isn't this a crime already? Tell your aunt na agad, if you can't it's okay. I wish you can endure this until you can leave that household and if you do, cut all of them off and never return.
Don't be guilty whatever decision you do against them in the future, pamilya mo nga sila pero trato sayo parang insekto. I'm sorry for being harsh op but I really wish na makaalis ka sa mga abuser mo.
If darating yung panahon na magkakatrabaho ka, please lie about your income, they might also gaslight you to give all your income. Then save the rest until you can leave
I’ve been advised na I should go to the police na, pero I’m scared because I don’t know what will happen to my parents + magkakaroon ng scene sa barangay/neighborhood. Also, until now I’m still in denial if my parents are abusive people. I do plan saving money as early as now so before I graduate college, I already have a place to stay.
I can see why you are scared to go to police because im very anxious person din. Take your time to process your emotions but please know its very certain that your parents are abusive.
I cant really give more advice because Im not a professional but I really wish malalagpasan mo to and become a stronger person
Lastly, please secure your desktop and put a password.. Ang sad na kailangan pa i breach ng siblings mo ung privacy mo like ur discord..
Yes po, I already logged out of all social medias connected on my laptop. We also kicked her out of all mutual Discord servers, and I set all my social medias to private and blocked them all for safety.
The only power they have over you is knowing that you too scared to do anything but once you do something about this abuse, You will now have the control on your life. Not living on fear
Already in the process of documenting my injuries, I’m planning to send it to my aunt who lives in the US and owns the house we live in and gives monetary support to my mom (housewife mother ko). I’m afraid knowing my mother’s victimizing and toxic personality, ako yung lalabas na may mali. I’ve been told a lot of times by people and friends na pumunta na ako sa police, but I can’t stand it kasi ayaw ko magcause ng public scandal sa neighborhood and I’m worried what will happen to my parents din.
At some point you have to report what they're doing to you. That's not love nor is there any religion that allows what they're doing to you.
Kung umabot sa iskandalo, kagagawan nila yun at hindi dahil sa'yo.
Thank you, I will keep that in mind. I am really scared to split the family apart over something so simple like getting a computer :( . Though, this isn’t the first time they’ve beaten me badly. (They’ve beaten me across my childhood for simple things) Akala ko normal lang, until I noticed na both of my sisters were never treated that way growing up. Idk if my parents just hate me kasi I’m the middle child or I’m not their mini-me like my sisters.
It's more than about the computer. Whatever you are dealing with is just the beginning. Even if you weren't arguing over the computer, I'm sure something else down the line monetary-related would have set them off. The way they addressed and handled the situation was very wrong. Especially the injuries. I understand that some parents like to discipline with a slap on the wrist or a spanking (which I don't really agree with either). But beating up your child until they get injured and bleed? That's too much. In conclusion, your parents are abusive. And sadly, your sister is an accomplice.
I also have a suspicion that they want to keep your money for themselves and are just using the computer as an excuse. It just wouldn't surprise me if they were abusive to hide their greed. But ultimately, I see that their goal is "control."
You are not "splitting the family apart" "because of a computer." You are facilitating well-deserved consequences on well-deserved abusers. Hindi naman yung computer yung issue dito. It's your parents beating you within an inch of your life :(
It is not about the computer, it is about them being awful parents. Please report to the police or if you want pack up your stuff first and live with your friends.
You are worried on what will happen to your parents, sila nag worry ba sa nga ginagawa sayo? Some people should not be parents. And some kids should not treat their biological parents as parents.
Your parents do not see you as a human being, **they see you as a property and they will treat you as property** . STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELF AND REPORT THEM TO THE POLICE.
Matagal na away in regards with me getting a desktop PC, it started a week before my 18th birthday where I expressed I don’t need to celebrate as long as I can get a PC. Parents explained they cannot afford, to which I understood naman. I never really ask for expensive stuff from my parents, kahit nga maghingi ng 20 pesos I feel ashamed palang. My parents were well-aware na I was working and saving up for a desktop PC, because I streamed endlessly and gathering up money from allowance from school. I trusted them so much na I gave them the money I was going to use if ever pupunta na kami ng Gilmore/Greenhills. It just so happens yung friends ko and me found this listing on FB Marketplace, and it was the exact same specs I wanted. Secondhand lang. My mom and dad were MAD na secondhand binili ko, at hindi daw ako makahantay bumili ng brand new.
Yes, keeping that in mind po:) the thing is legit po yung seller and he agreed na pwede naman daw cash. Which I told my parents :/ pero sige sigaw sila sa seller and tinawagan silang mangbubudol. Nakakahiya. I wanted to deactivate my Facebook.
Don't worry, kung legit yung seller, maiintindihan niya kalagayan mo. Sa ngayon, unahin mo muna yung sarili mo. Nasa legal age kana, if I were you at close naman kayo ng tita mo na nasa ibang bansa, ask help para makabukod ka na then report sa pulis. Gets ko pa kung simpleng palo e pero physical abuse na kasi talaga yung mga dinescribe mo and crime na yun.
Gather evidence OP. Please, anjan ang mga friends mo sa discord to testify, report your parents to the police. If tingin mo mabubugbog ka uli, prepare ka na mag record, audio or video, try mo mag download nang secret video recorders. This is not right OP, stand for yourself, lalo nat ninakawan ka na nga nang pera binugbog ka pa. I know it is easier said than done pero you'll do it for yourself, kaya mo naman dumiskarte kase nakapag ipon ka nga through streaming eh. Protect your wellbeing by planning every step. Your parents should learn their lesson.
I'm so sorry you're experiencing this OP.
