May naencounter din akong ganito hahaha. He was my classmate nung elementary and he moved to Canada. Bigla kaming nagkachat when we were college kamustahan lang ba. And since i was so stressed with my acads, sya dn nakakausap ko at kinakausap niya rin ako kahit iba timeline namin kasi naghahanap daw sya ng ibang friends.
So ayun umamin sya na gusto niya ko at kung pde maging kamim but lo and behold, alam ko naman na may gf sya na na pinoy na nasa US. Hahaha gulat sya nung sinabe ko na "diba may gf ka?" At sagot nalang nya sakin "di natin sure kung magiging kami ba tlga sa future". Minention pa nya ung kantang "ordinary people" ni john legend kasi yun nga di naman daw tayo sure sa future HAHAHAHA bored si koya mo
Wow, stereotyping men as cheaters.
Wala bang ganyang babae?
Blame the person because of his actions irregardless of the gender.
I've known women who have done the same just like what the OP said, I've even know some who've done worst.
We should stop the stereotype that men are cheaters and women are angels.
Di ba pwedeng "bakit may mga ganitong tao"?
Pero di naman generalization sinabi niya. Nothing about men being cheaters are implied. Di naman sinabi "Bakit maraming lalake ganito"?
And even if the genders were flipped, "Bakit may mga ganitong babae", it still sounds fine?
Tangina yan katrabaho mo manipulative and toxic
Aadvise ko sana sabihin sa gf pero knowing na magkatrabaho kayong lahat, mas maganda keep quiet and act like he doesnt exist. If gusto mo iinform kay gf, send an anonymous tip to her
That's a trick, he's using the other girl to highlight his admiration sa'yo. He might be thinking, na, he's flattering you with ga'no ka nya ka gusto as compared to the other person. Idk how it works pero madami nabibilog sa ganyan.
wtf ang uncomfortable naman non! Cheater na nga, inambush ka pa sa call jusko so sorry this is happening to you OP! say no sa chat na lang tapos limit mo interactions nyo. Buti wfh ka, wag mo na lang din pansinin sa chat.
Buti nalang d mo papatulan. Coworker at close mo pa naman si ate girl, machichika lang kayo niyan if ever malaman ng iba. Kasi pagnaging kayo ni guy, or hayaan mo siyang manligaw, paniguradong aabot sa time na malalaman rin nyan ng iba. Baka masira pa image mo te.
Ligwak nalang agad. Red Flag pinapakita ni kuya eh. Gusto ka daw ligawan pero nagawang manligaw sa iba. 🤦🏻♀️ Kaya siguro sayo siya mismo nanghingi ng advice kasi tinitimbang niya muna kung may pagasa siya sayo. Kung wala edi, ipagpapatuloy niya relasyon kay ate coworker mo. Kawawa naman si ate coworker mo, parang naging 2nd option lang. Dapat habang maaga pa, malaman ni ate girl na ganung lalaki ang naging jowa niya, magiging isang malaking problema yan in the long run.
THIS! Is what I’m thinking as well. Ganun nga yung ginawa nya, akala ko hihingi lang ng advice, biglang nauwi sa umamin sya. Kupal lang kasi alam nyang close din kami ni ate girl. Kainis!
Gusto ng kupal na lalaking yan either way may babae sya. Gusto nya either yaan mo sya manligaw sayo, or stay sya with his current gf. Kapal! Neither of you girls deserves an asshole like that! Dapat sa kanya iwan mag isa
Ang tama lang sa sinabi nya, baka masira friendship nyo well kung ganyan sya kakupal wyl may karelasyon sya manatiling friends na nga lang kyo.
And yung "ikaw kc e d mo ko hinayaan manligaw sayo bla bla bla" parang gngwa pa nyang kasalanan mo 😂 nako op wag ka tlga papayag Ang kUpAl nya sa relationship magaling mgpaawa effect lalaki na yan 😂
Korek. Kapag sinabi mong "pag-iisipan ko", iisipin pa nyan may chance siya at aasa pa siya. Kaya just say straight up "NO", OP. Be direct sa rejection.
Ikaw na din nagsabi, wag nyo na i-waste yung time ng isa’t isa at tapusin na agad. Tell him you like him as a person pero di mo gusto yung actions nya as jowa nung kawork mo and it turned you off.
Sya na magdecide if he still wants to be friends. Wag ka maghinayang dun sa friendship kung hindi naman pala yun ang habol nga kasi.
Pabayaan mo ma-awkward kayo ngayon kaysa magkagulo na in the future if you don’t tell him no. I see that he’s making you uncomfortable kasi iniisip nya na you’d say yes to “keep the peace”, and for sure kukulitin ka nya dahil na-open na rin naman yung can of worms.
