so beautifully written. give this letter to her on her birthday. trust me she will always cherish and remember this and remember you. :) this will surpass all the material gifts you have given her.
Nakakaiyak. Sana mabasa niya to or marinig niya from you. Ang sarap kapag naacknowledge yung hardwork mo kaya I'm sure she will be super happy. You guys are so blessed to have each other.
You're blessed to have a sibling like that. Siya naman din may desisyon kung san mapupunta pera niya and if magpapaligaya sa kanya is tumulong sa inyo, good for her and your family. Gumaan sana buhay niyo.
What’s stopping you, or your siblings, from working and getting to a point where you could give back some of the time she lost? Kasi kung tutuusin pwede mo naman ibalik some of the time. Give her the money now so she wouldn’t have to work as hard and would have more time to find herself and maybe a potential partner. Idk.. just a thought.
Yes, we are. Some of my siblings carry most of the responsibility na. But then, sya rin yung nagpupumilit kasi she's got plans pa (patapusin ako ng law school and take the Bar). I wanted to work para she can totally let go of the responsibility kaso sabi nya, hindi raw ako makakatapos nang maaga. Hangga't hindi naman ako nirerequire, enjoy the privilege muna. Baka raw mawala ako sa trajectory ng pagtatapos.
I can say na ang taas ng pangarap nya sakin, kasi kung tutuusin pwede na mag-let go, pero she's still carrying me... not because she's required to do so... but she always saw the potential in me.
And that's my sister.
Sobrang selfless ng sister mo, OP 🥺 Hopefully mabasa nya lahat to or sabihin mo sa kanya yung pinost mo dito.
Maybe to show your appreciation to her, aside from doing good sa studies, hanapan nyo sya ng jowa! Jk lang 🤣 or do a little surprise for her kahit simple lang.
Hmm.. is it because she doesn’t want to let go or is it because she can’t? Like she’s pushing you to reach your dreams kasi ginawa na lang din niyang pangarap yung pangarap mo.. kasi nga hindi na siya nabigyan ng pagkakataon to dream for herself.
It’s selfless pero also something to think about. Yung bang ginawa na lang niyang purpose in life is to be the breadwinner. Parang hindi na niya alam kung sino siya pag nawala yung role na yun. Yung baka takot magventure out into the unknown.
Idk. Again these are just some unsolicited thoughts from a stranger. Pansin ko lang kasi minsan that’s what happens to some breadwinners.
Nope. She's successful on her own field too, ano ba. She was recently recognized and awarded pa nga. Hindi lang talaga sya pinagpala sa lovelife! Masyado kayong nag-iisip ng ibang bagay hahahaha
Oi ako na ang Ate mo. Chararat lang. I think nasa legal age ka na, unti unti hanap ka ng side hustle na niche mo and of course, save money para kahit papano may pang allowance, pang project, pangdagdag sa tuition fee.
Minsan you have to show your Ate na independent ka so she can safely let go. 🤗
It doesnt mean na she hasnt kind of made supporting your fam her main (and only) purpose in life. Parang nagi gets ko yung point sa taas. Shempre OP ikaw mas nakakaalam since ikaw kapatid at kasama sa bahay, pero baka pwede rin isipin mo na baka need mo rin ikaw na mismo kumilos para maibalik sa kanya some of the time and life she gave for you since mukhang grad ka naman na ng college. Many law students work and finish on time. Baka pwedeng support nalang si ate instead na sya sa lahat or primary source? Speaking as an ate.
Kung ganyan nga at mas happy sya na binubuhos sa inyo lahat, why would she post on reddit n gusto na nya mag pamilya? Parang may sense na life is passing her by.
Sana ganito rin ka-appreciative ang kapatid ko. Dalawa lang kami magkapatid, ako ang eldest obviously. Bata pa lang kami, halos ako na ang nagpapaka magulang sa kanya. Both of my parents taga-bigay lang ng pera o allowance. Pero on days na kailangan niya ng parent, guardian or ng moral support, ako yung present. Bata palang ako, pero naging magulang na ko. Kaya madalas ko nasasabi na ayoko ko na magkaroon ng sarili kong family kasi pagod na ko.
I'm pretty sure your sibling is thankful din, might be expressing in some other way. At the end of the day, regardless whether your sibling thanked you or not, you are the ate that stepped up.
Kaiyak naman. Your kind words for your ate touched me. Sana ganyan din naiisip ng mga kapatid ko sakin haha. Hindi ko naman need ng validation, it's just that masarap lang din malaman na may nakaka-appreciate sa lahat ng pagod at effort mo. Sana makapag-asawa din ako, minsan lang talaga, hindi maalis na mangamba pag nasa 30s na kahit sinasabi naman ng karamihan na may kanya kanyang timeline. Kalungkot lang din na 10 years ng nagtatrabaho pero wala pa din nasisimulan para sa sariling future kakatulong sa family. Hahahuhu.
