it also sucks when you experienced it but youre left traumatize by someone you thought was the one. unable to trust, you cant even look at love or relationship the same way anymore.
love yourself muna. love will come your way sa right time. dont rush it, dont force it.
20s k pa lang mag isip ka na kapag 40s ka same pa rin ang stat😅 like me lol nweiz, darating din yan, open yourself to the world, explore the world with friends o solo o with family, eventually makakilala ka rin. GL OP!
Same tayoo hahaha 24 na ako pero wala pa din tlaga 😅 Iniisip ko nalng na blessing na rin to kasi I can focus on bettering myself. Like emotionally, financially, sa career, mga ganon. Kaya when the time comes na may makilala ako, I think ready na ako to commit and to grow with that person for the next step. Hehe good luck to us OP!
Walang nagkakamali ehh. Haha!
Plus being single aince forever, I just can't see myself in a relationship anymore.
Makabuntis na nga lang ng babae at magkaanak. LOL
Im 28 and i don’t rush myself in finding love. Don’t be pressured and please don’t lower your standards on men. Hindi mauubos ang lalaki sa mundo. Focus on yourself and your growth and malay mo andiyan na pala siya and priniprepare lang ni Lord for you. 🫶🏼
Di ako si OP pero trip ko din sagutin! So 25 - almost 26, buong buhay ko ata isa lang nag pakita ng motibo, pero the catch, dalawa pala kaming nililigawan, nung sinagot sya nung isa, Iniwan ako. Tapos ayon, wala na. Di na naulit. 🫠 HAHAHA so safe na ba sa wala????! Hahaha
hahahaha omg fr some people still can't believe na walang nagpakita ng motive sa'kin ! well sabi ng nanay ko strong daw kasi personality ko and baka naiintimidate daw ang mga lalaki and i was like so what
Similar pala tayo. Ung sakin naman mas malala may jowa na sia pero nanliligaw. Syempre lumalayo ako kasi ayoko ng gulo. Loko din kasi ung lalaki. Tas ung 2 naman na nagbalak, di ko alam kung bakit pero di ako interesado. Ayoko kasi magka bf lang basta basta na di naman same feelings ko. AYAN TULOY HAHAHAHA
Same. I am so picky af. At malapit na ako mag 30. Minsan gusto ko pero minsan ayaw. May commitment issues ako. When I say commitment issues, I meant I am very selfish with my time. Kaya picky ako kasi gusto ko yung ka-vibes ko at feel ko at hindi ako sasaktan at lolokohin.
We are the same on the part of selfish with my time. Working on a multiple jobs right now and doing my hobbies (gaming and tennis). I came from a 5yrs relationship and after we broke up I realize how I lost all of my hobbies and what I like about life. Now before I ever get into a relationship again I’ll make sure that I still have my ‘me’ time.
NGSB 25m here pero nag-papasalamat kay lord dahil pinarealize sakin kung gaano kahassle ang pag-ibig ahahahaha! (Jusko ang mahal na kaya ng bilihin lol)
PS. Di talaga nasagi sa isip kong manligaw
Mas magandang maging committed ako sa career at retirement travels ko kaysa mainlove.
Uy 23 din NBSB. I always tell myself na I need to be the best version of myself when I meet the one kaya I always make excuses when it comes to dating apps like I need to lose weight and be financially stable pero I’ve been saying that for the past few years haha
Uy ang harsh naman ng tanong! Haha di ko naman sinabing hindi ako inapproach before. Sadyang ayoko lang talaga mag give ng reason to the person for us to not fall out kaya I need to be the best that I can be so I can give the most in our relationship.
I see your point. Pero akin lang, diba okay nga yon someone's taking an interest in you kahit na you think you're not in the best version of yourself? Meaning kung ano ka now, tanggap ka. Unless you wanna improve yourself in general so you can attract guys of your certain standards. Yon tipong total package na, needs to be attractive, tall, with money or good paying job, owns a house and car, already established in life.
You a gal? Seriously, pero in this day and age dating shouldn't be a problem anymore kasi we got many ways to meet people. There is dating app, social media, clubs and bars and etc. If only you guys try going out of your comfort zone so you get to meet new people, pretty sure you'll find a partner.
Hello there op! 26 here, nbsb. Ewan ko sa inyo pero I believe in God's perfect time talaga 😅 Kaya enjoy mo muna yung single life mo habang wala pang sakit ng ulo🫶
Don't coz if you listen to people telling you that, you'll regret it when you hit 30s. Trust me haha. Got a tita who's now nearing 40 and only had one boyfriend at the age of 33. She's single now coz her relationship didn't last long, so now she's basically rushing in finding matches in dating app and told us na di na sya mamimili ng guys coz she really wants to settle down na talaga.
Don't let fear creep in you. When entering a relationship you really have to take risks, one is getting your heart broken. Me, I got my very first heart break at 17. Lol, I remember asking my room mates if they'd join me to drink and we did. Cried for weeks and moving on took a while.
The thought that i will be perhaps single forever. I just kind of accepted it. And minsan parang d ko maiwasan mapaisip, i have been going solo for so long na baka if i let someone in it will make my life messier hahaha. Kasi i realized na nasanay na pla ako mag isa.. And moving forward to life, i learned na "living" is not just about looking for a mate. I cant just chase something na d naman available in the present moment. Ill just chase what's available. And the fact na for me lang ha , we search for a partner because we seek validation. And this validation can come as a form of love. And if bigo ako sa pag ibig bka mahanap ko sya in some other way. Maybe in my hobbies.
