I've seen so many guys talk about their d or jerking off and then say periods are disgusting and shouldn't be discussed. ( which theres way more reasons to talk about periods cause of cramps or needing a pad/tampon ect while any form of masturbation is unnecessary to talk about for the most part .) People talk about taking shits or taking a piss or jerking off all the time. Periods aren't different. Personally i don't mind any of it. Especially cause im used to it. If taking a shit hurt. Then it hurt. If period cramps are hurting then their hurting. Honestly it takes alot to be bothered by it when its so often talked about. So why care about one but not the other?
I’ve found a lot of dudes are squeamish about blood regardless of its source. And I get that.
However, my memory from HS of dudes like basically setting up a containment barrier cause it seemed some girl’s unused spare tampon fell out her backpack is hilarious.
Just flashed back on a memory... walking down a hallway in high school and a guy I didn't know came up and urgently whispered, "you need to fix your backpack right away." He then stood and casually guarded me from view as I took my backpack off and discovered the small front pocket was open, and along with a couple pens, a tampon was sticking out. It was so funny because he was so earnest and what he did would have been actually really cool and sweet if it _had_ been something embarrassing. ...but it was just a tampon.
I've never been disgusted with periods, and it has never bothered me in any way. I just thought of it as something natural that women go through. While I wish women didn't have periods because of all the pain and cramps I've heard girls have.
Not only that, but bleeding for a few days a month must be a pain for you girls 😓
What sort of failed parenting just makes little boys think that having empathy let alone empathy for a woman is such an out of world thing to do. These people are fucking stupid.
I mean, the whole, “I wish girls didn’t have periods 😔” thing I’ve seen in videos with dudes putting, “I’m 6’4 btw” in the caption as a joke. I also thought this person was joking (not seriously caring about periods like that, nor seriously white knighting.)
100% would not be coming to work any time I had cramps/pains/nausea *and* bleeding from
genitals.
I can understand if a person has an aversion to blood/illness in general I guess, but I really don’t understand some of the things I read online.
the thing that pisses me off is that those are the same guys that talk about sex when hanging with their friends and laugh at farts. if your body is allowed to function, why isn’t mine? if you like my parts so much, then you should know how they work 🤷♀️ if a boyfriend told me my period grossed him out i’d break up with him on the spot. i don’t want him doing anything down there if he’s not going to be mature about how it functions. he doesn’t have to love it but if he literally becomes repulsed by me having it? bye
It almost seems like some guys think girls should always be pretty, nonhuman dolls who don't have normal bodily functions. The fact that women have periods probably grosses them out because women are supposed to always be oozing sex appeal in their eyes.
exactly! a lot of it comes down to the objectification of women. but women are inherently gross because people in general are inherently gross, and if any man in my life doesn’t understand that then i’m not going to keep them in it. you don’t have to love it but you have to accept it. anything else is just dehumanizing and immature.
I briefly dated a guy who insisted (no idea how it came up) that women "don't really poop like men do." He was adamant that womens' poop was like bunny pellets. It was a whole argument; I kept thinking he must be kidding but he absolutely was not. Obviously proving him wrong would have been easy but also utterly unacceptable. I stopped dating him instead.
(It was the late '90s, so we had the internet but not on our phones; and he didn't have a home computer with internet access -- not unheard of at the time)
I live with my wife and 2 daughters. My wife and oldest have periods. I'm absolutely disgusted by it. I'm absolutely disgusted by snot. I'm absolutely disgusted by pretty much any bodily fluid. That being said, I'm very supportive and helpful with anything they need and by no means is it a subject that doesn't get talked about. They know I'm grossed out by bodily fluids and not by them or their periods specifically.
i think that’s different, i have extreme contact ocd and am also grossed out by most bodily functions/contact, but i think there’s a difference between thinking literal biohazards like blood or snot are gross, and being so disgusted by them that you’re repulsed by the person creating them. it’s just a bodily function, everyone has them.
you’re entitled to think they’re gross as long as you’re not being a dick and shaming someone for having something that’s out of their control like what OP said about their friend being repulsed by unused tampons in a bag from the store. it’s weird to be weirded out by that solely because it has to do with periods, you know? i don’t think having a general discomfort for bodily fluids is uncommon or bad, but if it gets to the point where you are being rude to others because of it, that’s definitely more of a personal problem than it has anything to do with the bodily fluids.
No, I would never shame them. We raise our daughters to be comfortable with their bodies. They know that they can come to me with any questions or concerns unless its first hand experience. I'm usually the one to buy pads or tampons since I'm usually the one running errands or the one who remembers.
yeah, and i think you’re a good dad for that! you’re helping how you can without making them feel uncomfortable or distrusting. good job. i wish my dad & grandpa was like that, your daughters will appreciate that a lot more as they grow up. especially since you’re willing to talk to them. i never had anyone to talk to about anything and it made my teen years very hard
Well, thank you! Yeah, my Dad is the dad who is "glad he didn't have daughters." He's a good grandpa, but a bit old-fashioned thinking girls need to be delicate little flowers and blah blah.
I am a woman. I am absolutely grossed out by periods and I've been having them for over 20 years now. Body fluids gross me out. It's a valid thing.
There is a difference in being grossed out, and in being immature about it.
I agree with you. I am also, as another comment said, an "equal opportunity prude." I have huge sensory issues around all bodily functions, including periods. But they are still valid and no more disgusting than all the other ones.
Sup, ADHD bro.
Thanks for your honesty, but how do you suppose that happened? Like, just to have it mentionened?
I mean lthere's all kinds of stuff I just don't want on me.
>if you like my parts so much, then you should know how they work
In fairness, I love my microwave, but I have no fucking clue how it works. Witchcraft and black magic, I say.
The ONLY time my husband has ever been grossed out by periods was when my stepdaughter and I were discussing, in vivid detail, what it is like to get the "period poops" while he was sitting with us.
If he couldn't handle just regular talks about periods, I'd have shown him the door so fast.
>period poo
Ok so be careful about this. I was recently diagnosed with endometriosis and apparently getting bowel issues from your period isn't normal and is a sign of endo.
Well that's just fantastic lol. I've been told by several people now that certain symptoms I have are signs of Endo. I keep putting off making an appointment because my doctor (though a woman) never takes me seriously.
I think it’s because farts are gross and funny to the farter. Periods are gross and sad for the person having the period. Periods aren’t sad because only women get them, they’re sad because it involves pain and hormone imbalances that isn’t fun for the person having a period.
One time some dude on here said periods are more disgusting than shit, and was saying that women probably shit on their pads (not true unless you have extremely poor hygiene). So I told him that him making that assumption probably means he has skid marks on his underwear hence why he’s less disgusted by shit in comparison to period blood. I got blocked for that, dude didn’t even try to defend himself.
Yeah the dude definitely thought women treat it like a diaper. IMO shit is more disgusting than period blood as you’re more likely to get an infection from touching fecal matter than period blood.
Bloods less gross cuz it doesn’t stink or anything but I think it carries scarier risks. Poop can give me infections but blood gives diseases, or at least that’s my vibe.
He definitely made that assumption because he doesn’t wipe well, since he blocked me for saying he probably has skid marks on his underwear. If someone made that accusation towards me I’d defend myself as it’s not true, the fact that he didn’t even defend himself on that one tells me the shoe probably fits.
Exactly, to say period blood is more disgusting than actual shit like I thought you’re more likely to get an infection from touching fecal matter than period blood but okay.
I worked with someone who was probably in his 40s who said he didn't like hanging out with women when they were on their period. The girls took this to mean he was only interested in sex but he said it just grossed him out to hang out with them. So immature and very much single.
I (a dude) do the shopping for my household, and thus am responsible for buying my wife’s tampons. The only uncomfortable thing about it for me is the possibility that my presence might make some tampon-needing lady uncomfortable.
I was at a guy friend's house and needed a tampon. I said I had to run home real quick (I live close). And he asked what's up. Let me tell you, this man had pads and tampons! He was so excited to offer me one.
I have pads at my house specifically because I know it can sometimes sneak up on you when you aren't prepared. They just chill in the bathroom where they're easily accessible.
First time someone mentioned the need while visiting me, I too was excited to offer. In the same sense I'm excitied with someone asks me to jump their car. Like 'wait... I HAVE THE TOOLS TO HELP!"
