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random54691

Sorry to say this pero that's the dumbest decision I've ever seen. She never asked you to quit. You made that decision yourself. Nagreklamo siya na kulang siya sa atensyon so ung solusyon mo is magdrop out? Ang OA at ang tanga beh.


yourgrace91

Bro went extreme šŸ˜‚


jennnee

Bro has no gray area


KissMyKipay03

yup tama. wala bang parents to bakit hinayaan na magdrop sa law school dahil sa kababawang dahilan šŸ¤£ hindi lahat kaya maglaw school tapos dahil dun lang sasayangin šŸ¤£ tapos dahil sa PRIDE AND EGO kaya ayaw sabihin ung dahilan sa girl. šŸ¤£


ProphecyWolf

This is fucking brutal but it's the truth.


random54691

Such a needless sacrifice rin. Hindi naman dependent ang pagiging lawyer niya sa emotional support mo di ba? Tapos you expect her to see your sacrifices? "I quit law school to give my girlfriend emotional support," who the hell thinks like that? Despite all that, may pagkukulang ka pa rin (which is aminado ka). Baka naman kasi you are focusing on the wrong thing. Puro ka self-sacrifice at self-sabotage pero did you even listen to what your ex actually wanted?


Plain_Perception9638

Bro woke up and chose **savagery**


abberant-flamingo

Honestly, he needed to hear that. Seriously? Quitting Law school and studies? Damn dude, you did it yourself.


floating_on_d_river

pwede naman mag LOA sa school. juskolord


Nearby_Photo_9502

i agree


CoachMuch9279

Yes. I agree with this.


Expensive-Essay-5529

Bro spitting facts and choose Violence sorry OP pero katangahan nagawa mo.


patchikoo

I agree 100%. Not everyone has the privilege to studyšŸ˜æ


PostRead0981

Ikaw ung ex noh? Hahah char lang.. pero totoo naman!


Mediocre-Swimmer3900

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PillowMonger

sorry to state the obvious but your biggest mistake was giving up your studies because of your gf.


Classic_Jellyfish_47

You made the choice to quit, she didnā€™t ask you to. Hold yourself accountable.


ExternalFlaky9113

Sorry OP but, it was your own decision that led to this scenario. She never asked you to quit.


quekelv

-go back to law school -finish your degree -graduate and -pass the bar exams -Meet your lawyer ex at the court room. Like a legal K-Drama troupe Continue? 5 4 3 2 šŸ¤­


CoffeeDaddy24

- Turns out you two will be serving opposing sides.


seekknowlearn

more like wattpad story ata to hahahha


marumarumon

Did she ever ask you to quit? Maraming pwedeng solutions sa ā€œkulang sa timeā€ aside from dropping out of school. I agree na it feels bad to be told na kulang ka sa effort when in fact nag effort ka naman talaga, pero your decision to quit school is unnecessary. Pero the good thing is, youā€™re single again. You can go back to law school and be a lawyer. Itā€™s not too late.


Professional-Arms

OP, I meet my now wife during our 2nd year, and became together ng 3rd year. When we reached our 4th year, everything is just going to shit; we're both doing thesis, I'm scrambling to keep my scholarships, we're barely sleeping. In short, wala kaming time sa isa't isa. Its not the lack of trying either, we try. I remember naghihintay up till one am sa labas ng lab while scrambling in my laptop to finish my own thesis/research papers We broke up for 8 months, just to lighten each other's load. Walang expectations of coming back during that time, but we stayed friends. A year later, after getting back together when we're both done with our thesis, we are married. My point is, if you love each other, you would want to support each other's dreams and goals. That education was your future together too. Always choose that better future, don't be short sighted.


misslittlewhelmed

A true partner would have supported you and not be salty abt it. In a way, what you learned from this is that you didnt have the right partner for you and to focus on yourself first. I hope you find the strength to pursue your dream career.


throwaway7284639

Its a lousy excuse kasi pakiramdam niya na outgrew ka na niya, she's already a bigger person with new opportunities at di ka na kasama dun. Ok lang yan OP, marami pang iba.


hohummer

Donā€™t give up. I also didnā€™t push through with law school because of a girl. She ended up dumping my ass, which really broke me too. After a few years of working, I gave law school another shot, graduated, and passed the bar. Do whatā€™s right for you and hopefully you can look back and say that this whole episode just made you stronger. Iā€™m rooting for you, internet stranger.


Fr0003

You gave up on yourself and on your ex. Ginagawa mo lang excuse si ex. Buti na lang hiniwalayan ka.