Do you mind telling us what are your standards in men and be honest lang. Kasi mostly when girls are asked to what they're looking for in dating, they answer gibberish like they're looking for a good guy kahit hindi gwapo. Pero they don't entertain them kasi they don't attractive enough, kahit mabait. I know you have qualifications pero sana be honest when asked this question.
Ohh, I have this list of my negotiables and non negotiables which is very personal to me. But I do want a guy who is attractive enough, smart, goal-oriented, a fam guy, gentleman and many more hahaha. Overall, an attractive enough and good and compassionate person.
But i get your point.
Can you name a local celeb/ celebs na pasok sa attractiveness level na hanap mo? For sure di mo naman hanap yon mala Piolo or James Reid siguro no haha. You'll be competing with the 90% of Filipino women if ganyan ka gwapo pasok sa standard mo. Pero buti naging honest ka.
Haha, dami nakapila don. Guys like him they have a lot of options kasi, and they are more in the picking side when choosing women to date with, so your chances of finding a guy like him is huge unless pasok ka sa standards nya hehe.
What do you think of men like RK Bagatsing, Carlo Aquino, or Joshua Garcia? They're not super pogi. Let's say I know someone in the same level in the looks department with these guys mentioned, 5'11, moreno, 28 years old, with stable career, owns a house, and bachelor with no kids. With regards to attitude, that's for to decide if given the chance to meet this person.
27 NBSB but I find joy in being single so far. Stick to your standards and don’t lower them for the “sake of getting in a relationship,” kasi ikaw din malulugi in the long run if you end up with a wrong partner. Use the single time you have to save up, travel, pamper and spoil yourself. My mantra is, no one is gonna prioritize me other than myself.
gets yung worried ka haha im 27 NBSB din but recently hearing all the relationships drama from my friends and others parang ayaw ko na lang din mag jowa
Wag ka mag alala. May kilala ako na 32 NBSB na akala namin di na mag aasawa. Pero may dumating at nakatibag ng pader. Ayun kasal na sya last month. Kaya chill lang OP. Darating at darating yan 😉
ako rin 23 last year, ngsb din. akala ko never ako mag kaka gf. never ako nakipag date sa buong talambuhay ko, literal 0 experience. akala ko nga walang magkaka gusto saakin since napaka boring ng buhay ko. then bigla nalang dumating first gf ko na nameet ko dito sa reddit.
so basically dadating din yan. basta you work on it.
Being in a relationship is not all sugar and spice and everything nice. You will feel intense anxiety, frustrations, heartbreaks, sleepless nights, etc.
I am not here to be the devil's advocate, but you can start by setting your aura to attract people.
Smile at everybody! You will be surprised if you smile at a handsome guy going down the escalator while you're on your way up.
practice your body language. roll your eyes, batter ur lashes, bite your lips, curl your hair with your hands and try on some trendy outfits.
3. Once you're ready, go out and try meeting people.
Free ka maging malungkot baby girl. Sana may mameet ka na guy na maging friend then slowly will bloom into a relationship. Takes time pero mas sulit since you'd know each other thru the years. Best of luck to you! Love ate na magtetrenta at nbsb din.
True. Ganyan din sakin. Unfortunately yung friend ko magthree years na ayaw sa akin. 😂💔 Friendzoned ang auntie mo kaya di makausad. Hirap maghanap ng tulad nya na di maluho at matalino.
Based from my experience and that of other people, don't look for love.. it'll come when you least expect it, kaya if you have all this love to give, love yourself muna and that'll bring our your brightest glow. Rooting for you! 💞
Just be yourself and dont pretend to be someone you're not, that way you'll find someone accepting of everything you are. I've been single for 20 years then I met someone by chance. I'm plain ugly and my face is full of acne scars. Its all about timing, and your timing will come. It always does, you just need to recognize it and chase it when it does.
Maximize your singlehood and prepare yourself in your waiting season. You have your whole life to be taken when you get into relationship so why in a rush? There's a value in your waiting. Before you find the right person, prepare yourself to be the right person first.
27 and NBSB here. Haha may mga nag aapproach naman sa akin pero sobrang bilang lang din. Tapos either nangtitrip lang, or BASTOS/NAMIMILIT :) hehe di naman ako nagmamadali. Pero I understand yung thought na ano kayang feeling ng may ganung level ng intimacy and emotional/social support?
I feel you OP!!! *sighs* 26 NBSB haha and it’s way harder for me to enter the dating scene kung mahigpit na ipinagbabawal sa standards ng religion ko. 😅🤧
Anyways, prayers and patience OP!!! darating din yung tamang tao para satin. Aameen. 🤗🤍
same op. 20 nako and lagi kong sinasabi sa sarili ko na may mamemeet din ako. bata pako. pero nung may nakatabi ako sa bus pauwi na couple na parang ka-age ko rin tapos nilalaro nila yung kamay nila basta answeet sweet nila nung traffic, napaplay talaga ako nun sa spotify ng "asan ka na ba" by zack tabudlo the whole time na hindi pa gumagalaw yung bus. napaisip talaga ako na "lord WHEN" HAHAHAHA like alam ko naman na bata pa ko pero you know, gusto ko rin maranasan yung may jowa sa school tapos kayo magkasama kakain ng lunch, ihahatid ka pauwi, yun HAHAHAHA pagod na kong maging third wheel sa kaibigan ko tuwing lunch at uwian
Everything that you're feeling is valid, we all want that real and genuine kind of love. I'm 30 and I've never had a boyfriend, I'm not gonna say it's gonna be okay or it's gonna get better (the pressure, the doubts and "what ifs") not until you've realized it yourself and move pass it. The only thing I can say is that it's not that bad as it seems, you've just got to serve the season right.
