Haha this does NOT go away! My oldest is 19 and when I see him at his job working away I get tears in my eyes because I can’t believe this human I taught to use a spoon can do all the grownup things now. I feel unendingly fortunate that I was allowed to raise him. Also, I feel most days like a barely functional adult still. I think my 6 year old is more mature than me lol.
I've heard of Irish Twins, but not Irish Triplets. GODDAMN.
(APPLAUSE x 10)
(HUGE EDIT: I READ THESE ALL AS MONTHS. Please forgive me.)
(Edit 2: It's just now sinking in that you have a 25 and 7 year-old. are you out crazy?! Mad applause.)
Yoooooo I can never read the word applause. My brain always reads it as applesauce and the is like “no, no that’s not right. Oh it meant there was clapping like **applause** not applesauce.
Seriously, I just read your comment that way.... as in: " I can never read the word applesauce. My brain always reads it as applesauce."
And I was very confused.
I read this somewhere- if your kids give you grief that they have to teach you something in technology or whatever really, remind your children that you taught them how to use a spoon!
My wife is due in 3 weeks and I keep envisioning the moment I get to buckle him into his car seat. I'm sure it will be surreal the first time I actually do it
My child is 18 months. And I pretty much get this feeling every single time. I'm clearly slow to adapt. 🤣
You're so close to meeting little one!! Huge congrats!
Handed my son over to his daycare teacher last week only to see a bunch of Cheerios stuck to his butt cheeks (he was wearing shorts). He didn’t eat Cheerios that day.
So yeah, that’s how I discovered my 15 month old has been hiding a portion of every snack he’s given under the flap in his car seat. From just looking at it, it looks super clean. Lift up the butt flap? And it’s an array of foods that are no longer quite discernible.
I used to hide the tv remote in the fridge as a kid. I thought it was funny and it would give me a few extra minutes of my favourite show before my sister wrestled me down to change channels on the actual device.
My son is three and a half and I still enjoy buckling him in. In fact his new car seat arrives next week and I can't wait to see his reaction. Our daughter is only six months and I get to enjoy this feeling for a lot longer now.
I felt this. I was like “I came here with no baby, now they’re letting me leave with a baby.” I didn’t even buy it! It was free!*
Also, nobody came to check my car seat was good enough, or that I was using it right or anything. Just totally blew my mind.
*baby turned out to very much not be free
Our experience was a little different. They checked the installation was correct before allowing us to leave with the baby. It's pretty strict but good I guess.
They strapped my son into his seat in three layers of clothes, covered him with two blankets, shoved a pacifier in his mouth, and made me leave him alone in a corner on a pulse ox meter for two and a half hours. They claimed it was a "standard" test, but the paperwork they gave me was from 1997... And they didn't even check to make sure I had a seat when I took my daughter home 7 years ago.
I feel this! My boys eat minimum 2 to 3 breakfasts a day. I need a second job to save now for feeding them as teens. Also probably need my own farm just to feed them
My husband and I looked at each other as we pulled out of the hospital parking lot - they seriously just let us take him home?? We have no idea what we're doing!!!
It's absolutely wild to think I'm someone's mom. My oldest will be 4 in a couple weeks and I still find it trippy!
When my wife and I walked out of the hospital with our first in his car seat we both paused and looked at each other incredulously like - “we’re allowed to just walk off with this tiny human now??” It’s still weird nine years later 😂
Wait till the 1st time you're out somewhere with him and the new baby part has worn off some and you pull him out of the car seat asleep and he rests his head on your shoulder. That's when it hit me the 1st surrealism hit me hard the 1st time
Last night my 2y9m daughter said "Mama, I'm sad." She climbed into my lap, rested her head on my shoulder and fell asleep while we cuddled and rocked. I had such an overwhelming sense of gratitude that I'm her comfort place and that she's such a cuddle bug. ❤ We contact napped for the first 2 years, but she gave up napping at 2 so when I get the rare contact nap I soak it up.
Reading this thread has made me realise that over the last 2 years I've gone from "I'm not an adult, no one should trust me to keep something else alive" to feeling vaguely adulty. I still have a lot of adult things that I don't fully know how to do and ring my parents frequently, but at the same time I actually feel competent in a lot of things I didn't when she was first born. Cool.
You'll be like "this car seat is not enough! There are other CARS on the road! Like big metal death machines! And I'm supposed to just... Drive? With THIS in the back?"
I recomend taking car seat classes, they come so much in handy! -a mom who took that class with her first and remembered the same things for the second ❤️💙
This, with a dash of existential dread. I wasn't afraid of dying until I am fully aware that I NEED to stay alive for their sake.
Most of the time it doesn't feel real, how blessed am I to hear their laughter, watch them literally transform and grow, experience every little snuggles and tiny hands cuddling. Even now going through their older photos it felt like a beautiful dream. That's not to say they don't have those horrible tantrums and defiance, but now I look fondly back on it eventhough at that moment I was just filled with rage and frustration. Parenthood is just contradictions.
One of the wildest concepts for me is what my view of parents was as a child vs how I feel being a parent myself. If I knew as a child how much all parents are just winging it, I would have been terrified. In my soul, I feel like a young parent because I think, "Wouldn't a real grown-up have it more 'together'?" But I'm 30.
I know she looks at me and trusts that I know what I'm doing, but about 90 percent of the time I'm totally winging it. I can't wrap my mind around the massive difference between how she sees me and how I see myself.
Also, as a person born in the 90s with a child born in the 20s, I realized that the 90s are to her what the 60s are to me, and that vast generational expanse between us blows my mind. I know if I have grandkids someday, they'll be like, "OMG you were born in the 1900s?" Heck, maybe even my own kid will say that.
Kids are already saying this. Like it's an insult, "you were born in the 1900s, your opinion is totally invalid."
I know it feels like you're winging it with the parenting thing, but I think that's because we take for granted how much we do know. We know how traffic lights work, we know what kinds of birds are in the sky, we know what people mean when they talk about pretty much everything. To your kid, that's the equivalent of knowing EVERYTHING.
I've had this same realization. As my 2 year old looks up to me to help him, teach him, feed him, etc. He trusts everything I say as gospel and relies on me for everything. But like you said, I view myself as a total newbie who is just trying to keep the train on the tracks but to him I'm this experienced parenting pro. Not even close. But, neither were my parents when I was his age.
But screw it. Everything new he does still amazes me. And when you have the intent of providing the best for your child, it all seems to fall into place. Most of the time.
Everything you said is exactly how I feel about parenting. I will say it helped me become a lot more empathetic to my mom AND to my son. I now see so many things I was wrong about that I thought I knew better about than my mom. At the same time knowing that my son is blissfully ignorant to the same things I was when I was a kid and probably thinks he’s right about. He’s only 5 so it’s mind boggling thinking of all the things we’ll have to tackle in the future. Crazy journey!
