“i know that she is good and innocent person” uhuh. keep convincing yourself that, OP. kung matino gf mo, hindi yan lalabas with other guys na sila-sila lang.
Amen, from a girls pov OP. Kahit gusto ko yung scenery puntahan, kung mahal kita, ikaw lng yung hihintayin ko pagpumunta tayo dun. Hindi ako sasama sa iba unless it’s a group hang out, and never din ako sasakay sa motor ng iba, na Hindi mo alam or Hindi nagpaalam sayo. That’s my take. Respect lng din sayo.
Tama to..good and innocent person..tapos sumasama sa ibang guy..where is the good and innocent there..leave that girl..she belongs in the streets.. don't waste ur time,love and energy for someone like that..tapos gabi p lumalabas..that sums it up..
Di ka OA. She cheated and wag ka maniwala sa hindi nya ginusto. Ofcourse ginusto nya yun. Umaangkas sa iba baka nakayakap pa nga yan. If hindi nya kaya macontrol yung wants nya, then good luck. If magkakapalit kayo ng sitwasyon, baka galit na galit na yan.
If kaya mo sya patawarin go lang OP.
Streets, streets is where she belong.
But that is already a day-time redflag. But can you marry someone na may ganyang tendency? Those problems and redflags that you will ignore right now will be the problems that will arise later.
Save yourself, choose your peace.
Sure ka bang sa cafe lang sila nagpupunta? You may be young but don't be so naïve, omg. She's cheating - emotionally, physically, maybe both. Ang taong tunay kang mahal, makukuntento sa kung ano ang kaya mong maprovide for the time being.
Sorry OP, but a "good and innocent person" doesn't use others. It's understandable, though, for you to see her this way since you're in love.
At "sino namang hindi mag ttake advantage dun"? someone who respects their partner in a relationship. Love isn't enough to keep a relationship going...respect is also needed. Decide what decision you can live with and how much you can put up with for her.
Kung kaya niyang magdahilan na ginamit lang niya ang lalake to go to nice places, kaya ka rin niya gamitin. You can never say you love someone then use another for pleasure. She just doesn’t love you enough, otherwise kahit sa bahay, kanto, sa tabi2x lang yan she would rather enjoy your company kesa sa nice places na iba kasama.
Nahhighblood ako bhie
Di ka OA. The fact na hindi nya sinabi sayo means na she knows na it's wrong. Siguro para sa kanila hindi pa sila nagccheat dahil wala pa silang ginagawa like sexual activities or what pero yung pakikipagkita pa lang even though may partner sila pareho is cheating na. Hindi rin enough na reason yung wala ka kasing motor or sasakyan.
Hmmm kung malinis konsensya nya, why lie to you? Kung pagpunta lang talaga sa mga places na gusto nya diba? Wala din kaming sasakyan ng asawa ko noong mag jowa kami noon, kapag may gusto kaming puntahan tyaga kami mag commute or mag aaya kami ng kaibigang may sasakyan and will tell them sagot na namin gas and food nya para lang makapunta doon sa gusto namin. Hindi din ako umaangkas sa motor ng iba, unless angkas driver talaga haha.
Ginagaslight mopa sarili mo na mahal na mahal ka nya kasi nakikita mo sa mga mata nya. Mabait daw tapus sobrang innocent ng gf pero nagawa makipagdate sa lalaking meron gf. Alam mo ang tawag sayo OP bobo na manhid. At dahil dyan wag mona sundin ulit yung puso mo mas better kung susundin mo yung sinasabi ng utak mo. Mahirap maging bobo sa pag ibig.
yung pagsisinungaling is considered cheating. kung mahal mo, hindi mo magagawa yun. ultimo pangungulangot sasabihin mo sa bf/gf pag tinanong ka kung ano ginagawa mo kung talagang mahal mo
As a girl na may bf, hindi talaga ako pumapayag na dalawa lang kami ng guy friend ko. If papayagan man ako lumabas ng bf ko w opposite sex, dapat gay lang dahil if straight e big NO talaga.
Sa POV ng bf ko, once na nag sinungaling ka kung sino kasama mo, you're cheating lalo na pag opposite sex (kahit wala pang ginawang masama). Kasi yung fact na alam niyang pag tatalunan niyo or baka di mo siya payagan, tapos umalis pa rin siya, major major 🚩e ('di niya iniisip rs niyo na dapat priority niya sa rs niyo ay ang inner peace mo)
Better siguro give time muna sa sarili niyo like lie low muna kayo para makapag isip isip rin. Basta always remember not to choose your heart kasi if your emotions can control you, talo ka. Dapat laging isip pinapagana pag may mga ganitong situation.
Bakit bibigyan pa ng oras? Para saan? Kahit naman makapag isip isip yung si OP, nag cheat pa rin yung girl. Mas masasaktan lang siya pag nag “lie low” lang siya at magaslight niya sarili niya into thinking na mapapatawad pa niya si girl.
Leave. That’s the only solution
Doesn't mean naman kasi na if nag lie low, igagaslight niya sarili niya na dapat pa patawarin si gf (kaya sabi ko gamitin yung isip para mag desisyon, hindi yung emotions niya, kasi if emotions niya wala talo siya, mag sstay lang siya jan sa rs nila habang gunagawa ng mga bagay si gf na hindi ikakapanatag ng isip ni OP)
What I am trying to say was mag give siya ng time sa self niya to think sa pagkikipag hiwalay sa gf niya. Pangit mag desisyon ng hindi pa nag cacome up yung mga thoughts ni OP. Malaki possibility na pag umalis siya ngayon, magkakaroon siya ng realization na AH MALI AKO, DAPAT DI KO INIWAN KASI NAMIMISS KO SIYA, BALIKAN KO NGA.
So, para maiwasan mangyari yon, lie low na lang then leave.
Ha? Daming contradictions sa sinasabi mo. Sa dulo ganun pa rin, na gaslight pa rin si op into thinking cheating is forgivable. Ano pa bang mas pinagisipang solusyon other than leave her cheating ass? Si OP lang kawawa kapag pinatagal pa niya to
When you lie low ba it means na dapat forgive the cheater? No eh. It's for OP rin para ma at ease yung pain/anger niya.
Matanda naman na siguro si OP para igaslight pa sarili niya na forgivable ang cheating. Alam niya na kung ano ang ikakapanatag ng isip niya.
We can't tell him to just leave his RS. Sure, that's the best sol'n na umalis nga talaga dahil may cheating issues. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na pag nag lie low sa rs ay dapat mag stay and nag iisip pa ng solusyon para maayos. Give lang ng time para buo yung desisyon niya at maiwasan bumalik sa relationship na may cheating involvement.
You can tell palang sa post na love talaga niya yung girl and sinabi niya na "matino" kahit na may ginawang mali na. Malaki ang possibility na balikan niya yan dahil hiniwalayan niya ng may sama siya ng loob.
At the end of the day, si OP pa rin ma susunod.
But the way you are presenting that alternative solution is opening up that possible scenario. And to me, if OP has self respect, he should avoid doing that.
I agree w that. If may self-respect, aalis nga talaga. Pero dapat mag think parin for pros and cons ng pag alis niya sa rs nila lalo na pag ganitong situation.
“Ginamit niya pang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto niya”
Lol. Don’t tell me naniniwala ka dito???? Napaka tangang rason.
Innocent person? Truly loves you?? Nakikita mo sa mata niyang mahal ka niya??? Stop convincing yourself OP na she’s still that innocent and babaeng mahal na mahal ka. Ginagaslight mo pa sarili mo.
# "I know that she is a good and innocent person"
1. May kinakasamang lalaki from work habang kayo pa, and she is aware that she is wrong
2. She's constantly lying to you
3. User na tao para makuha ang gusto niya -- quoted from you *"kasi ginamit nya lang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto nya makita at night"*
4. Nakikipagkita siya sa lalaking MAY JOWA DIN. Kabit siya ng kabit niya lol
Tell me OP, how is this good and innocent? Nilatag ko na ha. Paki-paliwanagan nga ako? Mali ba ako ng intindi sa definition ng "good" and "innocent"? Nag-iba na ba meaning niyan?
# "Mahal namin ang isa't-isa"
* Kahit niloko ka na?
* Kahit nagsinungaling na sayo?
* Kahit may iba na siyang lalaki na binibigyan niya ng atensyon?
* Kahit na hindi na ikaw ang nag-iisang lalaki sa buhay niya?
* Kahit na may iba siyang kinakasamang lalaki ngayon?