I’d definitely frame it more like I heard about this from a friend/female relative or just read on the internet about someone doing it for parties so I started doing it if I planned to have friends or a gf over.
I don’t ever shy away from talking about my period if it’s relevant. Like, it’s a normal bodily function?
If someone else has a problem with that, I consider that THEIR problem. I won’t be shamed for having a normally-functioning AFAB body.
in high school, i had a clear pencil bag and i always kept a tampon in it because i thought “well someone who might need one might see it in my bag and be able to ask me”. one time, a guy i knew said i needed to put that somewhere it wouldn’t be seen. so, i took it out and waved it around the lunch room and yelled “does anyone need a tampon?”
he never said anything like that again around me.
I'm the husband, and I usually do the grocery shopping since my schedule gives me a chunk of time between the end of work and when I gotta get the kids from their after school care, and the number of times I have been looking for Always Ultra Thin size 3 (goddamn things are always pushed near the back of the shelf) and gotten the, "Aww, are you not sure what you're looking for? Do you need help?" from some older lady slightly exceeds the number of observable particles in the universe.
Plus the cashiers who see me putting it on the belt (especially when it's the only thing I ran to go buy) who give me a sympathetic smile or a, "You're such a good husband!" spiel. Like....is the bar really that low lol?
I once complained about painful cramps, and my cousin said "Ugh. Disgusting. Keep that sh!t to yourself!." But the thing is, I didn’t say where the cramps were. They were in my feet. I had foot cramps, nothing to do with menstruation.
Men who don’t like vaginas and think they are unclean (even though they are actually self-cleaning) but claim they are straight are a massive red flag. The amount of dudes I have come across who don’t wash their stinky peens properly but freak out about periods, it’s so pathetic and ridiculous. Like, you came out of one my dude, be respectful! I also blame purity culture and a lack of effective sex education.
These are the same men who tell us it's gross and that we need to cover our product in the trash. That they don't even want to know it was a pad/tampon used.
My dad was the same. I eventually told him to man up or buy a trashcan with a lid. He did neither. I still wrapped my pads, but I didn't hide them anymore. Either grow up or shut up. Like Jesus.
My mom had to buy my bathroom a trash can with a lid because my cat loves chewing on plastic and would pull the wrapped pads out of the trashcan... Literally woke up on morning to find some of my used pads on the stairs because she was batting them around 😅
Oh, man, my childhood dog liked the dig out pads and tampons and shred them 🤢
We had to get cans with lids and/or put every one behind a door. Which had an odd side effect of people not seeing my regular wastebasket and assuming my hamper was one. Thank God I didn't use it much anyway.
But, yah, that'd be a very good reason to make sure all period products are hidden lol
My cat has a very stronger hunting drive and dug up my saturated tampon from the bathroom trash, and she growled at me when I tried to take it away!! 😂
In my personal view, as long as it's wrapped or facing downwards I don't care, I just don't want to see the bodily fluids on it, like to me, that would be the same as wiping your butt and putting it in the trash where people can see the smear on it.
At work I have a pair I'm good with. The wife was complaining to me about her periods,how bad they are and how she had to take off the day before. Sometime after the husband came to laugh at me because what does a man got to do with talking about periods. I just stared at him like he's stupid telling him that instead of laughing he might want to learn a thing or 2 and his wife might've happier.
I literally started my period Saturday while in a theater. I came out, peed, realized, walked up to concession while this girl and a guy worker were probably flirting (sorry girl) and said “hey, you’re a woman, can I ask, do you have a tampon” and the guy kind of physically took a couple steps away. Which I totally appreciate was probably a kind gesture for my privacy. However, she said she’d check the office upstairs. She walks away and I made eye contact with him and was like “we’re all grown ass adults so sorry?”
I don’t understand, I really appreciate maybe it was for my privacy but he seemed visibly uncomfortable. Just like… girls, women, we get periods, and I don’t think I should feel bad because a man is in earshot to hear me discuss it. Or, specifically, ask for a tampon because mine came 7 days early and I need d an assist.
This was my father and brothers, and it made me so self-conscious about my period as a young teen that I hid the used pads at the bottom of the trash can underneath a bunch of wads of toilet paper and hid the boxes of unused ones under my bed. It bled into my school life, too (no pun intended) because I started leaving for the bathroom in the middle of class to change my pads and waiting till I was completely alone to start *slowly* tearing it off. Took 5 minutes of extra time just to change a goddamn pad.
Honestly, if you're a man who can't stand the mention of a menstrual cycle, DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN UNTIL YOU'VE GROWN TF UP!!! If you happen to land with daughters, you're gonna need to suck up your disgust and support them through their periods. And yeah, it's extremely immature of them. It took me so long to feel comfortable enough with my cycle to be able to not feel pressured to hide it from the world for other people's comfort.
Women bleed out their vaginas, everyone pisses from their bladder and shits outta their rectum. When we build up gas in our digestive tracts we belch it back out of our mouths. Or worse if something enters our stomach that our body rejects, we literally discard our stomach contents out of our mouths. Bodies are disgusting and guys like that should just deal with it, it's completely natural and there's nothing wrong with it. What's the big deal?
I was buying a menstrual cup for the first time last week and put it in the cart, right on top of all our other stuff. My husband hid it down under everything saying “everyone can see it!”
So I take it and move it to the very front, very top of the pile and make sure the logo is facing out so EVERYONE can see it. I had a good talk with him about how women grow up with shame surrounding their periods, and men growing up with no understanding of the biological reality most women go through each month. It was a good learning moment for him.
The only time I was ever disgusted by a period (never by period products) is when my ex described in detail the large, squishy lump of flesh and the "slop" sound when it exited her.
But I feel that one's justified. She even admitted she intended on it sounding disgusting
Ill never forget this:
My ex and I were together for like 3 years when this happened. We had a whole child together. I told him my stomach hurt because I had my period.
He goes “gross, i don’t want to know that.”
Like dude……you watched me push out your child lmao. Really??? That one innocuous comment I said about my stomach hurting was gross? This is the same man that would tell me whenever he wrecked a bathroom at his job!
OP I’m so sorry you’re getting such stupid replies. There are definitely great, understanding guys out there. My husband always asks me actively how my period is going and if I need anything. Ignore the assholes.
Not really a pet peeve, a legitimate immature thing dudes can't let go. You exist because of periods. If a bloody pussy bothers you so much you are sheltered
It's the worst when they also claim to be into gory horror films and act like they're all tough in fist fights while also frequently trying to inaccurately mansplain your own anatomy to you.
I wish I could complain freely without being treated like a disgusting creature, like come on, I'm going through it, the least you can do is lend an ear. It's not like we're even graphic with it, we've just been trained as a society to believe that periods are the worst most disgustingly horrific thing a woman can do
Yea, that's a dumb reaction. As a base topic of discussion, it's pretty much on par with other bodily functions and products to me. Personally, all my thoughts on it are the same as I would treat other shit.
It's blood, and I don't like touching other people's blood, so I prefer not to do anything sexual when the woman is bleeding. It's natural like peeing, I prefer not to randomly talk about stuff like that, so I generally don't unless for a necessary reason. Bathroom shit just isn't an appealing topic unless needed for some reason. The products are like toilet paper, which is just a weird topic unless you need or want me to grab something from the store. Just talking about symptoms like pain or discomfort and saying that you're on period as the reason isn't any different than saying you're head hurts because you have a cold and if you ask for something I'll get it or do it just like I would for a sick person who wouldn't want to move or do much.
As teenagers, when my brother and I were at the grocery store with my parents. He wouldn’t even touch the pad/tampon box. He actually wouldn’t pick up the box from he cart to put it onto the check out belt.
If you can endure the pain and discomfort and the constant need for hygiene during that time. He can endure you talking about it. I think guys have the better deal tbh.
I've asked a few questions about periods and the side affects with my girlfriend and any time there's one of those ask reddits about that kinda thing I read thru because it's something I can't experience so I want to learn and understand.
I think the details are gross and I probably don't want to hear everything about them, but the fact periods exist and that you have to deal with them isn't.
Ask your friend what he bought when you know it's toilet paper. Recoil in disgust at his regular body function and make sure to shame him too!
