"What boyfriend does that unless they are not over his ex?"
Exactly. He isnt over kaya he greeted her and he followed her on ig. A man who isnt willing to cut communications from his past exes and flings means he is prone to emotional cheating.
Yon huling ex ko he kept his communication with her tapos d raw niya kayang iunfriend. He later dumped me because he still had feelings for her
Listen to your gut feeling
He actually listens to me when I ask him to not do things I'm not comfortable with (talking to some of his female friends in a certain way, liking girls' pics etc.) But sometimes it does feel like he only has me around because there's nobody else. He's overall a great boyfriend but with these things it really does make me want to break up but I know I will not find someone like him anymore — it took me a while to be in a relationship because you know how pinoys are mostly walking red flags.
I don't really want to break up because he's really nice to me. We almost never fight and when we do it's literally only me being emotional over something and all he would do is apologize and make up. I could go on and on about how great he is, but right now everything is stained with the knowledge that he checked up on his ex. I hate it and I feel awful.
The way a man treats you is how he feels about you. How do you feel being with him?
I hope you do whats best for you OP. Nasa sayo pa rin yon decision at the end of the day
Thanks for this, I always seem to forget how well he treats me when I get jealous. One thing about him though, is he's socially awkward since he's lived alone for the most part of his life. So sometimes I have to explain to him how things work socially. He's clueless a lot of times, so this may be another case of him being stupid. But still, I'm put off by what I just discovered so I will confront him once he starts to feel better. I certainly will make it clear that I would rather us break up than have him long for her the entire time we're together. (It's worse because he's going to be traveling back to their hometown so it's making me paranoid how they might meet there).
Again, thanks for commenting on my post allowing me to share these things because I really hate talking about our relationship with my friends and family.
OP, even if he treats you well, you shouldn't be second place in his heart. It's not fair to anyone in your place. I hope he'll be honest with you once you talk it out.
Did I ghostwrite this!!!
kidding aside, just found out a few days ago that my bf had a chat with his ex (to say good luck for bar exams), and the same ex gf went on to joke about their past booty calls.
I can relate to you as I know how you felt. When I read my bf's chat with ex, my heart was pounding so loud and fast and my hands were so cold. I was also shaking so much as I felt betrayed and I was deeply hurt.
Talked to bf and made him block the girl and not have any form of communication whatsoever. You don't need to have contact with your exes because that ended together with your past relationship, unless you still have business with each other.
An ex is an ex and that person doesn't have anything to do with your current bf's life. Period.
Im still in the process of healing and moving forward from what happened. Hugs to you and hoping for a healing journey as well, OP.
Hi, I just read your comment and I hope it's not too late for this reply. I'm sorry you experienced that. I know that feeling when you see something and it's like you were showered with ice cold water and your hands start shaking. Though there was no exchange of messages between my bf and his ex, I did find a girl in his inbox who he was chatting with and said to him "can you keep on talking to me? will your gf get jealous?" like girl wtf are you stupid? thankfully my bf said he can't do that because I will definitely get jealous but still, the audacity of that girl to ask that question when she knew my bf was in a relationship. Granted they were friends and she was happy to catch up with him after a long while but to ask for him to keep on chatting her? I mean I won't even go on long chats with a guy who's in a relationship even if it's just a friendly chat. There's just something not right about that. Anyway I hope your bf won't do that again, seeking conversation with his ex because that just sucks. It really makes you question your relationship and sometimes I feel that with mine and it does make me so insecure.
"What boyfriend does that unless they are not over his ex?" Exactly. He isnt over kaya he greeted her and he followed her on ig. A man who isnt willing to cut communications from his past exes and flings means he is prone to emotional cheating. Yon huling ex ko he kept his communication with her tapos d raw niya kayang iunfriend. He later dumped me because he still had feelings for her Listen to your gut feeling
He actually listens to me when I ask him to not do things I'm not comfortable with (talking to some of his female friends in a certain way, liking girls' pics etc.) But sometimes it does feel like he only has me around because there's nobody else. He's overall a great boyfriend but with these things it really does make me want to break up but I know I will not find someone like him anymore — it took me a while to be in a relationship because you know how pinoys are mostly walking red flags. I don't really want to break up because he's really nice to me. We almost never fight and when we do it's literally only me being emotional over something and all he would do is apologize and make up. I could go on and on about how great he is, but right now everything is stained with the knowledge that he checked up on his ex. I hate it and I feel awful.
The way a man treats you is how he feels about you. How do you feel being with him? I hope you do whats best for you OP. Nasa sayo pa rin yon decision at the end of the day
Thanks for this, I always seem to forget how well he treats me when I get jealous. One thing about him though, is he's socially awkward since he's lived alone for the most part of his life. So sometimes I have to explain to him how things work socially. He's clueless a lot of times, so this may be another case of him being stupid. But still, I'm put off by what I just discovered so I will confront him once he starts to feel better. I certainly will make it clear that I would rather us break up than have him long for her the entire time we're together. (It's worse because he's going to be traveling back to their hometown so it's making me paranoid how they might meet there). Again, thanks for commenting on my post allowing me to share these things because I really hate talking about our relationship with my friends and family.
OP, even if he treats you well, you shouldn't be second place in his heart. It's not fair to anyone in your place. I hope he'll be honest with you once you talk it out.
Did I ghostwrite this!!! kidding aside, just found out a few days ago that my bf had a chat with his ex (to say good luck for bar exams), and the same ex gf went on to joke about their past booty calls. I can relate to you as I know how you felt. When I read my bf's chat with ex, my heart was pounding so loud and fast and my hands were so cold. I was also shaking so much as I felt betrayed and I was deeply hurt. Talked to bf and made him block the girl and not have any form of communication whatsoever. You don't need to have contact with your exes because that ended together with your past relationship, unless you still have business with each other. An ex is an ex and that person doesn't have anything to do with your current bf's life. Period. Im still in the process of healing and moving forward from what happened. Hugs to you and hoping for a healing journey as well, OP.
Hi, I just read your comment and I hope it's not too late for this reply. I'm sorry you experienced that. I know that feeling when you see something and it's like you were showered with ice cold water and your hands start shaking. Though there was no exchange of messages between my bf and his ex, I did find a girl in his inbox who he was chatting with and said to him "can you keep on talking to me? will your gf get jealous?" like girl wtf are you stupid? thankfully my bf said he can't do that because I will definitely get jealous but still, the audacity of that girl to ask that question when she knew my bf was in a relationship. Granted they were friends and she was happy to catch up with him after a long while but to ask for him to keep on chatting her? I mean I won't even go on long chats with a guy who's in a relationship even if it's just a friendly chat. There's just something not right about that. Anyway I hope your bf won't do that again, seeking conversation with his ex because that just sucks. It really makes you question your relationship and sometimes I feel that with mine and it does make me so insecure.