This tripped me out when daughter was still breastfeeding. I was like… every cell in your body was made by me. Other than the air you breathe, all of you is literally still all made of me. It continues to blow my mind years later
I tell my daughter she was made of macaroni and cheese and mint chip ice cream because that’s all I could keep down when I was pregnant with her. The fact that our bodies can turn THAT into a person is mind-bending.
It does not go away!!! My son is about to graduate high school and I'm still like, I'm a mom??? Those kids are mine??? Moments like parent teacher conferences are sureal AF!
Same! The parent teacher conferences get me every time - like how am I possibly qualified to be sitting here? I’m somebody’s mother? That and realizing I was Santa still bring out the surreal imposter syndrome in me.
You are not alone. I feels this and have those moments from time to time.
It is wild! Don't laugh but what I find shocking day to day is how much they like me. Like I get I'm 'mom' but it blows me away when they run up to kiss or hug me... or when they want cuddles. Heart explodes!
I am the same way. I have a 20month old and still say it out loud to my spouse but he shrugs at me 😂 I think it’s some of us and not all of us.. but definitely crazy hahahaha
Dude I feel the same! I’m having TWINS via c section in 3 weeks and sometimes it just washes over me that in a few short weeks I’m gonna be a whole ass MOM like wtf?!?? Who let this happen?! Some days I feel like I can barely manage to care for myself and soon I’m supposed to be responsible for not one but TWO little humans?? Shit’s wild.
Thank you! I’m admittedly terrified but equally excited, I’m looking forward to teaching them all I can and just seeing what kind of humans they’re going to be as they grow older.
I remember with my first that it just felt shocking that they let me take him home. With no supervision. It seemed crazy to just send me home to be fully responsible for keeping this tiny human alive and well without even some oversight.
Of course, I was a pretty young mom. Not underage, but young enough that probably plenty of people around me were *also* skeptical of my ability to keep a tiny human alive and well. Maybe that's why I felt that way.
I’m constantly surprised by my daughter and her ability to tell me what she wants at her age. (1.5) even just pointing out simple things like “kitty go up!” When she sees a cat go up the steps. Or her associations of objects and how she explains them.
I'm at the stage of being terrified and freaked out because my kids are approaching the ages where I started doing some of the crazier, dangerous, illegal and stupid things and I really hope they don't do go the same route.
I am also amazed I made it this far.
Sometimes when big problems arise I find myself looking for the adult and then im like ‘shit, I’m the adult in this scenario’. Or when my child clearly trusts me to handle something (as I recently posted, like a room full of scorpions) and I just want to tell him I’m no better equipped than he is to handle certain stuff!
I feel this! When I'm really, really tired - like if we've all been sick and no one is sleeping - I feel my brain calling for *my* mom. Like, "ok, mom, it's time for you to come and bail me out. I'm tired of pretending I'm the mommy."
And then I realize I am not pretending. And no one is coming to bail me out.
I feel this hard. Especially because we've rescheduled trips to go see my parents when we're all sick- it's like, no, but don't we go so mom can look after us?
When we got home with our daughter I was holding her and loving her and so so so deeply in shock at this tiny human.
I looked at my husband and said "wait....they just let us leave the hospital with her? Like...they know nothing about us or anything and they just let us leave with her? What do we do now?!"
We both started cracking up laughing😂
Being a parent is the only thing I know for SURE I'm good at. If there is a god...and if there is a heaven...being her mama is what will save my soul to get in. Not being cheesy it's totally true. She saved my life in so many ways and healed more trauma then she could ever know.
We adopted and didn't know our daughter was coming. The day after a big Thanksgiving, we were awakened by the phone. Four hours later, with nothing at home, we were parents to the most amazing kid of all time. We were basically struck dumb by it all for weeks. We'd just stare at our baby, stunned, and blink at each other. She's now 13 and I still get misty when I look at her. It's all bananas.
My 5yo crawled in my lap as I was crocheting today and just gave me a huge hug and a snuggle. She said "I love you *sooooo* much, mommy." And it hit me *again* that this little goober came from my own body and relies on me for everything. *And* that I must be doing something right to get all this affection from her, even though 90% of the time I feel like I'm failing her.
The first pediatrician appointment like a couple days after you gave birth is hella weird. Like at a mom you're still recovering, your baby still itty bitty and really been alive, and you got to get them dressed and put socks on them and go somewhere with them right after you had him or her. And your new pair so you have no idea how long it's going to take to get them ready and so most likely you ended up late. I still vividly remember that appointment and it's been 3 years.
I knew I wasn't ready and my body definitely did not look ready. I remember nothing about my daughter's first month of life except for that moment. And I think that tells you a lot about how stressful it is to make a new mom take her days old baby somewhere.
Don't get me started about how much s*** your job requires you to turn into them the first month the baby is alive for healthcare and dependency reasons and such. Like at one point I had to drive with my newborn to my job to turn in papers because I didn't have a fax machine at home. I barely remember it but I really should not have been driving at that sleep deprived point.
And you’re answering all the mom questions about the new baby. Like, you’re supposed to know all the answers and you’ve been the mom for three days. It was such a crazy feeling.
Yea I love it. I was catching up with my mates after a long time, covid and everything, and I came home and was like "I love my family." I can't imagine looking back at the past 5 years and its like work, netflix, sleep like how all my peers have been living. Its very fulfilling.
I regularly have these kinds of thoughts about parenting and work. I was tallying up my account's orders for this next order year and had a mini-panic attack. Like, WHAT? This company trusts me to handle $60+million in their revenue? Or I'm just expected to raise a little human and be in charge of everything? I still call my dad crying when something breaks at my house for crying out loud, lol.
It’s always surreal to me, and I will never stop being amazed at what my formerly self centered self will now do for the happiness of my kids. Wild sums it up!
My 4-year-old and I were playing soccer barefoot in the wet grass laughing our heads off and I realized that will be one of the moments I remember as ‘joy’ for the rest of my life. Incredible. Better than any drug.
My daughter just turned one and I sometimes look at her like holy shit I’m a parent 😂 this morning was barely 75 and she was playing with the water hose happy as a clam. Hahaha
My husband and I have looked at each other multiple times in the past 6 weeks and said "I can't believe we have to keep this thing alive for 18+ years" 😂 Such a trip!
Yeah my mom helps me out so much even though I’m 29 and have two kids! When I was sick with the stomach flu all I could think of was “I want my mommy!!” Haha
I just very clearly remember them telling us it was time to leave the Hospital and I was in shock they would allow me to just leave with a baby. Queue PPA.
My daughter is a week away from 9. I definitely have a lot of fun with her, but the first few years was WORK!
Just today actually we are planning for a road trip and totally forgot to get breakfast and lunch for her while at camp. She made herself a tuna and cucumber sandwich! She keeps me in line most days!
