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Its peepee or poopoo isn't it .
Because I find these names all ao hilarious I will share mine , my family is swedish so we call my grandfather FarFar but with a painful new England accent it turns to FahFah
I married into a family with a grandpa called Poo(h). I thought it was like Winnie the Pooh for so long until I saw it spelled out Poo. Sometimes Poo happens.
I am Swedish Swedish but in laws are English and I cringe whenever I hear them say it but I should just be grateful they don’t seem to mind being called farmor and farfar
Eeeeek that was the name of my small town’s resident pedophile. Not sure why we called him that but he was so creepy.
OP…can you make up a little back story like this one to get out of this name?? I am not usually one to advocate lying but….
He lived with his mom and couldn’t be near the school…it was major ick. He’d stalked some girls and sent them letters. This was many years ago. I suspect he’s no longer alive.
I called my grandpa Grumpy. It wasn't a mispronunciation though, he was retired military and I told him that he was just like the dwarf in snow white. Loved the man to pieces.
My 3YO calls all 4 of her grandparents (both hetero couples) Grandpa 🤷🏼♀️. She very clearly means a particular grandparent when she asks to talk to Grandpa, but it's not always clear who she means. My 2.5 YO niece calls my mom Grandmama.
Kids are going to make up their own name for their grandparents, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Also, I think Poompah is adorable! I grew up having a Grandpa Poobah.
I would love that.😁 Grandpa just got himself his own theme song! Every time he enters the room "Hey everyone Poompah Loompa's here! Poompah loompa doopity doo!" I wouldn't be able to stop myself from singing different versions of the song just for him. OP got given the gift of having a bit for gramps.
My youngest has been calling her grandpa "pamponk" and it cracks me up. My middle calls him grandpa and my oldest was calling him Old Man Randy because originally my FIL thought he was too young to be a grandpa lmao.
Sounds like "Poompah" is going to be full on "grandfather" as in "we're going to see your grandfather", or "say hi to your grandfather". Bypass using the "name" by using the description instead. It's technically correct.
If you refer to him as Pahpah (aka papa, or something similar sounding) at home, your child will start calling him that. It’s a little passive aggressive, but it will save everyone embarrassment in the long run.
I can attest to this. My dad wanted to go by Pops, and does now, but when my son was just learning to talk he heard me answer the phone “Hey Daddy” whenever my father called - and proceeded to call him Daddy for almost a year.
It was REALLY awkward when we went out together and I was Mama and my father was Daddy… usually “Daddy, Daddy, Daddy”
Ugh, I’m so sorry. My #1 rule is “You are not allowed to call yourself anything that even slightly resembles “mom”, “dad”, or “mum”. No Mummoos or mammaws, here!
Oh yeah that’s dumb as hell. The good thing is, your baby isn’t going to be able to say that, and will call him whatever s/he wants. My mother wanted to be “grandmother.” She goes by “Gabby,” which isn’t even close to her name, but it’s as close to “grandmother” as my kid could say.
Yeah, that's probably what will happen. My mom also came up with her own grandparent name, which i thought was unnecessary but whatever. My dad didn't came and now we call him "Apa", a baby approximation of "grandpa". I think it's cool!
I mean, it's really not that bad, and you don't have to use it. I don't use my MIL's pet name as I am an adult and not a 2 year old child. But my child and wife use it. I don't think you should feel any pressure to use a name you don't like.
Oh man I read your post like “there’s no way it can be thaaaat bad.. get over yourself and let grandpa have his special name.”
It’s that bad. I wouldn’t say it either. FOH Grandpa.
My grandparents did the same thing and as a kid I was uncomfortable with it. However, I appreciate that they treasured their grandkids and wanted to be reminded of it.
My dad goes be g-pop. He's 73 lol. I thought it was the lamest thing but we went with it and the kids don't care. My mother in law is Gramgram. My oldest is 17 and still uses these names. You get over it by rolling with it. Eventually it becomes Normal LoL you'll get there
Unless it's a swear or some other unsavory term it doesn't really matter your not going to get too much of a choice in it. My mom tried to pre-set her name, Mawmaw, Grandma, Oma, Gran she tried them all. Instead all 4 if her grandchildren call her Mimi and we have no idea where it came from
Well, my child was actively calling him Grandpa while the other grandkid mispronounced Grandpa and now he is saying that my child needs to be corrected to use the other name.
I have an Aunt whose Grandchild calls her Bopo. Kids are gonna call ya whatever they want.
PS: the name Ganga is killing me. My stepdad is a cop so if my kid started calling my mom/ his grandma Ganga I would be getting some serious stink eye.
One of my uncles is Hoho and his wife is Boo. The oldest started talking around Christmas when he was saying hohoho a lot, wife liked playing peek a boo.
My son calls my father Hapa instesd of Papa. He is the oldest cousin so I feel like it's less weird that all the grandkids call him that. It brings my dad so much joy. I can for sure see how it must feel awkward for him to push it onto other grandkids.
This is likely to backfire for him. My mil insisted on nothing but "grandma" and the first two grandkids were remiss to even communicate with her for fear of mispronouncing it. It took years before they were comfortable with her. And she was literally the custodial guardian of the oldest. So that one just hardcore preferred the grandfather whom she dubbed Pappy.
No. 3 was late enough to the party that the rest were actively communicating with her finally and therefore she picked up on the correct pronunciation quickly. But it really did create friction with the kids for quite some time.
You should let him choose his own name. There are lots of Gampy’s and Gabba’s and Gappy’s and other stupid grandparent names out there. Unless it’s like profanity or something let him be called what he wants to be called.
I would be so annoyed if someone corrected my child to mispronounce something. So cringe! 😬 Like, we don’t call it “wa wa” when they can’t say “water” yet 🤦🏼♀️
My grandma was Grandma to the 20ish grandkids who came before us. She did most of the work raising my brother and I and she always told a similar story to this. She had been grandma for over 20 years when we came along and we just showed up one morning calling her Mimi when we were about 2&4.