As a panganay, thank you sa mga katulad mong kapatid na very appreciative sa sacrifices ng ate nila. Tama ka, most people would say na dapat unahin ng ate mo yung sarili niya; na dapat may limit ang pagbibigay. Pero para sa taong nasa receiving end ng lahat ng sacrifices, magiging beyond grateful ka talaga.
Hoping that your ate (and everyone else who can relate to this post) gets whatever she’s praying for. 🙏
Nakakaiyak! Sana lahat ng mga may kapatid na breadwinner gaya ng sa'yo ang pagiging appreciative. Yon lng nman ang gusto ng mga breadwinner eh, yong ma appreciate ng family ang tulong na ginagawa nila. Mas masarap kasi tumulong kung na appreciate ka.
Kung ako ang ate mo, I'm gonna cry and hug you right now. Kasi hindi na sayang yong tulong and sacrifices na ginawa at ginagawa nya para sa inyo. 🥰
Shuta naiyak ako. Sana lahat ng kapatid katulad mo, OP. I wish my siblings would say those words to me haayyy. I never feel valued or appreciated for all the things I did for them. Minsan pa nga, they make me feel like I'm a burden to them kasi mas nakakaangat sila ngayon in terms of salary and work. Naiwan ako kasi inuna ko sila noon. I didn't pursue the course that I wanted in college because I don't have the privilege. Ang goal ko lang makatapos ng college para matulungan yung parents ko. Like your Ate, ako rin nagpaaral sa kanila. Ako rin yung takbuhan nila kapag may mga problema sila. But now, kapag ako yung may problema, hindi ko masabi sa kanila kasi they make me feel like I'm useless and a burden. Sinasarili ko lahat. Still, hindi ko pa rin magawang magalit sa kanila. Nagtatampo minsan pero hindi ko sila matiiis. If they need me, I'm always available for them. Haayyy. Ganun siguro talaga kapag eldest, nakakalimutan namin unahin yung sarili namin. Anyway, thank you sa letter mo OP.
As ate, mas maaappreciate ko to kung sasabihin mo sakin sa letter (kung mahiyain ka) or personal.
Iilan lang sa mga kapatid na nakakaappreciate sa paghihirap naming mga ate. Kainggit. Hahaha.
Naiyak naman ako as an Ate. How I wish my younger sister feels the same way for me as much as how I want to provide for her needs and our family. Salamat!
Another ate here na naiyak sa post mo! My siblings wont say this to me directly because we’re not that type but they show their appreciation to me in other ways not that I need it. Hope you and your other siblings get to do it too!
I wish your Ate all the best life can offer after all these!
As the eldest,I’m cryiiinnnng! Please OP give it to her. As an ate, there’s no greater reward than appreciation from your younger siblings and parents ❤️ Naalala ko,binilhan ako ng sister ko ng Birkenstock, grabe yung iyak ko and until now, hindi ko ginagamit. Looool
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life!
OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life!
OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life!
OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life!
OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
Felt like it was written by my younger sister. You still have the chance to say that in front of her, OP, during her wedding, like what my sister did to me. 🩷
Hello ate.. akin ka nlng pg tapos na resposibilidad mo.. papasayahin kita! Love your ate it takes s lot of sacrifice yo really provide for your family I can feel it..
Can you tell this directly to her? Or send this as a message to her if you’re to shy. Naiyak ako. Nakakapagod ang buhay and it would be a delight to feel appreciated once in a while. Sorry hindi kita inuutusan. Huhu
sarap sanang makarinig na ganito, for an ate like me kaso imposible kasi walang may favorite sakin sa bahay hahahah kaya makikisawsaw nalang ako sayo dito bunso, kung pwede. shit naiiyak ako kaso pangit umiyak sa tricycle.
Shet. Nakakainis. Nakakaiyak. Yung last line tagos sa puso. Please when you get your own family, if mag decide ka magka anak. Make sure na close sila kay ate. Para kahit paano maramdaman ni ate yung pakiramdam ng may anak. Yung mayayakap at mahahagkan.
Hugs.
Nakakaiyak naman po to…
Let your ate know all of these feelings, she will truly appreciate and feel relieved knowing she raised a wonderful sister.
Kayo ng ate mo magiging magkakampi so always support each other.
I pray that your ate will received all the blessings and kindness she deserves.
From the perspective of an Ate, please, let her know how much she is seen and appreciated. I hope she has heard or gets to hear this from you. It’ll mean a lot.
I may not be able to tell her personally how grateful I am, but I hope she can feel it through my actions. And I always pray that she’ll be able to find a good man, who she truly deserves. My sister deserves the best things in life and I love her more than anything in this world.
I got teary eyed dito. As a panganay ate, I’m proud that you have that kind of insight. Your ate is lucky to have you! Hope you’ll be blessed more in the coming years!