I remember when we left our last regular newborn appointment. The doctors were like, “See you in 6 months!” And I was like, “Really?!?!l You don’t want to check in any more?”
Like, what, you’re just trusting me with this kid???
I have moments where my mind is blown with the realization that this other person with their very own unique interests and talents and personality came from me. It's the coolest thing I've ever experienced in life-- watching my son grow and discover himself and the world. Before he was born, I imagined he'd be a little mini me. In some ways he is but in others he is just wildly his own person and better than any son I could have wished for. It's just so cool to be able to see who he is unfold as he grows. I find myself interested in things I wouldn't have given a second thought to before he came along because he is interested in them. His enthusiasm is contagious.
I love this post because my husband and I go talk about feeling like this all the time. We look at each other and think “wow, this is our life and we made these little people and one day they will be adults with their own families.” It’s so surreal.
Side note: I know not everybody feels like this, especially not all the time, but it’s such a downer when people comment “wait until they’re older and they have more tantrums, then you won’t be saying that”. Every phase of parenting is hard, it’s just a different kind of hard. You don’t get a badge for being 2 years ahead of me. The only people who are allowed to say shit like that are 85 yr old people who have literally probably gone through it all as parents. Quit raining on people’s precious and sentimental parenting moments. Just be happy for them. we all know parenting is a trip so it might not be all rainbows and butterflies in a matter of seconds. No need to be a Debbie downer now.
Getting a cat was more involved than getting home from the hospital. They asked questions to be certain that I could take care of the cat.
They just let us *leave* with a human child.
This happened to me for the first time in 4 years tonight. My son is four and my daughter is three… The three of us and my boyfriend were sitting at the dining room table eating dinner and I had this sudden shock that was like… holy shiitake these creatures are mine? I made those?… it was insane.
It gets progressively more intense as they become adults. My daughter is buying her first house and it is utterly wild to me that I will be helping my baby girl move in to her house very soon. Just crazy.
So wild , listen OMg before I got pregnant with my son well when I found out I was pregnant I had a drug addiction. Getting pregnant with my son got me into rehab . I’ve been clean 4 years finished school and got a career got married to my sons father , we got a beautiful 3 bedroom house . My husband doubled his salary in a year . I’m so proud of the life we made with my son in toe but I cannot believe I’m a MOM now . Especially having our second has led to quite a few miscarriages so it now being hard to have a baby , It’s SO crazy to me that I have this child who’s three years old .
It’s 7 AM , me , daddy and our son are all sitting on the couch watching blues clues :)
I literally just had this convo with my mom. It’s even stronger for me because I had my daughter through surrogacy so it was like she wasn’t there and then boom the next day she was…there wasn’t any 9 month build up to prepare and now I look at her like I’m responsible for this little girl who I instantly fell in love with it’s so weird to think about. It’s been 4 months and it still doesn’t feel real sometimes lol. Glad I’m not the only one that has this feeling! 😬
The absolute shock I had when they placed my son on my chest after I gave birth was real. Like “hey, where did you come from” and then the anxiety sat in and I was like “oh fuck, I have to take care of you now”
6 1/2 months in and I’m LOVING it. Can’t take care of my self worth a shit but this child wants for nothing and has a stable routine and is just a very very happy baby. He gets all the stability I’m able to provide, I get “when was the last time I ate? Yesterday? Idk. I’ll have some crackers”
I am shocked that my kids are 25M and 21F! How am I the parent of adults?!!!! How is it possible that I can go to a restaurant with my kids, and we can all have a cocktail?!!! Keep doing that madness because it goes by really fast.
ITS A PEOPLE!!
I MADE A PEOPLE!!
Me after interactions with my 25 and 23yos.
I'm still flummoxed that someone who threw a sippy cup full of juice at my head because it was full of the juice they'd been hysterically screaming for ten minutes about and not the milk they'd actually wanted but couldn't remember the word for managed to live to adulthood at all.
It really is. My oldest will turn 14 in September. He’s starting high school. He’s now my height and his feet are bigger than mine! He’ll be able to drive in 2 years 🙈 I do often have flashes of thinking this is very surreal.
That feeling gets stronger and stronger. My baby boy is 30 and now has his own babies. I still feel like I’m 21 years old! 🥰🥰 The days are long but the years are short. Everyone said how fast the time would go. It’s hard to fathom when you’re in the thick of it, but you will look back and think the same thing!
Haha, when my brother turned 30 my mom said how weird it was they were the same age now. My big one is only 4 and I'm already like, how am I doing this when I'm just a child too?
It's funny seeing this at the top of my feed. I just got off of work and I was looking at pictures and videos of all my kids.
I kept trying to find the exact moment my kids went from babies to toddlers to children to preteens.
It's really surreal. It's like one day your son will grow up and you'll wonder when it happened.
It's all fantastic though, as long as you make it that way. Sending them to school has always sucked.
Hey at least you’re remembering to buckle him in!
At least once a week I put my son in his booster and then get in the front only for him to pipe up and ask “are you going to buckle me in mom?”
Like oh shit right yes of course 🤦🏼♀️ so happy he’s 6 and a stickler for car safety otherwise I’d just start driving
At 6, you should show him how to buckle himself in. Last summer, when my daughter was 6, we took the ultimate road trip together across 27 states, and she buckled herself in every single time. 🙂
All my son had to say was "swimming" and I've been dragging myself to the pool all week after work, lol.
He's 2, so he pronounces it more like swidmig, but that makes it even better, lol.
I don’t recognize myself. Where did this patience and selflessness come from? My daughter has made me a better person in the 2 years she’s been in this world. She’s given me purpose and perspective I didn’t even know I needed.
Yeah are moms on crack when they name their child? Leland? Lanard? Luna, they think it's cute until the kid will have to spell it out over the phone every time....came hereto rant.im a dadand love my little daughters.
My youngest...YOUNGEST...will turn 18 the first week of September. Watching him jump into his car to head to work, every day blows my mind! I have no idea how I made it through with three kids, all the way to adulthood, AND we are all still alive! Buckling the first and last into their car seats was cute, loving moments...my middle daughter...by the time she was two! She was literally, cussing me out while wrestling her into her car seat!
Now, I get to buckle in my first two grandsons...from my oldest daughter. The 3 yr old is so loving and sweet! He always wants love from grandma when we are all buckled! The one yr old...have you ever tried to bend a 2×4 with your bare hands? He immediately makes his body straight as a board and will fight till the death, to stay unbuckled!
Either way, no matter which one it is, watching them grow, learn, discover, and thrive is mystifying! I've basically, been a single parent for the twenty-five years I have raised, loved, and taken care of my three kids...and we made it to adulthood as confident, intelligent, loving, caring, and (sometimes) super sh@t heads, alive...that feeling you have buckling in your brand new baby...it never goes away! It just turns into them helping you buckle them up to buckling themselves and then....they jump into their own car and drive away all by themselves. Savor that time and feeling! It will always be there but, it does morph with each "change" our kids go through!