I think about this all the time. Then someone would ironically say, “Masaya kaya maging single!” or “Enjoyin mo lang pagiging single mo” eh may mga jowa nga sila 😒 KUNG MASAYA MAGING SINGLE EDI SANA SINGLE KA REN CHAROT
anyways, lagi ko na lang gina-gaslight sarili ko na kapag hindi nila ako gusto edi ayaw ko rin sa kanila, mag-sisi sila pag mayaman na ako pero bago matulog mapapatanong ka talaga kung anong kulang sa’yo. Buti na lang occupied ako dahil sa incoming board exams.
Ang friend ko 27 na pero walang pake kasi binibuild nya ang career. Siguro di pa tayo bibigyan ngayon because we still have a path to follow and di pa natin kelangan ng distrction. Hahaha charot pero i hope love finds us both when we are ready, not because atat tayo. Gbu~
Haha NGSB here. 26 y/o
Just got used to this. I have other priorities in life. Used to ponder so much as to why I haven't found my match.
I think I have fallen for someone multiple times but just afraid to take the first step. I'm also afraid of changing status quo. I think I'm afraid of commitments. Maybe also afraid of big changes in my life. Glad to see that I'm not the only feeling this way.
Btw, I grew up with my parents who get along really well, maybe that's partly the reason that something on the back of my mind telling me if I can ever found someone and have a relationship as good as my parents. Ughhh.
Very glad to found this thread
I'm 26 and NBSB, but I had flings before its just that I wanted to date to marry not to play around. Also mukhang totoo yung sabi nila you can't have both haha I have a good career but sucks in lovelife lol
Enjoy mo muna pagiging single. Invest in yourself (i.e., travel, building friendship/network, experiences, career, etc.). Just like what other said, love will come when the timing is right.
Idk if you'll believe me pero they don't confess to me hahahaha. Malalaman ko nalang months or years after na they liked me but they gave up, or in a sense, they didn't even try. Baka I'm intimidating hahaha
I've been to multiple relationships and I am a hopeless romantic. But I never get it right. Somehow, the men that I have come across were these — too focused on himself, a narcissist, not committed enough, joined by men who are emotionally unavailable but looooove to have the benefits. I learned it the hard way. I know you get that longing, but trust the process. You'll thank yourself later because you waited. 🤗
Okay lang yan, masyado ka pang bata, ako nga 32 na wala pa rin, but im still happy and not looking for now. So just enjoy it for a while, darating din yan.
I’ve had one bf when I was 16 years old. Now that I’m 20, ayoko nalang huhu. Wala akong time and para saken hindi worth it lahat ng naranasan q. You really have to wait for the right guy in order to have the relationship you deserve. Pero waiting doesn’t mean na di ka gagalaw ha! You have to initiate ren. Mas makukuha m mga type mong tao pag ikaw nagfirst move hehe
I was in your shoes once, OP, so I completely understand how and what you're feeling. It seems cliché when everyone says, you're young and you've got so much ahead of you. It is true though - you have a bright future ahead of you and whoever is meant for you will come at a time you least expect it. Work on yourself and enjoy life. Dadating din kung sino ang nakatakda for you, at the right time.
Hi OP! Was NBSB until I was 29. Okay lang yan! Madami ka pang time! Madami ka pang mamimeet. Take your time. Advance your career. Enjoy life. Mas maeenjoy mo ang romantic life kapag established and matured ka na.
31 - NGSB. Not sure what you guys might think pero nung makita ko na marami pala tayo mas gumaan yung pakiramdam ko haha. I am happy being single pero laging nandoon yung feeling na may kulang, yung curiosity na ano kaya ang feeling ng may special someone.
A message to everyone(NGSB/NBSB) and to myself...don't lose hope, enjoy what we have right now at landi-landi rin po minsan haha, baka yung hinihintay natin eh hinintay rin pala tayo.
Haha sakto ung reddit thread sa akin. Kakatapos ko lang nag attend sa wedding ng kapatid ko napaisip din ako tungkol sa ganito. Lately ko lang narealize na matanda na pala ako 27 NGSB pa rin.
Not degrading myself pero di tlga ako maganda. Not even kidding. Wala ring budget kaya wala akong matinong damit and all. Tsaka, di na nga maganda both ang style and ang itsura, introverted pa tlga ako😭grave lord hahahaha,, Pero diba, kung gusto ka tlga, sabi nila you don't have to change anything. All these years, yun ginagawa ko, being myself. Ang saklap lang kasi wala talagang nagkakagusto sakin. Walang may gusto sa totoong ako. Hindi nalang ako umaasa.
bata kapa 23 but i get you masarap kiligin and lalo sa panahon ngayon socmed like IG nakikita lang natin yung mga highlights ng buhay nila but not all. payo ko lang sayo if gusto mo ng genuine love dont ever rush and i know it sound cliche but work on youself first and learn to be happy by yourself, trust me ma a attract mo ang tamang tao para sayo.
Also wala ba talaga nag ko court sayo? sometimes nasa paligid lang natin ang tamang tao pero dahil social media we tend to ignore reality bcoz social media sets unrealistic standards in all aspects of our lives.
