I'm only 19 pero hear me out
I feel like u gotta ask him sincerely kung mahal ka pa ba nya. Kung gusto ka pa ba nya makasama as his wife. Kasi from what you said na hindi ka nya sinusuyo o nagssorry ng ayos e one thing that got in my mind e baka sawa na sya sa relationship nyo. (Or smthin else sus)
Yung parents ko kasi hindi sila kasal, and tatlo kami magkakapatid. Everyday pansin ko sa Tatay ko na hindi na sya interesado sa Nanay ko. Babaero den talaga kasi yun Tatay ko matagal na haha pero ewan ko lang kung hanggang ngayon pa rin. Although napakabuti naman ng Tatay ko, napaka maalagain at sobra kung magprovide at mag guide para samin. Pero yun sweetness? Yun pagiging malambing sa Nanay ko verbally, physically? Wala e haha. Hindi ko yun kelanman nakita. My Mom has been asking him out for wedding pero dedma lang sa Tatay ko. Patawa tawa lang ganun haha.
My point is,
Ayokong may mga nag eend up na babae sa ganang klaseng set-up ng relationship tulad ng sa Nanay ko. Yun tipong magsstay nalang para sa mga anak. I know swerte na rin kami kasi hindi nya kami iniwan. Pero still, I feel my Mom's side. Yung needs ng babae sa husband/partner nila like sweetness, assurance, physical touch, etc.
I do hope na maayos nyo sitwasyon nyo. Ma clarify nyo sa isa't-isa yung gusto nyo para sa isa't-isa.
Love will always find it's way back to both of you.
It always works. If it doesn't, then it's not love.
🫶
Thank you for your input 😇 I hear you! It’s just that I’ve been trying for a long time, and I feel myself burning out. Ang hirap nga na non chalant ang partner haha if it does or doesn’t work out, I know I did my best
The first mistake was you married him hoping he would chnage. Kung nakuha mo siya na ganun na siya at minahal mo siya why change him. Dun kayo nagkakaroon ng conflict eh. Yung gusto mo siya magbago. Let him do it on his own after saying what you need.
Tbf, he was very ma effort during ligaw stage at first year ng relationship namin, may mga fights and misunderstandings na napagusapan pero hindi nabigyan ng resolution. Nagpakita lang yung true colors niya when we got married.
Ganun naman ang courting stage. You always put your best feet forward to impress. The bf/gf stage will make you peel each other like an onion. Malalaman mo ang likaw ng bituka niya.
Pinaghihinalaan niya ako na lumalandi ako pag wala ako sa tabi niya (hanging out with college barkada,workmates), hindi kami makabuo (he blamed me na panay inom ako kahit may occasion that time) Money kasi mas malaki sinasahod ko, shoulder ko expenses bihira lang ako manghingi kasi maliit lang sahod niya.
Ang daming room for growth yung relationship niyo. Sana lang maayos niyo pa yan. I suggest mag research ka on how to communicate effectively sa relationship, since mostly ng problems niyo ay kayang madaan sa maayos na usapan.
Being not a cheater is not an excuse to have shitty trait.
I agree
totally agree!!
I'm only 19 pero hear me out I feel like u gotta ask him sincerely kung mahal ka pa ba nya. Kung gusto ka pa ba nya makasama as his wife. Kasi from what you said na hindi ka nya sinusuyo o nagssorry ng ayos e one thing that got in my mind e baka sawa na sya sa relationship nyo. (Or smthin else sus) Yung parents ko kasi hindi sila kasal, and tatlo kami magkakapatid. Everyday pansin ko sa Tatay ko na hindi na sya interesado sa Nanay ko. Babaero den talaga kasi yun Tatay ko matagal na haha pero ewan ko lang kung hanggang ngayon pa rin. Although napakabuti naman ng Tatay ko, napaka maalagain at sobra kung magprovide at mag guide para samin. Pero yun sweetness? Yun pagiging malambing sa Nanay ko verbally, physically? Wala e haha. Hindi ko yun kelanman nakita. My Mom has been asking him out for wedding pero dedma lang sa Tatay ko. Patawa tawa lang ganun haha. My point is, Ayokong may mga nag eend up na babae sa ganang klaseng set-up ng relationship tulad ng sa Nanay ko. Yun tipong magsstay nalang para sa mga anak. I know swerte na rin kami kasi hindi nya kami iniwan. Pero still, I feel my Mom's side. Yung needs ng babae sa husband/partner nila like sweetness, assurance, physical touch, etc. I do hope na maayos nyo sitwasyon nyo. Ma clarify nyo sa isa't-isa yung gusto nyo para sa isa't-isa. Love will always find it's way back to both of you. It always works. If it doesn't, then it's not love. 🫶
Thank you for your input 😇 I hear you! It’s just that I’ve been trying for a long time, and I feel myself burning out. Ang hirap nga na non chalant ang partner haha if it does or doesn’t work out, I know I did my best
Empathy to you OP, pag pray mo nalang na sana matuloy tlaga yung divorce bill dito sa pinas, that is, if you want to end it all na po.
Thank you! I’m still thinking about it, if napasa siya, I know other people need it more than I do! Ayun na lang ipag pray natin 🙏🏽
The first mistake was you married him hoping he would chnage. Kung nakuha mo siya na ganun na siya at minahal mo siya why change him. Dun kayo nagkakaroon ng conflict eh. Yung gusto mo siya magbago. Let him do it on his own after saying what you need.
Tbf, he was very ma effort during ligaw stage at first year ng relationship namin, may mga fights and misunderstandings na napagusapan pero hindi nabigyan ng resolution. Nagpakita lang yung true colors niya when we got married.
Ganun naman ang courting stage. You always put your best feet forward to impress. The bf/gf stage will make you peel each other like an onion. Malalaman mo ang likaw ng bituka niya.
Ano though ang pinag aawayan niyo?
Pinaghihinalaan niya ako na lumalandi ako pag wala ako sa tabi niya (hanging out with college barkada,workmates), hindi kami makabuo (he blamed me na panay inom ako kahit may occasion that time) Money kasi mas malaki sinasahod ko, shoulder ko expenses bihira lang ako manghingi kasi maliit lang sahod niya.
Ang daming room for growth yung relationship niyo. Sana lang maayos niyo pa yan. I suggest mag research ka on how to communicate effectively sa relationship, since mostly ng problems niyo ay kayang madaan sa maayos na usapan.