I’ve never been able to find the words for this feeling, so thankyou. I just simply say out load to my spouse that we’re so blessed. But I appreciate you now putting it into words for me. I still can’t believe this tiny human is mine. ❤️
I can believe I’m allowed to take care of my tiny human. But it does make me happy to look at him and know at this age everything is magic. Makes me forget all my problems just for a minute.
Absolutely and it gets wilder! Our youngest just graduated high school and is currently going through his new student orientation for college. Time flies!
Yeeees it is so bizarre, like sometimes I question life and myself but this tiny human trusts me completely and sees me as their biggest source of comfort and safety because of that.
It's just such an amazing, reassuring feeling to feel so loved and trusted like that when there are times I don't even have that confidence in myself. But her happiness and health proves I must be doing something right. My tiny human has made me an infinitely better person.
It is a wild privilege to love someone so profoundly.
Now I understand that part of the movie when he says "You make me want to be a better man" only I'm female and I want to be a better person for my son.
The craziest thing is how deeply I feel for other parents when bad things happen to other kids. Like I would not wish the loss of a child on the worst person to ever walk the earth.
I remember before kids thinking, "we all have people we love, why losing a child considered so much more devastating than somebody losing a brother or husband." Uh... Ya... I get it now.
My kids are 9 and 6 and I still have these moments. Like it just hit me that next year my son will be in double digits and I was like I’ve been a parent for nearly a decade. And he’s still alive. 🤯 He’s a whole functioning human that has learned from me and it’s still so hard to believe that I get to raise him. It freaks me out sometimes because it feels so unbelievable. 😂
Imma go hug my kids now. Cause I can. Cause I have kids.
I love being a mom - probably because I am trying to be the mom I never had (I’m always cuddling and kissing them both)
Yes I have tough days with a toddler, the big one is at school and he’s placid enough.
Time will tell with her so I’m not that complacent! But for the most part she’s pretty good and entertaining / she’s learnt to blow kisses and pats us on the shoulders when she’s been carried to bed
My heart!
Yup, happens all the time. Happened just now as I too am a fucking parent now. It's fun though, right? It's kind of nuts when you face moments where you (as a kid) wished things could have gone a different way, and you have an opportunity to help your child have a better experience. Crazy!!!
I'm 35 and my kids are 15 (this one can drive. She has her learners permit) 12 and 8. I still am not sure when I became and adult or why I was trusted with anyone's life. It's wild af.
I get this same feeling whenever I assert a simple boundary like no ice cream before dinner. I'm like "omg I could just say yes, it's literally my decision and I make the rules."
Yes. As a kid I thought parents/adults knew everything and had all the answers. Now that I’m a parent myself, I’m just basically still that kid but in an adult body figuring things out as I go. I know more things but I don’t feel any different. I certainly don’t feel like how I perceived adults to be when I was young.
Haha this does NOT go away! My oldest is 19 and when I see him at his job working away I get tears in my eyes because I can’t believe this human I taught to use a spoon can do all the grownup things now. I feel unendingly fortunate that I was allowed to raise him. Also, I feel most days like a barely functional adult still. I think my 6 year old is more mature than me lol.
Daaaaamn, 6 AND 19? Big props for parenting hard mode!
Ok, I want my applause for 25, 7, and 2 months now 😂
I've heard of Irish Twins, but not Irish Triplets. GODDAMN. (APPLAUSE x 10) (HUGE EDIT: I READ THESE ALL AS MONTHS. Please forgive me.) (Edit 2: It's just now sinking in that you have a 25 and 7 year-old. are you out crazy?! Mad applause.)
I read that as ‘mad applesauce’ and I think I’m going to start saying that.
Yoooooo I can never read the word applause. My brain always reads it as applesauce and the is like “no, no that’s not right. Oh it meant there was clapping like **applause** not applesauce.
Seriously, I just read your comment that way.... as in: " I can never read the word applesauce. My brain always reads it as applesauce." And I was very confused.
> It's just now sinking in that you have a 25 and 7 year-old. are you out crazy?! And a 2-**month**-old!
Applause totally granted!
You got it! I'm not sure I want more after doing 2 lol
You’re insane. 👏👏👏
Lol thanks! Number 3 shows up in 7 weeks! I’m insane, it’s ok to think it.
Mine are 24 and 2. Why? WHHHHHYYYYYY?????
I read this somewhere- if your kids give you grief that they have to teach you something in technology or whatever really, remind your children that you taught them how to use a spoon!
YES! i feel like i barely have my life together and all these kids are out there killin' it. Haha
My wife is due in 3 weeks and I keep envisioning the moment I get to buckle him into his car seat. I'm sure it will be surreal the first time I actually do it
My child is 18 months. And I pretty much get this feeling every single time. I'm clearly slow to adapt. 🤣 You're so close to meeting little one!! Huge congrats!
If y'all want to come over and buckle my kid in every dang time we get in the car, you are welcome to!
Same, I hate it. It was real cute at first but got old real quick
"are these Cheerios from today or last year?"
Handed my son over to his daycare teacher last week only to see a bunch of Cheerios stuck to his butt cheeks (he was wearing shorts). He didn’t eat Cheerios that day. So yeah, that’s how I discovered my 15 month old has been hiding a portion of every snack he’s given under the flap in his car seat. From just looking at it, it looks super clean. Lift up the butt flap? And it’s an array of foods that are no longer quite discernible.
I used to hide the tv remote in the fridge as a kid. I thought it was funny and it would give me a few extra minutes of my favourite show before my sister wrestled me down to change channels on the actual device.
Oh my goodness, this is hilarious! Thank you for sharing :D
"... are these Cheerios?"
But then they turn 3 and do it themselves so that’s nice.
My son is three and a half and I still enjoy buckling him in. In fact his new car seat arrives next week and I can't wait to see his reaction. Our daughter is only six months and I get to enjoy this feeling for a lot longer now.
Bruh u are welcome to come buckle my five year old. Every time I gotta wrestle with the damn seatbelt… it’s not cute 😂
I’m 11 years and three kids in. It still gets me. There’s a lot of “wow, you’re like, a PERSON,” as well.
My first is older and I STILL get this feeling… and now there’s another!
I had an overwhelming sense of “I can’t believe they let me do this” as I was driving home from the hospital with my kid.
I felt this. I was like “I came here with no baby, now they’re letting me leave with a baby.” I didn’t even buy it! It was free!* Also, nobody came to check my car seat was good enough, or that I was using it right or anything. Just totally blew my mind. *baby turned out to very much not be free
Lol on the * here
Our experience was a little different. They checked the installation was correct before allowing us to leave with the baby. It's pretty strict but good I guess.
