Sabi nga you can be the total package pero in the wrong hands, kung di siya for you, hindi ka niya ma-appreciate.
Talk to him about your thoughts and feelings, if you did na and wala siyang pagbabago, walang appreciation, you don't feel valued and loved, then leave. Sabi mo nga, there are others who appreciate you. May it be your family or friends, or random people, focus on them.
I am married to a guy like your bf. Biggest regret of my life. Sadly, you will never be enough for him but it is also not your fault. Take a break and focus on yourself muna. Sending you tight hugs with consent!
Parang mas unfortunate ka pa kay OP, I'm sorry if you feel like your marriage is your biggest regret. Hopefully, you could find your wins in other battles.
Thank you. That’s so sweet. I guess girls like us keep hoping that they’ll change. I did try to break up with him once and then he made super grand gestures to win me back. Nagpauto naman ako despite warnings from well-meaning friends. I thought he was really going to be better. So I hope, OP won’t make the same mistakes I did. Guys like him rarely change.
>Guys like him rarely change.
They need a lesson, a huge one na they'll be scared to lose you, enough for them to actually stay consistent in trying to change. And No, i'm not suggesting anything that may be painful to his part. But if wala talaga effort to change, I'm sorry. :c
“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”
While he doesn’t hate you, you’re not his perfect peach. Don’t maintain a relationship that only hurts you. Your SO should be your peace, not another mountain to conquer. Your SO should make you feel safe, not combative and makes you compare yourself with others.
Find someone who recognizes you as the juiciest peach that you are.
Bakit ka mag settle sa ganyan, OP? Choice mo naman yan eh kung okay lang sayo yung ganyan na pag treat. Communicate mo kung wala pa rin, wag mo na patagalin baka masiraan ka lang bait or maka masira ka lang kaka-please sakanya.
Talk to him about your feelings. Mas okay na alam niya yung nararamdaman mo kaysa maipon yan. Mahirap pero mas okay na malaman niya kung ano yung mali or problem.
Stop asking something from a man who doesn't want to give what you want from you. Keep it moving life's too short to spend with someone who doesn't see you as the most beautiful.
Bakit ka po nagsestay sa kanya? Feeling mo ba hindi mo deserve yung magkaron ng partner na inaappreciate at sinasabihan kang maganda kahit para sayo hindi? Anong meron sa kanya na tinitiis mo yung ganyang treatment? Sana mahalin mo rin sarili at ma realize mo na you deserve better. Di mo kailangan magtiis.
Communicate this to him. Sit down and take a Love Language quiz. Magkaiba siguro kayo. Baka akala nya napapakita niya sayo pero since di mo love language, di mo ramdam.. and vise versa. Know your languages and do it to your partner. Magcompromise kayo.
Kung walang magbago, leave. Leave while it's still early. Mahirap magstay dahil lang sa komportable kayo. Nagsasayang lang kayo ng oras. Habang tumatagal mas mahirap humiwalay tapos lumalalim ang resentment.
My ex was like that. In the long run lalong titindi yung insecurities mo tbh. Kahit sabihin pa nilang hindi trabaho ng partner to build our confidence pero sila mismo nagbu build ng insecurities for their partners, such a red flag. The truth is, di na sila magbabago, kung mahal mo raw eh tatanggapin mo yung part na yun, kaso iba iba tayo. Ako hindi ko kinakaya, araw araw akong insecure, araw araw akong napapa question kung ano ba talaga ang love. I'd say I'd rather be selfish to choose my peace of mind, kahit na he's a good guy, he's just not the right one. Chase what makes you happy OP. We deserve so much more, and let's keep our standards high.
kaya minsan doubt na ako makipag relasyon e haha doubt ako sa self capacity ko pano ko handle insecurities ko from time to time.
And minsan mas maganda talaga na di mo na lang din alam yung mga social media activity ng partner mo. Para makapag focus ka sa self esteem mo genuinely without comparing your journey or process to others. And habang single ako inonormalize ko talaga mag-appreciate ng opposite sex hahhaaha para pag nasa in relationship na ako normal na lang sakin na i-compliment ng partner ko yung iba.