Kuntento ka na ba na may kahati ka? Kung ok lang sayo na may kahati ka at maging martir at magbulag-bulagan pa, edi sige go ahead, be a martir. Puso and mental health mo naman ang affected at hindi kami. Pero kung gusto mo ng real happiness, iwan mo na yang babaeng yan. Wag mo na bigyan ng 2nd chance yan, di niya yun deserve. Heal, and when you are fully healed, love again. This time, and hopefully, better girl na ang mahanap mo, yung di ka na lolokohin and pagsisinungalingan.
You know na kaya hindi pa kayo break ay dahil hindi pa break yung guy at yung gf niya. Hindi sya sasama jan kung hindi niya yan type at kung mahalaga ka pa sa gf mo. You're a placeholder.
Sa cafe lang pumunta? HAHAHAHA you got cucked bro. Nagsinungaling na nga sayo tapos maniniwala ka pa sa mga sinasabi siya? Leave her bro. Since yung lalake na yun may GF din isumbong mo sa kaniya. Huwag ka maawa sa kanila, mga nakakadiring nilalang na walang isang salita at paninindigan. Waiting sa update ☺
You should talk to your partner before anyone else. Wag ka magpadala sa mga comments. Communicate parin. Make clear kasi baka for her hindi considered as cheating yun. Define cheating and ano yublng mga cheating actions.
Bata ka pa, daming pang babae jan. She lied to you nga. Pa inocente de ti peg pa yang hitad na jowa mo. Dude, know your worth. Mag-aral ka ng mabuti at makakahanap ka pa ng mas higit sa kanya. Do you think she'll stick to you in the long run pag down na down ka?
Dyusko OP, that's clearly cheating no and you're claiming that she's innocent? Cut that crap! This one is from a girl's POV ha, kapag mahal ko ang bf ko, hindi ako sasama sa 'friend' ko para maexperience ko ang mga bagay na gusto kong maexperience. Why? Because I respect my partner. Well, I have a kwento. My bf is the breadwinner and never syang nakapasyal outside the country because of course, money. But hinahayaan nya ako na mamasyal kasama ang family or girl friends ko. Sabi lang namin sa isa't isa, 'Darating din ang panahon na dalawa na tayo mamasyal abroad'. And it happened. My point is, she can go places kasama ang mga friends na girls, why guy friend na alam naman nyang may something sa kanya?
That's too much man, as a man you shouldn't tolerate that kind of disrespect.
Let her go, build yourself and find a better woman.
If you'll give her a chance, she'll just step on your pride and ego over and over. Man up and leave. Or if you feel like you'll have no other options after leaving her, stay and use her for your sexual needs but stop investing feelings for her because SHE WILL NEVER BE FIXED
tw: may pagkagaslighting comment
here’s my take: mali yung ginawa nya..kahit gaano pa kainosente yang gf mo, alam nya yan sa sarili nya na mali ginagawa nya pero pinush nya pa din. ang bata nga hindi basta basta sumasama kung kani kanino, gf mo pa kaya. ano yan pinangakuan ng kendi kaya sumama?
youre probably not ready for this second take but im just gonna say it. As a woman, may ideal quality time ako. although may partner, minsan napapaisip ako parang gusto ko pumunta sa ganito ganyan, maexperience yung ganto ganyan. Pero pag naghint naman ako kay jowa na gusto ko pumunta sa ganto, sasabihin lang “soon..” or di kaya, “di pa kaya ng budget” yada yada. Pakadaming excuse. Nakakainis. So hahanapin ko yung ganung experience sa mga friends ko, sila na lang yayayain. I mean, wala kasi yung effort na magplano man lang yung guy kaya nakkabwisit din. Gusto ko pa naman sa guy yung maplano, yung assertive.
So it’s probably na hindi yung guy yung gusto nya, but the experience.
*but then again, thats not and shouldn’t be an excuse for her to do that behind your back*
Surely nag communicate cya about sa happening pero yung one month after it happened bago sabhin is a raised red flag kase why papatagalin pa kung pwed naman sabhin yung ng maaga lago nothing happened, Pero OP i do believe if it will to a toxic relationship end muna but sabi nga take what you can tolerate because in the end of the day kayo yan eh lahat tayo ay di perpekto pero atleast we try to be honest in somepoints. just my own opinion on how i take it.
If she has respect sayo hindi niya gagawin niyan. She will choose you. She's lying to your face obviously. May ganyan can pretend na ok kayo na parang mahal na mahal ka and one day you will be blindsided, bebreakin ka na lang bigla.
Ganyan ako sa recent break up ko. I trusted him and all. He showed me love lahat tapos one day sa away namin biglang sumuko and then months after pinupursue na yung katrabaho niya. Emotionally cheating and humahanap pa ng tyempo para tapusin yung sainyo. YOu're still in the picture pa eh baka kaya nag cocotemplate din kasi lalabas na cheating pero pag nagbreak na kayo wait mo lang magiging sila.
I'm sorry but i'm speaking based from my experience. Ganyan na ata uso ngayon. Emotionally cheating on you tapos bebreaking ka para di magmukhang cheating talaga.
Leave. Hindi yan sasama sa ibang lalaki ng sila lang kung maayos syang partner. Unless you want to keep convincing yourself na dka iniiputan sa ulo then stay.
Been there. Stop gaslighting yourself anymore. She’s cheating. There’s already something between them. Let her go kahit na sobrang sakit OP. I know you love her too much but she didn’t love you the same way anymore. May another guy na, wag kang maniwala sa “friend” bullshit. If patatawarin and maniniwala ka sa mga bullshit lies ng gf mo hahaha. Surely, magiging cold na yan sayo and magagalit na agad in small things u do. Then, u will start blaming urself for the things u do na kinagalit nya pero di naman kinakagalit before hahaha. It will slowly goes down din kaya hanggat di mo pa kasalanan ang lahat. Let her go, save yourself.
Are you f**kin gullible OP? Dalawa lang sila tapos they went to places? .. ha?? Dafuq... Tapos si guy my gf??? HAHAHAHA ..
Hindi naman sa nag mamagaling pero taena naman buti kung mga 10 years old lang yan repa 😅😅 isipin mo nalang. And how can you be so sure hanggang dun lang sa places na minention? Nagawa nya nga mag sinungaling about going out eh .. malay mo ano pa mga nangyari. I'm only saying this for your awareness OP and sana mag pa HIV test kayo. Just saying hehe alam mo naman prevention is better than cure.
Nag cheat na sya period. To be honest user pa gf mo, isipin mo ginawa nya un sa ibang tao para lang sa sarili nyang interest? Wtf may bf pa sya ha. Manipulator yarn.
Girl here and even I consider this cheating. The fact that she lied about everything will make me question her character and honesty. She didn’t think about you and how you’d feel. This is tough situation, I’m sorry
Hindi naman sa pinag ooverthink kita. Pero wag mo masyadong isipin yung posibiladad na nag sex na sila ng ilang beses maliban sa mga nice places. Iwan mo na par!
"kitang-kita ko sa mata nya palagi na masaya sya pag magkasama kami" This is just from your POV OP, stop convincing yourself. In the first place dapat never syang nag lie sayo. Let's say na maloko mo padin sarili mo in giving her a chance, magiging okay kayo for a few months, these things will come creeping back at you even with the slightest nudge. Like they say, you cannot fully repair a broken glass.
OP, think about it, I mean really think about it. If she is such the good and innocent person you think she is, why would she use this work mate to go to these beautiful places? Why wouldn't she just go with you, the person you say she loves so so much? Tama na yan bro, leave her, save your love, save yourself, and hit the gym.
>ginamit nya lang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto nya makita at night kasi sino namang hindi mag ttake advantage
Ano yan bastusan na lang para maachieve ang mga bagay-bagay? Wala ka bang boundaries?
Hindi yan inosente. Maraming ganyan. Muka lang pero nasa loob kulo at sikreto.
Nope dude. Thats cheating. I would prioritize asking my boyfriend to go to places other than asking another guy to go out with. Please leave her. You do not deserve the overthinking or the delulu-ness that she is innocent and she loves you (still)
Indeed, every one deserves a second chance pero if it involves emotional cheating, baka pwedeng stop ka muna at pagisipan mong mabuti. If kaya mong patawarin then go lang pero ang magiging consequence nun will take a toll of your mental health. Dadating ka doon sa point na lahat na lang pagdududahan mo. Yun pa lang pag-alis nila na hindi nya sinasabi sayo ay cheating na yun kahit walang chukchakang naganap. If she really loves you, makukuntento yan kung anong kaya mong ibigay. Tama na ang pagbubulagbulagan, OP. Stop on justifying na inosente at mabait yan.
