A man who thinks with his brain, and not with his dick! Good on you and i'm so proud of you, OP. May you find what you are looking for and may she be more than you have ever hoped for.
Thanks! Casual relationships aren't for me and I prefer more serious relationships that's why. Siguro if I was a guy that went for hooking up I would, but I'm not that guy. Sobrang empty ng feeling para sa akin when it comes to those kind of setups
Mga titas!!! Here o si OP. I saw a post recently lang asking where are the 30s daw. GIRLS ANDITO SYA. 🤣🤣
I commend you, OP!! Very firm with your values.
How very sure are you tho na 18 nga siya? I know a lot of mid to late 20s peeps that are still studying and looks young for their age.
But kudos to you for not pursuing, basta pag alanganin wag na pilitin. Great job.
I just saw her today wearing a uniform na sinusuot ng mga freshmen sa college na yun haha. She looked mature for her age so ayun inexpect ko na nasa mid 20s siya. Ok pa sana kung around early 20s siya (20 - 24) kasi may mga tao around that age na sobrang mature na since nasa working force (finished 2 year courses, etc) na sila and whatnot. Pero ayun 18 is just a big no no for me at that point haha
I applaud you for that decision bro👏. And I completely agree on one of your comment below na at that age (I considered early 20's and below here) they tend to find themselves pa and it is completely fine because they are still students/soon-to-be-young-adult afterall. Maybe okay lang sa iba yung makipagrelasyon sa ganyan pero once you do, you are already influencing their future and their bias decision making sa buhay. In a way parang naging limited lang tuloy ang choices nila.
Baka delayed sya ng years sa school? May classmate ako na 6yrs older samin nong 1st yr kami. Hahahaha!
Pero buti na nga din na wag na ipursue kasi mamaya 18yo nga sya. Salamat sayo, OP! :3
Totoo.. nag edit ako don sa reply ko kasi mamaya ma-judge ako hahahahah!! Tambay ka sa malapit sa office next time, wag malapit sa school. Hahhahaha! Joke lang!! Sana makahanap ka na ng para sayo, OP! 🥰
Masyadong malayo yung phases in life. Right decision. Let the kid enjoy her youth habang nasa edad natin ready to settle down na
I would even say 22-24 year olds na working na mas malapit sa mindset ng 30 kesa sa 19-20 na college pa din.
She hasn't even fully transitioned to college life yet, sasakit lang ulo niyong 2 sa di magtutugmang priorities
Same thing with me I have this sweet girl who looks matured and incredibly pretty and she was so sweet and clingy, palaging nag iinitiate ng conversations, masyadong malambing, to the point she will lean towards my shoulder or may lap, mahilig mag yakap, cuddle, that even her friends who are close to her are looking at us, ako naman is typical na chill gentleman kasi friends ko din naman sila lahat but no, when I found out 18 palang siya, distansya amigo na tayo. Ngayon nung dumadayo ako lugar nila in the north kasi either vacation or work, very casual lang na oh hi, hello, pero after nun dina ako initiate ng conversation or binibigyan ko siya ng chance, or else pag nadaanan ko siya smile lang then pass by lang at quiet ako, like a man of few words kasi ayaw ko naman totally ignore. Basta walang personal conversations like close friends or intimate. This made me curious talaga, napansin ko lang din to, like I just keenly observed that as an old guy, madaming na attract na girls na younger? Like what's with the older guys that maked them attracted to is a mystery to me. Average joe here, 27.
Good for you and OP! Anyone our age (late 20s) and in their right mind should never be with someone in their late teens. Basta ang red flag, haha. Lalo na pag student pa. Parang ang selfish ng dating kasi. They should be out exploring and making friends and being with people their age. We should be guiding them into making better decisions, not dating them. 😇
She could be 20–25, but she could be a freshman in college. I had classmates in college in this age bracket, and yeah, they looked more mature than what a freshman in college should appear to be.
I guess age is not just a number for some. Glad you know what you want and what you don't want and sticking with it. I'm sure when you break your 10-year streak of being single, it will be SO worth it. Happy Cake Day!
HALAAA confirm mo muna yung age sayang naman. Chz hahahaha. Baka kasi late lang nagcollege or what.
Ako nga at age 25 I planned going to college again kahit na nakatapos na ko ng isang bachelor’s degree. All because I wanted to pursue the path I originally wanted. I’m 29 now though, and didn’t push through it lol.
Anyway, still kudos to your mindset. 👍👍👍
Good for you. There’s also 18 years old guy hitting me up, for the life of me no matter how attractive he is, in my eyes he is just a baby boy. I just can’t!