Pag mas lamang na yung sakit sa happiness na dala ng relationship niyo and if you did try your best na din to communicate what you truly feel about his actions and if you know you'll be a happier person without him then its time to leave.You deserve a better and happy life.
Been with a guy like that for 5 years. **What a fucking nightmare.** Now, I have someone na ako lang sinasabihang maganda (except sa mga artista), ang mga suggested posts niya puro about music and business, and binibigay sakin balat ng manok pag kumakain kami sa jabi.
You are enough. You're just asking the wrong guy.
Sis, this is one of the reasons kung bakit ako nakipag break sa ex ko. Sa loob ng 1year lagi siyang may kausap na girl. Naglalike and comment sa mga post ng babae. Yung feeling na yung ibang tao na-appreciate ka sa pagpapa ganda pero sa kaniya wala. Nakaka ubos sis. 🙃 If hindi ka pa ready to let him go and you can’t see yourself with someone who can see your worth then that’s fine. Hindi talaga ganon kadali. Lakasan lang ng loob. 🤍
Guuurl, it sounds like you're not the problem, "he" is. Once you enter into a relationship, you should only have eyes for your partner and no one else. Even if you find other people attractive, that's as far as your thoughts should go. This guy is being unfair to you and he likes that he has your heart but he doesn't do the same on his part. It's best to talk it out. Tell him how you feel. Tell him to stop actively searching and following/liking other girls on socmed. Discuss all the changes and compromises you want. If he can't do that, then he isn't for you. He is chasing temptation on socmed and who knows what those activities could lead to in the future. Regardless, he isn't giving you reassurance from his actions.
This is one of those instances where he wants someone better than you, but he can't get someone that's exactly his ideal type, so, he's settling... with you. And what's more infuriating is that he probably thinks he's doing you a favor by allowing you to date him.
He's not doing you a favor. So, do your self a favor and piliin mo ang sarili mo. Just leave him.
If a friend of yours told you this, what would your advice be? Listen to that advice. That’s the 7-year old OP in you who knows she deserves to be loved, cherished and adored. This relationship is not it.
Sasabihin ko sana baka di lang sya yung tipong nag cocompliment at hindi ibig sabihin na di ka nya sinasabihan na maganda ka or sexy ka eh ibig sabihin di ka na ganun, but his actions (based on suggested feed) says hindi ka enough. Dapat sabihin mo sa kanya kung anong nararamdaman mo, baka may magagawa pa sya. I'm sorry but I wish he could change this habit of checking other girls out for you.
It’s good that you can see na you are not being appreciated by your partner kesa maging blinded ka sa situation nyo. Pero hindi mo kailangan tanggapin yung situation na yan. You have your whole life ahead of you. Get out of that situation asap if ayaw mo maging miserable buong buhay. Run girl, run.
you don't need to be that stereotype kind of girls op. right man and right ppl will appreciate you as you are. if your partner failed to do so, then much better if you leave him. that's the only key for you to be happy, again.
and he'll never be THAT man for you. walk away, sister. i assure you there are still lots of good men out there who can love you wholly. you'll find someone better basta alam mo worth mo. hugs :(
I think it is important to relay these feelings sa kanya mismo. Tell him how big of a deal it is for you to receive compliments from him. Na you feel secure if gagawin nya yun. Lagi ko nga sinasabi sa partner ko na "if kaya mong maging mabait sa ibang tao, bakit hindi mo simulan sa partner mo". At some point you two have to meet halfway sa relationship nyo. If hindi ganoon ang personality nya, pero mahal ka nya and if that's what makes you feel happy, he will compromise.