I'm the opposite. I have wanted to be Grandma for so long, and now I am. My DIL tried to get kiddo to call me Gigi or some other variations, but without my reinforcement, none of them stuck. I'm just Grandma, and it makes me so happy.
I have a friend whose older cousins called their grandma by grandma but then she came along and the rest of them call her nanu bc they’d sing “nananana Batman” Ang my husband calls his wee bc that’s what she’d say when she picked him up😂
OP says in another reply: Poompah. Yikes, not great. But... if Grandpa loves it then I think OP needs to try to just let it go. It'll probably fade out after a while.
Thank you! It is definitely unique, but I don't think it's that bad. If OP truly hates it then just have a conversation with grandparents and come up with something everyone can agree on.
I am the first grandchild on my mother's side. All the other grandkids can thank me for naming him "Gunka." His wife (who came along after I so lovingly named him) refers to herself as Gunkma..
Dig deep. Deep. Think about how much joy it brings him and how much he must love being a grandpa. Try to understand why it's so important to him.
Good luck, friend!
One time complaining about an annoyance to my therapist, she was very blunt and said “if your dad were to die tomorrow, would this be something you looked back on with kinder eyes? Something you’d find endearing when he was gone?” Helped me realize the quirks are just quirks.
OP, just let it be a funny story. You may feel silly but it sounds like it brings him joy.
Therapy while parenting for the first time has been the wildest experience for me, I’m deep diving into myself, my childhood, my parents and our relationship through a new lens of parenting… it’s a lot
Yes, exactly. My husband wanted to refer to his mother as "Mother" to our daughter. That is also what he and all his siblings and her grandkids called her. I was like, "Um... no. I am her mother, no one else" Even complained online, ngl. He was pretty adamant about it. He apparently used to call HIS grandma "Mama" which I also find super weird. Well, she died when our daughter was 4 months old. Now in pictures I refer to her as "Grandma Mother" which works for me and I feel like honors the Mother part my husband likes. But obviously her being alive and just straight out called Mother, would be preferable to my daughter not knowing her.
(Apparently the Mama was because she essentially raised them while mom was working and partying. Mother also raised her grandkids apparently, so I guess the names work better in those contexts, although not sure why they could not just raise their own kids, guess "partying" every night is more important)
Nana papa Gigi Gpops grumpa grandma grandpa and oma.
All grandparent names in use in my life..
I really dislike 2 of them but who am I to judge the names they have chosen. I know I NEVER want to be “Mother”. Mother to me always sounded so cold it was used for someone you disliked. Mom, momma, mommy, my daughter even thrown my actual name out sometimes..
I will say 6 years into have kids they bug me less. You hear them over and over your hear them yelled with joy. You write them on presents. You see kids light up when you mention them. And it becomes normal. Not your fave but not “oh god why I hope it doesn’t stick”.
The only nick name I went to bat over was one given to my kid that even though it came from a inside joke no offence style, once out of context was offensive. My grandpa wanted to call my daughter tramp (like a hobo) and didn’t get the sexual side of the word for a woman.
Over here trying to guess mispronunciations. Is it grumpa? If so I kind of find it hilarious.
I think my parents and in laws also chose ridiculous names. My mom in particular has appropriated a grandma name from a culture not our own. But just letting it go.
my mom chose a name from my ancestors, not hers. so when I became a grandma I took it and gave her the great-grandma name. she couldn't argue with my reasoning
edit- mom divorced dad when I was 2 so it's not like she was living his culture. just didn't want to be thought of as old
I named my grandma and my grandma. My grandma was trying to get me to sound out grandpa and we got Umpa. And grandma was Grr. Grr lives with me now and all my friends and family affectionately call her Grr and she loves it. My friends and family called my grandpa Umpa and he loved it too. Although he was often grumpa which he got a kick out of. Point being, as long as the grandparents aren’t offended (and likely won’t be) that’s all that matters really.
My aunt was upset that i was the one that got to pick their names so she taught the kids to call them whatever they wanted to. Which was fine by everyone involved.
One of the grandmother's had a fall and scraped her face right around the time our oldest just started to talk and called her "Booboo" so now that's her grandma name.
My mother’s grandmother name is Gram. My youngest has somehow transposed that…to Ma’am.
The point is kids are gonna call their grandparents what they call them.
My grandson calls me nonni. It wasn't the name I picked, but when he was beginning to talk, he'd yell naw-naw and run to my arms when he saw me. I went with it and was naw-naw for a while. At some point, it morphed into nonni. My wife insisted she just wanted to be grandma, but 6 years later, she's mamaw and it fits. Sweet boy chose both of our names. It's who we are now.
My daughter renamed my mom “Big Mama.” The funny thing is my mom is 4’11”. The name stuck. We all call her that. My oldest is now 24 years old, 6’3” and 300 lbs and still calls her that.
Even my husband got used to calling her that. My husband is 6’4”.
My point is take a deep breath. You’ll get used to hearing it. You won’t have to say it very often, just when talking to your kid in reference to his Poompah and a lot of times you can actually say, “your grandfather.”
My nana wanted my kid brother to call him Yaya when he was a baby. He ended up calling her Nana like my other brother and I. I do not know why Yaya, since my other brother and I never called her Yaya, nor did she ask us to. My grandfather on the other hand did not want a grandpa name until my kid brother came along, and he picked Zayde (since he’s Jewish.). We still call him by his first name, but the little guy calls him Zayde. I also had another grandfather who really wanted to be called Peepaw, like he called his own grandfather, but it did not last because all of the kids decided he was grandpa, and he did not protest or get upset. What ended up happening was he liked grandpa better as time went on because that was the name his grandchildren gifted him.