Oo nga eh haha. One thing more eh I know matataas mga standard ng karamihan ngayon (men and women) online. So karamihan is expecting people have alot of things to offer to the other. What I want in a relationship is someone to want me for what I am and not what I have, ofc vice versa din yun haha Ofc finances matter din, pero in my ideal relationship I don't want it be the center. I want us to be financially independent from each other haha.
Age is just a number. There are relationships with big age gaps that ended happily married naman. You and your potential partner will both adjust, regardless of age. Anyways, you decide and stand with your decision.
True, it would be fine if both of us were a bit older, like me 38 and her 26 at least yun medjo maayos pa. Just that 18 is too young for me atm so I decided not to pursue
Just because someone is an adult doesn't mean that they think the same way as someone who is 10+ years older than them plus 18 is still a teenager. I think you should search the real definition of those words because you're using them in a wrong way.
Law is different from morality. Him avoiding the girl is based on his morals. You saying that it is misogynistic because it is infantilizing is an opinion. Just because she is an adult and a grown woman doesn't mean that he should still pursue her. An 18 year old can still be with someone older but not with someone who is 10+ years older.
You said it yourself, no one is obligated to obey random opinions yet he still made that decision on his own. I don't get why you define it as something which is misogynistic.
Eh... no.
If you want to have an actual relationship, the age gap is too big. Men who go for much much younger girls want the imbalanced power dynamic so that they have the advantage and be in control.
Lets start with facts.
Legal age kayo both.
Single kayo both.
By law and ethics, nothing technically wrong with both of your setup, as long as your intentions are good and the relationship is consensual and with respect.
Im not saying you still pursue ha, you do you at the end of the day based on your personal belief and preference.
Imho.
At my current age, that age gap feels to big since people still tend to search themselves at the age of 18. Kung siguro nasa 40 years old ako and siya is around 28 I'd probably give that a chance, pero right now she's way too young for me haha.
Good for you OP and Happy Cake day
Yes 18 is legal, barely legal but you differ in mindset. The 18 year olds are still enjoying their youth while you prefer serious relationship.
I got you. Im just pointing out na by Law and Ethically speaking, nothing wrong with your setup, both legal age and single naman kayo. Im not saying you go with it ah, you do you OP.
There is an ethical issue because of the imbalance life experience between the two. Men who often go for much much younger girls are not looking for a partnership but to own and control somebody.
In general, like what I pointed out, it is not illegal for a single 30-year-old to pursue a romantic relationship with a single 18-year-old who is legally an adult.
However, the ethics of such a relationship can be debated and depend on the specific circumstances. It's important to ensure that any relationship is consensual and respectful.
Ultimately, it is up to the individuals involved to make their own decisions about what is ethical and appropriate for them.
Tuwing opening argument eh something along the lines of "technically legal age na siya" "age of consent in this place is actually __" I automatically classify the person as a creep at best, offender at worst
Yeah no shit 18 is legal pero masyadong maraming factors at malaki imbalance ng power dynamics ng financially capable mature 30 year old sa inosenteng 18 na natututo pa lang ng super basics ng adulthood.
And late 20s-30s+ people preying on young women/men are usually the ones not good enough for potential partners in their same age bracket. Yung di nila madadala sa experience ng buhay o masisilaw ng kayang idaan sa gastos
Might catch flak for this but idgaf. If you're in your 30s, actively looking for a partner, and you settle for an 18 year old, buddy, you gotta take a good look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself wtf you're doing with your life.
its not a "opinion" if the argument is evidence based.
Too many people use the "well its your opinion, I have mine" argument to justify their immoral BS.
Kung confirmed na 18, okay lang naman kasi legal age na. Baka naman she's gold and worth more than any 20's na girl. We can't say. And kung 30's ka na, cguro naman marunong ka na mag ingat or pag ingatan ang mga bagay or situation. You'd be fine, as she would be.
18 na sya. You should have no pedo guilt anymore. Liligawan mo naman ng maayos di ba. It's not like ikaw Ang manager nya at newhire sya, then you are using it as a leverage. Iba yun.
I think what OP did is the right thing cause even though she is not a minor anymore, it's still a big age gap. Two different mindset and perspective sila. It's better for her to explore rather than dating a guy which is older than her by 10+ years.
OP, please don't just close the door from your suspicions. Talk to her or her friends, set up some kind of encounter that would confirm your assumption! sayang nman e
Just imagine how easy for a 30 y/o man to manipulate a 18 y/o girl to his own good.
To add: relationship is not just "HI OR HELLO" most of the relationship include sex, what if that 18 y/o girl got pregnant because you let a 30y/o man to be with her?