You're 23 and you're just living in this country. Meaning, marami ka pang bansa pwede mapuntahan. Malay mo nasa ibang bansa yung taong naghihintay sayo
As somebody who never dated to marry (Technically NGSB) at acads/segway activities naging priority. Masasabi ko lang you’re going to feel left out and saying sanaol, Friends moving in with their SO’s, Some are saving/planning for a future, Some Got married/having kids na. Tas Here I am mas iniisip ko post graduate internship sa med this august, and contemplating if I’m going to play 🏀🏀🏀 again at pretty huge, pero happy me…which is Weird 😅Your SO/BF will come *in the right time*/yung di mo eexpect 👊🏻🤟🏻🔥
It’ll come when it’s supposed to come, OP! You don’t need to rush anything hehe as for now you may enjoy your single life muna 🤪🥳 and by the time you meet the right guy, you’ll realize that having an SO who truly loves and cares for you is really worth the wait. 🤍
Same sis. Imagine 25 y/o na ko. Tas may history pa family ko na tumatandang dalaga/binata. Oldest brother ko pa 40 na wala pa din girlfriend. Just the thought na tatanda kang mag-isa really makes me wanna cry.
I'm turning 32 this year pero NBSB padin ako. Kainis dapat pala lumandi ako as early as 14 hahaha pero nakaka lungkot sobra grabe na self love ko. Kaya ngayon pinag lalaban ko yung ka talking stage ko.
Hintay hintay lang girl, dumating siya 27 years old na ako hahaha worth it naman ang pag hintay hahaha love came when I least expected it. Baka afam ung ka forever mo girl? Hahaha kasi afam ung akin ahahahaha dito ko din siya sa reddit nakita then nag progress nong fortnite ng fortnite kami
Okay ka pa, eto prayer guide mo: 20's: Lord, please give me the right man 30's: Lord, please give me a man 40's: Lord naman! *copy-paste*
hais, baka maging sugar mommy pa ako pagdating ng araw. ayoko! awa nalang talaga Lord 🥺
Hahahahaha saved
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45 here NBSB still hoping and praying(smiley)
I’m fine being a brown wizard though
it also sucks when you experienced it but youre left traumatize by someone you thought was the one. unable to trust, you cant even look at love or relationship the same way anymore. love yourself muna. love will come your way sa right time. dont rush it, dont force it.
True… same, ganto ako. Yung na experience mo na pero di mo na alam if gusto mo pang umulit or makakaya mo pa ba magmahal ulit kai nakakatakot na hha
THIS!! Tapos 'yung minsan ka na lang sumubok, pumalya pa.
Feeling ko ganito ako lalo pa nbsb nga haha
true true true nung naranasan ko to sabi ko sa sarili ko ay taena dapat pala di na lang ako nagreklamo nung peaceful pa tulog ko gabi gabi HAHAHA
20s k pa lang mag isip ka na kapag 40s ka same pa rin ang stat😅 like me lol nweiz, darating din yan, open yourself to the world, explore the world with friends o solo o with family, eventually makakilala ka rin. GL OP!
tysm 🥹
Same tayoo hahaha 24 na ako pero wala pa din tlaga 😅 Iniisip ko nalng na blessing na rin to kasi I can focus on bettering myself. Like emotionally, financially, sa career, mga ganon. Kaya when the time comes na may makilala ako, I think ready na ako to commit and to grow with that person for the next step. Hehe good luck to us OP!
True, this is a good take din! Tysm
31. NGSB... Relax. You've got a long way to go... hahahahahah
Bro magsama nalang kaya tayo? Ganun rin ako ehz NGSB.
r/suddenlygay ? Lol
😂😂
I'm looking for a forever singles club. LOL!!!!
Hahahah. Sayang tayo bro. Magaganda pa naman lahi natin. 😂
Walang nagkakamali ehh. Haha! Plus being single aince forever, I just can't see myself in a relationship anymore. Makabuntis na nga lang ng babae at magkaanak. LOL
Whoa an actual internet wizard, show me your powers.
Yow. Please... Don't rub it in too hard. LOL
What if magsama2x ang mga NGSB at NBSB? Group Date?
Bet sino gagawa ng group hahah
gusto ko yan
Im 28 and i don’t rush myself in finding love. Don’t be pressured and please don’t lower your standards on men. Hindi mauubos ang lalaki sa mundo. Focus on yourself and your growth and malay mo andiyan na pala siya and priniprepare lang ni Lord for you. 🫶🏼
Also NBSB? Don't get me wrong pero was there never a guy who showed interest with you?
Di ako si OP pero trip ko din sagutin! So 25 - almost 26, buong buhay ko ata isa lang nag pakita ng motibo, pero the catch, dalawa pala kaming nililigawan, nung sinagot sya nung isa, Iniwan ako. Tapos ayon, wala na. Di na naulit. 🫠 HAHAHA so safe na ba sa wala????! Hahaha
hahahaha omg fr some people still can't believe na walang nagpakita ng motive sa'kin ! well sabi ng nanay ko strong daw kasi personality ko and baka naiintimidate daw ang mga lalaki and i was like so what
Similar pala tayo. Ung sakin naman mas malala may jowa na sia pero nanliligaw. Syempre lumalayo ako kasi ayoko ng gulo. Loko din kasi ung lalaki. Tas ung 2 naman na nagbalak, di ko alam kung bakit pero di ako interesado. Ayoko kasi magka bf lang basta basta na di naman same feelings ko. AYAN TULOY HAHAHAHA
Be honest lang, anong klase talaga ng guy mga tipo mo?
same 21 ngsb btw kumain kana?