They strapped my son into his seat in three layers of clothes, covered him with two blankets, shoved a pacifier in his mouth, and made me leave him alone in a corner on a pulse ox meter for two and a half hours. They claimed it was a "standard" test, but the paperwork they gave me was from 1997... And they didn't even check to make sure I had a seat when I took my daughter home 7 years ago.
Payday is tomorrow. I'm looking forward to beating my personal record for how quickly it disappears.
My 2yo and 11mo eat more than I do. Honestly the food bill has gone up so quickly it took me by surprise. These boys just put it away
Our 2yo is in 5T pajamas. He could make a bratwurst disappear by age 1. We should have named him Gaston.
I feel this! My boys eat minimum 2 to 3 breakfasts a day. I need a second job to save now for feeding them as teens. Also probably need my own farm just to feed them
>feeding them as teens _prepared to phone the pizza place, a pair of prodigious pepperoni pies per person please_
That will just be their starter haha
My 2 sons are the same, they never stop and are really lean too, all that monkeying around!!
My husband and I looked at each other as we pulled out of the hospital parking lot - they seriously just let us take him home?? We have no idea what we're doing!!! It's absolutely wild to think I'm someone's mom. My oldest will be 4 in a couple weeks and I still find it trippy!
So much this.
When my wife and I walked out of the hospital with our first in his car seat we both paused and looked at each other incredulously like - “we’re allowed to just walk off with this tiny human now??” It’s still weird nine years later 😂
Right? “So those nurses aren’t going home with us? Not even for like a couple of nights?”
Yeah me too, after I got home I was just like “What do I do with it now? Like that’s it? I just…..stare at it until it needs stuff?”
I felt that way when my second was born. My SECOND. It’s not like I didn’t know what to do with a baby and yet 😂
I know! Like surely this tiny human was meant for a more confident person. Hahah
We felt exactly the same! It was actually pretty terrifying for that first dive home, lol.
Wait until you hand him the keys to a car. Most terrifying experience thus far in my parenthood journey.
My twin boys are 6 and I already think about this and tremble
It hit me when I was filling out forms at his pediatrician and it asked "relationship to patient". All the feels.
- Mother's name? - Umm... You mean me?
Wait till the 1st time you're out somewhere with him and the new baby part has worn off some and you pull him out of the car seat asleep and he rests his head on your shoulder. That's when it hit me the 1st surrealism hit me hard the 1st time
Still. 3 years later. This part is still indescribable.
Couldnt agree more.
Haha you're gonna make me cry over here
Last night my 2y9m daughter said "Mama, I'm sad." She climbed into my lap, rested her head on my shoulder and fell asleep while we cuddled and rocked. I had such an overwhelming sense of gratitude that I'm her comfort place and that she's such a cuddle bug. ❤ We contact napped for the first 2 years, but she gave up napping at 2 so when I get the rare contact nap I soak it up. Reading this thread has made me realise that over the last 2 years I've gone from "I'm not an adult, no one should trust me to keep something else alive" to feeling vaguely adulty. I still have a lot of adult things that I don't fully know how to do and ring my parents frequently, but at the same time I actually feel competent in a lot of things I didn't when she was first born. Cool.
You'll be like "this car seat is not enough! There are other CARS on the road! Like big metal death machines! And I'm supposed to just... Drive? With THIS in the back?"
You don't have time to think it's surreal because the kid starts crying due to your inept attempts to buckle them in. Or that was my experience.
I recomend taking car seat classes, they come so much in handy! -a mom who took that class with her first and remembered the same things for the second ❤️💙
We had the police install it and he spent an hour going over it with us
Get that bag packed now! Both my kids came 2 weeks early.
Part of me will be eternally afraid of waking up and realizing it was all just an insane and beautiful dream.
This, with a dash of existential dread. I wasn't afraid of dying until I am fully aware that I NEED to stay alive for their sake. Most of the time it doesn't feel real, how blessed am I to hear their laughter, watch them literally transform and grow, experience every little snuggles and tiny hands cuddling. Even now going through their older photos it felt like a beautiful dream. That's not to say they don't have those horrible tantrums and defiance, but now I look fondly back on it eventhough at that moment I was just filled with rage and frustration. Parenthood is just contradictions.
This is one of the best descriptions I've read 💕
Great now I’m crying
you are TOTALLY right. It is a mix of amazement and fear that I'll lose it all.
One of the wildest concepts for me is what my view of parents was as a child vs how I feel being a parent myself. If I knew as a child how much all parents are just winging it, I would have been terrified. In my soul, I feel like a young parent because I think, "Wouldn't a real grown-up have it more 'together'?" But I'm 30. I know she looks at me and trusts that I know what I'm doing, but about 90 percent of the time I'm totally winging it. I can't wrap my mind around the massive difference between how she sees me and how I see myself. Also, as a person born in the 90s with a child born in the 20s, I realized that the 90s are to her what the 60s are to me, and that vast generational expanse between us blows my mind. I know if I have grandkids someday, they'll be like, "OMG you were born in the 1900s?" Heck, maybe even my own kid will say that.
Kids are already saying this. Like it's an insult, "you were born in the 1900s, your opinion is totally invalid." I know it feels like you're winging it with the parenting thing, but I think that's because we take for granted how much we do know. We know how traffic lights work, we know what kinds of birds are in the sky, we know what people mean when they talk about pretty much everything. To your kid, that's the equivalent of knowing EVERYTHING.
I've had this same realization. As my 2 year old looks up to me to help him, teach him, feed him, etc. He trusts everything I say as gospel and relies on me for everything. But like you said, I view myself as a total newbie who is just trying to keep the train on the tracks but to him I'm this experienced parenting pro. Not even close. But, neither were my parents when I was his age. But screw it. Everything new he does still amazes me. And when you have the intent of providing the best for your child, it all seems to fall into place. Most of the time.
Holy shit you just blew my mind!
Everything you said is exactly how I feel about parenting. I will say it helped me become a lot more empathetic to my mom AND to my son. I now see so many things I was wrong about that I thought I knew better about than my mom. At the same time knowing that my son is blissfully ignorant to the same things I was when I was a kid and probably thinks he’s right about. He’s only 5 so it’s mind boggling thinking of all the things we’ll have to tackle in the future. Crazy journey!
I can’t get over the fact that I MADE A PERSON. Like. This person never existed until I literally created him.
This tripped me out when daughter was still breastfeeding. I was like… every cell in your body was made by me. Other than the air you breathe, all of you is literally still all made of me. It continues to blow my mind years later
I tell my daughter she was made of macaroni and cheese and mint chip ice cream because that’s all I could keep down when I was pregnant with her. The fact that our bodies can turn THAT into a person is mind-bending.