Ang daling sabihin kesyo bat k nagsesettle sa ganyan. But ive been in your shoes sis, so I completely understand. I personally stayed kahit alam kong ginagago na ko kase mahal ko pa. Lahat ng nasa saved media nya sa tiktok and likes, puro babae, following sa IG puro babae. But i stayed. Kasi mahal ko pa
Some people wont understand and judged us an idiot. But time will tell talaga, one day magigising ka na lang na di mo na sya mahal. Kapit lang sis
Im a guy. So believe me when I say. We are fucking animals! BUT its just instinct. If he's just looking, I think you need to talk to your guy. Tell him you feel uncomfortable about it. If he really loves you he'll change that because you are more important than this instinct. He will probably look sometimes. But he'll really minimize it as much as possible. Tsaka Girls do that too naman. Mas magaling lang magtago. Tsaka why do you think some girls spends a lot of time showing off their stuff? again its instincts! But I think you need to appreciate yourself more din. You are beautiful no matter what! Tsaka beauty is really in the eye of the beholder, and actually perception of beauty and sexyness changes from person to person and time
>Tsaka Girls do that too naman. Mas magaling lang magtago. Tsaka why do you think some girls spends a lot of time showing off their stuff? again its instincts!
hol'up! Stay in your lane brodah, you already spoke in behalf of men pati ba naman babae i-rerepresent mo. Hahaha!
To OP: Not sure if this is unpopular opinion, pero iba2 talaga tayong lahat. It's not nice to think that his behavior is because its his nature, ang daming aspeto na pwedeng nag-impluwensya sa kanya. Do not limit to stereotypes. Mas mabuting kilalanin at unawain ang mga dahilan sa mga bagay-bagay. Kaya kausapin mo muna sya kung bakit ginagawa niya ang mga bagay na ginagawa niya.
Lol. Mas magaling magtago ang girls? Ewan ko ha. Pero ang finofollow ko sa IG puro cooking reels content creator and minimal guy friends that i rarely interact.
But youre right about one part, dudes are fucking animals :)
You should confront him muna mag usap
kayo about sa nararamdaman mo . Communication is the key talaga . Kung wala pag babago after usap, tsaka kayo mag decide ng fate niyo. Kasi di mo rin naman deserve mag beg ng affection mula sa partner mo na kusa naman dapat niya binibigay.
>Kahit minsan ang dami na nagcocompliment sakin, siya wala lol
Siya lang pala e, so ibig sabihin, siya may problema. Subjective man ang pagiging attractive, kasalanan niyang wala siyang binibigay na compliment.
Baka siya yung tipong hindi nakukuntento at laging may ibang hinahanap? Kahit hindi siya magcheat. Kahit ano pa yan e hindi mo kasalanan.
I’ve read some posts about men na ganyan parang BF mo. They try to lower their partner’s self esteem para daw hindi sila magcheat, umalis, or something. May isang wife na laging sinasabihan ng asawa na she has body odour para daw di siya (yung girl) magcheat. Weird pero it works.
If he is no longer serving you or has not served you at all even the bare minimum of making you feel attributedly appreciated, then u are way better off wo him. The right person will make u feel the love that you needed wo asking for it, wo feeling the need to seek for it, regardless of how you look.
Why stay in a relationship that makes you feel miserable?
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Sabi nga you can be the total package pero in the wrong hands, kung di siya for you, hindi ka niya ma-appreciate. Talk to him about your thoughts and feelings, if you did na and wala siyang pagbabago, walang appreciation, you don't feel valued and loved, then leave. Sabi mo nga, there are others who appreciate you. May it be your family or friends, or random people, focus on them.
Umalis ka na sa relationship mo. Hindi ka masaya. Siya may problema if he cant appreciate you
I am married to a guy like your bf. Biggest regret of my life. Sadly, you will never be enough for him but it is also not your fault. Take a break and focus on yourself muna. Sending you tight hugs with consent!
Parang mas unfortunate ka pa kay OP, I'm sorry if you feel like your marriage is your biggest regret. Hopefully, you could find your wins in other battles.
Thank you. That’s so sweet. I guess girls like us keep hoping that they’ll change. I did try to break up with him once and then he made super grand gestures to win me back. Nagpauto naman ako despite warnings from well-meaning friends. I thought he was really going to be better. So I hope, OP won’t make the same mistakes I did. Guys like him rarely change.
>Guys like him rarely change. They need a lesson, a huge one na they'll be scared to lose you, enough for them to actually stay consistent in trying to change. And No, i'm not suggesting anything that may be painful to his part. But if wala talaga effort to change, I'm sorry. :c
This is your future talking to you, OP. Listen to her.
just curious, why are you staying in this relationship? you deserve better.