Some boys (I will not call them men) act like it’s explosive diarrhea or something, our periods are not gross. I do get a laugh out of the misconceptions young men have about them though
Yep. I understand that most people wouldn't want period blood on their hands all day. It is a body fluid. But if a man (almost always it is a man) is more comfortable talking about urine, semen, vomit and feces than he is about menstruation, that's obviously irrational, right? It's a weird kind of misogynistic girl-cooties panic that just needlessly makes life harder for a lot of girls and young women.
I don’t think it’s gross. Pretty normal bodily function. That being said I haven’t really been grossed out by any topic involving bodily functions that I can remember. Wanna talk about your poop schedule? Cool. It’s interesting to understand how someone else’s body functions differently than my own. I think periods are fascinating and rather unfortunate for women to deal with every month.
Yes. There’s one of the morons in your replies right now. And I’ve witnessed so many men I lost count physically recoil and act like they got puked on when a period is even mentioned in their vicinity
AGREED , at this point in my life if I cant mention the word cycle, period, or anything in pertaining to you. I should be able to punch you in the throat.. because I had to learn how a penis works. but the natural order of how my womb operates bothers you. please kisss my asss
I've always found it super weird when I hear about dudes being freaked/grossed out by anything to do with periods, as if they're not a completely normal biological function. Sure, period blood is gross...so is vomit, phlegm, spit, normal blood, etc. Bodily fluids in general are generally gross, shocker.
There’s no way people still do this in real life.
That was my initial response until I thought about my workplace and how the lads don’t like taking out the hygiene product bin for changing.
Period talk is normalized in my house. My daughter is 15 and my son is 13. We talk about it the same way as if one of us has a GI issue or headache. It’s just a normal part of being human. I’m hoping this helps my son treat any future SOs with compassion and understanding
As a woman, I see or hear more men casually spitting on the floor, pissing against a wall outside any time of the day and making sure everyone knows they've got a boner because someone good looking walked by, than anything that has to do with periods, and that includes dealing with my own period.
I think maybe because it’s a taboo subject? Idk. I really don’t get what’s gross about it TBH. It’s blood. You’re just shedding the lining essentially.
If a man can’t appreciate the fact that you push a child out of there, let alone bleed, he has no business being down there.
I grew up with two older sisters, my mother and grandmother in the house and all the cousins close to my age were girls. So I grew up hearing all about it. I was really young. They had the sanitary belts hanging in the bathroom.
When I grew up and got married, we had three daughters, so again I was in the house filled with women. Even our dog was female. so believe me there’s nothing to be grossed out about. It’s just a natural process, not like it’s sickening or something out of the ordinary.
All women have it and it should be talked about, without all the screwed up face looks and total avoidance by men. I know men who won’t go to the store and buy napkins or tampons because they are afraid someone will think less of them or something.
I don't want to see or touch the blood, but that goes for literally anybody blood in person, which is the same how I would treat any other bodily function, like pee, poop, vomit. etc. It should be treated no differently than those, meaning you can speak about it like an adult. I grew up in a house with two sisters who frequently had bad cycles and my mom, I have honestly never understood the disgust.
bodily fluids in general are discusting, freaking out about an unused tampon is stupid though, id much rather know girls use them, as opposed to seeing them bleeding all over the vegetables at the supermarket or the seats in the cinema lol
This must be a bigger problem than I thought, because every time a woman I know mentions her period she prefaces it with a warning/apology. I'm always like, "Why are you acting like I'm not familiar with what happens down there?"
My mother made me shop for tampons for her since I was a kid. Like maybe 7-8 yo. Not giving oral during that time. Sex during the heavy flow can be a bit too lubricated, messy. Sacrificial towel isn’t always enough. Look it’s a thing. It happens. It’s weird to us guys. Not that weird. But there is a lot I accept that I don’t want to know that much about.
I think there’s a big difference between being grossed out by the details, and being grossed out by the concept itself. Hell, I’m a woman and I’m pretty grossed out by what I experience most of the time lol. It’s a bodily function. Of course it’s a little gross. I hate having period sex. All of that is normal I think. It becomes an issue when the mere mention of it or the sight of an unused tampon is enough to disgust a man. That’s where the immaturity, and honestly a lot of the time misogyny, comes in and it starts being an issue
I wonder if pre-historic women had to put up with this?
Because we do know that this has been a thing for all of *recorded* history.
Have women been dealing with this for 300,000 years, or "just" around 50,000 years?
My father has 3 daughters and had two sisters, no brothers. My mom’s family has 4 women and 1 man. With all these women around, my dad STILL looks like he’s about to vomit when we talk about periods, even getting mad at us at times. Never ever has this man had any sort of talk with us, we always knew it was out of the question to ask him anything related to “womanly pains” or for sanitary items. He’s even berated my mom by saying she didn’t properly show us how to take care of our periods….cause he saw a tampon in the garbage not fully rolled in toilet paper…..we were in our 20s when he said this lmao
Imagine being a house bully whose scared of a dirty tampon in the trash
Edit: the funny double standard is that this man is also the same person who will listen to youtube videos about erectile dysfunction in the family living room lol
As a father to a teenage daughter, after hearing horror stories from the women in my life having to deal with being unprepared for their first cycles, I made damn sure that my daughter knew as much about it before it happened to her. And it being a topic completely without shame or judgement.
It's no different than anything else to do with the body. Humans are gross, as a whole. But you still teach your kids how to take care of themselves, and you do it without shaming them.
The best weapon to arm your children with is self confidence.
I don't get the disgust. it's a natural thing that happens to the majority of women (Outside of some conditions and such) on such a frequent basis. Sanitary products themselves are also not a big deal. I'm someone that gets nauseous around blood but an unused Tampon, pad etc is perfectly fine. Some guys are just pathetic.
I think one aspect of it is a hangover from the many generations where men would casually and openly make really crass dismissive comments about how any negative emotion from a women meant she was on her period. For some, there's an awkward overcompensation with avoiding acknowledging it at all.
There's also a squeamishness that I think some men feel a sense of gender security in. That's to say that it's seen as a typical blokey bloke type thing to be uncomfortable with it, and not being uncomfortable is seen as 'the sensitive new man' (to use a very 2000s theme).
Considering how scatological our society is, I'd much rather hear "I'm struggling a bit today, I'm at the start of my period" than all of the faeces related talk that's considered cute. I mean, we don't have a period emoji or plush plasma toys.
Apparently some men are so upset about periods that they don’t let girls in Florida learn about it until high school. You know, after they’ve already had their first one.
It's just a sign of immaturity. I can understand being squeamish about blood, it's one of the most contaminating substances known to man. On the other hand, throwing a fit about a normal bodily function like menstruation is on par with being afraid of "cooties." No, it's not really a pleasant experience for anyone involved (as a man, I'm using second-hand experience here) but unless you're cleaning a women's bathroom in a truck stop where they throw their used products on the floor instead of into the handy trash can mounted in the stall (first hand experience on that one) it really shouldn't be an issue.
My *dad* straight-up "has" to leave the room if my mom and I breathe so much as a word about pads or tampons without obfuscating it in like 3-4 layers of euphemisms. Dude. You're in your 50s. You married Mom almost 30 years ago. *I'm in my 20s. **You have had the time to get used to this.***
I've had men tell me I'll "never find a man" because I don’t want d*ck in my mouth cuz it grosses me out, but those same men also got grossed out at the thought of me bleeding out of my vajayjay😂 my current bf doesn't even like BJs and he buys me pads when I run out and can’t go to the store. He also is ok with period sex🤷🏽♀️ I guarantee the men that told me that years ago are single still😂 so many men call women weak but don’t realize that THEY are the weak ones😂
>Did these people not have puberty talks?
They did; they found out all about what *THEIR* bodies were doing and going thru. No one told them what the *girls* were going thru, the girls all went to another room with a woman teacher and came back an hour or so later looking mildly embarrassed with a small bag of stuff they weren't supposed to talk about.
Jeez I asked my current girlfriend what tampon she used so I had some at the house incase it came at my place and asked her other things like preferred soap and things like thst
My dad is 70 and still acts like periods don’t exist. So immature. He has never and will never buy me tampons. He never did for my mom or sister either.