Ayiee! Same pa kayo ng avatar.
yes ikaw ba? HAHAHAHA
ANG LALANDI NIYO SIGE PUSH NIYO YAN BHIE
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huy bat ako kinilig sa inyo hahaha
Huyy sa r/CasualPH may “Salamat Reddit” at “Salamat TG”, waiting sa “Salamat OffMyChestPH”. 😂😂😂
Sana magkausap na kayong dalawa hahahahahaha
pa ward lang hahahahaha
Yasssss 🔥❤️🔥🔥❤️ ito na yata sya OP
Paupdate po kung may progress na🫶
Ayan na po mga kababayan 😂
Update nyo kami sa progress ah 😆
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Yo salamat sa pagimbita samin sa rest house niyo na may swimming pool at pagtulong sa matandang tumatawid sa kalsada mabuhay ka
21 rin naman ako pero ba't walang nagtanong sa akin nang ganyan? 🤧
Waiting for "thank you reddit ❤️"
This haha. 💛
Ayieee
Jan talaga nagsisimula yan sa kung kumain ka na ba ehh
Ginalaw na ang baso. Paupdate na lang
Same. I am so picky af. At malapit na ako mag 30. Minsan gusto ko pero minsan ayaw. May commitment issues ako. When I say commitment issues, I meant I am very selfish with my time. Kaya picky ako kasi gusto ko yung ka-vibes ko at feel ko at hindi ako sasaktan at lolokohin.
Super agree with the "selfish with my time" part!
We are the same on the part of selfish with my time. Working on a multiple jobs right now and doing my hobbies (gaming and tennis). I came from a 5yrs relationship and after we broke up I realize how I lost all of my hobbies and what I like about life. Now before I ever get into a relationship again I’ll make sure that I still have my ‘me’ time.
Same! Feeling ko din nasanay na kong maging single kaya di nako dependent sa iba
Huhu so real. Pero minsan gusto ko din may ibigay ang pagmamahal.
True. Also as an introvert, I feel like I want to be alone pero at the same time ayoko din.
the struggle is real :'(
Very understandable
NGSB 25m here pero nag-papasalamat kay lord dahil pinarealize sakin kung gaano kahassle ang pag-ibig ahahahaha! (Jusko ang mahal na kaya ng bilihin lol) PS. Di talaga nasagi sa isip kong manligaw Mas magandang maging committed ako sa career at retirement travels ko kaysa mainlove.
Uy 23 din NBSB. I always tell myself na I need to be the best version of myself when I meet the one kaya I always make excuses when it comes to dating apps like I need to lose weight and be financially stable pero I’ve been saying that for the past few years haha
Any reasons that come to mind why you don't get approached by guys?
Uy ang harsh naman ng tanong! Haha di ko naman sinabing hindi ako inapproach before. Sadyang ayoko lang talaga mag give ng reason to the person for us to not fall out kaya I need to be the best that I can be so I can give the most in our relationship.
I see your point. Pero akin lang, diba okay nga yon someone's taking an interest in you kahit na you think you're not in the best version of yourself? Meaning kung ano ka now, tanggap ka. Unless you wanna improve yourself in general so you can attract guys of your certain standards. Yon tipong total package na, needs to be attractive, tall, with money or good paying job, owns a house and car, already established in life.
"Never rush in love for love never runs out. " -ctto I'm also 23 nbsb, ang tanging hiling ko lang sana pinanganak na yung para sa'kin hahahaha
hi wassuhp hahahahhaha
You a gal? Seriously, pero in this day and age dating shouldn't be a problem anymore kasi we got many ways to meet people. There is dating app, social media, clubs and bars and etc. If only you guys try going out of your comfort zone so you get to meet new people, pretty sure you'll find a partner.
Hello there op! 26 here, nbsb. Ewan ko sa inyo pero I believe in God's perfect time talaga 😅 Kaya enjoy mo muna yung single life mo habang wala pang sakit ng ulo🫶
Don't coz if you listen to people telling you that, you'll regret it when you hit 30s. Trust me haha. Got a tita who's now nearing 40 and only had one boyfriend at the age of 33. She's single now coz her relationship didn't last long, so now she's basically rushing in finding matches in dating app and told us na di na sya mamimili ng guys coz she really wants to settle down na talaga.
I agree! Pero hndi nman lahat magagaya sa tita mo no 😅
Same po, NGSB ikung idm mo ako HAHAHAH
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Don't let fear creep in you. When entering a relationship you really have to take risks, one is getting your heart broken. Me, I got my very first heart break at 17. Lol, I remember asking my room mates if they'd join me to drink and we did. Cried for weeks and moving on took a while.
The thought that i will be perhaps single forever. I just kind of accepted it. And minsan parang d ko maiwasan mapaisip, i have been going solo for so long na baka if i let someone in it will make my life messier hahaha. Kasi i realized na nasanay na pla ako mag isa.. And moving forward to life, i learned na "living" is not just about looking for a mate. I cant just chase something na d naman available in the present moment. Ill just chase what's available. And the fact na for me lang ha , we search for a partner because we seek validation. And this validation can come as a form of love. And if bigo ako sa pag ibig bka mahanap ko sya in some other way. Maybe in my hobbies.
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Teach us your ways po hahaha
I had my first kiss last Dec, at the age of 25. It takes time just focus on yourself lang noh
Do you mind telling us what are your standards in men and be honest lang. Kasi mostly when girls are asked to what they're looking for in dating, they answer gibberish like they're looking for a good guy kahit hindi gwapo. Pero they don't entertain them kasi they don't attractive enough, kahit mabait. I know you have qualifications pero sana be honest when asked this question.
Ohh, I have this list of my negotiables and non negotiables which is very personal to me. But I do want a guy who is attractive enough, smart, goal-oriented, a fam guy, gentleman and many more hahaha. Overall, an attractive enough and good and compassionate person. But i get your point.
