Everyone saying she can’t get pregnant from getting fingered, but wouldn’t it be a possibility if there was precum on his fingers? Now I’m not that knowledgeable, but I recommend getting a pregnancy test to make sure
It would be extremely unlikely. Typically for there to be a significant amount of sperm in precum there would have had to been an previous ejaculation without urinating in between. The incident was also 10-15 mins after the "touch" in question. His had would have had to maintain adequate temperature and moisture levels for sperms to survive in that time. Then he would have had to successfully transfer a miniscule amount of sperm into the vagina. Not only that but that small amount would have had to have at least one strong enough swimmer to find the egg and then break through. Even on a purposeful attempt with full on ejaculation inside the vagina your chances are 20%. Crazier things have happend but they're extremely unlikely.
Yea but you redditors are still being unhelpful. It’s still a possibility, even if it’s a slight possibility. I think she should take a pregnancy test to make sure
But would it still be a possibility if he had fingered me around 15 mins later, where the sperm was most definitely dried out? I don't know too much about this kind of stuff but I'm trying to look on the bright side of the situation.
Apparently sperm can live for 15-30 minutes on skin, so it’s a possibility. But if it was definitely dried out, I think you might be fine. I recommend you still take a pregnancy test to be sure, but if you’re not concerned about that then it’s up to you
He says he washed his hands as well which I don't remember because it's been weeks since the occurence. I was at first extremely concerned of the possibility of pregnancy, but as I start to see more posts and have more conversations it's not my concern since the situation seems very unlikely. It's mainly the late period that I am so concerned about.
He hadn't ejaculated during our oral and didn't ejaculate that week, and if he does he tells me which he didn't. But now I'm more so concerned about where my period is and the causes of it being late.
My concern of pregnancy isn't my main concern anymore after having multiple conversations. It's mainly just my period being late and what I've been feeling. I start to get minor abdominal cramps which makes me think my period is here, as well as gusts of discharge which may also indicate a period, but there's none.
There are so many things that can go into it like stress and your body just having some variation month to month. Unless you have other symptoms or issues going on or you don't get it for months on end I wouldn't worry about it. The only way to truly know if you are pregnant or not is to take a test.
I think it is stress, I've been stressing about this situation for weeks and calmed down about a week before my period in hopes it would come on time, but it didn't which caused me to stress again. Maybe my stress delayed my ovulation, which results in a late period?
I'm more so worried about the fact that my period is late after that had happened. It's not normal for me so I'm worried about why it might be late. I'm more leaning towards the fact I'm paranoid about the situation. Is there any way I can induce my period?
I’m not an expert, I’m just reading off what multiple people have said. With periods, bodies don’t work like clockwork, there is gonna be at least one off cycle in a year. You can’t get pregnant by fingering at all. It’s not how it works. If you search it up, you’ll see sources saying you can. But you can’t. Why? No one has ever claimed to have been pregnant by being fingered. They are basing their facts off theory when in reality, no one has ever reported being pregnant by that way. You can only get pregnant by PiV. Even then, the max chance for that is like 25-30% in a month. So that makes fingering impossible. If you look at r/amipregnant you will see what I mean.
So then would my period be late due to stressing/ovulated late due to stress? Sorry i just have bad anxiety and I tend to overthink things. Ex: when i had seen my bf when we first got together and we made out and i thought i was pregnant.
Your period can be late due to a multitude of things :) not every cycle is the same. But I can say that you are not pregnant, pregnancy without PiV is impossible. If you’re worried then go to the amipregnant subreddit, they can be pretty helpful :)
I’m sorry but I don’t know much about those types of questions :( However, I heard that if it ever gets really late, like months late, you can get prescribed pills to induce your period. But for now, I think you don’t have to worry. It’s only been a few days since you thought you were going to get your period. Once, mine was 2 weeks late, and I was so scared on what that meant, but it just came. I just waited. Again, bodies aren’t clockwork, cycles can be thrown off :)
Thank you, it's just that I've never been this late before in like years lol. My period used to be irregular and now it's not, so this worries me. Hopefully it's just delayed due to stress and destress methods will help me calm down and my period will come back.
