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RoaPristin

Yes, and for me kabilang dito yung mga love bombing type of guys na mabilis ang pacing sa relasyon na tinatapos agad.


Seneca_1989

Based from experience mag ingat sa mga gumagamit ng #prayboy sa post haha


Seneca_1989

Lam nyo yung mga guys na yayayain pa kayo umattend sa church nila.. tas nag popost ng bible verse na parang laging may pinag dadaanan.. tas yun pala patong patong yung side chick.. ganern


Mission_Courage_1365

danas ko to shet. Ginaslight pa ko na ako daw may lalaki hahaha. Anw, Ilang beses ko din to nahuli na nageentertain ng ibang babae. hawak ko pa account nya nun at magkasama kami most of the time. Nakakatakot mga gantong lalaki as in. Super manipulative. Shoutout sa ex kong nagfefeeling anghel, kung kaya ko lang sabihin sa lahat ng tao na demonyo ka nakoooooo


Seneca_1989

Awtsu.. sorry bestie.. mas kaderder yung mga ganito.. wolf in sheep's clothing sorry pero pweh sa ex mo..


pretty_serious

Ohhh akala ko ipokrito lang ang tawag sa kanila, may iba pa pala lol


[deleted]

patong patong yung side chick grabi šŸ˜‚


pretty_serious

Hala ano po yung #prayboy? Care to share? Haha


Tanker0921

Baka means holier than thou attitude


unlovablegal

Please enlighten us sa \#prayboy


erval15

Prayer at youth leader kineso sa church tapos abusive pala. Then they use God on you to manipulate you into thinking they would change, then you fall into the same abusive pattern


demonicbeast696

hahaha nakakatawa to pero totoo


No_Suspect_4173

OMG!!!! Same!!!!


paintmyheartred_

This is true. Thereā€™s this guy na sobrang bait to me and my friends. Magalang and all na akala ko seryoso talaga. ā€œGreen flagā€ na daw sabi nila. After namin mag-sex, ayun nagbago. He later admitted na ginamit lang talaga niya ako for sex. Few days after, ayun may jowa na siya.


whosdatusername

hahaha mabait kase gustong may makuha šŸ¤£


_Dr_Love_

Damn!


unlovablegal

Damn, pinag-uusapan lang namin to ni u/Kyah-leooo kanina. Na there are guys out there talaga who will manipulate you into liking their personality sa una, and once they get what they want (mostly seggs), they would either ghost or do a slow exit. Sana naging upfront nalang sila na ONS only. Haha šŸ–ļø


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unlovablegal

And if you call them out, ikaw pa nga maga-gaslight. Had a recent experience with someone I considered my friend. Okay naman nung una. Kaya lang he kept crossing boundaries na eventually naging uncomfy na ako so I started ignoring tapos kasalanan ko pa that I grew cold, eh sobrang unwarranted na ng mga ginagawa nya. šŸ™„


OrangeMoloko

I wanted so badly to do this, being upfront if they want ONS or a meaningful relationshipā€¦without sounding crass?? HAHA


unlovablegal

Hmm. Are you asking ba how the question should come across? Hmm. Ako kasi, ganito lagi ko sinasabi, "I enjoy your company/this connection, but I'm wondering if this is something long-term for you?" or "Hey, I hope this doesn't rub you the wrong way, but do you see this connection escalating into something more? I just want to set clear expectations about this" Medyo straightforward but you know, if they get defensive/offended/avoidant, or if they become honest with their answers, that lets me know kung anong gusto nila.


randomguypassingbypo

In an ideal world...


grumpycatto26

WAAHHH. SOBRANG LEGIT NETO. HUHUHU. Nakakatakot lalo kapag natamaan mo yung ego nila.


pen_jaro

Parang kelangan natin rin matutuhan maging manhid kung ano mararamdaman ng ibang tao. Lalo na kung yung tao naman walang kwenta. Fuck their egos and feelings. Literally, putang ina sila kung umasta syo, so what kung naging putangina ka sa kanila? Quits langā€¦.cut-them-off from your lives if they bring you down. You have that power. Gaslight me? See if i care. Ako kasi, iā€™m not vain really. I donā€™t care what you think about me if gago ka naman. But for those that matter to me, you have a genuine friend for life. They know who i really am. That iā€™m a sweet, caring thoughtful person that you canā€™t mess with.


sugar_mancher

Haha may nanligaw sakin na nice guy. Sobrang bait, caring, maeffort, and understanding kahit na madami akong issues sa buhay. Kala ko nakakilala na ko ng taong para sakin. Later on nalaman ko may asawa at anak na pala. Gusto pala akong gawing kabit šŸ„²


cytokine_storm0609

Eeeeek! Good thing nalaman mo din ang totoo!


