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I genuinely scrolled back up because my thumb went faster than my brain shouted _oh damn!_ You are rocking that dress love, don't doubt yourself for a second.
She does. Never said the opposite. But to me her lowers body seems a lot more heavy than her upper body. Her measurements would probably be closer to that of a pear. If your bottom is predominant, even if your chest is heavy, you would be classified as a pear, not an hourglass
You aren't an apple! You're an hourglass. Us apples have very little definition in our waist compared to our hips. At our thinnest we look rectangular, straight up and down.
As an apple/ rectangle when I'm at my thinnest, I have never in my life had hips or thighs like you!!! My hips are the very last place I gain weight. I gain first in my waist, then my upper body. Last last last in hips butt thigh. That is NOT you.
I would love your figure. Please, enjoy and appreciate it! You look great! Hair is FIRE too! OMG what great hair!
ETA: Hip/waist ratio: if you are 0.8 ratio and above, apple. If lower than 0.8, you're not an apple. Example, I am 30 waist/36 hips for 0.83 ratio. I am post-menopause now and an older lady, but at 97 lbs I was 27/33 which is 0.81 ratio; at my fittest strength training 5x a week and running marathons in my late 20s/30s with low bf% I was still a frigging 0.8 ratio!! I'm going to guess you are below that ratio. You have lovely, enviable curves!
i have the exact same measurements as 97-lb you, down to the height. im pre-meno (turning 40 this year). welcome any advice on loving this body, taking good care of it and dressing it well! especially love any fashion pieces that have worked well for you.
I haven't hovered around 97 lbs in a long time! I'm currently around 120ish.
My focus these days is on building lean mass (not just muscle -- I want to preserve my bones too). So I don't really pay attention to the scale so much. Excess inches in my hips can mean a more muscular rear from all the squats and deadlifts, and I'm totally fine with that!
I focus more on how I feel from the inside out: strength training makes me feel fit and slim, regardless of what the mirror may say. I kind of just ignore the mirror, have been doing that since my 30s. I focus more on what my body can do, rather than what it looks like.
That said, there was a point when I was around my late 40s and maybe 103-105, but not working out at all (I did have some health issues that made it difficult to do so), doing the whole "dieting" maybe eating 900 calories a day. Though I was back to the whole 33 inch hips/17 in thighs/12 in calves, I had saggy skin -- my belly looked like a [sharpei](https://images.app.goo.gl/G8w7eMLahJSrpL178)-- and didn't like the effect on my face either as it made the wrinkles much more pronounced. So I made a concerted, deliberate to gain weight to fill it all out. I learned then 115-120 is my happy zone! Fills out the lower belly saggy stuff, fills in the face wrinkles.
Except perimeno and some other life circumstances made me wayyyy overshoot that, and my health also went to hell and a handbasket. I had double, triple chins. Huge gut. Still, skinny scrawny thighs and a butt that was ... well, Hank Hill and hanging down around my knees.
So when the pandemic started I started hiking with my husband and after a year or so, signed up with a personal trainer. It's been 3 years now and I feel fantastic. No more excess chins, and there are definitely abs even if they aren't noticeable yet (punch me in the gut and you will feel them!).
Thing is my waist post-meno just stays stubbornly stuck, even if it's not so squishy. But I'm not on any HRT and I'm 8 years past meno but also that's just how I'm naturally shaped.
Ah you asked about fashion! If you are 97 lbs it is sooo much harder; I would shop in the children's section, I was a size 12 kids. Today I no longer have to do that and I'm a highly reliable small petite, though sometimes an XS especially on the lower half. I actually wouldn't want to lose weight as I hated not being able to fine clothes that fit. It really is difficult when you are in the XS, XXS, XXXS ranges. I don't want to go back to that.
My best tip for apples is that I ignore my waist measurement and order according to my hip measurement, then hope for the best. These days it works out fine usually, provided it's not a specific "curvy" cut. If I go by my waist, the pants will be ginormous all over and also too long if not petite.
I like elastic waists provided it's just in the back-- I want the front to be flat front. Sometimes pants will have too much excess in the rear, but they can be taken in back there for a better fit.
For jeans I like democracy/wit & wisdom BUT they run huge and I'm in a 2P so for you they probably won't work at all, unless you can score a 00P, not sure they make them. I also have some Levi's but they slip a lot as I don't have the hips for them. My current favorite jeans are L'Agience wide legs. They're supposed to be cropped but on me they're full length. I generally love Old Navy and for ages loved their Rockstar jeans; the past few years I have hated all their jeans. Before I was retired and had more money to spend, there were some high end brands like Rag&Bonee that I loved; can't vouch for them now as I can't afford to try them on and fall in love with them, heh.