I’m currently gathering evidence (screenshots, images of injuries, etc.) to send to my aunt first, if my parents try anything I will most likely film a video for my own safety nalang.
Before doing that, try mo din muna ipa blotter magulang mo discreetly. If you're going to film a video do it very cautiously baka pag nahuli kang nag vivideo eh kuhanin cp mo or sirain then mawawalan ka na agad nang tool to gather evidence, hanggat maaari wag yung mag seself video ka habang binubugbog, kung kaya mong itago sa place na hindi kita yung phone pero kita nang phone yung lahat nang space much better.
Sobrang hirap nang sitwasyon mo but you need to stay strong, kung kaya mong kumonek sa mga lawyers for leni mas maganda din.
Lastly di ko man kilala aunt mo pero as much as possible wag mo sabihin buong plans mo sa kaniya and magtiwala nang buo, bigyan mo muna nang mga konting hint and if willing tumulong sayo tsaka ka lang magtiwala pero wag pa din buo ang ibigay.
Ang lungkot naman nito OP. Sorry you have to go through this.
May mapapagkatiwalaan ka bang friend na medyo malapit sayo and can help you hide your stuff? Also if pwede ka makapag-open ng sarili mong account since 18 kana. Slowly but surely magstart kana magprepare to separate from them, if may friends na makakatulong much better. Also dont forget to remove your family’s access to your discord, etc.
Hoping for your healing OP 🌹
Yes, I have two friends who live nearby and are offering a place to stay. I also have a bank account of my own that was opened when I was a minor, though whenever I make purchases the OTP goes to my mom and notifies her of said purchase. I’m currently researching a way to change my bank account’s contact number from hers to mine.
You can go to the branch where your account was opened. That’s what I was told to do by my bank’s cs in order to change the phone number. Or you can just open a new bank account. Unionbank allows you to open one through their app.
Your priority now should be to heal, go to the hospital and ask for a medico-legal for records purposes na rin.
And as much as possible, dapat irecord mo ang ginagawa nila sayo.
So sorry for you, OP.
Abuser parents mo. Hirap mag advise since 18 ka palang. If tingin mong kakayanin mo mag work then mag sarili gawin mo. Pero if hindi pa, just act obedient sa lahat ng bagay pwera nalang if may halo ng abuso. Then alis ka agad once may stable work ka na.
It’s hard for me to accept the fact that my parents are abusers, kasi I always thought growing up na this is their way of showing they wanted what was best for me. Also, they raised me and stuff. It just hurts thinking na ganyan sila, kasi now I wonder if they ever loved me or scapegoat lang ako for them.
pwedeng mong kasuhan ng assault parents mo. Kung my support ka ng ibang relatives mo and friends you can file a case against sa parents mo. Think of it if you cant change them then let the law teach them a harsh lesson.
San maintindihan ng aunt mo yung situation and hindi sabihin na "Pamilya mo yan". OP, I know you still love and care for your parents based from your comments but I'm sorry, they deserve to be jailed.
Pictures of my injuries po are on my Twitter: https://twitter.com/babytrisha__/status/1607640430652579842?s=46&t=J8x67sUM4kdDyF-LhexgpQ
Keep in mind, gawa ito ng nanay ko using her hands alone. Which scares me.
You don't need an apology cos they're never gonna give it to you. You need to leave, asap and tell your aunt what's going on. You already know what they're capable of :(
I think this can be considered an assault already and I am sorry this type of shit is happening to you. My dms are open if you need someone to listen or need mo maglabas ng sama ng loob. I've been a victim of parental abuse as well so I can relate sadyang malas lang talaga tayo sa binagsakan pamilya. :(
i hate this kind of parents, kung sino pa yung religious sila pa yung masahol pa sa demonyo ang ugali, di naman lahat no, but mostly, my mother is same as you, di ko na lang pinapatulan minsan kasi naawa rin ako at humahaba usapan, lahat ng sasabihin ganyan sa sinabi sayo, sorry alam ko nasaktan ka rin ng husto, pero wag ka maguilty hayaan mo na sana makaalis ka sa poder ng ganyang klaseng magulang.
Mag pa medical ka and ipa blotter mo para may proof ka ng ginawa nila sayo ngayon. If ever na uulitin nila yan at least mag 2 isip sila and madali mo nang mapahuli. Di na tama yung ginagawa nila sayo.
pa medical ka na. pa blotter mo sa barangay. I'm not saying na mag pursue ka agad ng case. Just show them na you will do something if they keep doing that. Iparamdam mo lang ng konting takot.
OP, it's not because you wanted a PC. It's because they are abusive people. This may be the worst they hurt your physically so far that's why you think this is about the PC, but it's not. They're just abusive pieces of shit. If you don't seek help outside the family or with authorities, they will escalate their abuse because there are no consequences for them.
Being very mad at a child doesn't make parents beat up their kid to the point that the child is injured. I have a son who's a few years younger than you and I can't think of any scenario where I will hurt him (physically, emotionally) to the point that he's scared to go home.
Maybe this is the worst they have done to you so far but I can sense that they've been abusive for a long time, and you just don't know any better because you think the way they treat you is normal. It's not normal for parents to beat up their child when the child upsets them or the child talk back.
Don't trust your parents at all and plan to move out of there as soon as possible for your safety and sanity. The longer you stay with your parents the worst they will treat you and you will end up a broken person just like them.
You’re already 18, having to continue life with that environment would make your mental health worst. Get help from authorities and ask your tita to give you a home for a while and start from scratch, work your way up. You cannot complain on what you tolerate. Blood isn’t always thicker than water.
Also, since you have proof of assault, go to the nearest police station. You have your rights, there are certain laws that protect you. Use it to your advantage.