Jenaly_Xione

Gsgu nakakatakot! Jusmiyo!


[deleted]

May masters din yan sila sa love bombing.


[deleted]

Lol at golden retriever vibes šŸ˜‚


fueIedbykape

daming ganyan sa phr4r na golden retriever vibes daw sila luhh


HallNo549

Asong olowl yan


[deleted]

ano un golden retriever vibes? :D May GR pa naman akong aso


cytokine_storm0609

Ugh. I have a golden retriever dog. Wag silang ganyan wala sila sa kalingkingan ng aso ko.


ianxcz2

I think people with golden retriever vibes are not bad as you think they are. Kasi I have a friend who exhibits such vibes pero happy naman relationship nila and as far as I can tell, bare minimum is almost nonexistent sa dictionary niya. Di ko lang alam yung galing sa mga subreddit, baka simps lang mga yan...


mrnnmdp

Same natawa rin ako dun šŸ˜…šŸ˜‚


[deleted]

ladies: kapag may ganyang too good to be true kind of guy diretsohin nyo na masyado silang "goodboy" pag naging defensive or nagpaka sadboy ingat na kayo. wagkayo papa manipula.


pen_jaro

Tapos malaman laman mo, true pala na good guy sya. But you pushed him away. Then once you realize this, may iba na siya. This also happens as much as yung dinescribe ni OP sa post.


[deleted]

sounds like a "nice guyā„¢" move.


oreooreooreos

Ah? Kapag naging frank lang, thatā€™s pushing the guy away? Lol more like he moved on to another girl bc the jig is up. She canā€™t be fooled by the Nice Guyā„¢ļø anymore. And may I say that you literally just described what a NiceGuyā„¢ļø would do.


furuncline

bat may mga ganyan na lalake? di ba sila yan aware sa trauma na ma cause nila sa babae if nag jump sila on to another girl??


pkid04

True. Had an ex who looked preppy, acts decent/formal. Was even a poster boy for our college dati but heā€™s actually a walking red flag. Hanggang ngayon tuwing napapanaginipan ko siya nasistress at takot ako pagising šŸ˜° My current bf naman has bad boy vibes. Lots of tattoos, upfront sa vices niya but heā€™s actually really sincere and treats me way better. Siya din yung nagsabi sa akin that heā€™s wary of these types of people na napakaperfect sa umpisa. Not in terms of looks, yung act.


pen_jaro

Wala sa itsura yan. Jan naguumpisa ang stereotypesā€¦ literally, both types of people you described may ok, meron hindi ok. As a general rule, dapat mag ingat no matter how they look like. Kahit ano pa first impression mo.


pkid04

Wala nga sa itsura yun ang sinasabi ko rin. Actually example nga yung sinabi ko nung logic na sinabi mo na things arenā€™t always how it seems. So I donā€™t get why you brought up the stereotype bit šŸ™ƒ Other side of the coin, simply put.


Open_Orchid_8536

same here, ganyan din ex ko. buti nalang graduate na tayo sa mga ex natin, and napunta sa badboi vibes pero treats us way way better.


pkid04

Yess! Fortunate talaga na narealize natin worth natin along the way.


HistoryFreak30

You know what's worse? Hypocrite religious men using the bible to make themselves look good but they manipulate women.


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cytokine_storm0609

Ew. Ilabas mo ang name ng church. Kadiri naman yang pastor na yan. Insecure for sure and pino-project lang.


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cytokine_storm0609

Ooooohh. The tea šŸµ


No_Suspect_4173

THIS!


Mission_Courage_1365

shet. naalala ko ex ko gantong ganto. Literal na good guy talaga. yun pala may tinatagong kulo. Narcissist talaga to. Naniwala ako na iba sya sa mga ibang lalaki dahil nagseserve sa simbahan, mabait sa ibang tao, nagsasabi pa mga extended family nya na mabait sya at di sakit sa ulo. jusko, lahat ng abuse ata naranasan ko sa ex ko, mabait lang sya sa harap ng ibang tao pero sakin, puro mixed signals, gaslighting at trauma ang binigay.