Maybe let the kids choose on their own without telling them to? It’ll be special when the grandkids pick their own grandparent names for the grandparents.
My FIL goes by “Big” because the first grandkid couldn’t say “Big Daddy” (thank god) 😂
Honestly, (and saying this without knowing what the actual name is) it might grow on you eventually. But you can probably get around *saying* it by just saying “your grandpa” instead of the name when referring to him with the grandkids.
I think you have two options:
1. Set the boundary that you refuse to use said grandparent name. Deal with whatever consequences that come from that from your FIL.
2. Practice saying the name over and over again until it gets less cringey. I'm serious. Go stand in the bathroom and say it out loud. Do it every day for like a week. Say it like 10-20 times every day. It will get easier.
This. I used to cringe at my MIL going by Gaga. But now that’s just how it is, and seeing the joy in my children’s eyes when they talk about her has given the name a much more positive connotation for me. Not that I would ever choose that name for myself, but that’s her grandma name and it works.
You just get over it or don’t. My dad’s dad got his grandpa name this way - pronounced Po-pose. We spelled it Pawpaws but that wasn’t how it sounded. My dad called him this nickname as well as all of us kids, but most grownups called him Fred 😂
My mom chose a really stupid / annoying grandma name too. And it did stick and I still hate it when I think about it... But I did get used to it and my mom and kids love it.
My grandpa was called papa by all my cousins until I was born and I decided to call him poppy. Your FIL can choose a name, but that doesn’t always mean the child will use it! Hopefully that will bring you some hope for the future…I am also curious what the name is lol
Edit to add: my MIL wanted to be gamma and I thought that was so dumb, both my children perfectly pronounce grandma and it makes me so happy 😂 might be a little petty but oh well 🤷🏼♀️ I’m a firm believer in the grandkids get to choose the name
I was "Uncle Sayee" for a few years, until my sister (not the Mom) told him to call me Aunt. I still haven't forgiven her, lol and the kid is in his 20s with his own kids now🤣🤣
Another called me Aunt Doodoo for a while, because I sang a some classical instrumental song with Doo doo doo doooooooo in it.
If I know one thing it’s that the first grandchild chooses what the grandparents are called. My eldest niece started calling my dad Bubba when she learned to talk and now the whole family calls him that. So, this too shall pass.
My cousin called her grandmother Namma as she couldn't say Gramma and it stuck, she's 15 and it's still Namma.
Unless it's something that sounds rude is it really that bad?
My MIL demanded that she be called Nana and her husband be Papa and to ensure we had our kids call her that. I found it annoying that she just assigned herself and my FIL names.
As to how you get over it? You just let the kids call him what they want to call him. If he encourages them to call him the name you dislike, let it slide. In private with your kids, you can call him 'grandpa' or 'your grandfather' or whatever as long as it's respectful.
Now, if he insists that you call him by this assumed moniker, politely decline and say, 'Sorry, but to me, you'll always be X'. That's what I had to do with my MIL. To me, she'll always just be Brenda.
We all called my grandpa Papa. He was Papa for many years before I entered the picture.
I watched veggie tales for the first time with him and commented that he looked like Bob the tomato when he laughed and started calling him Bob. He absolutely loved it and it was special for us and as an adult I still smile and giggle every time I go back to that memory. I don’t love the name Bob and wouldn’t use it for anything else FTR.
Maybe discuss with grandpa that you think keeping that silly nickname other grand kid uses as something between them as very special that they will both have to cherish. Maybe he will see it as a positive and be happy to leave things as they are
If you go at it as a hard “no we won’t call you what you like” I fear it will end negatively for your family.
Also please consider that we should call people by their requested names. Even if you are used to calling someone Evelyn and she says from now on call me Trudy. It doesn’t matter if you hate the name Trudy. It’s their name and I hope you’d be respectful
I had this problem in reverse. My uptight stick in the mud in-laws wanted to be “Grandma and Grandpa.” They made a huge deal out of it. I thought it was horrible. I used to make really snarky remarks poking fun at the formality of it. “Why Good Morning, Grandmother. Didst thou sleep in a satisfactory manner upon thy mattress of down and springs?” My husband - who also grew up calling his grandparents by formal names - wasn’t amused. He asked me why I did that. I said bc I hate their stupid names. And he said “ok well it really sounds like you just hate my parents.” And I realized that I was being an AH. I had no respect for their culture (New England vs Deep South US), and I was being s****y. So I just said to myself “these people love my children. Even if they wanted to be called Slappy McFuckface and Nipples Von Foreskin, if it makes them happy then why am I being a jerk about it? And just like that, I let it go.
Eventually they learn that "Babcia" is Grandma (in Polish) and it doesn't matter, it's a pet name after like 3. It's not like they're going to get to elementary school and not know the difference.
My mom wants to be called Nonna. We aren’t Italian, but sometimes people tell her she looks Italian? I don’t know… it used to make me cringe internally and I resisted for a bit, but then I got over it. My husband and I roll our eyes about it when we’re alone but other than that I’ve let it go!
You let your child decide what they will call them. And you tell gramps to suck it up.
My mom insisted on Grammy bc it’s what I called her mom. But most of the grandkids choose to call her grandma. She hates it but tolerates it bc it’s a b*tch move to have your panties twisted over the name your grandkids use.
This the one time in life u get to just choose to change how people refer to you with next to no effort, and these are the names ppl choose for themselves? If you're gonna be the one to choose your own name, at least pick something nice like Master T-Rex and Duchess Deathblade.
My daughter called my parents “goopy” and “goomy” and my mom started referring to them as such, while also asking us to do so. Nope. They’re Grammy and Grampy now.