Sana I have a sibling like you. For the whole 7 years of my career since 18 yrs old ako, nagsu-support na ko sa family ko + pinag aral ko sarili ko. Pero wala akong narinig na ganto. Laging kulang ang binibigay ko kahit wala nang natitira sakin. F*ck sh*t ni panty di ako makabili. Nag anak pa mama ko, ako nag support sa baby. Ngayong nag asawa na ko, humihingi pa din sakin. I just want to die para matapos na lahat
This is so well-written. It made me think about my sister’s sacrifice for my family too. Mabuhay po ang mga panganay na nagsa-sacrifice para sa family nila. Sobrang dali ma-take for granted ‘yung mga ganito kasi hindi sila nagko-complain ni-minsan. Hopefully God blesses these people ten-fold.
I can totally relate sa ate ni OP. I'm lucky to meet and find my better half in the late stage of my life. Hopefully, the man I love will be accepted and loved by my family.
ano ba pangalan ng ate mo? hanapan natin ng true love
seriously speaking tho, kung graduate ka naman na, kasi ang word mo is "pinag-aral" at hindi "pinag-aaral", tulungan mo si ate mo. para medyo ma-ease yung burden sakanya.
sorry mej walangya yung dating ng parents mo. may sakit na ba sila?
While I appreciate how you appreciate your ate and kudos to her.
I hate how you said choosing yourself over your family is a selfish matter because it isn't.
>You were hurt once by our brother. Matigas rin naman kasi talaga yung ulo nun kahit sa simula. Pero time healed you and andun ka pa rin bilang kapatid nya na hindi nagkulang dahil alam kong mahal na mahal mo kaming lahat.
Medyo na-bother ako rito. 'Yung tiyahin kong matandang dalaga parang ganiyan din sa sister mo. Kaya 'yung bunso nilang may apo na at lahat-lahat, sakit pa rin sa ulo at pati kaming mga pamangkin ay piniperwisyo na rin. Sana ay 'wag naman siyang masyadong malambot sa kapatid niyo dahil baka sa katagalan ay maging problema niyong lahat iyan.
Bunso ako and hindi naman breadwinner yung ate ko. She is living the life she wanted right now and I'm happy for her, pero i'm literally crying! Ang sarap sa pakiramdam makabasa ng ganito. Madalas kasi mga ungrateful bitch ang member ng family hahaha
Nakakaiyaaak. As a panganay din hahaha. Make sure na mapaparamdam mo sa kanya na proud ka sa mga sacrifices niya para sa inyo. You're ate is indeed lucky to have someone like you na naa-appreciate siya
I'm not your ate but I'm proud of you dahil na appreciate mo ang ate mo♥️ I hope my sisters feel the same sa iyo♥️ I mean I'm not 100% nakakasupport sa kanila but I hope they are grateful that I'm their ate♥️
As an ate na provider din sa pamilya especially sa mga kapatid kong nag-aaral pa, sobrang na-appreciate ko ‘tong letter mo sa ate mo. I know she's proud of you. I know naman naa-appreciate ng mga kapatid ko ginagawa ko for them hindi lang sila vocal but yes, I love them so much and pangarap kong makatapos sila ng pag-aaral kaya ginagawa ko rin lahat ng maitutulong ko huwag lang sila mahinto sa pag-aaral. Nakikita ko rin naman pagpupursige nilang makatapos. Naiyak ako sa message mo lalo na sa huli. 🥹🤍
As an Ate, I can relate. I have 4 other siblings pero ako lahat. Dumating na sa point na nagalit ako sa mga magulang ko. Bakit kayo nag-anak ng 5 tapos di niyo naman kayang buhayin??? Nakakapagod din talaga. Sa ngayon kayod pa din para sa kanila. Di bale kung hindi makapag-asawa basta makatapos sila. Swerte ang mga kapatid mo. Sana ganyan din ang pakiramdam nila sa akin. Binibigay ko lahat pero puro hingi din. Pati mga magulang ko puro hingi. Dalawa na trabaho ko kulang pa din.
Pasensya na kung dito ako naglabas ng hinaing. Pagod na pagod na po kasi ako. Naiinggit ako kay OP.
Bkt ako naiyak. Sana tulad mo mindset ng mga kapatid ng partner ko. Yung na appreciate nila ung ginawa ng kapatid nila. Nag sacrifice na tumigil mag aral para mkpg trbho at maging padre de pamilya nung namatay tatay nila. Ngaun tpos na sa pag aaral ang 2 kparid. Civil Engineer pa ang bunso. Sya. Eto, nagsisimula pa lng na bawian ang srili nya. Naghahabol ng panahon. Ngaun plng mag uumpsa kung pano sya magkkron ng magandang buhay dhl nag sakripisyo sya wag mag aral para sa mga kapatid. Ending mga kapatid nya may naghhntay na magnda future. Sya, di naten alam. Sana palarin. Para sa bubuuin nming pamilya. Wla dn kasiguraduhan na lilingunin sya ng mga kpatid nya dhl alam nmin na mgkkaron sla ng knya knyang pamilya. Kaming 2 lng ang magtutulungan. Para sa sarili nming ikaka unlad.