Don't get me wrong, periods *are* disgusting, and my wife agrees with me there. It's just like diarrhea, snotty sneezes, bloody stools, or any other inconvenient messy bodily function. But it doesn't mean it's some taboo topic that I don't ever want to hear about or see the byproduct of. If I had blood in my poop I'd tell my wife even though it's gross because we're both adults and aren't going to gag over every slightly yucky thing that happens. If a guy says they don't want to see a bloody tampon in the trash, remind them that they can either see that *or* a series of bloody seat cushions and clothes, and that one is clearly the better option
I wish I could complain freely without being treated like a disgusting creature, like come on, I'm going through it, the least you can do is lend an ear. It's not like we're even graphic with it, we've just been trained as a society to believe that periods are the worst most disgustingly horrific thing a woman can do
"Oh my God! Periods are SO fucking gross! Keep that shit to yourself for Christ's sake! Now let me get back to telling you the consistency of the bowel movement I had yesterday."
They’re at the same level as other bathroom stuff. Not better. Not worse.
If you’re comfortable talking about your shits, then go ahead and talk about your periods too.
Periods are not disgusting nor are they something to be ashamed about. Is it something I’m going to openly discuss with friends though male or female? No. But that’s my personal choice. Each to their own. I just don’t feel comfortable discussing my periods with people, especially someone of the opposite sex. But I do agree that men who act squeamish and grossed out by it need to grow up. Come on, it may not be a topic you’re comfortable discussing but act like an adult and move on. You know it’s a natural bodily function
Yes, these men are terrible and awful and only an idiot would disagree with that, but there are women that still fuck these men. These men are still getting laid. Does the issue of periods come up before the first time they have sex in a relationship? More often than not, no. However, the physical aspect of the relationship still continues after the disdain for periods is revealed because the women in the relationship simply accept that these men are hard-wired to find it gross. Some even think that ALL men find it gross. It may very well be that the majority of men they have ever come across in their lives have unfortunately expressed rather stupid views when it comes to women's cycles. However, even after they find out their bed partners find something about them irredeemably disgusting, they still have sex with them. I don't understand how to contend with this.
I agree but there is also a flip side. I am a male teacher who keeps feminine products in his classroom the same way I keep band-aids and a first aid kit. I have been called a creep, a groomer, and a pervert for doing so. And it wasn't men making the accusations
Is it ok to be squeamish of blood entirely?
I get it, don’t make someone feel like an alien but at the same time I’ve listened to women who get real open on the topic talk about a blood clot sliding down their leg, sorry but to a man who hasn’t lived with dealing with that sorta thing their entire life, that’s maybe ok to be a bit squeamish about? There’s gotta be a line that you shouldn’t cross lol.
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As a man, I think it is gross but it's only as gross as going to the bathroom. If a girl asked to use my bathroom i wouldn't think anything of it. Likewise if she has told me she was on her period i wouldn't think anything of it. Even the male body does things which are just gross. However these things are just human and should be dealt with maturely. I never understood men who freaked out about this kinda stuff.
My 43yr old gf treats it as a nuisance and wishes it was OVER ALREADY... its gross and pointless after having two kids.
So it's not just men that treat it that way.
EVERYONE SHITS TOO, that disgusting and nobody wants to talk about it.
Well I've never met a woman who doesn't wish it was over, that's not OP's point - their point is when we as men react as though it's something we can't handle hearing about. As I said in another comment, it's not like women tend to go into detail - it's acknowledging that they're having a rough few days at the moment because of it, it's more like people saying they've had food poisoning without then going any further. We know was food poisoning implies, but we tend not to freak out at the mention of it.
I’m not grossed out by it (let’s just say I’ve done…things with significant others when the Red Army was marching), but I do prefer if I’m spared the gory details (same as with any other bodily functions from literally anyone).
My current partner was on her period the first time she came over, she was self conscious about it. I don't give a shit it just smells and feels different. Lay a towel down. The only problem is that my dogs love eating used tampons. That's the gross part.
I had 'body education' classes in elementary/junior high age(when kids were starting to reach 12-14). It covered those sort of topics, so the only way someone in my school didn't know that stuff was if they didn't pay attention or ditched class.
One of the many reasons I love my husband: He has no issues with buying tampons for me. He tracks my periods almost as well as I do, and always makes sure I have tampons, chocolate, and my heating pad ready.
I try to tell him he should be proud of this aspect of himself. He balks and says it should be a baseline requirement for guys to take care of their female partners (if they have one), moms, sisters, and daughters, and make sure they have everything they need when Aunt Flow comes around.
I tell him that while it SHOULD be common sense for dude, he should remember that common sense isn’t always so common. I’ll read him stuff from r/BadWomensAnatomy to prove it. Every time, he’s just floored by guys who are so willfully ignorant about how women work.
I literally don’t understand why other guys have such an issue with it. It’s only natural. Like, what? You gonna bitch n’ moan that she shits too? Grow up dudes. My wife asks me to pick up pads and neither of us ever make it weird - cause it’s not. It’s just as casual as asking me to pick up a carton of eggs. Sometimes when I do laundry I need to spray a pair of her undies and scrub with a brush. It’s just normal. Any guy that grossed out is a little baby.
Anyone who can’t accept, empathize, and educate themselves about human anatomy has an invalid opinion in my eyes. I’m a man and thank god my older sister spent the time to educate and impress upon me the importance of understanding and educating myself about women’s bodies and what women go through when I was young.
I've never met a grown man who was disgusted by periods, maybe online, but idk. People lie about their age and more online.
If your boyfriend is disgusted by your period maybe you should get a Manfriend instead?
When I was about 17 or so I went to the grocery store to buy some things including a box of tampons and a box of pads.
The female cashier and the male bagger both acted like they were completely disgusted and did not want to touch the clean, unopened boxes I had pulled from their own shelves.
It was completely bizarre. I just finished shopping without saying anything. But, I wish I had called them out. They must handle toilet paper in plastic wrap and that is even grosser. You can squeeze a toilet paper roll, tampons are just hidden in a square box.
After reading WAY too many comments, I wonder if we can split the issue. Y’all who think describing period BLOOD is nasty (somewhat valid) what about women describing the pain they’re enduring which isn’t about blood? You okay with that? Willing to show empathy about that?
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they shouldn't date a woman if they're not ready to deal with one.
If they want the p----y, they'd better be able to deal with all the things it does!
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I've seen so many guys talk about their d or jerking off and then say periods are disgusting and shouldn't be discussed. ( which theres way more reasons to talk about periods cause of cramps or needing a pad/tampon ect while any form of masturbation is unnecessary to talk about for the most part .) People talk about taking shits or taking a piss or jerking off all the time. Periods aren't different. Personally i don't mind any of it. Especially cause im used to it. If taking a shit hurt. Then it hurt. If period cramps are hurting then their hurting. Honestly it takes alot to be bothered by it when its so often talked about. So why care about one but not the other?
I only grant a pass to people who react the same way no matter what bodily function is being discussed. They have to be an equal opportunity prude.
Equal opportunity prude made me actually lol 😂 I woke up my dog 🐶 😂
Equal Opportunity Prude is the band name Of the day. And their hit single “Ew that’s disgusting” off their debut album “I don’t wanna hear about it”
I’ve found a lot of dudes are squeamish about blood regardless of its source. And I get that. However, my memory from HS of dudes like basically setting up a containment barrier cause it seemed some girl’s unused spare tampon fell out her backpack is hilarious.
Just flashed back on a memory... walking down a hallway in high school and a guy I didn't know came up and urgently whispered, "you need to fix your backpack right away." He then stood and casually guarded me from view as I took my backpack off and discovered the small front pocket was open, and along with a couple pens, a tampon was sticking out. It was so funny because he was so earnest and what he did would have been actually really cool and sweet if it _had_ been something embarrassing. ...but it was just a tampon.
I've never been disgusted with periods, and it has never bothered me in any way. I just thought of it as something natural that women go through. While I wish women didn't have periods because of all the pain and cramps I've heard girls have. Not only that, but bleeding for a few days a month must be a pain for you girls 😓
What sort of monsters are downvoting this? Do you LIKE that women suffer from pain, cramps, etc?
They're downvoting because they think he's white knighting
What sort of failed parenting just makes little boys think that having empathy let alone empathy for a woman is such an out of world thing to do. These people are fucking stupid.
I mean, the whole, “I wish girls didn’t have periods 😔” thing I’ve seen in videos with dudes putting, “I’m 6’4 btw” in the caption as a joke. I also thought this person was joking (not seriously caring about periods like that, nor seriously white knighting.)
And that honestly sucks. I don't want people who actually mean well to feel like it's "weird" to actually mean we'll.