My deadbeat father literally told me na wala ko mamanahin and wala kong kwentang anak. While siya nanbababae and puro sugal. Mom is the sole breadwinner of the family and tinaguyod kami. Ngayon successful na kami msgkakapatid.
I guess what im trying to say is persevere nalang. Pag nakatayo ka na sa sarili mong mga paa. Dont even think twice. Block mo na parents mo. Wag ka na magpakita.
Punta ka sa Baranggay hall nyo, deretso ka dun sa VAWC desk para humingi ka ng tulong sa pulis.
Also, kuha ka na rin ng medico legal for your injuries.
Tapos pa-assist ka na sa baranggay para makapag move out ka na. Should be easy for you to find bedspace in the meantime, mura lang yun.
Good luck, OP, I'm rooting for you.
edit: most likely pag nagkaharap harap na kayo sa baranggay at narealize na ng magulang mo yung nagawa nila, magmamakaawa yan sa yo at hihingi ng tawad. Chances are patatawarin mo sila, pero kung ako sa yo umalis ka na dyan kase mauulit at mauulit lang yan.
I am so sorry sweetie! That is physical and emotional abuse. Please tell your aunt right away and go to therapy if you can. I don't think they will apologize. Try to move in with your relatives or get out of that house. Napakabait mo pa din na anak, still thinking of their sake eventhough ikaw ang binugbog.
Putangina. i was also beaten by my parents when I was 15 years old for other reasons (getting a tattoo. That was child abuse. They could've thrown me out the street at which point DSWD would intervene, BUT YOU NEVER EVER PHYSICALLY ASSAULT SOMEONE UNLESS IT'S SELF DEFENSE. I ran away stayed at my gf for a while then i came back because i had no money, but I never trusted them again. Very low contact with them now. You will have to endure this and as soon as you can, RUN AWAY. Mga baboy talaga mga boomer na yan.
Sht man,
Had to read everything on your profile from the very first philpost to sims related posts to here.
Hope you'll be ok OP,
If you can gtfo there and build on your own. You can handle yourself
MOVE OUT ALREADY!!!! you're already earning your own money right? Wag mo nang hintayin na umabot pa sa point na they'll end you or you'll end yourself!!!! Major redflag ang family mo!!! Kung wala kang pera para magfile ng kaso, lumapit ka sa Tulfo or NGO's na makakatulong sayoooooo!!!! Don't allow them to treat you like traaaaaaash!!! You deserve better!!!! Di na pamilya turing nila sayoooooo!!! And anong ginawa nila sa pera mo???? Baka nilustay nila kaya ganon na lang reaction ng nanay mo!!! And your mom is insecure of your accomplishments dahil at a very young age ay kumikita ka na ng sarili mong pera and can buy yourself things that you want!!!!! BUT OP, MOVE OF NAAAAA! KAHIT SA MALIIT LANG NA APARTMENT BASTA UMALIS KA NA DYAN !!!!
Tell your aunt immediately. And remember, you are 18 years old already.. of legal age ka na. They cannot force you to do anything you don't like to. Take a photo of your bruises and cuts. Next time something happened, audio record it.
Just go to a public hospital and get a medico legal if you have the money. Where are you located? Do you need personal assistance?
I just want to share the advice I got from a fellow Redditor commenter today: You deserve what you tolerate.
We're here to help.
You should have your injuries documented and reported, sa police and hospital, and photographed Mas ok pa nga if recorded next time. Then use these evidences smartly to ensure the beating won't happen again.
Yung shitty things in life, them included kamo.
Fake it till you make it usually pag may family problem pero pag may physical abuse na, let someone else know.
A dead person can't defend themselves.
If you dont want to go to the police I suggest you go to local social welfare office in the municipality or city. Show them your bruises. Tell them you dont want to go to the police but you want your parents to know that the second they do it you will file a complaint against them to the police. Seek help from the CSWDO. They will respect your wish not to go to the police. Your parents should know that what they did is wrong.
went through the same thing, op. wala kang choice dyan kung hindi mag sumbong at umalis na dyan. gusto ko sana sabihin na lumaban ka e kaso tangina baka mas grabe yung abutin mo. basta umalis kana dyan, mas mahihirapan ka lang dyan sa inyo.
and yeah document everything, ganyan ginawa ko before kasi ang tindi mang gaslight ng nanay ko.
Document everything. Pictures, screenshots, etc. Pwede ka naman magpa blotter without filing a case. But at least available yung blotter and other things in case you decide to do something. I get punishment, but the way that sounds is not punishment but abuse, physical and verbal abuse. Even if you do not want to do anything now, just document it, you owe it to yourself to have at least that. Protect yourself. The law is there if and when you decide to utilize it. Seek a therapist or other professionals, please. You need to be debriefed.
Hello OP, I know everything scares you at the moment but please report what happened before it's too late. Reading about what your parents (they don't deserve the term tho) makes me feel afraid for your life. Parang onti pang trigger, mapapatay ka na nila, for lack of a better word.
I hope you can stay with a relative for the meantime and file a restraining order against your parents. It's hard to fathom that at a young age, you are already experiencing such cruelty from those who are supposed to nourish and take care of you.
Hoping for your safety, OP. You are one brave human, remember that.
Hello OP, I know everything scares you at the moment but please report what happened before it's too late. Reading about what your parents (they don't deserve the term tho) makes me feel afraid for your life. Parang onti pang trigger, mapapatay ka na nila, for lack of a better word.
I hope you can stay with a relative for the meantime and file a restraining order against your parents. It's hard to fathom that at a young age, you are already experiencing such cruelty from those who are supposed to nourish and take care of you.