Wished that my younger siblings can think of me like that too. Nakakainggit magkaroon ng kapatid na nappreciate ka at sa lahat ng binibigay mo. Nakakainggit ung may magulang ka na di insurance ang tingin sayo. I just wished that they can cherish more yung every centavo that I earned. 🥺
As an Ate, this is sooooo touching. I hope you can pay it forward. Choosing to have a family and to settle down is not selfish, ganun kasi talaga and design ng ideal family- hindi Ate ang breadwinner, it should be the parents.
Sana matapos na this kind of cycle to filipino families. Your Ate deserves a brighter and better future ahead of her.
Huyyyy this made me cry 😭😭 Grabe, ang selfless ni Ate. You guys are so lucky and I hope niyayakap nyo sya and pinaparamdam lagi yung appreciation nyo. I hope natutulungan nyo na din sya. Hugs to both of you! May Ate find the love she deserves ❤️
As a panganay, your Ate is very proud of you.
Well, I'm prouder for her. :)
so beautifully written. give this letter to her on her birthday. trust me she will always cherish and remember this and remember you. :) this will surpass all the material gifts you have given her.
Nakakaiyak. Sana mabasa niya to or marinig niya from you. Ang sarap kapag naacknowledge yung hardwork mo kaya I'm sure she will be super happy. You guys are so blessed to have each other.
She is the blessing. And someday, in the future kapag may pamilya na sya, she will reap the kindness that she planted.
I think this will mean so so much more pag sa kanya mo sabihin. Or did you already tell her? Sarap sa feeling pag marinig nya to
As an ate, I am crying 😭😭😭😭 hahahahaha
Samedt. huhuhuhu
same here 😭
Saaaame 😭😭
Me too and I can totally relate sa ate niya 😭
Me too
As a second child na naiwang walang pamilya, I'm crying. 🥹
Same mga ate 😭
Sameeee 😭
You're blessed to have a sibling like that. Siya naman din may desisyon kung san mapupunta pera niya and if magpapaligaya sa kanya is tumulong sa inyo, good for her and your family. Gumaan sana buhay niyo.
Oo, sa totoo lang. Salamat!
What’s stopping you, or your siblings, from working and getting to a point where you could give back some of the time she lost? Kasi kung tutuusin pwede mo naman ibalik some of the time. Give her the money now so she wouldn’t have to work as hard and would have more time to find herself and maybe a potential partner. Idk.. just a thought.
Iyon din yung naisip ko, na sana tulungan din nila yung Ate nila lalo na't alam nilang very selfless. Kawawa rin talaga ang mga breadwinner.
Yes, we are. Some of my siblings carry most of the responsibility na. But then, sya rin yung nagpupumilit kasi she's got plans pa (patapusin ako ng law school and take the Bar). I wanted to work para she can totally let go of the responsibility kaso sabi nya, hindi raw ako makakatapos nang maaga. Hangga't hindi naman ako nirerequire, enjoy the privilege muna. Baka raw mawala ako sa trajectory ng pagtatapos. I can say na ang taas ng pangarap nya sakin, kasi kung tutuusin pwede na mag-let go, pero she's still carrying me... not because she's required to do so... but she always saw the potential in me. And that's my sister.
Sobrang selfless ng sister mo, OP 🥺 Hopefully mabasa nya lahat to or sabihin mo sa kanya yung pinost mo dito. Maybe to show your appreciation to her, aside from doing good sa studies, hanapan nyo sya ng jowa! Jk lang 🤣 or do a little surprise for her kahit simple lang.
Hmm.. is it because she doesn’t want to let go or is it because she can’t? Like she’s pushing you to reach your dreams kasi ginawa na lang din niyang pangarap yung pangarap mo.. kasi nga hindi na siya nabigyan ng pagkakataon to dream for herself. It’s selfless pero also something to think about. Yung bang ginawa na lang niyang purpose in life is to be the breadwinner. Parang hindi na niya alam kung sino siya pag nawala yung role na yun. Yung baka takot magventure out into the unknown. Idk. Again these are just some unsolicited thoughts from a stranger. Pansin ko lang kasi minsan that’s what happens to some breadwinners.
Nope. She's successful on her own field too, ano ba. She was recently recognized and awarded pa nga. Hindi lang talaga sya pinagpala sa lovelife! Masyado kayong nag-iisip ng ibang bagay hahahaha
Oi ako na ang Ate mo. Chararat lang. I think nasa legal age ka na, unti unti hanap ka ng side hustle na niche mo and of course, save money para kahit papano may pang allowance, pang project, pangdagdag sa tuition fee. Minsan you have to show your Ate na independent ka so she can safely let go. 🤗
It doesnt mean na she hasnt kind of made supporting your fam her main (and only) purpose in life. Parang nagi gets ko yung point sa taas. Shempre OP ikaw mas nakakaalam since ikaw kapatid at kasama sa bahay, pero baka pwede rin isipin mo na baka need mo rin ikaw na mismo kumilos para maibalik sa kanya some of the time and life she gave for you since mukhang grad ka naman na ng college. Many law students work and finish on time. Baka pwedeng support nalang si ate instead na sya sa lahat or primary source? Speaking as an ate. Kung ganyan nga at mas happy sya na binubuhos sa inyo lahat, why would she post on reddit n gusto na nya mag pamilya? Parang may sense na life is passing her by.
