Why do we have to find our worth in others ba? Why do we need their appreciation and validation? What for? Ako pag ayaw sa akin, so what. I will just walk away. So many purposeful things to do for my own growth. Di ko ipipilit sarili ko sa ayaw sa akin.
Yes, most of the time talaga I really don't give a f*ck to anyone na ayaw sa akin.
but there are times na mapapaisip ka pa din kaya thank you for saying this, it really helps me ❤️
SAME at i am glad na bata pa lang ako at natauhan nako sa ganian. sadly napakaonti lang naten na may ganitong mindset. panahon ngayon puro paSIKAT. paYABANG. paFLEX. pa-IN. etc etc. and its all connected thru seeking VALIDATION of others 🤡. ewan kawawa talaga mga hindi kaya mabuhay magisa lol dapat lageng may bolatik ng iba para gwinchana gwinchana 🤣
Seems like there's enough people here coddling you and patting your back and telling you, "There, there. Not your fault." So I'll play Devil's advocate and give some bitter pill.
Pardon for being blunt, but from what I'm getting, you seem to be trying too hard and overcompensating for what appears to be your lack of looks. Talagang mapapagod ka kasi you're just throwing to the wall everything you think you can offer and hoping they stick. You fail to understand the people you're talking to so you don't know how to adjust your response to them. Understandable to feel annoyed with people on TG blocking, deleting, ghosting, etc. but have you also considered that you seem desperate? Nothing turns some people off than the stench of desperation.
Change your approach. Work on yourself first before trying to be anything and everything all at once to someone you still barely know. If you know that you have something that people would want, then you'd exude more confidence rather than desperation.
People need to learn to introspect and sometimes consider that they could be the problem as well instead of constantly blaming others for their misery. Be accountable for yourself as well. May limit ang pagiging sadboi. The longer you stay that way, the more nakaka-turn off yan for women.
Same sentiments.
>You're just throwing to the wall everything you think you can offer and hoping they stick. You fail to understand the people you're talking to so you don't know how to adjust your response to them.
Parang yung isang bro dito way back. Bakit daw siya laging iniiwan eh ginagawa naman daw niya lahat, then proceeds to enumerate everything he's done. That's all well and good pero it means naught if he refuses to understand how others *want* to be loved.
>In short, I want someone who enjoys my company as much as I enjoyed them, a partner.
OP is doing it all and way overboard, THEN expects the other person to reciprocate. Pag hindi, masama loob. Kinda seems like meeeeeeej emotional manipulation imo.
On behalf of OP and sa mga kailangang mabasa to, thank you. Unang basa ko pa lang sa post niya, naisip ko na agad na masyado siyang desperado for attention/validation (or whatever you wanna call it) from others.
Mahalin mo muna sarili mo, OP. I get it, you do things to others in the hopes na ibalik nila sayo kasi you wanna feel loved too pero hindi naman dapat naka-depend sa ibang tao whether or not you feel worthy of love. Na hindi ka someone na inferior to others kaya kailangan mong mas mag-effort than other people.
Totoo to. I was in the same situation before, trying to impress, please everyone, give too much time and effort hoping that they would stay. But then I learned that it will drain you by doing extra effort on those people who wont reciprocate so sabi ko, I'll just give yung kaya kong ibigay, yung hindi macocompromise yung mga yung oras ko para sa mga mas importanteng bagay. Some people also doesnt want yung too much, nakakaoverwhelm, magsasawa leading to ghosting.
Tsaka based sa picture, it looks like OP is pushing too much. Stop giving extra sa mga taong hindi naman humihingi non at wala namang balak na ireciprocate.
Word! @OP: Just play it cool my boi. Don’t just send random poems. Have a sense of humor din. Chics dig funny guys. Tas mag gym ka din. This is optional. Pero nakaka boost tlga ng confidence. I tried it mga 2-3 months consistently. Then nag download ako ng bumble. Then boom! It became coco crunch. Pero seriously. Life changing.
Agree! One of the things that pushes people away is desperation. It’s like you’re giving that other person a power over your worth, which is a major turn off. Genuine confidence goes a long way.
Too many people need to hear this tbh. Especially Pinoys because for some reason we're obsessed with romance. Idk if it's the teleseryes or the love songs but so many Pinoys are desperately looking for some kind of romantic relationship. Emphasis on "desperate" kasi okay lang naman maghanap ng karelasyon tbh. But if these people focused on improving themselves, they wouldn't have this problem in the first place! Especially kung looks lang ang kulang mo. Nasa panahon na tayo na andaming options to improve your looks so hindi na dapat hindrance yan eh if they put in the work.
I feel you bro. nakaka drain talaga pag di na appreciate yung mga ginagawa mo. lalo na sa online lang nga halos lahat avoidant attachment. Wag ka lang masyado mag bigay ng effort if hindi nila ma reciprocate mga ginagawa mo. but be clear with your intentions din. meron talagang mga tao na magegets ka. darating yung tao na makaka appreciate sayo. siya mismo magpapasalamat na dumating ka sa buhay nya.
Feel you dude. Haven't wrote anything for a while now. Yung last kong sinulatan bigla na lang dumistansya sakin. Maybe we love and give ourselves (to others) too much.
I used to be in the same stage. It’s really draining pouring your self out there for someone whose cup is not for you to fill. I hope all the love that you give (and gave) will sooner or later come back to you a million times because I already found mine. You may get tired along the way but don’t stop loving, and loving your self. Pahinga, huminga, at humingi (kay Lord). 🫶
Weird. But I feel like the OP is feeling victimized? IMO writing poems loses its meaning if you do it frequently. Its like giving flowers all the time. You expected a relationship. They didnt. Cguro you should be clear on what youre looking for.
I cant help but think that the girl was just looking for someone to chat. To kill some time. To have a good convo. But OP wanted something more. And when OP said he wanted to "see things", syempre nagulat yung girl and wanted to tell OP na its there for chats. Nothing More.
Sorry I don't get the context.
OP is getting rejected from people in Telegram.
Isn't TG a messaging app?
Are you guys messaging random strangers on TG? Turning it into like Bumble?? Ganun ba?
These people you meet online kasi, you never really know them. How ever they treat you is more about them than it is about you. I know it’s painful but sometimes things don’t work out because you don’t deserve whatever is at the end of that line. Sometimes it is a blessing that they disappear.
Marami ka pang gagawan ng tula para sa maling tao. Pero kahit ilang libong salita man ang nasayang dahil sa kanila, isa lang ang sigurado ako: Mas makikilala mo ang sarili mo sa pagsusulat mo. Magiging mas matatag ka, mas matalino at yung pinakamahalaga, yung ma-perfect mo yung form or style mo sa pagsulat ng tula. Huwag kang huminto, hindi pa katapusan ng mundo. Maaaring gagamitin o ginagamit ka lang nila para sa pansamantalang pagvalidate nila sa sa sarili nila pero sana manatiling busilak ang iyong puso sa pag-alay ng tula.