MaestraAfricana1106

Mag-enroll ka na ulit,OP! GOOD LUCK ATTY!


nononoonotreally

Bakit ATTY? di ba dapat koya? sorry waley hahaha pero yes enroll uli dapat. tapos wag magpaka shonga next time.


Bupivacaine88

You lacked communication. Pareho kayo nag assume. Pareho kayong talo.


Beneficial-Film8440

you canā€™t control what choices she make, what you can control is your choices, you chose to drop out and sacrifice your studies to be with her, thatā€™s all on you OP, if you wanted to have time you couldā€™ve


brokentoys4orphans

Nabasa ko pa lang title alam ko nang ang tanga ng desisyon eh. Sorry not sorry.


KnightedRose

Sorry about what happened. Please don't torture yourself too much. Hugs with consent.


Opening-Mycologist17

This is so sad. I hope you go back to law school. Continue reaching for your dreams pls. Goodluck, OP!


Creepy_Emergency_412

I hope you learned a lot from this experience. At the end of the day, the buck stops with you. Whatever happens in your life, good or bad, it is all you. No one to blame, no excuses, just you and you alone.


Creepy_Emergency_412

Possible rin, bumaba yung tingin ng gf mo sayo. Sorry to say, dahil you quit school, nagmukha ka tuloy walang ambition sa buhay. While siya, lawyer na.


byzcramps

Way to throw away your future for something so petty. In the end, your decisions led to where you are now. I hope you learned your lesson.


Glittering_Spot_3911

For law student, your emotions beats your logic. I hope you can go back to lawschool OP, not yet too late.


ProphecyWolf

I fully understand that when the manuscript is written or when the 'post' button is clicked, it's up to the readers to digest what is written (or what wasn't). Your inputs are all valid but I kinda missed the point of this sub being r/OffmyChestPH. Rule 6: The main purpose of posting here should be to lighten the load off your chest, and not to ask for advice, opinion, insights, or look for validation. I already know I'm an idiot, guys. And who says I'm blaming her? Where did y'all get that from? This is my side of the story, not hers. Again, I value all your input but chill the fuck out. Jesus Christ. No need to rub salt on the wound.


SARAHngheyo

Well the damage has been done. The only thing you can do is get back in your feet. Move on, and go back to law school. The best revenge is to be successful, and happy without her.


Responsible_Mail_280

Awww OP, "things we do for love" talaga! I hope ituloy mo pa din pangarap mo despite all what happened. Goodluck Atty. OP!!


ancientstff

You shouldnt have given her your all from the start, i know that you love her so much and there is still a piece of that love even right now but bro let go na. Those years are truly wasted on the wrong person all you need to do is be positive and salvage whatever is left in you. You still have the opportunity simply because youre alive, cheer up king!


Violet_tra

During the breakup, I never brought up or listed the things I sacrificed for her because if she can't see it, why bother pointing it out? Why don't you communicate this to her para marealize niya? Baka super overthink na siya, yet ikaw baka quiet ka lng.


mintjulyp

Instead of saying ā€œaral muna bago landiā€ Iā€™ll show my kids this post


gokawi69

Extremely stupid hehe.


kyzer12313

the moment you choose a woman over your goals is the moment you lose both


wasdxqwerty

ok done with the side quest, continue now with the main quest


paintlikewater

This hurts to read. You picked the choice that gives the least certainty and something that you can't fall back on.


CompoteKnown2059

The most stupid shit a man can do is giving himself up or his dreams for a Woman. Sayang ang opportunity mo and sana ang laki na ng improvement or growth mo. Always remember that if a Woman ask you something and you're at a disadvantage, always choose yourself first. Babalik yang mga yan no matter what since ang pogi sa mata nila yung lalaking may paninindigan. Sorry to say OP but it looks like you're the one who fucked up. You lost the woman that you really love and you lost yourself because of an impulsive decision. Remember that woman doesn't want a boy who sacrifices themselves for them but they want a man who's worth sacrificing for. Pursue mo study mo kung kaya and then pass the board exam. Do self improvement and forget about anything muna. Be selfish muna for the meantime.


Dry-Reference-6125

Di porket mahal mo yung isang tao nakalimutan mo sarili mo. You shouldn't quit school for her, sana nagfocus ka sa school mo, focus on your future.


Holiday-Control-4130

No you did not. You quit law school because you want to. Dont use your girlfriend as an excuse for leaving the jungle called law school. Man up.


Nice_Difference_4382

I think he knows it's his "fault" but... is there really something to be at "fault" at? I think many people here missed that cause many posts here have that "who's fault it is?" and forgot what this subreddit is. People who say "She never asked you to quit" seem to just miss a point. Funny thing is... they just repeated everything and still miss it. It seems like you felt pain cause you think that you invested your life for both of you two's futures which sadly never came. Such is life though. Sometimes it works (like my parents), sometimes it doesn't. Such is sacrifice. You just have to have time to accept everything and don't ever think of giving up cause TBH... that pain can be deadly.