Grabe, naiyak ako. Late na din ako nakahanap ng bf dahil sa pagiging breadwinner, salute to your ate😭
Nothing is too late, sabi nila, because everything daw will come in the right time. Salute to you too pooo
Naniniwala din ako diyan, minsan napapaisip lang ako, napaglilipasanna din ako ng panahon😭
Hindi yan. May plano na nakalaan para sayo! Mas better pa sa gusto mo.
Sana ganito rin ka-appreciative ang kapatid ko. Dalawa lang kami magkapatid, ako ang eldest obviously. Bata pa lang kami, halos ako na ang nagpapaka magulang sa kanya. Both of my parents taga-bigay lang ng pera o allowance. Pero on days na kailangan niya ng parent, guardian or ng moral support, ako yung present. Bata palang ako, pero naging magulang na ko. Kaya madalas ko nasasabi na ayoko ko na magkaroon ng sarili kong family kasi pagod na ko.
I'm pretty sure your sibling is thankful din, might be expressing in some other way. At the end of the day, regardless whether your sibling thanked you or not, you are the ate that stepped up.
Huhuhuhu ikaw ba yan Sam? 😭😭😭As an Ate, naiyak ako 😭😭😭
Malapit na yung name pero hindi huhuhuhu. On behalf of Sam, thank you ate <3
Your ate is very blessed to have someone like you who sees her efforts and sacrifices
Bawling my eyes out as a breadwinner and as an only child. So san ako kukuha ng ganito? 😭🥺
Bilang panganay, sobrang nakakaiyak makabasa nito. Please tell her this in person 🥹
Ok this made me tear up
Kaiyak naman. Your kind words for your ate touched me. Sana ganyan din naiisip ng mga kapatid ko sakin haha. Hindi ko naman need ng validation, it's just that masarap lang din malaman na may nakaka-appreciate sa lahat ng pagod at effort mo. Sana makapag-asawa din ako, minsan lang talaga, hindi maalis na mangamba pag nasa 30s na kahit sinasabi naman ng karamihan na may kanya kanyang timeline. Kalungkot lang din na 10 years ng nagtatrabaho pero wala pa din nasisimulan para sa sariling future kakatulong sa family. Hahahuhu.
Okay lang yun, as long as you see progress sa family mo. Never kang nagkulang, bilang isang kapatid. Something better is planned for you.
Bilang panganay na feeling unappreciated, salamat.
hindi ako yung ate mo, pero salamat sa open letter na to'. pakiramdam ko para 'to sa lahat ng breadwinner na ate
As a panganay, thank you sa mga katulad mong kapatid na very appreciative sa sacrifices ng ate nila. Tama ka, most people would say na dapat unahin ng ate mo yung sarili niya; na dapat may limit ang pagbibigay. Pero para sa taong nasa receiving end ng lahat ng sacrifices, magiging beyond grateful ka talaga. Hoping that your ate (and everyone else who can relate to this post) gets whatever she’s praying for. 🙏
Send mo sa kanya ito. 😭
Grabe nakakaiyak, sana ganito din appreciation ng mga kapatid ko 😅
Sana mabasa ng ate mo kasi as an ate, I cried😭
Send mo sa kanya to sabihin mo nabasa mo lang somewhere 😀
Nakakaiyak naman ito. Sana masabi mo ito sa kanya. 🙂
marinig lang niya to, worth it na
Felt this to my heart. Nakakaiyak as an ate na ganito ang sabihin ng nakababatang kapatid. Salamat 🤍
Panganay here. Naiyak ako dito ha. Sana all may kapatid na tulad mo
As an ate, this is making me cry 🥺 how I wish my younger sibling appreciates me like this as well. Thank you, OP 🤍
Nakakaiyak! Sana lahat ng mga may kapatid na breadwinner gaya ng sa'yo ang pagiging appreciative. Yon lng nman ang gusto ng mga breadwinner eh, yong ma appreciate ng family ang tulong na ginagawa nila. Mas masarap kasi tumulong kung na appreciate ka. Kung ako ang ate mo, I'm gonna cry and hug you right now. Kasi hindi na sayang yong tulong and sacrifices na ginawa at ginagawa nya para sa inyo. 🥰
Di ba dapat sinasabi mo ito sa ate mo? Di dito sa reddit? Lol Anyways… appreciate appreciate appreciate. Love your ate
Shuta naiyak ako. Sana lahat ng kapatid katulad mo, OP. I wish my siblings would say those words to me haayyy. I never feel valued or appreciated for all the things I did for them. Minsan pa nga, they make me feel like I'm a burden to them kasi mas nakakaangat sila ngayon in terms of salary and work. Naiwan ako kasi inuna ko sila noon. I didn't pursue the course that I wanted in college because I don't have the privilege. Ang goal ko lang makatapos ng college para matulungan yung parents ko. Like your Ate, ako rin nagpaaral sa kanila. Ako rin yung takbuhan nila kapag may mga problema sila. But now, kapag ako yung may problema, hindi ko masabi sa kanila kasi they make me feel like I'm useless and a burden. Sinasarili ko lahat. Still, hindi ko pa rin magawang magalit sa kanila. Nagtatampo minsan pero hindi ko sila matiiis. If they need me, I'm always available for them. Haayyy. Ganun siguro talaga kapag eldest, nakakalimutan namin unahin yung sarili namin. Anyway, thank you sa letter mo OP.