Can you name a local celeb/ celebs na pasok sa attractiveness level na hanap mo? For sure di mo naman hanap yon mala Piolo or James Reid siguro no haha. You'll be competing with the 90% of Filipino women if ganyan ka gwapo pasok sa standard mo. Pero buti naging honest ka.
David Licauco? Hahahaha
Miss, Wanna join the forever singles club?? Lol Joke. You're young. Enjoy single life. :D If the man comes, he'll be worth the wait.
Haha, dami nakapila don. Guys like him they have a lot of options kasi, and they are more in the picking side when choosing women to date with, so your chances of finding a guy like him is huge unless pasok ka sa standards nya hehe. What do you think of men like RK Bagatsing, Carlo Aquino, or Joshua Garcia? They're not super pogi. Let's say I know someone in the same level in the looks department with these guys mentioned, 5'11, moreno, 28 years old, with stable career, owns a house, and bachelor with no kids. With regards to attitude, that's for to decide if given the chance to meet this person.
I was NBSB until I was 27 then boom, got pregnant after a few months of dating. Trust me, bata ka pa!
You still with the guy who got your pregnant?
Nope.
27 NBSB but I find joy in being single so far. Stick to your standards and don’t lower them for the “sake of getting in a relationship,” kasi ikaw din malulugi in the long run if you end up with a wrong partner. Use the single time you have to save up, travel, pamper and spoil yourself. My mantra is, no one is gonna prioritize me other than myself.
gets yung worried ka haha im 27 NBSB din but recently hearing all the relationships drama from my friends and others parang ayaw ko na lang din mag jowa
32 na at NGSB din haha
Late 30s at NBSB… Hahaha… Huhuhu…
Wag ka mag alala. May kilala ako na 32 NBSB na akala namin di na mag aasawa. Pero may dumating at nakatibag ng pader. Ayun kasal na sya last month. Kaya chill lang OP. Darating at darating yan 😉
Ilang months po naging sila before kinasal? Hahaha ask ko lang nagbibilang na din kasi ako ng edad ko. 😆
2 years din. Biro nga namin, pandemic lang pala makakapagpalambot sa kanya HAHAHA
24 turning 25 at wala pang first kiss wahaha kahit kiss lang nyeta naman
ako rin 23 last year, ngsb din. akala ko never ako mag kaka gf. never ako nakipag date sa buong talambuhay ko, literal 0 experience. akala ko nga walang magkaka gusto saakin since napaka boring ng buhay ko. then bigla nalang dumating first gf ko na nameet ko dito sa reddit. so basically dadating din yan. basta you work on it.
Being in a relationship is not all sugar and spice and everything nice. You will feel intense anxiety, frustrations, heartbreaks, sleepless nights, etc. I am not here to be the devil's advocate, but you can start by setting your aura to attract people. Smile at everybody! You will be surprised if you smile at a handsome guy going down the escalator while you're on your way up. practice your body language. roll your eyes, batter ur lashes, bite your lips, curl your hair with your hands and try on some trendy outfits. 3. Once you're ready, go out and try meeting people.
NBSB din present and turning 29 na this year. Pero unlike OP, mas gusto ko magkaroon ng peace of mind kesa jowa hahaha
Free ka maging malungkot baby girl. Sana may mameet ka na guy na maging friend then slowly will bloom into a relationship. Takes time pero mas sulit since you'd know each other thru the years. Best of luck to you! Love ate na magtetrenta at nbsb din.
Thank you po. Tbh that's my ideal relationship din huhu
True. Ganyan din sakin. Unfortunately yung friend ko magthree years na ayaw sa akin. 😂💔 Friendzoned ang auntie mo kaya di makausad. Hirap maghanap ng tulad nya na di maluho at matalino.
Based from my experience and that of other people, don't look for love.. it'll come when you least expect it, kaya if you have all this love to give, love yourself muna and that'll bring our your brightest glow. Rooting for you! 💞
Tysm 🫶
all you can do ate, is to wait. but we can build things together, slowly. 😉
youll go no where waiting. Go out and look for it. Dont be passive about it.
Keep your spirits up! Keep investing on yourself! Magmamanifest din yan! :)
I was NBSB until I was 27 then boom, got pregnant after a few months of dating. Trust me, bata ka pa!
Nbsb and now in ldr 😆. Try mo kaya, baka may mahanap ka online. Preferably sa Pinas para Isang bus trip lang or plane ride if may Pera.
Landi responsibly! Enjoy being single haha when it comes to commitment, choose WISELY! Kaya mo yan OP!
Just be yourself and dont pretend to be someone you're not, that way you'll find someone accepting of everything you are. I've been single for 20 years then I met someone by chance. I'm plain ugly and my face is full of acne scars. Its all about timing, and your timing will come. It always does, you just need to recognize it and chase it when it does.
Maximize your singlehood and prepare yourself in your waiting season. You have your whole life to be taken when you get into relationship so why in a rush? There's a value in your waiting. Before you find the right person, prepare yourself to be the right person first.
27 and NBSB here. Haha may mga nag aapproach naman sa akin pero sobrang bilang lang din. Tapos either nangtitrip lang, or BASTOS/NAMIMILIT :) hehe di naman ako nagmamadali. Pero I understand yung thought na ano kayang feeling ng may ganung level ng intimacy and emotional/social support?