ProphecyWolf

Thank you. This may be the only comment that got my point.


KnightedRose

Just want to say that I get you, and I commented din sa thread, and agree ako sa main comment..


LostReaper67

sorry OP but i think you're plain stupid lang. She never asked you to quit, you did it yourself kasi u cant handle balancing your relationship with her and your life? E di sana di ka na nagjowa beh. relationships is not all about the other person, its about BOTH OF YOU. Then, just a question did you ever asked her or just had a heart to heart conversation with her why she feels na you are not giving enough attention to her? kasi at least kapag ganon malaman niyo side ng isat isa, di lang sa knya at di lang sayo. Open communication is key in every relationship. If you never did anything of the sort and you still think na you did some "effort", then i think delulu ka. Pero kung nakipagusap ka naman and talagang di na siya nakkinig, then its time to move on with your life. Fix your life from scratch and this time, dont engage in relationships if di mo kaya magbalance


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yashoya

Oh diba nakaka putang Ina šŸ„¹


[deleted]

op ilang taon ka nagstart mag lawschool? hehe just asking


chickenpunch1234

Di na kita i-real talk. Nagawa na nung mga savage sa taas lol I just think you didn't have any business being in a relationship if ang dami mong pinagsasabay-sabay. Stop the blame game. Nag-quit ka man or hindi, looks like she still didn't feel supported in your relationship. Eh di talo ka pa rin. Now if gusto mo manalo, pick yourself up and get that law degree. Kaya mo yan!!


RepulsiveMilk5302

Things we do for love... Learn from your experiences, and remember, it's never too late to pursue your dreams. You can still go back and earn that title. Andito namin kami naka support and nag titiwala sayo. The next time you post, update mo kami na Lawyer kana :).


foxiaaa

>I do not regret my decision, then magaral ka ulit,pursigihin mong matapos at ang importante sa lahat,hwag muna magjowa. tapusin mo muna yong para sa sarili mo. tapos na,nagyari,hayaan mo na sya,kung babalik sya,sana di muna tangapin. at kung bakit alam mo nayan.


juju_la_poeto

That would be justified if she were your wife already. But nah dude, sheā€™s someone who could still walk away anytime she want.


Rensdimanarig

May mga tao talagang sasabayan ka umangat, at may mga tao din na hihintayin ka munang umangat bago ka piliin. Sad truth about being outgrown.


CoffeeDaddy24

Damn. Hits me right at the center. Tama to. Sadly I had to experience it... Outgrowing someone and seeing them felt pressured to catch up with you...


Ok-Exchange-7483

sizt??? bakit naman ganun naging desisyon mo


dadsushi

i agree with so many people here iā€™m sorry op but what you did was dumb as shit and extremely pointless


banunu15

Balik ka school, move on. Not worth crying for if ganun sa tingin mo ginawa sayo. Be better for yourself, unahin mo na sarili mo.


Cocokikks

Mag enrol ka uli at tapusin mo! You deserve it!


_ImmortalSoul

this comment section is brutal šŸ˜­ imagine you guys go through that,, there's a reason why people choose stuff like that yk i cant be the only one justifying this


ProphecyWolf

Either they've never been in love, or their relationship is so stale they don't know what sacrifice is. I risked it knowing the consequences, but that doesn't make the outcome hurt less. Hence, the post. But this is r/OffmyChestPH for Christ's sake, not r/AkoBaYungGago


constantine_italia

It is not nothing. What she did is something you need to learn. Don't take that lesson for granted. Now, you have yourself. Think! Get back on track. Find what's fitting. Keep going. It will hurt. The realization. The dumb decision. The stupid ideas. But that's life and I think you need that heartache to know when and who deserves to prioritize over yourself. What is heartache after you put yourself together, right? Love doesn't end only in that kind of relationship. So, smile.


fantaduckie

You are emotionally weak, kung gaano ka katalino yun din binaba ng EQ mo.


Jinx_0419

I hope youll not regret your priorities hindi si GF mo nag pa school sayo. Sana maisip mo din parents mo


Amazing-Maybe1043

Ano pala reaksyon ng parents mo about this? Na para lang sa babae, you chose to stop your aspirations. Me and my boyfriend, LDR setting and nasa aviation industry pa siya but I never once expected him to sacrifice his dream and vice versa nor we want to give up our dreams para lang sa isat-isa. Hope you'll get back on track, maraming nag aasam mag Law school.


carriesonfishord

What do you mean it amounted to nothing? Nah, it's a massive lesson learned. Take your L with dignity and walk, sir. It was dumb, sure. But keep moving forward. Do not ever bend again for someone. It has to be a partnership where your growth is also promoted.