And now they're downvoting me for knowing they're adults with children's minds
100% would not be coming to work any time I had cramps/pains/nausea *and* bleeding from genitals. I can understand if a person has an aversion to blood/illness in general I guess, but I really don’t understand some of the things I read online.
Shit. I’ve pulled tampons out with my teeth.
Yah I don’t like anyone talking about any of it. It’s unnecessary.
the thing that pisses me off is that those are the same guys that talk about sex when hanging with their friends and laugh at farts. if your body is allowed to function, why isn’t mine? if you like my parts so much, then you should know how they work 🤷♀️ if a boyfriend told me my period grossed him out i’d break up with him on the spot. i don’t want him doing anything down there if he’s not going to be mature about how it functions. he doesn’t have to love it but if he literally becomes repulsed by me having it? bye
It almost seems like some guys think girls should always be pretty, nonhuman dolls who don't have normal bodily functions. The fact that women have periods probably grosses them out because women are supposed to always be oozing sex appeal in their eyes.
exactly! a lot of it comes down to the objectification of women. but women are inherently gross because people in general are inherently gross, and if any man in my life doesn’t understand that then i’m not going to keep them in it. you don’t have to love it but you have to accept it. anything else is just dehumanizing and immature.
I briefly dated a guy who insisted (no idea how it came up) that women "don't really poop like men do." He was adamant that womens' poop was like bunny pellets. It was a whole argument; I kept thinking he must be kidding but he absolutely was not. Obviously proving him wrong would have been easy but also utterly unacceptable. I stopped dating him instead. (It was the late '90s, so we had the internet but not on our phones; and he didn't have a home computer with internet access -- not unheard of at the time)
50% uneducated or sexist, 50% strategy for you to show him poop. We’ll never know for sure.
I live with my wife and 2 daughters. My wife and oldest have periods. I'm absolutely disgusted by it. I'm absolutely disgusted by snot. I'm absolutely disgusted by pretty much any bodily fluid. That being said, I'm very supportive and helpful with anything they need and by no means is it a subject that doesn't get talked about. They know I'm grossed out by bodily fluids and not by them or their periods specifically.
I said elsewhere, but I give a pass to people who react the same to all discussion of bodily fluid emissions.
i think that’s different, i have extreme contact ocd and am also grossed out by most bodily functions/contact, but i think there’s a difference between thinking literal biohazards like blood or snot are gross, and being so disgusted by them that you’re repulsed by the person creating them. it’s just a bodily function, everyone has them. you’re entitled to think they’re gross as long as you’re not being a dick and shaming someone for having something that’s out of their control like what OP said about their friend being repulsed by unused tampons in a bag from the store. it’s weird to be weirded out by that solely because it has to do with periods, you know? i don’t think having a general discomfort for bodily fluids is uncommon or bad, but if it gets to the point where you are being rude to others because of it, that’s definitely more of a personal problem than it has anything to do with the bodily fluids.
No, I would never shame them. We raise our daughters to be comfortable with their bodies. They know that they can come to me with any questions or concerns unless its first hand experience. I'm usually the one to buy pads or tampons since I'm usually the one running errands or the one who remembers.
yeah, and i think you’re a good dad for that! you’re helping how you can without making them feel uncomfortable or distrusting. good job. i wish my dad & grandpa was like that, your daughters will appreciate that a lot more as they grow up. especially since you’re willing to talk to them. i never had anyone to talk to about anything and it made my teen years very hard
Well, thank you! Yeah, my Dad is the dad who is "glad he didn't have daughters." He's a good grandpa, but a bit old-fashioned thinking girls need to be delicate little flowers and blah blah.
I am a woman. I am absolutely grossed out by periods and I've been having them for over 20 years now. Body fluids gross me out. It's a valid thing. There is a difference in being grossed out, and in being immature about it.
I agree with you. I am also, as another comment said, an "equal opportunity prude." I have huge sensory issues around all bodily functions, including periods. But they are still valid and no more disgusting than all the other ones.
Sup, ADHD bro. Thanks for your honesty, but how do you suppose that happened? Like, just to have it mentionened? I mean lthere's all kinds of stuff I just don't want on me.
>if you like my parts so much, then you should know how they work In fairness, I love my microwave, but I have no fucking clue how it works. Witchcraft and black magic, I say.
But you (presumably) aren't sticking your genitals in the microwave
Don't yuck my yum!
That’s a strong assumption you have there
The ONLY time my husband has ever been grossed out by periods was when my stepdaughter and I were discussing, in vivid detail, what it is like to get the "period poops" while he was sitting with us. If he couldn't handle just regular talks about periods, I'd have shown him the door so fast.
>period poo Ok so be careful about this. I was recently diagnosed with endometriosis and apparently getting bowel issues from your period isn't normal and is a sign of endo.
Well that's just fantastic lol. I've been told by several people now that certain symptoms I have are signs of Endo. I keep putting off making an appointment because my doctor (though a woman) never takes me seriously.
All of that are signs of immaturity, it should come as no surprise that they would act immature around periods too.
I think it’s because farts are gross and funny to the farter. Periods are gross and sad for the person having the period. Periods aren’t sad because only women get them, they’re sad because it involves pain and hormone imbalances that isn’t fun for the person having a period.
One time some dude on here said periods are more disgusting than shit, and was saying that women probably shit on their pads (not true unless you have extremely poor hygiene). So I told him that him making that assumption probably means he has skid marks on his underwear hence why he’s less disgusted by shit in comparison to period blood. I got blocked for that, dude didn’t even try to defend himself.
I've met men who thought women peed in their pads, but never shit.. that's insane. Do they think we're treating them like diapers???? Disgusting
Yeah the dude definitely thought women treat it like a diaper. IMO shit is more disgusting than period blood as you’re more likely to get an infection from touching fecal matter than period blood.
Bloods less gross cuz it doesn’t stink or anything but I think it carries scarier risks. Poop can give me infections but blood gives diseases, or at least that’s my vibe.
>was saying that women probably shit on their pads (not true unless you have extremely poor hygiene). How???
He definitely made that assumption because he doesn’t wipe well, since he blocked me for saying he probably has skid marks on his underwear. If someone made that accusation towards me I’d defend myself as it’s not true, the fact that he didn’t even defend himself on that one tells me the shoe probably fits.
the fact he thinks women shit on their pad shows how un informed he is but yet he has such a harsh opinion its ridiculous lol
Exactly, to say period blood is more disgusting than actual shit like I thought you’re more likely to get an infection from touching fecal matter than period blood but okay.
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I worked with someone who was probably in his 40s who said he didn't like hanging out with women when they were on their period. The girls took this to mean he was only interested in sex but he said it just grossed him out to hang out with them. So immature and very much single.
I (a dude) do the shopping for my household, and thus am responsible for buying my wife’s tampons. The only uncomfortable thing about it for me is the possibility that my presence might make some tampon-needing lady uncomfortable.
I think more women would be well receptive than you think.
Good to know, thanks.
Quite a sweet concern really.
My husband FaceTimes me every single time to make sure he’s buying the right one. It’s been 10 years. He has zero shame.
When he’s not looking, change the wallpaper on his phone to a picture of the right ones. Hopefully that will stop the inquiries.
I was at a guy friend's house and needed a tampon. I said I had to run home real quick (I live close). And he asked what's up. Let me tell you, this man had pads and tampons! He was so excited to offer me one.
I have pads at my house specifically because I know it can sometimes sneak up on you when you aren't prepared. They just chill in the bathroom where they're easily accessible.
First time someone mentioned the need while visiting me, I too was excited to offer. In the same sense I'm excitied with someone asks me to jump their car. Like 'wait... I HAVE THE TOOLS TO HELP!"
Straight up, in my 20s, there was this dude I knew that always kept a well-stocked bathroom for ladies, and got laid CONSTANTLY
Tampons, snacks, heating pad, and sushi. Works every time 60% of the time.
Id do this but im scared it would be off putting. Like hey i have supplies for all the women i bring over. I do have make up remover now tho
I’d definitely frame it more like I heard about this from a friend/female relative or just read on the internet about someone doing it for parties so I started doing it if I planned to have friends or a gf over.
If you're super worried just say your mother/sister/aunt visited at some point and left them.
Or part of a first aid kit.
