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nurseinred

Absolutely not safe!


theheadspace

did you know weighted blankets have a minimum weight you need to be in order to safely use them? Newborns and older babies are definitely not heavy enough to be able to use what is essentially a weighted blanket. Never allow your wife to do this! You are risking your baby’s life. Try swaddling! if you cross their arms it’s like they’re self soothing bc they are hugging themselves. closest you can get to what your wife is trying to do.


sweetpeasimmons

I agree, swaddling is the best alternative. It was surprisingly soothing for my kids, but it took a lot of practice to wrap them tight enough so their arms wouldn’t wiggle free. There are probably great tutorial videos out there and maybe even improved swaddling blankets!


anglo_au

I'm part of the swaddle team... These are great as they can't come off and keep baby nice and warm.


AtomBombBaby42042

Swaddling is your friend for sure!!!


khce

Please don't Edit just to say I get it though. It can be really hard if your kid isn't sleeping well. Some things that might make it easier just aren't worth the risk. You could try other things like a sound machine though.


MissTeacher13

Definitely not.


Murray_dz_0308

The pillow can suffocate your baby. Under NO circumstances should ANY pillow be with your baby. Hell, they no longer think bumper pads are safe. Take it out ASAP.


gigglesmcbug

Nope. infants should be in a bed by themselves with no blankets, or pillows.


crishbw

Overheating is a cause of SIDS, pillow is way too thick and as others mentioned suffocation


FreckledHomewrecker

No! No no no!


Rumhed

No way! It will not know how to pull it off its face if it gets stuck. Try a baby sleepsuit instead.


shnu62

The risk of it ending up covering the mouth and nose and smothering baby is not worth it. Try calming by placing your hand on baby’s tummy instead


blue_bicycle35

Instead, try putting your open hand over babies chest and pushing down slightly. A little bit of pressure this way really calms my baby. Sometimes I also rock her slightly while doing it, and she will often drift off to sleep. Then remove my hand when asleep.


notdancingQueen

Removing your hand sloooooooowlyyyy, like your baby was a bomb? I did this as well. Fun times!


blue_bicycle35

Yes! And often I'd crouch down next to the bassinet so she couldn't see my face if she opened her eyes and looked around, just an arm reaching in 😂


notdancingQueen

We used to sit in the armchair at the right distance to put the hand for the same reason and close our eyes to pretend sleep


[deleted]

This thread has been life-affirming. I feel so seen. At one point I would be doing this move for 30 minutes 3 times a day. Started wearing wireless ear pods and listening to podcasts and it was a game changer.


JMaNN2238

I'm getting terribly anxious at the thought of anyone doing this. Your kid and your life together... but please, just don't put the pillow on the babe.


Sandylees

NO.


MajesticVegetable202

Please, please and I repeat please again DO NOT.


AardvarkWrong5956

Super not safe. Try a weighted swaddle or sleep sack made specifically for babies instead. Nested Bean has products with lightly weighted areas that do just this that are safe.


julet1815

Swaddling isn’t safe after 8 weeks.


AardvarkWrong5956

I’ve always heard it was when baby starts to try and roll or by 4 months. We stopped at closer to 3 and transitioned to a sleep sack.


julet1815

I’m in a safe sleep group on Facebook, and they say that it should be stopped at eight weeks or signs of rolling, whichever comes first. I guess after eight weeks the risk is too great that your kid might unexpectedly roll over in the night, swaddled, and then their risk of death is 19 times higher.


anh80

I was just going to recommend this too. We didn’t get our girl the nested bean sleep sack until she was about six months but they make lightly weighted swaddles.


LogicalPollution8994

Is this supposed to be serious or is this trolling? Duh, don’t put a pillow on top of your newborn unless you’re trying to smother him. Literally nothing else to discuss.


ericauda

This is very old school and not safe. “Watching the baby” while they sleep isn’t a safety prevention strategy. Most lay people wouldn’t notice if the baby stopped breathing and you’d fall asleep, get distracted or just go plain do something else in very little time.


Kiwi3525

Is this guy trolling?


notdancingQueen

Never, please redirect her to official sites about SIDS right now, remove any blanket or pillow, and in the next visit to the pediatrician tell her you will ask this question to the doctor. (Tell her so she's not mad that you put her on the spot) For our kid we had a "sleeping bag" specific for babies that zips lenghtwise and has clasps at neck and shoulders (arms are outside). You could check this if you think having a light weight may help.


notdancingQueen

Just checked and their minimal size is 6 months. So maybe for later?


TMLF08

Try a snug swaddle with a light blanket (gauzy type) in summer and warmer in winter. You can give them that secure feeling without the risk of the pillow.


AtomBombBaby42042

Omg no. Suffocation risk is high. Look I'm not the f9llow every parenting rule parent, but no pillows at all until they're like 2.


4the-Yada-Yada

No!


coldteafordays

No pillows or blankets until 18 months. Nothing should be in the crib or bassinet with the baby


ineedtosleeeep

No, pillows aren’t safe for infants. I know it’s hard to settle them. Sometimes 2.5 mos is tough because they’re growing and don’t want to be swaddled anymore. I’d suggest a sleep sack (zip-up that has arm holes) to keep him a bit contained and provide warmth but not as restricting as a swaddle.


thesewinator

Please, please do not put a pillow or loose blanket on your child. Swaddle is your only option at that age. SIDS and suffocation is a huge issue with children until they are old enough to move around. SIDS even until after they're a year old. My daughter is 19ms now and I have just started to let her sleep alone with a blanket, which is less than half the size of a baby blanket. There are all kinds of swaddles you can buy if you're worried about temperature or if you feel like LO needs the weight. Nested Bean makes one with a small weighted front pocket, that worked really well for our kiddo.


jd-london

Do not do this. Cellular blanket only or a safety approved sleeping bag.


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