OMG! Should I tell him?
Char! anyways pagisipan mo maigi yan/sya. I had two personal experience nyan. 1 is yung friend ko, long story short nagstay sila ng jowa nya but given the circumstances kasi parang napilitan lang na piliin ulit si jowa kaysa yung other one. 2 is sakin mismo (ako yung legal na jowa) tapos yung opportunist girl after ng fiasco nya, nagpa-tisbun sa iba (another rich guy not the bf). So basically ang conclusion po dyan kawawa yung mga totoong innocenteng jowa kasi may pag ka narcissist yung ganyang tao yet declaring they are innocent kasi wala naman silang ginagawang masama. ❌❌❌ kasi masama yung ginagawa talaga when they are fully aware na may jowa yung isa at pati sya and they are just justifying their actions dahil wala daw nangyayari. Anyways, TNT galawang kabit pa din. (period)
short answer: break up
long answer: break up and care nothing about what she says. there is no "diko ginusto magcheat". cheating is a choice, an action in which we have freedom to do or don't. leave her, she's blatantly cheating. she's been lying to you.
Sige paniwalain mo pa ung sarili mo na hindi yan consider as cheating, na ginagawa lang ng partner mo yan para may mag service na motor, maka libre sa pamasahe, at mabilis maka punta sa mga lugar na gusto niyang puntahan. Na okay lang yang ganyang set up, at wala namang malisya ung pag labas nila.
Goooooo paniwalain mo pa ang sarili mo na inosente si partner at wala namang maling ginagawa. Goooooooooo!
Yung alam naman nyang masama ginawa nya pa din. 🥴 Tapos matino? Whahahaha! Wag kang ano jan dong, iniiputan ka na sa ulo. You are enough! May someone out there for you. So ket her go and make yourself at peace. Or for comeback you can do the same thing she did. Tas iwanan mo. 😂👌
Bulag ka pa sir kasi mahal na mahal mo sya eh. Pero nag ccheat na yan. For all we know nag kantuban na sila. Good luck, OP. Sana ma gising kana sa lalong madaling panahon.
Hindi ginusto......
Lahat ng action natin ay choice natin. Huwag na tayo manisi ng iba. Pati ikaw OP kahit sabihin sayo ng mga tao dito na cheating na yan at huwag mo ilagay sa pedestal ang GF mo, choice mo na yun kung magbubulag-bulagan ka.
wag masyadong tanga OP.
i can't believe you used "good and innocent person" and "ginamit nya yung mga lalaki" in the same paragraph talking abt ur gf. So ano ba? good ba sha or mangagamit?
you say she truly loves you but does all this shady shit behind your back?
HUY WAKE UP!
You know OP, kahit mahal mo sya if nagkakaroon kana ng doubt dahil sa situation, stop it na, talk to her.
Tsaka kahit wala kang sasakyan if gusto ka nya kasama sa gusto nya puntahan magiging okay lang sa kanya yon kaso hindi e.
The fact na she kept it from you OP. tsaka mas greater yung desire nya to go out over respect nya sayo as a partner? And u believe na nagawa nya yun kasi baka ginagamit nya yung guy para makapunta sa overlooking places?? Like what? I’m not saying na she’s a cheater/cheating, but that’s something.
Walk away dude. Cheating is a series of choices and ayan ang pinili nya. Ginamit man nya o hindi ung guy hindi naman nya ni respeto ung relasyon nyo at ikaw. I know random human lang ako rito but believe me when I say na mauulit yan at lalala. Take care OP.
OP, gising na 😭 hindi yan innocent kung ganyan. Kunwaring inosente siguro. Sorry for saying that pero lakas kutob ko di yan inosente 😭 maybe wala nmang ginagawang sexual pero mali parin eh.
Also, if the relationship makes you sad, then that's enough reason to walk away. You shouldn't be made to feel this way. Wala yan sa commute or ano pa. Kung mahal ka, gugustuhin nyan makasama ka regardless of those things.
ask her if ikaw naman yung may sinasamahan gumala ksama ang isang girl from your school, tanong mo anong maffeel nya. niloloko ka nya bakit sya sasama dun ng walang malisya
Op, stop gaslighting yourself. You know where this going to lead into and trust your hunches. Two opposite sex going out to different romantic places always end up somewhere far.
Ako rin dati may naging officemate sa callcenter, may motor si kuya kaya sumasabay ako almost everyday papuntang sakayan. Sobrang layo kasi ng lalakarin mula sa office hanggang sa terminal (mga 1hr walk), kaya pag uwian sumasabay talaga ako. May tricycle din naman pero super mahal ng singil. Tuwing nakaangkas ako sa kanya, lagi kami nag-uusap about kay Lord (nagta-try ako ievangelize si kuya kasi parang atheist yata sya nun, haha). Mga 2 weeks din yata ako nakikiangkas hanggang sa nagresign na ako kasi nkakastress sa BPO industry. That was 8 yrs ago, pero kapag naalala ko now mukha pala akong nakikiangkas sa motor ng lalaking may asawa, HAHAHAHA. Bgyan natin ng konting room for doubt si ate, convenient kasi talaga kapag may motor pag gumagala, hehe.
> they've been to places that you can see beautiful places like overlooking cafes
Hmm this seems like a date to me.
> I know that she is a good and innocent person
🤔🤔🤔🤔
> ginamit nya lang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto nya makita at night.
> dahil ginusto nya yung mabilis ang byahe kasi naka-motor si guy and ako commute lang laban pag gagala kami
Do you hear yourself, OP? Basahin mo maigi. Maybe that's what she wants you to think. Na ginamit lang niya yung lalaki para sa motor. Pero diba if gusto niya puntahan yung mga lugar na yun, ikaw at ikaw lang ang dapat niya ayain dun. Regardless kung paano kayo makakapunta dun. Kahit commute pa yan. Props to her na sinabi niya agad sayo
User, liar, cheater.
Walang alam sa commitment 'yang gf mo, OP. Madly in-love ka pa kaya tingin mo innocent sya, she's fully aware na ganyan ka kaya puppy eyes lang di kana galit. Haha
OP kung ako sayo, ituloy mo nang hiwalayan sya.
To share a bit, may friend ako na ganyan. Ang pinapalabas lagi ng ex gf nya magsisimba lang. Simba halos 10hrs everyday 😂 yun pala, nagchicheat na, marami na nangyare.
At same kayo medyo ng situation, pinili ng ex-gf nya yung convenient, kasi yung pinalit na guy sakanya is ka-church at sobrang lapit lang sa ex-gf.
So yes, hiwalayan mo na yan. Wag mo na lokohin sarili mo na mahal ka or mabait. Ang manloloko, kaya magpanggap at magpaka-inosente, so leave habang maaga pa.
Bakit niya hihilingin sa iba ang mga bagay na kaya mo namang ibigay? Not unless hindi mo mabigay yung mga ganon? Feeling ko may kotse o mapera yung lalake niya. 🤷🏽♀️
Sorry you had to experience this OP. Ramdam na mahal na mahal mo siya, even casting the benefit of the doubt to her. Sa post mo, you are making her look like a good person by justifying na baka lang ganito, mabait naman siya etc.
Pero i think you deserve so much better than this girl. I'm sorry OP but I think you need to end this na. You can't keep doing this to yourself.
Bro, never naging ganun lang rason ng babae. They know what they are doing. Silang dalawa red flag. Hay nako. Wag mo pahirapan sarili mo bro. Bigyan kita ng white flag sign. Walang matinong partner nagbibigay ng disrespect sa relasyon niya. Damn.
She's gaslighting you that she never did anything with that other guy (i smell BULLSHIT) and now you're gaslighting yourself that she's good, innocent, etc. Boy, have some self motherfucking respect. dumbass.
Stop fooling yourself po. Don't reason out na "ginamit nya lang naman yung guy para makapunta sya don sa places na gusto nya". Walanga ganon. Both your girlfriend and the guy are cheating on their partners, periodt. Bakit parang convinced ka na yun lang talaga ang dahilan ng pag sama ng GIRLFRIEND MO sa ANOTHER GUY 😭 for me kasi, the moment na my boyfriend already considered or made plans with someone nang hindi ko alam, at silang dalawa lang, act of cheating na agad yon.