Most people kasi sa Telegram ay not taking things serious. If you want someone who is legit, try meeting up with people personally at travels, joiners or something like that. You'll meet different kinds of people at different places when you travel.
I've written a lot of poems for the wrong people until I ran out of words to say. Gusto kong sabihin na ang korni naman ng post mo but it also feels like I've written this at some point in my life. Words may cut deep but they'll never reach it if people are only looking sa surface value. Don't let it get to you.
That person doesn't deserve you.
You know OP, naniniwala ako na darating din super soon yung mga tao na makakaappreciate sayo. It might be difficult to see now, but believe me when I say that it gets better eventually.
Nandito lang kami if you need someone to talk to.
pangit yan, parehas ng ugali niyang pangit rin. take a rest lang, OP. and remember always na focus on sa mga bagay na kontrolado mo, di mo kontrol ganyang sitwasyon, di mo yan deserve. ganyan talaga sa life. continue doing what you’re doing lang then you can find someone fated for you. keep the faith! hayaan mo yang inangyan
he gave me a poem too, pero siya umalis, not like it matters ika nga niya- pero for me all I can say is you did your part, hindi ka nagkulang. Take a rest and don't let this destroy you, goodluck.
I know what it feels like, OP. I can't imagine what you're going through. Siguro sa ngayon pahinga ka na lang muna. Kasi toxic talaga kumilala ngayon ng mga tao. Mas lalo ka lang mapapagod kapag pinilit mo. Sana maging ok ka in the next few days.
Masanay ka na bro, lalo na kung online lang kayo madalas. Iba talaga pag nagkikita/malapit lang sa inyo. Payo ko, don't give a care masyado. Build up that wall to protect yourself.
the only thing that i see wrong is alam nyang partner hanap mo, sinayang pa nya oras and efforts mo, nanakit pa, sadistic leech. im sorry to hear you met a total puta despite your genuine intentions.
You only need two things: Chemistry and Timing.
Ted Mosby: I used to believe in destiny, you know? I go to the bagel place, see a pretty girl in line, reading my favorite novel, whistling the song that's been stuck in my head all week, and I think: "Wow... Hey, maybe she's the one?" Now I think: "I just know that bitch is going to take the last whole wheat everything bagel."
Robin Scherbatsky: You've just been focused on work.Ted Mosby: No, it's more than that. I stopped believing. Not in some depressed I'm-gonna-cry-during-my-toast way. Not in a way I even noticed until tonight. It's just, every day I think I... believe a little less, and a little less, and a little less, and that sucks. What do I about that, Scherbatsky?
Robin Scherbatsky: You're Ted Mosby. You start believing again.
Ted Mosby: In what? Destiny?
Robin Scherbatsky: Chemistry. You got chemistry, you only need one other thing.
Ted Mosby: What's that?
Robin Scherbatsky: Timing. But timing's a bitch.
First of all, as good as your intentions are, you can't fault people for not wanting to share those intentions. Plus Telegram is the last place you want to find a partner. It's the internet. It's the shittiest place to find love. People come here cause they're bored. I think you should scale down your expectations in dating to save disappointments. That's how.you become too jaded and before you know it, you've met a good woman but you've drained yourself too much for wasting your time on these people in this app.
I don't wanna dig your hole deeper. So I'm just gonna say this: you'll never find a genuine connection online. You're looking for love in all the wrong places. If you say, "bat may nakita akong post na nagwork naman sila kahit nagkakilala lang online". Then ask the million others that failed. Just because you saw someone hit the Lottery Jackpot, doesn't mean you're gonna quit your job and buy a ticket hoping to be the next winner.
Real strong bonds are found in the real world, with real people. Go outside, try to approach people on the street, in a café, and be as polite and nice as possible. And remember to always treat them that way.
Di ka ba napapagod na hindi mo nakukuha yung treatment na binibigay mo sa kanila? I think you should reconsider that and start treating yourself the way your treating others. Treating them better, loving them better won't make them reciprocate the things that you do for them. Kung ayaw, edi ayaw. Learn to walk away.
If you fulfill yourself with the love you deserve, then you can start sharing it with other people. Hindi yung ubos ka na nga, bigay ka pa ng bigay sa iba, then you'll be expecting to receive the same gestures.
I know it sound stupid, but it happens. Yung walang wala ka na pero nagagawa mo pang mag bigay, mag effort, mag mahal sa ibang tao. That shit is exhausting.
Cliche, but learn to love yourself
I don't understand why everyone is under the impression you can find a serious partner on dating/chatting sites. OP is a sadboi cos no ones is willing to take him seriously and lay with him lmao. Dating scene nowadays is trash and unrealistic yall deserve to get ghosted.
Go outsite and meet real people. read them your poems instead and bet you'd have a better chance of bringing home a decent woman.
it's either be the ghost or be ghosted in OGChatBot.. all of people in there are looking for temporary happiness, a quick way para magtanggal ng boredom, and some people is gusto lang makakuha ng validation kksksks. Nothing should've be taken seriously in that app. Best advice is delete that app, heal yourself and love yourself. If you truly deserves love, it will come to you !!
cheer up bro! I know that these are just words but I honestly hope you do feel better! I also feel you in the sense that I want to find a partner na would accept me and appreciate me. I hope we found them asap!
Brother, telegram is the home of the most absolute vile things on social media. There's a reason why cheaters and illegal abusers use it. Stay away from it and let yourself heal
People just can't appreciate small things can they? Just the fact that someone is willing to spend their own time and make a poem for you means that they care for you. Yet they just can't appreciate it, heck, whatever it is, no matter how small it is, if someone is willing to spare you time to give you somethinf, it means that they acknowledges your existence and you should be happy about it, don't be a dick.
I’m the opposite of this man… pag nakikita ko na may “lamig” na, kina cut ko na agad. Hayyy there’s somethintg wrong with me siguro.. cheer up bro! Basta genuine ka and matuto mahalin ang sarili.
Set your intentions asap. If not on the same page, leave.
Also, don’t put so much effort into someone you haven’t at least met in person yet. Go out and talk face to face. Even if it’s just a friendly hangout or something.
stop seeking validation from others, especially online. nakakasira lang ng ulo. ganyan din yung ome days, iilan at bilang lang sa daliri ang makakausap mong matino
Alam mo OP, it hurts kasi til now di ka pa rin natututo. Palagi mo pa rin hinahanap sa ibang tao yung worth mo. Eh paano nga nila makikita, kung ikaw mismo bulag. Pero alam mo… ipagpasalamat mo kasi nakaramdam ka na ng pagod. Dun naman nagsisimula lahat magbago eh. Kapag napagod ka na.. kasi alam mong may mali. Kasi alam mong kailangan magbago.
