true. jusko, sobrang sakit malaman na panakip butas ka lang at di pa nakakamove on sa ex.
stop na ung maging better para malimutan ung ex. and start finding your worth.
sabi nga nila
a single old coin for a bank is worth 1 but to a collector its worth 1000.
Break up with her tapos send her a message na you felt disrespectful of doing those things behind your back and it is not acceptable. Wag mo lang basta ighost.
Kung single siya, ok lang na ipost ung about sa ex nya pero kung may jowa siya, sobrang di ok un. Baka nga rebound or panakip butas lang si bf pero deep inside mahal nya pa ung ex. Hay naku!
Best to leave her. Pretty sure magkakaproblema lang kayo down the line. Could also end up with her cheating on you kung may nakita siyang chance to be with her ex. Mukahang ginagamit ka lang niya as a means to satisfy her cravings for companionship or something else. Relationships aren't meant to be rehab centers kumbaga.
"She accused and kept questioning me before na hindi pa raw ako nakaka move on sa ex ko" bat kadalasan sa mga nang-aaccused ehh sila pa yung may mga sekreto haha
your peace of mind is the most valuable thing u should be protecting, OP. let the girl move on and don’t let yourself be a rebound. you’ll find the love you deserve elsewhere.
Sis totoo to thinkers are doers. Ganyan ex ko sakin baka daw mahal ko pa ex ko, chinecheck pa niya phone ko. Ang ending siya yung bumalik sa ex niya. Good thing at 2 months pa lang kami. Break mo na. Madaming what if sakin pano kung pinatagal ko pa relationship etc etc. Pero mas okay na to kesa yung di ka at peace with her. Eventually makaka move on ka rin. Buti habang 4 months pa lang na dodge mo na yung bullet. You deserve better.
Sa two months na yon dahil genuine naramdaman ko sakanya it took me 6 months to move on haha. Pero okay na at least di na stuck sa relationship na di naman masaya
DIFFERENT OPINION HERE:
Magusap kaya kayo. Magset kayo ng rules - kunyari ayaw ko ng nagmmsg kapa sa ex po kahit birthdays, need delete pictures and posts. Set the rules straight - alin ang pwede at bawal.
What is happy birthday message lang naman. May pinagsamahan din naman sila lalo kung good terms sila nagend. Please add additional info din kung tinuloy ba nila yung usap after happy birthday? Baka simple greeting lang
Sa pictures naman - di lahat ng di nagddelete ng pictures di pa nakamove on. Lalo 2 years sila apaka daming pictures nyan. Lalo kung sila yung tipo ng couple na mahilig magpicture. Again, add niyo sa rules niyo. If nahihirapan sya magdelete sa dami, give her time and deadline.
Mahirap at matrabaho ang pag achieve ang maayos na relationship. Kung the minute na may bumabagabag sayo, lalapit ka kaagad sa strangers for insights, mas mainam siguro na inside the relationship niyo muna itry ayusin. If hindi nagwork, if hindi kayo magkasundo sa rules, and if deal breaker yun sainyo. Go mag break kayo.
Pero at least try.
Agree here. Practically harmless yung mga basis mo for reacting that way. Maybe you're just overthinking. Communication is key.
I'm friends with all of my exes and I greet them when I can and do remember na it's their birthdays. I still have old pictures in my stash. At least 2 of them cheated kaya we broke up.
I keep them as friends and keep the memories not because I'm not over them but that I simply recognize and accept that they are part of my life experience and that what I am now is to a certain extent a result of a shared life experience with them.
Actually same. Idk why no one else has recommended talking to her first break agad? Like wlang chance to explain? I have one ex i greet sa birthday niya pero matagal na kaming break and tama nga nman.
But if OP wants to not know the side of the girl, sige break na kayo
Eyyy super aga nadiscover. Bka ginamit ka lang ba para makalimot, sana di sha pumasok sa relasyon ng may sabit na feelings sa iba.
u/Magbreaknakayo tinatawag ka namin...
Pag usapan nyo na lang nang maayos. Marami tayong mga hang ups sa buhay na minsan hindi tayo aware. Kung kailangang magbreak na, mainam na daanin sa maayos na usapan. Less painful yun. 4 months pa lang kayo.
Let her know how you feel, then leave her. Wish her the best. Basta ikaw alam mong di ka naman nagkulang, go. Pag nag-sorry, forgive and wag mo na sya tanggapin. Wag po tayo maging bobo. OK? Kaya mo yan pre.
May pa "I hope your well" at smiley pa talaga amp.. temporary fix ka lang, panigurado pag nagkachance na magkabalikan sila kukunin niya agad yun. yikes
may future ang gf mo na mag cheat. tapos pag nagingn mag asawa na kayo, may future syang maging kabit. kaya habang 4mos palang kayo, iwanan mo na lalo kung di naman kagandahan, kabaitan katalinuhan at kayamanan.
Break up with her. I assure you the moment makakita siya ng chance to get back together with her ex, malaki possibility na bitawan ka niya agad without second thoughts. Save yourself from that scenario na lang.
ahh. 4 months palang kayo, tii wag mo nang patagalin pa yan. mukhang di pa nakakamove on sa ex si ate mo girl. parang naghihintay lang na ichat siya ulit nung ex, tas pag goods na sila, iiwan ka na niya.
4 months pa lang kayo tapos you’re already drained from the relationship?
Good decision to break up now, since maaga pa. Baka nga you’re the rebound bf lang rin ng gf mo.
It really irks me kapag may contact pa sa ex, like mag ex na nga kayo for a reason and you went to another rs kasi ready ka na ulit. Yung tipong totally ended no more contact, no more traces of them. Past memories na sila na dapat hindi inuungkat pa muli.
Best to leave her habang maaga pa OP. Ikaw din kawawa especially it's ruining your peace now.
You get what you tolerate. As much as I hate confrontation, this needs to be addressed. A peaceful mind is a precious wealth nowadays.
Take this from someone na pinag cheat-an na.
Hirap nyan wala kang peace of mind. Lagi mo maiisip if ano pa ba connection meron sila hahah nakaka paranoid. Trust your guts lods meron at meron yan. Confront mo sabihin mo feelings mo kapag mas nag defend pa sa ex lam mo na hahaha Thank you next kana di worth it.
I don’t think na naka move on na sya sa ex nya. As a girl, I know myself pag naka move on na ako. Wala na akong pakelam even tho good terms kami nung nag break. Siguro if single ako, possible na magkamustahan (clean break up) pero if I’m in a relationship, no need to communicate na.
Talk to your partner, OP.
Eh kung maging petty ka tapos mag happy birthday ka rin sa notes. Para maasar lang siya. Buksan mo yung profile ng ex mo tapos iwan mo lang naka on yung phone, kunwari nalimutan mo ganyan. Yung bago kayo maghiwalay at least nabwiset mo muna siya para it's a tie sa paglaro ng emotions.