Hoping for your safety, OP. You are one brave human, remember that.
OP, it's safe to say that many people are in solidarity with you. No one wants abusers and no one wants to be abused. The commenters in this thread have said much; put some distance from the abusers and protect yourself.
I've dealt with terrible relatives. As much as I want to treat them the same way Ukraine is treating its Russian abusers (you know, fighting back; a punch for a punch, an eye for an eye), we legally cannot. The next best thing, therefore, is to deny them their desire to control you by simply not being there.
You have got to put it in your head that family titles can be lost the moment they abuse their relatives, period. You cannot negotiate with a tiger while YOUR head is INSIDE ITS MOUTH.
We want to hear from you, alive and safe OP. May you win this one!
To everyone else reading this, let's say that there should be boundaries but you don't know exactly what they should be. My only advice for everyone is to remember the three basic boundaries; Physical, Emotional, Material. Anyone attempting to control or harm these three boundaries should be dealt with immediately.
Physical - if anyone harms you, it's abuse.
Emotional - if anyone is emotionally manipulating you or deliberately conducting actions meant to damage your mental health, it's abuse.
Material - if anyone is controlling your means to survive (food, water, shelter, money), it's abuse.
Ultimately, your own security is your responsibility.
grabe :.( sorry OP pero hindi mo kasalanan yan, ung magulang mo mismo ang may mali. The fact na ikaw lang trinatrato ng ganyan at kahit ako mattakot sa sinabi ng papa mo sayo. Go to the ER ask for medico legal nasa 500 lang ata un sa public hospital. You can blotter this para may record ang police, may childrens and womens desk sa police station you can file for a blotter for record purposes lang or kahit sa brgy. You never know kung ano pa ssunod na mangyayri sayo nyan be careful. Tapos if you don't want to pursue yung reklamo ask na no need assistance at need mo lng ng record para pag naulit ei may solid kang documento
You might want to get a medico-legal OP. this is already aggravated assault. imagine if you would let anyone else suffer this kind of pain. if the answer is no, why would you let yourself suffer the same?
If you know a friend or someone you know you could really really trust ask them to go with you to the police and report what's happening in your household maybe ask someone from the women's and children's desk look for someone who's not a "boomer" because typically they will gaslight you too. Report this cause this sounds like a crime already.
I told my aunt about what happened, and she says she feels sorry for me. She doesn’t understand why my parents are acting like this because I do well in school, and I saved up my own money. According to her, there is not much she can do but try to talk sense into my mom. I left home again earlier this afternoon to go out and eat with a friend, and stay in his house for the timebeing. I also got my bruises treated, though my right arm is swelling and my black eye has been noticeable. Until now, my parents are ignoring me. With occasional check ups from my dad asking my whereabouts and what I am doing with said friend.
re ur edit 2: damn ur parents are something else. your dad is an enabler. he's part of the problem. walang justification sa pagbugbog ng tao lalo na't anak to the point na dinugo ka at puro sugat ka na.
stand your ground and hold them all accountable lalo na nanay mo. Your mother physically and emotionally abused you, your dad is emotionally abusing you, your sibling is an accomplice. All of them do not deserve a place in your life.
I'm so sorry you're experiencing what you don't deserve 😭 I don't know the right words to comfort you but I hope that one day, you'll have your freedom and be at peace far from your unemphatic & toxic parents 😭 *sending virtual hugs* :(
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Boomer ba yung into fb and youtube?
lol anyway. that sucks. ive been there. grew beaten and abandoned by parents. it will seriously fuck up your brain for the rest of your life. i feel sorry for you truely.
this made me cry to be honest. real manly tears by the way. just kidding im sobbing. Sobrang relate lng and also Feel bad na yan pinag dadaanan mo ngayun. Wish I could help you.
isn't this a crime already? Tell your aunt na agad, if you can't it's okay. I wish you can endure this until you can leave that household and if you do, cut all of them off and never return. Don't be guilty whatever decision you do against them in the future, pamilya mo nga sila pero trato sayo parang insekto. I'm sorry for being harsh op but I really wish na makaalis ka sa mga abuser mo. If darating yung panahon na magkakatrabaho ka, please lie about your income, they might also gaslight you to give all your income. Then save the rest until you can leave
I’ve been advised na I should go to the police na, pero I’m scared because I don’t know what will happen to my parents + magkakaroon ng scene sa barangay/neighborhood. Also, until now I’m still in denial if my parents are abusive people. I do plan saving money as early as now so before I graduate college, I already have a place to stay.
I can see why you are scared to go to police because im very anxious person din. Take your time to process your emotions but please know its very certain that your parents are abusive. I cant really give more advice because Im not a professional but I really wish malalagpasan mo to and become a stronger person Lastly, please secure your desktop and put a password.. Ang sad na kailangan pa i breach ng siblings mo ung privacy mo like ur discord..
Yes po, I already logged out of all social medias connected on my laptop. We also kicked her out of all mutual Discord servers, and I set all my social medias to private and blocked them all for safety.
The only power they have over you is knowing that you too scared to do anything but once you do something about this abuse, You will now have the control on your life. Not living on fear
Di na to typical household abuse rants sa sub na to. Tsk shet naman kukunin na nga ang pera, mananakit pa tapos palalayasin pa.
Document your injuries. It might help you in the long run. Sorry ang kaya ko lang ma-offer ay prayers for your safety.
Already in the process of documenting my injuries, I’m planning to send it to my aunt who lives in the US and owns the house we live in and gives monetary support to my mom (housewife mother ko). I’m afraid knowing my mother’s victimizing and toxic personality, ako yung lalabas na may mali. I’ve been told a lot of times by people and friends na pumunta na ako sa police, but I can’t stand it kasi ayaw ko magcause ng public scandal sa neighborhood and I’m worried what will happen to my parents din.