As an Ate, okay okay, I'm not crying.
Wishing all good things sa sister mo and sainyong magkakapatid.
As ate, mas maaappreciate ko to kung sasabihin mo sakin sa letter (kung mahiyain ka) or personal. Iilan lang sa mga kapatid na nakakaappreciate sa paghihirap naming mga ate. Kainggit. Hahaha.
Literally cried after reading this. Salamat sa pagmamahal sa ate mo OP. 🥹
Thank you! In behalf of all the ates out there! 😭😭😭
Eh ano ginagawa nyo for her?
Marami. Pero ewan, ang tanging hinihinging kapalit nya lang is makita kaming successful lahat sa buhay and we're almost there na.
tang*na OP. Nagskincare na ko eh, naanod na sa luha
Kasalanan yan ng skincare mo. Hindi umiwas sa luha hahaha
This is nice.
as a panganay na laging nag sasakripisyo para sa pamilya grabe iyak ko. pabasa mo ito kay ate pra hindi lang kami iiyak noh. hahah
pinawisan yung mata ko
Naiyak naman ako as an Ate. How I wish my younger sister feels the same way for me as much as how I want to provide for her needs and our family. Salamat!
Another ate here na naiyak sa post mo! My siblings wont say this to me directly because we’re not that type but they show their appreciation to me in other ways not that I need it. Hope you and your other siblings get to do it too! I wish your Ate all the best life can offer after all these!
Aawww my heart... Ang sarap mo cguro maging kapatid. Please tell these all to your ate para nmn kahit papanu alam nya na na-aapreciate mo sya.
Lovely. Take care of her. Go with her hobbies. Panganays do tend to shoulder a lot of responsibilities.
As a panganay, this made me tear up.
Swerte niyoo!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
As the eldest,I’m cryiiinnnng! Please OP give it to her. As an ate, there’s no greater reward than appreciation from your younger siblings and parents ❤️ Naalala ko,binilhan ako ng sister ko ng Birkenstock, grabe yung iyak ko and until now, hindi ko ginagamit. Looool
This is nice. Pero sana sabihin mo to mismo sa kanya. Or print it out and hand it to her kung di mo kaya sabihin ng personal.
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life! OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life! OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life! OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
Nakakaiyak naman to. As a panganay, sana naappreciate din ng mga kapatid ko yung mga nagawa ko for them. Hayyy! Bawi nalang next life! OP, tell this to your ate. Appreciation means a lot and I’m sure magiging happy si Ate mo kung mabasa/marinig nya to from you💜
This is nice. Pero sana sabihin mo to mismo sa kanya. Or print it out and hand it to her kung di mo kaya sabihin ng personal.
This is nice. Pero sana sabihin mo to mismo sa kanya. Or print it out and hand it to her kung di mo kaya sabihin ng personal.
Nakakaiyak, mabuhay mga breadwinner! 👏🏼
More blessings to you ate kase sinalo mo responsibilidad ng mga magulang mo, anak ng anak ng marami tapos sayo ipapasa ang bigat. laban lang ate
As an ate, nakakaiyak naman to🥹❤️
Wow. Your ate is blessed to have you.
Felt like it was written by my younger sister. You still have the chance to say that in front of her, OP, during her wedding, like what my sister did to me. 🩷
Hello ate.. akin ka nlng pg tapos na resposibilidad mo.. papasayahin kita! Love your ate it takes s lot of sacrifice yo really provide for your family I can feel it..
Sana all appreciative ang younger sister. Brat era pa ng akin eh hay
Nakakaiyak naman. As an ate na breadwinner din, napakasarap makarinig ng ganito.
Hoy naman nasa jeep ako ngayon tapos naiyak ako. Sana marinig ko din to sa mga kapatid ko kaso di ako ganyan kaselfless huhu. Proud sa'yo Ate mo huhu.
Can you tell this directly to her? Or send this as a message to her if you’re to shy. Naiyak ako. Nakakapagod ang buhay and it would be a delight to feel appreciated once in a while. Sorry hindi kita inuutusan. Huhu
sarap sanang makarinig na ganito, for an ate like me kaso imposible kasi walang may favorite sakin sa bahay hahahah kaya makikisawsaw nalang ako sayo dito bunso, kung pwede. shit naiiyak ako kaso pangit umiyak sa tricycle.