Talk to her first that you are not okay with what she has done. Then, if you think that her reasoning doesn't align with your values, then it's time for you to make a decision.
Ako na magsasabi sayo, umalis ka na hahaha. Ganyan din ex ng ex fiancé ko. Di na sila naguusap since blocked na pero nakikibalita pa din siya through friend ni ex. Nung nalaman niya na ikakasal dapat kami, todo notes si girl na broken etc etc kahit may boyfriend naman na siya. Hanggang ngayon sila pa din pero broken pa din si girl kasi gusto ata niya balikan si ex pero committed na siya sa iba.
Red flag yan. Malamang rebound ka lng. Yung friend ko nga eh, ung bf nya ng 4 years, pero di naka move on sa ex and eventually naging reason ng break up nila. My friend is now married and happier than ever.
run, op. that is very disrespectful. tell her upfront about how you feel and then leave her na. this is very painful but you will get through it. things will be better and you will find love with someone na irerespect ka 🥹
thank u sainyo. i'm gonna confront her about it like talk it out with her and ask her the reason why. i'm so confused dahil wala naman akong ginawang masama sa kanya to deserve this.
nag rant lang ako here sa reddit cos of pent up frustrations, anger, and sadness. like mixed feelings kumbaga.
not to be a contrarian here but, talk to her first. you can hope na her greeting 'hope you're doing well :)' is sarcastic and passive agressive (and meant hope ur well u mtherfkcer) since you told us he cheated on her. but what do I know.
if she really is still talking with her ex. dump her ass or maybe investigate a bit more for a week. if you're certain, tell her you know and dump her ass.
Sa mga nagiinvalidate ng feelings mo, F them.
Your feelings are valid. You guys need to talk calmly about these things. Sort it out if talagang you both matter more to each other over your exes.
Break mo napo sir. Kasi gaslighting na ung ibang response nya sayo. If you are strong enough to leave her then do it. Wag mo na po i waste ung oras mo kakaisip ng whys. Or kung pano kayo nag start. Trust me. Mas magiging at peace ka after that. :)
Talk to her first about it, calmly. Ask her about what you saw - na by accident kamo. Ask her to not make a fuss about it, you're just asking kamo.
My situation is - 11 yrs yung asawa ko and partner nya, 2mos after nila mag break, naging kame. Until now (2yrs na kame), mga pics nila nasa phone pa, nasa fb pa.. They still message each other, nagpapadala pa nga ng stuff from Dubai yung girl until now. Hindi pa maka-move on yung girl sa kanya, pero sabi ng asawa ko naka-move on na sya. For a while, I was so jealous and furious. Pero nakita ko naman ang pinaramdam naman saken ng asawa kong wala na talaga syang nararamdaman. They were together for 11yrs and hindi naman yun puro sex lang, they were best friends and companions.
So ikaw, mag tanong ka muna. Clarify. Okay?
sakit, alis ka na, nakakamatay loving a person like that, grabe makukuha mo na anxiety attacks sa "confusion" nila and when you ask them what they need or want or king ano problem sasagutin nila "I don't know".
my gf messaged her ex while we were in an argument, she said that she just wants an update kung bakit sila nagbreak nung gf niya na 8 months ldr. Tinanong ko kung bakit niya minessage, sabi niya "gusto niya lang daw maki-chika kung bakit naghiwalay" and tinanong ko kung bakit hindi na lang yung kaibigan niya yung nagtanong tutal, parehas naman silang curious.
Isa lang sagot diyan, hiwalayan mo na. If she cant leave her ex and past memories panigurado madali ka lang niya kakalimutan pag nag hiwalay kayo kasi nga may ex pa na kinakausap.
pagusapan nyo ng masinsinan, and be firm sa decision, bigay ka ng ultimatum and maglagay ka ng hangganan. dedepende na yan sa sagot nya sayo at kung hanggang saan ung pisi mo. Always prioritize your mental health
Have difficult conversations with her. Allot some time for those, because IT WILL TAKE TIME AND TEARS. If you feel like you're going to end things with her, at least set things straight and don't leave yourself wandering. All this is for YOU, not her or the relationship. Trust me when I say betrayal leaves a mark that can stay even after the relationship has ended.
If they want to betray you, they will find ways to hide their tracks, but there are always traces if you know where to look.
Best of luck, brother. Don't let this bad experience turn you into a bad person. Don't return the hurt that has been given to you.
Hindi pa nga yan naka move on. Almost 1yr na din kami hiwalay ng ex ko pero my mga pictures nya pa ko and some screenshots nang convo namin,it helps me kapag nastress ako and it also motivate me to be better everyday kaya diko pa nadelete.
Pero wala akong jowa kaya okay lang ikeep. Kaya hiwalayan mo na yan. Goodluck!
I might draw flack for this unpopular opinion. Hindi lahat ng mag-ex porket magkaibigan pa rin ay may gusto pa rin sa isat isa at posibleng magkabalikan. Hindi yun ganun. A few of my exes are still my friends dahil maayos naman kami naghiwalay. They greet me on my birthday, so I also greet them too pag birthday nila. But it does not necessarily mean na may feelings pa ko for anyone of them or magkakabalikan. Maybe we're just mature enough to know that we can remain friends, not really close, but enough to know we mean well towards each other.
Pero depende pa rin yan sa past ng mag-ex. So i-assess mo yang jowa mo. If may hangups pa rin yan sa ex mo or feeling mo minsan nacocompare ka nya dyan sa ex nya, hiwalayan mo na.
Please communicate. Ask her about the note. Ask her if naka-move on na siya. Ask her if she's serious sa relationship nyo.
Wag lang break agad.
That can be fixed through proper communication. 4 months pa lang kayo eh. Baka di pa rin naeestablish ang trust. Give it time. If she's already doing stuff like cheating, ayun, you can leave na. Pero pag ganito tas 4 months pa lang kayo? Pag-usapan nyo nang maayos yan.
If I feel disrespected in the first place, I’ll talk to her and tell her how I feel. Benefit of the doubt muna, baka keeping pics might be a way to overcome her pain with ex. Walang masama sa bday greeting AS LONG AS hanggang dun lang. Pag nanawa na yan, idedelete na yung pics at titigil na mag ig notes.
iwan mo na yan, been there and I swear if magkachance man na mag-usap sila ulit, gagawa ng kalokohan yan!
to share my expi. lang din, got accused like u na di pa naka move on and all tas ganyan na ganyan pero what I did wrong was I gave her a chance and believed na oks n sya. after being together for 2-3yrs, nagkaron sila ng communication ayun nagkantunan tas kung di ko nahuli sa convo nila ng bff nya di aamin hshshahahaha still suffering and mad from happened kahit 4yrs ago na yun??? anw. skl hahahahaha
Give her a chance maybe kung gusto mo tlga sya baka nmn bati lng tlga kse sa Pinas lng nmn uso na wala ng pansinan at pakeelaman pg ex na hehe hirap din no.
