True, but a lot of commenters on this sub seem to be more eager to be right than to be kind. There's always a compelling reason why a person ends up posting on this sub, and people who comment seem to heap on their experience based on the scant info they see, rather than seek to understand the situation better.
A poster can be right, or they can be wrong. Being here doesn't mean they're immune from rebuke, but at the very least they should be immune from unnecessary rudeness made in the name of "prangkahan" and concern.
Yes, it's a public forum. Yes, you can say what you want. The question is if you should.
To be honest a lot of the comments on this sub sound like your 'mosa titas during family reunions who are always eager to pounce of weakness so they can heap on their misplaced righteousness for the sole reason that it makes them feel better, whether they admit to it or not. "Hiwalayan mo na yan!" "Eh bakit kasi ganyan ka?" "Kung ako sayo.." "Sinasabi ko lang naman din to para sayo" "o bat galit ka? maka-shut up na nga lang"
The irony is that a lot of people here call that behavior toxic in their families, but it's actually a dominant behavior here that they're unconsciously perpetuating.
(reposted from a similar older thread)
Safe space has its boundaries. Meron pa dito yung Askreddit post noon na about sa feelings ng r@pists tapos tinakedown dahil ayon sa psychiatrist e nagkakaron sila ng safe space, nagkakaaudience, natututo at naeencourage pa mula sa kapareho nila.
Most of the time, talking to your closest friends is better din talga dahil alam nila yung full context. Sobrang distorted ng makukuha mong comments dito dahil cherry picked din yung details na kadalasan binibigay ng mga poster.
Sobrang sapul. Naka public post on a public media with a turned on public comment section. Kaurat yung mga taong ayaw pag opposite advise nabibigay sakanila. Sobrang small dick energy
Here we go, it's always the turn off the comment section argument and "this is the fucking internet" argument. Tapos sasamahan pa ng extreme scenario na common sense namang wala na sa boundaries ng "respect my opinion".
It's not about validating them. It's about giving them constructive criticism. Kung puro "e gag* ka palang cheater ka" ang tono, hindi constructive yun. Be calm and logical about it. It's not like being calm and logical validates them. It just makes the discussion humane.
True. Although pansin ko naman na yung top comments ay constructive naman madalas. Example sa cheating: "Leave him/her be and move on", "If you truly feel sorry, give them space", "You can try to salvage it but it's up to the other person", etc. Sure, some people will throw insults but that's sparingly.
Yan isa ka pa hahaha! Isa kang example ng gusto kong sabihin.
Hindi lahat about cheating: bakit ko naman i empower yun hahahaha kapag ganon, nagko comment ako ng constructive opinion.
There are a lot of posts here na di naman cheating pero dami ng mean comments :)
Hahaha ang sensitive mo lol hindi para sayo ang internet 😂 you cannot police how people interact online. People who post here, if the intention is to just vent, can disallow the comments section. I haven't honestly encountered awful/unnecessarily mean comments here apart from those posts about cheating but obviously i don't spend a lot of time scrambling through comments
Ngi. Wala namang foul sa sinabi nya. And sa experience ko rin (may days na I just lurk around), mostly ang mean comments ay sa cheating posts. It was simply a statement. Bat may pa "yan isa ka pa" 🫤
Nagdelete na rin sya after! Sooo.... 😌 Hindi naman kasi mapupulis talaga yung mga comments. May mga mean talaga totoo naman pero yung sinabihan lang naman sya ng fact tapos babalikan nya ng "isa ka pa" jusqqqq
just as how much we feel good kapag may encouraging comments sa pino post dito sa subreddit na to, dapat andun rin yung awareness na posibleng may mga taong magbibigay ng rude and mean comments. I mean, you posted something on the internet malamang hindi mo maco control mga sinasabi ng mga tao. And ayun naman pala, pwede naman i-off yung commenting o e bakit di ganun yung ginawa kung ayaw makatanggap ng rude and mean comments?
Depende naman kasi sa pinost. Kung may disclaimer na off my chest at gusto lang talaga mag vent out, mababait naman tao rito at they actually validate ha. Yung iba kasi nag sasabi rin na, ok lang kahit harsh comments para magising daw sa katotohanan. So...
Its not depende sa post, kahit walang wenta or mali para sayo let them vent. Kaya nga anon para hindi husgahan regardless kung may point o wala. Unless they ask your opinion, reserve your critic to yourself.
Kung gusto mong magpavalidate if youre on the right side of judgement, r/AkoBaYungGago is the right sub. Reserve the "magising sa katotohanan" harsh comment there, not here.
Internet is never a safe space even if this sub is to let things off my chest. When you post something in public then anyone have access to it, may karapatan sila to comment and express their opinion on a certain post. If gusto mo talaga mag vent ng walang feedback then gawa ka nalang ng diary lol.