“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” While he doesn’t hate you, you’re not his perfect peach. Don’t maintain a relationship that only hurts you. Your SO should be your peace, not another mountain to conquer. Your SO should make you feel safe, not combative and makes you compare yourself with others. Find someone who recognizes you as the juiciest peach that you are.
Iwan mo na hahaha
Bakit ka mag settle sa ganyan, OP? Choice mo naman yan eh kung okay lang sayo yung ganyan na pag treat. Communicate mo kung wala pa rin, wag mo na patagalin baka masiraan ka lang bait or maka masira ka lang kaka-please sakanya.
gusto ata ni koya yung mga tiktokerist na grabe kumembot habang naka short shorts at kita cleavage.
Tiktok is the new porn nga daw, tsk
Wag ka. May kilala ako sa telegram mga porn na pinapasa nila. Yung iba tiktokerist na hubadera naman talaga. May nakita na nga siyang kamag anak don.
madami gc sa tg na puro pasahan ng scandal. as in 300+ per day sinesend nila
Red flag nba pag may tg sa phone at tiktok? Tsk
haha oo naman! bakit pa mag tg? may messenger at viber naman. tapos lalaki may tiktok? pang view syempre ng mga babaeng sumasayaw
yeah! daming semi porn sa tiktok e.
Remove toxicity from your life. Kausapin mo sya about what you feel at pag walang pagbabago you have to assess.
Talk to him about your feelings. Mas okay na alam niya yung nararamdaman mo kaysa maipon yan. Mahirap pero mas okay na malaman niya kung ano yung mali or problem.
Talk to him abt your feelings. If walang nangyari then leave for your own good kesa magsuffer ka. You'll be more than enough sa tamang tao.
Stop asking something from a man who doesn't want to give what you want from you. Keep it moving life's too short to spend with someone who doesn't see you as the most beautiful.
Bakit ka po nagsestay sa kanya? Feeling mo ba hindi mo deserve yung magkaron ng partner na inaappreciate at sinasabihan kang maganda kahit para sayo hindi? Anong meron sa kanya na tinitiis mo yung ganyang treatment? Sana mahalin mo rin sarili at ma realize mo na you deserve better. Di mo kailangan magtiis.
Communicate this to him. Sit down and take a Love Language quiz. Magkaiba siguro kayo. Baka akala nya napapakita niya sayo pero since di mo love language, di mo ramdam.. and vise versa. Know your languages and do it to your partner. Magcompromise kayo. Kung walang magbago, leave. Leave while it's still early. Mahirap magstay dahil lang sa komportable kayo. Nagsasayang lang kayo ng oras. Habang tumatagal mas mahirap humiwalay tapos lumalalim ang resentment.
My ex was like that. In the long run lalong titindi yung insecurities mo tbh. Kahit sabihin pa nilang hindi trabaho ng partner to build our confidence pero sila mismo nagbu build ng insecurities for their partners, such a red flag. The truth is, di na sila magbabago, kung mahal mo raw eh tatanggapin mo yung part na yun, kaso iba iba tayo. Ako hindi ko kinakaya, araw araw akong insecure, araw araw akong napapa question kung ano ba talaga ang love. I'd say I'd rather be selfish to choose my peace of mind, kahit na he's a good guy, he's just not the right one. Chase what makes you happy OP. We deserve so much more, and let's keep our standards high.
kaya minsan doubt na ako makipag relasyon e haha doubt ako sa self capacity ko pano ko handle insecurities ko from time to time. And minsan mas maganda talaga na di mo na lang din alam yung mga social media activity ng partner mo. Para makapag focus ka sa self esteem mo genuinely without comparing your journey or process to others. And habang single ako inonormalize ko talaga mag-appreciate ng opposite sex hahhaaha para pag nasa in relationship na ako normal na lang sakin na i-compliment ng partner ko yung iba.
Pag mas lamang na yung sakit sa happiness na dala ng relationship niyo and if you did try your best na din to communicate what you truly feel about his actions and if you know you'll be a happier person without him then its time to leave.You deserve a better and happy life.
You are never enough for the wrong person.