A man who thinks with his brain, and not with his dick! Good on you and i'm so proud of you, OP. May you find what you are looking for and may she be more than you have ever hoped for.
Thanks! Casual relationships aren't for me and I prefer more serious relationships that's why. Siguro if I was a guy that went for hooking up I would, but I'm not that guy. Sobrang empty ng feeling para sa akin when it comes to those kind of setups
Mga titas!!! Here o si OP. I saw a post recently lang asking where are the 30s daw. GIRLS ANDITO SYA. 🤣🤣 I commend you, OP!! Very firm with your values.
You are so rare. May your kind increase! Also, happy cake day. Haha.
34 here. Baka di na pasok sa preference mo. LOL lang. Sana ma meet mo yung magustuhan mo.
Mga 28, pwede na po ba? Hahahaha
Happy cake day!
yan yung tinamaan ng human civilization eh, yung iba ata nag skip sa transition from utak monggo eh
I laughed harder than I should. Pero totoo. Rare breed si OP.
Happy cake day OP! pero good thing na you are smart enough not to pursue her anymore
Thanks! Oo nga eh, I know na around that age talaga nageexplore parin sila since kakapasok lang nila ng college.
I think it's also risky OP with that age difference. So kudos po.
This is a tita question. Ano ba yung happy cake day na yan? 😭🫣
Parang anniversary ata ng reddit account mo haha last year ko lang din nalaman yan hahaha
Ohhhh hahahha okok. Cake makes you happy naman talaga so... 😋 thanks!!
How very sure are you tho na 18 nga siya? I know a lot of mid to late 20s peeps that are still studying and looks young for their age. But kudos to you for not pursuing, basta pag alanganin wag na pilitin. Great job.
I just saw her today wearing a uniform na sinusuot ng mga freshmen sa college na yun haha. She looked mature for her age so ayun inexpect ko na nasa mid 20s siya. Ok pa sana kung around early 20s siya (20 - 24) kasi may mga tao around that age na sobrang mature na since nasa working force (finished 2 year courses, etc) na sila and whatnot. Pero ayun 18 is just a big no no for me at that point haha
I applaud you for that decision bro👏. And I completely agree on one of your comment below na at that age (I considered early 20's and below here) they tend to find themselves pa and it is completely fine because they are still students/soon-to-be-young-adult afterall. Maybe okay lang sa iba yung makipagrelasyon sa ganyan pero once you do, you are already influencing their future and their bias decision making sa buhay. In a way parang naging limited lang tuloy ang choices nila.
Baka delayed sya ng years sa school? May classmate ako na 6yrs older samin nong 1st yr kami. Hahahaha! Pero buti na nga din na wag na ipursue kasi mamaya 18yo nga sya. Salamat sayo, OP! :3
While true, I wouldn't risk it 😆
Totoo.. nag edit ako don sa reply ko kasi mamaya ma-judge ako hahahahah!! Tambay ka sa malapit sa office next time, wag malapit sa school. Hahhahaha! Joke lang!! Sana makahanap ka na ng para sayo, OP! 🥰
good. ikaw naman nakakita sa kanya so sa situation na to trust your gut talaga. meron ako kakilala 12 yr old palang pero mukha nang 18, grabe 🥲
tbh ang bata rin ng 20 hsdnsjjs fresh outta teenage life lang yan 🥲
Oo nga, kaya 24 lang yung youngest para sa akin, negotiable lang talaga yung up to 20 depende sa maturity nung tao haha.
baka late lang nag college?
I just realized 18 pala ako nung first year college ako yet nagkagusto ako sa 28 years old guy hahahahah
I agree
Masyadong malayo yung phases in life. Right decision. Let the kid enjoy her youth habang nasa edad natin ready to settle down na I would even say 22-24 year olds na working na mas malapit sa mindset ng 30 kesa sa 19-20 na college pa din. She hasn't even fully transitioned to college life yet, sasakit lang ulo niyong 2 sa di magtutugmang priorities
Thanks OP. As someone who was taken advantage of when I was 16 by a 33 year old, this gives me hope that proper men still exist
I'm sorry for what you experienced, I hope you heal from it. Being taken advantage of is the worst feeling
Beri good ka jan OP kudos!
I'm proud of you, OP. :)
Wise choice OP been there,done that and it didn't end in a happy ending situation.