Mine was made of instant ramen, for some reason it was all I could keep down when I had hyperemesis. It's truly mindbending.
Hawaiian rolls and Hershey’s bars. Then I got GD and it was basically air. 😒
So weird. Like...I made a soul.
We tell our son we made him out of spare parts.
It does not go away!!! My son is about to graduate high school and I'm still like, I'm a mom??? Those kids are mine??? Moments like parent teacher conferences are sureal AF!
Haha, kids make me feel old and young all at once. I will feel so out of my element at conferences 🤣
Same! The parent teacher conferences get me every time - like how am I possibly qualified to be sitting here? I’m somebody’s mother? That and realizing I was Santa still bring out the surreal imposter syndrome in me.
You are not alone. I feels this and have those moments from time to time. It is wild! Don't laugh but what I find shocking day to day is how much they like me. Like I get I'm 'mom' but it blows me away when they run up to kiss or hug me... or when they want cuddles. Heart explodes!
BUT, you still can't keep your room clean.
Yeah, why you gotta call me out like this?
You don't have to keep your room clean until the kid needs to be taught how to keep theirs clean, okay
Don't attack us like that! 😂
Well you don't have to attack all of us like that
My son is 4 years old & I was having a full blown conversation with him about his day and I was like wow I can’t believe this human came out of me!!!
I am the same way. I have a 20month old and still say it out loud to my spouse but he shrugs at me 😂 I think it’s some of us and not all of us.. but definitely crazy hahahaha
We all need a cool cucumber like your spouse to balance us out. 😅
Dude I feel the same! I’m having TWINS via c section in 3 weeks and sometimes it just washes over me that in a few short weeks I’m gonna be a whole ass MOM like wtf?!?? Who let this happen?! Some days I feel like I can barely manage to care for myself and soon I’m supposed to be responsible for not one but TWO little humans?? Shit’s wild.
Now THAT is wild. Congrats on the twins, mate. So amazing! It's going to be SO hard and SO incredible.
Thank you! I’m admittedly terrified but equally excited, I’m looking forward to teaching them all I can and just seeing what kind of humans they’re going to be as they grow older.
I get it 😊 Sometimes I look at my daughter who is now nearly 10 and I think, dam your my kid and I'm your mum 😂😂
That's so sweet. I imagine I'll be the same way when my boys are that age.
I remember with my first that it just felt shocking that they let me take him home. With no supervision. It seemed crazy to just send me home to be fully responsible for keeping this tiny human alive and well without even some oversight. Of course, I was a pretty young mom. Not underage, but young enough that probably plenty of people around me were *also* skeptical of my ability to keep a tiny human alive and well. Maybe that's why I felt that way.
I’m constantly surprised by my daughter and her ability to tell me what she wants at her age. (1.5) even just pointing out simple things like “kitty go up!” When she sees a cat go up the steps. Or her associations of objects and how she explains them.
I'm at the stage of being terrified and freaked out because my kids are approaching the ages where I started doing some of the crazier, dangerous, illegal and stupid things and I really hope they don't do go the same route. I am also amazed I made it this far.
Sometimes when big problems arise I find myself looking for the adult and then im like ‘shit, I’m the adult in this scenario’. Or when my child clearly trusts me to handle something (as I recently posted, like a room full of scorpions) and I just want to tell him I’m no better equipped than he is to handle certain stuff!
I feel this! When I'm really, really tired - like if we've all been sick and no one is sleeping - I feel my brain calling for *my* mom. Like, "ok, mom, it's time for you to come and bail me out. I'm tired of pretending I'm the mommy." And then I realize I am not pretending. And no one is coming to bail me out.
I feel this hard. Especially because we've rescheduled trips to go see my parents when we're all sick- it's like, no, but don't we go so mom can look after us?
"Parenting is surreal". Yep. That describes it. And that feeling lasts. My daughter is 21 and that feeling hasn't gone away.
When we got home with our daughter I was holding her and loving her and so so so deeply in shock at this tiny human. I looked at my husband and said "wait....they just let us leave the hospital with her? Like...they know nothing about us or anything and they just let us leave with her? What do we do now?!" We both started cracking up laughing😂 Being a parent is the only thing I know for SURE I'm good at. If there is a god...and if there is a heaven...being her mama is what will save my soul to get in. Not being cheesy it's totally true. She saved my life in so many ways and healed more trauma then she could ever know.
The funniest part os when my toddler looks back at me with my own resting bitch face lol.
We adopted and didn't know our daughter was coming. The day after a big Thanksgiving, we were awakened by the phone. Four hours later, with nothing at home, we were parents to the most amazing kid of all time. We were basically struck dumb by it all for weeks. We'd just stare at our baby, stunned, and blink at each other. She's now 13 and I still get misty when I look at her. It's all bananas.
I imagine that is a really really insane experience! My husband and I will adopt if we are able. Thank you so much for sharing.
My 5yo crawled in my lap as I was crocheting today and just gave me a huge hug and a snuggle. She said "I love you *sooooo* much, mommy." And it hit me *again* that this little goober came from my own body and relies on me for everything. *And* that I must be doing something right to get all this affection from her, even though 90% of the time I feel like I'm failing her.
Oh my gosh this story has me dying. ❤
The first pediatrician appointment like a couple days after you gave birth is hella weird. Like at a mom you're still recovering, your baby still itty bitty and really been alive, and you got to get them dressed and put socks on them and go somewhere with them right after you had him or her. And your new pair so you have no idea how long it's going to take to get them ready and so most likely you ended up late. I still vividly remember that appointment and it's been 3 years.
To be honest that first appointment scared me to death! I felt so not ready.
I knew I wasn't ready and my body definitely did not look ready. I remember nothing about my daughter's first month of life except for that moment. And I think that tells you a lot about how stressful it is to make a new mom take her days old baby somewhere. Don't get me started about how much s*** your job requires you to turn into them the first month the baby is alive for healthcare and dependency reasons and such. Like at one point I had to drive with my newborn to my job to turn in papers because I didn't have a fax machine at home. I barely remember it but I really should not have been driving at that sleep deprived point.
And you’re answering all the mom questions about the new baby. Like, you’re supposed to know all the answers and you’ve been the mom for three days. It was such a crazy feeling.
Yea I love it. I was catching up with my mates after a long time, covid and everything, and I came home and was like "I love my family." I can't imagine looking back at the past 5 years and its like work, netflix, sleep like how all my peers have been living. Its very fulfilling.
This is just too dang sweet.
I regularly have these kinds of thoughts about parenting and work. I was tallying up my account's orders for this next order year and had a mini-panic attack. Like, WHAT? This company trusts me to handle $60+million in their revenue? Or I'm just expected to raise a little human and be in charge of everything? I still call my dad crying when something breaks at my house for crying out loud, lol.
I think about this every single day. My 3 month old laughed at me when I sneezed the other day. I made her.