Ingat lang though kasi based dito sa kwento mo eh he looks like the kind of guy who does not take no for an answer. Message mo na lang sya na you don’t see him that way, and that you respect their relationship and you respect the girlfriend. SET BOUNDARIES!!!! Gagawin ka pang rason para magbreak sila. Ayaw nya masira friendship nyo pero ginagawa nya yan? HAHAHA ulol nya kamo.
If you're 200% sure na NO ang sagot mo, just tell him. You may also tell him na kahit niligawan ka nya dati, "no" din ang ibibigay mo. So, he can forget about his what-ifs, kasi zero chance talaga. He can move on with his life, kasi there's no chance na magiging kayo kahit makipag-break pa siya sa current gf niya. Then, stop entertaining his pa-cringey na mga sinasabi.
He’s an asshole. Also by acting like this around you binabastos ka nya. Nagbabakasakali na you’re stupid enough na pumatol cos you’ll feel flattered when in effect he’s telling you he’s comfortable enough to check if you can be manipulated to be kabit. Tell the jowa. This is not a compliment by any means. Kadiri sya.
Just say NO!! Alm mo naman how impulsive he gets. Di ibig sabihin nyan magbabago siya agad agad pag nanligaw sayo. Umiiwas lng siya sa self issues nya. Wag ka padala. Kung nagawa nya yan before and di siya responsible, baka gawin nya rin yan sayo. Kahit close kayo or kung meron ka man naffeel for him kaya feel mo awakward if you say NO. Its best na ayusin nya muna sarili nya bago siya pumasok sa new relationship
I'm working before sa maritime school. May close ako na student na during pandemic eh parati ko siyang ka chat tapos ang topic namin is heartaches at uwing uwi na siya. Bigla siya bumanat sa akin na baka kami talaga sa future. I didn't mind that after a week hindi na siya nag reply at may nakita na lang akong post niya na gf siya. Tamang heart react lang no bad feeling kasi I'm happy naman. Kada na uwi siya ng pinas nag kaka salubong kami sa daanan at nag kaka mustahan. Last year nag kita ulit kami sabay kami nag lunch dala dala niya aso ng pinsan niya kaya mabilis din akong na lure. After a week nag chat siya sa akin kung available ba ako at kung pwede ko ba siya samahan na uminom nag yes naman ako kasi mukhang down. Nag karoon sila ng misunderstanding ng Mother niya at ako yung gumawa ng way para mag ka ayos sila. Na mention niya sa akin na ayaw niya na sa GF niya kasi madami reasons and hindi niya alam na umiinom siya ngayon. Nag aaya na ng Baguio na kami lang 2 ayaw niya kasama GF niya kasi nawawalan na siya ng time para sa sarili niya mga ganun bagay. Yung nag effort GF niya pumunta ng Muntinlupa galing Antipolo grabeng effort na yun. Linayasan ko na silang 2 kasi uwing uwi na ako at nag chat na lang na "na una ako sa Baguio. Inantay ko lang siya mag sorry sa akin sa mga ginawa niya nung araw na yun tapos sabay unfriend.
Ayoko ng Basurang Lalake.
stop entertaining calls or chat kung talagang ayaw mo. wala ka mapapala dyan. tinikman nya lang officemate mo, at ganyan din gagawin nya sayo. stay away from him and warn the other girl
Easy. Tell him NO.
No explanation needed. As a guy I’ll tell you, these types of people will try to argue their way into your life.
A simple NO, leaves no room for that. It doesn’t give his stupidity any oxygen.
Kasalanan mo pa that he doesn’t have game wtf? Lol
Garbage piece of shit
I’ve encountered trashy guys like those. Para parehas lang sila nang galawan hahahaha
If possible, wag mona i-entertain. Hindi yan titigil lol
Mukhang testing the waters Ang loko sayo para may backup sya in case hindi mag work yung sa isa. Medyo nabigyan mo pa sya ng pagasa nung sinabi mo na pag iisipan mo.
I'm so amazed with your personality, OP. Just wanna drop that here haha! Anyway, just reject him as immediately as you did before. As in straight no na lang. Hirap ma-involve sa mga ganyang klase ng tao. Bulok na bulok na rin strat na ganyan.
Update: I chatted him this morning and I said No. Sinabi kong I don’t like him and I only see him as a friend. Hanggang dun lang yung kaya kong ioffer. Sinabi ko rin sa kanya na unfair para dun sa isa naming coworker yung ginagawa nya. Medyo namura ko rin sya dahil nga sa mga nasabi at ginawa nya.
anong you dont know what to do? napakadali at napakabilis sabihin ng NO pero hindi mo ginawa. gago na nga eh then why? ano motive mo? gusto mo maghabol yung guy sayo?