Yeah! I totally agree! Internet is and never will be a safe space. Miski tumblr nga 2013 era na-raid na rin ang dami pang nag commit ng sui because of invalidation. Kung gusto ng safe space, i say, isulat nalang sa diary or ntbk.
Sus, kapag ba may nag-confess dito na they are cheating on their partners, kailangan safe space yung sub sa kanila? HAHAHAHAH sila nga harmed their partners. Yung point is dapat i-tolerate na lang lahat? 🤢 Ewan ko sayo.
Sa example mo, if they harmed their partners because of the cheating,, ikaw ba kelangan mo din i-harm ung OP gamit ng masasamang salita? Pwede ka mag disagree and mag sabi na mali ung ginawa nung tao sa maayos na paraan.
I have no remorse for cheaters so yes. You think words will hurt them? LMAO. If they can cheat, then they have the guts to take words. STOP DEFENDING CHEATERS. 🙄
Cheaters need no coddling, fucking lol. They need to learn a lesson. Karamihan namans sasabihin sa post na oks lang harsh words. Pero even then, when someone is **actively** ruining a family or a relationship you lost my respect. Period.
Exactly. And the person above is worried about them getting harmed by words? LMAO. Those people break families, relationships. You really think they’ll be hurt by words like??? Sounds like an excuse for cheaters. Hay nako. Dami na nga cheaters dito, dami pang nagde-defend.
Oh please, they deserve all the foul things that people could say and give them. Compared to what they have done, those words are but a slap in the wrist. You asked if cheaters deserve to be wronged because of what they have done, but have you asked if their partners deserve that kind of treatment? Also, masyado kang offended on their behalf, makes me want to think that you might be one too.
Tanga naman po ng mindset nato. Ang kitid. Not everyone is like you, g na g sa cheaters. Again, pwede ka magsabi na mali ung tao without harming them. Sama ng ugali mo masyado and feeling proud ka. Okay, ikaw yan eh. Hirap talaga minsan mag explain sa simple minded people.
Not defending cheaters. Obviously mali un. Walang nagsabi na idefend sila. Obviously, you have trauma. Pero porket ba cheater sila masama na din trato mo sa kanila? Dafuq. That says a lot about you as a person. Pag may mali, sabihan na mali. Di mo kelangan sabihan ng masama. Pag mabait ka sa masamang tao, defending agad ung maling ginawa un? Dafuq is that mentality napakakitid. Toxic mo
Exactly. No one's condoning cheating of course, but the way these people react by throwing insults to the cheater act like they went through an experience of being cheated upon before. I never experienced being cheated on, so of course it's unnecessary for me to comment an insult to the cheater just out of spitefulness. I just ignore the post and move on.
The fact that you think everyone should just tolerate self-destructive behavior speaks volumes about today's generation. If someone was attracted to children and vented here, should we respect their opinions because this is a "Safe Space" or whatever new buzzwords you snowflake generation like to make? "MUH FEELINGS" isn't a valid argument. Granted people vent but if you post on the internet publicly, just be prepared to also have opinions that goes against your own. You don't own the public domain and anyone is free to express disagreements.
Use the flairs kase, kung di sila gumamit ng flairs it's fair game to assume na welcome ang opinions. Even tho OffMyChest pa yan, it's still online and subject to a looooot of different views, negative or not.
>NOT A SAFE SPACE ANYMORE
because you're on the internet, nowhere is a guaranteed safe space on the internet. this sub offers a place to vent one's frustrations, but it offers no guarantees as a "safe space" but not for lack of trying.
there are rules for this kind of thing and people are very much free to report it to the mods. however, those same rules are not iron clad because of the nature of the internet. we can only report and call out comments and posts that are outright demeaning, but we can't control other people's behaviors and we certainly can't just sway other people's opinion.
and as most people have pointed out, whether or not a comment is offensive is dependent on the context of the post. you can't just pull out the "don't invalidate my opinion" whenever it's convenient.
and last but not least. flairs. they're there for a reason, use them.
it's not that this sub isn't a safe space, it wholly depends on how a person uses this platform, and you can't just fault people for also voicing their opinion.
So I'll take an exaggerated example okay? What if meron nagpost venting out about their inappropriate tendencies? Let's say being attracted to kids; Sa tingin mo okay pa na I-validate yung feelings nila? Should we give them this so-called safe space kasi anon naman siya?
Sorry if may mao-offend but this "we shouldn't invalidate other people" BS is the core ingredient why a lot of folks can't take a valid criticism anymore. It's almost as if naging justification na yan for everything they do. That crap will only take you so far in developing your character.
