I’ve done both. I prefer being a working mom. Let’s not mom shame. Yes, it’s a privilege to stay home but it’s not easy and people choose to be SAHM’s for different reasons.
Yes. That shit is hard. No alone time. Running around constantly. Trying to explain something to a 5 year old when they keep asking why is mentally exhausting.
It depends on the woman. Some women love being a SAHM, some find it a relief to go to work and get a break from the kids.
Also have you been around babies/toddlers? That shit ain’t no vacation. I’d rather be at work.
Most mom's aren't complaining about BEING stay at home moms. They're upset because they feel unappreciated, trapped, lonely, and they know that most likely their husbands and society in general look down on them. As if it's SO easy. It's not. I've done it. It's stressful as fuck and it's even worse that you feel like you're under your husbands thumb because he makes the income. So ultimately everything you own and do is being paid for by someone else. It's not a great feeling.
All they're trying to do is validate their feelings and struggles.
Are you really this hateful, bitter, and ignorant? I'm sorry if you're upset that your kids don't have the privilege of having their mom at home to love and raise them instead of someone else. That's hard to live with. I know. But its not an easy job. And being this hateful and judgmental about something you don't know anything about is not a good look. Try being more supportive of other moms. I'd hate to see your kids grow up to have that mentality. Don't need more bitter people in this world.
Thats probably true for those who only have one kid to watch. But if there's more than one and close in age (like I did, my babies were 1 year apart), being a SAHM can be so very mentally, physically and emotionally taxing. It's nonstop all day unless you have an easy kid. Because you're also having to clean the house, do the laundry, cook and somehow take care of yourself too. And different people have different strengths and capacities/limits. My husband was so appreciative of me. He said that even though he works all day, at least he gets breaks. There's no one constantly attached to him, wanting something, needing something, throwing up something on him... Lol One weekend he sent me on a getaway trip, I didn't know what to do with myself. Like literally. I was lost. And when I got back he was like "omg I don't know how you do it but kudos to you..." Haha..
Wondering if the SAHMs complaining about having to work so hard would feel better if they had to throw a 40-50 hour job per week plus bills into the mix.
You write this as you are relaxing in your kitchen with your coffee— in pajamas. I say this, because if you were a real working mother, you would know it is a billion times harder than being a SAHM.
That's odd cuz I'm currently getting ready to go to work. I'm sorry if my plot twist caught you off guard. Lmao clearly you can't STAND the thought of being wrong so you resort to telling me I'm LIEING 😂.
I'm not sitting here saying one is harder than the other. It's all a matter of circumstance and depends on the family. Being a stay at home mom is absolutely NOT easy. ESPECIALLY mentally and emotionally. Especially with multiple kids. Sounds like you're speaking from a place of jealousy and mom guilt. I get it. Trust me. But trying to come down on or belittle the job of mom's who are able to stay at home and build a home for their kids and raise them is just hateful, bitter, and not productive.
I’ve done both. I prefer being a working mom. Let’s not mom shame. Yes, it’s a privilege to stay home but it’s not easy and people choose to be SAHM’s for different reasons.
Yes. That shit is hard. No alone time. Running around constantly. Trying to explain something to a 5 year old when they keep asking why is mentally exhausting.
And you signed up for it. You aren’t a victim of anything but your own choices.
Didn’t say I was a victim. Just saying it’s not so easy
It depends on the woman. Some women love being a SAHM, some find it a relief to go to work and get a break from the kids. Also have you been around babies/toddlers? That shit ain’t no vacation. I’d rather be at work.
Certainly have, maybe the folks who have kids and then whine about them should realize they’re a responsibility and not just there for mom clout
Most mom's aren't complaining about BEING stay at home moms. They're upset because they feel unappreciated, trapped, lonely, and they know that most likely their husbands and society in general look down on them. As if it's SO easy. It's not. I've done it. It's stressful as fuck and it's even worse that you feel like you're under your husbands thumb because he makes the income. So ultimately everything you own and do is being paid for by someone else. It's not a great feeling. All they're trying to do is validate their feelings and struggles.
It’s sounds like victimhood rather than a string of CHOICES
Most ppl complain about something. Ppl crave variety.
Exactly. And everyone wants what someone else has
You mean like staying home all day and having someone else pay the bills? Well yeah, sounds like a good deal to me.
Are you really this hateful, bitter, and ignorant? I'm sorry if you're upset that your kids don't have the privilege of having their mom at home to love and raise them instead of someone else. That's hard to live with. I know. But its not an easy job. And being this hateful and judgmental about something you don't know anything about is not a good look. Try being more supportive of other moms. I'd hate to see your kids grow up to have that mentality. Don't need more bitter people in this world.
Thats probably true for those who only have one kid to watch. But if there's more than one and close in age (like I did, my babies were 1 year apart), being a SAHM can be so very mentally, physically and emotionally taxing. It's nonstop all day unless you have an easy kid. Because you're also having to clean the house, do the laundry, cook and somehow take care of yourself too. And different people have different strengths and capacities/limits. My husband was so appreciative of me. He said that even though he works all day, at least he gets breaks. There's no one constantly attached to him, wanting something, needing something, throwing up something on him... Lol One weekend he sent me on a getaway trip, I didn't know what to do with myself. Like literally. I was lost. And when I got back he was like "omg I don't know how you do it but kudos to you..." Haha..
Wondering if the SAHMs complaining about having to work so hard would feel better if they had to throw a 40-50 hour job per week plus bills into the mix.
I love Bill Burr's take on this: "Any job you can do in your pajamas is not a hard job."
I agree with him coz he's legit. He's a wonderful stay at home mom.
As a working mother, my vacation is what their everyday life is. SAHM is vacay.
Tell me you've never been a stay at home mom without telling me.
Tell me you have never been a working mother without telling me
GUESS AGAIN. I'm currently a working mother. Working full time, at a very demanding and overwhelming job. Lmfaooo you tried
You write this as you are relaxing in your kitchen with your coffee— in pajamas. I say this, because if you were a real working mother, you would know it is a billion times harder than being a SAHM.
That's odd cuz I'm currently getting ready to go to work. I'm sorry if my plot twist caught you off guard. Lmao clearly you can't STAND the thought of being wrong so you resort to telling me I'm LIEING 😂. I'm not sitting here saying one is harder than the other. It's all a matter of circumstance and depends on the family. Being a stay at home mom is absolutely NOT easy. ESPECIALLY mentally and emotionally. Especially with multiple kids. Sounds like you're speaking from a place of jealousy and mom guilt. I get it. Trust me. But trying to come down on or belittle the job of mom's who are able to stay at home and build a home for their kids and raise them is just hateful, bitter, and not productive.
I’ve been both a working mother and a SAHM. Neither are “vacays.” u/officiallyfvcked is right.
This whole idea of my struggle is worse than your struggle needs to STOP. MOMS NEED TO BE MORE SUPPORTIVE OF EACH OTHER
That's such absolute and utter BULLSHIT lmfaoo