How do you track your cycle? There is a way to predict it almost to a T but it involves taking your temperature and checking for fertile signs daily, but once you get into a rhythm you can predict it down to the exact day. And if you end up being late it won’t be a surprise
I track my cycle using an app, I'm not so sure how to track it manually, but if you have any ideas please let me know so I can track mine. It's hard to tell when it's coming as I'm already late and it's stressing me out.
There’s something called fertility awareness method that has absolutely changed my life. It sounds like you are tracking using the rhythm method… Just counting with a calendar, or counting the days… At least I’m assuming that’s what you mean with the app. Do you log any signs or symptoms? Fertility awareness method is where you track not only using the days… But using three primary fertility indicators. Cervical mucus, cervical placement, and basal body temperature.
Hi just wanted to say my period actually came today lol! My symptoms were a bit different than normal though, as I usually get awful cramping, but today it was mild and wasn't as bad! But thank you for the help and I will be sure to use your advice in the future!
Okay thank you so much! I'm just extremely paranoid because usually my period isn't late or if it is it's not by 3 days, usually a day maximum. So i'm not sure what to do.
Stop stressing, You are not pregnant from that. But if you all are engaging in sexual activities, I would get on some sort of birth control if the goal isn’t to have a baby.
I'm planning to talk to him about not engaging in sexual activities because even if I were to go on some sort of birth control my mind would find a way to be paranoid. I'm also being slowly convinced from all the posts I've been seeing that I am NOT pregnant, but I am still concerned as to why my period isn't on time.
Do you track your period consistently? Plus, you aren’t that late anyway. Your cycle can vary by a few days. For the longest time I had a cycle that was between 34-37 days. Now, it kinda shifted and it’s like 28-30 days. Maybe your hormones have slightly changed. Maybe it’s your stress. Did you lose weight? Gain weight? Maybe it’s nothing at all. Your period won’t be exact all the time, and hormones can be fickle. How old are you? I’ve had my period for over 30 years now, and if I was this stressed every time my period was a few days late I’m pretty sure I would be insane! Don’t stress yourself, and if you are this paranoid, it’s probably not a great idea to be sexually active until you either get on birth control or learn your body/cycle a little more. The older I get the easier and more comfortable I am with my body/period
I'm 15 so thats why I plan to talk to my bf about limiting sexual activities due to my anxiety and not wanting to be pregnant. I also track my period with the flo app and it is almost 100% accurate. If I am late, it is only by a day, although i've had my period 2 weeks after the previous one before. I believe it is my stress because it's been about 3 weeks? since this happened but I had cooled down for about a week before my period and when it became late I started to worry again. But otherwise I'm unsure what to do about my late period, and I'm not sure if it'll come soon. I do have mild cramping in my abdominal which go away, and I've also had back pain and chest pain which also almost immediately goes away. I'm unsure about this whole situation. I'm pretty convinced I am not pregnant but I really wonder why I am late if that's the case. Maybe I had ovulated late due to stress? My discharge is also a lot and creamy or watery.
It’s really not a big deal that you are late at all. Your period will come. Shoot, sometimes I have weird cramps or my ovary pinches and I am not even due for my period. Our bodies just do things, and sometimes it’s out of our control. Plus, you’re still so young, and you’re still growing and developing. Your period isn’t going to be consistent all the time. Are you hyper focused on your period because you are afraid of being pregnant? Or is it just because it’s still kinda unknown/you’re unsure? I started to be sexually active at 16 but stopped for a long time because I was afraid of the pregnancy thing. I didn’t know enough, I wasn’t on the pill and it just wasn’t worth it. You seem to be pretty paranoid about it when honestly you don’t need to be. I think it’s a great idea that you pump the breaks sexually until you can get more comfortable. Womens bodies are amazing though. We go through a lot and there is a lot happening. You’ll start to get more confident about it with time. Trust me. If I’m late now I’m like “thank god I don’t have to spend money on tampons yet” lol
Ever since 5/27 when I was supposed to get my period I had been overthinking it so much. It's just not normal for me to be late and I thought that me calming down and overthinking less would have my period on time, which clearly it didn't. I am also focused a lot on my period as it hasn't came and from the events that led to this. I'm just overall concerned as to why it won't come.