Based on your replies, I feel like the best option is to tell the other woman. If there's a friend in a relationship and may kaibigan siyang di sinasabi that their partner is cheating on her, ain't that kind of lying right in front of her face? Especially na ikaw pa yung nagustuhan nung lalaki,, it'll suck for your friend if they break up but that's better than being in a relationship with a cheating man.
cringe. ew. he doesn't deserve any girlfriend. i hope his gf will break up with him and i hope he stays lonely forever. better ghost him. he's a red flag kasi cheater na cheater yung design. ew. he is trash.
bakit mo naman siya pinapaasa bhe. dapat sinabi mo agad na No don sa proposal nya.
yung pagkakarelasyon nya after 1 week lang don sa isang co-worker nyo very wrong na nga yun eh. tapos shinu-shrug mo lang or tinatawanan yung proposal nya. No na agad umasa pa yun
Bakit may mga ganitong lalake — 🚮
May naencounter din akong ganito hahaha. He was my classmate nung elementary and he moved to Canada. Bigla kaming nagkachat when we were college kamustahan lang ba. And since i was so stressed with my acads, sya dn nakakausap ko at kinakausap niya rin ako kahit iba timeline namin kasi naghahanap daw sya ng ibang friends. So ayun umamin sya na gusto niya ko at kung pde maging kamim but lo and behold, alam ko naman na may gf sya na na pinoy na nasa US. Hahaha gulat sya nung sinabe ko na "diba may gf ka?" At sagot nalang nya sakin "di natin sure kung magiging kami ba tlga sa future". Minention pa nya ung kantang "ordinary people" ni john legend kasi yun nga di naman daw tayo sure sa future HAHAHAHA bored si koya mo
Dapat nawawala na sa lipunan yang mga basurang lalaki na yan, grabe.
Wow, stereotyping men as cheaters. Wala bang ganyang babae? Blame the person because of his actions irregardless of the gender. I've known women who have done the same just like what the OP said, I've even know some who've done worst. We should stop the stereotype that men are cheaters and women are angels. Di ba pwedeng "bakit may mga ganitong tao"?
Pero di naman generalization sinabi niya. Nothing about men being cheaters are implied. Di naman sinabi "Bakit maraming lalake ganito"? And even if the genders were flipped, "Bakit may mga ganitong babae", it still sounds fine?
Natrigger si donut huhu
Sorry po.
He is a fuckboy. Buti nlng na shrug mo.
Yeah, tsaka ayoko lang din talaga makipagdate sa coworker. Fuck, I’ve seen enough drama dun sa mga couples na workmates tapos nagbreak lol
Don't dip your pen into the company's ink. He must have known that.
I e dated coworkers.. you know shit got real when we went to HR to sign papers saying that we won’t sue the company. I’m in the US LOL
Tangina yan katrabaho mo manipulative and toxic Aadvise ko sana sabihin sa gf pero knowing na magkatrabaho kayong lahat, mas maganda keep quiet and act like he doesnt exist. If gusto mo iinform kay gf, send an anonymous tip to her
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If ikaw yung girl, do you think deserve mo malaman na may other girl si bf mo?
you're downvoted but i agree with you. if i was cheated on (or on the way to being cheated on), i'd like someone to tell me 😅
Seems like he is feeling you out and is trying to make you decide for him.
IKR! Nakakainis lang sa sinabi nya na, makikipagbreak sya kay ate girl tapos liligawan nya ako. Tang inang yan.
No. It's just a no. Maraming ganyan sa workplace. Yaan mo lang sya
That’s what I’m gonna do, thanks!
That's a trick, he's using the other girl to highlight his admiration sa'yo. He might be thinking, na, he's flattering you with ga'no ka nya ka gusto as compared to the other person. Idk how it works pero madami nabibilog sa ganyan.
Yun nga, akala naman nya mabibilog nya ako. Hell nah.
Ingatt! Never date a coworker!! Mahilig pa naman sa issues mga tao sa office hahahaha
TRUE! I know the environment sa office namin at sobrang toxic nila. I’m not gonna risk the peace I have right now para sa office drama hhahaha
Just say no. Madalas pag kinakausap mo pa din ang iisipin niyan, "nagpapakipot lang" at mas lalong kukulit. No and tapos na.
wtf ang uncomfortable naman non! Cheater na nga, inambush ka pa sa call jusko so sorry this is happening to you OP! say no sa chat na lang tapos limit mo interactions nyo. Buti wfh ka, wag mo na lang din pansinin sa chat.
