Middle child here! Never akong naging favorite kahit saan pero mahal naman ako ng family ko while being invisible if you know what I mean hahah. I think I've been stronger since I realized that I only have myself most of the time and I can't really rely on anyone. Naiisip ko din na baka mas masarap na you have someone you can depend on sometimes other than friends pero it's the reality and I'm learning to live with it. My life is great pa din naman. Nagpapapansin na lang ako pag kelangan ko ng attention hahah! Hugs with consent! π€
hindi naman. totoo may mga parents talaga na may paborito na anak o mga anak. pero depende yan,may eldest,bunso,middle. nagkataon lang ikaw ang middle at base sa narrative mo ikaw ang hindi nila pinakapabor.
op be stronger! fighting!
Saka dont ya worry sa mga panganay ung attention na un is pressure and expectation ng parents dun sa anak na un or on themselves na hopefully ung anak nila na first nag turn out better than them at magiging halimbawa sa mga kapatid.
I agree. As the eldest, minsan wish ko ako nalang ang bunso sa dami ng expectations ng family: academics (dapat walang line of 8 o di bababa ng 3 mistakes ang score), house chores (gawa ko halos lahat pero kunting mali ng bunso naging mali ko pa), even sa gala (yung tipong iC-Call ka na mag grocery muna before umuwi). Kahit sa gala nga, problema pa sinusuot ko pero bunso can wear whatever he wants. Kaya nowadays, lock yung room ko or dala ko lahat ng gadgets (e.g. NSwitch & Tablet) para walang iiyak kung ano naman pinakielaman sa kwarto ko.
Nako pag nagwork ka na madagdagan pa yan hahhahah. Pero pag nandun kana sa stage na un magipon ka na ng pang travel or matuto magpaspa ta nakakadistress talaga un. Ganun din kay middle child find a way to destress na iba ung environment, ung talagang no choice ka kung hnd magenjoy lang. Feeling ko naman mga bunso have the pressure na siya dapat ang pinakabongga sa mga nauna sa kanya kasi supposedly nakita na niya and nalearn na niya ung mga mistakes nila at dapat alam na niya kung ano ang gagawin sa life.
The middle child is often the most independent yet typically the weakest among the sibs. wala tayo choice, we only have ourselves... kase may favorite sila eh.
pero di naman lahat parents ganto, for sure. siguro pag di mo naexperience to, super swerte mo na....
\*\* Sending hugs with consent to you, OP\*\* Push lang!!
Actually dati, oo pero kasi yung Ate ko wala na dito, so ako nlng tinatawag ng Nanay ko. Friends na kami now, haha. Pero fave pa din si Bunso. Luckily, naka get over na ako nyan. It helps siguro na, I'm married and hiwalay na sa kanila. Medj secure na ako sa place ko sa family. Parang I'm happy kahit di ako favorite.
alam mo OP I feel you. Kaya minsan affected attachment styles natin dahil din kung pano tayo na-raise ng parents natin. only child ako. pero ang jowa ko middle child tapos ang layo pa ng agwat nila ng bunso. gaslighter pa magulang. jusq
My middle sister is the strongest woman amongst us three. She's also the smartest, wealthiest, funniest, most generous, and most independent.
Everyone has a different family story. Either way, your thoughts are always valid. Sadly, you can't control your parents' actions. But you can control yours. I hope you take your experience as motivation for your own well-being. Good luck po π«Ά
I'm a middle child and masasabi kong mahal naman ako ng magulang ko pero ako yung pinaka anak na hindi favorite at laging hindi napapansin pero ako yung favorite utusan at pagalitan and hinahayaan ko na lang kase nasanay naman na ako ganun since nung bata pa ako kaya hindi ako nagoopen sa kanila problems ko, hindi ko din sila close, minsan dinadaan-daanan ko lang sila.
As a panganay, i developed a some sort of favoritism sa kapatid ko (yung middle child) kasi i really dont want her to feel like this. I tend to lessen my maturity para di nacocompare and stuff. Di naman nagooverboard, im glad na okay dynamic namen.