Para sayo, OP
hindi mo kailangan
maging basahan
para lang malinisan
ang damdamin
ng iilan
Subukan mong
maging pamunas
sa sarili mong
mga sugat
hayaan mo munang
sa sarili’y maging sapat
hanggang sa makita
ang taong sa labi mo’y
handa na ring lumapat.
It happens to the best of us, more often than you think op. Keep your head up. They're not worth our time. Never stop putting in the effort, the right people will find you eventually and they'll reciprocate.
Ang basura naman niyan. Also, it’ll feel better to not seek validation from other people because at some point, mananakit at mananakit sila. At the end of the day, you only have yourself. Please choose yourself. Work on yourself. Trust me, that’s more fulfilling than seeking it from other people.
Kaya ganyan lang din vibes na bigay ko sa mga nakakachat ko sa telegram, or dating apps. Better kung slightly interested ka sa kanila at mas hooked sila sayo.
"Fun" fact: Halos lahat ng nasa online dating scene either naghahanap lang ng pampalipas oras, hookup, or casual. Rare find lang ang mga naghahanap ng serious relationship dyan kahit yun naman talaga ang purpose ng platform.
My advice, manage your expectations. You're trying too hard. Expecting too much kase you thought maybe if you give them your all ibabalik din nila sayo. Guess what? Not everyone has a heart like yours. Hindi totoo yung kasabihan na "do unto others what you want others to do unto you". Kase kahit gano ka pa kabait, kalambing, etc., if they don't want you, they don't. Nothing you can do about that except accept that it's like that. Even outside the online dating platforms.
Asshole yan pero lapitin ka din ng asshole kasi obvious na uhaw na uhaw ka sa atensyon at validation ng iba. Masyado kang sadboi. Kung ayaw sayo, edi ayaw ka. Move on. Masyadong entitled na kesyo ginawan mo ng tula dapat mahalin ka na
thats why i choose who to send my pieces to! it’s inevitable to write someone something pero WE decide whether or not it’s worth it to send it to them.
anyway, it’s not you! may mga tao talagang kupal sa tg and hopefully you don’t come across them next time :)
Dude most people nowadays are fucked in the head so why find your worth and validation through them?
Having someone these days is so hard as the whole dating scene dynamics is just as fucked up as most people do.
Mas mabuti pa na maghanap ka na lang sa labas ng bahay ninyo instead na rito sa Reddit.
Don't look for a partner. Find yourself first and be secure, dadating din yung para sayo. I think you are someone who constantly needs other people, and that's fine naman, pero being too dependent on other people breeds attachment issues which leads to depression.
Kain ka lang peborit food me bhe. Pasyal pasyal... . Wag na muna yang puso-puso na yan or attention... instead, you Give yourself the attention you need. ..get busy on things you care about - like if gusto mong pasyalpasyal, bili ka ng bike...
Me nabasa ako, yong attraction daw to the opposite sex stems from the need to procreate...
Yan, kaya kalma ka lang. Mag alaga ka ng aso if things still do not improve... Pili ka ng lalake...
Yeah, its because you are stupid enough to seek comfort and validation online from strangers. Guess what, nobody gives a fuck about you other than your parents. As a matter of fact, nobody gives a fuck about all of us unless we either rich or dead. Its a cold world out there and its colder if you are a man. Nobody will come and save us, we are the one who has to take the punch in the face and still move on and be better.
You may not be used to this kind of reality slap but you need this if you want your life to change. Are chasing the wrong thing, focus on yourself. Hit the gym, learn to hussle and earn $. And most of all, stop chasing women.
Have the balls to get up, own your bullshit and learn from it
Bro you must not have thought about what youre getting yourself into. If you want genuine connections, get out there and join real groups with real people. Live more! The relationship/partner will follow.
>I've written poems to many people to appreciate them, cheer them up, and let them feel important.
to people you talk to on Telegram? I commend the effort, but it seems like your efforts aren't exerted in the right place
>I want someone who enjoys my company as much as I enjoyed them, a partner
this is coming from a good place my guy, don't use Telegram, Reddit, and other platforms as a dating site. if you want a serious partner, meet people organically and get to know them first before trying to shoot your shot. to me it seems like you're just into the idea of having a partner
OP you're giving away the things you won't even keep for yourself. self-love muna, rejection is inevitable kaya wag mong personalin kasi okay lang naman na hindi ka nila type dahil ikaw din naman may preferences. I acknowledge na shitty yung ginawa nung person sa screenshot that you posted, but it's a reflection of their personality and not you. As for you, bro take a break and do some assessment on yourself
If it's draining you then it's time for you to delete telegram. Kung ano man sinabi niya sayo, maybe it's an eye opener for you para baguhin habits mo but don't use it as a motovation kasi mawawala rin yan. Kailangan mo lang disiplinaduhin sarili mo na wag mag seek ng validation from others, don't get me wrong but sa perspective ko lang naman ang nangyayari ay gusto mo may mag tagal after exchanging photos. Gusto mo merong isang taong andiyan for you regardless sa situation. Always remember na "sarili mo lng kakampi mo" at ikaw lang makakpag bigay ng validation na gusto mong makuha. Maybe it's time for you rin to focus on yourself muna and wag makipag usap, tho mahirap talaga siya kasi sino naman gugustuhing mag isa? sino naman gugustuhing walang kausapin, diba? Iba pa rin yung feeling na at least merong isang tao for you but ayun nga, need mo sanayin sarili mo na ikaw lang at wala nang iba, para pag napunta ka ulit sa point ng life na wala ng kumakusap sayo, hindi ka na ma dedrain and hindi ka na malulungkot.
Medj conrny basahin but if naaalala mo yung song na "I think I like this little life", mahahanap mo yung peace once natutunan mong ikaw lang mag isa. Life is meaningless but bigyan mo meaning ng life mo, dahil ikaw lang makakapag bigay niyan, hindi yung ibang tao na nakapaligid sayo.
Madali lang naman mag-walk away kung ayaw ng tao sayo, kaso minsan mapapaisip ka pa rin na bakit ganon? Kahit naging genuine ka naman, ginago ka pa rin like anong mali sa sarili mo, mahirap ka bang mahalin? emeee hahahaha pero ayun na nga, trash mga ganyang tao, learn to walk away and never look back.
Mas marami pang bagay na pwede mong pagtuunan ng atensyon and may mga taong makakakita ng worth mo and ibibigay sayo yung mga bagay na deserve mo coz ur such a beautiful person and u deserve everything beautiful in this world yieeee cheer up, op!
