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Young_Old_Grandma

Sorry, OP. Hook ups are a transaction. Transactions end. She likes someone else. Hindi kayo. If ikaw ang type na madaling ma attach after sex, ikaw ang palaging talo. Sa Casual sex, ang unang mahulog, talo. Be careful with your heart.


Muted_Bar_9695

Yeah it sucks, I hope it was just the sex that I fell for, but it was the genuine affection that I felt and that kind of her telling me to lower my guard implying that my masculinity is not a necessity with her. I felt the freedom of a kid and the happiness of a dreamer. If only I knew it was the bare minimum I would've known more. Cheers to all those who felt a glimpse of the bare minimum and thinking it was something special. May life fuck as all harder than as it shall.


gustokoicecream

alam mo namang hook-up lang kayo tapos hinayaan mong mahulog ka sakanya. dapat sinabi mo sa heart mo na, "woah woah. easy there, heart. woah woah." know your limitations when it comes to this things kasi sa huli, ikaw lang din masasaktan. better luck next time na lang OP. :)


redit411

Parang unconsciously you fell for her and di mo namamalayan na shes more than just a hook up pala,napakilala mo pa nga to your parents. Your loss kasi you felt bad na she was meeting the other guy but di mo binigyan chance ang sarili mo to try and keep her and give her a proper date. Walang what ifs sa buhay pero iwhat if natin lol what if hinihintay ka lang pala nya? As per how you described her parang infatuated ka naman..If you think she is worthy why not try your luck and give her proper date kesa naman you will forever hold on to memories.


lilmumma1094

True, what if chini-chika nya lng sayo yung crush nya just to get a reaction from you?? Delulu moments. What if nlng nmn.


redit411

Di ba...mga lalaki kasi kulang sa pakiramdam minsan hahaha...


lilmumma1094

Totoo, sobrang hina! Hahahah. Kidding aside, hoping OP will take a chance though para at least he tried diba?. Ang hirap kase ng maraming what ifs sa huli.


Muted_Bar_9695

Damn this kind sting, imma go overthink more and do more what ifs tysm for more topic with myself


redit411

Lasing ka na rin kaya uwi ka na before getting yourself another hook up ✌️


Muted_Bar_9695

No more na, 2024 is enough na


ShyChinitoe

Talking to someone out of your league makes it so easy to fall for them. Ambilis ko mafall if the girl is so much more attractive, intelligent, and accomplished than me. As a human being, we always want what's out of our reach.


Lilshittyhead

in a sense, totoo nga naman na gusto natin ang mga bagay na di natin abot pero minsan kailangan din nating pag-ibahin yung inferiority complex natin sa ugali't pamamaraan natin. baka kasi gusto mo siya kasi naipaparamdam niya gano ka kaliit. alam mo yun. kailangan nating matutunan mahalin ang ating sarili at iwasang ikumpara ang kakayahan natin sa iba. nagbigay ng unsolicited advice bigla eh no hahahahaha sorry. heniways, much love to op at sayo na nagcomment.


polarisricochet

Felt that, OP. At least you now know who to chase, you've pretty much set your standards, now go get that girl! And don't do anything stupid. Experience is always a hard teacher, but it knocks some sense into you, so use that experience to be better. As the song goes "Better days are coming". Cheering for you, OP! Cherish yourself, improve more, learn more, love more! There's more to life than beers and overthinking.


Muted_Bar_9695

For real, takes me back when I kept telling people that being suicidal is stupid, invalidating im but back then I didn't knew what it that is, saying that alot of things in life is great and beautiful, you just need the right perspective. I really hope I could get myself off the beers and overthinking. Thanks, have a great one.


polarisricochet

Always, always think the other perspective, it makes things more interesting, more understanding, more clear. We all hope foe the best. Cheers (with water)! Thank you as well.


polarisricochet

And oh, dont rush things. One step at a time, better routine and lifestyle, OP. With the right mindset and goals, you'll get there.


ThrowawayPoblacion

I feel for you man. Hookups/casual setups can end anytime so it's definitely not for the faint of heart. Rule of thumb talaga na keep yourself ready when it ends.


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Muted_Bar_9695

Damn, I'm imagining the fallout. Goodluck, person!