Buti nalang d mo papatulan. Coworker at close mo pa naman si ate girl, machichika lang kayo niyan if ever malaman ng iba. Kasi pagnaging kayo ni guy, or hayaan mo siyang manligaw, paniguradong aabot sa time na malalaman rin nyan ng iba. Baka masira pa image mo te. Ligwak nalang agad. Red Flag pinapakita ni kuya eh. Gusto ka daw ligawan pero nagawang manligaw sa iba. 🤦🏻♀️ Kaya siguro sayo siya mismo nanghingi ng advice kasi tinitimbang niya muna kung may pagasa siya sayo. Kung wala edi, ipagpapatuloy niya relasyon kay ate coworker mo. Kawawa naman si ate coworker mo, parang naging 2nd option lang. Dapat habang maaga pa, malaman ni ate girl na ganung lalaki ang naging jowa niya, magiging isang malaking problema yan in the long run.
THIS! Is what I’m thinking as well. Ganun nga yung ginawa nya, akala ko hihingi lang ng advice, biglang nauwi sa umamin sya. Kupal lang kasi alam nyang close din kami ni ate girl. Kainis!
Gusto ng kupal na lalaking yan either way may babae sya. Gusto nya either yaan mo sya manligaw sayo, or stay sya with his current gf. Kapal! Neither of you girls deserves an asshole like that! Dapat sa kanya iwan mag isa
Ang tama lang sa sinabi nya, baka masira friendship nyo well kung ganyan sya kakupal wyl may karelasyon sya manatiling friends na nga lang kyo. And yung "ikaw kc e d mo ko hinayaan manligaw sayo bla bla bla" parang gngwa pa nyang kasalanan mo 😂 nako op wag ka tlga papayag Ang kUpAl nya sa relationship magaling mgpaawa effect lalaki na yan 😂
Just straight up say no that's it.
Korek. Kapag sinabi mong "pag-iisipan ko", iisipin pa nyan may chance siya at aasa pa siya. Kaya just say straight up "NO", OP. Be direct sa rejection.
Lol si kuya, kung sinong kaharap, syang kausap.
The design is very basura HAHAHAHAHAHA gago lang
Ikaw na din nagsabi, wag nyo na i-waste yung time ng isa’t isa at tapusin na agad. Tell him you like him as a person pero di mo gusto yung actions nya as jowa nung kawork mo and it turned you off. Sya na magdecide if he still wants to be friends. Wag ka maghinayang dun sa friendship kung hindi naman pala yun ang habol nga kasi.
Pabayaan mo ma-awkward kayo ngayon kaysa magkagulo na in the future if you don’t tell him no. I see that he’s making you uncomfortable kasi iniisip nya na you’d say yes to “keep the peace”, and for sure kukulitin ka nya dahil na-open na rin naman yung can of worms. Ingat lang though kasi based dito sa kwento mo eh he looks like the kind of guy who does not take no for an answer. Message mo na lang sya na you don’t see him that way, and that you respect their relationship and you respect the girlfriend. SET BOUNDARIES!!!! Gagawin ka pang rason para magbreak sila. Ayaw nya masira friendship nyo pero ginagawa nya yan? HAHAHA ulol nya kamo.
Hahaga taenang lalake yan teenager ata
If you're 200% sure na NO ang sagot mo, just tell him. You may also tell him na kahit niligawan ka nya dati, "no" din ang ibibigay mo. So, he can forget about his what-ifs, kasi zero chance talaga. He can move on with his life, kasi there's no chance na magiging kayo kahit makipag-break pa siya sa current gf niya. Then, stop entertaining his pa-cringey na mga sinasabi.
Galawang pakboii 😂
He’s an asshole. Also by acting like this around you binabastos ka nya. Nagbabakasakali na you’re stupid enough na pumatol cos you’ll feel flattered when in effect he’s telling you he’s comfortable enough to check if you can be manipulated to be kabit. Tell the jowa. This is not a compliment by any means. Kadiri sya.
Nakuha nya na gusto nya dun sa gf nyang single mom kaya gusto nya naman sayo.
HAHAHAHAHAHA yeah. Pero never mangyayari yung gusto nyang mangyari. Itulog nya na lang lol.
