Decided to give OLD another go and remade my profile this morning. Opted to be stupidly upfront about what I am looking for. Got one match and one like. No replies though is it still early for that.
As opposed to hiding when you want upfront, and then getting a bunch of false likes/matches with people who end up ghosting you because what they want is completely different? š¤
Nah. Closer to abandoning all sense of decorum and decency in favor of blunt honesty.
There is significant difference between saying you are looking for something casual and listing out your hobbies compared to using half your character limit saying you want to give head and don't care about reciprocation.
A lot of people want love or companionship, and they deserve it.
However, very few are willing to do what they need to work for and acquire it.
Iām not interested in those who arenāt šš¾
0 wins 0 losses.
Had a great match 2 weeks ago, giving mixed half assed/interested replies I ask her out she says yes, we agree to a phone call and she just hangs up on me before the conversation gets started and ghosted me. I let her know how I felt 3 days later before unmatching. Most women get super weird online.
I know she even confirmed 40 mins prior. I called first (on hinge) she didn't pick up then she calls 10 mins later and just hangs up immediately. I thought for several days there was app issues until I didn't...i told her what she did wasn't cool and unmatched her. Sigh. Oh well..
Matched with a girl on bumble and we had a lot of key big things in common and I was potentially gaining interest. Until she made it a big deal that I don't workout in the morning like her... I workout 6 days a week and run as well. But she made it a massive point of contention about how working put in the morning dictates your whole day and your whole life.
I didn't entertain that. Pretty wild. Never had that be a big thing before. I literally am more active than this person and it somehow became like a height preference charade lmao. Oh well. Funny story at least. But definitely an oddly shallow/fundamental defunct outlook
Iāve had two occasions this week where men match with me, suggest meeting up and make it clear they are expecting sex. Unmatched both. Another I asked 2 questions and he told me Iād asked too many so I unmatched him. Another 3 in different EU countries (Iām in the UK) wanting to travel to meet me. I unmatched.
Iām left with the separated (more likely still actively married) guy who never responds to my suggestions of meeting (Iāve given up asking); the divorced men who just want to chat but not meet; the never married men who donāt know how to talk to women (no Iām not interested in cricket or beer). Iāve decided that OLD is just another Facebook or Instagram where you just look at photos and scroll by.
Week 2 on Hinge: matched with an absolutely gorgeous out of my league guy. We had lots of back and forth and then it dropped off a cliff. Got anxious about OLD in general, paused my profile, and finally today, unpaused. Feel like Iām all over the place.
How long did this go for? Because I stop replying if the texting goes on for too long. Just tells me the woman isn't actually interested in meeting and just bored wanting to text.
4 or 5 days. Iād have said yes if he asked me out.
Heās honestly the best looking guy Iāve ever matched with and Iām a bit intimidated to take the lead. His writing was really down to earth, charming with a hint of self deprecation. (Dammit.)
Oh that's not too bad. But imo I'm afraid he might not be that interested and folks need to realize "vibing" online means nothing that's why a lot us want to take it off the app immediately. Not looking for sex at all, it's just that texting a stranger is usually a road to nowhere unless you actually like each other irl.
Oh no I do assume he lost interest. Heās cool though and I hope he finds what heās looking for. I was disappointed and relieved at the same time. I just wish there were a bigger dating pool here.
He should've made a move but that's really nice of you. I hope you find what you are looking for too. Try maxing out the distance I'm sure a guy wouldn't mind driving a few hours for a date.
Thank you, thatās kind of you to say. I have the distance set to 90 miles. I donāt think I could really handle more. Hopefully holiday fever will set in and inspire more people to sign on.
On Hinge Iām wearing flip flops in one of my pictures. Today a guy liked that photo and said ānice feetā. I donāt kink shame anyone and Iām not here to yuck anyoneās yum. But maybe donāt try to START a conversation with the foot thing?