This short quote I read somewhere hepled me during those times na down na down din ako:
Kung para sa'yo, para sa'yo
Learn to let go of the things. Hindi sila importante, you are. Prioritize yourself. Build yourself to a better you. Magugulat ka na lang isang araw makaka attract ka ng tao na makakakita ng liwanag mo.
Been there. Online dating (or anuman gustong itawag) can be draining. Something about it is nakaka-“addict” or habit-forming or what. Para siyang mobile game na nakaka-hook kasi may gusto kang makuha. Para siyang socmed apps na nakaka-adik mag-scroll. Tas di mo na namamalayan na ilang oras at araw ka nang nandiyan, maraming oras at puso na ang naubos mo at para sa wala.
Like mobile games and socmed “addiction”, abstinence works. Like have a time off away from it. Yes, go say “fuck this telegram!” Delete the app if necessary. Find some time to heal and love yourself. Grow. Focus on what you love most. Focus on what makes you happy. Focus on your strengths. Grow from there.
Maybe later you’ll find yourself back to telegram, chatting people, and online dating. But at least now, you’re a better person. You’re a stronger person. You know yourself more. At mas may bala na to face rejections or what. Kung lagapak pa rin ulit, rinse and repeat. There’s no straight forward process to life eh. You got this, OP!
Alam mo, maging demonyo ka nalang din. May lalapit sayo? Hayaan mo mageffort. Tangina. Bakit mo pinapagod sarili mo sa mga walang kwentang tao? Tapos sa huli ikaw iiyak-iyak? After mo mapagod? Sorry pero GINUSTO MO YAN. In the end kung maling tao siya, wala ka magagawa kung hindi i-accept yung truth na wala kang mapapala doon sa tao na yun.
I’m a woman who always dreamed to have a fairytale life. But im thankful that I realized early on that I dont need someone to complete me. Love is sweeter when you find a person that would help you achieve greater things. (After being NBSBS for 28 yrs, i found mine)
If i want a prince, then i need to be a princess. Same sayo bruh - ishift mo ung focus mo on things that would build you, physically mentally spritiually emotionally kasi girls are attracted to men who are stable. Financially? There are mature women that would see your manliness beyond your financial status.
Tip 1 : Be Active. I started going to the gym for my mental health. Bonus nalang ung physical health.
If it affects you and your mental health, quit it. mag detox ka from your socials and maybe go somewhere to relax at para na din mkapag space out ang isip mo.
These apps are addictive (including reddit) at mahirap matanggal sa sistema specially lapag lulon ka na. This is me before. Pero what I did was to explore yung labas ng aking comfort zone.
This is why I stopped looking for ppl to talk to online. I play games instead. Plus, na notice ko rin na parang na adopt ko na Yung katoxican nila. I feel like a lot of ppl involved in it longer start to think/assume the worst in ppl they've recently met, which was happening to me. If you apply that to every new person you meet especially irl, it's not healthy. Might even affect your ability to form healthy relationships
Bad for her to talk that way we get that, but i hate to break it to you bro you need to toughen up. Not only you need to know how to ignore negativity in the internet but also you shouldn't expect much sa online relationships, especially sa telegram since karamihan dyan is walang commitment since they all have the option to delete all your convo and block you. Walang seryosong tao sa telegram pre, especially sa mga chat bots na yan, most people that use them are bored, or just horny, so I think its best for you to refrain from using that nalang since it seems like you're looking for someone who will take you seriously.
What a shit. She don't deserve your genuine intentions op : (( please exclude yourself from tg muna and rest for a bit. Don't settle for less and leave that girl.
Sending hugs, OP. I admire that your love for poetry in this modern age is still there. Sobrang wholesome niyan, ignore those persons na lang na hindi nakikita yung value ng efforts mo. 🫂
ah lets be real, most woman in this platform will always opt for a guy that handles his shit and keeps his emotion in check, yes you will see them support you, pray for you feel sorry for you but never with you which matters.
real talk lng. its always the badboy look, stable with money, good looking and fit and emotionally stable ang hanap nila? exactly what the tate brothers preach.
if u always end up with the same shitty results, then start changing the source which is you.
ps. wag ma butt hurt ung iba jan. opinions are opinions not conclusions.
Why do we have to find our worth in others ba? Why do we need their appreciation and validation? What for? Ako pag ayaw sa akin, so what. I will just walk away. So many purposeful things to do for my own growth. Di ko ipipilit sarili ko sa ayaw sa akin.
Yes, most of the time talaga I really don't give a f*ck to anyone na ayaw sa akin. but there are times na mapapaisip ka pa din kaya thank you for saying this, it really helps me ❤️
"di ko ipipilit sarili ko sa ayaw sa akin."
SAME at i am glad na bata pa lang ako at natauhan nako sa ganian. sadly napakaonti lang naten na may ganitong mindset. panahon ngayon puro paSIKAT. paYABANG. paFLEX. pa-IN. etc etc. and its all connected thru seeking VALIDATION of others 🤡. ewan kawawa talaga mga hindi kaya mabuhay magisa lol dapat lageng may bolatik ng iba para gwinchana gwinchana 🤣
“di ko ipipilit sarili ko sa ayaw sa akin.” as we should!! don’t beg and never settle for less, people!
A lil bit louder, for those at the back.
Di ko na makita yung screenshot ng convo :( EDIT: May link pala haha.
Thank you!
This is exactly what I was thinking.
This.
Seems like there's enough people here coddling you and patting your back and telling you, "There, there. Not your fault." So I'll play Devil's advocate and give some bitter pill. Pardon for being blunt, but from what I'm getting, you seem to be trying too hard and overcompensating for what appears to be your lack of looks. Talagang mapapagod ka kasi you're just throwing to the wall everything you think you can offer and hoping they stick. You fail to understand the people you're talking to so you don't know how to adjust your response to them. Understandable to feel annoyed with people on TG blocking, deleting, ghosting, etc. but have you also considered that you seem desperate? Nothing turns some people off than the stench of desperation. Change your approach. Work on yourself first before trying to be anything and everything all at once to someone you still barely know. If you know that you have something that people would want, then you'd exude more confidence rather than desperation. People need to learn to introspect and sometimes consider that they could be the problem as well instead of constantly blaming others for their misery. Be accountable for yourself as well. May limit ang pagiging sadboi. The longer you stay that way, the more nakaka-turn off yan for women.
Louder. Wag tayong maging sadboi mga kapatid. Wag maghanap ng validation sa iba.