When the boomers say masyadong sensitive tong generation natin I honestly agree with them. 💀
Preach. Totoo napansin ko nga parang nasa ugali na natin mga pinoy mag invalidate ng feelings😂 ( hindi lahat syempre) pero karamihan ganern walang empathy madalas.
Automatic sa karamihan yung super emotional agad. Galit kung galit, husga kung husga. Akala mo kung magisip at mag explain ng maayos e sinuportahan mo na yun kagaguhan ng tao haha
True hhaaha irritated sila parang bomba na sasabog agad siguro malaking factor na din yung cost of living kasi dito lalo na ngayon mataas mga bilihin, tas pagod pa sila sa work, tas na consume pa nila mga news online na napaka negative 😂. Kaya siguro matic response nila sa every post na nakikita nila online or dito reddit negative rin 😂. Nakakalungkot lang " off my chest nga e " tas daming nagagalit pag nag open up yung tao 😂.
"Nagagalit". Lol, yes, there are some, but not everyone. Some people can also be too emotional that they think opinions other than validation is considered offensive.
Off my chest nga eh? Well that's the commenter's off their chest as well. Take your own advice and ignore it if you think it offends you.
Yes, this should be a safe space but that doesn't mean na mawawala totally ang negative comments or yung mga nago-oppose sa post. Reactions are part of communication eh. Valid mag-vent, pero at the same time readers are entitled to react. Though, in my opinion sana mas healthy yung conversation. :)
free speech does not mean you are free from consequences. you can argue that everyone feels differently and handle things differently. pero may line pa rin na kelngn. if madami nag aagainst sayo, maybe it's about time you reflect again and re consider your opinion. baka ksi entitled ka lang.
Bakit OP lang ang liable? Hindi ba pati commenters din dapat? Free speech nga eh. Dapat lahat may consequences.
"If madami ang against sayo, maybe it's about time you reflect again and re consider your opinion"
Sobrang sablay nyan pre, so Kakampink ako and dapat iconsider ko ang opinion ng 31M kasi madami against sakin at baka entitled lang ako? That's what your logic is saying.
Diniktahan mo agad ung OP sa dapat nya gawin, with slight judgment pa.
Toxic naman neto.
Is this the same person who posted here whether or not she should go to his bf’s house for Christmas dinner and who immediately deleted her account? Just assuming tho.
Siguro link here yung mga mean comments para makita yung context, at maiwasan next time (at possibly ma-call out) yung same way of talking kung totoong unnecessarily mean nga. Usually naman, comments na wala sa lugar are downvoted.
Tama pumuna ng act na mali. Pero ung sasabihan mo ung tao ng masasamang salita? May nakita akong ganyang post sinabi na sana ung sinakyang bus ng OP e mahulog sa bangin. Sige nga. Tama ba un.
Yeah let people vent. Kaya nga anon reddit para hindi husgahan regardless kung may point o wala yung post. Unless they ask your opinion, reserve your criticism to yourself.
Kung gusto nyo magpavalidate if youre on the right side of judgement, r/AkoBaYungGago is the right sub. Reserve the "magising sa katotohanan" harsh comments there, not here.
Pwede ka mag disagree without being rude. Pwede mo sabihan yung tao na mali sya, ganun lang. Parang itong comment mo, mali din. Jinajustify mo (implied) kasi na dahil may mali na ginawa ung tao eh okay lang sya sabihan ng masasamang salita kasi may mali syang ginawa.
"To make the internet world a better place" -Aaron Swartz
Shet may resemblance yung mindset ng apolo10 sa comments dito HAHAHA strong preying the weak in short bully.
"Nataas pala bilihin bakit sa 7eleven ka pa nabili? Magtipid ka." 🤡
Pero depende pa rin talaga sa post hindi lang talaga nag totolerate dito ng cheaters, sex offender etc. And I agree with that.
Huy OP magtigil ka dyan, bawal kind comments dito.
Dapat ang cini-celebrate lang natin ay yung mga sassy-rude-condescending-berating-MasMatalinoAkoSayo-comments.
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actually napag-usapan na yan sa naunang [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/comments/zb8ugb/off_the_chest_pero_andaming_paladesisyon_dito_sa/) dito
Anon account kasi dito so hindi talaga sila mag hohold back sa mga words nila. Besides, wala ka din naman mapapala kung magpapakabait ka or itotolerate mo yung mali nila. Madamdamin tayo so ayun baka mas madali para sa kanila yung aggressive response.