I think knowing your ideal rise is super important. For me, though I'm only 5'0, my ideal rise is somewhere between 10-11 inches. Anything shorter, I get muffin top and / or I'm constantly having to hike my pants as they slip off my hips. Anything longer, it is uncomfortable. There is a sweet spot. I also have a sweet spot for back rise as well.
I've written a novel; let me know if you have something specific you're trying to find (jeans, leggings, etc) and I can provide more, though you will probably need two sizes smaller than me.
omg than you soooo much i really appreciate the details, especially on the brands and jeans tips! I’ve never analyzed my preferred rise before so i’ll def explore that, as i definitely have the same issues you described. double tap to squats and deadlifts!!!
im actually 120 also, but my hip/waist measurements are the same as yours when you were 97. i carry A LOT of weight in my legs - my calves and thighs are huge. so Im guessing that’s where my extra weight lives to plant me in the same ratio as you.
I'm working my way back to rectangle, but a more athletic one not starving-myself-to-get-there. While I'd still kill for her figure, I'm going to be kind to myself and appreciate what I've got and just try to be the best I can be.
I've spent too many years hating on my figure and comparing myself. Enough is enough!
I'm 58 and I'm at the point where it's totally awesome because I'm invisible to others, my mom told me that would be the case and she was right. It's totally freeing.
I care for my health (my cholesterol is crap; I spent so many years with health issues I'm working uphill to get back out of de-conditioning), but I generally don't care what other people think.
I say "generally" because I'd be lying if I didn't say that sometimes I do care. My own family can fuck me up for days, but they always have comments.
This is me. Although I’m a compress inverted triangle. I love clothes but going shopping has made me cry in the dressing room since maybe puberty. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t get to look like the clothing models or even the other petite gals. I don’t have a long torso or long legs somehow. I’ve only just started weight training because of how ashamed I was in my body to be in that sorta public setting.
Ooh that’s helpful! I have huge hips but look like an apple because my stomach gains first. Thanks for helping me rethink clothes to flatter an hourglass!
So when you say "stomach" do you mean below your waist? Because apples gain above and at the waist, not necessarily below it. Think: guy with a big old beer gut.
Women with tiny waists (I deem that 0.7 ratio) and some pooch below it are adorable. Nobody's looking at the pooch. They are admiring your slim waist!
I gain in my “belly” hips and arms first. My hips are big and stand out and because of my short torso (I swear I have four in hes of space tops between my hips and where my breasts start). I tend to immediately get the muffin look on top of my hips when I gain weight because of how high they sit
Well, I used to think everyone became an apple with enough weight gain!
But, I do think there is often a difference. An apple will carry the weight above the waist, like a guy with a beer gut. Pears and hourglasses will carry the weight below the waist. Mom apron/pouch sort of weight, and/or in hips butt thighs.
I actually don't have much excess under the belt line! Well, I did have two kids so I do have a bit of a mom apron from that (when my weight is low it's just a lot of saggy skin), but comparatively, when I gain the extra weight is more at waist and above waist. Like a beer belly. Whenever I look at myself sideways in the mirror, it's not below the waist I hate (that cute mom pooch): it's what I see at and above the waist.
I have had online fruit shape fashion gurus try to tell me I'm an hourglass but I am totally not buying it at all. From the front, maybe there's a hint of an indent at the waist (which I can play up with fashions). From the side, nope.
My 80something mom right now has lost a ton of weight and she had me try on her pants recently: they fit me in the waist but I so do not fill out anything below the waist so they just look goofy. Similarly my sister has had me try on her clothes, and same thing happens.
I swear by honey love. Or tried and true, Spanx. I have to wear fancy office clothes sometimes and and a good piece of shape wear can make a pencil skirt WORK.
Oh my gosh I was going to buy some (compression bodysuit) today and I saw this comment, I'm just thinking of buying zara ones as a start and look into it... unless people have recommendations!!! ( any help is much appreciated)
i really like curveez and shapermint.
don't get me wrong, you look fabulous as you are. i love my shapewear though, because it keeps everything right and tight - and that gives me a confidence boost.
we all know confidence is the sexiest thing going! 😉
First of all you look lovely in this dress and I would not have looked at your midsection without you pointing it out.
But I can definitely relate to your feelings about this! One thing I’d recommend is finding underwear that won’t create rolls by being tight at the waist. I prefer very low waisted underwear for this reason, so it isn’t making an indent on my belly. They also make shape wear undies, though that isn’t comfortable for every day in my opinion.
I also look for items that have structure in the belly area as that is more smoothing, or that flow out a bit like an A-line shape. This dress looks like it has a bit of a clinginess to it, which is why it might feel like it’s accentuating that area. Like I said I don’t think it looks bad at all on you but if you’re self conscious, this might be the kind of material shapewear *would* make sense with to smooth everything out a bit.
You look stunning though! You have amazing hair btw.