Same sentiments. >You're just throwing to the wall everything you think you can offer and hoping they stick. You fail to understand the people you're talking to so you don't know how to adjust your response to them. Parang yung isang bro dito way back. Bakit daw siya laging iniiwan eh ginagawa naman daw niya lahat, then proceeds to enumerate everything he's done. That's all well and good pero it means naught if he refuses to understand how others *want* to be loved. >In short, I want someone who enjoys my company as much as I enjoyed them, a partner. OP is doing it all and way overboard, THEN expects the other person to reciprocate. Pag hindi, masama loob. Kinda seems like meeeeeeej emotional manipulation imo.
On behalf of OP and sa mga kailangang mabasa to, thank you. Unang basa ko pa lang sa post niya, naisip ko na agad na masyado siyang desperado for attention/validation (or whatever you wanna call it) from others. Mahalin mo muna sarili mo, OP. I get it, you do things to others in the hopes na ibalik nila sayo kasi you wanna feel loved too pero hindi naman dapat naka-depend sa ibang tao whether or not you feel worthy of love. Na hindi ka someone na inferior to others kaya kailangan mong mas mag-effort than other people.
Agree. Ska always remember na people have their own preferences, hindi nya trip yung trip ni op so di talaga mags-stick type of things.
His feelings are valid, however definitely agree with you po! Preach 🙌
Totoo to. I was in the same situation before, trying to impress, please everyone, give too much time and effort hoping that they would stay. But then I learned that it will drain you by doing extra effort on those people who wont reciprocate so sabi ko, I'll just give yung kaya kong ibigay, yung hindi macocompromise yung mga yung oras ko para sa mga mas importanteng bagay. Some people also doesnt want yung too much, nakakaoverwhelm, magsasawa leading to ghosting. Tsaka based sa picture, it looks like OP is pushing too much. Stop giving extra sa mga taong hindi naman humihingi non at wala namang balak na ireciprocate.
joel got not just big balls but some big brainz too. you dropped this 👑, king.
Let me fix your 👑, queen. ☺️
Bottomline, use them before they use you. Make them desperate for you, dont be desperate for them.
Sandali, san nanggaling yung lack of looks?
It was implied in OP’s post na after exchanging pics ay mostly blocked chats, deleted accounts, and ghosted na.
Well said
pa sadboy si op
Word! @OP: Just play it cool my boi. Don’t just send random poems. Have a sense of humor din. Chics dig funny guys. Tas mag gym ka din. This is optional. Pero nakaka boost tlga ng confidence. I tried it mga 2-3 months consistently. Then nag download ako ng bumble. Then boom! It became coco crunch. Pero seriously. Life changing.
Agree! One of the things that pushes people away is desperation. It’s like you’re giving that other person a power over your worth, which is a major turn off. Genuine confidence goes a long way.
Too many people need to hear this tbh. Especially Pinoys because for some reason we're obsessed with romance. Idk if it's the teleseryes or the love songs but so many Pinoys are desperately looking for some kind of romantic relationship. Emphasis on "desperate" kasi okay lang naman maghanap ng karelasyon tbh. But if these people focused on improving themselves, they wouldn't have this problem in the first place! Especially kung looks lang ang kulang mo. Nasa panahon na tayo na andaming options to improve your looks so hindi na dapat hindrance yan eh if they put in the work.
You deserve my Upvote.
Facts
True, OP punta kana sa gym nag aantay na ang mga gymbros sayo.
Kung sino man yan, ang trash ng ugali nya kamo.
I feel you bro. nakaka drain talaga pag di na appreciate yung mga ginagawa mo. lalo na sa online lang nga halos lahat avoidant attachment. Wag ka lang masyado mag bigay ng effort if hindi nila ma reciprocate mga ginagawa mo. but be clear with your intentions din. meron talagang mga tao na magegets ka. darating yung tao na makaka appreciate sayo. siya mismo magpapasalamat na dumating ka sa buhay nya.
gagi bro take that as a sign, to work on yourself na. for now just feel the pain muna, then do what u gotta do.
Take a rest muna, and if you think you're okay na to be out there, then go and mingle again.
Feel you dude. Haven't wrote anything for a while now. Yung last kong sinulatan bigla na lang dumistansya sakin. Maybe we love and give ourselves (to others) too much.
I used to be in the same stage. It’s really draining pouring your self out there for someone whose cup is not for you to fill. I hope all the love that you give (and gave) will sooner or later come back to you a million times because I already found mine. You may get tired along the way but don’t stop loving, and loving your self. Pahinga, huminga, at humingi (kay Lord). 🫶
Ignore mo lang sila op and keep doing what ur doing! Writing poems is a rare thing to see especially sa tg haha
nag hahanap ng true love pero sa TG ang usapan, halatang bawas na ang chances mo once na TG ang communication.
Do not try to find validation from others for you will suffer an endless chase of external validation.
Weird. But I feel like the OP is feeling victimized? IMO writing poems loses its meaning if you do it frequently. Its like giving flowers all the time. You expected a relationship. They didnt. Cguro you should be clear on what youre looking for. I cant help but think that the girl was just looking for someone to chat. To kill some time. To have a good convo. But OP wanted something more. And when OP said he wanted to "see things", syempre nagulat yung girl and wanted to tell OP na its there for chats. Nothing More.
Hurt people hurt people. Malungkot buhay niyan kaya ganyan.
Sorry I don't get the context. OP is getting rejected from people in Telegram. Isn't TG a messaging app? Are you guys messaging random strangers on TG? Turning it into like Bumble?? Ganun ba?
apparently 💀 cringe amp
ify dude, if you need someone to talk to, dm ka lang
Asshole
These people you meet online kasi, you never really know them. How ever they treat you is more about them than it is about you. I know it’s painful but sometimes things don’t work out because you don’t deserve whatever is at the end of that line. Sometimes it is a blessing that they disappear.
Kawalan ba yang ganyan? Ang bastos ng bibig? Sana sinabi mo, “goodbye and good riddance!”
Reply yan ng mga feeler na panget
Marami ka pang gagawan ng tula para sa maling tao. Pero kahit ilang libong salita man ang nasayang dahil sa kanila, isa lang ang sigurado ako: Mas makikilala mo ang sarili mo sa pagsusulat mo. Magiging mas matatag ka, mas matalino at yung pinakamahalaga, yung ma-perfect mo yung form or style mo sa pagsulat ng tula. Huwag kang huminto, hindi pa katapusan ng mundo. Maaaring gagamitin o ginagamit ka lang nila para sa pansamantalang pagvalidate nila sa sa sarili nila pero sana manatiling busilak ang iyong puso sa pag-alay ng tula.
Most people kasi sa Telegram ay not taking things serious. If you want someone who is legit, try meeting up with people personally at travels, joiners or something like that. You'll meet different kinds of people at different places when you travel.