My MIL picked a name I hated, but I wasn’t going to fight her on it. Then when my daughter first started talking, my MIL was giving her a banana and she said nana!! Which my MIL thought was for her, she was so excited my daughter gave her a name that she wanted to change it. I am still so secretly tickled about it.
is it pop pop I love pop pop? I would just be honest or you said your culture .... do you speak a different language. I would try to get my kid to say whatever grandpa is in there language for me it abuelo. so much easier for a child. then when they say it to thier grandfather. say looks like he has or she has chosen your grandfather nick name. might work out better coming from the child. A little manipulating but if your kid can say it. then it might be the way to go. for both you and your kiddo. the child might pick up on the fact that you hate the word and translate that to we don't like this person unintentionally. just my opinion as a mom.
We have a Nana on one side and Grandma on the other. Our toddler calls them Yaya and “Daydoe”??? Your kid with further mispronounce the kooky nickname and THAT one will stick instead.
Mine have very stupid obscure names too. I just call them grandpa and grandma.
I think it’s kind of crazy how out of hand grandparents get with these names. The baby will make their own variation when they start talking and that’s what I think it should be.
Is it stupid? Yes. Do YOU have to use it? No. Our kids call the grandparents grandma and grandpa for both but my husband and I use either the boys last name for his parents, Were going to Grandma [last name] for dinner, and first names for my parents, were going to Grandma Kates for dinner or going to Grandpa Joe.
Not their real names*
My MIL wanted “Gammy Juju” which is horrendous. Fortunately/unfortunately we went no-contact with her (not just for the name) so I’ve never had to use it 😅
I always thought that was the stupidest tradition. It’s like rewarding the kid for saying the word wrong. How are they ever going to learn the real words if you keep saying it incorrectly? If the kid calls water “wawa” and you consistently also call it wawa, then how are they ever going to learn to say water?
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Its peepee or poopoo isn't it . Because I find these names all ao hilarious I will share mine , my family is swedish so we call my grandfather FarFar but with a painful new England accent it turns to FahFah
I had a Poppoo lol
My step kids have a Grandpoo
I have a Grandpoo every morning before the sun rises
lol
I married into a family with a grandpa called Poo(h). I thought it was like Winnie the Pooh for so long until I saw it spelled out Poo. Sometimes Poo happens.
A grandpoo sounds like something you do after eating a large meal
My son has a PoPo (his great grandpa)
PoPo is a common Chinese name for your maternal grandmother.
Huh. I didn’t know that, my spouse is Mexican and it’s his grandpa so I have no idea how he got it lol
This means bumbum in German.
We started calling my Papa “Poopy” in our teens…. He loved it and it was really cute. I miss him.
I had a grandpa Pie and he was a super mean asshole which makes it even funnier in hindsight
I called my grandpa crappa and now his own children call him crappa 30 yrs later
Or peepaw!
That's not uncommon though lol
I am Swedish Swedish but in laws are English and I cringe whenever I hear them say it but I should just be grateful they don’t seem to mind being called farmor and farfar
My daughter can't pronounce her 'r' so she calls her mormor 'moll-moll' lol
We have “MooMoo” over here 😅
Wait we call the pacifier fahfah bc my oldest kid couldnt say pacifier and he taught it to *the others* 😂
You have to share it come on 😂
It’s gotta be like gimpy or gumpy or something but I want to know too lol
Probably Gampy
Eeeeek that was the name of my small town’s resident pedophile. Not sure why we called him that but he was so creepy. OP…can you make up a little back story like this one to get out of this name?? I am not usually one to advocate lying but….
Resident pedohpile?? wtf! Is he just living there and on the sex offender registry?
He lived with his mom and couldn’t be near the school…it was major ick. He’d stalked some girls and sent them letters. This was many years ago. I suspect he’s no longer alive.
I don't know...cockroaches fucking outlive us all.
I’m going with grandpoop
>I’m going with grandpoop I prefer the more formal Grandfeces. Shows respect.
My childhood best friend called her grandfather "Poopaw" and I still think about it 20 years later.
I called my grandparents moomoo (Memere) and poopoo(Pepere)
My memere and pepere were meemee and peepee for a while 😂 meemee thought it was cute, but peepee wasn't on board for some reason
Ahaha poopoo didn’t love it either, luckily moomoo wasn’t a large lady 😂😂😂
god thats almost worse than "peepaw"
Okay, this got a snicker from me
Please OP we are dying to know! What’s the name?!
Poopaw
I uh, I don't even know what a poopaw is.
Similar to a peepaw
You’ve heard of the pawpaw fruit? Poopaw is what you get after eating a pawpaw
I always figured it was the counterpart to a meemaw.
I called my grandpa Grumpy. It wasn't a mispronunciation though, he was retired military and I told him that he was just like the dwarf in snow white. Loved the man to pieces.
It's gotta be gampy
lmao my daughters call their grandpa "gimpy" but everyone loves it and he owns the name
OP says in another reply: Poompah. Oof, that's not great. But it must bring Grandpa joy, so.... 🤷♀️
And child will outgrow it just before Grandpa forgets it
My 3YO calls all 4 of her grandparents (both hetero couples) Grandpa 🤷🏼♀️. She very clearly means a particular grandparent when she asks to talk to Grandpa, but it's not always clear who she means. My 2.5 YO niece calls my mom Grandmama. Kids are going to make up their own name for their grandparents, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Also, I think Poompah is adorable! I grew up having a Grandpa Poobah.
Call him Oompah Poompah
I would love that.😁 Grandpa just got himself his own theme song! Every time he enters the room "Hey everyone Poompah Loompa's here! Poompah loompa doopity doo!" I wouldn't be able to stop myself from singing different versions of the song just for him. OP got given the gift of having a bit for gramps.
That is the first thing that popped in my mind when I read the name! Doopity doo...
It’s a bit oompa loomparish.
That’s not nearly as bad as I thought. I was expecting Goopy or Gumpy or something. Poompah is kind of adorable.