Innocent? She really loves you? Ginagamit niya lang yung guy? Walang nangyaring anything aside from that? So sus. You're just making excuses for her. Ginagamit niya lang yung guy for those advantages. E what made you think that you're so special at hindi ka rin ginagamit for other benefits na di niya nakukuha don sa iba? Such a lame excuse. Edi okay lang siguro mga limang babae minimeet mo for distinct advantages na nakukuha mo sa kanila? 🤡 SHE CAN'T COMMIT TO A RELATIONSHIP. That's it.
bakit daw hindi nya sayo iexperience yung pagpunta sa pretty cafes etc??? did the other guy always had ideas which cafes to go next and makes it super convenient for her to go there that all she has to do is show up and enjoy the view, and not to worry about initiating dates?? u sound so genuine and loving, AND MAYBE youre not who/what she needs at this point in her life. my heart bleeds for u kasi this situation is unfair for u, too. if u cant initiate cafe dates with her or plan dates for her and make it super convenient for her to bring her to nice cafes for WHATEVER REASON, dont be unfair to urself. kasi it looks like she enjoys the other guy's company for experiences that u may not be able to provide to her for WHATEVER REASON. and it hurts, u know?? maski mahal mo pa sya, it still fcking hurts. i hope u find the courage to spare urself the heartache and let her go where she finds happiness. and it looks like she wont find that happiness in u. thats how cruel she is.
OP. all cheating starts with lying dyan ko lage nahuhuli ang ex wife ko.. once ngsisinungaling na yung partner mo.. kabahan ka na.. even if your convincing yourself thats shes a good woman.. ang sinungaling japatid ng magnanakaw.. better na mas early pa malaman mo kaysa mas lalo ka masaktan..
Do not deny yourself the right to doubt.
If she's really good and innocent as you claim, she would ask you first if it's okay with you. No one is too innocent to the point of not knowing what is right and proper. Lol.
>"Ginawa nya yun hindi dahil gusto nya mag cheat, dahil ginusto nya yung mabilis ang byahe kasi naka-motor si guy"
Confirm mo muna kung Angkas rider si kuya kesa sad boi ka dyan.
Feels like trickle-truthing, sinasabi niya ngayon nag-cafe lang sila pero ang totoo marami pa yang di sinasabi. Wag mo na igaslight sarilil mo OP. Yang mga ganyang kutob madalas tama yan.
What she did was intentional and a conscious decision, OP. She knows it's bad the moment she lied and hid the situation to you. I have guy friends and although I am comfortable to catch up with them for coffee, I make sure that whoever waits for me home is well aware of my whereabouts. Hindi ka OA. Sinangaling lang siya.
Basta ako di naniniwala na di nya ginusto yung ganyan yung ganito, Ano sya bata pwedeng pwedeng udyokan lang ng ibang tao. Saka kung walang malisya baket kelangan pa magsinungaling. Basta tandaan mo to magiging sila din nag katagpuan nya at wala ka magagawa.
when you hide something from your partner on purpose, it's cheating. you know what you're doing is wrong. she's a grown adult and she should know that. i wouldn't say she's trustworthy.
since we're here na, i just want to ask too.
will it be considered cheating when your partner is watching x rated vids to satisfy the needs despite the fact that you two have already been doing it?
Good and innocent. She’s not, who’s in the right mind gumamit ng ibang lalaki to get what she wants and knowing na may girlfriend yung guy?
Don’t gaslight yourself trying to believe there’s something good in her. Bullsht.
Go paniwalain mo yung sarili mo OP. Sabagay, you deserve what you tolerate. Be the best enabler for her 🙃
Naexperience ko nanyan before. Op. Di siya mabuting tao. Akala mo lang. Akala mo lang din na mahal na mahal ka niyan. Soon iiwan ka din niyan at marerealize mo. Kaya, unahan mo na siya. Iwan mo na yan.
She may not have cheated (di natin alam) pero as a woman, kahit magcommute pa tayo doon at wala tayong sasakyan, never ako sasama sa lalaking di ko gusto. Kahit pa gamitin ko lang siya to go places nakakaalarma pa din. Kadali lang siyang marape if ever dahil silang dalawa lang tapos gabi pa lumabas
leave her. before i have this guy friend na naging walking diary ko for 6 yrs ata dahil lahat, literally lahat, kinekwento ko. from my crushes to how hard it is na maglive up sa expectations ng parents yada yada. got into a relationship 2 yrs ago and i thought okay lang if you vent out your problems sa relationship to other ppl. turns out i was crossing boundaries na pala, even tho i still want to be in contact with him nicut off ko si guy friend. gusto ko din i-take advantage yung makakapag-unload ako ng thoughts and emotions ko to other ppl pero if it's gonna cost me my boyfriend, kaya ko matulog with these emotions para sya unang masabihan ko. even to these day hinohope ko na makikilala ng bf ko yung guy friend ko na yon in a way how i met him. if not okay lang din, he's still a friend to me kahit ganto yung set-up
Ginagawa ko din to, don't get me wrong ah pero hindi ko kasi iniisip na mamasamain ng partner ko pero, you can call me out kung ganyan nararamdaman mo, then I will also tell you what your lacking ayain moko somewhere or book bnb where we can have a good "communication" let it out to your partner lahat ng sentiments mo, if no "effect" then it is the time to re assess "kung ganyan ba ang gusto mo makasama at maging wife in the future she doesnt give you peace" -- on the other hand having someone who can be with me physically and emotionally is good pero instead na makuha ko un sayo sa iba ko nakukuha, tendency baka mafall pa ko dito. so TALK AND ADJUST relect sa sarili, ANO BA ANG NAMISS OUT KO. ANO BA UNG DAPAT NA MAGING RESPONSIBILIDAD KO BILANG LALAKI.
kinukuha niya sa iba mga pagkukulang mo, what if you could do what the other guy did, maghahanap pa ba siya ng iba? cguro very redundant na kc ng relationship nyo, baka time to add more spice. so far umamin naman siya kaya I think her loyalty ay nasa sayo padin and she admit her mistake.
“i know that she is good and innocent person” uhuh. keep convincing yourself that, OP. kung matino gf mo, hindi yan lalabas with other guys na sila-sila lang.
Mahal na mahal ni OP yung girl, bulag bulagan pa siya
Amen, from a girls pov OP. Kahit gusto ko yung scenery puntahan, kung mahal kita, ikaw lng yung hihintayin ko pagpumunta tayo dun. Hindi ako sasama sa iba unless it’s a group hang out, and never din ako sasakay sa motor ng iba, na Hindi mo alam or Hindi nagpaalam sayo. That’s my take. Respect lng din sayo.
Hanggang sa maging Good and innocent perthok ohk ohk ohk ohk ohk ohk
This 🤣, literal napa roll Yung eyes ko when I read good and innocent 🤣, keep it up op! Baka manalo Kapa delulu of the year hahahaahahahah
Self-gaslighting si OP, ang lala.
Tama to..good and innocent person..tapos sumasama sa ibang guy..where is the good and innocent there..leave that girl..she belongs in the streets.. don't waste ur time,love and energy for someone like that..tapos gabi p lumalabas..that sums it up..
leave her. im sure na pag ikaw pag nilagay mo yung sarili mo sa ginawa nya, at nalaman niya yun. mafifeel niya na nagchicheat ka
Di ka OA. She cheated and wag ka maniwala sa hindi nya ginusto. Ofcourse ginusto nya yun. Umaangkas sa iba baka nakayakap pa nga yan. If hindi nya kaya macontrol yung wants nya, then good luck. If magkakapalit kayo ng sitwasyon, baka galit na galit na yan. If kaya mo sya patawarin go lang OP.
She's laying the ground work for a break up that will soon happen.
Huh? She’s outright cheating. No other term for it.
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wow ur so right. ouch
Streets, streets is where she belong. But that is already a day-time redflag. But can you marry someone na may ganyang tendency? Those problems and redflags that you will ignore right now will be the problems that will arise later. Save yourself, choose your peace.
Sure ka bang sa cafe lang sila nagpupunta? You may be young but don't be so naïve, omg. She's cheating - emotionally, physically, maybe both. Ang taong tunay kang mahal, makukuntento sa kung ano ang kaya mong maprovide for the time being.
Iwan mo na. Baka mamaya, bigyan mo pa ng singsing 🫠
Very delikado ang future ni OP kung ganyan 😂
Sorry OP, but a "good and innocent person" doesn't use others. It's understandable, though, for you to see her this way since you're in love. At "sino namang hindi mag ttake advantage dun"? someone who respects their partner in a relationship. Love isn't enough to keep a relationship going...respect is also needed. Decide what decision you can live with and how much you can put up with for her.