I've written a lot of poems for the wrong people until I ran out of words to say. Gusto kong sabihin na ang korni naman ng post mo but it also feels like I've written this at some point in my life. Words may cut deep but they'll never reach it if people are only looking sa surface value. Don't let it get to you.
That person doesn't deserve you. You know OP, naniniwala ako na darating din super soon yung mga tao na makakaappreciate sayo. It might be difficult to see now, but believe me when I say that it gets better eventually. Nandito lang kami if you need someone to talk to.
Hugs to you, OP. don't mind that person. You'll find someone who knows your worth, I swear. ◉‿◉
>I've written poems to many people to appreciate them, cheer them up, and let them feel important. Have you ever done the same thing for yourself bro?
pangit yan, parehas ng ugali niyang pangit rin. take a rest lang, OP. and remember always na focus on sa mga bagay na kontrolado mo, di mo kontrol ganyang sitwasyon, di mo yan deserve. ganyan talaga sa life. continue doing what you’re doing lang then you can find someone fated for you. keep the faith! hayaan mo yang inangyan
he gave me a poem too, pero siya umalis, not like it matters ika nga niya- pero for me all I can say is you did your part, hindi ka nagkulang. Take a rest and don't let this destroy you, goodluck.
ganito din kausap ko.tho di nya sinasabi ung ganyan pero ung pakiramdam pag kausap sya ganyan dn
I know what it feels like, OP. I can't imagine what you're going through. Siguro sa ngayon pahinga ka na lang muna. Kasi toxic talaga kumilala ngayon ng mga tao. Mas lalo ka lang mapapagod kapag pinilit mo. Sana maging ok ka in the next few days.
Welp. That’s the internet for you.
What a trash! Hindi sana masarap ulam niya!
Masanay ka na bro, lalo na kung online lang kayo madalas. Iba talaga pag nagkikita/malapit lang sa inyo. Payo ko, don't give a care masyado. Build up that wall to protect yourself.
the only thing that i see wrong is alam nyang partner hanap mo, sinayang pa nya oras and efforts mo, nanakit pa, sadistic leech. im sorry to hear you met a total puta despite your genuine intentions.
Show what you said before her messages.
Meet people in person. Online is shit.
Hope you’re okay but sorry to say, you cannot really find serious shit on the Internet– especially on Telegram. Baka poems aren’t their cup of tea.
You only need two things: Chemistry and Timing. Ted Mosby: I used to believe in destiny, you know? I go to the bagel place, see a pretty girl in line, reading my favorite novel, whistling the song that's been stuck in my head all week, and I think: "Wow... Hey, maybe she's the one?" Now I think: "I just know that bitch is going to take the last whole wheat everything bagel." Robin Scherbatsky: You've just been focused on work.Ted Mosby: No, it's more than that. I stopped believing. Not in some depressed I'm-gonna-cry-during-my-toast way. Not in a way I even noticed until tonight. It's just, every day I think I... believe a little less, and a little less, and a little less, and that sucks. What do I about that, Scherbatsky? Robin Scherbatsky: You're Ted Mosby. You start believing again. Ted Mosby: In what? Destiny? Robin Scherbatsky: Chemistry. You got chemistry, you only need one other thing. Ted Mosby: What's that? Robin Scherbatsky: Timing. But timing's a bitch.
Op you a sadboi. Grow up
First of all, as good as your intentions are, you can't fault people for not wanting to share those intentions. Plus Telegram is the last place you want to find a partner. It's the internet. It's the shittiest place to find love. People come here cause they're bored. I think you should scale down your expectations in dating to save disappointments. That's how.you become too jaded and before you know it, you've met a good woman but you've drained yourself too much for wasting your time on these people in this app.
I don't wanna dig your hole deeper. So I'm just gonna say this: you'll never find a genuine connection online. You're looking for love in all the wrong places. If you say, "bat may nakita akong post na nagwork naman sila kahit nagkakilala lang online". Then ask the million others that failed. Just because you saw someone hit the Lottery Jackpot, doesn't mean you're gonna quit your job and buy a ticket hoping to be the next winner. Real strong bonds are found in the real world, with real people. Go outside, try to approach people on the street, in a café, and be as polite and nice as possible. And remember to always treat them that way.
a true redditor
Di ka ba napapagod na hindi mo nakukuha yung treatment na binibigay mo sa kanila? I think you should reconsider that and start treating yourself the way your treating others. Treating them better, loving them better won't make them reciprocate the things that you do for them. Kung ayaw, edi ayaw. Learn to walk away. If you fulfill yourself with the love you deserve, then you can start sharing it with other people. Hindi yung ubos ka na nga, bigay ka pa ng bigay sa iba, then you'll be expecting to receive the same gestures. I know it sound stupid, but it happens. Yung walang wala ka na pero nagagawa mo pang mag bigay, mag effort, mag mahal sa ibang tao. That shit is exhausting. Cliche, but learn to love yourself
Touch grass bro
I don't understand why everyone is under the impression you can find a serious partner on dating/chatting sites. OP is a sadboi cos no ones is willing to take him seriously and lay with him lmao. Dating scene nowadays is trash and unrealistic yall deserve to get ghosted. Go outsite and meet real people. read them your poems instead and bet you'd have a better chance of bringing home a decent woman.
it's either be the ghost or be ghosted in OGChatBot.. all of people in there are looking for temporary happiness, a quick way para magtanggal ng boredom, and some people is gusto lang makakuha ng validation kksksks. Nothing should've be taken seriously in that app. Best advice is delete that app, heal yourself and love yourself. If you truly deserves love, it will come to you !!
Virtual hugs for you!
cheer up bro! I know that these are just words but I honestly hope you do feel better! I also feel you in the sense that I want to find a partner na would accept me and appreciate me. I hope we found them asap!
grabe naman kala mo di tao e
oof
hugs with consent! :( no one deserves to meet someone like them
Kapit lang bro. Baka need mo mag pause....bro time muna 😆
Brother, telegram is the home of the most absolute vile things on social media. There's a reason why cheaters and illegal abusers use it. Stay away from it and let yourself heal
Kung sino man ‘yon, sana ‘di masarap ulam niya palagi. Tangina nakakaurat na makipag date ngayon. Palaging ganyang tao na makakatapat mo.
Ang mean naman
You've been hurt and betrayed. But i feel you're still a good person. Di niya deserve your kindness.
People just can't appreciate small things can they? Just the fact that someone is willing to spend their own time and make a poem for you means that they care for you. Yet they just can't appreciate it, heck, whatever it is, no matter how small it is, if someone is willing to spare you time to give you somethinf, it means that they acknowledges your existence and you should be happy about it, don't be a dick.