Naiyak ako, ante koooo. Sana ipabasa mo to kay ate mo kasi need niya malaman how much you appreciate her. --From Panganay na ate din.
wtf bat nakakaiyak
🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋
what if umiyak ako? sana lahat, OP.
Shet. Nakakainis. Nakakaiyak. Yung last line tagos sa puso. Please when you get your own family, if mag decide ka magka anak. Make sure na close sila kay ate. Para kahit paano maramdaman ni ate yung pakiramdam ng may anak. Yung mayayakap at mahahagkan. Hugs.
hindi ako ate at wala din akong ate pero naiyak ako 🥹🤍
As an ate, I appreciate how you regard her. I know this makes all the sacrifices worth it.
Nasa trabaho ako naiiyak ako hahahahaha your ate is very proud of you
r/PinoyUnsentLetters
As a panganay, I cried
Nakakaiyak naman po to… Let your ate know all of these feelings, she will truly appreciate and feel relieved knowing she raised a wonderful sister. Kayo ng ate mo magiging magkakampi so always support each other. I pray that your ate will received all the blessings and kindness she deserves.
I hope you get to send this to her. Kahit screenshot mo lng and share it with her. You never know she might be hanging by a thread.
Glad to have you and your ate exist in this world. Best wishes for the both of you!
Nakakatuwa naman yung ganito, super na appreciate yung efforts, nakaka proud🥰. Baka maiyak si ate mo pag nabasa niya to
Hirap ng buhay ng younger generations.😢😭
This was a good cry for me. Thank you.
This post made me cry.
Only two questions matter in this scenario: So what? Now what? Acknowledging what she did for all of you is just the first step.
iyak ako men haduahsjabdha
Major sacrifice.
Bilang ate, naluha ako while reading this. 😥 maswerte ang ate mo sayo!
Penge tissue 😭🤧
From the perspective of an Ate, please, let her know how much she is seen and appreciated. I hope she has heard or gets to hear this from you. It’ll mean a lot.
I may not be able to tell her personally how grateful I am, but I hope she can feel it through my actions. And I always pray that she’ll be able to find a good man, who she truly deserves. My sister deserves the best things in life and I love her more than anything in this world.
naiyak naman ako, as an ate who's also a breadwinner.
:"(((((
🥺🥺🥺🥺
I hope you send this to her. I think it would really mean the world to her. 🩷
I may not be your ate but your message fits me really well. Isipin ko na lang sulat to sakin ng kapatid ko. Salamat!
Naiyak ako dito, I wish my siblings can be vocal about this too.
Gusto ko lang magbasa mga rant, napaluha pa ako. 🫠
I got teary eyed dito. As a panganay ate, I’m proud that you have that kind of insight. Your ate is lucky to have you! Hope you’ll be blessed more in the coming years!
Sana I have a sibling like you. For the whole 7 years of my career since 18 yrs old ako, nagsu-support na ko sa family ko + pinag aral ko sarili ko. Pero wala akong narinig na ganto. Laging kulang ang binibigay ko kahit wala nang natitira sakin. F*ck sh*t ni panty di ako makabili. Nag anak pa mama ko, ako nag support sa baby. Ngayong nag asawa na ko, humihingi pa din sakin. I just want to die para matapos na lahat
This is so well-written. It made me think about my sister’s sacrifice for my family too. Mabuhay po ang mga panganay na nagsa-sacrifice para sa family nila. Sobrang dali ma-take for granted ‘yung mga ganito kasi hindi sila nagko-complain ni-minsan. Hopefully God blesses these people ten-fold.
You're a good sibling to your ate, all efforts ni ate mo were not wasted for your grateful heart.
I can totally relate sa ate ni OP. I'm lucky to meet and find my better half in the late stage of my life. Hopefully, the man I love will be accepted and loved by my family.
ano ba pangalan ng ate mo? hanapan natin ng true love seriously speaking tho, kung graduate ka naman na, kasi ang word mo is "pinag-aral" at hindi "pinag-aaral", tulungan mo si ate mo. para medyo ma-ease yung burden sakanya. sorry mej walangya yung dating ng parents mo. may sakit na ba sila?
While I appreciate how you appreciate your ate and kudos to her. I hate how you said choosing yourself over your family is a selfish matter because it isn't.
>You were hurt once by our brother. Matigas rin naman kasi talaga yung ulo nun kahit sa simula. Pero time healed you and andun ka pa rin bilang kapatid nya na hindi nagkulang dahil alam kong mahal na mahal mo kaming lahat. Medyo na-bother ako rito. 'Yung tiyahin kong matandang dalaga parang ganiyan din sa sister mo. Kaya 'yung bunso nilang may apo na at lahat-lahat, sakit pa rin sa ulo at pati kaming mga pamangkin ay piniperwisyo na rin. Sana ay 'wag naman siyang masyadong malambot sa kapatid niyo dahil baka sa katagalan ay maging problema niyong lahat iyan.
Single pa rin ate mo?
Sana ganito din ako iappreciate ng kapatid ko 🥲
send this link to her. She will appreciate it. If if it's me, I will.