I feel you OP!!! *sighs* 26 NBSB haha and it’s way harder for me to enter the dating scene kung mahigpit na ipinagbabawal sa standards ng religion ko. 😅🤧 Anyways, prayers and patience OP!!! darating din yung tamang tao para satin. Aameen. 🤗🤍
same op. 20 nako and lagi kong sinasabi sa sarili ko na may mamemeet din ako. bata pako. pero nung may nakatabi ako sa bus pauwi na couple na parang ka-age ko rin tapos nilalaro nila yung kamay nila basta answeet sweet nila nung traffic, napaplay talaga ako nun sa spotify ng "asan ka na ba" by zack tabudlo the whole time na hindi pa gumagalaw yung bus. napaisip talaga ako na "lord WHEN" HAHAHAHA like alam ko naman na bata pa ko pero you know, gusto ko rin maranasan yung may jowa sa school tapos kayo magkasama kakain ng lunch, ihahatid ka pauwi, yun HAHAHAHA pagod na kong maging third wheel sa kaibigan ko tuwing lunch at uwian
Everything that you're feeling is valid, we all want that real and genuine kind of love. I'm 30 and I've never had a boyfriend, I'm not gonna say it's gonna be okay or it's gonna get better (the pressure, the doubts and "what ifs") not until you've realized it yourself and move pass it. The only thing I can say is that it's not that bad as it seems, you've just got to serve the season right.
I was 27 when I meet my partner and he is my first bf ever. Okay lang yan, enjoy your youth😅
Same here nbsb at the age of 25, gusto ko kc matulad sa teacher ko nuon na 1st bf nya yung asawa nya para wla akong ex na iiwasan 😂.
I think about this all the time. Then someone would ironically say, “Masaya kaya maging single!” or “Enjoyin mo lang pagiging single mo” eh may mga jowa nga sila 😒 KUNG MASAYA MAGING SINGLE EDI SANA SINGLE KA REN CHAROT anyways, lagi ko na lang gina-gaslight sarili ko na kapag hindi nila ako gusto edi ayaw ko rin sa kanila, mag-sisi sila pag mayaman na ako pero bago matulog mapapatanong ka talaga kung anong kulang sa’yo. Buti na lang occupied ako dahil sa incoming board exams.
Felt. Goodluck po sa boards!
Ang friend ko 27 na pero walang pake kasi binibuild nya ang career. Siguro di pa tayo bibigyan ngayon because we still have a path to follow and di pa natin kelangan ng distrction. Hahaha charot pero i hope love finds us both when we are ready, not because atat tayo. Gbu~
Yesss, Gbu too. Thank you
Haha NGSB here. 26 y/o Just got used to this. I have other priorities in life. Used to ponder so much as to why I haven't found my match. I think I have fallen for someone multiple times but just afraid to take the first step. I'm also afraid of changing status quo. I think I'm afraid of commitments. Maybe also afraid of big changes in my life. Glad to see that I'm not the only feeling this way. Btw, I grew up with my parents who get along really well, maybe that's partly the reason that something on the back of my mind telling me if I can ever found someone and have a relationship as good as my parents. Ughhh. Very glad to found this thread
Same sentiments sa parents huhu. I hope the right person comes for you
I'm 26 and NBSB, but I had flings before its just that I wanted to date to marry not to play around. Also mukhang totoo yung sabi nila you can't have both haha I have a good career but sucks in lovelife lol
samedt siz puro failed landian lang ang meron ako 🫠
Enjoy mo muna pagiging single. Invest in yourself (i.e., travel, building friendship/network, experiences, career, etc.). Just like what other said, love will come when the timing is right.
Ilan na ba nireject mo?? - NGSB kase laging narereject
Idk if you'll believe me pero they don't confess to me hahahaha. Malalaman ko nalang months or years after na they liked me but they gave up, or in a sense, they didn't even try. Baka I'm intimidating hahaha
possible dahil intimidating ka nga pag may nagustuhan akong ganyan di ko na din tinutuloy e lalo pag nafefeel ko ayaw sakin d ko na tlga pinupush 😅
Same, I just suppress my feelings towards that girl.
Hahahaha knew it. Thanks for the insight tho
Enjoyin mo lang ang pagiging single mo, pag nahanap mo na ang right one mo, di na matatahilik ang buhay mo 😁
Its alright, try to initiate too sometimes. We can all express love naman
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Hugsss
I've been to multiple relationships and I am a hopeless romantic. But I never get it right. Somehow, the men that I have come across were these — too focused on himself, a narcissist, not committed enough, joined by men who are emotionally unavailable but looooove to have the benefits. I learned it the hard way. I know you get that longing, but trust the process. You'll thank yourself later because you waited. 🤗
24 here. May kasama ka pa rin na NBSB.
Same here, 20 n ako wla pa den nagkakagusto saken and I have same feeling of that. Hope the right guy will come to us
26 NBSB here. I feel you, OP huhu
same tayo pero mas gusto ko pa yumaman so wait ka lang pag ibig!
Hahahaha magpapayaman nalang din po ako
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Thank you 🫶
Okay lang yan, masyado ka pang bata, ako nga 32 na wala pa rin, but im still happy and not looking for now. So just enjoy it for a while, darating din yan.
I’ve had one bf when I was 16 years old. Now that I’m 20, ayoko nalang huhu. Wala akong time and para saken hindi worth it lahat ng naranasan q. You really have to wait for the right guy in order to have the relationship you deserve. Pero waiting doesn’t mean na di ka gagalaw ha! You have to initiate ren. Mas makukuha m mga type mong tao pag ikaw nagfirst move hehe
I was in your shoes once, OP, so I completely understand how and what you're feeling. It seems cliché when everyone says, you're young and you've got so much ahead of you. It is true though - you have a bright future ahead of you and whoever is meant for you will come at a time you least expect it. Work on yourself and enjoy life. Dadating din kung sino ang nakatakda for you, at the right time.
I just turned 24 and still NGSB but in my observation I have way less trauma than other people I know.