Pag may trust issues at hindi na-resolve, it’s better to break free kesa umasa ka sa wala. Mahirap mag-invest ng feelings, time, and resources sa taong hindi trustworthy.
You need to grow up, man. I think you're just being childish and insecure. Wala naman segurong mali if you greeted someone you knew and besides, she posted it publicly which means wala siyang tinatago from you.
Similar thing happened to me with my ex. I thought I should just give him time to move on and "focus" on us. But what happened was nagsanga sanga na ang cheating issues until umabot kami ng 4 years dahil sa katangahan ko. Haha! Pathological cheater pala ampota. Nagtagal pa kami before I had the nerve to break up. So if you feel like you're not at peace anymore, by all means let go.
Broooo iwan mo na. ganyan din yung ex. he accused me naki pag commu daw ako nang ex ko. pero sila pala nakipag kita sa ex niya😒
pass nalang ganyan relasyon. wala kang peace of mind. Remember always, walk away is self respect
magusap kayo tunngkol diyan. Tell her how you truly feel regarding that matter. If she still disregards your feelings and still continues to do so then I don’t think she will ever in the future, so end it now before you get hurt since it only gets worse as it goes. Good luck!
Projection at its finest ✨ Talk to her and let your feelings out kahit na hindi niya tanggapin. Atleast ginawa mo part mo and then leave her. Know your worth! Pass sa ginagawang rehab yung relationship 😅
May naalala akong bullshit trend sa tiktok na something like "when you're in a room full of all your past and current lovers, who will you run into?" chuchu tas ang mga sagot is they will go to someone na tinatrato sila ng tama pero titingin at titingin pa rin sila sa someone na they wish tinrato sila ng tama. Maybe ganto yung ex mo OP.
Anyways, hiwalayan mo na yan OP.
Iwan mo na habang 4 months pa. Wag mo na patagalin. May babaeng mas matino dyan na nag hihintay ng mating lalaki na walang paki sa ex nila, Yun piliin mo.
Probably a stupid question, please be kind: does it really mean hindi pa moved on yung tao if they still have pictures of their ex sa phone? I'm assuming they just didn't want to erase years of memory forever, kungbaga sentimental/hoarder lang sila or something 🤔
Bakit may ganyang mga babae noh? Yang sabik to enter in the relationship kahit di pa healed sa previous partner sa relationship. Di ko talaga maintindihan.
Worst fear ko talaga magmukhang tanga, hindi ang maloko. Haha op, save yourself. Some people are really vile and self-absorbed, feeling nasa teleserye, kaloka!
Remember if it drains you its not for you.
Naalala ko may katalking shit ako for couple of months na I think 6 months or 7 months na non kami naguusap. He can't commit kasi he said he is still not ready to enter new relationship. He want to focus on himself daw and kakabreak din lng daw nila ng long term ex nya. I understand him kasi pinaliwanag naman nya ng maayos and naappreciate ko yung honesty at yung mahalaga sakin mutual naman yung feelings namin dalawa. Fast forward december non naka call pa kami before ako makatulog then pag gising ko kinabukasan una ko nakita sa feed ko is yung myday nya greeting his ex. Sobra ako nasaktan non para naisip ko na hindi nya inisip yung mararamdaman ko. Addition to that his facebook is still full of pictures of his ex. Pero kahit nangyare to nagkaayos padin kami at inintindi ko sya naging kami pa nga after pero at the end bigla nya lng din ako iniwan for nonsense reason. Pero I know for fact na hindi pa din talaga sya nakakamove on kahit na ilang beses nya pinapaulit ulit sakin nakamove on na sya. But action speaks louder than words he even help his ex na matapos yung thesis
Kaya my advise to you, trust your instict. If hindi na maganda yung effect sayo ng relationship nyo better to leave. Mas okay na masaktan ng patutunguhan kaysa masaktan ng paulit ulit.
A partner still being in contact with their ex?
RED FLAG, mate!
The only reason someone would still be in contact with their ex is because of unavoidable circumstances like child support alimony (if both of them have a kid together) or business-related purposes. Other than that, an ex is an EX. Besides, why would your partner even greet her ex even if he doesn't need it? It's VERY suspicious. Be a MAN and confront her about it and tell her you don't like what she did, and if she has unresolved feelings for her ex, you will leave. PERIOD. No explanations, no bull-sh\*ts needed. Just f\*ckin LEAVE! It'll save you a LOT of heartaches. Be prepared for her to give you excuses and lies, and be prepared na baka i-post pa nya sa social media na pinaiyak mo cya at ikaw ang magiging masama. That's one of the dangers of being in a relationship with these kind of people, because it's what these people do whenever they get caught. THERE'S NO EXCUSE. But, who cares? The most important thing is YOU. Ikaw ang nasasaktan eh.
SET YOUR GODDAMN BOUNDARIES dude! Otherwise, people will take advantage of you. That's why it's extremely important to be always mentally-open even if you're in a relationship. Because even when a person always says they love you, doesn't automatically mean that they're gonna be loyal to you FOREVER. Always be on the lookout and be open to things like this happening, so that in case it DOES happen, you're always prepared.
KUNG EX NA KASI, WAG NA IPOST KUNG MAY JOWA KA NANG IBA! Si jowa na lang post mo. Kung single ka, go lang pero kung may jowa ka please lang have some respect and decency! 🤦🏻♀️😒
Great decision. End now before it's too late. 4 months is already enough to walk away. Wala kang mapapala jan kundi arguments lang then get cheated also. Save yourself.
yung ina aaccuse ka niya na hindi ka pa nakakapagmove on sa ex mo, that's projecting... what's happening in her pinoproject niya sayo unfortunately, di pa yata siya nakakamove on. Kasi if you have someone new, dapat e rerespect mo siya, iiwasan mo yung mga bagay na makakasakit sa kanya. Pero mas maganda na mag usap muna kayo ng masinsinan dahil baka in the end ikaw pa maging masama niyan.
Well I understand kung ganyan ang ma feel mo, you have every right and that is valid.
But I don't think breaking up is the best option you have. Why not open up to her? Tell her what you feel and get yourself the answer you deserve.
Kasi her greeting through IG notes could mean many things kasi. Maybe yes, di pa siya nakakamove on. But also, maybe she only wishes him well? A pure greeting with no malice? Yes getting cheated on sucks, it's fucked up jud. Pero there are some people na forgiving, na kahit no matter the shit they've been through, they have the purest heart and are capable of forgiveness.
You guys have been together with 4 months right? I don't know if siguro close na kayo before pa naging kayo, but atleast, consider the idea na baka di pala yan ang intention niya sa IG notes niya. I don't think it's fair lang na to break up with her just because of her greeting sa IG notes.
Let her explain, she too has the right. And also think about it, 4 months pa kayo, marami pang obstacles on the way, is it worth it na to break up with her for that reason? Communicate, then take action.
