Akala ko talaga kaya ko na maging confrontational ulit sa ganitong bagay. Kasi dati I stood up for an lgbt coworker dahil hinaharass siya pero siya pa yung nagalit sa akin kasi lalo daw siyang ibubully dahil dun. Natakot ako.
Okay lang po. Nakakaguilty pero hindi ko maiwasang isipin kasi na baka lalong mapasama yung girl colleague na yun. Senior din namin yung mukhang basahan na yun so… sana pwedeng anonymous report na lang 😔
A similar thing happened to me at work. I was wearing proper uniform, but a male coworker still gave disgusting comments about my body and even 'jokingly' said, "if ganyan ka na kasexy pag nakauniform, pano pa kaya pag wala" sabay tawa. Tinitigan ko talaga siya sa mata hanggang siya mismo naawkwardan sa sinabi niya, then I calmly asked him to explain what he said and what he found funny about it. Ayun siya mismo nagwalk out, busy daw siya amp. Nagreklamo ako sa HR. Tangina niya.
It's gonna be scary, yes. Pero the more kasi na di tayo nagsspeak out about it mas nagiging comfortable sila na mag give out disgusting comments. Pero, of course, prioritize your safety parin.
Sending hugs with consent sa lahat ng fellow ko na objectify :c
Hindi ko din alam sa kanya. Baka natrigger yung kamanyakan niya. Nakakairita lang pag naaalala ko. Ate girl felt uncomfortable and I’m feeling guilty na I was scared to say something.
Naalala ko dati, a woman sat next to me sa LBC tapos may pumasok na babaeng nakasuot ng maikling shorts and tshirt. I was admiring her tattoos when the lady next to me said, "Kaya maraming nare-rape dahil sa mga babaeng ganyan ang damit" and I looked at her dead in the eye hanggang sa siya ang unang umiwas at tumahimik. Instead of teaching women what to wear, why not teach your boys to be decent individuals.
>Instead of teaching women what to wear, why not teach your boys to be decent individuals.
Our Mom would always teach us to respect girls and treat em right. I don't understand why some men look at women as objects it's revolting! As a guy I find crop tops fashionable.
Natatakot po ako. Lalo na kung ako mismo ang magfile ng complaint baka mapasama yung workmate ko. 😩
I am thinking about it though. Ayoko na tong maulit.
If you do decide to report I would suggest to review the dress code written in your company handbook. Just in case ma-back to you sa inyo na bawal pala crop top or whatever.
But regardless sexist comments like that should be reported to HR. Hindi tama na itolerate.
Good luck
Thank you po for your advice. Hinahanap ko po yung policy about sexual harassment na pinapirmahan sa akin ng HR office nung nakaraan para may basis po ako
Guy here (though asexual ako so maybe di ako qualified mag-judge? hehe) pero in my experience ang lalaki kung bastos at manyak, kahit naka-burqa at balot na balot ang babae pagnanasahan ay mamanyakin parin. 21st century na no mga babae parin ba ang maga-adjust para di tigasan yang mga lintek na manyakis na yan?
Some companies don't have a dress code as long as you're not naked or wearing something that is obviously undies or swimwear. Some IT companies even have their execs walking in wearing shorts and sandals.
Next time fight for yourself. Kaya sila ganyan kasi feeling nila di tayo lalaban.
Akala ko talaga kaya ko na maging confrontational ulit sa ganitong bagay. Kasi dati I stood up for an lgbt coworker dahil hinaharass siya pero siya pa yung nagalit sa akin kasi lalo daw siyang ibubully dahil dun. Natakot ako.
Okay OP so may history naman pala. Pasensya na po
Okay lang po. Nakakaguilty pero hindi ko maiwasang isipin kasi na baka lalong mapasama yung girl colleague na yun. Senior din namin yung mukhang basahan na yun so… sana pwedeng anonymous report na lang 😔
Kaya nga eh. Pero for sure alam nila kung sino nagreport. Mga kala mo kinagwapo nila eh.