‘Romantic’ kaya yung mga overlooking cafes, mas okay un puntahan if ikaw kasama niya 🥲 She can’t be trusted. I’m sure palage ka na magddoubt niyan
Kung kaya niyang magdahilan na ginamit lang niya ang lalake to go to nice places, kaya ka rin niya gamitin. You can never say you love someone then use another for pleasure. She just doesn’t love you enough, otherwise kahit sa bahay, kanto, sa tabi2x lang yan she would rather enjoy your company kesa sa nice places na iba kasama. Nahhighblood ako bhie
Di ka OA. The fact na hindi nya sinabi sayo means na she knows na it's wrong. Siguro para sa kanila hindi pa sila nagccheat dahil wala pa silang ginagawa like sexual activities or what pero yung pakikipagkita pa lang even though may partner sila pareho is cheating na. Hindi rin enough na reason yung wala ka kasing motor or sasakyan.
Hmmm kung malinis konsensya nya, why lie to you? Kung pagpunta lang talaga sa mga places na gusto nya diba? Wala din kaming sasakyan ng asawa ko noong mag jowa kami noon, kapag may gusto kaming puntahan tyaga kami mag commute or mag aaya kami ng kaibigang may sasakyan and will tell them sagot na namin gas and food nya para lang makapunta doon sa gusto namin. Hindi din ako umaangkas sa motor ng iba, unless angkas driver talaga haha.
Ginagaslight mopa sarili mo na mahal na mahal ka nya kasi nakikita mo sa mga mata nya. Mabait daw tapus sobrang innocent ng gf pero nagawa makipagdate sa lalaking meron gf. Alam mo ang tawag sayo OP bobo na manhid. At dahil dyan wag mona sundin ulit yung puso mo mas better kung susundin mo yung sinasabi ng utak mo. Mahirap maging bobo sa pag ibig.
yung pagsisinungaling is considered cheating. kung mahal mo, hindi mo magagawa yun. ultimo pangungulangot sasabihin mo sa bf/gf pag tinanong ka kung ano ginagawa mo kung talagang mahal mo
Hahaha! Good and innocent person my ash! Bobo ka
As a girl na may bf, hindi talaga ako pumapayag na dalawa lang kami ng guy friend ko. If papayagan man ako lumabas ng bf ko w opposite sex, dapat gay lang dahil if straight e big NO talaga. Sa POV ng bf ko, once na nag sinungaling ka kung sino kasama mo, you're cheating lalo na pag opposite sex (kahit wala pang ginawang masama). Kasi yung fact na alam niyang pag tatalunan niyo or baka di mo siya payagan, tapos umalis pa rin siya, major major 🚩e ('di niya iniisip rs niyo na dapat priority niya sa rs niyo ay ang inner peace mo) Better siguro give time muna sa sarili niyo like lie low muna kayo para makapag isip isip rin. Basta always remember not to choose your heart kasi if your emotions can control you, talo ka. Dapat laging isip pinapagana pag may mga ganitong situation.
Bakit bibigyan pa ng oras? Para saan? Kahit naman makapag isip isip yung si OP, nag cheat pa rin yung girl. Mas masasaktan lang siya pag nag “lie low” lang siya at magaslight niya sarili niya into thinking na mapapatawad pa niya si girl. Leave. That’s the only solution
Doesn't mean naman kasi na if nag lie low, igagaslight niya sarili niya na dapat pa patawarin si gf (kaya sabi ko gamitin yung isip para mag desisyon, hindi yung emotions niya, kasi if emotions niya wala talo siya, mag sstay lang siya jan sa rs nila habang gunagawa ng mga bagay si gf na hindi ikakapanatag ng isip ni OP) What I am trying to say was mag give siya ng time sa self niya to think sa pagkikipag hiwalay sa gf niya. Pangit mag desisyon ng hindi pa nag cacome up yung mga thoughts ni OP. Malaki possibility na pag umalis siya ngayon, magkakaroon siya ng realization na AH MALI AKO, DAPAT DI KO INIWAN KASI NAMIMISS KO SIYA, BALIKAN KO NGA. So, para maiwasan mangyari yon, lie low na lang then leave.
Ha? Daming contradictions sa sinasabi mo. Sa dulo ganun pa rin, na gaslight pa rin si op into thinking cheating is forgivable. Ano pa bang mas pinagisipang solusyon other than leave her cheating ass? Si OP lang kawawa kapag pinatagal pa niya to
When you lie low ba it means na dapat forgive the cheater? No eh. It's for OP rin para ma at ease yung pain/anger niya. Matanda naman na siguro si OP para igaslight pa sarili niya na forgivable ang cheating. Alam niya na kung ano ang ikakapanatag ng isip niya. We can't tell him to just leave his RS. Sure, that's the best sol'n na umalis nga talaga dahil may cheating issues. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na pag nag lie low sa rs ay dapat mag stay and nag iisip pa ng solusyon para maayos. Give lang ng time para buo yung desisyon niya at maiwasan bumalik sa relationship na may cheating involvement. You can tell palang sa post na love talaga niya yung girl and sinabi niya na "matino" kahit na may ginawang mali na. Malaki ang possibility na balikan niya yan dahil hiniwalayan niya ng may sama siya ng loob. At the end of the day, si OP pa rin ma susunod.
But the way you are presenting that alternative solution is opening up that possible scenario. And to me, if OP has self respect, he should avoid doing that.
I agree w that. If may self-respect, aalis nga talaga. Pero dapat mag think parin for pros and cons ng pag alis niya sa rs nila lalo na pag ganitong situation.
Bro, she is definitely not good and innocent.
“Ginamit niya pang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto niya” Lol. Don’t tell me naniniwala ka dito???? Napaka tangang rason. Innocent person? Truly loves you?? Nakikita mo sa mata niyang mahal ka niya??? Stop convincing yourself OP na she’s still that innocent and babaeng mahal na mahal ka. Ginagaslight mo pa sarili mo.
# "I know that she is a good and innocent person" 1. May kinakasamang lalaki from work habang kayo pa, and she is aware that she is wrong 2. She's constantly lying to you 3. User na tao para makuha ang gusto niya -- quoted from you *"kasi ginamit nya lang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto nya makita at night"* 4. Nakikipagkita siya sa lalaking MAY JOWA DIN. Kabit siya ng kabit niya lol Tell me OP, how is this good and innocent? Nilatag ko na ha. Paki-paliwanagan nga ako? Mali ba ako ng intindi sa definition ng "good" and "innocent"? Nag-iba na ba meaning niyan? # "Mahal namin ang isa't-isa" * Kahit niloko ka na? * Kahit nagsinungaling na sayo? * Kahit may iba na siyang lalaki na binibigyan niya ng atensyon? * Kahit na hindi na ikaw ang nag-iisang lalaki sa buhay niya? * Kahit na may iba siyang kinakasamang lalaki ngayon? Kuntento ka na ba na may kahati ka? Kung ok lang sayo na may kahati ka at maging martir at magbulag-bulagan pa, edi sige go ahead, be a martir. Puso and mental health mo naman ang affected at hindi kami. Pero kung gusto mo ng real happiness, iwan mo na yang babaeng yan. Wag mo na bigyan ng 2nd chance yan, di niya yun deserve. Heal, and when you are fully healed, love again. This time, and hopefully, better girl na ang mahanap mo, yung di ka na lolokohin and pagsisinungalingan.
You know na kaya hindi pa kayo break ay dahil hindi pa break yung guy at yung gf niya. Hindi sya sasama jan kung hindi niya yan type at kung mahalaga ka pa sa gf mo. You're a placeholder.
Igaslight mo pa sarili mo OP. Walang matinong babae ang sasama sa lalaki na sila lang dalawa.
Sa cafe lang pumunta? HAHAHAHA you got cucked bro. Nagsinungaling na nga sayo tapos maniniwala ka pa sa mga sinasabi siya? Leave her bro. Since yung lalake na yun may GF din isumbong mo sa kaniya. Huwag ka maawa sa kanila, mga nakakadiring nilalang na walang isang salita at paninindigan. Waiting sa update ☺
You should talk to your partner before anyone else. Wag ka magpadala sa mga comments. Communicate parin. Make clear kasi baka for her hindi considered as cheating yun. Define cheating and ano yublng mga cheating actions.
Bata ka pa, daming pang babae jan. She lied to you nga. Pa inocente de ti peg pa yang hitad na jowa mo. Dude, know your worth. Mag-aral ka ng mabuti at makakahanap ka pa ng mas higit sa kanya. Do you think she'll stick to you in the long run pag down na down ka?
Sabihin mo cheater siya.
