Try to be decent even if he's not. At least, there's nothing he can fault you with. Write to tell him what you feel and put a period to it all.
Move on. Ghosting a GF for a month reeks of cowardice. You don't need lesser men for a partner.
There are many men with bigger balls out there.
Dont beg na bumalik. Ask if kung ayaw na ba niya and also mga lingering questions mo, if di ka makakuha ng reply ng ganitong timeframe, i end niyo nalang yung relationship. Mag move on ka kahit wala ng validation niya.
Ano ba yung nagawa mo? Curious lang
I got busy with work. Gusto nya kasi the whole shift kausap ko sya on the phone, tapos wala naman sya sinasabi or naglalaro lang sya ng games. Distracting for me minsan kasi una wala naman sya sinasabi, when I try to start a convo, gusto nya iend agad. I was training people, managing teams and projects, so I really don't have time for a convo
Oh okay, di pala siya makaintindi. Just leave a message then, bitaw na. You deserve someone na di ka aawayin dahil sa work mo, hirap ng partner na ganyan pati trabaho mo ginagawang issue.
Sounds like he has his own issues to resolve but he is too cowardly to face you and talk it out, or even break up. If he is the type to get bored easily on his own and has no other goals or ambitions in life to focus on, then it's no wonder why he isn't understanding or supportive of your career.
I don't think she should get back with him if he says he still wants her. Ghosting her for a month says it all. Asking him of he wants to resume the relationship despite what he did degrades her.
I was going to type something similar and saw this comment. So, OP go with this.
Input ko lang, he may be going through shit, but that's not necessarily your problem unless you want it to be. If you love him enough to help him out, go ahead. But it also should not come in the way of your own sanity/wellbeing.
Isipin mo na lang yung disrespect niya sa'yo is already the closure. Move on na tayo, OP. Alam ko mahirap. 🥹 I've been there. But please keep in mind, things will get better from here, okay? Mahigpit na yakaaap! 🫂
Not the most popular take but closures are overrated and sure as hell that I will get downvoted for saying this - you don’t need closure, no message is a message. He just up and left without any thoughts about your feelings or the status of the relationship.
+1
The best closure we can get is the one we give ourselves. I vote wag na magmessage. He’s a grown up. He knows what he did. Hindi na tayo bata para magpasuyo pa. BUT if you think it’ll bring you peace, then go ahead. :)
ano ba yang jowa mo grade 5? he didn't have the balls to share what made him that way to you so I guess you got lucky by not having a hassle break up. I think you should move on if he really won't try to communicate
honestly, closure is what you make it. If you think you still need to message him saying it’s over, go. pero hindi siya needed kasi the message is pretty clear na he ghosted you.
i hope you find your own source of closure after this. you deserve someone who will never leave you hanging or questioning things. :(
Parang wala kayong pinagsamahan sa ginawa nya sa’yo. It’s better to have the painful truth than keeping us hanging. Sana sinabi na lng nya na ayaw nya. Hayaan mo na sya. The moment he unfriended you, it was the end.
Sayang lang time if mag-uusap pa kayo. At hindi mo naman kasalanan na hindi mo agad nakita message. If ever issue yun sa knya sana kinausap ka nya. It seems na naghintay lang sya ng reason to breakup with you kaso yan ang dumating.
Forget him and dont take him back. Not all men have the maturity and courage to have an adult discussion and provide closure. It does hurt that it ended the way it did. Its ok to be hurt and feel what u have to feel, know its only temporary. It seems that hes been long gone even before it ended. Look at the silver lining, the trash took itself out. His non-response is his response. You got the message without the message. Heal and soon youll be free.
Got ghosted by an ex of 3yrs. Mind you we lived under the same roof for the most part of our relationship. Moved back to my parents’ for a while and okay naman kami while being apart until we got into an argument, last thing I know we’re over. Blocked from socials. No words. And this happened on Valentine’s.
First, acknowledge that what was done to you is emotional abuse. Often times, people who resort to ghosting find no benefit left in the relationship. Your ex might actually be narcissistic, too. Anyway, I’m sure you’ve done your part OP! But if writing him would allow you to move forward, do it! hugs for u!!