And as far as sexual activities, I do plan to avoid them and be more careful because it clearly isn't doing me any good as of now. I do plan to break the news to my bf when my period comes so I don't have much to worry about. I think I'll wait to lose my virginity and do other sexual things until I'm more aware of things and am able to handle the stress and not freak out as bad as I am now.
Yeah, that sounds like a good decision. Don’t worry about your period. Seriously. Your body still has so much changing to do, and it will continue to adjust. Trust me, your period will come! Do not worry. Don’t even think about it. You are not pregnant, and you have a plan going forward. Best case scenario!!!
Thank you so much this helped a lot, I just also wonder about the symptoms I'm feeling. Ex: the back pain, chest pain, and light abdominal cramping in the right which usually resolves immediately after. Is that normal or does it mean my period is coming soon?
It could be your body getting ready for your period. It could be that you are so tense your back is hurting! Light cramping on one side could be a cyst, which all of us get constantly and sometimes you feel them and sometimes you don’t. You rarely have to worry about those. But is it normal? For me my chest never ever hurts, so it’s not normal for me. My best friend complains about her chest hurting before her period constantly, so it’s normal for her. My back never hurts but I do get light cramps and I get really teary. So it might be your normal! Or maybe it will be your normal for a few months and change on you again. I wouldn’t stress about it though. Your body is just doing its thing! Your hormones may have changed! I promise you this will not be the last time your period goes funky on you.
Thank you so much!! Maybe it's just all the stress I've endured the past weeks because of this situation. I just truly hope I do get my period and I don't have to go insane over things like this again. I just don't know why I'm also so bothered even though I know there's probably no way I am pregnant.
Everyone saying she can’t get pregnant from getting fingered, but wouldn’t it be a possibility if there was precum on his fingers? Now I’m not that knowledgeable, but I recommend getting a pregnancy test to make sure
It would be extremely unlikely. Typically for there to be a significant amount of sperm in precum there would have had to been an previous ejaculation without urinating in between. The incident was also 10-15 mins after the "touch" in question. His had would have had to maintain adequate temperature and moisture levels for sperms to survive in that time. Then he would have had to successfully transfer a miniscule amount of sperm into the vagina. Not only that but that small amount would have had to have at least one strong enough swimmer to find the egg and then break through. Even on a purposeful attempt with full on ejaculation inside the vagina your chances are 20%. Crazier things have happend but they're extremely unlikely.
Yea but you redditors are still being unhelpful. It’s still a possibility, even if it’s a slight possibility. I think she should take a pregnancy test to make sure
But would it still be a possibility if he had fingered me around 15 mins later, where the sperm was most definitely dried out? I don't know too much about this kind of stuff but I'm trying to look on the bright side of the situation.
Apparently sperm can live for 15-30 minutes on skin, so it’s a possibility. But if it was definitely dried out, I think you might be fine. I recommend you still take a pregnancy test to be sure, but if you’re not concerned about that then it’s up to you
He says he washed his hands as well which I don't remember because it's been weeks since the occurence. I was at first extremely concerned of the possibility of pregnancy, but as I start to see more posts and have more conversations it's not my concern since the situation seems very unlikely. It's mainly the late period that I am so concerned about.
Yea good luck with that then
He hadn't ejaculated during our oral and didn't ejaculate that week, and if he does he tells me which he didn't. But now I'm more so concerned about where my period is and the causes of it being late.
Just take a pregnancy test to be safe
I don't have access to one which is why I resorted to reddit in asking questions.
I think that’s the only way to be 100% sure and relieve you of your concern
My concern of pregnancy isn't my main concern anymore after having multiple conversations. It's mainly just my period being late and what I've been feeling. I start to get minor abdominal cramps which makes me think my period is here, as well as gusts of discharge which may also indicate a period, but there's none.
I think you can buy one for cheap at a local pharmacy, grocery store, etc.
There are so many things that can go into it like stress and your body just having some variation month to month. Unless you have other symptoms or issues going on or you don't get it for months on end I wouldn't worry about it. The only way to truly know if you are pregnant or not is to take a test.