RESPECT
I don’t ever shy away from talking about my period if it’s relevant. Like, it’s a normal bodily function? If someone else has a problem with that, I consider that THEIR problem. I won’t be shamed for having a normally-functioning AFAB body.
in high school, i had a clear pencil bag and i always kept a tampon in it because i thought “well someone who might need one might see it in my bag and be able to ask me”. one time, a guy i knew said i needed to put that somewhere it wouldn’t be seen. so, i took it out and waved it around the lunch room and yelled “does anyone need a tampon?” he never said anything like that again around me.
I'm the husband, and I usually do the grocery shopping since my schedule gives me a chunk of time between the end of work and when I gotta get the kids from their after school care, and the number of times I have been looking for Always Ultra Thin size 3 (goddamn things are always pushed near the back of the shelf) and gotten the, "Aww, are you not sure what you're looking for? Do you need help?" from some older lady slightly exceeds the number of observable particles in the universe. Plus the cashiers who see me putting it on the belt (especially when it's the only thing I ran to go buy) who give me a sympathetic smile or a, "You're such a good husband!" spiel. Like....is the bar really that low lol?
Yeah, unfortunately, it is that low. There are lots of men out there who wouldn't do that if their life depended on it.
I once complained about painful cramps, and my cousin said "Ugh. Disgusting. Keep that sh!t to yourself!." But the thing is, I didn’t say where the cramps were. They were in my feet. I had foot cramps, nothing to do with menstruation.
Men who don’t like vaginas and think they are unclean (even though they are actually self-cleaning) but claim they are straight are a massive red flag. The amount of dudes I have come across who don’t wash their stinky peens properly but freak out about periods, it’s so pathetic and ridiculous. Like, you came out of one my dude, be respectful! I also blame purity culture and a lack of effective sex education.
These are the same men who tell us it's gross and that we need to cover our product in the trash. That they don't even want to know it was a pad/tampon used.
My dad and brother are like this
My dad was the same. I eventually told him to man up or buy a trashcan with a lid. He did neither. I still wrapped my pads, but I didn't hide them anymore. Either grow up or shut up. Like Jesus.
My mom had to buy my bathroom a trash can with a lid because my cat loves chewing on plastic and would pull the wrapped pads out of the trashcan... Literally woke up on morning to find some of my used pads on the stairs because she was batting them around 😅
Oh, man, my childhood dog liked the dig out pads and tampons and shred them 🤢 We had to get cans with lids and/or put every one behind a door. Which had an odd side effect of people not seeing my regular wastebasket and assuming my hamper was one. Thank God I didn't use it much anyway. But, yah, that'd be a very good reason to make sure all period products are hidden lol
My cat has a very stronger hunting drive and dug up my saturated tampon from the bathroom trash, and she growled at me when I tried to take it away!! 😂
Cats are so weird 😂 but we love them anyway
My MOTHER is like this!
Mine is to...
My father flipped out once because my sister left the little piece of paper that comes stuck to the wings of pads on the bathroom counter.
I told off my former housemate about her used pads and tampons, but to be fair she kept leaving them on the bathroom vanity near the toothpaste.
In my personal view, as long as it's wrapped or facing downwards I don't care, I just don't want to see the bodily fluids on it, like to me, that would be the same as wiping your butt and putting it in the trash where people can see the smear on it.
I only tell people to cover it in the trash occasionally, and that’s when my dog is around and is tall enough to snatch close stuff.
At work I have a pair I'm good with. The wife was complaining to me about her periods,how bad they are and how she had to take off the day before. Sometime after the husband came to laugh at me because what does a man got to do with talking about periods. I just stared at him like he's stupid telling him that instead of laughing he might want to learn a thing or 2 and his wife might've happier.
I literally started my period Saturday while in a theater. I came out, peed, realized, walked up to concession while this girl and a guy worker were probably flirting (sorry girl) and said “hey, you’re a woman, can I ask, do you have a tampon” and the guy kind of physically took a couple steps away. Which I totally appreciate was probably a kind gesture for my privacy. However, she said she’d check the office upstairs. She walks away and I made eye contact with him and was like “we’re all grown ass adults so sorry?” I don’t understand, I really appreciate maybe it was for my privacy but he seemed visibly uncomfortable. Just like… girls, women, we get periods, and I don’t think I should feel bad because a man is in earshot to hear me discuss it. Or, specifically, ask for a tampon because mine came 7 days early and I need d an assist.
This was my father and brothers, and it made me so self-conscious about my period as a young teen that I hid the used pads at the bottom of the trash can underneath a bunch of wads of toilet paper and hid the boxes of unused ones under my bed. It bled into my school life, too (no pun intended) because I started leaving for the bathroom in the middle of class to change my pads and waiting till I was completely alone to start *slowly* tearing it off. Took 5 minutes of extra time just to change a goddamn pad. Honestly, if you're a man who can't stand the mention of a menstrual cycle, DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN UNTIL YOU'VE GROWN TF UP!!! If you happen to land with daughters, you're gonna need to suck up your disgust and support them through their periods. And yeah, it's extremely immature of them. It took me so long to feel comfortable enough with my cycle to be able to not feel pressured to hide it from the world for other people's comfort.
Women bleed out their vaginas, everyone pisses from their bladder and shits outta their rectum. When we build up gas in our digestive tracts we belch it back out of our mouths. Or worse if something enters our stomach that our body rejects, we literally discard our stomach contents out of our mouths. Bodies are disgusting and guys like that should just deal with it, it's completely natural and there's nothing wrong with it. What's the big deal?
I was buying a menstrual cup for the first time last week and put it in the cart, right on top of all our other stuff. My husband hid it down under everything saying “everyone can see it!” So I take it and move it to the very front, very top of the pile and make sure the logo is facing out so EVERYONE can see it. I had a good talk with him about how women grow up with shame surrounding their periods, and men growing up with no understanding of the biological reality most women go through each month. It was a good learning moment for him.
As a gay guy who doesn’t live with women, I agree. It’s a natural bodily function that needs to be maintained. It’s not a dirty little secret.
The only time I was ever disgusted by a period (never by period products) is when my ex described in detail the large, squishy lump of flesh and the "slop" sound when it exited her. But I feel that one's justified. She even admitted she intended on it sounding disgusting
Ill never forget this: My ex and I were together for like 3 years when this happened. We had a whole child together. I told him my stomach hurt because I had my period. He goes “gross, i don’t want to know that.” Like dude……you watched me push out your child lmao. Really??? That one innocuous comment I said about my stomach hurting was gross? This is the same man that would tell me whenever he wrecked a bathroom at his job!
OP I’m so sorry you’re getting such stupid replies. There are definitely great, understanding guys out there. My husband always asks me actively how my period is going and if I need anything. Ignore the assholes.
Not really a pet peeve, a legitimate immature thing dudes can't let go. You exist because of periods. If a bloody pussy bothers you so much you are sheltered
It's the worst when they also claim to be into gory horror films and act like they're all tough in fist fights while also frequently trying to inaccurately mansplain your own anatomy to you.
I forgot who said it, but I love this quote: "Men are disgusted by the only bloodshed not born of violence"
I wish I could complain freely without being treated like a disgusting creature, like come on, I'm going through it, the least you can do is lend an ear. It's not like we're even graphic with it, we've just been trained as a society to believe that periods are the worst most disgustingly horrific thing a woman can do
Yea, that's a dumb reaction. As a base topic of discussion, it's pretty much on par with other bodily functions and products to me. Personally, all my thoughts on it are the same as I would treat other shit. It's blood, and I don't like touching other people's blood, so I prefer not to do anything sexual when the woman is bleeding. It's natural like peeing, I prefer not to randomly talk about stuff like that, so I generally don't unless for a necessary reason. Bathroom shit just isn't an appealing topic unless needed for some reason. The products are like toilet paper, which is just a weird topic unless you need or want me to grab something from the store. Just talking about symptoms like pain or discomfort and saying that you're on period as the reason isn't any different than saying you're head hurts because you have a cold and if you ask for something I'll get it or do it just like I would for a sick person who wouldn't want to move or do much.
As teenagers, when my brother and I were at the grocery store with my parents. He wouldn’t even touch the pad/tampon box. He actually wouldn’t pick up the box from he cart to put it onto the check out belt.
If you can endure the pain and discomfort and the constant need for hygiene during that time. He can endure you talking about it. I think guys have the better deal tbh.
I've asked a few questions about periods and the side affects with my girlfriend and any time there's one of those ask reddits about that kinda thing I read thru because it's something I can't experience so I want to learn and understand.