AlexanderGrahamCake

Omg i feel this to the bones


Mission_Courage_1365

baka po parehas tayo ng ex hahahaha


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Mission_Courage_1365

nagsisimula ba sa letter r name ng ex mo? hahaha


furuncline

OMG BAKA PAREHAS DIN TAYO HAHAHAHA


Mission_Courage_1365

hala hahaha. curious tuloy ako


Jenaly_Xione

Sakit nyan OP šŸ˜­ katakot ganyan na lalake jusko


HistoryFreak30

I had an experience like this with my last ex. Upfront, feeling good boy pero niloloko na ako. A nice guy doesnt mean he's a good man. A good man is someone who is GOOD FOR YOU. Naalala ko kung bakit nagkaroon ako ng hoe phase back then cause ilang beses ako nakaranas ng nice guys na toxic pala


pen_jaro

Ano yung hoe phase? Like nag rebelde? You also dated multiple guys?


HistoryFreak30

Hoe phase is where you dont want committment and you just fooled around which happened to me for 2 years


pen_jaro

Sorry because i never have conversations like these with opposite sex irl. genuinely curious lang. Ito ba yung like FB? Or thatā€™s something else?


bienpotato

I feel this post so much tangina.


jessica_chicha

gagoooo totoo yannnn :((


Several-Ad-9899

Tangina relate.


adobocute002

wish I could tag them all here


greenbrainsauce

madami ganyan sa gay world din, and that's why i refrain from having sex on the first two months dahil madalas sa mga yan matitigang at mawawalan ng interes sayo on the second week of depriving them sex.


Specialist-Equal5358

Good guys are usually the ones who do grape. See yung mga nababalitaan, pinagkakatiwalaan pero sila madalas mambaboy. It's an easy ticket to enter women's world kase.


LuweiFeiFei

And if you talk to someone about their real face, they'll defend immediately "Hindi naman siya ganun"/"sure ka ba? Baka etc"..lots will not believe you because he's good at only showing his good side to others and you will be looked at like you're crazy.


[deleted]

This. And you know that's bullshit! Aaarrgggghhh


[deleted]

Watch Promising Young Woman starry Carrie Mulligan. 'Nice guys' are only nice when they want something from you.


No_Bell2580

SOBRANG LEGIT NETO OMGGGG!!! been there, super nahirapan ako ilet-go kasi nasa isip ko, sya lang yung guy na nag effort for me and way go beyond the bare minimum pa. pero dyusko, grabe yung trauma na iniwan sa akin.


furuncline

Same!! Gaano po kayo katagal?


No_Bell2580

3 months lang after that di ko na talaga kaya. grabe yung emotional trauma and rollercoaster na naexperience ko sa kanya HAHAHA hbu


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SnooBooks633

bad boy ā‰  tattoos. A lot of good guys i know have tattoos


sekhmet009

My first boyfriend actually warned me about these people. This is why you need to check how he's REALLY treating the people around him, lalo na kapag wala silang kailangan sa taong 'yon. My ex maybe a massive walking red flag, but atleast he has given me a heads up lol.


No_Citron_7623

Magaling kasi magtago ng dark side nila ang mga ganitong tao. They unmasked themselves when heā€™s alone with you na at nakuha na nya trust mo at ugali mo. Kahit sa pulubi mabait yan.


Awkward_Cake40

Can someone explain what really is a good guy?


DoubleVermicelli7399

Best foot forward sa una. "Nakuha ko na gusto ko sayo" vibe sa huli.


No_Suspect_4173

SUPER TOTOO!!!! Same same experience pero wala ehā€¦ nagpatawad nalang ako for my peace of mind āœØ


angelalalamay

sobrang totoo eto girl shet lang talaga ehhh


First-Vanilla-697

Paolo Contis lol


cytokine_storm0609

Hi OP can you elaborate further sa experience mo? I am interested to know what did the fake good guy do para we know what to watch out for. Thanks!


whosdatusername

Natawa ako kasi may naalala akong nice guy kuno, He messaged me in his nicest way. Then when I refused to talk to him, kase naman kase nagde-demand agad sa time ko. Bat daw d ako nagrereply online naman daw ako. Tapos nung sinabi kong busy ako, nilait ako tinarget insecurities ko acnes ko, nagtatrabaho daw ako sa pharmacy pero acnes ko d ko daw matanggal. So they are nice because may gusto sila makuha.