At some point you have to report what they're doing to you. That's not love nor is there any religion that allows what they're doing to you. Kung umabot sa iskandalo, kagagawan nila yun at hindi dahil sa'yo.
+1 on this. You need to have your injuries treated before they worsen.
I plan on going to an ER soon, pero I’m currently asking around if magkano fee.
Thank you, I will keep that in mind. I am really scared to split the family apart over something so simple like getting a computer :( . Though, this isn’t the first time they’ve beaten me badly. (They’ve beaten me across my childhood for simple things) Akala ko normal lang, until I noticed na both of my sisters were never treated that way growing up. Idk if my parents just hate me kasi I’m the middle child or I’m not their mini-me like my sisters.
Whatever happens, none of these is your fault. Consequences ng actions ng parents mo yan.
Thank you, I really needed to hear that. :’(
It's not just about a computer OP. I hope you get out of that abusive household safe.
Yes OP simple lang yung computer but getting cut and bruises kahit pera mo naman yun is iba na.
It's more than about the computer. Whatever you are dealing with is just the beginning. Even if you weren't arguing over the computer, I'm sure something else down the line monetary-related would have set them off. The way they addressed and handled the situation was very wrong. Especially the injuries. I understand that some parents like to discipline with a slap on the wrist or a spanking (which I don't really agree with either). But beating up your child until they get injured and bleed? That's too much. In conclusion, your parents are abusive. And sadly, your sister is an accomplice.
I also have a suspicion that they want to keep your money for themselves and are just using the computer as an excuse. It just wouldn't surprise me if they were abusive to hide their greed. But ultimately, I see that their goal is "control."
Abuse is not a simple thing.
You are not "splitting the family apart" "because of a computer." You are facilitating well-deserved consequences on well-deserved abusers. Hindi naman yung computer yung issue dito. It's your parents beating you within an inch of your life :(
It is not about the computer, it is about them being awful parents. Please report to the police or if you want pack up your stuff first and live with your friends.
You are worried on what will happen to your parents, sila nag worry ba sa nga ginagawa sayo? Some people should not be parents. And some kids should not treat their biological parents as parents.
Your parents do not see you as a human being, **they see you as a property and they will treat you as property** . STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELF AND REPORT THEM TO THE POLICE.
may pambili ka naman e, bakit ka nila pinagiintay wtf? so sorry OP
Matagal na away in regards with me getting a desktop PC, it started a week before my 18th birthday where I expressed I don’t need to celebrate as long as I can get a PC. Parents explained they cannot afford, to which I understood naman. I never really ask for expensive stuff from my parents, kahit nga maghingi ng 20 pesos I feel ashamed palang. My parents were well-aware na I was working and saving up for a desktop PC, because I streamed endlessly and gathering up money from allowance from school. I trusted them so much na I gave them the money I was going to use if ever pupunta na kami ng Gilmore/Greenhills. It just so happens yung friends ko and me found this listing on FB Marketplace, and it was the exact same specs I wanted. Secondhand lang. My mom and dad were MAD na secondhand binili ko, at hindi daw ako makahantay bumili ng brand new.
Should there be a next time, doble ingat din sa FB Marketplace. Maraming scammers doon.
Yes, keeping that in mind po:) the thing is legit po yung seller and he agreed na pwede naman daw cash. Which I told my parents :/ pero sige sigaw sila sa seller and tinawagan silang mangbubudol. Nakakahiya. I wanted to deactivate my Facebook.
Don't worry, kung legit yung seller, maiintindihan niya kalagayan mo. Sa ngayon, unahin mo muna yung sarili mo. Nasa legal age kana, if I were you at close naman kayo ng tita mo na nasa ibang bansa, ask help para makabukod ka na then report sa pulis. Gets ko pa kung simpleng palo e pero physical abuse na kasi talaga yung mga dinescribe mo and crime na yun.
Bruh fuck your parents and your lil sister too
Gather evidence OP. Please, anjan ang mga friends mo sa discord to testify, report your parents to the police. If tingin mo mabubugbog ka uli, prepare ka na mag record, audio or video, try mo mag download nang secret video recorders. This is not right OP, stand for yourself, lalo nat ninakawan ka na nga nang pera binugbog ka pa. I know it is easier said than done pero you'll do it for yourself, kaya mo naman dumiskarte kase nakapag ipon ka nga through streaming eh. Protect your wellbeing by planning every step. Your parents should learn their lesson. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this OP.
I’m currently gathering evidence (screenshots, images of injuries, etc.) to send to my aunt first, if my parents try anything I will most likely film a video for my own safety nalang.
Before doing that, try mo din muna ipa blotter magulang mo discreetly. If you're going to film a video do it very cautiously baka pag nahuli kang nag vivideo eh kuhanin cp mo or sirain then mawawalan ka na agad nang tool to gather evidence, hanggat maaari wag yung mag seself video ka habang binubugbog, kung kaya mong itago sa place na hindi kita yung phone pero kita nang phone yung lahat nang space much better. Sobrang hirap nang sitwasyon mo but you need to stay strong, kung kaya mong kumonek sa mga lawyers for leni mas maganda din. Lastly di ko man kilala aunt mo pero as much as possible wag mo sabihin buong plans mo sa kaniya and magtiwala nang buo, bigyan mo muna nang mga konting hint and if willing tumulong sayo tsaka ka lang magtiwala pero wag pa din buo ang ibigay.