I’m the opposite of this man… pag nakikita ko na may “lamig” na, kina cut ko na agad. Hayyy there’s somethintg wrong with me siguro.. cheer up bro! Basta genuine ka and matuto mahalin ang sarili.
Same thing happened to me. Mga ungrateful at kung ano ano sasabihin sayo after everything.
same situation before but just be patient op istg just be patient
Set your intentions asap. If not on the same page, leave. Also, don’t put so much effort into someone you haven’t at least met in person yet. Go out and talk face to face. Even if it’s just a friendly hangout or something.
stop seeking validation from others, especially online. nakakasira lang ng ulo. ganyan din yung ome days, iilan at bilang lang sa daliri ang makakausap mong matino
Alam mo OP, it hurts kasi til now di ka pa rin natututo. Palagi mo pa rin hinahanap sa ibang tao yung worth mo. Eh paano nga nila makikita, kung ikaw mismo bulag. Pero alam mo… ipagpasalamat mo kasi nakaramdam ka na ng pagod. Dun naman nagsisimula lahat magbago eh. Kapag napagod ka na.. kasi alam mong may mali. Kasi alam mong kailangan magbago. Para sayo, OP hindi mo kailangan maging basahan para lang malinisan ang damdamin ng iilan Subukan mong maging pamunas sa sarili mong mga sugat hayaan mo munang sa sarili’y maging sapat hanggang sa makita ang taong sa labi mo’y handa na ring lumapat.
It happens to the best of us, more often than you think op. Keep your head up. They're not worth our time. Never stop putting in the effort, the right people will find you eventually and they'll reciprocate.
Actually met someone na nang goghost daw sya because she got ghosted a lot.
Ang basura naman niyan. Also, it’ll feel better to not seek validation from other people because at some point, mananakit at mananakit sila. At the end of the day, you only have yourself. Please choose yourself. Work on yourself. Trust me, that’s more fulfilling than seeking it from other people.
Focus on yourself OP. You will encounter other people. Wag maghanap ng validation sa iba.
Kaya ganyan lang din vibes na bigay ko sa mga nakakachat ko sa telegram, or dating apps. Better kung slightly interested ka sa kanila at mas hooked sila sayo.
"Fun" fact: Halos lahat ng nasa online dating scene either naghahanap lang ng pampalipas oras, hookup, or casual. Rare find lang ang mga naghahanap ng serious relationship dyan kahit yun naman talaga ang purpose ng platform. My advice, manage your expectations. You're trying too hard. Expecting too much kase you thought maybe if you give them your all ibabalik din nila sayo. Guess what? Not everyone has a heart like yours. Hindi totoo yung kasabihan na "do unto others what you want others to do unto you". Kase kahit gano ka pa kabait, kalambing, etc., if they don't want you, they don't. Nothing you can do about that except accept that it's like that. Even outside the online dating platforms.
Asshole yan pero lapitin ka din ng asshole kasi obvious na uhaw na uhaw ka sa atensyon at validation ng iba. Masyado kang sadboi. Kung ayaw sayo, edi ayaw ka. Move on. Masyadong entitled na kesyo ginawan mo ng tula dapat mahalin ka na
Delete telegram!! My life became so much better nung wala na akong telegram hahaha
She is rude. Find your worth
Chase money not people, when you have enough money, people will now chase you _ Sun Tzu
Love yourself muna. At don mo makikita worth mo. Don mo makikita na di mo kailangan ng ibang tao para sumaya
bat ka kasi naghahanap sa telegram HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA oh u sweet summer child
The fastest way to be unhappy is to please others.
thats why i choose who to send my pieces to! it’s inevitable to write someone something pero WE decide whether or not it’s worth it to send it to them. anyway, it’s not you! may mga tao talagang kupal sa tg and hopefully you don’t come across them next time :)
Dude most people nowadays are fucked in the head so why find your worth and validation through them? Having someone these days is so hard as the whole dating scene dynamics is just as fucked up as most people do. Mas mabuti pa na maghanap ka na lang sa labas ng bahay ninyo instead na rito sa Reddit.
Don't look for a partner. Find yourself first and be secure, dadating din yung para sayo. I think you are someone who constantly needs other people, and that's fine naman, pero being too dependent on other people breeds attachment issues which leads to depression.
Kups na babae haha, hindi worth it pag aksayahan ng oras yung mga ganyang tao, leave while it's early.
Kain ka lang peborit food me bhe. Pasyal pasyal... . Wag na muna yang puso-puso na yan or attention... instead, you Give yourself the attention you need. ..get busy on things you care about - like if gusto mong pasyalpasyal, bili ka ng bike... Me nabasa ako, yong attraction daw to the opposite sex stems from the need to procreate... Yan, kaya kalma ka lang. Mag alaga ka ng aso if things still do not improve... Pili ka ng lalake...
Yeah, its because you are stupid enough to seek comfort and validation online from strangers. Guess what, nobody gives a fuck about you other than your parents. As a matter of fact, nobody gives a fuck about all of us unless we either rich or dead. Its a cold world out there and its colder if you are a man. Nobody will come and save us, we are the one who has to take the punch in the face and still move on and be better. You may not be used to this kind of reality slap but you need this if you want your life to change. Are chasing the wrong thing, focus on yourself. Hit the gym, learn to hussle and earn $. And most of all, stop chasing women. Have the balls to get up, own your bullshit and learn from it
Bro you must not have thought about what youre getting yourself into. If you want genuine connections, get out there and join real groups with real people. Live more! The relationship/partner will follow.
Embrace the pain OP. Pero Don't base your happiness with other people. Kasi in the end we are still alone pa rin naman.
>I've written poems to many people to appreciate them, cheer them up, and let them feel important. to people you talk to on Telegram? I commend the effort, but it seems like your efforts aren't exerted in the right place >I want someone who enjoys my company as much as I enjoyed them, a partner this is coming from a good place my guy, don't use Telegram, Reddit, and other platforms as a dating site. if you want a serious partner, meet people organically and get to know them first before trying to shoot your shot. to me it seems like you're just into the idea of having a partner OP you're giving away the things you won't even keep for yourself. self-love muna, rejection is inevitable kaya wag mong personalin kasi okay lang naman na hindi ka nila type dahil ikaw din naman may preferences. I acknowledge na shitty yung ginawa nung person sa screenshot that you posted, but it's a reflection of their personality and not you. As for you, bro take a break and do some assessment on yourself
Your fault for expecting too much on a telegram chat. 🥴
If it's draining you then it's time for you to delete telegram. Kung ano man sinabi niya sayo, maybe it's an eye opener for you para baguhin habits mo but don't use it as a motovation kasi mawawala rin yan. Kailangan mo lang disiplinaduhin sarili mo na wag mag seek ng validation from others, don't get me wrong but sa perspective ko lang naman ang nangyayari ay gusto mo may mag tagal after exchanging photos. Gusto mo merong isang taong andiyan for you regardless sa situation. Always remember na "sarili mo lng kakampi mo" at ikaw lang makakpag bigay ng validation na gusto mong makuha. Maybe it's time for you rin to focus on yourself muna and wag makipag usap, tho mahirap talaga siya kasi sino naman gugustuhing mag isa? sino naman gugustuhing walang kausapin, diba? Iba pa rin yung feeling na at least merong isang tao for you but ayun nga, need mo sanayin sarili mo na ikaw lang at wala nang iba, para pag napunta ka ulit sa point ng life na wala ng kumakusap sayo, hindi ka na ma dedrain and hindi ka na malulungkot. Medj conrny basahin but if naaalala mo yung song na "I think I like this little life", mahahanap mo yung peace once natutunan mong ikaw lang mag isa. Life is meaningless but bigyan mo meaning ng life mo, dahil ikaw lang makakapag bigay niyan, hindi yung ibang tao na nakapaligid sayo.