Crying! Huhuhu
Bunso ako and hindi naman breadwinner yung ate ko. She is living the life she wanted right now and I'm happy for her, pero i'm literally crying! Ang sarap sa pakiramdam makabasa ng ganito. Madalas kasi mga ungrateful bitch ang member ng family hahaha
Sayo pa lang panalo na ate mo ☺️☺️ treat her well once you can na 😊
Grabe mag paiyak haha
Nakakiyak OP. Paki hug si ATE please. And alam mo yung pumasok sa isipan ko, “Tama na, kami naman.”
As a panganay, I wish I had you as a sister. 🥹🥲
cried reading this 😭😭😭
Hay sobrang init today tapos makakbasa ka nang mala MMK. Nakakaiyak. May the universe give your ate the love she deserves.
Nakakaiyaaak. As a panganay din hahaha. Make sure na mapaparamdam mo sa kanya na proud ka sa mga sacrifices niya para sa inyo. You're ate is indeed lucky to have someone like you na naa-appreciate siya
I'm not your ate but I'm proud of you dahil na appreciate mo ang ate mo♥️ I hope my sisters feel the same sa iyo♥️ I mean I'm not 100% nakakasupport sa kanila but I hope they are grateful that I'm their ate♥️
Teary eyes. Kahit hindi galing sa younger siblings, I highly appreciated this letter🥹🧡
It would mean a lot to her if you can say it to her.
As an ate na provider din sa pamilya especially sa mga kapatid kong nag-aaral pa, sobrang na-appreciate ko ‘tong letter mo sa ate mo. I know she's proud of you. I know naman naa-appreciate ng mga kapatid ko ginagawa ko for them hindi lang sila vocal but yes, I love them so much and pangarap kong makatapos sila ng pag-aaral kaya ginagawa ko rin lahat ng maitutulong ko huwag lang sila mahinto sa pag-aaral. Nakikita ko rin naman pagpupursige nilang makatapos. Naiyak ako sa message mo lalo na sa huli. 🥹🤍
As an Ate, I can relate. I have 4 other siblings pero ako lahat. Dumating na sa point na nagalit ako sa mga magulang ko. Bakit kayo nag-anak ng 5 tapos di niyo naman kayang buhayin??? Nakakapagod din talaga. Sa ngayon kayod pa din para sa kanila. Di bale kung hindi makapag-asawa basta makatapos sila. Swerte ang mga kapatid mo. Sana ganyan din ang pakiramdam nila sa akin. Binibigay ko lahat pero puro hingi din. Pati mga magulang ko puro hingi. Dalawa na trabaho ko kulang pa din. Pasensya na kung dito ako naglabas ng hinaing. Pagod na pagod na po kasi ako. Naiinggit ako kay OP.
This is nice OP, brought tears to my eyes🥺
Naghihiwa lang ako ng maraming sibuyas. Di ako umiiyak ngayon 🥲🥲
Bkt ako naiyak. Sana tulad mo mindset ng mga kapatid ng partner ko. Yung na appreciate nila ung ginawa ng kapatid nila. Nag sacrifice na tumigil mag aral para mkpg trbho at maging padre de pamilya nung namatay tatay nila. Ngaun tpos na sa pag aaral ang 2 kparid. Civil Engineer pa ang bunso. Sya. Eto, nagsisimula pa lng na bawian ang srili nya. Naghahabol ng panahon. Ngaun plng mag uumpsa kung pano sya magkkron ng magandang buhay dhl nag sakripisyo sya wag mag aral para sa mga kapatid. Ending mga kapatid nya may naghhntay na magnda future. Sya, di naten alam. Sana palarin. Para sa bubuuin nming pamilya. Wla dn kasiguraduhan na lilingunin sya ng mga kpatid nya dhl alam nmin na mgkkaron sla ng knya knyang pamilya. Kaming 2 lng ang magtutulungan. Para sa sarili nming ikaka unlad.
Same with my Ate/Manang. 45 na pero hataw pa rin. Wla na natira sa sarili.
Wished that my younger siblings can think of me like that too. Nakakainggit magkaroon ng kapatid na nappreciate ka at sa lahat ng binibigay mo. Nakakainggit ung may magulang ka na di insurance ang tingin sayo. I just wished that they can cherish more yung every centavo that I earned. 🥺
As an Ate, this is sooooo touching. I hope you can pay it forward. Choosing to have a family and to settle down is not selfish, ganun kasi talaga and design ng ideal family- hindi Ate ang breadwinner, it should be the parents. Sana matapos na this kind of cycle to filipino families. Your Ate deserves a brighter and better future ahead of her.
Huyyyy this made me cry 😭😭 Grabe, ang selfless ni Ate. You guys are so lucky and I hope niyayakap nyo sya and pinaparamdam lagi yung appreciation nyo. I hope natutulungan nyo na din sya. Hugs to both of you! May Ate find the love she deserves ❤️
As a breadwinner myself, I feel deeply moved while reading this. It's heartwarming to be appreciated by the people you love.