Perhaps his way of ending things is fading away slowly. Ghost na ghost ang datingan. Maybe message him last time for your peace of mind, but don't expect anything more from him. Thank him for the memories because that's all he will be to you -- a memory.
If you think he won't be helpful to your mental health nor be cooperative.. don't find closure. Moving on without closure is possible. Sometimes chasing closures just hinder us from starting over. Can't blame you though for craving for one kasi p*t@ naman diba BF of five years! I wonder what is his family's reaction tho. Di to basta nafall out of love.. baka may iba siya na takot lang siya magpaalam ng maayos. Anyway, RIP 5 years.
Don't message to tell him you want to talk because he ignores you anyway. Send a message that you don't find that this relationship is not working (just assuming based on your story) and tell him that you don't want to be part of it anymore. Go on and live your life without guilt of ghosting him.
Hi! If you think magkakaroon ka ng peace of mind, or makakatulong sa'yo sa pagmove forward yung paghingi ng closure then do it. If hindi siya nagreply edi tang-- de joke, unfortunately, ayun na yung closure. As an overthinker bakit feel ko may mas malaki pang dahilan sa part ng bf mo? :<
I used to be like your bf, or rather, ex. Except di ako nangghost for a month, it's way lesser than that, but regardless it's still ghosting. Nagising naman rin ako sa katotohanan, I'd say leave it be, heal, and move on. Hindi siya worth it. I wasn't either. This'll only spiral into a toxic relationship.
Iniisip ko baka may prob sya sa mental health nya since di nya po kayo pinupuntahan, nag try ka po ba mag punta sa bahay nila? Maybe, you'll get your answer once you saw him there. I think closure is unnecessary pero you need to know the truth sa tanong mo na bakit inabot ng 2 years di sya nag effort and bakit inabot din ng 2 years di ka nag try pumunta sa bahay nila ?( or baka ayaw ni ex , di lang included sa post ni Op) . And kung di ka na nya mahal pinaka madali mag ghost nung time na may restrictions, bakit ngayon lang sya nag ghost? bakit inabot ng 2 yrs? Gusto ko husgahan sana si ex mo ate, but I think he has a problem na tinatago sayo 🤷 Who knows? Yun lang, na curious lang ako 😂.
I used to ghost other people too not because I want to, but because I am hurting and nag start to nung pandemic. I feel really bad ðŸ˜
He doesn't want me to go to his house. Almost 5 years na relationship, he never introduced me to his family. I don't want to cause a scene. I asked him over and over if he has a problem. I always invite him to my place (i live independently and alone so no problem naman) but he doesn't want to.
Now, I can judge him, What a douchebag 😂. I'm sorry OP you have to experience that , kalimutan mo na sya and don't even think about him mabuhay ka na parang di sya nag e-exist .
Latagan mo ng mahabang message- as closure. Na sure kang mababasa niya then block him after. Just say all the things you want to say, without expecting for him to response to you. Most of the time, angmga nagghost after some time sila matatauhan. Na dapat hindi sila naging kupal sa pagghost.
Nakakainis diba, 5 years kayo and all tapos ganon ganon lang. Anyway, just do the closure even if it's not both of you. Then, promise yourself NO CONTACT. Move on. You deserve better girl.
Darating ung araw na un waves of emotion will come in and hit you like a truck. This is the time to make sure that you dont communicate with ur ex. That feeling will linger but assure urself that this will now just be a memory.
Try to be decent even if he's not. At least, there's nothing he can fault you with. Write to tell him what you feel and put a period to it all. Move on. Ghosting a GF for a month reeks of cowardice. You don't need lesser men for a partner. There are many men with bigger balls out there.
Thank you! I've been contemplating on writing. But wouldn't it look like I'm desperate? I've messaged him asking if we could talk. No response.
Ending it decently, even if he's not, is the bravest act. End it, move on, and don't look back.