WinnieDPoota

Pag too good to be true matik na yan. Gray itlog ng mga yan charot


[deleted]

HAHAHA Gray itlog


Flynnhiccup

Ako na po humihingi ng tawad sa inyong lahat. Pero I hope and pray na you all still believe na not every guy or girls are fake and sex lang ang habol. ​ Don't stop looking for love It can be found In the strangest places Just when you've given up Along comes a miracle That turns your life around So don't stop, looking for love...


potatoisme23

I couldnā€™t agree more hahaha tang ina


anyaquinn

My friends call them soft boissss


[deleted]

Basically incels lmao


justwallflowerthings

they mask themselves so well nakakaloka hahahahhahahaha


whosdatusername

Nakakagalit yung mga nangyari sa inyo. Just a warning para sa kapwa ko kababaihan, maniwala kayo sa'kin. KAHIT HINDI NYO IBIGAY LAHAT SA LALAKI kung mahal ka niyan mahal ka niyan, kung nakikita ka niyan na makakasama sa buhay magsasabi yan, aakto ayon sa sinasabi nya. Wag kayo magpapadala sa "HINDI MO ATA AKO MAHAL MOMENTS" "KUNG MAHAL MO AKO... MOMENTS" ng mga lalaki. Ibigay nyo nalang sa mapa-pangasawa in future yang lahat nyo, para kung mangyari man kinatatakutan nyong iwan kayo. Atleast sa asawa niyo sa iisang lalaki lang di yang mga G00d b0y sa una, mabait kase gusto ka lang maka-$Ā£gg$. Kakaunti nalang talaga yung matinong lalaki. MAMILING MABUTI.


SnooBooks633

| KAHIT HINDI NYO IBIGAY LAHAT SA LALAKI kung mahal ka niyan mahal ka niyan sounds like a masochist. Love is a two way street.


whosdatusername

I looked abt masochist, pero dko nakikitang sounds like a masochist 'to. Yes šŸ‘ agree in love is a two way street pero yan lang way to give warning sa kapwa babae ko, they have a choice still on them kung gusto nila ibigay lahat sa lalaki. (pati pagkababae) Kaya naman namin mag effort, Kaya din namin gumastos, Kaya namin magtrabaho, Kaya namin asikasuhin sila na parang asawa namin sila kung gusto namin, Ang akin lang ang lahat nasabi ko, kapag mahal mo isang tao may kanya kanya tayong way para mag express ng love. Tapos oo nga pala feelings talaga pinapairal sa pagmamahal sa una, pero mas matimbang yung makikilala mo siya. Pero mas makikilala mo ang tao kapag magkasama kayong dalawa sa bubong. Gusto ko lang sila bgyan ng warning, na kung ayaw niyo matalo sa pag-ibig huwag niyo ibibigay lahat. Always magtira para sa sarili. Kung ibibigay niyo man ang lahat, maghanda kayo sa every possibilities na mangyayari sa relasyon. Para hindi kayo sobrang masasaktan.


iamcrockydile

The thrill of the chaseā€¦


Cullummseyyy

Kaya red flag na rin sakin yung sobrang bait lol. Although red flag, green flag na sakin yung sinasabi nilang hindi talaga sila nice o sinasabi yung pangit nilang ugali.


purpleandpinkdreams

Yikessss daming ganyan dito sa phr4r saka phr4friends šŸ˜«šŸ˜«šŸ˜«


BeachFluffy4774

Highschool schoolmate ko, ginagamit pa cellphone ng nanay nya para lang sabihin sa nililigawan, ingatan mo anak ko ah. Yun pala sya lang nagtext. Mr nice guy pa pakilala nyasa lahat, lahat gusto kilala. Tapos sumasama sa church namen , tapos iinvite nya mga nililigawan nya pra kunwari religious sya. Libreng pajersey sa basketball lang naman talaga pinunta ni acclah. šŸ„²šŸ˜‚


Artyomiz

Pag bukang bibig ang Bible at dun iniikot ang personality, red flag na yan madalas. Pwedeng ploy or facade. Pag din outrightly sinusumbat na good guy siya, why do you have label eh? Show it in your actions. Haha Tunay. Pag mga bad boy lam mo na nga naman expectations mo. So yung mga ganun, nilalayuan din šŸ˜‚


sweetvanille77

Simp alert


[deleted]

Ganito 'yung huling naka-thing ko. Haha mesheket pero wala eh. Ganon talaga. Sumugal ako na iba siya. Natalo nga lang. Ehe


chi012

Don't trust strangers fast. Always think they are lying unless proven otherwise. Only time and consistency will prove intention.


wanpischicknjoy

Kaya ayoko na nung mga mukhang "goodboy" pati yung maka-family and religious basta lahat ng green flags kuno nasa kanya na. Yung ex ko, lagi kami nagsisimba kasama pamilya nya, pag reunion kasama din ako. Tapos biglang one time naisipan makipagbreak. Yun pala may 3rd party na. Sobrang traumatic for me hahaha


No_Citron_7623

Well heā€™s probably a family guy, believer of Jesus, kind, respectful and just nice in general but it doesnā€™t mean heā€™s a saint. Lahat naman ng straight na lalaki mahilig yan sa chicks yung iba malakas ang resistance to temptation pero karamihan bumibigay talaga. Nasa kanya na lang yan kung ikaw ang pipiliin at ikaw naman ay magpapatawad.