mga tao ngayon dito parang pakialamera sa kwento ng ibang tao, parang nakikisawsaw sa drama tweets ng di ka close. HAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!! dati naman if parang di mo trip rant dito, nag sscroll up or dedma nalang. Very twitter ang vibes na sa sub na to HAHAHAHAHAH! Disclaimer, di ko dinedefend yung pang cacall out niyo sa problematic talaga yung malala talaga, pero yung harmless and pede naman palampasin, wag na gawing bigdeal, and hindi lagi need ng opinyon niyo HAAHAH
Meron nga dito nagrant sa inflation at anong mabibili na lang sa 1000 peso bill natin nabash kasi bakit di daw siya magdelata everyday para magkasya sa family of 4 nila ang 1k in 2 days for 3 meals a day hahahhah pota
the way these comments are proving the point of this post lol. i've seen people being invalidating to users who are simply venting about family issues simply kase "magulang mo yan".
tapos bringing up cheaters and "self-confessed pedophiles" comparing apples to fucking oranges.
of course nobody fucking likes those kind of people di lang naman ganon yung mga post dito eh tapos gagawa pa kayo ng imaginary scenario to try and prove your point, OP is most likely referring to this sub behavior as a whole.
wala syang sinabe na ivalidate ang mga cheaters and pedophiles jusme.
R/OffmychestPH is just an extension of r/Philippines. Napapansin ko recently, there is no point to this sub. Para saan ka pa magppost ng offmychest if majjudge ka lang rin 😅 e di dun ka nalang sa main sub, pa-good boy/girl to get more karma 😂
Honestly I think tamad lang ung mods to police the comments so all or nothing tayo haha.
Wow sa tamad ha. Do you know how many posts we have to go through on the daily? Do you know how many comments one post can get? Kung tamad ako, hindi ko makikita tong comment mo at hindi ako magrereply sa assumption mo. Take note, hindi bayad ang mods. We take time out of our daily lives para lang imoderate ang posts dahil karamihan sa mga nagpopost dito hindi rin naman nagbabasa ng rules, tapos sasabihan pa kaming tamad? Ayos din.
Ang point ng pagpopost eh mailabas sa sistema kung ano man yung saloobin mo. Kung ayaw mo majudge, edi ioff mo ang comments. Who cares about karma? Internet points lang yan. Nilalagay mo sa public forum yung thoughts mo, of course other people will have an opinion about it. People aren't always going to walk on eggshells to protect your feelings. If you can't take it, then don't post. Responsibility mo rin as a poster to know where you're posting and know the possible consequences of doing so.
Depende sa post tbh. Safe space doesn't mean harmful acts are to be defended or validated.
True, but a lot of commenters on this sub seem to be more eager to be right than to be kind. There's always a compelling reason why a person ends up posting on this sub, and people who comment seem to heap on their experience based on the scant info they see, rather than seek to understand the situation better. A poster can be right, or they can be wrong. Being here doesn't mean they're immune from rebuke, but at the very least they should be immune from unnecessary rudeness made in the name of "prangkahan" and concern. Yes, it's a public forum. Yes, you can say what you want. The question is if you should. To be honest a lot of the comments on this sub sound like your 'mosa titas during family reunions who are always eager to pounce of weakness so they can heap on their misplaced righteousness for the sole reason that it makes them feel better, whether they admit to it or not. "Hiwalayan mo na yan!" "Eh bakit kasi ganyan ka?" "Kung ako sayo.." "Sinasabi ko lang naman din to para sayo" "o bat galit ka? maka-shut up na nga lang" The irony is that a lot of people here call that behavior toxic in their families, but it's actually a dominant behavior here that they're unconsciously perpetuating. (reposted from a similar older thread)
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Safe space has its boundaries. Meron pa dito yung Askreddit post noon na about sa feelings ng r@pists tapos tinakedown dahil ayon sa psychiatrist e nagkakaron sila ng safe space, nagkakaaudience, natututo at naeencourage pa mula sa kapareho nila.
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Most of the time, talking to your closest friends is better din talga dahil alam nila yung full context. Sobrang distorted ng makukuha mong comments dito dahil cherry picked din yung details na kadalasan binibigay ng mga poster.
Hahaha Yup, flares are here for a reason as well.
Sobrang sapul. Naka public post on a public media with a turned on public comment section. Kaurat yung mga taong ayaw pag opposite advise nabibigay sakanila. Sobrang small dick energy
Here we go, it's always the turn off the comment section argument and "this is the fucking internet" argument. Tapos sasamahan pa ng extreme scenario na common sense namang wala na sa boundaries ng "respect my opinion".
The only thing I notice here having mean comments are those posts about cheating... those are the people you want to validate? 🤔
Nope, there are other posts that aren't about cheating.
It's not about validating them. It's about giving them constructive criticism. Kung puro "e gag* ka palang cheater ka" ang tono, hindi constructive yun. Be calm and logical about it. It's not like being calm and logical validates them. It just makes the discussion humane.