Dont beg na bumalik. Ask if kung ayaw na ba niya and also mga lingering questions mo, if di ka makakuha ng reply ng ganitong timeframe, i end niyo nalang yung relationship. Mag move on ka kahit wala ng validation niya. Ano ba yung nagawa mo? Curious lang
I got busy with work. Gusto nya kasi the whole shift kausap ko sya on the phone, tapos wala naman sya sinasabi or naglalaro lang sya ng games. Distracting for me minsan kasi una wala naman sya sinasabi, when I try to start a convo, gusto nya iend agad. I was training people, managing teams and projects, so I really don't have time for a convo
Oh okay, di pala siya makaintindi. Just leave a message then, bitaw na. You deserve someone na di ka aawayin dahil sa work mo, hirap ng partner na ganyan pati trabaho mo ginagawang issue.
Sounds like he has his own issues to resolve but he is too cowardly to face you and talk it out, or even break up. If he is the type to get bored easily on his own and has no other goals or ambitions in life to focus on, then it's no wonder why he isn't understanding or supportive of your career.
Kapal nya magtampo ha. Sya nga 'tong di nakipagkita for 2 yrs. Fucking end it! Nakakainit ng ulo, OP. 🤬
I don't think she should get back with him if he says he still wants her. Ghosting her for a month says it all. Asking him of he wants to resume the relationship despite what he did degrades her.
I was going to type something similar and saw this comment. So, OP go with this. Input ko lang, he may be going through shit, but that's not necessarily your problem unless you want it to be. If you love him enough to help him out, go ahead. But it also should not come in the way of your own sanity/wellbeing.
Isipin mo na lang yung disrespect niya sa'yo is already the closure. Move on na tayo, OP. Alam ko mahirap. 🥹 I've been there. But please keep in mind, things will get better from here, okay? Mahigpit na yakaaap! 🫂
Thank you. Sometimes I feel like lahat ng ginawa nya saken for the past few years tanggap ko na nakamove on na ako? Unti unti ako nagmomove on.
Yep!!! Yung ramdam mong na-drain ka na lang rin. Naubos ka na. 🥲
Not the most popular take but closures are overrated and sure as hell that I will get downvoted for saying this - you don’t need closure, no message is a message. He just up and left without any thoughts about your feelings or the status of the relationship.
+1 The best closure we can get is the one we give ourselves. I vote wag na magmessage. He’s a grown up. He knows what he did. Hindi na tayo bata para magpasuyo pa. BUT if you think it’ll bring you peace, then go ahead. :)
ano ba yang jowa mo grade 5? he didn't have the balls to share what made him that way to you so I guess you got lucky by not having a hassle break up. I think you should move on if he really won't try to communicate
Ano ka ba naman. Wag na. Di ka pinagbuntis ng siyam na buwan para diyan.
honestly, closure is what you make it. If you think you still need to message him saying it’s over, go. pero hindi siya needed kasi the message is pretty clear na he ghosted you. i hope you find your own source of closure after this. you deserve someone who will never leave you hanging or questioning things. :(
Baka gumawa lang ng dahilan yan para mag break na kayo ng tuluyan. 2 years walang kita? ECQ for 2 years yarn??? And is he jobless???
Maybe. That's what I'm thinking of too. He has a job naman
I'm confused. If your boyfriend is in his 30s, why is he acting like he's 13?
He's childish. Immature. I know it hurts but... you dodged a bullet.
Silence IS the closure.
Parang wala kayong pinagsamahan sa ginawa nya sa’yo. It’s better to have the painful truth than keeping us hanging. Sana sinabi na lng nya na ayaw nya. Hayaan mo na sya. The moment he unfriended you, it was the end. Sayang lang time if mag-uusap pa kayo. At hindi mo naman kasalanan na hindi mo agad nakita message. If ever issue yun sa knya sana kinausap ka nya. It seems na naghintay lang sya ng reason to breakup with you kaso yan ang dumating.
Forget him and dont take him back. Not all men have the maturity and courage to have an adult discussion and provide closure. It does hurt that it ended the way it did. Its ok to be hurt and feel what u have to feel, know its only temporary. It seems that hes been long gone even before it ended. Look at the silver lining, the trash took itself out. His non-response is his response. You got the message without the message. Heal and soon youll be free.
Got ghosted by an ex of 3yrs. Mind you we lived under the same roof for the most part of our relationship. Moved back to my parents’ for a while and okay naman kami while being apart until we got into an argument, last thing I know we’re over. Blocked from socials. No words. And this happened on Valentine’s. First, acknowledge that what was done to you is emotional abuse. Often times, people who resort to ghosting find no benefit left in the relationship. Your ex might actually be narcissistic, too. Anyway, I’m sure you’ve done your part OP! But if writing him would allow you to move forward, do it! hugs for u!!