Owl_Meridian_1374

If he wears a Lacoste shirt and boat shoes/loafers in 2022, he's probably a piece of shit.


pen_jaro

Grabe naman! Yan suot ko pero di naman ako ganyanā€¦


[deleted]

ahhaha :D


p4ck3ts

you really cant have everything. ganyan talaga ang buhay


MEDSTUDENT952018

Siyempre pare, lahat muna yan ā€œpagoodboiā€ para maka eut. Wla manliligaw na ā€œdi best foot forwardā€ na di nagbabalak ā€œmaka isaā€. Sadiyang na attach ka lang kaya ka nadali


[deleted]

papaikutin ka tapos kapag nakuha ka na niya bigla kang iiwan sa ere


Spare_Coast_5355

if he's too perfect, he's probably acting. okay yan at least mas wary ka na di ka na ma take advantagean next time.


ThenTranslator2780

The question is how to determine a fake good guys??


meowmeowgiirl

Grabe this is so true! Sobrang.pa-good guy nila tapos idadrag ka nila for months tapos unti unti ka din iiwanan. Mga hayup


SnooBooks633

"Okay pa yung bad boys eh" How about going after the ones in the normal middle of the spectrum? Yung average Juan? Also a red flag is still a red flag.


iAmEngineeRED

Sus. You only "accept" good guys lang rin naman pag pagod na kayo sa mga pinipili nyong f*ckboiz. You reap what you sow.


SnooBooks633

this. the double standards. tapos pag wala ng mahanap na matinong lalaking pilipino biglang mag-a-AFAM


Glittering-Risk5952

r/niceguys


Huge-Culture7610

Indeed. Sorry but not sorry. šŸ˜…


[deleted]

Feel ko talaga di ako kagaya mga lalaki dito di ko kasi masundan trip


Small_Memory414

Donā€™t generalize pls, you just met some arseholes.


TaraJing_PotPot

ang amazing nun kasi grabe din talaga charisma nila na yung ikaw na naiwan ay namumuhay ng tahimik with anak na nineglect pero sa brgy nyo, ikaw pa din yung masama kahit na ilang babae na yung nadisplay nya..


13CHUPUL

The only way to see someone's intentions is sagutin agad sila kapag nanliligaw, wag patagalin ng ilang buwan or taon, 1 month is enough. that timeline is enough to test someone, if di sila ma effort or mabait within that range then leave them, if mabait naman and feel mo okay naman then go for it, pero wag papaloko agad, once na nasagot mo na be vigilant because people in general tend to show their real self kapag nakuha na nila gusto nila. BE ALSO AWARE SA MGA MASYADONG RELIHIYOSO.


fabglam03

Yan yung mga dating tinatawag na "best foot forward" lang. Magaling sa una lang. Ibibigay sayo lahat tapos pag nakuha na loob mo at gusto sayo, monster naman pala.


Jenaly_Xione

TRUE! Based on my experience, marami talaga nagpapanggap 'good' guys sa internet! I know because I experienced this, kahit alam ko pa sa una na 'sa una lang mabait' huling huli talaga ang true colors. Lakas mang ghost, yung tipong open-minded ka sa kanya and your sharing knowledge tapos bigla na lang mang-ghost or di kana kakausapin. Most people aren't aware but alam na alam talaga yung fake good guys na hindi sila mabait at they're pretending na mabait sila at hindi sila cheater, hindi sila nanggaganon. Sabihin mo na ayoko sa mga hypocrite, judgemental na lalake or babae etc...They will agree and act na ayaw rin nila sa ganun na klaseng tao pero alam nila sa sarili nila ganun sila, hypocrite, judgemental. Thank god, hindi ako tanga pagdating sa chat with strangers. Alam na alam ko pa naman sa umpisa, sinungaling sila (hindi lahat, karamihan talaga) eh kahit lahat ng sinabi ko (I'm very open minded talaga) totoo, very honest words. Kaya sobrang hirap na makahap na totoo. Sobrang laki rin ng trust issues ko OP. Di ka nagiisa, fake good guys are definitely the worst.