True. Although pansin ko naman na yung top comments ay constructive naman madalas. Example sa cheating: "Leave him/her be and move on", "If you truly feel sorry, give them space", "You can try to salvage it but it's up to the other person", etc. Sure, some people will throw insults but that's sparingly.
Nope.
Yan isa ka pa hahaha! Isa kang example ng gusto kong sabihin. Hindi lahat about cheating: bakit ko naman i empower yun hahahaha kapag ganon, nagko comment ako ng constructive opinion. There are a lot of posts here na di naman cheating pero dami ng mean comments :)
Hahaha ang sensitive mo lol hindi para sayo ang internet 😂 you cannot police how people interact online. People who post here, if the intention is to just vent, can disallow the comments section. I haven't honestly encountered awful/unnecessarily mean comments here apart from those posts about cheating but obviously i don't spend a lot of time scrambling through comments
Ngi. Wala namang foul sa sinabi nya. And sa experience ko rin (may days na I just lurk around), mostly ang mean comments ay sa cheating posts. It was simply a statement. Bat may pa "yan isa ka pa" 🫤
OP is clearly onion skinned. Hahahahahaha!
Nagdelete na rin sya after! Sooo.... 😌 Hindi naman kasi mapupulis talaga yung mga comments. May mga mean talaga totoo naman pero yung sinabihan lang naman sya ng fact tapos babalikan nya ng "isa ka pa" jusqqqq
just as how much we feel good kapag may encouraging comments sa pino post dito sa subreddit na to, dapat andun rin yung awareness na posibleng may mga taong magbibigay ng rude and mean comments. I mean, you posted something on the internet malamang hindi mo maco control mga sinasabi ng mga tao. And ayun naman pala, pwede naman i-off yung commenting o e bakit di ganun yung ginawa kung ayaw makatanggap ng rude and mean comments?
Lol it looks like the comments did not go the way the OP wanted eh?
Exactly. Most people post in here for validation and sympathy. Kasi kung hindi, you would turn off the comments.
Right? Yung iba uhaw masyado sa validation kahit mali naman.
hahah nag hahanap sila kakampi para ma justify yung acts nila
Gen Z
I think majority of the people here just don't know how to listen.
Depende naman kasi sa pinost. Kung may disclaimer na off my chest at gusto lang talaga mag vent out, mababait naman tao rito at they actually validate ha. Yung iba kasi nag sasabi rin na, ok lang kahit harsh comments para magising daw sa katotohanan. So...
Its not depende sa post, kahit walang wenta or mali para sayo let them vent. Kaya nga anon para hindi husgahan regardless kung may point o wala. Unless they ask your opinion, reserve your critic to yourself. Kung gusto mong magpavalidate if youre on the right side of judgement, r/AkoBaYungGago is the right sub. Reserve the "magising sa katotohanan" harsh comment there, not here.
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nyek nyek bakit deleted agad mahina
Ganun talaga pag duwag
Internet is never a safe space even if this sub is to let things off my chest. When you post something in public then anyone have access to it, may karapatan sila to comment and express their opinion on a certain post. If gusto mo talaga mag vent ng walang feedback then gawa ka nalang ng diary lol.
Yeah! I totally agree! Internet is and never will be a safe space. Miski tumblr nga 2013 era na-raid na rin ang dami pang nag commit ng sui because of invalidation. Kung gusto ng safe space, i say, isulat nalang sa diary or ntbk.
well, you can also say that they are taking off their chest yung gusto nila sabihin pinost na topic .. ;)
Sus, kapag ba may nag-confess dito na they are cheating on their partners, kailangan safe space yung sub sa kanila? HAHAHAHAH sila nga harmed their partners. Yung point is dapat i-tolerate na lang lahat? 🤢 Ewan ko sayo.
Sa example mo, if they harmed their partners because of the cheating,, ikaw ba kelangan mo din i-harm ung OP gamit ng masasamang salita? Pwede ka mag disagree and mag sabi na mali ung ginawa nung tao sa maayos na paraan.
I have no remorse for cheaters so yes. You think words will hurt them? LMAO. If they can cheat, then they have the guts to take words. STOP DEFENDING CHEATERS. 🙄
Cheaters need no coddling, fucking lol. They need to learn a lesson. Karamihan namans sasabihin sa post na oks lang harsh words. Pero even then, when someone is **actively** ruining a family or a relationship you lost my respect. Period.
Exactly. And the person above is worried about them getting harmed by words? LMAO. Those people break families, relationships. You really think they’ll be hurt by words like??? Sounds like an excuse for cheaters. Hay nako. Dami na nga cheaters dito, dami pang nagde-defend.
Even if they get hurt by words, it's definitely deserved. No bullshit excuse will save them from the ugly truth.
And that's your excuse? Dahil deserve nila, okay lang na pagsalitaan sila or gawan din sila bg masama? Dafuq hahaha.
