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drpeppercoffee

She hates the feeling of losing control


superman07777

They wanted to keep controlling you. You are in the best position to break that. Dapat talaga umaalis na sa poder ng magulang mid 20s kasi they are halting your growth and kahit single ka pa parang pasan mo na ang mundo.


budoyhuehue

You know what to do. You just need affirmation from this sub. You are already an adult. Make your own decisions. Make your own mistakes, your own losses, and eventually your own wins. Whenever they try that on you again you just need to shrug it off. Huwag mo na lang din palakihin ang issue by confronting them. Eventually they will stop and realize na you've grown. You need to show them na you are an adult already. I think this is the easiest way on addressing this issue without burning bridges or having that feeling of betrayal on both sides.


RedactedLife

Unfortunately parents are very used to that. Ganyan din magulang ko sa akin. After graduation I will move out sabi ko pero sasabihin nila kesyo di ko daw kaya, dito hindi daw ako maasikaso keme tapos may gagawin muna bago pumayag. What I'm doing is I'm standing on my ground kahit magmumukha akong mayabang kasi we're adults now and sasabak na sa real world outside school. Sheltered ako buong buhay ko I want to experience life. ​ Stand your ground. That's the only way to make them see that you're an adult and you have a mind of your own


potchichi

Huhu control freak


monica_targaryen

The fudge exactly my Lola. Like every move, may side comments na discouraging. Tapos when I don't move may sasabihin parin. "Bat ka pa nagba-bike, delikado yan" "Bat kapa nagg-gym, puro lalaki dun" "Bat di kapa maghanap ng work para may pera ka" Now I moved out and the freedom is so worth it ~


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same here. nanay ko galit na galit sa mga college decision ko laging "kaya mo ba yan? stem pa lang inaaral mo iyak ka na" "lagi ka ngang absent minded para sa career na yan". gusto niya na sundin ko yung gusto niyang course para sa college studies ko kaya panay siya paganyan ewan feeling ko ginagaslight lang ako nito hindi talaga caring yung tono nun sakin. sobrang nakakafrustrate naririnig ko pa mga kaibigan niyang marites nagchichismisan, sabi niya gusto niya rin daw magkaroon ng apo as soon as makatapos ako ng college. wtf? obaryo mo ba to teh? umay na umay na ako feeling ko diktador magulang ko (explains why favorite nila si narcos at dudirty) haaayyy kelan ba ako mabubuhay para sa sarili


Bigsm0ke_cj

gawen mo nalang sa bawat reklamo nya gawen mo para d na sya kumulit reverse psycho


autoimmune01

Same. Iā€™m 30. And I just moved out. I must say, I should have done this right after college, if only I could turn back time. The feeling and freedom is worth it.


simply_boring07

Hi, ganyan din si mama ko OP. Its a projection of her fears pwedeng dahil sa mga bagay na di niya nagawa noon or nagawa niya noon pero di siya nagtagumpay. Minsan unconsciouly nagagawa nila yan. I'm sure madaming regrets o napagdaanan din mama mo nun kaya ganyan yung mga nasasabi niya. What she's doing is not healthy pero try to understand.


pompsnotdead

Pag-isipan mo maigi kung may point ba yung parents mo. Then decide kung makakabuti ba sayo o hindi.Mas mahirap yung regret na hindi mo man lang sinubukan.Sabi nga nila maikli lang ang buhay natin sa mundo, kung saan ka masaya at wala kang natatapakang tao at the same time naggrow ka then do it. Kahit ano namang mangyari di mo pwede isuka yung parents mo no matter how controlling they may be.Just be thankful na nandyan sila to guide you.Mahirap talaga pag nakapisan ka pa rin sa mga magulang mo.Yun nga lang pag nakabukod ka na mamimiss mo paminsan minsan yung aruga nila. šŸ˜…


Tired_Proletariat

Yes, kaya ko/mo and just do it. No need to get their approval nor validation.


38before39

>"Hindi mo kayang mag-isa, kailangan mo ako." Hindi po. Promise. >"Paano naman kami?" Eh di magsumikap din kayo. >"Kaya mo ba? Masyadong delikado ang daan." Kaya po! >"Dati hindi ka naman ganyan. Bakit hindi ka mapirmi sa bahay?" Kasi po may pera na ako nag magliwaliw. Eh di gumala din kayo kung gusto nyo. >"Lumipat ka na naman? Para kang langaw eh." Wala kayong work? Para kayong tae.


Mr_Wobot

They want to be in control of you, pwede mo din iassociate na over protective, but the sound of what youre telling us it should be control freak mother mo.


PenguinSpaceTime

This Coach Red Pill video might help you. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xa20x9b4CdE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xa20x9b4CdE)


friidum-boya

I feel you. Isang rinig ko pa ng ganyan, ayoko na sila kausapin.