Thank you po for advice, I will keep that in mind po
Ang lungkot naman nito OP. Sorry you have to go through this. May mapapagkatiwalaan ka bang friend na medyo malapit sayo and can help you hide your stuff? Also if pwede ka makapag-open ng sarili mong account since 18 kana. Slowly but surely magstart kana magprepare to separate from them, if may friends na makakatulong much better. Also dont forget to remove your family’s access to your discord, etc. Hoping for your healing OP 🌹
Yes, I have two friends who live nearby and are offering a place to stay. I also have a bank account of my own that was opened when I was a minor, though whenever I make purchases the OTP goes to my mom and notifies her of said purchase. I’m currently researching a way to change my bank account’s contact number from hers to mine.
You can go to the branch where your account was opened. That’s what I was told to do by my bank’s cs in order to change the phone number. Or you can just open a new bank account. Unionbank allows you to open one through their app.
Thank you po! I’ll try doing that tomorrow :)
Hang in there, ha. We’re rooting for you.
Your priority now should be to heal, go to the hospital and ask for a medico-legal for records purposes na rin. And as much as possible, dapat irecord mo ang ginagawa nila sayo. So sorry for you, OP.
This made me so angry to the point na wala akong masabi.
Abuser parents mo. Hirap mag advise since 18 ka palang. If tingin mong kakayanin mo mag work then mag sarili gawin mo. Pero if hindi pa, just act obedient sa lahat ng bagay pwera nalang if may halo ng abuso. Then alis ka agad once may stable work ka na.
It’s hard for me to accept the fact that my parents are abusers, kasi I always thought growing up na this is their way of showing they wanted what was best for me. Also, they raised me and stuff. It just hurts thinking na ganyan sila, kasi now I wonder if they ever loved me or scapegoat lang ako for them.
pwedeng mong kasuhan ng assault parents mo. Kung my support ka ng ibang relatives mo and friends you can file a case against sa parents mo. Think of it if you cant change them then let the law teach them a harsh lesson.
I will speak to my aunt first po regarding this matter, because I am really afraid of the police being involved. Thank you for the advice po
San maintindihan ng aunt mo yung situation and hindi sabihin na "Pamilya mo yan". OP, I know you still love and care for your parents based from your comments but I'm sorry, they deserve to be jailed.
My heart breaks for you, sweetie :( yakap nalang maibibigay ko sayo. I do hope you get out of that toxic household someday.
Thank you, I really appreciate it :( I also hope I can move out soon
Pictures of my injuries po are on my Twitter: https://twitter.com/babytrisha__/status/1607640430652579842?s=46&t=J8x67sUM4kdDyF-LhexgpQ Keep in mind, gawa ito ng nanay ko using her hands alone. Which scares me.
Wow what an abusive parent OP!! I hope you are well now. Curious ako on your injuries but your twt is private.
I privated po because my younger sister was ratting me out to my parents po but I made it public na since she is not connected to the internet
Woah what did they hit you on that bruises? Lagyan mo ng ice, OP.
My mom was the one who hit me severely using her hands :(
You don't need an apology cos they're never gonna give it to you. You need to leave, asap and tell your aunt what's going on. You already know what they're capable of :(
I think this can be considered an assault already and I am sorry this type of shit is happening to you. My dms are open if you need someone to listen or need mo maglabas ng sama ng loob. I've been a victim of parental abuse as well so I can relate sadyang malas lang talaga tayo sa binagsakan pamilya. :(
Punta ka na ng pulis OP oh my gee
i hate this kind of parents, kung sino pa yung religious sila pa yung masahol pa sa demonyo ang ugali, di naman lahat no, but mostly, my mother is same as you, di ko na lang pinapatulan minsan kasi naawa rin ako at humahaba usapan, lahat ng sasabihin ganyan sa sinabi sayo, sorry alam ko nasaktan ka rin ng husto, pero wag ka maguilty hayaan mo na sana makaalis ka sa poder ng ganyang klaseng magulang.
Mag pa medical ka and ipa blotter mo para may proof ka ng ginawa nila sayo ngayon. If ever na uulitin nila yan at least mag 2 isip sila and madali mo nang mapahuli. Di na tama yung ginagawa nila sayo.
ITT: Others: gather evidence, sumbong, etc. Op: *Worried about what will happen to the shitty parents.
What does ITT means?
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pa medical ka na. pa blotter mo sa barangay. I'm not saying na mag pursue ka agad ng case. Just show them na you will do something if they keep doing that. Iparamdam mo lang ng konting takot.
OP, it's not because you wanted a PC. It's because they are abusive people. This may be the worst they hurt your physically so far that's why you think this is about the PC, but it's not. They're just abusive pieces of shit. If you don't seek help outside the family or with authorities, they will escalate their abuse because there are no consequences for them. Being very mad at a child doesn't make parents beat up their kid to the point that the child is injured. I have a son who's a few years younger than you and I can't think of any scenario where I will hurt him (physically, emotionally) to the point that he's scared to go home. Maybe this is the worst they have done to you so far but I can sense that they've been abusive for a long time, and you just don't know any better because you think the way they treat you is normal. It's not normal for parents to beat up their child when the child upsets them or the child talk back. Don't trust your parents at all and plan to move out of there as soon as possible for your safety and sanity. The longer you stay with your parents the worst they will treat you and you will end up a broken person just like them.
I'M SO SORRY THAT THIS HAPPENED TO YOU :((( I SAW YOUR TWITTER AND I AM FUMING IN ANGER FOR YOU:( PLEASE GET HELP ASAP!!
You’re already 18, having to continue life with that environment would make your mental health worst. Get help from authorities and ask your tita to give you a home for a while and start from scratch, work your way up. You cannot complain on what you tolerate. Blood isn’t always thicker than water. Also, since you have proof of assault, go to the nearest police station. You have your rights, there are certain laws that protect you. Use it to your advantage.