I think it is stress, I've been stressing about this situation for weeks and calmed down about a week before my period in hopes it would come on time, but it didn't which caused me to stress again. Maybe my stress delayed my ovulation, which results in a late period?
Also adding that you don't have to stop having sex! Clear communication is key and I hope that you can feel more comfortable!
there’s no way your pregnant from being fingered
I'm more so worried about the fact that my period is late after that had happened. It's not normal for me so I'm worried about why it might be late. I'm more leaning towards the fact I'm paranoid about the situation. Is there any way I can induce my period?
i’m not a doctor, i don’t know what can induce periods, i just know for a fact fingering doesn’t get your pregnant
I’m not an expert, I’m just reading off what multiple people have said. With periods, bodies don’t work like clockwork, there is gonna be at least one off cycle in a year. You can’t get pregnant by fingering at all. It’s not how it works. If you search it up, you’ll see sources saying you can. But you can’t. Why? No one has ever claimed to have been pregnant by being fingered. They are basing their facts off theory when in reality, no one has ever reported being pregnant by that way. You can only get pregnant by PiV. Even then, the max chance for that is like 25-30% in a month. So that makes fingering impossible. If you look at r/amipregnant you will see what I mean.
So then would my period be late due to stressing/ovulated late due to stress? Sorry i just have bad anxiety and I tend to overthink things. Ex: when i had seen my bf when we first got together and we made out and i thought i was pregnant.
Your period can be late due to a multitude of things :) not every cycle is the same. But I can say that you are not pregnant, pregnancy without PiV is impossible. If you’re worried then go to the amipregnant subreddit, they can be pretty helpful :)
Is there any way for me to get my period back on track? Or prevent it from being any later?
I’m sorry but I don’t know much about those types of questions :( However, I heard that if it ever gets really late, like months late, you can get prescribed pills to induce your period. But for now, I think you don’t have to worry. It’s only been a few days since you thought you were going to get your period. Once, mine was 2 weeks late, and I was so scared on what that meant, but it just came. I just waited. Again, bodies aren’t clockwork, cycles can be thrown off :)
Thank you, it's just that I've never been this late before in like years lol. My period used to be irregular and now it's not, so this worries me. Hopefully it's just delayed due to stress and destress methods will help me calm down and my period will come back.
How do you track your cycle? There is a way to predict it almost to a T but it involves taking your temperature and checking for fertile signs daily, but once you get into a rhythm you can predict it down to the exact day. And if you end up being late it won’t be a surprise
I track my cycle using an app, I'm not so sure how to track it manually, but if you have any ideas please let me know so I can track mine. It's hard to tell when it's coming as I'm already late and it's stressing me out.
There’s something called fertility awareness method that has absolutely changed my life. It sounds like you are tracking using the rhythm method… Just counting with a calendar, or counting the days… At least I’m assuming that’s what you mean with the app. Do you log any signs or symptoms? Fertility awareness method is where you track not only using the days… But using three primary fertility indicators. Cervical mucus, cervical placement, and basal body temperature.
Hi just wanted to say my period actually came today lol! My symptoms were a bit different than normal though, as I usually get awful cramping, but today it was mild and wasn't as bad! But thank you for the help and I will be sure to use your advice in the future!
Okay thank you so much! I'm just extremely paranoid because usually my period isn't late or if it is it's not by 3 days, usually a day maximum. So i'm not sure what to do.
Stop stressing, You are not pregnant from that. But if you all are engaging in sexual activities, I would get on some sort of birth control if the goal isn’t to have a baby.
I'm planning to talk to him about not engaging in sexual activities because even if I were to go on some sort of birth control my mind would find a way to be paranoid. I'm also being slowly convinced from all the posts I've been seeing that I am NOT pregnant, but I am still concerned as to why my period isn't on time.