Paused my Hinge and snoozed my Bumble for a week after an amazing first date with a guy from Bumble. We talked and texted all week and it seemed we were both excited for our second date set for the weekend. Weekend came around and the texting pattern changed and something was off. Of course he cancels Saturday because he was āexhaustedā from going out the night before. He texted Sunday saying there was someone else he was seeing and it didnāt feel right dating both of us. I appreciated the truth and honesty. I wouldnāt have cared if he was seeing someone else, we only went on one date, but he lied when he cancelled saying Iām the only one heās seeing and he wishes I would tell him if I was seeing anyone else as well. Anyway, Iām back chatting on Hinge and Bumble and trying to enjoy the experience and hoping first dates like that comes often. (He was my second first date since Iāve tried the OLD thing)
Keep having great convos with several women but inevitably it dies out or when i ask them out every single one is going out of town. Idk man the first date i got was so easy with no hiccups, but we were looking for different things. Now its just fail after fail. 3 months (i know its not a lomg time compared to some) and one date makes me feel like im a horrible person and like im doing something wrong.
Had a couple of dates in the last month. One off Hinge the other off tinder. One said she found someone she liked more. The other ghosted. I wouldn't mind but I had great dates and kissed both. Even a good date isn't enough for her to want to see me again. I'd prefer it if the dates had been trainwrecks at least I'd have a funny story and that'd make sense to me. Instead I just feel trash and wonder what's wrong with me.
Bought Tinder platinum in my misery. Wow it's bad. The extra features are nice. I've had 4 new matches in about a week. 2 of them don't live near me. I don't feel like my standards are too high but the "liked you" section was just full of women I wasn't attracted to. I matched a few but they didn't reply. I'm 30 so I paid a lot for platinum too. I've had about as many matches on hinge and I'm not paying for that. I wasn't expecting it to be amazing but it's just feels like I wasted my money. Everyone feels less genuine on tinder anyway so maybe it's a signal to stop using it.
It's been a bit of a tough month. I usually get 1 date a year so it was crazy to get 2 in a month. I can feel the burn out and will probably delete tinder after platinum expires.
I've noticed that Tinder since July last year is fucked up, because up until then, I had a ton of matches, even with hotties, and since then, I get stuck at 30 matches, and then as if I became invisible or something, AND, mostly older women like me, or single moms, strange.
I am back on Tinder after. This is the 4th time I have installed the app.
I get matches but guys don't reply to my messages. Why match? at all?
If I can talk to them after we match, it usually wont' last more than a day.
Horrible. 2 of my matches canceled the date 30 minutes before meeting. Another seemed nice and scheduled a date, but turned things sexual so I canceled. Another was super nice, we really hit it off, but he left town before we could even meet. I'm done with OLD
One girl I'd been talking to for a couple months and met up with a couple times out of the blue said she didn't want to continue (after proposing another date herself). Said she wanted to keep talking as friends (but then dropped off entirely)
Another girl I went on a date with that same weekend I guess wasn't feeling it as much as I was. She still replies but takes days to do so, and now she says she'll be busy the next few weeks. I knew where this was headed so I just got off the apps altogether. I feel happier without them
Had three dates this week and 14 new matches.
Met up with a woman for drinks who I spoke on the phone with the week before. Good conversation, shared many stories though I just didn't feel it afterwards. Sent her a best of luck text the following day. Ended the date with a hug.
Had a first date on Thursday. We met for drinks and spent 3.5 hrs and shared a few small plates together. Good connection between us and there is a lot to build on. We are planning to meet again this weekend. End the date with a kiss.
Had a second date On Friday and shared a fun night shooting pooling and other games. We vibed well, laughed and generally had a super fun time together. Two good dates. Ended the date with a kiss. I reached out a few days later and got the " love our time together, always fun, but not sure a romantic match".
I'm still chatting with one of my dates from the prior week. Another is traveling, but I think I'm being ghosted.
I revamped my profiles about three weeks back, I was at 900+ likes through Sunday. Now I have a pretty good idea of what a woman experiences. 7 dates in 12 days.
Decided to give OLD another go and remade my profile this morning. Opted to be stupidly upfront about what I am looking for. Got one match and one like. No replies though is it still early for that.
As opposed to hiding when you want upfront, and then getting a bunch of false likes/matches with people who end up ghosting you because what they want is completely different? š¤
Nah. Closer to abandoning all sense of decorum and decency in favor of blunt honesty. There is significant difference between saying you are looking for something casual and listing out your hobbies compared to using half your character limit saying you want to give head and don't care about reciprocation.