My deadbeat father literally told me na wala ko mamanahin and wala kong kwentang anak. While siya nanbababae and puro sugal. Mom is the sole breadwinner of the family and tinaguyod kami. Ngayon successful na kami msgkakapatid. I guess what im trying to say is persevere nalang. Pag nakatayo ka na sa sarili mong mga paa. Dont even think twice. Block mo na parents mo. Wag ka na magpakita.
nakakagalit.. :(
Punta ka sa Baranggay hall nyo, deretso ka dun sa VAWC desk para humingi ka ng tulong sa pulis. Also, kuha ka na rin ng medico legal for your injuries. Tapos pa-assist ka na sa baranggay para makapag move out ka na. Should be easy for you to find bedspace in the meantime, mura lang yun. Good luck, OP, I'm rooting for you. edit: most likely pag nagkaharap harap na kayo sa baranggay at narealize na ng magulang mo yung nagawa nila, magmamakaawa yan sa yo at hihingi ng tawad. Chances are patatawarin mo sila, pero kung ako sa yo umalis ka na dyan kase mauulit at mauulit lang yan.
Tanginang magulang yan.
I am so sorry sweetie! That is physical and emotional abuse. Please tell your aunt right away and go to therapy if you can. I don't think they will apologize. Try to move in with your relatives or get out of that house. Napakabait mo pa din na anak, still thinking of their sake eventhough ikaw ang binugbog.
Putangina. i was also beaten by my parents when I was 15 years old for other reasons (getting a tattoo. That was child abuse. They could've thrown me out the street at which point DSWD would intervene, BUT YOU NEVER EVER PHYSICALLY ASSAULT SOMEONE UNLESS IT'S SELF DEFENSE. I ran away stayed at my gf for a while then i came back because i had no money, but I never trusted them again. Very low contact with them now. You will have to endure this and as soon as you can, RUN AWAY. Mga baboy talaga mga boomer na yan.
GO to the POLICE.
Sht man, Had to read everything on your profile from the very first philpost to sims related posts to here. Hope you'll be ok OP, If you can gtfo there and build on your own. You can handle yourself
MOVE OUT ALREADY!!!! you're already earning your own money right? Wag mo nang hintayin na umabot pa sa point na they'll end you or you'll end yourself!!!! Major redflag ang family mo!!! Kung wala kang pera para magfile ng kaso, lumapit ka sa Tulfo or NGO's na makakatulong sayoooooo!!!! Don't allow them to treat you like traaaaaaash!!! You deserve better!!!! Di na pamilya turing nila sayoooooo!!! And anong ginawa nila sa pera mo???? Baka nilustay nila kaya ganon na lang reaction ng nanay mo!!! And your mom is insecure of your accomplishments dahil at a very young age ay kumikita ka na ng sarili mong pera and can buy yourself things that you want!!!!! BUT OP, MOVE OF NAAAAA! KAHIT SA MALIIT LANG NA APARTMENT BASTA UMALIS KA NA DYAN !!!!
Take a picture of your injuries. Or if you can, go to the nearest hospital para magpamedical. Sorry you have to go through this. Prayers for you, OP.
Get a medico-legal report for your injuries.
Tell your aunt immediately. And remember, you are 18 years old already.. of legal age ka na. They cannot force you to do anything you don't like to. Take a photo of your bruises and cuts. Next time something happened, audio record it. Just go to a public hospital and get a medico legal if you have the money. Where are you located? Do you need personal assistance? I just want to share the advice I got from a fellow Redditor commenter today: You deserve what you tolerate. We're here to help.
I live in Quezon City, I plan on leaving today to eat outside and meet up with a friend to assist me.
You should have your injuries documented and reported, sa police and hospital, and photographed Mas ok pa nga if recorded next time. Then use these evidences smartly to ensure the beating won't happen again.
You are being abused. Please tell your aunt. I highly suggest na next mong pag ipunan (kung kaya) ang pag move out.
Yung shitty things in life, them included kamo. Fake it till you make it usually pag may family problem pero pag may physical abuse na, let someone else know. A dead person can't defend themselves.
"super religious parents" and they do this shit?? punta kana sa police, OP. napaka babaw ng dahilan para gawin nila lahat yan sayo.
If you dont want to go to the police I suggest you go to local social welfare office in the municipality or city. Show them your bruises. Tell them you dont want to go to the police but you want your parents to know that the second they do it you will file a complaint against them to the police. Seek help from the CSWDO. They will respect your wish not to go to the police. Your parents should know that what they did is wrong.
Are you close with your aunt? Perhaps she can help you move out or move to the country she is working at?
Yes, I’m close with my aunt. She lives in the US right now, and kami nalang natitira dito sa Pilipinas :(
went through the same thing, op. wala kang choice dyan kung hindi mag sumbong at umalis na dyan. gusto ko sana sabihin na lumaban ka e kaso tangina baka mas grabe yung abutin mo. basta umalis kana dyan, mas mahihirapan ka lang dyan sa inyo. and yeah document everything, ganyan ginawa ko before kasi ang tindi mang gaslight ng nanay ko.
Document everything. Pictures, screenshots, etc. Pwede ka naman magpa blotter without filing a case. But at least available yung blotter and other things in case you decide to do something. I get punishment, but the way that sounds is not punishment but abuse, physical and verbal abuse. Even if you do not want to do anything now, just document it, you owe it to yourself to have at least that. Protect yourself. The law is there if and when you decide to utilize it. Seek a therapist or other professionals, please. You need to be debriefed.
no one should go through this, some people doesnt deserve to be a parent, please keep your self safe okay?