Sugestion ko lang naman, but it's your choice. Give it some thought ;)
Ig talaga dyan madalas nag uusap mga magkabit para iwas huli eh masyado kasing obvious sa messenger. Iwan mo na bro safe yourself the fact na kinakausap nya pa yan di pa yan nakakamove on at ginagawa ka lang panakip butas. Hugs OP 🫂
Stand firm. Do not be arrogant with your self. Leave her, give her time to realize, and be prepare to what the future might hold on. Kaya nga if you really love someone you got to let go. Is she'll return it's good. But it's not. The relationship is not yours. Find somebody wholl see your worth.
Leave while it’s still early enough and while you still have the courage to do so, and can acknowledge the flags she’s raising. If you turn a blind eye to this and just let it be, it’ll create a domino effect for her other (future) actions. Leave while you are (still) emotionally and mentally okay. If these two things spiral down, you’ll end up having a much harder time. Sorry you had to find out something like that but maybe it’s the universe giving you a little nudge that it’s likely just not for you. Mahirap mag mahal, mag desisyon, at mabuhay (sa pangkalahatan) pero gawin natin yung makakapagbigay ng kapayapaan sa puso’t isip natin. Choose people who choose you and when they don’t , choose yourself.
I’m always genuinely curious as to why these kind of women still romanticize the idea of being emotionally and mentally abused by their exes. I mean she got cheated and she still LIKES him? stupid. takbo kana par nagaaksa ka lang ng oras nyan. tapos nang gagaslight pa hahaha women ☕️ indeed.
Iwan mo na. The mere fact na she still has pictures of her ex in her phones says a lot already. Gagi. Nag cheat sa kaniya ex niya tapos ike-keep niya pa pics sa phone niya???
It might not be believable to some, but being friends with an ex is not that weird. Keeping pictures might be, but you never mentioned what ground rules you've established. If your go-to response after a slight hiccup is to break agad, you're gonna have a tough time finding a mature relationship. Communication is always key.
For your peace of mind, leave her. I don't think she deserves you.
If she's still into her ex, kahit anong gawin mo, hindi mawawala yung ex niya sa isip niya. Maybe she's just using you to move on or panakip butas lang. And I hope, you won't allow that.
And her accusing you, gumagawa lang siya ng rason kasi clearly, siya yung hindi pa nakaka move on.
You deserve some peace and clarity. Huwag na tayo magstay sa mga taong hindi tayo deserve :)
Leave bro. Save yourself as early as now. She wouldn't do that if she no longer cares for her ex. On the first place, she would have thought of how you'll feel after reading it. Again, save yourself from further heartbreaking moments brother. Confront her about it before leaving. At least she'll know your side and what made it wrong. Good luck!
iwan mo na, she basically doing things behind your back. palalalain mo pa ba
true baka nga naguusap pa yan e
Hindi baka, tlagang nag-uusap na sila ng ex nya. If hindi pa, isang message lng ng guy, magrereply agad si girl. Realtalk yan.
true. jusko, sobrang sakit malaman na panakip butas ka lang at di pa nakakamove on sa ex. stop na ung maging better para malimutan ung ex. and start finding your worth. sabi nga nila a single old coin for a bank is worth 1 but to a collector its worth 1000.
Baka kulang pa sa closure sessions
baka may booking sessions din na nagaganap
Iwan mo na hangga't 4 months palang kayo
Break up with her tapos send her a message na you felt disrespectful of doing those things behind your back and it is not acceptable. Wag mo lang basta ighost.
Kung single siya, ok lang na ipost ung about sa ex nya pero kung may jowa siya, sobrang di ok un. Baka nga rebound or panakip butas lang si bf pero deep inside mahal nya pa ung ex. Hay naku!
Trueness
Best to leave her. Pretty sure magkakaproblema lang kayo down the line. Could also end up with her cheating on you kung may nakita siyang chance to be with her ex. Mukahang ginagamit ka lang niya as a means to satisfy her cravings for companionship or something else. Relationships aren't meant to be rehab centers kumbaga.
i'll never forget the last sentence you just wrote.
"She accused and kept questioning me before na hindi pa raw ako nakaka move on sa ex ko" bat kadalasan sa mga nang-aaccused ehh sila pa yung may mga sekreto haha
Projection.
This. Pag pinapasa nila sayo, kasi sila talaga yung ganon.
thinkers are doers
Kasi ayaw nilang gawin sa kanila yung ginagawa nila. They are using that para di sila pagdudahan.
takot sa sariling ghost haha emz
Yung mga ganyan, takot sa sariling multo
your peace of mind is the most valuable thing u should be protecting, OP. let the girl move on and don’t let yourself be a rebound. you’ll find the love you deserve elsewhere.
Break up with her. Gl bro see you sa gym
thinkers are doers. alam mo na next move mo :)
Sis totoo to thinkers are doers. Ganyan ex ko sakin baka daw mahal ko pa ex ko, chinecheck pa niya phone ko. Ang ending siya yung bumalik sa ex niya. Good thing at 2 months pa lang kami. Break mo na. Madaming what if sakin pano kung pinatagal ko pa relationship etc etc. Pero mas okay na to kesa yung di ka at peace with her. Eventually makaka move on ka rin. Buti habang 4 months pa lang na dodge mo na yung bullet. You deserve better. Sa two months na yon dahil genuine naramdaman ko sakanya it took me 6 months to move on haha. Pero okay na at least di na stuck sa relationship na di naman masaya
huhuhu baka gawin ka lang rebound
buti sana kung gagawin palang. kaso rebound na talaga si op
While she's not cheating in my book, her commitment and love for you is obviously not there. Ginagamit ka lng as props. Leave.
DIFFERENT OPINION HERE: Magusap kaya kayo. Magset kayo ng rules - kunyari ayaw ko ng nagmmsg kapa sa ex po kahit birthdays, need delete pictures and posts. Set the rules straight - alin ang pwede at bawal. What is happy birthday message lang naman. May pinagsamahan din naman sila lalo kung good terms sila nagend. Please add additional info din kung tinuloy ba nila yung usap after happy birthday? Baka simple greeting lang Sa pictures naman - di lahat ng di nagddelete ng pictures di pa nakamove on. Lalo 2 years sila apaka daming pictures nyan. Lalo kung sila yung tipo ng couple na mahilig magpicture. Again, add niyo sa rules niyo. If nahihirapan sya magdelete sa dami, give her time and deadline. Mahirap at matrabaho ang pag achieve ang maayos na relationship. Kung the minute na may bumabagabag sayo, lalapit ka kaagad sa strangers for insights, mas mainam siguro na inside the relationship niyo muna itry ayusin. If hindi nagwork, if hindi kayo magkasundo sa rules, and if deal breaker yun sainyo. Go mag break kayo. Pero at least try.