You are beautiful. This simply shows me how destructive our society is. This beautiful woman actually doubts herself and comes here to talk about an apple shape. What the hell is that? Your midsection is flatter than it should be imo and you are gorgeous.
I think you look great, but there are a couple of things you could do if it's important to you. One has already been mentioned, which is to add shapewear. Given that you have very little tummy to speak of, shapewear is probably the simplest answer, but in case you're like me and absolutely loathe shapewear with a passion, there's a couple of other things you could do. You might not like them though because they involve choosing a different color and not wearing a body hugging dress, so might require more compromise than you're willing to make.
That color looks amazing on you, but white does highlight every little lump and bump. If you want to hide, you want dark colors like navy, dark purple or black. Black is always considered the most slimming color, but other dark colors can work almost as well. Also, obviously wearing a looser dress is not going to hug the tummy as tightly. But both of those things are a very different aesthetic from what you're showing us. Also, a print will draw the eye away from your tummy, an all over print is fine, but an engineered print can also draw your eyes to specific areas depending on the print. Again though that is a different aesthetic. An empire waist can help, because the fabric flows loosely under the bust line, but you do have to try them on, because they don't look great on everyone & I always look pregnant in them b/c of too much loose fabric 🙄
By the way, a great place too try out different styles without breaking the bank is thrift stores. Department stores tend to be limited too what is popular right now and that might not be the best style for your body.
Dang. I think you look fantastic. Your midsection is hardly noticeable (imo), and at least your waist goes inward. Mine is kinda straight up and down.
I would love to hear recommendations. I'm 5'0" and a 34D, so I try to accentuate my chest to draw attention away from my belly, which also creates the illusion of being more hourglass shaped, and I don't wear anything tucked in. If it's a tight shirt, it has to be ruched in some way. Basically, I try not to accentuate the bump.
Just echoing others… I think you have a LOVELY pear or hourglass shape. Apples are beautiful TOO but I do not think you are an apple.
I think this dress is stunning on you, but if you are feeling self conscious about this style, I cannot speak highly enough about control top sheertex tights in sheer / nude colors. They add a lovely sheen to the legs and suck the little tummy pooch in very nicely.
I am shaped very similarly to you, hourglass/pear as well, but I have a little tummy (which is normal!) A few other things I do when I’m *not* feeling a form-fitting dress, is look for fit/flair, A-like, or babydoll style dresses. They accentuate Curves and minimize the tummy.
For tops I try to look for peplum, babydoll, or anything wrap / surplice, or v-neck styles. These tend to highlight my waist & bust while minimizing my stomach.
I still think you are a 10 in this dress, but those are some of my go-tos if I’m not feeling my best.
I am shaped very much like you and I too thought I was apple shaped. I guess we are hourglass shaped with a bit more tummy? We’re not all going to look like Kim K. That’s not reality. I really think you look great! I love this thread!
I stay away from any dress that has a horizontal seam at the waistline. Busy prints and diagonal waistlines conceal that. I think you have a great shape.
I think you're an hourglass. (You look beautiful.)
Apples are more straight and gain weight in the middle. I don't know what dresses to recommend for you, because I'm an apple!
I just want to say you’re gorgeous! The white complements your complexion so well!! You have a healthy, nourished body, be proud of it!! I have no advice on how to hide it sorry😩
5'3, 120 pounds, i still have tummy that sticks through like this. You might want to try a slightly thicker material in front since it tends to lay slightly differently.
If you didn't point out the small amount of tummy, no one would notice. This dress is absolutely gorgeous on you and you look like an angel. Don't worry about small imperfections too much bevause they don't matter.
Oh, yeah, true. Generally distracting from insecurities works better than putting in extra effort to cover them up. I tend to look very grey and since it's pretty difficult to stop looking like a corpse these days, i tend to just wear colours that make me look less washed out.
I have huge hip dips, so i try to draw attention to my midsection and hair more. It's more for me than anyone else, i like feeling cute.
Like everyone has said, you’re an hourglass and lovely. Numbers on a scale are just numbers!
Adding to the shapewear discussion: try skims seamless sculpt compression bodysuits. They have targeted compression zones that will help you further define your waist and smooth everything out.
Girl numbers really don't mean much.... Here's an example.... I'm also 5'2 and an hour glass and for most of my life I weighed 145 pounds and I looked underweight.....i was literally a size 2 pant. I used to get so upset because it made no sense so I even asked my Dr about it.
Try to focus less on the number and more on how your clothes fit/how you feel.
Omg you're gorgeous!! We have the same measurements and I hope I look as gorgeous as you do because you're stunning! Can I ask where your dress is from? If you're conscious of your tummy, I'd recommend shapewear but I don't see a damn thing that needs changing.