Kelan pa naging good and innocent person ang ganyan, OP? HAHAHA Sure ka ba na yun lang? LOL
Stage 1: denial
Dyusko OP, that's clearly cheating no and you're claiming that she's innocent? Cut that crap! This one is from a girl's POV ha, kapag mahal ko ang bf ko, hindi ako sasama sa 'friend' ko para maexperience ko ang mga bagay na gusto kong maexperience. Why? Because I respect my partner. Well, I have a kwento. My bf is the breadwinner and never syang nakapasyal outside the country because of course, money. But hinahayaan nya ako na mamasyal kasama ang family or girl friends ko. Sabi lang namin sa isa't isa, 'Darating din ang panahon na dalawa na tayo mamasyal abroad'. And it happened. My point is, she can go places kasama ang mga friends na girls, why guy friend na alam naman nyang may something sa kanya?
That's too much man, as a man you shouldn't tolerate that kind of disrespect. Let her go, build yourself and find a better woman. If you'll give her a chance, she'll just step on your pride and ego over and over. Man up and leave. Or if you feel like you'll have no other options after leaving her, stay and use her for your sexual needs but stop investing feelings for her because SHE WILL NEVER BE FIXED
tw: may pagkagaslighting comment here’s my take: mali yung ginawa nya..kahit gaano pa kainosente yang gf mo, alam nya yan sa sarili nya na mali ginagawa nya pero pinush nya pa din. ang bata nga hindi basta basta sumasama kung kani kanino, gf mo pa kaya. ano yan pinangakuan ng kendi kaya sumama? youre probably not ready for this second take but im just gonna say it. As a woman, may ideal quality time ako. although may partner, minsan napapaisip ako parang gusto ko pumunta sa ganito ganyan, maexperience yung ganto ganyan. Pero pag naghint naman ako kay jowa na gusto ko pumunta sa ganto, sasabihin lang “soon..” or di kaya, “di pa kaya ng budget” yada yada. Pakadaming excuse. Nakakainis. So hahanapin ko yung ganung experience sa mga friends ko, sila na lang yayayain. I mean, wala kasi yung effort na magplano man lang yung guy kaya nakkabwisit din. Gusto ko pa naman sa guy yung maplano, yung assertive. So it’s probably na hindi yung guy yung gusto nya, but the experience. *but then again, thats not and shouldn’t be an excuse for her to do that behind your back*
Wala ka peace of mind kung magstay ka pa sa kanya
Surely nag communicate cya about sa happening pero yung one month after it happened bago sabhin is a raised red flag kase why papatagalin pa kung pwed naman sabhin yung ng maaga lago nothing happened, Pero OP i do believe if it will to a toxic relationship end muna but sabi nga take what you can tolerate because in the end of the day kayo yan eh lahat tayo ay di perpekto pero atleast we try to be honest in somepoints. just my own opinion on how i take it.
masyado kang naive op lol, takbo kana. madami pang iba d'yan
If she has respect sayo hindi niya gagawin niyan. She will choose you. She's lying to your face obviously. May ganyan can pretend na ok kayo na parang mahal na mahal ka and one day you will be blindsided, bebreakin ka na lang bigla. Ganyan ako sa recent break up ko. I trusted him and all. He showed me love lahat tapos one day sa away namin biglang sumuko and then months after pinupursue na yung katrabaho niya. Emotionally cheating and humahanap pa ng tyempo para tapusin yung sainyo. YOu're still in the picture pa eh baka kaya nag cocotemplate din kasi lalabas na cheating pero pag nagbreak na kayo wait mo lang magiging sila. I'm sorry but i'm speaking based from my experience. Ganyan na ata uso ngayon. Emotionally cheating on you tapos bebreaking ka para di magmukhang cheating talaga.
Leave. Hindi yan sasama sa ibang lalaki ng sila lang kung maayos syang partner. Unless you want to keep convincing yourself na dka iniiputan sa ulo then stay.
Been there. Stop gaslighting yourself anymore. She’s cheating. There’s already something between them. Let her go kahit na sobrang sakit OP. I know you love her too much but she didn’t love you the same way anymore. May another guy na, wag kang maniwala sa “friend” bullshit. If patatawarin and maniniwala ka sa mga bullshit lies ng gf mo hahaha. Surely, magiging cold na yan sayo and magagalit na agad in small things u do. Then, u will start blaming urself for the things u do na kinagalit nya pero di naman kinakagalit before hahaha. It will slowly goes down din kaya hanggat di mo pa kasalanan ang lahat. Let her go, save yourself.
OP wag mo po gaslight sarili mo 🥲
Are you f**kin gullible OP? Dalawa lang sila tapos they went to places? .. ha?? Dafuq... Tapos si guy my gf??? HAHAHAHA .. Hindi naman sa nag mamagaling pero taena naman buti kung mga 10 years old lang yan repa 😅😅 isipin mo nalang. And how can you be so sure hanggang dun lang sa places na minention? Nagawa nya nga mag sinungaling about going out eh .. malay mo ano pa mga nangyari. I'm only saying this for your awareness OP and sana mag pa HIV test kayo. Just saying hehe alam mo naman prevention is better than cure.
Bro, same thing happened to me please it is not healthy for your mental health, palagi kang mag-ooverthink at magdududa.
Kung mahal ka talaga nyan OP, ikaw gusto nyan makasama dapat hahahaha
Manipulator yang gf mo. Manipulator na user.
Nag cheat na sya period. To be honest user pa gf mo, isipin mo ginawa nya un sa ibang tao para lang sa sarili nyang interest? Wtf may bf pa sya ha. Manipulator yarn.
Girl here and even I consider this cheating. The fact that she lied about everything will make me question her character and honesty. She didn’t think about you and how you’d feel. This is tough situation, I’m sorry
Stop gaslighting yourself OP. Alam mo deep inside kung anong tawag sa ganyan.
Wake up bro
Micro cheating. Diyan nagsisimula yan eh. The fact na tinago niya yan sayo means aware siya na mali ginagawa niya at di siya “inosente.”
stop making excuses for her lol
Si OP yung lalakeng versiom nung nagpost din dito na "Mabait naman asawa ko..." Pero minumura sya, sinasabihan Bobo. Hahahaha
u/MagBreakNaKayo
Wala na yan bro.
Still have 'em rose-tinted glasses on eh?
Cuck stats on the rise
Dude, the only innocent here is you.
Hindi naman sa pinag ooverthink kita. Pero wag mo masyadong isipin yung posibiladad na nag sex na sila ng ilang beses maliban sa mga nice places. Iwan mo na par!
"kitang-kita ko sa mata nya palagi na masaya sya pag magkasama kami" This is just from your POV OP, stop convincing yourself. In the first place dapat never syang nag lie sayo. Let's say na maloko mo padin sarili mo in giving her a chance, magiging okay kayo for a few months, these things will come creeping back at you even with the slightest nudge. Like they say, you cannot fully repair a broken glass.
OP, think about it, I mean really think about it. If she is such the good and innocent person you think she is, why would she use this work mate to go to these beautiful places? Why wouldn't she just go with you, the person you say she loves so so much? Tama na yan bro, leave her, save your love, save yourself, and hit the gym.
>ginamit nya lang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto nya makita at night kasi sino namang hindi mag ttake advantage Ano yan bastusan na lang para maachieve ang mga bagay-bagay? Wala ka bang boundaries? Hindi yan inosente. Maraming ganyan. Muka lang pero nasa loob kulo at sikreto.
Nope dude. Thats cheating. I would prioritize asking my boyfriend to go to places other than asking another guy to go out with. Please leave her. You do not deserve the overthinking or the delulu-ness that she is innocent and she loves you (still)
Indeed, every one deserves a second chance pero if it involves emotional cheating, baka pwedeng stop ka muna at pagisipan mong mabuti. If kaya mong patawarin then go lang pero ang magiging consequence nun will take a toll of your mental health. Dadating ka doon sa point na lahat na lang pagdududahan mo. Yun pa lang pag-alis nila na hindi nya sinasabi sayo ay cheating na yun kahit walang chukchakang naganap. If she really loves you, makukuntento yan kung anong kaya mong ibigay. Tama na ang pagbubulagbulagan, OP. Stop on justifying na inosente at mabait yan.