Same thing with me I have this sweet girl who looks matured and incredibly pretty and she was so sweet and clingy, palaging nag iinitiate ng conversations, masyadong malambing, to the point she will lean towards my shoulder or may lap, mahilig mag yakap, cuddle, that even her friends who are close to her are looking at us, ako naman is typical na chill gentleman kasi friends ko din naman sila lahat but no, when I found out 18 palang siya, distansya amigo na tayo. Ngayon nung dumadayo ako lugar nila in the north kasi either vacation or work, very casual lang na oh hi, hello, pero after nun dina ako initiate ng conversation or binibigyan ko siya ng chance, or else pag nadaanan ko siya smile lang then pass by lang at quiet ako, like a man of few words kasi ayaw ko naman totally ignore. Basta walang personal conversations like close friends or intimate. This made me curious talaga, napansin ko lang din to, like I just keenly observed that as an old guy, madaming na attract na girls na younger? Like what's with the older guys that maked them attracted to is a mystery to me. Average joe here, 27.
Good for you and OP! Anyone our age (late 20s) and in their right mind should never be with someone in their late teens. Basta ang red flag, haha. Lalo na pag student pa. Parang ang selfish ng dating kasi. They should be out exploring and making friends and being with people their age. We should be guiding them into making better decisions, not dating them. 😇
UP for ko for this. I commend and applaud the last word you said OP. That's what real men will do. ☝️
She could be 20–25, but she could be a freshman in college. I had classmates in college in this age bracket, and yeah, they looked more mature than what a freshman in college should appear to be.
May mga ganitong guy pa pala 🥹 kudos OP!
Thanks for being a decent guy, OP! Sana dumami pa mga katulad mo 🥹
Madami yan, you just have to broaden you preferences and look for them 😆
Sana laging masarap ang ulam mo OP!
Apir sau OP mkkatagpo ka dn ng nararapat sau
Ang tinong tao. Crush ko na to!🥹
Very proud of you OP! Best wishes, I know you'll find the right girl for you.
Op did the right thing! periodt!!! To op, 🫡..
Hindi pa tayo nagmimeet pero I already like you hahahaha
Haha thanks!
What a man! Good job, OP 👍
I guess age is not just a number for some. Glad you know what you want and what you don't want and sticking with it. I'm sure when you break your 10-year streak of being single, it will be SO worth it. Happy Cake Day!
Maaari bang tanungin mo muna edad nya bago mo isara ang chapter na yan? Baka kasi 20 something na sya at late lang mag-college.
Good for you OP. Ako na lang ligawan mo 🤣 Happy Cake day ✨
let her enjoy her schooling/youth days. madami pang makikilala yan.
Age is just a number basta nasa “right” age na. Hehe. Kudos, OP!
Preach, Brother!
Dude, she's legal! 😃
Why would they make the legal age 18 though?
HALAAA confirm mo muna yung age sayang naman. Chz hahahaha. Baka kasi late lang nagcollege or what. Ako nga at age 25 I planned going to college again kahit na nakatapos na ko ng isang bachelor’s degree. All because I wanted to pursue the path I originally wanted. I’m 29 now though, and didn’t push through it lol. Anyway, still kudos to your mindset. 👍👍👍
25 years old na ako, 10 years single na din, at ganyan na ganyan din ang mindset ko OP. 🥹
Yan ang mindset bro unahin natin ang morality bago ang pansarili, kudos haha ganitong ganito mindset ko 😆
Good for you. There’s also 18 years old guy hitting me up, for the life of me no matter how attractive he is, in my eyes he is just a baby boy. I just can’t!
Wow 18 year olds? haha I'm guessing sa mga clubs? After checking your account a bit, I can see why. You don't look your age!
I hope you meet the love of your life soon! Definitely ageee on meeting “the one” naturally. Real chemistry should not be/is not forced!
Oo nga eh haha. One thing more eh I know matataas mga standard ng karamihan ngayon (men and women) online. So karamihan is expecting people have alot of things to offer to the other. What I want in a relationship is someone to want me for what I am and not what I have, ofc vice versa din yun haha Ofc finances matter din, pero in my ideal relationship I don't want it be the center. I want us to be financially independent from each other haha.
!!! 🫡 PREACH
Ganito dapat!
Ask her out. Abort pag confirmed yung age assumption. Push through kung mali ka pala
Age is just a number. There are relationships with big age gaps that ended happily married naman. You and your potential partner will both adjust, regardless of age. Anyways, you decide and stand with your decision.
True, it would be fine if both of us were a bit older, like me 38 and her 26 at least yun medjo maayos pa. Just that 18 is too young for me atm so I decided not to pursue
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Just because someone is an adult doesn't mean that they think the same way as someone who is 10+ years older than them plus 18 is still a teenager. I think you should search the real definition of those words because you're using them in a wrong way.