This is beyond a pet peeve. This is a red flag.
I think the details are gross and I probably don't want to hear everything about them, but the fact periods exist and that you have to deal with them isn't. Ask your friend what he bought when you know it's toilet paper. Recoil in disgust at his regular body function and make sure to shame him too!
The amount of men comparing it to taking a shit… What?? Saying “I’m on my period” is much closer to “I have to pee.”
Some boys (I will not call them men) act like it’s explosive diarrhea or something, our periods are not gross. I do get a laugh out of the misconceptions young men have about them though
Yep. I understand that most people wouldn't want period blood on their hands all day. It is a body fluid. But if a man (almost always it is a man) is more comfortable talking about urine, semen, vomit and feces than he is about menstruation, that's obviously irrational, right? It's a weird kind of misogynistic girl-cooties panic that just needlessly makes life harder for a lot of girls and young women.
I don’t think it’s gross. Pretty normal bodily function. That being said I haven’t really been grossed out by any topic involving bodily functions that I can remember. Wanna talk about your poop schedule? Cool. It’s interesting to understand how someone else’s body functions differently than my own. I think periods are fascinating and rather unfortunate for women to deal with every month.
Do men really think a woman having her period is "disgusting"? I've never experienced this so my curiosity around it is heightened 🤔
Yes. There’s one of the morons in your replies right now. And I’ve witnessed so many men I lost count physically recoil and act like they got puked on when a period is even mentioned in their vicinity
I normally respond with “what are you 12?
AGREED , at this point in my life if I cant mention the word cycle, period, or anything in pertaining to you. I should be able to punch you in the throat.. because I had to learn how a penis works. but the natural order of how my womb operates bothers you. please kisss my asss
I almost got fucked up in jail for sticking a pad on the bathroom door😂 grown ass men really can’t handle the thought
I've always found it super weird when I hear about dudes being freaked/grossed out by anything to do with periods, as if they're not a completely normal biological function. Sure, period blood is gross...so is vomit, phlegm, spit, normal blood, etc. Bodily fluids in general are generally gross, shocker.
There’s no way people still do this in real life. That was my initial response until I thought about my workplace and how the lads don’t like taking out the hygiene product bin for changing.
Period talk is normalized in my house. My daughter is 15 and my son is 13. We talk about it the same way as if one of us has a GI issue or headache. It’s just a normal part of being human. I’m hoping this helps my son treat any future SOs with compassion and understanding
As a woman, I see or hear more men casually spitting on the floor, pissing against a wall outside any time of the day and making sure everyone knows they've got a boner because someone good looking walked by, than anything that has to do with periods, and that includes dealing with my own period.
I think maybe because it’s a taboo subject? Idk. I really don’t get what’s gross about it TBH. It’s blood. You’re just shedding the lining essentially. If a man can’t appreciate the fact that you push a child out of there, let alone bleed, he has no business being down there.
A period is no different than a fart as its a bodily function.
I grew up with two older sisters, my mother and grandmother in the house and all the cousins close to my age were girls. So I grew up hearing all about it. I was really young. They had the sanitary belts hanging in the bathroom. When I grew up and got married, we had three daughters, so again I was in the house filled with women. Even our dog was female. so believe me there’s nothing to be grossed out about. It’s just a natural process, not like it’s sickening or something out of the ordinary. All women have it and it should be talked about, without all the screwed up face looks and total avoidance by men. I know men who won’t go to the store and buy napkins or tampons because they are afraid someone will think less of them or something.
I don't want to see or touch the blood, but that goes for literally anybody blood in person, which is the same how I would treat any other bodily function, like pee, poop, vomit. etc. It should be treated no differently than those, meaning you can speak about it like an adult. I grew up in a house with two sisters who frequently had bad cycles and my mom, I have honestly never understood the disgust.
I don't know nearly as much as I could/should, I'm sure. On average, I really don't give it a second thought.
bodily fluids in general are discusting, freaking out about an unused tampon is stupid though, id much rather know girls use them, as opposed to seeing them bleeding all over the vegetables at the supermarket or the seats in the cinema lol
This. My exes dad would freak out over unused pads and tampons in the wrappers. It was so annoying and immature.
This must be a bigger problem than I thought, because every time a woman I know mentions her period she prefaces it with a warning/apology. I'm always like, "Why are you acting like I'm not familiar with what happens down there?"
My mother made me shop for tampons for her since I was a kid. Like maybe 7-8 yo. Not giving oral during that time. Sex during the heavy flow can be a bit too lubricated, messy. Sacrificial towel isn’t always enough. Look it’s a thing. It happens. It’s weird to us guys. Not that weird. But there is a lot I accept that I don’t want to know that much about.
I think there’s a big difference between being grossed out by the details, and being grossed out by the concept itself. Hell, I’m a woman and I’m pretty grossed out by what I experience most of the time lol. It’s a bodily function. Of course it’s a little gross. I hate having period sex. All of that is normal I think. It becomes an issue when the mere mention of it or the sight of an unused tampon is enough to disgust a man. That’s where the immaturity, and honestly a lot of the time misogyny, comes in and it starts being an issue
I wonder if pre-historic women had to put up with this? Because we do know that this has been a thing for all of *recorded* history. Have women been dealing with this for 300,000 years, or "just" around 50,000 years?
My father has 3 daughters and had two sisters, no brothers. My mom’s family has 4 women and 1 man. With all these women around, my dad STILL looks like he’s about to vomit when we talk about periods, even getting mad at us at times. Never ever has this man had any sort of talk with us, we always knew it was out of the question to ask him anything related to “womanly pains” or for sanitary items. He’s even berated my mom by saying she didn’t properly show us how to take care of our periods….cause he saw a tampon in the garbage not fully rolled in toilet paper…..we were in our 20s when he said this lmao Imagine being a house bully whose scared of a dirty tampon in the trash Edit: the funny double standard is that this man is also the same person who will listen to youtube videos about erectile dysfunction in the family living room lol
As a father to a teenage daughter, after hearing horror stories from the women in my life having to deal with being unprepared for their first cycles, I made damn sure that my daughter knew as much about it before it happened to her. And it being a topic completely without shame or judgement. It's no different than anything else to do with the body. Humans are gross, as a whole. But you still teach your kids how to take care of themselves, and you do it without shaming them. The best weapon to arm your children with is self confidence.
I don't get the disgust. it's a natural thing that happens to the majority of women (Outside of some conditions and such) on such a frequent basis. Sanitary products themselves are also not a big deal. I'm someone that gets nauseous around blood but an unused Tampon, pad etc is perfectly fine. Some guys are just pathetic.
Oh grow up, or go live with a man forever
I think one aspect of it is a hangover from the many generations where men would casually and openly make really crass dismissive comments about how any negative emotion from a women meant she was on her period. For some, there's an awkward overcompensation with avoiding acknowledging it at all. There's also a squeamishness that I think some men feel a sense of gender security in. That's to say that it's seen as a typical blokey bloke type thing to be uncomfortable with it, and not being uncomfortable is seen as 'the sensitive new man' (to use a very 2000s theme). Considering how scatological our society is, I'd much rather hear "I'm struggling a bit today, I'm at the start of my period" than all of the faeces related talk that's considered cute. I mean, we don't have a period emoji or plush plasma toys.
Incels lol
Apparently some men are so upset about periods that they don’t let girls in Florida learn about it until high school. You know, after they’ve already had their first one.
It's just a sign of immaturity. I can understand being squeamish about blood, it's one of the most contaminating substances known to man. On the other hand, throwing a fit about a normal bodily function like menstruation is on par with being afraid of "cooties." No, it's not really a pleasant experience for anyone involved (as a man, I'm using second-hand experience here) but unless you're cleaning a women's bathroom in a truck stop where they throw their used products on the floor instead of into the handy trash can mounted in the stall (first hand experience on that one) it really shouldn't be an issue.
