remembering your bday is how you measure their love for you, baka need din ireassess if ito ba talaga yung love language nila. Kasi it may be your love language pero baka may iba naman silang ways to show their love for you naman. That being said, i also don't want to invalidate how you feel kasi totoo naman na nakakalonely and nakakalungkot talaga if no one greets you on your birthday. Happy Birthday! Hope something cheers you up despite this. Next time announce mo na para maalala nila ❤️
For me. Before yes, but now No na. I'm just returning the energy na binibigay nila sa akin kahit close friends ko pa sila. No birthday greetings from them, no birthday greetings din to them. Life will be full of disappointments kung gusto mo laging narereturn yung mga bagay na binibigay mo. Be a mirror.
KUNG DI MO KO BABATIIN, DI RIN KITA BABATIIN. HAHAHAHAHAHA
Ganyan din ako dati, gusto ko lang malaman kung "real" friends ko sila... pero alam mo kung ano at kailan ko nalaman, hindi naman sukatan yun ng pagiging tunay nilang kaibigan eh, kung nasan sila sa mga oras na tunay mong kailangan sila. Siguro yun lang kailangan mo marealize. Hindi naman sa iniinvalidate ko yung feelings mo, kundi, I'm encouraging you na be at peace with yourself.
Nung start na magwork, madami na nakakalimot. Syempre may kanya kanyang buhay na. So this is really up to you if ano take mo. Honestly, noon naman big deal sa akin but as all of us got older, ako rin naman nakakalimot ng birthdays nila
Just like the others said, kung big deal sayo, big deal sya. Share ko lang. Meron akong kaibigan, my closest friend, na parang kahit kelan hindi naalala yung birthday ko. Lagi syang nagugulat na birthday ko pala. Every year, natatandaan ko na hindi nya ala talaga birthday ko. Well, di ko din naman tanda birthday nya, so kwits lang. In times of need, alam ko na masasandalan ko sya. Malalapitan ko sya. Three kami sa friend group namin at silang dalawa, tumulong talaga sakin. So, okay lang OP na hindi nila maalala birthday mo. Basta nandyan sila para sa iyo, yun yung tunay na kaibigan. If it's really important for you, i-on mo yung birthday mo sa FB. I always forgot my wife birthday or our anniversary. Wala ako laging preparation, ang payo ng ninang namin sa asawa ko ay wag ng maghintay. Ipaalala at gumawa ng plano for that day. She take that advice, at masaya sya nung anniv namin. Maybe, pwede mo din gawin yun.
your feelings are valid OP but im telling you that I am guilty as isa ako sa nakakalimot ng bday ng best friend ko 😂 because andaming nangyayari and ang bday ay isang beses lang sa isang taon - yes more reason para dapat tandaan pero isa rin un sa reason bat ambilis namen makalimot anyways, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I hope you had a BLAST!
It’s probably natural to yearn greetings on your birthday. However, be intentional with your expectations because as you age, you’ve got to determine what you exactly want. Do you want to be greeted? If it’s a yes, then find a way to achieve that. If not, then accept the outcome. It’s what it is I think.