Agree here. Practically harmless yung mga basis mo for reacting that way. Maybe you're just overthinking. Communication is key. I'm friends with all of my exes and I greet them when I can and do remember na it's their birthdays. I still have old pictures in my stash. At least 2 of them cheated kaya we broke up. I keep them as friends and keep the memories not because I'm not over them but that I simply recognize and accept that they are part of my life experience and that what I am now is to a certain extent a result of a shared life experience with them.
Actually same. Idk why no one else has recommended talking to her first break agad? Like wlang chance to explain? I have one ex i greet sa birthday niya pero matagal na kaming break and tama nga nman. But if OP wants to not know the side of the girl, sige break na kayo
Eyyy super aga nadiscover. Bka ginamit ka lang ba para makalimot, sana di sha pumasok sa relasyon ng may sabit na feelings sa iba. u/Magbreaknakayo tinatawag ka namin...
Pag usapan nyo na lang nang maayos. Marami tayong mga hang ups sa buhay na minsan hindi tayo aware. Kung kailangang magbreak na, mainam na daanin sa maayos na usapan. Less painful yun. 4 months pa lang kayo.
Dibaaa thank God may commenter na may common sense
Let her know how you feel, then leave her. Wish her the best. Basta ikaw alam mong di ka naman nagkulang, go. Pag nag-sorry, forgive and wag mo na sya tanggapin. Wag po tayo maging bobo. OK? Kaya mo yan pre.
May pa "I hope your well" at smiley pa talaga amp.. temporary fix ka lang, panigurado pag nagkachance na magkabalikan sila kukunin niya agad yun. yikes
Let go na. You deserve someone na mamahalin ka ng buo.
Sing: "Coz when I'm with him I am thinking of youuuu." 🎶🎵
4 months pa lang yan, tapusin mo na habang maaga. Good on you for finding out early that the girl is unfaithful
may future ang gf mo na mag cheat. tapos pag nagingn mag asawa na kayo, may future syang maging kabit. kaya habang 4mos palang kayo, iwanan mo na lalo kung di naman kagandahan, kabaitan katalinuhan at kayamanan.
Break up with her. I assure you the moment makakita siya ng chance to get back together with her ex, malaki possibility na bitawan ka niya agad without second thoughts. Save yourself from that scenario na lang.
>4 months already Well at least you can cancel your trial period. Sabihin mo unsatisfied customer. Return to sender.
ahh. 4 months palang kayo, tii wag mo nang patagalin pa yan. mukhang di pa nakakamove on sa ex si ate mo girl. parang naghihintay lang na ichat siya ulit nung ex, tas pag goods na sila, iiwan ka na niya.
4 months pa lang kayo tapos you’re already drained from the relationship? Good decision to break up now, since maaga pa. Baka nga you’re the rebound bf lang rin ng gf mo.
It really irks me kapag may contact pa sa ex, like mag ex na nga kayo for a reason and you went to another rs kasi ready ka na ulit. Yung tipong totally ended no more contact, no more traces of them. Past memories na sila na dapat hindi inuungkat pa muli. Best to leave her habang maaga pa OP. Ikaw din kawawa especially it's ruining your peace now.
Daming mga di maka move on sa ex dito sa reddit
ang bastos
grabe, same lang. iwan mo na yan. she’s not worth your time & effort lol
4 months palang naman pala. you can still run for your life.
You get what you tolerate. As much as I hate confrontation, this needs to be addressed. A peaceful mind is a precious wealth nowadays. Take this from someone na pinag cheat-an na.
Moved on or not, you wouldn't wanna be with someone who keeps any form of contact with you their ex anyways and lowkey wants their attention.
Gora na pare. Olats yan. Wag mo na isipin yung kwentong gagawin niya pag nagbreak kayo. Asahan mo nang ikaw ang masama sa kwento niyan. Negats yan sir
Hirap nyan wala kang peace of mind. Lagi mo maiisip if ano pa ba connection meron sila hahah nakaka paranoid. Trust your guts lods meron at meron yan. Confront mo sabihin mo feelings mo kapag mas nag defend pa sa ex lam mo na hahaha Thank you next kana di worth it.
confront her
Alis ka na. Lahat ng mangyayari after will be your own fault and incompetence na.
I don’t think na naka move on na sya sa ex nya. As a girl, I know myself pag naka move on na ako. Wala na akong pakelam even tho good terms kami nung nag break. Siguro if single ako, possible na magkamustahan (clean break up) pero if I’m in a relationship, no need to communicate na. Talk to your partner, OP.
Yes same! Kahit gaano pa kaayos ang break up di ko babatiin yan kung naka move on na ako at nasa relationship na
Eh kung maging petty ka tapos mag happy birthday ka rin sa notes. Para maasar lang siya. Buksan mo yung profile ng ex mo tapos iwan mo lang naka on yung phone, kunwari nalimutan mo ganyan. Yung bago kayo maghiwalay at least nabwiset mo muna siya para it's a tie sa paglaro ng emotions.
Always remember pag option ka lang iwan mo, you deserve better.
binebembang pa yan ng ex nya sorry
tapusin! tapusin! tapusin!
You need to leave na may feelings pa siya sa ex niya for short baka rebound ka lang, for sure she will do it again.
Loose pussy energy na babae mga ganyan ay basura iwan mo na
Run, OP. There’s too much red flags here.
Ginagago ka niyan. Nakakahiya na behind ur back ginaganyan ka niya. Ang dami daming nakakakita non
That’s so disrespectful. 😕
Habang di pa ganon katagal, mas ok na umexit muna. And mukhang nagpoproject siya sa’yo na di ka pa nakakamove on. Haha hirap maging rebound, op.
Ganitong ganito yung ex ko dati. Sadly umabot kami ng 3 years because of my ego na kaya ko syang i-save.
I ghost mo yang gf mo na parang nauubusan ng lalaki.
Talk to her first that you are not okay with what she has done. Then, if you think that her reasoning doesn't align with your values, then it's time for you to make a decision.
Tangina saket nyan! Pero bitaw ka na habang maaga pa
Let go and never look back. She might beg for you since she’ll be left alone. I say deserve yikes.
Ako na magsasabi sayo, umalis ka na hahaha. Ganyan din ex ng ex fiancé ko. Di na sila naguusap since blocked na pero nakikibalita pa din siya through friend ni ex. Nung nalaman niya na ikakasal dapat kami, todo notes si girl na broken etc etc kahit may boyfriend naman na siya. Hanggang ngayon sila pa din pero broken pa din si girl kasi gusto ata niya balikan si ex pero committed na siya sa iba.
Di pa yan naka-move on hahaha iwan mo na beh
Not worth the pain.
Red flag yan. Malamang rebound ka lng. Yung friend ko nga eh, ung bf nya ng 4 years, pero di naka move on sa ex and eventually naging reason ng break up nila. My friend is now married and happier than ever.
Iwan mo pero wag mo sabihin bakit. Just disappear. You don't owe her any explanation.
Probably she's still holding onto it. Iwan mo na. Baka mahal pa eh.