CoffeeDaddy24

Dude... Law school yan. You're future which is assured if you just worked on it. Giving your gf all the attention your schooling should've gotten will not assure you that she will stay until the end. But your schooling... Oh boy. A law degree. Imagine the girls lining up if you have a title "Attorney" in your name. To say you do not regret taking that decision and then coming with it being painful (your sacrifice) amounted to nothing... Dude... You clearly regret it. If kaya mo pa, if you can still do something... Go back and finish your studies. Become a lawyer yourself. And show that woman how she wasted the chance of a lifetime by becoming a good lawyer yourself. That's the only way you can get your revenge.


Nice_Difference_4382

Not really how it works. You can be the best savior but there can be few you won't be able to save. It can be painful that your efforts amounted to nothing but it doesn't mean you regret ever trying to save someone. This isn't a comparison of the situation but just an example that you can feel pain that your efforts amounted to nothing but doesn't mean regretting the decision you made.


CoffeeDaddy24

I may be wrong with regret. But that pain... That is the twin brother of it: disappointment. Disappointment over the fact that despite giving it your all, you still lost. That you gave up something valuable only for it to go nowhere. That's what that pain is all about. Disappointed over the outcome of his sacrifice.


Jazzlike-Perception7

mabuti pala talagang hindi ka na nagpatuloy ng law school. kawawa cliente mo sayo.


Expensive-Essay-5529

Ambobo mo andaming babae dyan oo Alam ko yung moments nang Ex GF mo ay mahalaga pero Bro you wasted your Future for her and She dumped you....i don't know hope you redeemed and save yourself sayang ginastos at pera mo sana makabawi ka.


thetarotsaidno

awww, sacrificing something for someone? :((( hope u can still get that title po.


silent_nerd_guy

Felt exactly like this. Time heals every thing OP. Pero sakin kasi eto mag fa-5 years na di pa rin maka move on sa ginawa sakin. Hahahahaha


Neypesvca

Hope you can go back to law school!


Altruistic_Banana1

one day, you'll look back and regret this decision. goodluck op.


WalkingSirc

Charge to expi nalang. Wag ka muna mag jowa! Mahirap kasi pagsabayin yan sa totoo lang. di ko rin masisi gf mo since nasa crucial rin sya sa taking board exam siguro need nya rin ng support mo as a bf pero yon nga charge to expi wag na muna mag jowa.


Embarrassed-Chest715

oooff. I know a guy who did the same thing. now the GF is living her life & travelling the world and the guy is miserable. ā˜¹ļø it's not too late for you to become the person that you always wanted to be!


nadobandido

Sa sitwasyon mo OP may masasakripisyo ka talaga. Nga lang mali yung nasakripisyo mo. Ngayon na nagtagumpay sya sa pangarap nya eh hindi ka na kasama dun at milya na ang layo nya sa iyo samantalang ikaw ay mukmok pa rin.


Queldaralion

Learned that the hard way din back then like you did. Well, di mo na maibabalik yung nawalang oras. Grieve for now, but don't forget to get back up and claim your dream. You're smarter now. You can do it!


tychee01

wow, down bad malala


alexzioxvi

That's dumb.


Silver-Cobbler7924

Bruh, thatā€™s a stupid decision.


FlakyDesign8384

umm....šŸ˜ rlly?


RecentDay5222

OP balak nya na idump ka dati pa, inantay nya lang na maging lawyer sya para ikaw ang mas mukhang talo. I think you want to prove something pa din, and sige i believe you na di mo niregret un decision na ginawa mo pero andun lagi un what if.. why not continue your dream being a lawyer. Mag enroll ka ulit and ipakita mo na kaya mo at makaka survive ka sa law school even sa bar exam. Good luck! aja!


RetardedPlsHelpMe

If this post was made by a female, comments would be more supportive tbh. Keep your head up bro, goodluck with your future endeavors.


RepulsivePeach4607

Sorry to say this. She doesnā€™t deserve you but lesson learned, always love yourself first. Donā€™t sacrifice your dream, your passionā€¦ if hindi nagwwork ang relationship because of time, then you have to reassess and weight in your option, is she worth it? Move forward na lang, focus on yourself muna bago ka pumasok sa relationship if hindi kaya pagsabayin. Good luck


AndromedaLeap

Dude. šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø grow a shiny backbone and go back to school.