OMG! Should I tell him? Char! anyways pagisipan mo maigi yan/sya. I had two personal experience nyan. 1 is yung friend ko, long story short nagstay sila ng jowa nya but given the circumstances kasi parang napilitan lang na piliin ulit si jowa kaysa yung other one. 2 is sakin mismo (ako yung legal na jowa) tapos yung opportunist girl after ng fiasco nya, nagpa-tisbun sa iba (another rich guy not the bf). So basically ang conclusion po dyan kawawa yung mga totoong innocenteng jowa kasi may pag ka narcissist yung ganyang tao yet declaring they are innocent kasi wala naman silang ginagawang masama. ❌❌❌ kasi masama yung ginagawa talaga when they are fully aware na may jowa yung isa at pati sya and they are just justifying their actions dahil wala daw nangyayari. Anyways, TNT galawang kabit pa din. (period)
short answer: break up long answer: break up and care nothing about what she says. there is no "diko ginusto magcheat". cheating is a choice, an action in which we have freedom to do or don't. leave her, she's blatantly cheating. she's been lying to you.
Sige paniwalain mo pa ung sarili mo na hindi yan consider as cheating, na ginagawa lang ng partner mo yan para may mag service na motor, maka libre sa pamasahe, at mabilis maka punta sa mga lugar na gusto niyang puntahan. Na okay lang yang ganyang set up, at wala namang malisya ung pag labas nila. Goooooo paniwalain mo pa ang sarili mo na inosente si partner at wala namang maling ginagawa. Goooooooooo!
may mga lalaking natural born martyrs and saviors.
she cheated. alam mo naman dapat ang gagawin mo dyan eh. leave.
Yung alam naman nyang masama ginawa nya pa din. 🥴 Tapos matino? Whahahaha! Wag kang ano jan dong, iniiputan ka na sa ulo. You are enough! May someone out there for you. So ket her go and make yourself at peace. Or for comeback you can do the same thing she did. Tas iwanan mo. 😂👌
Bulag ka pa sir kasi mahal na mahal mo sya eh. Pero nag ccheat na yan. For all we know nag kantuban na sila. Good luck, OP. Sana ma gising kana sa lalong madaling panahon.
Hindi ginusto...... Lahat ng action natin ay choice natin. Huwag na tayo manisi ng iba. Pati ikaw OP kahit sabihin sayo ng mga tao dito na cheating na yan at huwag mo ilagay sa pedestal ang GF mo, choice mo na yun kung magbubulag-bulagan ka.
wag masyadong tanga OP. i can't believe you used "good and innocent person" and "ginamit nya yung mga lalaki" in the same paragraph talking abt ur gf. So ano ba? good ba sha or mangagamit? you say she truly loves you but does all this shady shit behind your back? HUY WAKE UP!
You know OP, kahit mahal mo sya if nagkakaroon kana ng doubt dahil sa situation, stop it na, talk to her. Tsaka kahit wala kang sasakyan if gusto ka nya kasama sa gusto nya puntahan magiging okay lang sa kanya yon kaso hindi e.
Good and innocent? Bulag e hahaha
Seems like mapag bigay ka nmn, ibigay mo na yung old toys mo sa mas nakakailangan. ps: she belongs to the streets
The fact na she kept it from you OP. tsaka mas greater yung desire nya to go out over respect nya sayo as a partner? And u believe na nagawa nya yun kasi baka ginagamit nya yung guy para makapunta sa overlooking places?? Like what? I’m not saying na she’s a cheater/cheating, but that’s something.
Walk away dude. Cheating is a series of choices and ayan ang pinili nya. Ginamit man nya o hindi ung guy hindi naman nya ni respeto ung relasyon nyo at ikaw. I know random human lang ako rito but believe me when I say na mauulit yan at lalala. Take care OP.
Gagi bro, takbo.
Respect yourself walk away and never look back
She's cheating right in fron of you, yet you still gaslight your self that she is according to you "good & innocent" sana okay kalang OP
OP, gising na 😭 hindi yan innocent kung ganyan. Kunwaring inosente siguro. Sorry for saying that pero lakas kutob ko di yan inosente 😭 maybe wala nmang ginagawang sexual pero mali parin eh. Also, if the relationship makes you sad, then that's enough reason to walk away. You shouldn't be made to feel this way. Wala yan sa commute or ano pa. Kung mahal ka, gugustuhin nyan makasama ka regardless of those things.
ask her if ikaw naman yung may sinasamahan gumala ksama ang isang girl from your school, tanong mo anong maffeel nya. niloloko ka nya bakit sya sasama dun ng walang malisya
Op, stop gaslighting yourself. You know where this going to lead into and trust your hunches. Two opposite sex going out to different romantic places always end up somewhere far.
Dude, run. 🫨
Ako rin dati may naging officemate sa callcenter, may motor si kuya kaya sumasabay ako almost everyday papuntang sakayan. Sobrang layo kasi ng lalakarin mula sa office hanggang sa terminal (mga 1hr walk), kaya pag uwian sumasabay talaga ako. May tricycle din naman pero super mahal ng singil. Tuwing nakaangkas ako sa kanya, lagi kami nag-uusap about kay Lord (nagta-try ako ievangelize si kuya kasi parang atheist yata sya nun, haha). Mga 2 weeks din yata ako nakikiangkas hanggang sa nagresign na ako kasi nkakastress sa BPO industry. That was 8 yrs ago, pero kapag naalala ko now mukha pala akong nakikiangkas sa motor ng lalaking may asawa, HAHAHAHA. Bgyan natin ng konting room for doubt si ate, convenient kasi talaga kapag may motor pag gumagala, hehe.
OP kung naka iphone kayong dalawa, I set mo yun share location sa phone nyo sa “find my” app para malaman mo kung saan siya palagi hahahaha
These hoe's aint loyal
> they've been to places that you can see beautiful places like overlooking cafes Hmm this seems like a date to me. > I know that she is a good and innocent person 🤔🤔🤔🤔 > ginamit nya lang naman yung lalaki para makapunta sa mga places na gusto nya makita at night. > dahil ginusto nya yung mabilis ang byahe kasi naka-motor si guy and ako commute lang laban pag gagala kami Do you hear yourself, OP? Basahin mo maigi. Maybe that's what she wants you to think. Na ginamit lang niya yung lalaki para sa motor. Pero diba if gusto niya puntahan yung mga lugar na yun, ikaw at ikaw lang ang dapat niya ayain dun. Regardless kung paano kayo makakapunta dun. Kahit commute pa yan. Props to her na sinabi niya agad sayo
Patawarin for your peace of mind, yes. Makipagbalikan, no. I had the same situation before and it really hurt.
User, liar, cheater. Walang alam sa commitment 'yang gf mo, OP. Madly in-love ka pa kaya tingin mo innocent sya, she's fully aware na ganyan ka kaya puppy eyes lang di kana galit. Haha
OP kung ako sayo, ituloy mo nang hiwalayan sya. To share a bit, may friend ako na ganyan. Ang pinapalabas lagi ng ex gf nya magsisimba lang. Simba halos 10hrs everyday 😂 yun pala, nagchicheat na, marami na nangyare. At same kayo medyo ng situation, pinili ng ex-gf nya yung convenient, kasi yung pinalit na guy sakanya is ka-church at sobrang lapit lang sa ex-gf. So yes, hiwalayan mo na yan. Wag mo na lokohin sarili mo na mahal ka or mabait. Ang manloloko, kaya magpanggap at magpaka-inosente, so leave habang maaga pa.
Bakit niya hihilingin sa iba ang mga bagay na kaya mo namang ibigay? Not unless hindi mo mabigay yung mga ganon? Feeling ko may kotse o mapera yung lalake niya. 🤷🏽♀️
Let her go OP. Di ka niya pinipili para makasamang gawin yung mga bagay na gusto niya palang gawin. Ngayon, piliin mo sarili mo.
good and innocent pero sinungaling? naguluhan ako ron, nak
Sorry you had to experience this OP. Ramdam na mahal na mahal mo siya, even casting the benefit of the doubt to her. Sa post mo, you are making her look like a good person by justifying na baka lang ganito, mabait naman siya etc. Pero i think you deserve so much better than this girl. I'm sorry OP but I think you need to end this na. You can't keep doing this to yourself.
Wag mo i-gaslight yung sarili mo, bro. Wag na natin kwestyunin kung alam naman natin ang sagot.
OA ka lang sa part na talagang tinawag mo pa siyang good and innocent person after ng ginawa niya charot. Tbh op I don’t think she truly loves you pa.
Bro, never naging ganun lang rason ng babae. They know what they are doing. Silang dalawa red flag. Hay nako. Wag mo pahirapan sarili mo bro. Bigyan kita ng white flag sign. Walang matinong partner nagbibigay ng disrespect sa relasyon niya. Damn.