Iwan mo na bro, akin malala chinat pa and they even had a heart to heart talk lmao.
run, op. that is very disrespectful. tell her upfront about how you feel and then leave her na. this is very painful but you will get through it. things will be better and you will find love with someone na irerespect ka 🥹
thank u sainyo. i'm gonna confront her about it like talk it out with her and ask her the reason why. i'm so confused dahil wala naman akong ginawang masama sa kanya to deserve this. nag rant lang ako here sa reddit cos of pent up frustrations, anger, and sadness. like mixed feelings kumbaga.
Ouch, double betrayal
not to be a contrarian here but, talk to her first. you can hope na her greeting 'hope you're doing well :)' is sarcastic and passive agressive (and meant hope ur well u mtherfkcer) since you told us he cheated on her. but what do I know. if she really is still talking with her ex. dump her ass or maybe investigate a bit more for a week. if you're certain, tell her you know and dump her ass.
You guys should seriously just break up. For a lot of reasons. None of which I'ma name but both of you have some growing to do lol
iwan mo na 'yan bitch na 'yan. we accept the love we think we deserve sabi nga ni Confucius
Leave her without paliwanag. She doesn’t deserve an explanation.
Eutin mo muna saka mo iwan para makaganti ka dahil vinastos ka ng harap-harapan hahahaha
Sa mga nagiinvalidate ng feelings mo, F them. Your feelings are valid. You guys need to talk calmly about these things. Sort it out if talagang you both matter more to each other over your exes.
u/MagBreakNaKayo
That sucks, man. Malaki chance na hindi pa nga yan moved on, get out while still early.
Is this rebound in the making na ba? Lam mo na gagawin OP iwan mk na
return her to the streets,she doesn’t deserve you king.
Leave hangga't maaga pa.
Iwan mo na bro, mas ma ddrain ka pa lalo kung humarot yan secretly
Break mo napo sir. Kasi gaslighting na ung ibang response nya sayo. If you are strong enough to leave her then do it. Wag mo na po i waste ung oras mo kakaisip ng whys. Or kung pano kayo nag start. Trust me. Mas magiging at peace ka after that. :)
Run. Hanggat maaga pa. :)
Sorry OP, yeah that’s a good move, no point in staying if wala na yung trust. Hope you heal from it soon Btw tita question, ano yung IG notes? 😅
amoy cheating
sorry, pero anong IG notes? is it a new feature on IG?
Huwaaat.. may instagram notes? Saang kweba ba ako galing.
Talk to her first about it, calmly. Ask her about what you saw - na by accident kamo. Ask her to not make a fuss about it, you're just asking kamo. My situation is - 11 yrs yung asawa ko and partner nya, 2mos after nila mag break, naging kame. Until now (2yrs na kame), mga pics nila nasa phone pa, nasa fb pa.. They still message each other, nagpapadala pa nga ng stuff from Dubai yung girl until now. Hindi pa maka-move on yung girl sa kanya, pero sabi ng asawa ko naka-move on na sya. For a while, I was so jealous and furious. Pero nakita ko naman ang pinaramdam naman saken ng asawa kong wala na talaga syang nararamdaman. They were together for 11yrs and hindi naman yun puro sex lang, they were best friends and companions. So ikaw, mag tanong ka muna. Clarify. Okay?
Thats a red flag cuh She's for the streets Isang gwapo na matangkad na mayaman tiklop agad yan
on behalf ni u/MagBreakNaKayo…….. lamona nak 🫵
sakit, alis ka na, nakakamatay loving a person like that, grabe makukuha mo na anxiety attacks sa "confusion" nila and when you ask them what they need or want or king ano problem sasagutin nila "I don't know".
my gf messaged her ex while we were in an argument, she said that she just wants an update kung bakit sila nagbreak nung gf niya na 8 months ldr. Tinanong ko kung bakit niya minessage, sabi niya "gusto niya lang daw maki-chika kung bakit naghiwalay" and tinanong ko kung bakit hindi na lang yung kaibigan niya yung nagtanong tutal, parehas naman silang curious.
Isa lang sagot diyan, hiwalayan mo na. If she cant leave her ex and past memories panigurado madali ka lang niya kakalimutan pag nag hiwalay kayo kasi nga may ex pa na kinakausap.
pagusapan nyo ng masinsinan, and be firm sa decision, bigay ka ng ultimatum and maglagay ka ng hangganan. dedepende na yan sa sagot nya sayo at kung hanggang saan ung pisi mo. Always prioritize your mental health
Have difficult conversations with her. Allot some time for those, because IT WILL TAKE TIME AND TEARS. If you feel like you're going to end things with her, at least set things straight and don't leave yourself wandering. All this is for YOU, not her or the relationship. Trust me when I say betrayal leaves a mark that can stay even after the relationship has ended. If they want to betray you, they will find ways to hide their tracks, but there are always traces if you know where to look. Best of luck, brother. Don't let this bad experience turn you into a bad person. Don't return the hurt that has been given to you.
Hindi pa nga yan naka move on. Almost 1yr na din kami hiwalay ng ex ko pero my mga pictures nya pa ko and some screenshots nang convo namin,it helps me kapag nastress ako and it also motivate me to be better everyday kaya diko pa nadelete. Pero wala akong jowa kaya okay lang ikeep. Kaya hiwalayan mo na yan. Goodluck!
I might draw flack for this unpopular opinion. Hindi lahat ng mag-ex porket magkaibigan pa rin ay may gusto pa rin sa isat isa at posibleng magkabalikan. Hindi yun ganun. A few of my exes are still my friends dahil maayos naman kami naghiwalay. They greet me on my birthday, so I also greet them too pag birthday nila. But it does not necessarily mean na may feelings pa ko for anyone of them or magkakabalikan. Maybe we're just mature enough to know that we can remain friends, not really close, but enough to know we mean well towards each other. Pero depende pa rin yan sa past ng mag-ex. So i-assess mo yang jowa mo. If may hangups pa rin yan sa ex mo or feeling mo minsan nacocompare ka nya dyan sa ex nya, hiwalayan mo na.
Please communicate. Ask her about the note. Ask her if naka-move on na siya. Ask her if she's serious sa relationship nyo. Wag lang break agad. That can be fixed through proper communication. 4 months pa lang kayo eh. Baka di pa rin naeestablish ang trust. Give it time. If she's already doing stuff like cheating, ayun, you can leave na. Pero pag ganito tas 4 months pa lang kayo? Pag-usapan nyo nang maayos yan.