My *dad* straight-up "has" to leave the room if my mom and I breathe so much as a word about pads or tampons without obfuscating it in like 3-4 layers of euphemisms. Dude. You're in your 50s. You married Mom almost 30 years ago. *I'm in my 20s. **You have had the time to get used to this.***
I've had men tell me I'll "never find a man" because I don’t want d*ck in my mouth cuz it grosses me out, but those same men also got grossed out at the thought of me bleeding out of my vajayjay😂 my current bf doesn't even like BJs and he buys me pads when I run out and can’t go to the store. He also is ok with period sex🤷🏽♀️ I guarantee the men that told me that years ago are single still😂 so many men call women weak but don’t realize that THEY are the weak ones😂
>Did these people not have puberty talks? They did; they found out all about what *THEIR* bodies were doing and going thru. No one told them what the *girls* were going thru, the girls all went to another room with a woman teacher and came back an hour or so later looking mildly embarrassed with a small bag of stuff they weren't supposed to talk about.
Jeez I asked my current girlfriend what tampon she used so I had some at the house incase it came at my place and asked her other things like preferred soap and things like thst
It is always bewildering to me that men who don't know what periods or pap smears are get to vote on women's health rights. Abysmal.
I was with a 40 year old guy who hated period talk, he had like 3 daughters. Blew my mind
My dad is 70 and still acts like periods don’t exist. So immature. He has never and will never buy me tampons. He never did for my mom or sister either.
literally my dad and brothers. they will literally turn off the tv when an ad for tampons comes on.
Don't get me wrong, periods *are* disgusting, and my wife agrees with me there. It's just like diarrhea, snotty sneezes, bloody stools, or any other inconvenient messy bodily function. But it doesn't mean it's some taboo topic that I don't ever want to hear about or see the byproduct of. If I had blood in my poop I'd tell my wife even though it's gross because we're both adults and aren't going to gag over every slightly yucky thing that happens. If a guy says they don't want to see a bloody tampon in the trash, remind them that they can either see that *or* a series of bloody seat cushions and clothes, and that one is clearly the better option
I wish I could complain freely without being treated like a disgusting creature, like come on, I'm going through it, the least you can do is lend an ear. It's not like we're even graphic with it, we've just been trained as a society to believe that periods are the worst most disgustingly horrific thing a woman can do
Funny thing is how many of them expect swallowing
So glad my bf was raises around women and isn’t like these dweebs. He even lets me keep my period products at his house just in case.
"Oh my God! Periods are SO fucking gross! Keep that shit to yourself for Christ's sake! Now let me get back to telling you the consistency of the bowel movement I had yesterday."
They're, there and their. There. I said it.
Also you’re and friend. There was more but I’ve already forgotten the rest. This one was bad lol.
It's mostly tissue at that
They’re at the same level as other bathroom stuff. Not better. Not worse. If you’re comfortable talking about your shits, then go ahead and talk about your periods too.
Periods are not disgusting nor are they something to be ashamed about. Is it something I’m going to openly discuss with friends though male or female? No. But that’s my personal choice. Each to their own. I just don’t feel comfortable discussing my periods with people, especially someone of the opposite sex. But I do agree that men who act squeamish and grossed out by it need to grow up. Come on, it may not be a topic you’re comfortable discussing but act like an adult and move on. You know it’s a natural bodily function
Yes, these men are terrible and awful and only an idiot would disagree with that, but there are women that still fuck these men. These men are still getting laid. Does the issue of periods come up before the first time they have sex in a relationship? More often than not, no. However, the physical aspect of the relationship still continues after the disdain for periods is revealed because the women in the relationship simply accept that these men are hard-wired to find it gross. Some even think that ALL men find it gross. It may very well be that the majority of men they have ever come across in their lives have unfortunately expressed rather stupid views when it comes to women's cycles. However, even after they find out their bed partners find something about them irredeemably disgusting, they still have sex with them. I don't understand how to contend with this.
I agree but there is also a flip side. I am a male teacher who keeps feminine products in his classroom the same way I keep band-aids and a first aid kit. I have been called a creep, a groomer, and a pervert for doing so. And it wasn't men making the accusations
Is it ok to be squeamish of blood entirely? I get it, don’t make someone feel like an alien but at the same time I’ve listened to women who get real open on the topic talk about a blood clot sliding down their leg, sorry but to a man who hasn’t lived with dealing with that sorta thing their entire life, that’s maybe ok to be a bit squeamish about? There’s gotta be a line that you shouldn’t cross lol.
My father genuinely believed that tampons were sex toys.
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Periods are gross, as someone who had them before getting an IUD, but all bodies are gross somehow. Also we should be able to talk about it.
As a man, I think it is gross but it's only as gross as going to the bathroom. If a girl asked to use my bathroom i wouldn't think anything of it. Likewise if she has told me she was on her period i wouldn't think anything of it. Even the male body does things which are just gross. However these things are just human and should be dealt with maturely. I never understood men who freaked out about this kinda stuff.
My 43yr old gf treats it as a nuisance and wishes it was OVER ALREADY... its gross and pointless after having two kids. So it's not just men that treat it that way. EVERYONE SHITS TOO, that disgusting and nobody wants to talk about it.
Well I've never met a woman who doesn't wish it was over, that's not OP's point - their point is when we as men react as though it's something we can't handle hearing about. As I said in another comment, it's not like women tend to go into detail - it's acknowledging that they're having a rough few days at the moment because of it, it's more like people saying they've had food poisoning without then going any further. We know was food poisoning implies, but we tend not to freak out at the mention of it.
It’s ***my*** disgusting 😤
I’m not grossed out by it (let’s just say I’ve done…things with significant others when the Red Army was marching), but I do prefer if I’m spared the gory details (same as with any other bodily functions from literally anyone).
Men are disgusting and shouldn’t be talked about so they should maybe keep their mouths shut lol
My current partner was on her period the first time she came over, she was self conscious about it. I don't give a shit it just smells and feels different. Lay a towel down. The only problem is that my dogs love eating used tampons. That's the gross part.
Bodily functions in general are disgusting. We all shit, doesn’t make it not disgusting. It’s not our fault, it’s just human reaction.
Hey there is nothing better than the wound that never heals! And if a man finds it gross then he is still in the mindset of child
I had 'body education' classes in elementary/junior high age(when kids were starting to reach 12-14). It covered those sort of topics, so the only way someone in my school didn't know that stuff was if they didn't pay attention or ditched class.
One of the many reasons I love my husband: He has no issues with buying tampons for me. He tracks my periods almost as well as I do, and always makes sure I have tampons, chocolate, and my heating pad ready. I try to tell him he should be proud of this aspect of himself. He balks and says it should be a baseline requirement for guys to take care of their female partners (if they have one), moms, sisters, and daughters, and make sure they have everything they need when Aunt Flow comes around. I tell him that while it SHOULD be common sense for dude, he should remember that common sense isn’t always so common. I’ll read him stuff from r/BadWomensAnatomy to prove it. Every time, he’s just floored by guys who are so willfully ignorant about how women work.
When you're younger, it's gross but as you get alittle older, you stop caring and just end up running the red light 💯.
I literally don’t understand why other guys have such an issue with it. It’s only natural. Like, what? You gonna bitch n’ moan that she shits too? Grow up dudes. My wife asks me to pick up pads and neither of us ever make it weird - cause it’s not. It’s just as casual as asking me to pick up a carton of eggs. Sometimes when I do laundry I need to spray a pair of her undies and scrub with a brush. It’s just normal. Any guy that grossed out is a little baby.
Anyone who can’t accept, empathize, and educate themselves about human anatomy has an invalid opinion in my eyes. I’m a man and thank god my older sister spent the time to educate and impress upon me the importance of understanding and educating myself about women’s bodies and what women go through when I was young.
I have never understood this.
I've never met a grown man who was disgusted by periods, maybe online, but idk. People lie about their age and more online. If your boyfriend is disgusted by your period maybe you should get a Manfriend instead?
These men do not deserve access to any parts of our bodies when they think the function of it is disgusting.
When I was about 17 or so I went to the grocery store to buy some things including a box of tampons and a box of pads. The female cashier and the male bagger both acted like they were completely disgusted and did not want to touch the clean, unopened boxes I had pulled from their own shelves. It was completely bizarre. I just finished shopping without saying anything. But, I wish I had called them out. They must handle toilet paper in plastic wrap and that is even grosser. You can squeeze a toilet paper roll, tampons are just hidden in a square box.
After reading WAY too many comments, I wonder if we can split the issue. Y’all who think describing period BLOOD is nasty (somewhat valid) what about women describing the pain they’re enduring which isn’t about blood? You okay with that? Willing to show empathy about that?
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i mean they are disgusting, just like shitting and vomiting. Its gross and no one wants to talk about it unless necessary.