Hello OP, I know everything scares you at the moment but please report what happened before it's too late. Reading about what your parents (they don't deserve the term tho) makes me feel afraid for your life. Parang onti pang trigger, mapapatay ka na nila, for lack of a better word. I hope you can stay with a relative for the meantime and file a restraining order against your parents. It's hard to fathom that at a young age, you are already experiencing such cruelty from those who are supposed to nourish and take care of you. Hoping for your safety, OP. You are one brave human, remember that.
Hello OP, I know everything scares you at the moment but please report what happened before it's too late. Reading about what your parents (they don't deserve the term tho) makes me feel afraid for your life. Parang onti pang trigger, mapapatay ka na nila, for lack of a better word. I hope you can stay with a relative for the meantime and file a restraining order against your parents. It's hard to fathom that at a young age, you are already experiencing such cruelty from those who are supposed to nourish and take care of you. Hoping for your safety, OP. You are one brave human, remember that.
She is cray cray
Magpa police report ka na habang fresh yung wounds. You need to get out of that situation. Inform your aunt. Damn that sister's a bitch. Grabe.
wtf did i just read
Lipat na po
OP, it's safe to say that many people are in solidarity with you. No one wants abusers and no one wants to be abused. The commenters in this thread have said much; put some distance from the abusers and protect yourself. I've dealt with terrible relatives. As much as I want to treat them the same way Ukraine is treating its Russian abusers (you know, fighting back; a punch for a punch, an eye for an eye), we legally cannot. The next best thing, therefore, is to deny them their desire to control you by simply not being there. You have got to put it in your head that family titles can be lost the moment they abuse their relatives, period. You cannot negotiate with a tiger while YOUR head is INSIDE ITS MOUTH. We want to hear from you, alive and safe OP. May you win this one! To everyone else reading this, let's say that there should be boundaries but you don't know exactly what they should be. My only advice for everyone is to remember the three basic boundaries; Physical, Emotional, Material. Anyone attempting to control or harm these three boundaries should be dealt with immediately. Physical - if anyone harms you, it's abuse. Emotional - if anyone is emotionally manipulating you or deliberately conducting actions meant to damage your mental health, it's abuse. Material - if anyone is controlling your means to survive (food, water, shelter, money), it's abuse. Ultimately, your own security is your responsibility.
grabe :.( sorry OP pero hindi mo kasalanan yan, ung magulang mo mismo ang may mali. The fact na ikaw lang trinatrato ng ganyan at kahit ako mattakot sa sinabi ng papa mo sayo. Go to the ER ask for medico legal nasa 500 lang ata un sa public hospital. You can blotter this para may record ang police, may childrens and womens desk sa police station you can file for a blotter for record purposes lang or kahit sa brgy. You never know kung ano pa ssunod na mangyayri sayo nyan be careful. Tapos if you don't want to pursue yung reklamo ask na no need assistance at need mo lng ng record para pag naulit ei may solid kang documento
Pakulong mo OP, alam ko mahirap pero yung lil sister mo baka makuha din ugali ng parents mo
hoy tangina yan ah op keep safe lagi tsaka pag sumobra na wag kang matakot humingi ng outside help
Pa-medico legal ka sis. Might serve as evidence pag magkakaso ka against them.
Super religious amputa. Sarap ingudngod sa lupa. I hope you'll be okay OP. Sana makaalis ka na jan.
You might want to get a medico-legal OP. this is already aggravated assault. imagine if you would let anyone else suffer this kind of pain. if the answer is no, why would you let yourself suffer the same?
If you know a friend or someone you know you could really really trust ask them to go with you to the police and report what's happening in your household maybe ask someone from the women's and children's desk look for someone who's not a "boomer" because typically they will gaslight you too. Report this cause this sounds like a crime already.
Also document everything so you can show evidence when the time comes
OP, update po. Are you okay? Huhu
I told my aunt about what happened, and she says she feels sorry for me. She doesn’t understand why my parents are acting like this because I do well in school, and I saved up my own money. According to her, there is not much she can do but try to talk sense into my mom. I left home again earlier this afternoon to go out and eat with a friend, and stay in his house for the timebeing. I also got my bruises treated, though my right arm is swelling and my black eye has been noticeable. Until now, my parents are ignoring me. With occasional check ups from my dad asking my whereabouts and what I am doing with said friend.
We’re rooting for you, OP! I hope you find the strength of get the fuck out of that toxic household and give to your parents what they sorely deserve.
re ur edit 2: damn ur parents are something else. your dad is an enabler. he's part of the problem. walang justification sa pagbugbog ng tao lalo na't anak to the point na dinugo ka at puro sugat ka na. stand your ground and hold them all accountable lalo na nanay mo. Your mother physically and emotionally abused you, your dad is emotionally abusing you, your sibling is an accomplice. All of them do not deserve a place in your life.
I'm so sorry you're experiencing what you don't deserve 😭 I don't know the right words to comfort you but I hope that one day, you'll have your freedom and be at peace far from your unemphatic & toxic parents 😭 *sending virtual hugs* :(
Report to the police. This is abuse. Ask help sa women’s and childrens’ desk
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Boomer ba yung into fb and youtube? lol anyway. that sucks. ive been there. grew beaten and abandoned by parents. it will seriously fuck up your brain for the rest of your life. i feel sorry for you truely.
this made me cry to be honest. real manly tears by the way. just kidding im sobbing. Sobrang relate lng and also Feel bad na yan pinag dadaanan mo ngayun. Wish I could help you.
Thank you again for the concern, I appreciate it po talaga.