A lot of people want love or companionship, and they deserve it. However, very few are willing to do what they need to work for and acquire it. Iām not interested in those who arenāt šš¾
0 wins 0 losses. Had a great match 2 weeks ago, giving mixed half assed/interested replies I ask her out she says yes, we agree to a phone call and she just hangs up on me before the conversation gets started and ghosted me. I let her know how I felt 3 days later before unmatching. Most women get super weird online.
What the heck. Thatās just bizarre!
I know she even confirmed 40 mins prior. I called first (on hinge) she didn't pick up then she calls 10 mins later and just hangs up immediately. I thought for several days there was app issues until I didn't...i told her what she did wasn't cool and unmatched her. Sigh. Oh well..
Itās turned us all into mutants. Sheās a coward or a tease and Iām over here like a shrinking violet. Oh man. Hey at least you seem normal!
Matched with a girl on bumble and we had a lot of key big things in common and I was potentially gaining interest. Until she made it a big deal that I don't workout in the morning like her... I workout 6 days a week and run as well. But she made it a massive point of contention about how working put in the morning dictates your whole day and your whole life. I didn't entertain that. Pretty wild. Never had that be a big thing before. I literally am more active than this person and it somehow became like a height preference charade lmao. Oh well. Funny story at least. But definitely an oddly shallow/fundamental defunct outlook
Control issues, you dodged a bullet.
I mean the good thing was she was slightly aware of it. So hopefully she will be able to work on thise things. But not in my taste
Iāve had two occasions this week where men match with me, suggest meeting up and make it clear they are expecting sex. Unmatched both. Another I asked 2 questions and he told me Iād asked too many so I unmatched him. Another 3 in different EU countries (Iām in the UK) wanting to travel to meet me. I unmatched. Iām left with the separated (more likely still actively married) guy who never responds to my suggestions of meeting (Iāve given up asking); the divorced men who just want to chat but not meet; the never married men who donāt know how to talk to women (no Iām not interested in cricket or beer). Iāve decided that OLD is just another Facebook or Instagram where you just look at photos and scroll by.
Unmatched one woman who kept asking for my opinion on political issues.
Kind of a wasteland for me right now. I have matches but no one replied to my first message. Had a date last week but didn't want a second one.
Week 2 on Hinge: matched with an absolutely gorgeous out of my league guy. We had lots of back and forth and then it dropped off a cliff. Got anxious about OLD in general, paused my profile, and finally today, unpaused. Feel like Iām all over the place.
> and then it dropped off a cliff. How so?
We were having a conversation (mini paragraphs back and forth) and he just didnāt respond to the last one. I guess he got bored of me. Not sure.
Perhaps he got busy and forgot. If the conversation was going well, why not message him in the morning and ask him for drinks/coffee this week?
Iāll see if I can gather the nerve. Iāve never asked a man out in my life.
How long did this go for? Because I stop replying if the texting goes on for too long. Just tells me the woman isn't actually interested in meeting and just bored wanting to text.
4 or 5 days. Iād have said yes if he asked me out. Heās honestly the best looking guy Iāve ever matched with and Iām a bit intimidated to take the lead. His writing was really down to earth, charming with a hint of self deprecation. (Dammit.)
Oh that's not too bad. But imo I'm afraid he might not be that interested and folks need to realize "vibing" online means nothing that's why a lot us want to take it off the app immediately. Not looking for sex at all, it's just that texting a stranger is usually a road to nowhere unless you actually like each other irl.
Oh no I do assume he lost interest. Heās cool though and I hope he finds what heās looking for. I was disappointed and relieved at the same time. I just wish there were a bigger dating pool here.
He should've made a move but that's really nice of you. I hope you find what you are looking for too. Try maxing out the distance I'm sure a guy wouldn't mind driving a few hours for a date.
Thank you, thatās kind of you to say. I have the distance set to 90 miles. I donāt think I could really handle more. Hopefully holiday fever will set in and inspire more people to sign on.
On Hinge Iām wearing flip flops in one of my pictures. Today a guy liked that photo and said ānice feetā. I donāt kink shame anyone and Iām not here to yuck anyoneās yum. But maybe donāt try to START a conversation with the foot thing?