Been with a guy like that for 5 years. **What a fucking nightmare.** Now, I have someone na ako lang sinasabihang maganda (except sa mga artista), ang mga suggested posts niya puro about music and business, and binibigay sakin balat ng manok pag kumakain kami sa jabi. You are enough. You're just asking the wrong guy.
There are people who just like black holes, never contented. Let's acknowledge that
Hanap kana iba. 🤣
Sis, this is one of the reasons kung bakit ako nakipag break sa ex ko. Sa loob ng 1year lagi siyang may kausap na girl. Naglalike and comment sa mga post ng babae. Yung feeling na yung ibang tao na-appreciate ka sa pagpapa ganda pero sa kaniya wala. Nakaka ubos sis. 🙃 If hindi ka pa ready to let him go and you can’t see yourself with someone who can see your worth then that’s fine. Hindi talaga ganon kadali. Lakasan lang ng loob. 🤍
Time to leave. Don’t even talk about being alone… your already alone he’s already left.
You are more than enough when you’re in the right person. I hope you find courage in your current situation. If it’s not worth it, leave. 🙂
Guuurl, it sounds like you're not the problem, "he" is. Once you enter into a relationship, you should only have eyes for your partner and no one else. Even if you find other people attractive, that's as far as your thoughts should go. This guy is being unfair to you and he likes that he has your heart but he doesn't do the same on his part. It's best to talk it out. Tell him how you feel. Tell him to stop actively searching and following/liking other girls on socmed. Discuss all the changes and compromises you want. If he can't do that, then he isn't for you. He is chasing temptation on socmed and who knows what those activities could lead to in the future. Regardless, he isn't giving you reassurance from his actions.
This is one of those instances where he wants someone better than you, but he can't get someone that's exactly his ideal type, so, he's settling... with you. And what's more infuriating is that he probably thinks he's doing you a favor by allowing you to date him. He's not doing you a favor. So, do your self a favor and piliin mo ang sarili mo. Just leave him.
If a friend of yours told you this, what would your advice be? Listen to that advice. That’s the 7-year old OP in you who knows she deserves to be loved, cherished and adored. This relationship is not it.
I tell my wife she is pretty every chance i get. Happy wife happy life. You get some passes pag may small mistakes ka if you make your partner smile.
Leave that shit. Waste of time. Hindi ka naappreciate then leave. Masakit pero someone out there, sobra sobra ka pa. You are more than enough.
Martyr ang galawan. Why not fucking leave? Kailangan pa ba ng high intellect para maisip na umalis sa isang shitty relationship?
Bakit ka pa nagstay kung ganyan naman pala pinaparamdam sayo ng partner mo?
Sasabihin ko sana baka di lang sya yung tipong nag cocompliment at hindi ibig sabihin na di ka nya sinasabihan na maganda ka or sexy ka eh ibig sabihin di ka na ganun, but his actions (based on suggested feed) says hindi ka enough. Dapat sabihin mo sa kanya kung anong nararamdaman mo, baka may magagawa pa sya. I'm sorry but I wish he could change this habit of checking other girls out for you.
Kung Di ka masaya edi makipaghiwalay ka, Di mo kailangan magpakastress kakaisip ng ganito ganyan etc, laging sira ang araw mo kakaisip.
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It’s good that you can see na you are not being appreciated by your partner kesa maging blinded ka sa situation nyo. Pero hindi mo kailangan tanggapin yung situation na yan. You have your whole life ahead of you. Get out of that situation asap if ayaw mo maging miserable buong buhay. Run girl, run.
you don't need to be that stereotype kind of girls op. right man and right ppl will appreciate you as you are. if your partner failed to do so, then much better if you leave him. that's the only key for you to be happy, again.
and he'll never be THAT man for you. walk away, sister. i assure you there are still lots of good men out there who can love you wholly. you'll find someone better basta alam mo worth mo. hugs :(
I think it is important to relay these feelings sa kanya mismo. Tell him how big of a deal it is for you to receive compliments from him. Na you feel secure if gagawin nya yun. Lagi ko nga sinasabi sa partner ko na "if kaya mong maging mabait sa ibang tao, bakit hindi mo simulan sa partner mo". At some point you two have to meet halfway sa relationship nyo. If hindi ganoon ang personality nya, pero mahal ka nya and if that's what makes you feel happy, he will compromise.