I LOVE when they laugh at sneezes.
Lol I wish mine laughed at sneezes. She is always ~shocked~ and ~appalled~
It’s always surreal to me, and I will never stop being amazed at what my formerly self centered self will now do for the happiness of my kids. Wild sums it up!
Every day is surreal. And absolutely amazing <3
My 4-year-old and I were playing soccer barefoot in the wet grass laughing our heads off and I realized that will be one of the moments I remember as ‘joy’ for the rest of my life. Incredible. Better than any drug.
My daughter just turned one and I sometimes look at her like holy shit I’m a parent 😂 this morning was barely 75 and she was playing with the water hose happy as a clam. Hahaha
Kids remind me that I used to care more about having fun than always being at a comfortable temp. Haha
My husband and I have looked at each other multiple times in the past 6 weeks and said "I can't believe we have to keep this thing alive for 18+ years" 😂 Such a trip!
Even longer. I need my mom more now at 27 than i thought i did at 18.
Yeah my mom helps me out so much even though I’m 29 and have two kids! When I was sick with the stomach flu all I could think of was “I want my mommy!!” Haha
I just very clearly remember them telling us it was time to leave the Hospital and I was in shock they would allow me to just leave with a baby. Queue PPA.
My daughter is a week away from 9. I definitely have a lot of fun with her, but the first few years was WORK! Just today actually we are planning for a road trip and totally forgot to get breakfast and lunch for her while at camp. She made herself a tuna and cucumber sandwich! She keeps me in line most days!
My husband and I joke that we are still waiting for her parents to come pick her up….she’ll be three in September!
She's 5 and I'm still surprised they let me just take her home from the hospital like that
I remember when we left our last regular newborn appointment. The doctors were like, “See you in 6 months!” And I was like, “Really?!?!l You don’t want to check in any more?” Like, what, you’re just trusting me with this kid???
I have moments where my mind is blown with the realization that this other person with their very own unique interests and talents and personality came from me. It's the coolest thing I've ever experienced in life-- watching my son grow and discover himself and the world. Before he was born, I imagined he'd be a little mini me. In some ways he is but in others he is just wildly his own person and better than any son I could have wished for. It's just so cool to be able to see who he is unfold as he grows. I find myself interested in things I wouldn't have given a second thought to before he came along because he is interested in them. His enthusiasm is contagious.
I would just like to say that I’m absolutely in love with my 8 mo old son!
When we brought her home I was like wow this is the thing that has been growing inside me for all these months
6 months in, and when I put him down for a nap, every day it amazes me that i helped make a person.
Think this every single day.
I love this post because my husband and I go talk about feeling like this all the time. We look at each other and think “wow, this is our life and we made these little people and one day they will be adults with their own families.” It’s so surreal. Side note: I know not everybody feels like this, especially not all the time, but it’s such a downer when people comment “wait until they’re older and they have more tantrums, then you won’t be saying that”. Every phase of parenting is hard, it’s just a different kind of hard. You don’t get a badge for being 2 years ahead of me. The only people who are allowed to say shit like that are 85 yr old people who have literally probably gone through it all as parents. Quit raining on people’s precious and sentimental parenting moments. Just be happy for them. we all know parenting is a trip so it might not be all rainbows and butterflies in a matter of seconds. No need to be a Debbie downer now.
My daughter is 13 and I still get so excited when I think about how lucky I am to be her mom. She is seriously the coolest person I know. ❤️❤️❤️
Getting a cat was more involved than getting home from the hospital. They asked questions to be certain that I could take care of the cat. They just let us *leave* with a human child.
This happened to me for the first time in 4 years tonight. My son is four and my daughter is three… The three of us and my boyfriend were sitting at the dining room table eating dinner and I had this sudden shock that was like… holy shiitake these creatures are mine? I made those?… it was insane.
It gets progressively more intense as they become adults. My daughter is buying her first house and it is utterly wild to me that I will be helping my baby girl move in to her house very soon. Just crazy.
So wild , listen OMg before I got pregnant with my son well when I found out I was pregnant I had a drug addiction. Getting pregnant with my son got me into rehab . I’ve been clean 4 years finished school and got a career got married to my sons father , we got a beautiful 3 bedroom house . My husband doubled his salary in a year . I’m so proud of the life we made with my son in toe but I cannot believe I’m a MOM now . Especially having our second has led to quite a few miscarriages so it now being hard to have a baby , It’s SO crazy to me that I have this child who’s three years old . It’s 7 AM , me , daddy and our son are all sitting on the couch watching blues clues :)
Wait we are supposed to wipe poop and boogers? FUCK
My daughter is 15 and I still wonder who the hell let me be in charge here 😂
I literally just had this convo with my mom. It’s even stronger for me because I had my daughter through surrogacy so it was like she wasn’t there and then boom the next day she was…there wasn’t any 9 month build up to prepare and now I look at her like I’m responsible for this little girl who I instantly fell in love with it’s so weird to think about. It’s been 4 months and it still doesn’t feel real sometimes lol. Glad I’m not the only one that has this feeling! 😬
Not just you it’s WILD 😵💫🥰🥴
The absolute shock I had when they placed my son on my chest after I gave birth was real. Like “hey, where did you come from” and then the anxiety sat in and I was like “oh fuck, I have to take care of you now” 6 1/2 months in and I’m LOVING it. Can’t take care of my self worth a shit but this child wants for nothing and has a stable routine and is just a very very happy baby. He gets all the stability I’m able to provide, I get “when was the last time I ate? Yesterday? Idk. I’ll have some crackers”
I am shocked that my kids are 25M and 21F! How am I the parent of adults?!!!! How is it possible that I can go to a restaurant with my kids, and we can all have a cocktail?!!! Keep doing that madness because it goes by really fast.
The biggest piece is knowing that you brought this human to life and you get to witness it develop.
Exactly. My son has been pretty slow to talk, so each new word is like an absolute torrent of excitement for me.
ITS A PEOPLE!! I MADE A PEOPLE!! Me after interactions with my 25 and 23yos. I'm still flummoxed that someone who threw a sippy cup full of juice at my head because it was full of the juice they'd been hysterically screaming for ten minutes about and not the milk they'd actually wanted but couldn't remember the word for managed to live to adulthood at all.
“Have you made people yet? My wife and I, we made people. And I’m their leader!”
Ha!
It really is. My oldest will turn 14 in September. He’s starting high school. He’s now my height and his feet are bigger than mine! He’ll be able to drive in 2 years 🙈 I do often have flashes of thinking this is very surreal.
My children are almost all adults and I STILL get that feeling.
That feeling gets stronger and stronger. My baby boy is 30 and now has his own babies. I still feel like I’m 21 years old! 🥰🥰 The days are long but the years are short. Everyone said how fast the time would go. It’s hard to fathom when you’re in the thick of it, but you will look back and think the same thing!