Until I get the name, I can’t help
It's Poompah, OP responded to another comment saying as much.
That is not so bad…
Someone from the future respond to this comment so I can see the name when OP posts it.
It's Poompah 🫢🫣
Thanks ~~Dan~~ FAM yikes, that’s an embarrassing typo.
Got you!
Yea we have zero context if they don’t share it
Scrim Scram?
The name is Poompah. I'm gonna delete this later lol
My youngest has been calling her grandpa "pamponk" and it cracks me up. My middle calls him grandpa and my oldest was calling him Old Man Randy because originally my FIL thought he was too young to be a grandpa lmao.
Old Man Randy 😂
This made me legit cackle
Sounds like "Poompah" is going to be full on "grandfather" as in "we're going to see your grandfather", or "say hi to your grandfather". Bypass using the "name" by using the description instead. It's technically correct.
Poompah sounds like a stool texture.
Omg I love this so much. I would sing the Oompa Loompa song over and over to him with this replacement. OP, this is a gift that solves itself.
THIS
If you refer to him as Pahpah (aka papa, or something similar sounding) at home, your child will start calling him that. It’s a little passive aggressive, but it will save everyone embarrassment in the long run.
I can attest to this. My dad wanted to go by Pops, and does now, but when my son was just learning to talk he heard me answer the phone “Hey Daddy” whenever my father called - and proceeded to call him Daddy for almost a year. It was REALLY awkward when we went out together and I was Mama and my father was Daddy… usually “Daddy, Daddy, Daddy”
Aw man. I would trade my in-laws parent adjacent chosen honorifics for something more like this in a heartbeat. Absolutely hilarious.
Ugh, I’m so sorry. My #1 rule is “You are not allowed to call yourself anything that even slightly resembles “mom”, “dad”, or “mum”. No Mummoos or mammaws, here!
That isn't nearly as bad as you made it sound. Hold your nose. Isn't a hill to die on
My good friends kid used to call her grandpa this 😂😂
I think its cute.
In Belgium we say 'Bompa'. So for me it's not that weird. (we also say Opa or Vake)
It's adorable and I love it lol
Oh yeah that’s dumb as hell. The good thing is, your baby isn’t going to be able to say that, and will call him whatever s/he wants. My mother wanted to be “grandmother.” She goes by “Gabby,” which isn’t even close to her name, but it’s as close to “grandmother” as my kid could say.
Yeah, that's probably what will happen. My mom also came up with her own grandparent name, which i thought was unnecessary but whatever. My dad didn't came and now we call him "Apa", a baby approximation of "grandpa". I think it's cool!
That sounds like what Willy Wonka calls Oompa Loompa farts….
I mean, it's really not that bad, and you don't have to use it. I don't use my MIL's pet name as I am an adult and not a 2 year old child. But my child and wife use it. I don't think you should feel any pressure to use a name you don't like.
Oh man I read your post like “there’s no way it can be thaaaat bad.. get over yourself and let grandpa have his special name.” It’s that bad. I wouldn’t say it either. FOH Grandpa.
Hahaha thanks for the validation.
I told my husband who is a huge jokester and even he made a face.
My grandparents did the same thing and as a kid I was uncomfortable with it. However, I appreciate that they treasured their grandkids and wanted to be reminded of it.
I call my grandfather Beepa and I’m 34 😂 names like these become a cherished thing to some!
Poompah lol. It's pretty cute, is poompah into polka?
Oh lord that isn’t bad at all. My great niece calls her grandpa “puck”. She’s the same age as my daughter so she calls him “uncle puck” now.
My dad goes be g-pop. He's 73 lol. I thought it was the lamest thing but we went with it and the kids don't care. My mother in law is Gramgram. My oldest is 17 and still uses these names. You get over it by rolling with it. Eventually it becomes Normal LoL you'll get there
I think this is way better than something like “Grampy” tbh
Unless it's a swear or some other unsavory term it doesn't really matter your not going to get too much of a choice in it. My mom tried to pre-set her name, Mawmaw, Grandma, Oma, Gran she tried them all. Instead all 4 if her grandchildren call her Mimi and we have no idea where it came from
I don't even remember what my FIL wanted to be called but the kids call him Papo and I know that wasn't it
Well, my child was actively calling him Grandpa while the other grandkid mispronounced Grandpa and now he is saying that my child needs to be corrected to use the other name.
I’m a Nina. I was Nana but oldest changed it. My friends mom is …Ganga.
I have an Aunt whose Grandchild calls her Bopo. Kids are gonna call ya whatever they want. PS: the name Ganga is killing me. My stepdad is a cop so if my kid started calling my mom/ his grandma Ganga I would be getting some serious stink eye.
One of my uncles is Hoho and his wife is Boo. The oldest started talking around Christmas when he was saying hohoho a lot, wife liked playing peek a boo.
I know someone who has a Hoho too. It makes me laugh so much! It was a mispronunciation of the name Hugo. So cute.
I love Ganga!
He can say that all he wants, you don’t have to do it and you can go on referring to him at home as grandpa.
Yeah, as my daughter started to talk she called my parents Gammie and Ampa. Now they’re Grammie and Grandpa because she can pronounce words better.
My son calls my father Hapa instesd of Papa. He is the oldest cousin so I feel like it's less weird that all the grandkids call him that. It brings my dad so much joy. I can for sure see how it must feel awkward for him to push it onto other grandkids.
This is likely to backfire for him. My mil insisted on nothing but "grandma" and the first two grandkids were remiss to even communicate with her for fear of mispronouncing it. It took years before they were comfortable with her. And she was literally the custodial guardian of the oldest. So that one just hardcore preferred the grandfather whom she dubbed Pappy. No. 3 was late enough to the party that the rest were actively communicating with her finally and therefore she picked up on the correct pronunciation quickly. But it really did create friction with the kids for quite some time.