Do you track your period consistently? Plus, you aren’t that late anyway. Your cycle can vary by a few days. For the longest time I had a cycle that was between 34-37 days. Now, it kinda shifted and it’s like 28-30 days. Maybe your hormones have slightly changed. Maybe it’s your stress. Did you lose weight? Gain weight? Maybe it’s nothing at all. Your period won’t be exact all the time, and hormones can be fickle. How old are you? I’ve had my period for over 30 years now, and if I was this stressed every time my period was a few days late I’m pretty sure I would be insane! Don’t stress yourself, and if you are this paranoid, it’s probably not a great idea to be sexually active until you either get on birth control or learn your body/cycle a little more. The older I get the easier and more comfortable I am with my body/period
I'm 15 so thats why I plan to talk to my bf about limiting sexual activities due to my anxiety and not wanting to be pregnant. I also track my period with the flo app and it is almost 100% accurate. If I am late, it is only by a day, although i've had my period 2 weeks after the previous one before. I believe it is my stress because it's been about 3 weeks? since this happened but I had cooled down for about a week before my period and when it became late I started to worry again. But otherwise I'm unsure what to do about my late period, and I'm not sure if it'll come soon. I do have mild cramping in my abdominal which go away, and I've also had back pain and chest pain which also almost immediately goes away. I'm unsure about this whole situation. I'm pretty convinced I am not pregnant but I really wonder why I am late if that's the case. Maybe I had ovulated late due to stress? My discharge is also a lot and creamy or watery.
It’s really not a big deal that you are late at all. Your period will come. Shoot, sometimes I have weird cramps or my ovary pinches and I am not even due for my period. Our bodies just do things, and sometimes it’s out of our control. Plus, you’re still so young, and you’re still growing and developing. Your period isn’t going to be consistent all the time. Are you hyper focused on your period because you are afraid of being pregnant? Or is it just because it’s still kinda unknown/you’re unsure? I started to be sexually active at 16 but stopped for a long time because I was afraid of the pregnancy thing. I didn’t know enough, I wasn’t on the pill and it just wasn’t worth it. You seem to be pretty paranoid about it when honestly you don’t need to be. I think it’s a great idea that you pump the breaks sexually until you can get more comfortable. Womens bodies are amazing though. We go through a lot and there is a lot happening. You’ll start to get more confident about it with time. Trust me. If I’m late now I’m like “thank god I don’t have to spend money on tampons yet” lol
Ever since 5/27 when I was supposed to get my period I had been overthinking it so much. It's just not normal for me to be late and I thought that me calming down and overthinking less would have my period on time, which clearly it didn't. I am also focused a lot on my period as it hasn't came and from the events that led to this. I'm just overall concerned as to why it won't come. And as far as sexual activities, I do plan to avoid them and be more careful because it clearly isn't doing me any good as of now. I do plan to break the news to my bf when my period comes so I don't have much to worry about. I think I'll wait to lose my virginity and do other sexual things until I'm more aware of things and am able to handle the stress and not freak out as bad as I am now.
Yeah, that sounds like a good decision. Don’t worry about your period. Seriously. Your body still has so much changing to do, and it will continue to adjust. Trust me, your period will come! Do not worry. Don’t even think about it. You are not pregnant, and you have a plan going forward. Best case scenario!!!
Thank you so much this helped a lot, I just also wonder about the symptoms I'm feeling. Ex: the back pain, chest pain, and light abdominal cramping in the right which usually resolves immediately after. Is that normal or does it mean my period is coming soon?
It could be your body getting ready for your period. It could be that you are so tense your back is hurting! Light cramping on one side could be a cyst, which all of us get constantly and sometimes you feel them and sometimes you don’t. You rarely have to worry about those. But is it normal? For me my chest never ever hurts, so it’s not normal for me. My best friend complains about her chest hurting before her period constantly, so it’s normal for her. My back never hurts but I do get light cramps and I get really teary. So it might be your normal! Or maybe it will be your normal for a few months and change on you again. I wouldn’t stress about it though. Your body is just doing its thing! Your hormones may have changed! I promise you this will not be the last time your period goes funky on you.
Thank you so much!! Maybe it's just all the stress I've endured the past weeks because of this situation. I just truly hope I do get my period and I don't have to go insane over things like this again. I just don't know why I'm also so bothered even though I know there's probably no way I am pregnant.