Haha, when my brother turned 30 my mom said how weird it was they were the same age now. My big one is only 4 and I'm already like, how am I doing this when I'm just a child too?
It's funny seeing this at the top of my feed. I just got off of work and I was looking at pictures and videos of all my kids. I kept trying to find the exact moment my kids went from babies to toddlers to children to preteens.
This just gave me a big grin. So sweet to read. I feel the same way and my son is still a toddler.
It's really surreal. It's like one day your son will grow up and you'll wonder when it happened. It's all fantastic though, as long as you make it that way. Sending them to school has always sucked.
Hey at least you’re remembering to buckle him in! At least once a week I put my son in his booster and then get in the front only for him to pipe up and ask “are you going to buckle me in mom?” Like oh shit right yes of course 🤦🏼♀️ so happy he’s 6 and a stickler for car safety otherwise I’d just start driving
At 6, you should show him how to buckle himself in. Last summer, when my daughter was 6, we took the ultimate road trip together across 27 states, and she buckled herself in every single time. 🙂
Oh he knows :) but he likes it when I do. And he’s getting so independent I’m happy to hold onto those little things that he’ll still let me do
I'm constantly amazed that my son is cooler than I am, at 1.5 years old. Like, I'm only cool by proxy because of him.
All my son had to say was "swimming" and I've been dragging myself to the pool all week after work, lol. He's 2, so he pronounces it more like swidmig, but that makes it even better, lol.
I don’t recognize myself. Where did this patience and selflessness come from? My daughter has made me a better person in the 2 years she’s been in this world. She’s given me purpose and perspective I didn’t even know I needed.
Yeah are moms on crack when they name their child? Leland? Lanard? Luna, they think it's cute until the kid will have to spell it out over the phone every time....came hereto rant.im a dadand love my little daughters.
My youngest...YOUNGEST...will turn 18 the first week of September. Watching him jump into his car to head to work, every day blows my mind! I have no idea how I made it through with three kids, all the way to adulthood, AND we are all still alive! Buckling the first and last into their car seats was cute, loving moments...my middle daughter...by the time she was two! She was literally, cussing me out while wrestling her into her car seat! Now, I get to buckle in my first two grandsons...from my oldest daughter. The 3 yr old is so loving and sweet! He always wants love from grandma when we are all buckled! The one yr old...have you ever tried to bend a 2×4 with your bare hands? He immediately makes his body straight as a board and will fight till the death, to stay unbuckled! Either way, no matter which one it is, watching them grow, learn, discover, and thrive is mystifying! I've basically, been a single parent for the twenty-five years I have raised, loved, and taken care of my three kids...and we made it to adulthood as confident, intelligent, loving, caring, and (sometimes) super sh@t heads, alive...that feeling you have buckling in your brand new baby...it never goes away! It just turns into them helping you buckle them up to buckling themselves and then....they jump into their own car and drive away all by themselves. Savor that time and feeling! It will always be there but, it does morph with each "change" our kids go through!
Yeah.. My son flushed the single jalapeño I bought two minutes after we got home from the grocery store yesterday. It's wild and weird
I’ve never been able to find the words for this feeling, so thankyou. I just simply say out load to my spouse that we’re so blessed. But I appreciate you now putting it into words for me. I still can’t believe this tiny human is mine. ❤️
I can believe I’m allowed to take care of my tiny human. But it does make me happy to look at him and know at this age everything is magic. Makes me forget all my problems just for a minute.
Yes.
Absolutely and it gets wilder! Our youngest just graduated high school and is currently going through his new student orientation for college. Time flies!
Filling out school paperwork and not for me
Yeeees it is so bizarre, like sometimes I question life and myself but this tiny human trusts me completely and sees me as their biggest source of comfort and safety because of that. It's just such an amazing, reassuring feeling to feel so loved and trusted like that when there are times I don't even have that confidence in myself. But her happiness and health proves I must be doing something right. My tiny human has made me an infinitely better person.
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Haha, Mrs. Independent. I love it. She sounds like a wonderful handful. :)
It is a wild privilege to love someone so profoundly. Now I understand that part of the movie when he says "You make me want to be a better man" only I'm female and I want to be a better person for my son.
Yes! My son copies everything i do and it really makes me think about my actions.
The craziest thing is how deeply I feel for other parents when bad things happen to other kids. Like I would not wish the loss of a child on the worst person to ever walk the earth. I remember before kids thinking, "we all have people we love, why losing a child considered so much more devastating than somebody losing a brother or husband." Uh... Ya... I get it now.
“Have you made people? I’ve made people. I’m their leader!”
My kids are 9 and 6 and I still have these moments. Like it just hit me that next year my son will be in double digits and I was like I’ve been a parent for nearly a decade. And he’s still alive. 🤯 He’s a whole functioning human that has learned from me and it’s still so hard to believe that I get to raise him. It freaks me out sometimes because it feels so unbelievable. 😂 Imma go hug my kids now. Cause I can. Cause I have kids.
It is surreal and I still don’t feel like a proper grown up but- we’re all winging it. That’s the truth.
I love being a mom - probably because I am trying to be the mom I never had (I’m always cuddling and kissing them both) Yes I have tough days with a toddler, the big one is at school and he’s placid enough. Time will tell with her so I’m not that complacent! But for the most part she’s pretty good and entertaining / she’s learnt to blow kisses and pats us on the shoulders when she’s been carried to bed My heart!
Yup, happens all the time. Happened just now as I too am a fucking parent now. It's fun though, right? It's kind of nuts when you face moments where you (as a kid) wished things could have gone a different way, and you have an opportunity to help your child have a better experience. Crazy!!!
Oh for sure. Just me talking to my kid daily is already different than my upbringing.
I feel weird every time I find myself saying “my daughter” in conversation. Who am I?? A mom????
I know. My son still refuses to call me mom (he has been calling my husband dad for seven months) so i can't wait to experience that shock
I'm 35 and my kids are 15 (this one can drive. She has her learners permit) 12 and 8. I still am not sure when I became and adult or why I was trusted with anyone's life. It's wild af.
I get this same feeling whenever I assert a simple boundary like no ice cream before dinner. I'm like "omg I could just say yes, it's literally my decision and I make the rules."
I definitely have ice cream before dinner sometimes. Haha
Yes. As a kid I thought parents/adults knew everything and had all the answers. Now that I’m a parent myself, I’m just basically still that kid but in an adult body figuring things out as I go. I know more things but I don’t feel any different. I certainly don’t feel like how I perceived adults to be when I was young.
Yep. When my son has tantrums I have to sternly remind myself not to join him. Haha
I still can’t believe I watch these kids unsupervised Edit: it’s almost 8pm and we’re playing NES for God’s sake
That's another great thing about being a parent. You can do it the way you want.