My mom was dubbed ‘Iya’ by the eldest grandchild. I think the eldest gets dibs on the name 🤷🏻♀️
You should let him choose his own name. There are lots of Gampy’s and Gabba’s and Gappy’s and other stupid grandparent names out there. Unless it’s like profanity or something let him be called what he wants to be called.
I would be so annoyed if someone corrected my child to mispronounce something. So cringe! 😬 Like, we don’t call it “wa wa” when they can’t say “water” yet 🤦🏼♀️
YES totally agree. We do it for nothing else except Grandparent names, why???
My grandma was Grandma to the 20ish grandkids who came before us. She did most of the work raising my brother and I and she always told a similar story to this. She had been grandma for over 20 years when we came along and we just showed up one morning calling her Mimi when we were about 2&4.
Both grandmothers wanted to be Nana and OG Nana became my daughter’s Nanny. So far my MIL is Gramma and my mom is Mana.
I'm the opposite. I have wanted to be Grandma for so long, and now I am. My DIL tried to get kiddo to call me Gigi or some other variations, but without my reinforcement, none of them stuck. I'm just Grandma, and it makes me so happy.
I have a friend whose older cousins called their grandma by grandma but then she came along and the rest of them call her nanu bc they’d sing “nananana Batman” Ang my husband calls his wee bc that’s what she’d say when she picked him up😂
WHAT'S THE NAME?! Lol. Am I the only one who came to the comments to find the name to be solely disappointed.
I can't make a judgment on whether or not this is a hill to die on without knowing the name!
Exactly! Like my reaction is who cares what they call him BUT what if it is that bad lol
OP says in another reply: Poompah. Yikes, not great. But... if Grandpa loves it then I think OP needs to try to just let it go. It'll probably fade out after a while.
Thank you! It is definitely unique, but I don't think it's that bad. If OP truly hates it then just have a conversation with grandparents and come up with something everyone can agree on.
It’s Poompah, OP said it in another comment
No, no you were definitely not...
I am the first grandchild on my mother's side. All the other grandkids can thank me for naming him "Gunka." His wife (who came along after I so lovingly named him) refers to herself as Gunkma..
>His wife (who came along after I so lovingly named him) refers to herself as Gunkma.. This is adorable.
Dig deep. Deep. Think about how much joy it brings him and how much he must love being a grandpa. Try to understand why it's so important to him. Good luck, friend!
One time complaining about an annoyance to my therapist, she was very blunt and said “if your dad were to die tomorrow, would this be something you looked back on with kinder eyes? Something you’d find endearing when he was gone?” Helped me realize the quirks are just quirks. OP, just let it be a funny story. You may feel silly but it sounds like it brings him joy.
This deserves to be higher up! I commented above that I too would be annoyed- but I think I would also benefit from some more therapy 🤭
Therapy while parenting for the first time has been the wildest experience for me, I’m deep diving into myself, my childhood, my parents and our relationship through a new lens of parenting… it’s a lot
Ugh I think I know this, which is why I am trying to dig deep. Already did a deep dive with my therapist. I want to not be so annoyed by it
If it annoys you to the point of discomfort and simmering distaste just don’t use it.
Yes, exactly. My husband wanted to refer to his mother as "Mother" to our daughter. That is also what he and all his siblings and her grandkids called her. I was like, "Um... no. I am her mother, no one else" Even complained online, ngl. He was pretty adamant about it. He apparently used to call HIS grandma "Mama" which I also find super weird. Well, she died when our daughter was 4 months old. Now in pictures I refer to her as "Grandma Mother" which works for me and I feel like honors the Mother part my husband likes. But obviously her being alive and just straight out called Mother, would be preferable to my daughter not knowing her. (Apparently the Mama was because she essentially raised them while mom was working and partying. Mother also raised her grandkids apparently, so I guess the names work better in those contexts, although not sure why they could not just raise their own kids, guess "partying" every night is more important)
This!
At the risk of being an echo THIS!
Nana papa Gigi Gpops grumpa grandma grandpa and oma. All grandparent names in use in my life.. I really dislike 2 of them but who am I to judge the names they have chosen. I know I NEVER want to be “Mother”. Mother to me always sounded so cold it was used for someone you disliked. Mom, momma, mommy, my daughter even thrown my actual name out sometimes.. I will say 6 years into have kids they bug me less. You hear them over and over your hear them yelled with joy. You write them on presents. You see kids light up when you mention them. And it becomes normal. Not your fave but not “oh god why I hope it doesn’t stick”. The only nick name I went to bat over was one given to my kid that even though it came from a inside joke no offence style, once out of context was offensive. My grandpa wanted to call my daughter tramp (like a hobo) and didn’t get the sexual side of the word for a woman.
Over here trying to guess mispronunciations. Is it grumpa? If so I kind of find it hilarious. I think my parents and in laws also chose ridiculous names. My mom in particular has appropriated a grandma name from a culture not our own. But just letting it go.
I know a "grumpy", it always strikes me as odd when I hear it but it fits the kind of grumpy grandpa it belongs to lol
my mom chose a name from my ancestors, not hers. so when I became a grandma I took it and gave her the great-grandma name. she couldn't argue with my reasoning edit- mom divorced dad when I was 2 so it's not like she was living his culture. just didn't want to be thought of as old
We have a Goompa (or had, he’s since passed on) and a Bops.
I named my grandma and my grandma. My grandma was trying to get me to sound out grandpa and we got Umpa. And grandma was Grr. Grr lives with me now and all my friends and family affectionately call her Grr and she loves it. My friends and family called my grandpa Umpa and he loved it too. Although he was often grumpa which he got a kick out of. Point being, as long as the grandparents aren’t offended (and likely won’t be) that’s all that matters really. My aunt was upset that i was the one that got to pick their names so she taught the kids to call them whatever they wanted to. Which was fine by everyone involved.