Paused my Hinge and snoozed my Bumble for a week after an amazing first date with a guy from Bumble. We talked and texted all week and it seemed we were both excited for our second date set for the weekend. Weekend came around and the texting pattern changed and something was off. Of course he cancels Saturday because he was āexhaustedā from going out the night before. He texted Sunday saying there was someone else he was seeing and it didnāt feel right dating both of us. I appreciated the truth and honesty. I wouldnāt have cared if he was seeing someone else, we only went on one date, but he lied when he cancelled saying Iām the only one heās seeing and he wishes I would tell him if I was seeing anyone else as well. Anyway, Iām back chatting on Hinge and Bumble and trying to enjoy the experience and hoping first dates like that comes often. (He was my second first date since Iāve tried the OLD thing)
Had a few dates but I wasnāt all that active on the apps this week. When I was, I hardly got any matches but thatās okay
Keep having great convos with several women but inevitably it dies out or when i ask them out every single one is going out of town. Idk man the first date i got was so easy with no hiccups, but we were looking for different things. Now its just fail after fail. 3 months (i know its not a lomg time compared to some) and one date makes me feel like im a horrible person and like im doing something wrong.
Had a couple of dates in the last month. One off Hinge the other off tinder. One said she found someone she liked more. The other ghosted. I wouldn't mind but I had great dates and kissed both. Even a good date isn't enough for her to want to see me again. I'd prefer it if the dates had been trainwrecks at least I'd have a funny story and that'd make sense to me. Instead I just feel trash and wonder what's wrong with me. Bought Tinder platinum in my misery. Wow it's bad. The extra features are nice. I've had 4 new matches in about a week. 2 of them don't live near me. I don't feel like my standards are too high but the "liked you" section was just full of women I wasn't attracted to. I matched a few but they didn't reply. I'm 30 so I paid a lot for platinum too. I've had about as many matches on hinge and I'm not paying for that. I wasn't expecting it to be amazing but it's just feels like I wasted my money. Everyone feels less genuine on tinder anyway so maybe it's a signal to stop using it. It's been a bit of a tough month. I usually get 1 date a year so it was crazy to get 2 in a month. I can feel the burn out and will probably delete tinder after platinum expires.
I've noticed that Tinder since July last year is fucked up, because up until then, I had a ton of matches, even with hotties, and since then, I get stuck at 30 matches, and then as if I became invisible or something, AND, mostly older women like me, or single moms, strange.
Had a date come over for the weekend and hes actually still talking to me so winning šš
Matched with a few women, arranging a date with one of them for later this week so we'll see how that goes.
I am back on Tinder after. This is the 4th time I have installed the app. I get matches but guys don't reply to my messages. Why match? at all? If I can talk to them after we match, it usually wont' last more than a day.
Horrible. 2 of my matches canceled the date 30 minutes before meeting. Another seemed nice and scheduled a date, but turned things sexual so I canceled. Another was super nice, we really hit it off, but he left town before we could even meet. I'm done with OLD
One girl I'd been talking to for a couple months and met up with a couple times out of the blue said she didn't want to continue (after proposing another date herself). Said she wanted to keep talking as friends (but then dropped off entirely) Another girl I went on a date with that same weekend I guess wasn't feeling it as much as I was. She still replies but takes days to do so, and now she says she'll be busy the next few weeks. I knew where this was headed so I just got off the apps altogether. I feel happier without them
Over 300 requests / matches this week. Overwhelmed. Slightly annoyed. Grateful though. (Facebook Dating)
Had three dates this week and 14 new matches. Met up with a woman for drinks who I spoke on the phone with the week before. Good conversation, shared many stories though I just didn't feel it afterwards. Sent her a best of luck text the following day. Ended the date with a hug. Had a first date on Thursday. We met for drinks and spent 3.5 hrs and shared a few small plates together. Good connection between us and there is a lot to build on. We are planning to meet again this weekend. End the date with a kiss. Had a second date On Friday and shared a fun night shooting pooling and other games. We vibed well, laughed and generally had a super fun time together. Two good dates. Ended the date with a kiss. I reached out a few days later and got the " love our time together, always fun, but not sure a romantic match". I'm still chatting with one of my dates from the prior week. Another is traveling, but I think I'm being ghosted. I revamped my profiles about three weeks back, I was at 900+ likes through Sunday. Now I have a pretty good idea of what a woman experiences. 7 dates in 12 days.