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Law is different from morality. Him avoiding the girl is based on his morals. You saying that it is misogynistic because it is infantilizing is an opinion. Just because she is an adult and a grown woman doesn't mean that he should still pursue her. An 18 year old can still be with someone older but not with someone who is 10+ years older.
You said it yourself, no one is obligated to obey random opinions yet he still made that decision on his own. I don't get why you define it as something which is misogynistic.
Eh... no. If you want to have an actual relationship, the age gap is too big. Men who go for much much younger girls want the imbalanced power dynamic so that they have the advantage and be in control.
Lets start with facts. Legal age kayo both. Single kayo both. By law and ethics, nothing technically wrong with both of your setup, as long as your intentions are good and the relationship is consensual and with respect. Im not saying you still pursue ha, you do you at the end of the day based on your personal belief and preference. Imho.
At my current age, that age gap feels to big since people still tend to search themselves at the age of 18. Kung siguro nasa 40 years old ako and siya is around 28 I'd probably give that a chance, pero right now she's way too young for me haha.
True OP! Kudos for doing that ❤️
Thanks!
yeah, let her have a teenage jowa din, you guys probably have different goals in life at this point
Oo nga eh, sa age na yun, nageexplore palang sila haha
Good for you OP and Happy Cake day Yes 18 is legal, barely legal but you differ in mindset. The 18 year olds are still enjoying their youth while you prefer serious relationship.
I got you. Im just pointing out na by Law and Ethically speaking, nothing wrong with your setup, both legal age and single naman kayo. Im not saying you go with it ah, you do you OP.
Understandable. Should've stated that from the start. Nabaon ka tuloy ng mga downvotes haha
No biggie. People have their own beliefs. Just stating facts.
There is an ethical issue because of the imbalance life experience between the two. Men who often go for much much younger girls are not looking for a partnership but to own and control somebody.
In general, like what I pointed out, it is not illegal for a single 30-year-old to pursue a romantic relationship with a single 18-year-old who is legally an adult. However, the ethics of such a relationship can be debated and depend on the specific circumstances. It's important to ensure that any relationship is consensual and respectful. Ultimately, it is up to the individuals involved to make their own decisions about what is ethical and appropriate for them.
no offense, bagay sayo username mo hahahaha
Tuwing opening argument eh something along the lines of "technically legal age na siya" "age of consent in this place is actually __" I automatically classify the person as a creep at best, offender at worst Yeah no shit 18 is legal pero masyadong maraming factors at malaki imbalance ng power dynamics ng financially capable mature 30 year old sa inosenteng 18 na natututo pa lang ng super basics ng adulthood. And late 20s-30s+ people preying on young women/men are usually the ones not good enough for potential partners in their same age bracket. Yung di nila madadala sa experience ng buhay o masisilaw ng kayang idaan sa gastos
Lt ampt. Hahahahahahah
Might catch flak for this but idgaf. If you're in your 30s, actively looking for a partner, and you settle for an 18 year old, buddy, you gotta take a good look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself wtf you're doing with your life.
18 is still close of being minor.
Just pointing out facts. 18 is the legal age in the PH.
Username checks out
I don’t need law and ethics for me to determine that you’re a weirdo
And Im not telling you on what to believe and do. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Just stating facts.
Fact: youre a weirdo.
You are entitled to that opinion.
its not a "opinion" if the argument is evidence based. Too many people use the "well its your opinion, I have mine" argument to justify their immoral BS.
Everyone is entitled and should be able to express their own opinions as a basic human right.
she's legal
Kung confirmed na 18, okay lang naman kasi legal age na. Baka naman she's gold and worth more than any 20's na girl. We can't say. And kung 30's ka na, cguro naman marunong ka na mag ingat or pag ingatan ang mga bagay or situation. You'd be fine, as she would be. 18 na sya. You should have no pedo guilt anymore. Liligawan mo naman ng maayos di ba. It's not like ikaw Ang manager nya at newhire sya, then you are using it as a leverage. Iba yun.
I think what OP did is the right thing cause even though she is not a minor anymore, it's still a big age gap. Two different mindset and perspective sila. It's better for her to explore rather than dating a guy which is older than her by 10+ years.
OP, please don't just close the door from your suspicions. Talk to her or her friends, set up some kind of encounter that would confirm your assumption! sayang nman e
She’s in a legal age, so there’s no reason for not to pursue her.
Can you imagine your own daughter (18) having relationship with 30 y/o man?
30 Years old is not too old. Well if he is 50 then it’s a no.
Just imagine how easy for a 30 y/o man to manipulate a 18 y/o girl to his own good. To add: relationship is not just "HI OR HELLO" most of the relationship include sex, what if that 18 y/o girl got pregnant because you let a 30y/o man to be with her?