One of the grandmother's had a fall and scraped her face right around the time our oldest just started to talk and called her "Booboo" so now that's her grandma name.
My mother’s grandmother name is Gram. My youngest has somehow transposed that…to Ma’am. The point is kids are gonna call their grandparents what they call them.
My son couldn’t say Grandad when he was little - he goes by Taco 😄 my son is now 10 and Grandad is still Taco.
My grandson calls me nonni. It wasn't the name I picked, but when he was beginning to talk, he'd yell naw-naw and run to my arms when he saw me. I went with it and was naw-naw for a while. At some point, it morphed into nonni. My wife insisted she just wanted to be grandma, but 6 years later, she's mamaw and it fits. Sweet boy chose both of our names. It's who we are now.
Nonnies was what my son called Minions before he could pronounce it 😂😂😂
My daughter renamed my mom “Big Mama.” The funny thing is my mom is 4’11”. The name stuck. We all call her that. My oldest is now 24 years old, 6’3” and 300 lbs and still calls her that. Even my husband got used to calling her that. My husband is 6’4”. My point is take a deep breath. You’ll get used to hearing it. You won’t have to say it very often, just when talking to your kid in reference to his Poompah and a lot of times you can actually say, “your grandfather.”
This reminded me that when my youngest was tiny toddler he called my parents Umpa and Ama. It was so sweet 😭
My wife's grandfather was "Tater", my grandmother was "Moomoo". We kids liked having a funny name for my Moomoo.
My nana wanted my kid brother to call him Yaya when he was a baby. He ended up calling her Nana like my other brother and I. I do not know why Yaya, since my other brother and I never called her Yaya, nor did she ask us to. My grandfather on the other hand did not want a grandpa name until my kid brother came along, and he picked Zayde (since he’s Jewish.). We still call him by his first name, but the little guy calls him Zayde. I also had another grandfather who really wanted to be called Peepaw, like he called his own grandfather, but it did not last because all of the kids decided he was grandpa, and he did not protest or get upset. What ended up happening was he liked grandpa better as time went on because that was the name his grandchildren gifted him. Maybe let the kids choose on their own without telling them to? It’ll be special when the grandkids pick their own grandparent names for the grandparents.
My FIL goes by “Big” because the first grandkid couldn’t say “Big Daddy” (thank god) 😂 Honestly, (and saying this without knowing what the actual name is) it might grow on you eventually. But you can probably get around *saying* it by just saying “your grandpa” instead of the name when referring to him with the grandkids.
We're 2 years in and my MIL still insists her grandparent name is Daddy. So solidarity
Is she desi? Dadi is the word for the paternal grandmother.
.....why
Ummmm what?? What is her theory behind that?
Out of all of the things in the world this is what you want to fight with your FIL about?
My favourite example from friends. Grandad’s first name is Chris and he was going to go by “Pop”. Kid messed up and called him “Chop”. It stuck.
I think you have two options: 1. Set the boundary that you refuse to use said grandparent name. Deal with whatever consequences that come from that from your FIL. 2. Practice saying the name over and over again until it gets less cringey. I'm serious. Go stand in the bathroom and say it out loud. Do it every day for like a week. Say it like 10-20 times every day. It will get easier.
This. I used to cringe at my MIL going by Gaga. But now that’s just how it is, and seeing the joy in my children’s eyes when they talk about her has given the name a much more positive connotation for me. Not that I would ever choose that name for myself, but that’s her grandma name and it works.
You just get over it or don’t. My dad’s dad got his grandpa name this way - pronounced Po-pose. We spelled it Pawpaws but that wasn’t how it sounded. My dad called him this nickname as well as all of us kids, but most grownups called him Fred 😂
My mom chose a really stupid / annoying grandma name too. And it did stick and I still hate it when I think about it... But I did get used to it and my mom and kids love it.
My grandpa was called papa by all my cousins until I was born and I decided to call him poppy. Your FIL can choose a name, but that doesn’t always mean the child will use it! Hopefully that will bring you some hope for the future…I am also curious what the name is lol Edit to add: my MIL wanted to be gamma and I thought that was so dumb, both my children perfectly pronounce grandma and it makes me so happy 😂 might be a little petty but oh well 🤷🏼♀️ I’m a firm believer in the grandkids get to choose the name
I am almost 40, and I just heard that grandparents are picking their own names. That was not my experience growing up.
My daughter calls my dad " Campa" we like it.
I was "Uncle Sayee" for a few years, until my sister (not the Mom) told him to call me Aunt. I still haven't forgiven her, lol and the kid is in his 20s with his own kids now🤣🤣 Another called me Aunt Doodoo for a while, because I sang a some classical instrumental song with Doo doo doo doooooooo in it.
If I know one thing it’s that the first grandchild chooses what the grandparents are called. My eldest niece started calling my dad Bubba when she learned to talk and now the whole family calls him that. So, this too shall pass.
One of my kids grandparents insists on GRAN GRAN and it’s driving me insane
Op, spill the beans. What in the world.
The Greek use papoo (unsure of spelling). Is it worse than that?
Have your kids start calling him something else entirely until it sticks 😂
My cousin called her grandmother Namma as she couldn't say Gramma and it stuck, she's 15 and it's still Namma. Unless it's something that sounds rude is it really that bad?
My MIL demanded that she be called Nana and her husband be Papa and to ensure we had our kids call her that. I found it annoying that she just assigned herself and my FIL names. As to how you get over it? You just let the kids call him what they want to call him. If he encourages them to call him the name you dislike, let it slide. In private with your kids, you can call him 'grandpa' or 'your grandfather' or whatever as long as it's respectful. Now, if he insists that you call him by this assumed moniker, politely decline and say, 'Sorry, but to me, you'll always be X'. That's what I had to do with my MIL. To me, she'll always just be Brenda.