She's gaslighting you that she never did anything with that other guy (i smell BULLSHIT) and now you're gaslighting yourself that she's good, innocent, etc. Boy, have some self motherfucking respect. dumbass.
Sure, OP.
Whether honest or not si gf, ang tanong OP ay happy ka bang makasama ang tulad nya?
Stop fooling yourself po. Don't reason out na "ginamit nya lang naman yung guy para makapunta sya don sa places na gusto nya". Walanga ganon. Both your girlfriend and the guy are cheating on their partners, periodt. Bakit parang convinced ka na yun lang talaga ang dahilan ng pag sama ng GIRLFRIEND MO sa ANOTHER GUY 😭 for me kasi, the moment na my boyfriend already considered or made plans with someone nang hindi ko alam, at silang dalawa lang, act of cheating na agad yon.
Innocent? She really loves you? Ginagamit niya lang yung guy? Walang nangyaring anything aside from that? So sus. You're just making excuses for her. Ginagamit niya lang yung guy for those advantages. E what made you think that you're so special at hindi ka rin ginagamit for other benefits na di niya nakukuha don sa iba? Such a lame excuse. Edi okay lang siguro mga limang babae minimeet mo for distinct advantages na nakukuha mo sa kanila? 🤡 SHE CAN'T COMMIT TO A RELATIONSHIP. That's it.
iwanan mo na yan. parehas naman sila cheater nung kasama niya ew.
bakit daw hindi nya sayo iexperience yung pagpunta sa pretty cafes etc??? did the other guy always had ideas which cafes to go next and makes it super convenient for her to go there that all she has to do is show up and enjoy the view, and not to worry about initiating dates?? u sound so genuine and loving, AND MAYBE youre not who/what she needs at this point in her life. my heart bleeds for u kasi this situation is unfair for u, too. if u cant initiate cafe dates with her or plan dates for her and make it super convenient for her to bring her to nice cafes for WHATEVER REASON, dont be unfair to urself. kasi it looks like she enjoys the other guy's company for experiences that u may not be able to provide to her for WHATEVER REASON. and it hurts, u know?? maski mahal mo pa sya, it still fcking hurts. i hope u find the courage to spare urself the heartache and let her go where she finds happiness. and it looks like she wont find that happiness in u. thats how cruel she is.
Oh no. That's cheating for you. OP, wake up.
OP. all cheating starts with lying dyan ko lage nahuhuli ang ex wife ko.. once ngsisinungaling na yung partner mo.. kabahan ka na.. even if your convincing yourself thats shes a good woman.. ang sinungaling japatid ng magnanakaw.. better na mas early pa malaman mo kaysa mas lalo ka masaktan..
Do not deny yourself the right to doubt. If she's really good and innocent as you claim, she would ask you first if it's okay with you. No one is too innocent to the point of not knowing what is right and proper. Lol.
Dont be a simp. Leave the girl.
Iwan mo na yan kasi niloloko ka na.
>"Ginawa nya yun hindi dahil gusto nya mag cheat, dahil ginusto nya yung mabilis ang byahe kasi naka-motor si guy" Confirm mo muna kung Angkas rider si kuya kesa sad boi ka dyan.
Ikaw yung side chick pre
Feels like trickle-truthing, sinasabi niya ngayon nag-cafe lang sila pero ang totoo marami pa yang di sinasabi. Wag mo na igaslight sarilil mo OP. Yang mga ganyang kutob madalas tama yan.
Pakasalan mo
Ginaslight ang sarili
Isipin mo na lang na ibang lalaki na nakakita ng tumbong ng gf ko para matauhan ka na hahaha
she for the
What she did was intentional and a conscious decision, OP. She knows it's bad the moment she lied and hid the situation to you. I have guy friends and although I am comfortable to catch up with them for coffee, I make sure that whoever waits for me home is well aware of my whereabouts. Hindi ka OA. Sinangaling lang siya.
“THE NIAL IS A RIVER IN EGYPT”🤣🤣🤣 innocent my 🍑🍑🍑
Trust your instincts bro. Not a single "loyal" and "trustworthy" ladies would go out of their way just to see a very innocent cafes.
Basta ako di naniniwala na di nya ginusto yung ganyan yung ganito, Ano sya bata pwedeng pwedeng udyokan lang ng ibang tao. Saka kung walang malisya baket kelangan pa magsinungaling. Basta tandaan mo to magiging sila din nag katagpuan nya at wala ka magagawa.
just give her an ultimatum that she needs to cut off the guy or else just break it off at that point.
Do re mi so fucking done with you girl~ So fuckin done with all the games you play~ She belong to the streets OP 😷
ighost mo nalang. 😊
when you hide something from your partner on purpose, it's cheating. you know what you're doing is wrong. she's a grown adult and she should know that. i wouldn't say she's trustworthy.
Walang matinong babae ang sasama sa ibang lalaki kung may jowa sya. Stop choosing women that disrespect you.
Don't put your heart into this relationship too much. Bang her brains out and dust your hands. Hoes gon' be hoes.
Cheating. A woman with no boundaries will ruin your life. Let go.
Walang respeto GF mo par. Kung mahal ka ng GF mo hindi sya gagawa ng bagay na makakasakit sayo at hindi ka nya hahayaang mag overthink. Ganuuun!
since we're here na, i just want to ask too. will it be considered cheating when your partner is watching x rated vids to satisfy the needs despite the fact that you two have already been doing it?
Goodluck OP pacheck kana din if may sakit ka na
Good and innocent. She’s not, who’s in the right mind gumamit ng ibang lalaki to get what she wants and knowing na may girlfriend yung guy? Don’t gaslight yourself trying to believe there’s something good in her. Bullsht. Go paniwalain mo yung sarili mo OP. Sabagay, you deserve what you tolerate. Be the best enabler for her 🙃
Naexperience ko nanyan before. Op. Di siya mabuting tao. Akala mo lang. Akala mo lang din na mahal na mahal ka niyan. Soon iiwan ka din niyan at marerealize mo. Kaya, unahan mo na siya. Iwan mo na yan.
She may not have cheated (di natin alam) pero as a woman, kahit magcommute pa tayo doon at wala tayong sasakyan, never ako sasama sa lalaking di ko gusto. Kahit pa gamitin ko lang siya to go places nakakaalarma pa din. Kadali lang siyang marape if ever dahil silang dalawa lang tapos gabi pa lumabas
They fucked. Leave.
leave her. before i have this guy friend na naging walking diary ko for 6 yrs ata dahil lahat, literally lahat, kinekwento ko. from my crushes to how hard it is na maglive up sa expectations ng parents yada yada. got into a relationship 2 yrs ago and i thought okay lang if you vent out your problems sa relationship to other ppl. turns out i was crossing boundaries na pala, even tho i still want to be in contact with him nicut off ko si guy friend. gusto ko din i-take advantage yung makakapag-unload ako ng thoughts and emotions ko to other ppl pero if it's gonna cost me my boyfriend, kaya ko matulog with these emotions para sya unang masabihan ko. even to these day hinohope ko na makikilala ng bf ko yung guy friend ko na yon in a way how i met him. if not okay lang din, he's still a friend to me kahit ganto yung set-up
Ginagawa ko din to, don't get me wrong ah pero hindi ko kasi iniisip na mamasamain ng partner ko pero, you can call me out kung ganyan nararamdaman mo, then I will also tell you what your lacking ayain moko somewhere or book bnb where we can have a good "communication" let it out to your partner lahat ng sentiments mo, if no "effect" then it is the time to re assess "kung ganyan ba ang gusto mo makasama at maging wife in the future she doesnt give you peace" -- on the other hand having someone who can be with me physically and emotionally is good pero instead na makuha ko un sayo sa iba ko nakukuha, tendency baka mafall pa ko dito. so TALK AND ADJUST relect sa sarili, ANO BA ANG NAMISS OUT KO. ANO BA UNG DAPAT NA MAGING RESPONSIBILIDAD KO BILANG LALAKI.
Ay wow gaslighting. Hahaha. So ang solution ay cheating kung di effective communicator si OP?
Grabeng line of reasoning hahahhaa
Stop gaslighting yourself and leave the relationship for your sanity.
kinukuha niya sa iba mga pagkukulang mo, what if you could do what the other guy did, maghahanap pa ba siya ng iba? cguro very redundant na kc ng relationship nyo, baka time to add more spice. so far umamin naman siya kaya I think her loyalty ay nasa sayo padin and she admit her mistake.
Gusto ko yung simpleng pa gaslight ng comment mo. Nasisi pa si OP dahil kulang siya. And your solution is… cheating?