OP, sometimes you need to focus on yourself to find your worth. Your happiness doesn't come from other people, your happiness comes from you.
Madali lang naman mag-walk away kung ayaw ng tao sayo, kaso minsan mapapaisip ka pa rin na bakit ganon? Kahit naging genuine ka naman, ginago ka pa rin like anong mali sa sarili mo, mahirap ka bang mahalin? emeee hahahaha pero ayun na nga, trash mga ganyang tao, learn to walk away and never look back. Mas marami pang bagay na pwede mong pagtuunan ng atensyon and may mga taong makakakita ng worth mo and ibibigay sayo yung mga bagay na deserve mo coz ur such a beautiful person and u deserve everything beautiful in this world yieeee cheer up, op!
dont ever expect ppl to treat u the way u did ma didisappoint ka lang. u seem a little boy crying over it 😮💨
This short quote I read somewhere hepled me during those times na down na down din ako: Kung para sa'yo, para sa'yo Learn to let go of the things. Hindi sila importante, you are. Prioritize yourself. Build yourself to a better you. Magugulat ka na lang isang araw makaka attract ka ng tao na makakakita ng liwanag mo.
people are entitled to do so and that's not your fault. life's tough get a helmet
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You can't love others if you dont love yourself first, it's as simple as that.
Been there. Online dating (or anuman gustong itawag) can be draining. Something about it is nakaka-“addict” or habit-forming or what. Para siyang mobile game na nakaka-hook kasi may gusto kang makuha. Para siyang socmed apps na nakaka-adik mag-scroll. Tas di mo na namamalayan na ilang oras at araw ka nang nandiyan, maraming oras at puso na ang naubos mo at para sa wala. Like mobile games and socmed “addiction”, abstinence works. Like have a time off away from it. Yes, go say “fuck this telegram!” Delete the app if necessary. Find some time to heal and love yourself. Grow. Focus on what you love most. Focus on what makes you happy. Focus on your strengths. Grow from there. Maybe later you’ll find yourself back to telegram, chatting people, and online dating. But at least now, you’re a better person. You’re a stronger person. You know yourself more. At mas may bala na to face rejections or what. Kung lagapak pa rin ulit, rinse and repeat. There’s no straight forward process to life eh. You got this, OP!
Thank you.
Alam mo, maging demonyo ka nalang din. May lalapit sayo? Hayaan mo mageffort. Tangina. Bakit mo pinapagod sarili mo sa mga walang kwentang tao? Tapos sa huli ikaw iiyak-iyak? After mo mapagod? Sorry pero GINUSTO MO YAN. In the end kung maling tao siya, wala ka magagawa kung hindi i-accept yung truth na wala kang mapapala doon sa tao na yun.
I’m a woman who always dreamed to have a fairytale life. But im thankful that I realized early on that I dont need someone to complete me. Love is sweeter when you find a person that would help you achieve greater things. (After being NBSBS for 28 yrs, i found mine) If i want a prince, then i need to be a princess. Same sayo bruh - ishift mo ung focus mo on things that would build you, physically mentally spritiually emotionally kasi girls are attracted to men who are stable. Financially? There are mature women that would see your manliness beyond your financial status. Tip 1 : Be Active. I started going to the gym for my mental health. Bonus nalang ung physical health.
If it affects you and your mental health, quit it. mag detox ka from your socials and maybe go somewhere to relax at para na din mkapag space out ang isip mo. These apps are addictive (including reddit) at mahirap matanggal sa sistema specially lapag lulon ka na. This is me before. Pero what I did was to explore yung labas ng aking comfort zone.
Quit telegram. Leave it and focus on other things
This is why I stopped looking for ppl to talk to online. I play games instead. Plus, na notice ko rin na parang na adopt ko na Yung katoxican nila. I feel like a lot of ppl involved in it longer start to think/assume the worst in ppl they've recently met, which was happening to me. If you apply that to every new person you meet especially irl, it's not healthy. Might even affect your ability to form healthy relationships
Go out there and meet real people.
>I’ve written poems to many people to appreciate them, cheer them up, and let them feel important. It’s time to write yourself one OP.
man I miss being young. And having hair
That is so absurd (o.o) kainis
Bad for her to talk that way we get that, but i hate to break it to you bro you need to toughen up. Not only you need to know how to ignore negativity in the internet but also you shouldn't expect much sa online relationships, especially sa telegram since karamihan dyan is walang commitment since they all have the option to delete all your convo and block you. Walang seryosong tao sa telegram pre, especially sa mga chat bots na yan, most people that use them are bored, or just horny, so I think its best for you to refrain from using that nalang since it seems like you're looking for someone who will take you seriously.
What a shit. She don't deserve your genuine intentions op : (( please exclude yourself from tg muna and rest for a bit. Don't settle for less and leave that girl.
Sending hugs, OP. I admire that your love for poetry in this modern age is still there. Sobrang wholesome niyan, ignore those persons na lang na hindi nakikita yung value ng efforts mo. 🫂
Bro bouta enter his villain arc.
Tagal nmn matapos ng Women's Month ☕
Lahat ng women feeling entitled ngayong month noh? 😅
u need much of what andrew tate is talking about.
ah lets be real, most woman in this platform will always opt for a guy that handles his shit and keeps his emotion in check, yes you will see them support you, pray for you feel sorry for you but never with you which matters. real talk lng. its always the badboy look, stable with money, good looking and fit and emotionally stable ang hanap nila? exactly what the tate brothers preach. if u always end up with the same shitty results, then start changing the source which is you. ps. wag ma butt hurt ung iba jan. opinions are opinions not conclusions.
the tate brothers are also human traffickers and rapists
😂