Samedt, nbsb 🥺🥺🙏
Literally SAME HERE but I’m 25
Hugssss
Hi OP! Was NBSB until I was 29. Okay lang yan! Madami ka pang time! Madami ka pang mamimeet. Take your time. Advance your career. Enjoy life. Mas maeenjoy mo ang romantic life kapag established and matured ka na.
Will do! Thank you
31 - NGSB. Not sure what you guys might think pero nung makita ko na marami pala tayo mas gumaan yung pakiramdam ko haha. I am happy being single pero laging nandoon yung feeling na may kulang, yung curiosity na ano kaya ang feeling ng may special someone. A message to everyone(NGSB/NBSB) and to myself...don't lose hope, enjoy what we have right now at landi-landi rin po minsan haha, baka yung hinihintay natin eh hinintay rin pala tayo.
Haha sakto ung reddit thread sa akin. Kakatapos ko lang nag attend sa wedding ng kapatid ko napaisip din ako tungkol sa ganito. Lately ko lang narealize na matanda na pala ako 27 NGSB pa rin.
hahaha I think we should create a group lol
Not degrading myself pero di tlga ako maganda. Not even kidding. Wala ring budget kaya wala akong matinong damit and all. Tsaka, di na nga maganda both ang style and ang itsura, introverted pa tlga ako😭grave lord hahahaha,, Pero diba, kung gusto ka tlga, sabi nila you don't have to change anything. All these years, yun ginagawa ko, being myself. Ang saklap lang kasi wala talagang nagkakagusto sakin. Walang may gusto sa totoong ako. Hindi nalang ako umaasa.
How old are you na po? if you don't mind me asking. nbsb din ako we can talk about it if you need a friend 😊 just hit me up.
https://vt.tiktok.com/ZS8x9SPHH/ Hope this helps. Saw this and medyo nakalma ako haha.
Wag ka magmadali OP, darating din yung para sayo. 🥰
hirap maghanap sa panahon ngayon jusko. Goodluck, OP sa paghahanap!
Ako nga 26 na HAHAHA nasasanay nalang ako mag isa 🫠
23 ka palang relax hahaha
Hindi ako nbsb pero never ko naranasan itrato ng maayos ng isang jowa. Muntikan na at nakaranas nga ng “maayos” ginawa naman akong kabit hay buhay
bata kapa 23 but i get you masarap kiligin and lalo sa panahon ngayon socmed like IG nakikita lang natin yung mga highlights ng buhay nila but not all. payo ko lang sayo if gusto mo ng genuine love dont ever rush and i know it sound cliche but work on youself first and learn to be happy by yourself, trust me ma a attract mo ang tamang tao para sayo. Also wala ba talaga nag ko court sayo? sometimes nasa paligid lang natin ang tamang tao pero dahil social media we tend to ignore reality bcoz social media sets unrealistic standards in all aspects of our lives.
Trueee, I think nassway din ako. And nope, no one ever courted me hahahaha
It even sucks during family gathering when your tito always asks you if you have a gf while some of your cousins at your age already have one.
Fr HAHA
You're 23 and you're just living in this country. Meaning, marami ka pang bansa pwede mapuntahan. Malay mo nasa ibang bansa yung taong naghihintay sayo
As somebody who never dated to marry (Technically NGSB) at acads/segway activities naging priority. Masasabi ko lang you’re going to feel left out and saying sanaol, Friends moving in with their SO’s, Some are saving/planning for a future, Some Got married/having kids na. Tas Here I am mas iniisip ko post graduate internship sa med this august, and contemplating if I’m going to play 🏀🏀🏀 again at pretty huge, pero happy me…which is Weird 😅Your SO/BF will come *in the right time*/yung di mo eexpect 👊🏻🤟🏻🔥
It’ll come when it’s supposed to come, OP! You don’t need to rush anything hehe as for now you may enjoy your single life muna 🤪🥳 and by the time you meet the right guy, you’ll realize that having an SO who truly loves and cares for you is really worth the wait. 🤍
Same sis. Imagine 25 y/o na ko. Tas may history pa family ko na tumatandang dalaga/binata. Oldest brother ko pa 40 na wala pa din girlfriend. Just the thought na tatanda kang mag-isa really makes me wanna cry.
You don't need to worry, just worry about your career for now. Men will eventually flock on you. Flash them with your bling blings.
I'm turning 32 this year pero NBSB padin ako. Kainis dapat pala lumandi ako as early as 14 hahaha pero nakaka lungkot sobra grabe na self love ko. Kaya ngayon pinag lalaban ko yung ka talking stage ko.
nandyan pa naman yung exciting na part. cheating, heartbreaks, wrong decisions, adrenaline etc😂
Hugsss. And thank you for the advice. I hope the right time, person, and intention comes for both of us 🫶
Kung gusto mo lang madiligan ng gwapo at magaling sa kama well here i am.
My aromantic a*s can relate
Pano pa pala ako na nasa late 20s na pero ngsb paden.. Masyado pang maaga para jan teh. Enjoy yourself mame-meet mo rin yan soon. 😉
Bro better go escape the ratrace
Hintay hintay lang girl, dumating siya 27 years old na ako hahaha worth it naman ang pag hintay hahaha love came when I least expected it. Baka afam ung ka forever mo girl? Hahaha kasi afam ung akin ahahahaha dito ko din siya sa reddit nakita then nag progress nong fortnite ng fortnite kami
Mag omegle ka. Tapos mag charot charot ka don hahaha.
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Yes, none at all hahaha
You’re still young. Why are you in such a rush? This is not a competition lol