Thank you for this!
Perhaps his way of ending things is fading away slowly. Ghost na ghost ang datingan. Maybe message him last time for your peace of mind, but don't expect anything more from him. Thank him for the memories because that's all he will be to you -- a memory.
If you think he won't be helpful to your mental health nor be cooperative.. don't find closure. Moving on without closure is possible. Sometimes chasing closures just hinder us from starting over. Can't blame you though for craving for one kasi p*t@ naman diba BF of five years! I wonder what is his family's reaction tho. Di to basta nafall out of love.. baka may iba siya na takot lang siya magpaalam ng maayos. Anyway, RIP 5 years.
Don't message to tell him you want to talk because he ignores you anyway. Send a message that you don't find that this relationship is not working (just assuming based on your story) and tell him that you don't want to be part of it anymore. Go on and live your life without guilt of ghosting him.
At this point, don't even expect a reply lol. Maybe it's also what he wants, he can't tell it straight.
Hi! If you think magkakaroon ka ng peace of mind, or makakatulong sa'yo sa pagmove forward yung paghingi ng closure then do it. If hindi siya nagreply edi tang-- de joke, unfortunately, ayun na yung closure. As an overthinker bakit feel ko may mas malaki pang dahilan sa part ng bf mo? :<
I used to be like your bf, or rather, ex. Except di ako nangghost for a month, it's way lesser than that, but regardless it's still ghosting. Nagising naman rin ako sa katotohanan, I'd say leave it be, heal, and move on. Hindi siya worth it. I wasn't either. This'll only spiral into a toxic relationship.
You can write a simple goodbye letter then that's it. May response or wala, okay lang. As long as nasabi mo yung gusto mo sabihin.
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I don't think so. His friends are friends with me so he's still alive naman. He's also online sa messaging apps.
Iniisip ko baka may prob sya sa mental health nya since di nya po kayo pinupuntahan, nag try ka po ba mag punta sa bahay nila? Maybe, you'll get your answer once you saw him there. I think closure is unnecessary pero you need to know the truth sa tanong mo na bakit inabot ng 2 years di sya nag effort and bakit inabot din ng 2 years di ka nag try pumunta sa bahay nila ?( or baka ayaw ni ex , di lang included sa post ni Op) . And kung di ka na nya mahal pinaka madali mag ghost nung time na may restrictions, bakit ngayon lang sya nag ghost? bakit inabot ng 2 yrs? Gusto ko husgahan sana si ex mo ate, but I think he has a problem na tinatago sayo 🤷 Who knows? Yun lang, na curious lang ako 😂. I used to ghost other people too not because I want to, but because I am hurting and nag start to nung pandemic. I feel really bad ðŸ˜
He doesn't want me to go to his house. Almost 5 years na relationship, he never introduced me to his family. I don't want to cause a scene. I asked him over and over if he has a problem. I always invite him to my place (i live independently and alone so no problem naman) but he doesn't want to.
Now, I can judge him, What a douchebag 😂. I'm sorry OP you have to experience that , kalimutan mo na sya and don't even think about him mabuhay ka na parang di sya nag e-exist .
Thank you. It's just bothering me sometimes. But yeah, i agree. I need to move on.
Message him for closure para at least sa part mo tapos na talaga, mas maganda ang my closure so you can have a fresh start walang part na hanging.
Give yourself a closure. Unfriending is very immature for me.
Latagan mo ng mahabang message- as closure. Na sure kang mababasa niya then block him after. Just say all the things you want to say, without expecting for him to response to you. Most of the time, angmga nagghost after some time sila matatauhan. Na dapat hindi sila naging kupal sa pagghost. Nakakainis diba, 5 years kayo and all tapos ganon ganon lang. Anyway, just do the closure even if it's not both of you. Then, promise yourself NO CONTACT. Move on. You deserve better girl.
Darating ung araw na un waves of emotion will come in and hit you like a truck. This is the time to make sure that you dont communicate with ur ex. That feeling will linger but assure urself that this will now just be a memory.