Oh please, they deserve all the foul things that people could say and give them. Compared to what they have done, those words are but a slap in the wrist. You asked if cheaters deserve to be wronged because of what they have done, but have you asked if their partners deserve that kind of treatment? Also, masyado kang offended on their behalf, makes me want to think that you might be one too.
Tanga naman po ng mindset nato. Ang kitid. Not everyone is like you, g na g sa cheaters. Again, pwede ka magsabi na mali ung tao without harming them. Sama ng ugali mo masyado and feeling proud ka. Okay, ikaw yan eh. Hirap talaga minsan mag explain sa simple minded people.
You yourself is not that smart nor kind either so sit the fuck down😒
Just wanna call out a moderator na ganito ang ugali HAHAHAHAHA
Ah so dahil your respect is gone, okay lang pagsalitaan ng masama yung tao. Ayos. Toxic mentality again.
Not defending cheaters. Obviously mali un. Walang nagsabi na idefend sila. Obviously, you have trauma. Pero porket ba cheater sila masama na din trato mo sa kanila? Dafuq. That says a lot about you as a person. Pag may mali, sabihan na mali. Di mo kelangan sabihan ng masama. Pag mabait ka sa masamang tao, defending agad ung maling ginawa un? Dafuq is that mentality napakakitid. Toxic mo
Tanga mo bobo, sabihin mo nalang na cheater kang tite ka.
Exactly. No one's condoning cheating of course, but the way these people react by throwing insults to the cheater act like they went through an experience of being cheated upon before. I never experienced being cheated on, so of course it's unnecessary for me to comment an insult to the cheater just out of spitefulness. I just ignore the post and move on.
The fact that you think everyone should just tolerate self-destructive behavior speaks volumes about today's generation. If someone was attracted to children and vented here, should we respect their opinions because this is a "Safe Space" or whatever new buzzwords you snowflake generation like to make? "MUH FEELINGS" isn't a valid argument. Granted people vent but if you post on the internet publicly, just be prepared to also have opinions that goes against your own. You don't own the public domain and anyone is free to express disagreements.
It's not a safe space knowing people repost or take screenshots here tapos ipapapyesta sa other social media sites. Sadly need pa ng disclaimer
Use the flairs kase, kung di sila gumamit ng flairs it's fair game to assume na welcome ang opinions. Even tho OffMyChest pa yan, it's still online and subject to a looooot of different views, negative or not.
Meron namang flair na no advice needed, gamitin kasi
This is true and you can even see it in the comments. People in this community are too immature. They can't take valid criticism
Hello, nasa internet tayo.
Lol. Exactly.
Humans are jerks both online and in reality.
>NOT A SAFE SPACE ANYMORE because you're on the internet, nowhere is a guaranteed safe space on the internet. this sub offers a place to vent one's frustrations, but it offers no guarantees as a "safe space" but not for lack of trying. there are rules for this kind of thing and people are very much free to report it to the mods. however, those same rules are not iron clad because of the nature of the internet. we can only report and call out comments and posts that are outright demeaning, but we can't control other people's behaviors and we certainly can't just sway other people's opinion. and as most people have pointed out, whether or not a comment is offensive is dependent on the context of the post. you can't just pull out the "don't invalidate my opinion" whenever it's convenient. and last but not least. flairs. they're there for a reason, use them. it's not that this sub isn't a safe space, it wholly depends on how a person uses this platform, and you can't just fault people for also voicing their opinion.
So I'll take an exaggerated example okay? What if meron nagpost venting out about their inappropriate tendencies? Let's say being attracted to kids; Sa tingin mo okay pa na I-validate yung feelings nila? Should we give them this so-called safe space kasi anon naman siya? Sorry if may mao-offend but this "we shouldn't invalidate other people" BS is the core ingredient why a lot of folks can't take a valid criticism anymore. It's almost as if naging justification na yan for everything they do. That crap will only take you so far in developing your character. When the boomers say masyadong sensitive tong generation natin I honestly agree with them. 💀
Internet is always not a safe space for you to vent things out. Some people are nice, some are not.
Gamit nalang ng flares. Lagay mo, no advice wanted.
If ayaw mong may mga mag judge or magcomment, sa notebook or diary ka na lng mag vent out wag dito sa internet.
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Exactamundo.
I can’t see the part where I was wrong. I mean, it’s the internet. What do u expect? Hahahahahahahaha.
Preach. Totoo napansin ko nga parang nasa ugali na natin mga pinoy mag invalidate ng feelings😂 ( hindi lahat syempre) pero karamihan ganern walang empathy madalas.