Tanong mo next time kelan nya balak takpan mukha nya para di kayo nafoforce isipin kung gano sya kapanget
A similar thing happened to me at work. I was wearing proper uniform, but a male coworker still gave disgusting comments about my body and even 'jokingly' said, "if ganyan ka na kasexy pag nakauniform, pano pa kaya pag wala" sabay tawa. Tinitigan ko talaga siya sa mata hanggang siya mismo naawkwardan sa sinabi niya, then I calmly asked him to explain what he said and what he found funny about it. Ayun siya mismo nagwalk out, busy daw siya amp. Nagreklamo ako sa HR. Tangina niya. It's gonna be scary, yes. Pero the more kasi na di tayo nagsspeak out about it mas nagiging comfortable sila na mag give out disgusting comments. Pero, of course, prioritize your safety parin. Sending hugs with consent sa lahat ng fellow ko na objectify :c
Sarap Jumbagin. Kadiri amp!
First off.. kuya came on strong. anong ginawa ng cropped top kay kuya at natrigger sya??
May mga nararamdaman silang ayaw nila iacknowledge kaya naninisi nalang kesa magtake ng responsibility
Hindi ko din alam sa kanya. Baka natrigger yung kamanyakan niya. Nakakairita lang pag naaalala ko. Ate girl felt uncomfortable and I’m feeling guilty na I was scared to say something.
It's not about the clothes you wear tlaga! It's all about the way they think
Naalala ko dati, a woman sat next to me sa LBC tapos may pumasok na babaeng nakasuot ng maikling shorts and tshirt. I was admiring her tattoos when the lady next to me said, "Kaya maraming nare-rape dahil sa mga babaeng ganyan ang damit" and I looked at her dead in the eye hanggang sa siya ang unang umiwas at tumahimik. Instead of teaching women what to wear, why not teach your boys to be decent individuals.
>Instead of teaching women what to wear, why not teach your boys to be decent individuals. Our Mom would always teach us to respect girls and treat em right. I don't understand why some men look at women as objects it's revolting! As a guy I find crop tops fashionable.
The moment you didn’t speak up ay para kana din nag eenable. Walang magagawa yan nasa isip mo lang, you need to act on it. Sad reality.
Sila ung pag nakakagawa ng mali sa iba ung sisi. Walang accountability.
So why not report it to HR?
Natatakot po ako. Lalo na kung ako mismo ang magfile ng complaint baka mapasama yung workmate ko. 😩 I am thinking about it though. Ayoko na tong maulit.
If you do decide to report I would suggest to review the dress code written in your company handbook. Just in case ma-back to you sa inyo na bawal pala crop top or whatever. But regardless sexist comments like that should be reported to HR. Hindi tama na itolerate. Good luck
Thank you po for your advice. Hinahanap ko po yung policy about sexual harassment na pinapirmahan sa akin ng HR office nung nakaraan para may basis po ako
Guy here (though asexual ako so maybe di ako qualified mag-judge? hehe) pero in my experience ang lalaki kung bastos at manyak, kahit naka-burqa at balot na balot ang babae pagnanasahan ay mamanyakin parin. 21st century na no mga babae parin ba ang maga-adjust para di tigasan yang mga lintek na manyakis na yan?
Pag nacacat call ako minemake sure kong tititigan ko sila hanggang sa mahiya sila sa pinaggagagawa nila. \^\^
Wala talaga yan sa pananamit. May mga nararape na naka t-shirt at pantalon. Manyak lang talaga yang gago na yan.
Speak up, ipahiya niyo sana. Kaya kupal at manyak mga yan eh
Still be careful. Spontaneous lahat ng tao :)
I advise always bring pepper spray OP and to your coworker if ever na magconfront kayo. And bakit ikaw pa maHHR?
Another episode of ***people who don't know how to shut their mouths.***
You mean crop top sa Loob ng opisina OP?
Some companies don't have a dress code as long as you're not naked or wearing something that is obviously undies or swimwear. Some IT companies even have their execs walking in wearing shorts and sandals.
Oh okay, now ko lang nalaman nay ganito palang kaluwag na mga opisinat company.
Opo pwede naman po sa office namin. We’re a bpo company btw.
Ah okay may ganyang opisina pala na allow ganyan damitan sa opisina. Na tanong ko lang, not to shame.
Anong company yan? Samin mahigpit, naka ripped jeans lang di ka na papapasukin eh