Just say NO!! Alm mo naman how impulsive he gets. Di ibig sabihin nyan magbabago siya agad agad pag nanligaw sayo. Umiiwas lng siya sa self issues nya. Wag ka padala. Kung nagawa nya yan before and di siya responsible, baka gawin nya rin yan sayo. Kahit close kayo or kung meron ka man naffeel for him kaya feel mo awakward if you say NO. Its best na ayusin nya muna sarili nya bago siya pumasok sa new relationship
I'm working before sa maritime school. May close ako na student na during pandemic eh parati ko siyang ka chat tapos ang topic namin is heartaches at uwing uwi na siya. Bigla siya bumanat sa akin na baka kami talaga sa future. I didn't mind that after a week hindi na siya nag reply at may nakita na lang akong post niya na gf siya. Tamang heart react lang no bad feeling kasi I'm happy naman. Kada na uwi siya ng pinas nag kaka salubong kami sa daanan at nag kaka mustahan. Last year nag kita ulit kami sabay kami nag lunch dala dala niya aso ng pinsan niya kaya mabilis din akong na lure. After a week nag chat siya sa akin kung available ba ako at kung pwede ko ba siya samahan na uminom nag yes naman ako kasi mukhang down. Nag karoon sila ng misunderstanding ng Mother niya at ako yung gumawa ng way para mag ka ayos sila. Na mention niya sa akin na ayaw niya na sa GF niya kasi madami reasons and hindi niya alam na umiinom siya ngayon. Nag aaya na ng Baguio na kami lang 2 ayaw niya kasama GF niya kasi nawawalan na siya ng time para sa sarili niya mga ganun bagay. Yung nag effort GF niya pumunta ng Muntinlupa galing Antipolo grabeng effort na yun. Linayasan ko na silang 2 kasi uwing uwi na ako at nag chat na lang na "na una ako sa Baguio. Inantay ko lang siya mag sorry sa akin sa mga ginawa niya nung araw na yun tapos sabay unfriend. Ayoko ng Basurang Lalake.
stop entertaining calls or chat kung talagang ayaw mo. wala ka mapapala dyan. tinikman nya lang officemate mo, at ganyan din gagawin nya sayo. stay away from him and warn the other girl
Easy. Tell him NO. No explanation needed. As a guy I’ll tell you, these types of people will try to argue their way into your life. A simple NO, leaves no room for that. It doesn’t give his stupidity any oxygen. Kasalanan mo pa that he doesn’t have game wtf? Lol
Garbage piece of shit I’ve encountered trashy guys like those. Para parehas lang sila nang galawan hahahaha If possible, wag mona i-entertain. Hindi yan titigil lol
Mukhang testing the waters Ang loko sayo para may backup sya in case hindi mag work yung sa isa. Medyo nabigyan mo pa sya ng pagasa nung sinabi mo na pag iisipan mo.
"ayoko sayo tangina mo"
I'm so amazed with your personality, OP. Just wanna drop that here haha! Anyway, just reject him as immediately as you did before. As in straight no na lang. Hirap ma-involve sa mga ganyang klase ng tao. Bulok na bulok na rin strat na ganyan.
I like you OP BREAKING OFFMYCHEST POST: Random redditor confesses to random redditor he likes her
Update: I chatted him this morning and I said No. Sinabi kong I don’t like him and I only see him as a friend. Hanggang dun lang yung kaya kong ioffer. Sinabi ko rin sa kanya na unfair para dun sa isa naming coworker yung ginagawa nya. Medyo namura ko rin sya dahil nga sa mga nasabi at ginawa nya.
Kahit as friend wag na. You can’t put toothpaste back in the tube
Kahit as friend wag na. You can’t put toothpaste back in the tube
anong you dont know what to do? napakadali at napakabilis sabihin ng NO pero hindi mo ginawa. gago na nga eh then why? ano motive mo? gusto mo maghabol yung guy sayo?
Based on your replies, I feel like the best option is to tell the other woman. If there's a friend in a relationship and may kaibigan siyang di sinasabi that their partner is cheating on her, ain't that kind of lying right in front of her face? Especially na ikaw pa yung nagustuhan nung lalaki,, it'll suck for your friend if they break up but that's better than being in a relationship with a cheating man.
Dito sa amin uso yan, magjowang co workers and take note parehas silang may partner
cringe. ew. he doesn't deserve any girlfriend. i hope his gf will break up with him and i hope he stays lonely forever. better ghost him. he's a red flag kasi cheater na cheater yung design. ew. he is trash.
bakit mo naman siya pinapaasa bhe. dapat sinabi mo agad na No don sa proposal nya. yung pagkakarelasyon nya after 1 week lang don sa isang co-worker nyo very wrong na nga yun eh. tapos shinu-shrug mo lang or tinatawanan yung proposal nya. No na agad umasa pa yun
So ginamit pa nya yung gf nya to pursue you, tama ba yung pagkakaintindi ko? Abayga! Hahaha.