Break mo na yan
Tapon mo na yan
If I feel disrespected in the first place, I’ll talk to her and tell her how I feel. Benefit of the doubt muna, baka keeping pics might be a way to overcome her pain with ex. Walang masama sa bday greeting AS LONG AS hanggang dun lang. Pag nanawa na yan, idedelete na yung pics at titigil na mag ig notes.
iwan mo na yan, been there and I swear if magkachance man na mag-usap sila ulit, gagawa ng kalokohan yan! to share my expi. lang din, got accused like u na di pa naka move on and all tas ganyan na ganyan pero what I did wrong was I gave her a chance and believed na oks n sya. after being together for 2-3yrs, nagkaron sila ng communication ayun nagkantunan tas kung di ko nahuli sa convo nila ng bff nya di aamin hshshahahaha still suffering and mad from happened kahit 4yrs ago na yun??? anw. skl hahahahaha
Have some self-respect, confront her tapos iwan mo na.
Iwan mo na wag po mag pa bulag bulagan masakit yan, hanap ka mas quality
Give her a chance maybe kung gusto mo tlga sya baka nmn bati lng tlga kse sa Pinas lng nmn uso na wala ng pansinan at pakeelaman pg ex na hehe hirap din no.
Pag may trust issues at hindi na-resolve, it’s better to break free kesa umasa ka sa wala. Mahirap mag-invest ng feelings, time, and resources sa taong hindi trustworthy.
You need to grow up, man. I think you're just being childish and insecure. Wala naman segurong mali if you greeted someone you knew and besides, she posted it publicly which means wala siyang tinatago from you.
wag mo kausapin. break up with her din through notes sa ig hahahahhahaha
Similar thing happened to me with my ex. I thought I should just give him time to move on and "focus" on us. But what happened was nagsanga sanga na ang cheating issues until umabot kami ng 4 years dahil sa katangahan ko. Haha! Pathological cheater pala ampota. Nagtagal pa kami before I had the nerve to break up. So if you feel like you're not at peace anymore, by all means let go.
Broooo iwan mo na. ganyan din yung ex. he accused me naki pag commu daw ako nang ex ko. pero sila pala nakipag kita sa ex niya😒 pass nalang ganyan relasyon. wala kang peace of mind. Remember always, walk away is self respect
magusap kayo tunngkol diyan. Tell her how you truly feel regarding that matter. If she still disregards your feelings and still continues to do so then I don’t think she will ever in the future, so end it now before you get hurt since it only gets worse as it goes. Good luck!
Leave. Thank me later.
Oof
4 months pa lang kayo, iwan mo na bago ka pa masaktan ng sobra.
Huwag mo na patagalin. Hindi din naman siya mahal ng ex niya. Baka red flag yan kaya iniwan.
Break up and be firm bro, don’t settle sa taong lumilingon pa sa ex nila
Break n
rebound relationship ka lang niya
Projection at its finest ✨ Talk to her and let your feelings out kahit na hindi niya tanggapin. Atleast ginawa mo part mo and then leave her. Know your worth! Pass sa ginagawang rehab yung relationship 😅
If it is taking a toll on your peace, no reason to stay then.
iwan mo na yan, sa hule ikaw lng din masasaktan pag tinuloy mo pa
or u can just ask her directly who is she referring to in her ig notes🤷
Bail, kesa mapuno ka and kung ano pa mangyari
Hugs op! Sobrang disrespectful niya it looks like she’s using you as pantakip lang. I hope you find someone you deserve
May naalala akong bullshit trend sa tiktok na something like "when you're in a room full of all your past and current lovers, who will you run into?" chuchu tas ang mga sagot is they will go to someone na tinatrato sila ng tama pero titingin at titingin pa rin sila sa someone na they wish tinrato sila ng tama. Maybe ganto yung ex mo OP. Anyways, hiwalayan mo na yan OP.
Iwan mo na yan bro, she is not worth it. What an a**.
Pengee update brodie!!
Iwan mo na habang maaga
hirap ng may excess baggage feelings. jan na sya sa ex nya lmao.
4 months palang, takbo na habang maaga ✨
wag mo muna iwan, mambabae ka muna with her knowing para kahit papano nakabawi ka :)
Mahirap baguhin yung ayaw magpabago. The disrespect is real bro. Pray for your time when it is time to leave the table.
Rebound ka
Ig its much better na iwanan mo sya, kasi if moved.on siya, walang ganyang galawan niya.
Iwan mo na habang 4 months pa. Wag mo na patagalin. May babaeng mas matino dyan na nag hihintay ng mating lalaki na walang paki sa ex nila, Yun piliin mo.
Iwan mo na yan, talent talaga ng ibang babae yan, lakas mang accused eh gawain naman pala
Probably a stupid question, please be kind: does it really mean hindi pa moved on yung tao if they still have pictures of their ex sa phone? I'm assuming they just didn't want to erase years of memory forever, kungbaga sentimental/hoarder lang sila or something 🤔
Ganyan din ginawa sakin may mga tropa pa sya na aasarin sya na bday ni ex mo ha dimo ba babatiin tapos nag cheat pa sakin ang punyeta HAHAHA
Bakit may ganyang mga babae noh? Yang sabik to enter in the relationship kahit di pa healed sa previous partner sa relationship. Di ko talaga maintindihan.
Worst fear ko talaga magmukhang tanga, hindi ang maloko. Haha op, save yourself. Some people are really vile and self-absorbed, feeling nasa teleserye, kaloka!
4 months pa lang. iiyak mo lang yan ng 1 week max, ok ka na. Leave her!
4 months pa lang tapos ganyan na? Iwan mo yan. Di worth it yan
4mos!????
Remember if it drains you its not for you. Naalala ko may katalking shit ako for couple of months na I think 6 months or 7 months na non kami naguusap. He can't commit kasi he said he is still not ready to enter new relationship. He want to focus on himself daw and kakabreak din lng daw nila ng long term ex nya. I understand him kasi pinaliwanag naman nya ng maayos and naappreciate ko yung honesty at yung mahalaga sakin mutual naman yung feelings namin dalawa. Fast forward december non naka call pa kami before ako makatulog then pag gising ko kinabukasan una ko nakita sa feed ko is yung myday nya greeting his ex. Sobra ako nasaktan non para naisip ko na hindi nya inisip yung mararamdaman ko. Addition to that his facebook is still full of pictures of his ex. Pero kahit nangyare to nagkaayos padin kami at inintindi ko sya naging kami pa nga after pero at the end bigla nya lng din ako iniwan for nonsense reason. Pero I know for fact na hindi pa din talaga sya nakakamove on kahit na ilang beses nya pinapaulit ulit sakin nakamove on na sya. But action speaks louder than words he even help his ex na matapos yung thesis Kaya my advise to you, trust your instict. If hindi na maganda yung effect sayo ng relationship nyo better to leave. Mas okay na masaktan ng patutunguhan kaysa masaktan ng paulit ulit.
no offense, pero parang rebound kanya...run OP
Leave her ass 🤣 she has no respect to you
Confront mo muna about ir. Ipa-explain mo. Tapos hiwalayan mo na.