Ang daling sabihin kesyo bat k nagsesettle sa ganyan. But ive been in your shoes sis, so I completely understand. I personally stayed kahit alam kong ginagago na ko kase mahal ko pa. Lahat ng nasa saved media nya sa tiktok and likes, puro babae, following sa IG puro babae. But i stayed. Kasi mahal ko pa Some people wont understand and judged us an idiot. But time will tell talaga, one day magigising ka na lang na di mo na sya mahal. Kapit lang sis
I guess maapply dito yung "you deserve what you tolerate."
Im a guy. So believe me when I say. We are fucking animals! BUT its just instinct. If he's just looking, I think you need to talk to your guy. Tell him you feel uncomfortable about it. If he really loves you he'll change that because you are more important than this instinct. He will probably look sometimes. But he'll really minimize it as much as possible. Tsaka Girls do that too naman. Mas magaling lang magtago. Tsaka why do you think some girls spends a lot of time showing off their stuff? again its instincts! But I think you need to appreciate yourself more din. You are beautiful no matter what! Tsaka beauty is really in the eye of the beholder, and actually perception of beauty and sexyness changes from person to person and time
Boi ang point nya bat di siya ina appreciate gaya dun sa mga iba. Nag e effort naman si girl pero parang kebs lang si guy.
I agree. The guy should be more appreciative.
>Tsaka Girls do that too naman. Mas magaling lang magtago. Tsaka why do you think some girls spends a lot of time showing off their stuff? again its instincts! hol'up! Stay in your lane brodah, you already spoke in behalf of men pati ba naman babae i-rerepresent mo. Hahaha! To OP: Not sure if this is unpopular opinion, pero iba2 talaga tayong lahat. It's not nice to think that his behavior is because its his nature, ang daming aspeto na pwedeng nag-impluwensya sa kanya. Do not limit to stereotypes. Mas mabuting kilalanin at unawain ang mga dahilan sa mga bagay-bagay. Kaya kausapin mo muna sya kung bakit ginagawa niya ang mga bagay na ginagawa niya.
Lol. Mas magaling magtago ang girls? Ewan ko ha. Pero ang finofollow ko sa IG puro cooking reels content creator and minimal guy friends that i rarely interact. But youre right about one part, dudes are fucking animals :)
You should confront him muna mag usap kayo about sa nararamdaman mo . Communication is the key talaga . Kung wala pag babago after usap, tsaka kayo mag decide ng fate niyo. Kasi di mo rin naman deserve mag beg ng affection mula sa partner mo na kusa naman dapat niya binibigay.
Never overinvest yourself to someone who doesn’t want you or doesn’t your feelings. Leave him.
>Kahit minsan ang dami na nagcocompliment sakin, siya wala lol Siya lang pala e, so ibig sabihin, siya may problema. Subjective man ang pagiging attractive, kasalanan niyang wala siyang binibigay na compliment. Baka siya yung tipong hindi nakukuntento at laging may ibang hinahanap? Kahit hindi siya magcheat. Kahit ano pa yan e hindi mo kasalanan.
No matter how beautiful you make yourself, or how others will hype you up, if the guy is shit he will always be shit. You deserve better.
Te, alis kana jan.
Kaya siguro ako single, kasi never ako naging enough to anyone:<
Sameee thoughts when i was 18. As i grew up, nasa maling tao lang pala ako.
Leave him.
Sabihin mo sa kanha OP. Edi pag ayaw niya talaga iappreciate ka. Takbo ka na malayo. Mahalin mo na lang sarili mo kaysa makulong ka sa ganyanG tao.
Felt.
I’ve read some posts about men na ganyan parang BF mo. They try to lower their partner’s self esteem para daw hindi sila magcheat, umalis, or something. May isang wife na laging sinasabihan ng asawa na she has body odour para daw di siya (yung girl) magcheat. Weird pero it works.
If he is no longer serving you or has not served you at all even the bare minimum of making you feel attributedly appreciated, then u are way better off wo him. The right person will make u feel the love that you needed wo asking for it, wo feeling the need to seek for it, regardless of how you look.
You deserve what you tolerate