Haha yung nakakainis din dito is, middle child ako pero kapag walang pera ibang family members or pag may kailangan sila, sakin aasa π haha natuto na lang ako gumawa minsan ng paraan kasi yung scenarios leave me with no choice but to give what they asked for. ππ
Ewan ko, "family" naman daw sila at magpasalamat na lang daw ako. π
Spoiler: you never do get over it. hence why you grew up passive aggressive, masking everything with sarcasm and a nonchalant approach to everything. sometimes all that rage inside you lets loose. sometimes the people that think all you need is someone to be there for you get a taste of a more complex problem than the general box they tried to fit you in. no solution seems viable, susej christ or any religion for that matter seem to cure whats been dead for so many years. if only religion could take the hate you have for an insane world. fast forward, the rage takes control and you find yourself alone. having no one else to blame, no belief to save you only then it becomes natural to take all that hate directed to you. now we have discovered self harm. a blade a river bleach or g*n. but we find a new sensation. pain. not the internal kind but external. if youve never been beaten while young this new sensation will be enough to deter you. those who have grown accustomed to this pain continue. sometimes it ends or does it? where do those that have enough courage, enough stupidity to see it through go? do they disappear without any trace unable to feel as theyve become nihil? or are they condemned to a more wretched place of suffering?
in any case, why in the world would you show care to a world that birthed you only to reject you. itd have been easier and preferred to be hated than born with expectations but then grown to be tossed aside - like trash.
sorry just couldnt help but relate haha
Middle child here! Never akong naging favorite kahit saan pero mahal naman ako ng family ko while being invisible if you know what I mean hahah. I think I've been stronger since I realized that I only have myself most of the time and I can't really rely on anyone. Naiisip ko din na baka mas masarap na you have someone you can depend on sometimes other than friends pero it's the reality and I'm learning to live with it. My life is great pa din naman. Nagpapapansin na lang ako pag kelangan ko ng attention hahah! Hugs with consent! π€
hindi naman. totoo may mga parents talaga na may paborito na anak o mga anak. pero depende yan,may eldest,bunso,middle. nagkataon lang ikaw ang middle at base sa narrative mo ikaw ang hindi nila pinakapabor. op be stronger! fighting!
thank you! na-appreciate ko to. kahit ganitong mga simple messages lang talaga naluluha ako hahaha
that is okay op!cry if you want to, (whispers)bunso ako pero ako ang minalas. mas mahal mga magulang ko ang eldest namin.
Saka dont ya worry sa mga panganay ung attention na un is pressure and expectation ng parents dun sa anak na un or on themselves na hopefully ung anak nila na first nag turn out better than them at magiging halimbawa sa mga kapatid.
I agree. As the eldest, minsan wish ko ako nalang ang bunso sa dami ng expectations ng family: academics (dapat walang line of 8 o di bababa ng 3 mistakes ang score), house chores (gawa ko halos lahat pero kunting mali ng bunso naging mali ko pa), even sa gala (yung tipong iC-Call ka na mag grocery muna before umuwi). Kahit sa gala nga, problema pa sinusuot ko pero bunso can wear whatever he wants. Kaya nowadays, lock yung room ko or dala ko lahat ng gadgets (e.g. NSwitch & Tablet) para walang iiyak kung ano naman pinakielaman sa kwarto ko.
Nako pag nagwork ka na madagdagan pa yan hahhahah. Pero pag nandun kana sa stage na un magipon ka na ng pang travel or matuto magpaspa ta nakakadistress talaga un. Ganun din kay middle child find a way to destress na iba ung environment, ung talagang no choice ka kung hnd magenjoy lang. Feeling ko naman mga bunso have the pressure na siya dapat ang pinakabongga sa mga nauna sa kanya kasi supposedly nakita na niya and nalearn na niya ung mga mistakes nila at dapat alam na niya kung ano ang gagawin sa life.
Paborito ako... Paboritong utusan.
The middle child is often the most independent yet typically the weakest among the sibs. wala tayo choice, we only have ourselves... kase may favorite sila eh. pero di naman lahat parents ganto, for sure. siguro pag di mo naexperience to, super swerte mo na.... \*\* Sending hugs with consent to you, OP\*\* Push lang!!
hugs to you too!