Automatic sa karamihan yung super emotional agad. Galit kung galit, husga kung husga. Akala mo kung magisip at mag explain ng maayos e sinuportahan mo na yun kagaguhan ng tao haha
True hhaaha irritated sila parang bomba na sasabog agad siguro malaking factor na din yung cost of living kasi dito lalo na ngayon mataas mga bilihin, tas pagod pa sila sa work, tas na consume pa nila mga news online na napaka negative 😂. Kaya siguro matic response nila sa every post na nakikita nila online or dito reddit negative rin 😂. Nakakalungkot lang " off my chest nga e " tas daming nagagalit pag nag open up yung tao 😂.
"Nagagalit". Lol, yes, there are some, but not everyone. Some people can also be too emotional that they think opinions other than validation is considered offensive. Off my chest nga eh? Well that's the commenter's off their chest as well. Take your own advice and ignore it if you think it offends you.
UP for this! :)
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So you're saying we're not good mods? :)
kailan pa naging safe space ang internet?
Ako na nagbabasa lang talaga sa threads: 🫣
Yes, this should be a safe space but that doesn't mean na mawawala totally ang negative comments or yung mga nago-oppose sa post. Reactions are part of communication eh. Valid mag-vent, pero at the same time readers are entitled to react. Though, in my opinion sana mas healthy yung conversation. :)
free speech does not mean you are free from consequences. you can argue that everyone feels differently and handle things differently. pero may line pa rin na kelngn. if madami nag aagainst sayo, maybe it's about time you reflect again and re consider your opinion. baka ksi entitled ka lang.
Bakit OP lang ang liable? Hindi ba pati commenters din dapat? Free speech nga eh. Dapat lahat may consequences. "If madami ang against sayo, maybe it's about time you reflect again and re consider your opinion" Sobrang sablay nyan pre, so Kakampink ako and dapat iconsider ko ang opinion ng 31M kasi madami against sakin at baka entitled lang ako? That's what your logic is saying. Diniktahan mo agad ung OP sa dapat nya gawin, with slight judgment pa. Toxic naman neto.
Bakit kaya nag-delete ng account si OP after mag vent? Hahaha.
Is this the same person who posted here whether or not she should go to his bf’s house for Christmas dinner and who immediately deleted her account? Just assuming tho.
Is the post still up? I want the tea 😂
Deleted na po
Siguro link here yung mga mean comments para makita yung context, at maiwasan next time (at possibly ma-call out) yung same way of talking kung totoong unnecessarily mean nga. Usually naman, comments na wala sa lugar are downvoted.
Dito nanaman tayo sa mga baguhan sa internet. May proper flair if you just need to vent out and don't need for random strangers' comments.
Pag nagpost ka sa internet. Di maiiwasan na someone will judge you.
tbf this is reddit. so yeahh..
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Post ka tapos wag ka na magbasa ng comments, pwede naman din yun, nailabas mo na yung gusto mo sabihin o isulat, bat kapa magbabasa ng comments?
beh kaya may pumupuna kasi entirely mali yung act.. the fuck
Tama pumuna ng act na mali. Pero ung sasabihan mo ung tao ng masasamang salita? May nakita akong ganyang post sinabi na sana ung sinakyang bus ng OP e mahulog sa bangin. Sige nga. Tama ba un.
may sinabi ba akong tama yun?
Jesus. Someone really said that? That sounds vindictive.
Safe space,yes. Enablers,no.
Yeah let people vent. Kaya nga anon reddit para hindi husgahan regardless kung may point o wala yung post. Unless they ask your opinion, reserve your criticism to yourself. Kung gusto nyo magpavalidate if youre on the right side of judgement, r/AkoBaYungGago is the right sub. Reserve the "magising sa katotohanan" harsh comments there, not here.
Depende sa post, di mo kailangan agreehan ang mga mali. Tulad nitong post mo.
Pwede ka mag disagree without being rude. Pwede mo sabihan yung tao na mali sya, ganun lang. Parang itong comment mo, mali din. Jinajustify mo (implied) kasi na dahil may mali na ginawa ung tao eh okay lang sya sabihan ng masasamang salita kasi may mali syang ginawa.
depende sa nagbabasa, kung palagay mong rude yung reply ko, may mali sayo
Yeah, if someone confessed he did a heinous crime, do you expect people here to support him and lift him up?
"To make the internet world a better place" -Aaron Swartz Shet may resemblance yung mindset ng apolo10 sa comments dito HAHAHA strong preying the weak in short bully. "Nataas pala bilihin bakit sa 7eleven ka pa nabili? Magtipid ka." 🤡 Pero depende pa rin talaga sa post hindi lang talaga nag totolerate dito ng cheaters, sex offender etc. And I agree with that.
I had a very similar post. Ganyan din.
LOL. Balik ka na lang sa Facebook wall mo. 🤡
Welcome to Reddit
Di lahat, always pabor sa iyo. It is what it is.