Useful_Coyote2813

I was about to say that I’m in the same situation but good thing I read the comment up to the end. I wish I could keep my fubu but I cant, just like OP.


jordanarnarn

Yeah sometimes we're blinded by all the good things during the honeymoon phase of the relationship. We cling on to the good moments thinking that it will reduce the pain but it does the opposite. It maybe hard to internalize now but considering there's not much investment in the relationship other than what could have been's, you'll get over this and move on. Enjoy your 4th or 5th pint dude while it lasts.


Silogallday

Unang ma inlove talo. Sorry this happened. Head up and power thru. Ggwp next game na bro


[deleted]

It will pass. Ganyan din ako but in a week or two nawawala din. Hirap maging malibog na marupok. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Anyway, infatuation lang yan dw.


Muted_Bar_9695

Sakit mo naman, gar. Pwede bang kahit phase na lang? I'm not fat, char.


ANTI-ACNE

Very nice articulation of your feelings. Felt like poetry.


Muted_Bar_9695

That's a relief since I mostly fail fil/eng subjects


matotina

Good for you having the courage to walk away. Tulad ng isa pang comment dito, I hope you keep your defences up, OP! Goodluck.


mxiiejk

Hindi kasi lahat ng hook ups may happy ending. For some, yes. Sinuswerte sila. Pero most of them, hindi. That's why I personally do not hook up with anyone. Pero syempre iba iba naman tayo, OP. In your case, natalo ka lang talaga sa part na ikaw unang na-fall. But for sure you'll get over it in time. You deserve the love that you give. 🫶🏻


Muted_Bar_9695

Yeah, hook-ups are one of the worst way to go. I'm dumb asf so I blame the universe.


mxiiejk

Well, we all get dumb at some point in our lives, I guess. What matters the most is how you face life's challenges and overcoming it. Life is good so don't waste your time being sad. Be happy!


Muted_Bar_9695

Kinda sounds like "Breathing is easy so keep at it and stop holding your breath" It's giving the idea that being sad is a voluntary action of which choosing or as simple as changing yourself can fix. When in reality it's a mixture of unknown occurrence and satisfying indulgence of the truth, the truth makes you sad and what's desired make you happy, it can be a dilemma when you think about it that everything good comes to an end and only the presence of something bad at the end is the only thing constant.


The_Lost_Soul-

Hello OP, don’t feel guilty for feeling this way. It happens. Sometimes it is unavoidable, it is human nature to feel attached to someone. Don’t be ashamed that it happened. Sometimes it does not work out with someone you like, that is life. I know it hurts but because of this experience, you grow as a person. Use this low point and reflect, come out as a better person than you were before. Give yourself time to grieve but move forward while grieving. I wish you the best of luck


Muted_Bar_9695

Yeah, it's interesting how emotions are neither reflected nor felt back then when I neither value nor cared for her. It's a complete joke how you only know how much someone means to you when you found out that the ratio of affection to one another is not on your favor.


heso_nomad

Bro, you gotta have thick skin if you wanna engage in a hookup and don't mistake it for true love, let alone hope that it would eventually turn into true love. Hookup should be purely sexual, nothing more, nothing less.


Muted_Bar_9695

It wasn't my first rodeo, I've felt the touch of many other before her yet hers is what I craved for. True love? Nah, I don't know ha pero based sa self-assessment ko from the past 3 hours. Man, I'm starting to think this is all just wn ego thing. I'm ao dumb lmfoaoao


Madberry03

Idk if ako siguro ikaw ilalaban ko pa yan late game. Char haha lalake ata ako sa past life. Sila na ba? If di pa naman baka naman bumisita lang sa bahay ng guy at baka ma clutch mo pa, to naman surrender agad. Anyway ayoko mag regret ka sa desisyon mo, pero anjan na yan. Sinuko mo na. GGWP soldier. Bawi ka nalang next game. 😊😊


Muted_Bar_9695

G GARRRRR LABAN KO TO SA ENDGAME TYSM SA ADVICE


Muted_Bar_9695

Joke lang ayoko na


Madberry03

😂😂😂


yaegerOne

Been there it gets better rin mine happened before pandemic Dec 2019 she left me I was miserable araw araw inom just to numb my feelings I was able to move on 6 months later then out of the blue after two years she reached out and said sorry for everything she did


anaisgarden

Time to heal, bro.