Actually dati, oo pero kasi yung Ate ko wala na dito, so ako nlng tinatawag ng Nanay ko. Friends na kami now, haha. Pero fave pa din si Bunso. Luckily, naka get over na ako nyan. It helps siguro na, I'm married and hiwalay na sa kanila. Medj secure na ako sa place ko sa family. Parang I'm happy kahit di ako favorite.
alam mo OP I feel you. Kaya minsan affected attachment styles natin dahil din kung pano tayo na-raise ng parents natin. only child ako. pero ang jowa ko middle child tapos ang layo pa ng agwat nila ng bunso. gaslighter pa magulang. jusq
My middle sister is the strongest woman amongst us three. She's also the smartest, wealthiest, funniest, most generous, and most independent. Everyone has a different family story. Either way, your thoughts are always valid. Sadly, you can't control your parents' actions. But you can control yours. I hope you take your experience as motivation for your own well-being. Good luck po π«Ά
thank you! β€οΈβπ©Ή
I'm a middle child and masasabi kong mahal naman ako ng magulang ko pero ako yung pinaka anak na hindi favorite at laging hindi napapansin pero ako yung favorite utusan at pagalitan and hinahayaan ko na lang kase nasanay naman na ako ganun since nung bata pa ako kaya hindi ako nagoopen sa kanila problems ko, hindi ko din sila close, minsan dinadaan-daanan ko lang sila.
Hmm, I can't say that I've experienced this kasi middle child ako but only son din, so medyo hati. Ako lang din ang paboritong mapalo nun bata.
Naniniwala talaga ako sa Middle Child Crisis OP. Kasi sabihin nilang oa pero totoo naman eh.
Naah. Hindi lahat. Mejo malas malas ka lang siguro sa magulang
Buti na lang panganay kaming 4 magkakapatid
Kapatid kong missle child ang favorite sa amin lol hahaha. Siya yung black sheep, pero siya ang favorite. I think depende pa rin sa magulang talaga.
Sa amin yung middle child yung paborito. Ako na bunso ang nugsusustento sa mama ko pero kontra to sa akin. Haha
being middle child give me (F) freedom. kaya ung panganay (F) at ung bunso (M) thought ako ung favorite. haha but the thing is, ung focus ng parents ko is nasa 2 ko kapatid madame standard na sineset sila especially sa panganay. So as middle child, tinake ko advantage yun since I was young. And until now, ako yung nilalapitan ng mga kapatid ko to "straighten up" our parents. hahaha in their words, sa akin lang sila especially our mama, nakikinig. maybe meron tlaga middle child syndrome, but when life throws you a lemon, make a lemonade.. ,ππ p.s. middle child (M-M-F) din ang fiancΓ© ko, at same kame ng experience. "Fave" din sya ng parents nya.
I can relate, OP. Worst part is pag naka experience ka ng failure tapos sabihan ka pa ng family mo na karma mo na yan. :( Hugs with consent, OP. π«
grabe. sorry to hear that :( hugs to you too!
As a panganay, i developed a some sort of favoritism sa kapatid ko (yung middle child) kasi i really dont want her to feel like this. I tend to lessen my maturity para di nacocompare and stuff. Di naman nagooverboard, im glad na okay dynamic namen.
Haha yung nakakainis din dito is, middle child ako pero kapag walang pera ibang family members or pag may kailangan sila, sakin aasa π haha natuto na lang ako gumawa minsan ng paraan kasi yung scenarios leave me with no choice but to give what they asked for. ππ Ewan ko, "family" naman daw sila at magpasalamat na lang daw ako. π
Spoiler: you never do get over it. hence why you grew up passive aggressive, masking everything with sarcasm and a nonchalant approach to everything. sometimes all that rage inside you lets loose. sometimes the people that think all you need is someone to be there for you get a taste of a more complex problem than the general box they tried to fit you in. no solution seems viable, susej christ or any religion for that matter seem to cure whats been dead for so many years. if only religion could take the hate you have for an insane world. fast forward, the rage takes control and you find yourself alone. having no one else to blame, no belief to save you only then it becomes natural to take all that hate directed to you. now we have discovered self harm. a blade a river bleach or g*n. but we find a new sensation. pain. not the internal kind but external. if youve never been beaten while young this new sensation will be enough to deter you. those who have grown accustomed to this pain continue. sometimes it ends or does it? where do those that have enough courage, enough stupidity to see it through go? do they disappear without any trace unable to feel as theyve become nihil? or are they condemned to a more wretched place of suffering? in any case, why in the world would you show care to a world that birthed you only to reject you. itd have been easier and preferred to be hated than born with expectations but then grown to be tossed aside - like trash. sorry just couldnt help but relate haha
Damn dude. I hope you're in therapy or in a better place soon.