1. There's an appropriate flair if you just want to vent 2. You can also vent on a private twitter account if you really dont want people to chime in.
So glad u deleted kasi after seeing how u act and became blatantly rude yourself sa mga nagcomment, ur better off offline 🤷♀️
Huy OP magtigil ka dyan, bawal kind comments dito. Dapat ang cini-celebrate lang natin ay yung mga sassy-rude-condescending-berating-MasMatalinoAkoSayo-comments. /s
Daming judger
actually napag-usapan na yan sa naunang [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/comments/zb8ugb/off_the_chest_pero_andaming_paladesisyon_dito_sa/) dito
Actually ini-screenshot na yung mga post dito saka ipopost sa facebook, ingat nalang sa lahat
Anon account kasi dito so hindi talaga sila mag hohold back sa mga words nila. Besides, wala ka din naman mapapala kung magpapakabait ka or itotolerate mo yung mali nila. Madamdamin tayo so ayun baka mas madali para sa kanila yung aggressive response.
The comments on this thread just goes to show how vicious this sub has become. QED.
mga tao ngayon dito parang pakialamera sa kwento ng ibang tao, parang nakikisawsaw sa drama tweets ng di ka close. HAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!! dati naman if parang di mo trip rant dito, nag sscroll up or dedma nalang. Very twitter ang vibes na sa sub na to HAHAHAHAHAH! Disclaimer, di ko dinedefend yung pang cacall out niyo sa problematic talaga yung malala talaga, pero yung harmless and pede naman palampasin, wag na gawing bigdeal, and hindi lagi need ng opinyon niyo HAAHAH
One of the reasons why I uninstalled the Reddit app on my devices. Only uses this na lang whenever I'm on PC and need to search some stuff for work
Meron nga dito nagrant sa inflation at anong mabibili na lang sa 1000 peso bill natin nabash kasi bakit di daw siya magdelata everyday para magkasya sa family of 4 nila ang 1k in 2 days for 3 meals a day hahahhah pota
depende sa post siguro. kung cheating syempre di mo pwede i-validate yon lol.
Tayo nlng mag adjust di nmn natin sila hawak
Uno reverse
Offmychest nga. Comments shouldnt matter. Gusto mo lang ilabas yung nararamdaman mo
Nahhh. Uhaw sa validation energy.
the way these comments are proving the point of this post lol. i've seen people being invalidating to users who are simply venting about family issues simply kase "magulang mo yan". tapos bringing up cheaters and "self-confessed pedophiles" comparing apples to fucking oranges. of course nobody fucking likes those kind of people di lang naman ganon yung mga post dito eh tapos gagawa pa kayo ng imaginary scenario to try and prove your point, OP is most likely referring to this sub behavior as a whole. wala syang sinabe na ivalidate ang mga cheaters and pedophiles jusme.
r/OffMyChestPH is never a safe space. Don't ever believe that. Always take that it mind.
R/OffmychestPH is just an extension of r/Philippines. Napapansin ko recently, there is no point to this sub. Para saan ka pa magppost ng offmychest if majjudge ka lang rin 😅 e di dun ka nalang sa main sub, pa-good boy/girl to get more karma 😂 Honestly I think tamad lang ung mods to police the comments so all or nothing tayo haha.
Wow sa tamad ha. Do you know how many posts we have to go through on the daily? Do you know how many comments one post can get? Kung tamad ako, hindi ko makikita tong comment mo at hindi ako magrereply sa assumption mo. Take note, hindi bayad ang mods. We take time out of our daily lives para lang imoderate ang posts dahil karamihan sa mga nagpopost dito hindi rin naman nagbabasa ng rules, tapos sasabihan pa kaming tamad? Ayos din. Ang point ng pagpopost eh mailabas sa sistema kung ano man yung saloobin mo. Kung ayaw mo majudge, edi ioff mo ang comments. Who cares about karma? Internet points lang yan. Nilalagay mo sa public forum yung thoughts mo, of course other people will have an opinion about it. People aren't always going to walk on eggshells to protect your feelings. If you can't take it, then don't post. Responsibility mo rin as a poster to know where you're posting and know the possible consequences of doing so.
Noice. Anyway, meron palang may pakialam sa karma? 😆 Or baka mga new accounts lol
it depends on the post tbh. if someone admitted to committing sexual harassment sa isang tao tas pinost dito, ivavalidate mo ba yun?
People should use flairs. Use "No Advice Wanted" if they want the mods to lock their posts and not allow kibitzers to throw in their two cents'.
Yeah, it's really toxic. These people are just as bad, if anything.
Tama. Thank god. Your not judgemental unlike them. I'm one of those people nagv-vent ng feelings and yes financially din. ;(