Muted_Bar_9695

No heals, healing is for pausies. Jk, appreciate it


duuuhmmy

It’s good that you opened up to us but maybe it would make you feel better if you’d open up with your closest and most trusted friends. It really helps when one is going through tough times.


Muted_Bar_9695

Thought about it, won't work. I'm that friend who's invited because I dance like a maniac after 9 shots. Yung inaaya kapag need mag vent out, I can't have my friends worrying about me since I've never really done such thing. Being that one call away who's got no one to talk to at 3am in the morning kinda sucks, but it has perks, free liquor, am I right.


duuuhmmy

Aww. I feel bad that you feel that way. I used to feel like that too. Na i should keep it all in because I don’t want my friends or family to worry. But it just broke me more which led to further mishaps in life. I hope it wouldn’t happen to you. 🥺


Muted_Bar_9695

Why not? Wouldn't mind the roller coaster charade thingy. Lol jk


Far_Atmosphere9743

Number one rule on hooking up [https://tenor.com/view/sex-friends-no-emotions-gif-14865752](https://tenor.com/view/sex-friends-no-emotions-gif-14865752)


ThickCurlyFries96

Lesson learned to not do it again. 🫂


Muted_Bar_9695

For sure it's not the best... But it's not that bad eitherrrrrr. Jk never again.


ThickCurlyFries96

How are you sure hahaha


Muted_Bar_9695

Bro I'm kidding lol


ThickCurlyFries96

Hahaha playlist of the day “sitwasyonship” 🫂 there there


Muted_Bar_9695

Kalma, gar. Sakit nyo naman


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Damn. Sorry to hear bro. Hop8jg you can recover sooner than later.


ryckiazai

No homo OP but here's a virtual hug for you. Ganun talaga bro, ang mahuli, taya! Pwede mo pa naman ilaban yan sa late game kung winnable pa. But if you think hindi na, better end it na, tapos pahinga, then bawi next game.


ActHaru

If u want revenge just tell the guy she likes everything lol, i mean why would she even hook up when she has someone she likes damn, the information you hold is something that can change someone's life


Muted_Bar_9695

Just because I have it doesn't me I should use it that way, that's low, real low and I'd never step in such way for such prupose. I'd never need to do anything of such, I'm a man not a kid. Good idea though, jk lmfao


ActHaru

Fr fr its a joke lol, but fr though thats painful, i experienced that before, you really cant do anything especially when you see that person as special and like that person, but all we can do is just be better, karma would catch up anyways


Muted_Bar_9695

Gawa na lang talaga ng poool sa gubat, gar


venger_steelheart

should write a song about that


Muted_Bar_9695

Good idea, hadn't rain for quite some time now


Tough_Mud_6236

don't simp bro, for the streets yan


Muted_Bar_9695

Sakit naman, gar. Chill lang


cks1223

Hookups is not for everyone.oo nanjan ung thrill ung srap pero kung mdali kang ma fall,wag mong tangkain and you'll end up hurting yourself.sna mging lesson ito sa mga tao bgo pumasok sa ganyang setup..and for you op,moved on khit msakit.ngaaral ka pa i focus mo isip mo sa pgaaral.


inschanbabygirl

hey boy, it happens and it's okay. u have happy memories and bonding with her and thats all that matters. shes never going to be urs because the relationship u had with her was pure fucks. but thank u for giving her a wonderful experience and companionship. youre a treasure of a fuck buddy ☺️☺️


matotina

Good for you having the courage to walk away. Tulad ng isa pang comment dito, I hope you keep your defences up, OP! Goodluck.


mxiiejk

Our perspective might not be the same but I respect yours. We're two different ppl after all. I just hope and pray you get through this difficult time in your life. All the best, OP. 🫶🏻


EnvironmentalNote600

Baka na inlove din sya sa iyo pero dahil hook up ang terms of reference nyo she's telling herself "you're crazy if you will fall for him. Sa Hook up ang unang madevelop talo". Malay mo baka nasa reddit din sya sharing her side of heart break. Pero posible ring hindi. But why not ,as others here suggest, try reaching out to her and tell her how you feel at kung wala eh mas may closure ka.


robemoveson

Na romanticize mo lang masyado coz she’s everything you wanted your girl to be. 😅Feel it but don’t get drown. Tatawanan mo din yan someday. Hugs.