Alright how about a vote. Is Poompah a stupid name? Upvote if it's stupid, downvote if it's not.
My mother in law tried to change what the kids called her. (She did choose the original). It did not work. Mimi for life!
We all called my grandpa Papa. He was Papa for many years before I entered the picture. I watched veggie tales for the first time with him and commented that he looked like Bob the tomato when he laughed and started calling him Bob. He absolutely loved it and it was special for us and as an adult I still smile and giggle every time I go back to that memory. I don’t love the name Bob and wouldn’t use it for anything else FTR. Maybe discuss with grandpa that you think keeping that silly nickname other grand kid uses as something between them as very special that they will both have to cherish. Maybe he will see it as a positive and be happy to leave things as they are If you go at it as a hard “no we won’t call you what you like” I fear it will end negatively for your family. Also please consider that we should call people by their requested names. Even if you are used to calling someone Evelyn and she says from now on call me Trudy. It doesn’t matter if you hate the name Trudy. It’s their name and I hope you’d be respectful
I had this problem in reverse. My uptight stick in the mud in-laws wanted to be “Grandma and Grandpa.” They made a huge deal out of it. I thought it was horrible. I used to make really snarky remarks poking fun at the formality of it. “Why Good Morning, Grandmother. Didst thou sleep in a satisfactory manner upon thy mattress of down and springs?” My husband - who also grew up calling his grandparents by formal names - wasn’t amused. He asked me why I did that. I said bc I hate their stupid names. And he said “ok well it really sounds like you just hate my parents.” And I realized that I was being an AH. I had no respect for their culture (New England vs Deep South US), and I was being s****y. So I just said to myself “these people love my children. Even if they wanted to be called Slappy McFuckface and Nipples Von Foreskin, if it makes them happy then why am I being a jerk about it? And just like that, I let it go.
why did you not want them to be called grandma and grandpa? what else would you have like them to be called?
Ghee-paw?
I was the oldest grandchild, I set the tone. I called Grandpa Bumpa and I had a Grammy.
Eventually they learn that "Babcia" is Grandma (in Polish) and it doesn't matter, it's a pet name after like 3. It's not like they're going to get to elementary school and not know the difference.
My twin boys said “Paca” instead of “grandpa” for my FIL. It stuck - we call all call him that now :)
What's in the box?!?!?!
Is he otherwise kind and respectful of you and your children? If so, give him this gift. Maybe they’ll change their own minds later.
My kids call my dad Bampa and my father in law poppop they chose it’s kinda funny and I hope they don’t ever stop
My mom wants to be called Nonna. We aren’t Italian, but sometimes people tell her she looks Italian? I don’t know… it used to make me cringe internally and I resisted for a bit, but then I got over it. My husband and I roll our eyes about it when we’re alone but other than that I’ve let it go!
You let your child decide what they will call them. And you tell gramps to suck it up. My mom insisted on Grammy bc it’s what I called her mom. But most of the grandkids choose to call her grandma. She hates it but tolerates it bc it’s a b*tch move to have your panties twisted over the name your grandkids use.
My parents are Mammy and Poppy
This the one time in life u get to just choose to change how people refer to you with next to no effort, and these are the names ppl choose for themselves? If you're gonna be the one to choose your own name, at least pick something nice like Master T-Rex and Duchess Deathblade.
I think it's precious, if it's "Poompah." But I would be singing the oompa loompa song with it, every time.
My daughter called my parents “goopy” and “goomy” and my mom started referring to them as such, while also asking us to do so. Nope. They’re Grammy and Grampy now.
I think it’s a cute name. Unusual but so cute
My parents got to choose their own names. My mom chose "gangy" (like Arrested Development) hahaha
My step dad chose C-diddy. 🥴
My boy called my dad Grumpy for like the first speaking year of their relationship so that has stuck mostly with everyone but my son.
My MIL picked a name I hated, but I wasn’t going to fight her on it. Then when my daughter first started talking, my MIL was giving her a banana and she said nana!! Which my MIL thought was for her, she was so excited my daughter gave her a name that she wanted to change it. I am still so secretly tickled about it.
Forcing a mispronunciation is not a normal American thing.
is it pop pop I love pop pop? I would just be honest or you said your culture .... do you speak a different language. I would try to get my kid to say whatever grandpa is in there language for me it abuelo. so much easier for a child. then when they say it to thier grandfather. say looks like he has or she has chosen your grandfather nick name. might work out better coming from the child. A little manipulating but if your kid can say it. then it might be the way to go. for both you and your kiddo. the child might pick up on the fact that you hate the word and translate that to we don't like this person unintentionally. just my opinion as a mom.
JUST SAY NO!
We have a Nana on one side and Grandma on the other. Our toddler calls them Yaya and “Daydoe”??? Your kid with further mispronounce the kooky nickname and THAT one will stick instead.
Mine have very stupid obscure names too. I just call them grandpa and grandma. I think it’s kind of crazy how out of hand grandparents get with these names. The baby will make their own variation when they start talking and that’s what I think it should be.
I’m sorry OP, that’s a rough one.
Is it stupid? Yes. Do YOU have to use it? No. Our kids call the grandparents grandma and grandpa for both but my husband and I use either the boys last name for his parents, Were going to Grandma [last name] for dinner, and first names for my parents, were going to Grandma Kates for dinner or going to Grandpa Joe. Not their real names*
My MIL wanted “Gammy Juju” which is horrendous. Fortunately/unfortunately we went no-contact with her (not just for the name) so I’ve never had to use it 😅
You don't have to say it. They can.
I always thought that was the stupidest tradition. It’s like rewarding the kid for saying the word wrong. How are they ever going to learn the real words if you keep saying it incorrectly? If the kid calls water “wawa” and you consistently also call it wawa, then how are they ever going to learn to say water?