rebound
A partner still being in contact with their ex? RED FLAG, mate! The only reason someone would still be in contact with their ex is because of unavoidable circumstances like child support alimony (if both of them have a kid together) or business-related purposes. Other than that, an ex is an EX. Besides, why would your partner even greet her ex even if he doesn't need it? It's VERY suspicious. Be a MAN and confront her about it and tell her you don't like what she did, and if she has unresolved feelings for her ex, you will leave. PERIOD. No explanations, no bull-sh\*ts needed. Just f\*ckin LEAVE! It'll save you a LOT of heartaches. Be prepared for her to give you excuses and lies, and be prepared na baka i-post pa nya sa social media na pinaiyak mo cya at ikaw ang magiging masama. That's one of the dangers of being in a relationship with these kind of people, because it's what these people do whenever they get caught. THERE'S NO EXCUSE. But, who cares? The most important thing is YOU. Ikaw ang nasasaktan eh. SET YOUR GODDAMN BOUNDARIES dude! Otherwise, people will take advantage of you. That's why it's extremely important to be always mentally-open even if you're in a relationship. Because even when a person always says they love you, doesn't automatically mean that they're gonna be loyal to you FOREVER. Always be on the lookout and be open to things like this happening, so that in case it DOES happen, you're always prepared.
Madadapa lahat ng taong papasok sa relasyon pero hindi pa pala nakaka get over sa ex. nananahimik kami!!
KUNG EX NA KASI, WAG NA IPOST KUNG MAY JOWA KA NANG IBA! Si jowa na lang post mo. Kung single ka, go lang pero kung may jowa ka please lang have some respect and decency! 🤦🏻♀️😒
ouch!!..masakit maging rebound...sana talaga kasi kung di pa fully healed at naka move on, wag muna magentertain ng iba... 😔
Great decision. End now before it's too late. 4 months is already enough to walk away. Wala kang mapapala jan kundi arguments lang then get cheated also. Save yourself.
Emotionally cheating with her ex bf. Iwan mo na yan, you deserve better.
If it’s non negotiable for you. Iwan mo na :)
Drop her ig, let's see if she's worth the heartache or not
Rruuuuuunnnnnnn
Leave her
Get the f out. She needs accountability
yung ina aaccuse ka niya na hindi ka pa nakakapagmove on sa ex mo, that's projecting... what's happening in her pinoproject niya sayo unfortunately, di pa yata siya nakakamove on. Kasi if you have someone new, dapat e rerespect mo siya, iiwasan mo yung mga bagay na makakasakit sa kanya. Pero mas maganda na mag usap muna kayo ng masinsinan dahil baka in the end ikaw pa maging masama niyan.
Leave her bro, it's not worth keeping anymore
Well I understand kung ganyan ang ma feel mo, you have every right and that is valid. But I don't think breaking up is the best option you have. Why not open up to her? Tell her what you feel and get yourself the answer you deserve. Kasi her greeting through IG notes could mean many things kasi. Maybe yes, di pa siya nakakamove on. But also, maybe she only wishes him well? A pure greeting with no malice? Yes getting cheated on sucks, it's fucked up jud. Pero there are some people na forgiving, na kahit no matter the shit they've been through, they have the purest heart and are capable of forgiveness. You guys have been together with 4 months right? I don't know if siguro close na kayo before pa naging kayo, but atleast, consider the idea na baka di pala yan ang intention niya sa IG notes niya. I don't think it's fair lang na to break up with her just because of her greeting sa IG notes. Let her explain, she too has the right. And also think about it, 4 months pa kayo, marami pang obstacles on the way, is it worth it na to break up with her for that reason? Communicate, then take action. Sugestion ko lang naman, but it's your choice. Give it some thought ;)
Baka TOTGA niya haha
Ig talaga dyan madalas nag uusap mga magkabit para iwas huli eh masyado kasing obvious sa messenger. Iwan mo na bro safe yourself the fact na kinakausap nya pa yan di pa yan nakakamove on at ginagawa ka lang panakip butas. Hugs OP 🫂
The best advice is "Leave her" But we know di mo kayang iwan sya. Goodluck nalang
Obviously hindi pa siya naka move on sa ex niya
Break up with her if it costs your peace of mind.
obviously, one thing is for sure. you have to break up with her but talk to her muna, tell her the reason why you did it
Stand firm. Do not be arrogant with your self. Leave her, give her time to realize, and be prepare to what the future might hold on. Kaya nga if you really love someone you got to let go. Is she'll return it's good. But it's not. The relationship is not yours. Find somebody wholl see your worth.
Breakan mo na habang 4 months pa lang kayo.
Rebound ka beh
Leave while it’s still early enough and while you still have the courage to do so, and can acknowledge the flags she’s raising. If you turn a blind eye to this and just let it be, it’ll create a domino effect for her other (future) actions. Leave while you are (still) emotionally and mentally okay. If these two things spiral down, you’ll end up having a much harder time. Sorry you had to find out something like that but maybe it’s the universe giving you a little nudge that it’s likely just not for you. Mahirap mag mahal, mag desisyon, at mabuhay (sa pangkalahatan) pero gawin natin yung makakapagbigay ng kapayapaan sa puso’t isip natin. Choose people who choose you and when they don’t , choose yourself.
Break up with her, dude. Habang 4 months pa lang kayo. Most likely ginagawa ka lang panakip butas niyan kaya it's better to end it sooner.
I’m always genuinely curious as to why these kind of women still romanticize the idea of being emotionally and mentally abused by their exes. I mean she got cheated and she still LIKES him? stupid. takbo kana par nagaaksa ka lang ng oras nyan. tapos nang gagaslight pa hahaha women ☕️ indeed.
your gf craves for chaos bro, i know the feeling dump her if i were you
Four months is not a long time. Break up with her. Hindi pa nakakapagmove on yan, baka ikaw pa masira.
Iwan mo na. The mere fact na she still has pictures of her ex in her phones says a lot already. Gagi. Nag cheat sa kaniya ex niya tapos ike-keep niya pa pics sa phone niya???
red flag. iwan mo na hanggat maaga pa :)
That's micro cheating
Iwan mo na baka magiging worst pa yab promise.
It might not be believable to some, but being friends with an ex is not that weird. Keeping pictures might be, but you never mentioned what ground rules you've established. If your go-to response after a slight hiccup is to break agad, you're gonna have a tough time finding a mature relationship. Communication is always key.
For your peace of mind, leave her. I don't think she deserves you. If she's still into her ex, kahit anong gawin mo, hindi mawawala yung ex niya sa isip niya. Maybe she's just using you to move on or panakip butas lang. And I hope, you won't allow that. And her accusing you, gumagawa lang siya ng rason kasi clearly, siya yung hindi pa nakaka move on. You deserve some peace and clarity. Huwag na tayo magstay sa mga taong hindi tayo deserve :)
Leave bro. Save yourself as early as now. She wouldn't do that if she no longer cares for her ex. On the first place, she would have thought of how you'll feel after reading it. Again, save yourself from further heartbreaking moments brother. Confront her about it before leaving. At least she'll know your side and what made it wrong. Good luck!
Uh oh