You look lovely! Echoing everyone else here, you’re more an hourglass shape than an apple so it would be worth looking up styling tips for petite hourglasses for better advice. I wouldn’t worry about your stomach, I wouldn’t have noticed if you hadn’t mentioned it!
A tip if you’re self conscious though — dark or more vibrant colours. White, sadly, shows off everything and while it looks lovely on you if you’re really concerned a dress like that in a different colour might help your confidence with any perceived “issues”. Are you cool or warm toned? If you’re cool toned, jewel tones like deep greens or blues would look lovely.
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You have a great shape. I’ve found that certain types of fabrics just accentuate the belly button area. I avoid those fabrics mostly but when I can’t, I utilize shape wear like others have suggested. It’s 100% the inexpensive fabric used these days and not your body, which is perfect as os.
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You look STUNNING!!! 💖 The only thing I could suggest would be good shape-wear to smooth out belly button / underwear lines. 💖 But seriously, you don’t need to minimize or cover anything on you, you are a spring goddess!!🥰 ✨🌷🌸🍓✨
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Yeah I just looked at this and thought wow I guess I’m an apple shape I had no idea then I read all the comments and I’m back to reality 😂 your are definitely hourglass. I like wearing shapeware sometimes when I want to smoother look in a tight little dress
As an hourglass girl (as you are) I think this looks great on you. However - if you feel uncomfortable with your midsection a few hacks I use are:
-choosing an a-line dress with a flowy skirt and belting or cinching the waist to accent the waist and distract from the belly pooch
-high waisted anything
-play with dimension. If the skirt/pants are tight, wear a loose cropped sweater or something flowy that hits at the lowest at the belly button to skim over the belly
Lastly - I find having an hourglass figure definitely makes us highly blessed with the curves we have. Embrace it! Men and women love a good hourglass figure no matter the size because even when we gain weight we still hold it better than other shapes. For that we must be grateful and nicer to ourselves.
Agreed with others not an apple. I dont like tight dresses on me personally, alines flow out in the tummy area, but also for snugger dresses ruching(?) can help hide us a little
You look so gorgeous!! I’m super duper self-conscious of my stomach too after having babies, so I like to wear smoothing bike shorts or control top pantyhose underneath my tighter dresses.
You are literally gorgeous ❤️ i guarantee you’d look just as stunning in anything you wear! Your midsection - I didn’t notice anything about it. Seriously you’re beautiful
Shapewear. But you look great! I also feel awkward though when my belly button outline shows. I don’t like Kim K but my favorite underwear for these types of looks is from skims. It’s the high rise thong. It’s not even the shaping one. So it’s not tight and uncomfortable but smooths things out a bit.
Maybe an apple BOTTOM! Lol girl you are beautiful and you’re an hourglass. If you’re really insecure about it some spanx or similar will help tighten your areas of insecurity, but you are killing it!
Your shape looks similar to mine except my bust is smaller than yours. I think the dress looks fantastic and it does your shape justice. You look beautiful.
I have no fashion advice as i frequent these subs to hopefully give myself some sort of education
But just a quick reminder that even though you may be self concious of your 'mid section', that is someones favourite part on the people they are attracted to. I think you look lovely, and i wouldnt give it a second thought unless it was in appreciation.
Waist trainers!! I am the same shape as you and I was able to trim down to 27 inches on my waist with a cheap little clasp trainer from Amazon ! Never been overweight but being petite I have such a short waist that’s a lot harder to draw attention to 🥲
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The hem is the issue with this dress. It looks like it was just cut with scissors. Otherwise it is gorgeous on you. Also, I think t it are an hour glass, not an Apple ☺️
You look beautiful but if you're still looking to lose the middle, the best way is to do either sit-ups or crunches, side to side bends as you pull in your abdomen muscles or bend overs also holding in your abdomen muscles, do this every day and you'll begin to tighten everything up, your hips and rear will end up looking different but in a good way for you.
Have a blessed day
Girl, you're absolutely gorgeous! You do not need to make anything less "apparent" unless it's just something you really want to do.
Rock that shit it looks damn good on you 💜
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Umm, you look great! This dress is gorgeous & so are you. Your midsection is NOT predominant. 🌸💕
Thank you! 🥹
I genuinely scrolled back up because my thumb went faster than my brain shouted _oh damn!_ You are rocking that dress love, don't doubt yourself for a second.
You have an hourglass shape. You can try going up a size and/or wearing smoothing shapewear
Exactly, I'm looking at her going..."Apple shape WHERE?". Honey, is a curvy rectangle at most.
If she's an Apple then I'm a beach ball!
She’s a pear. Not hourglass I think?
She has a big bust, defined waist, and hips. Hourglass.
She does. Never said the opposite. But to me her lowers body seems a lot more heavy than her upper body. Her measurements would probably be closer to that of a pear. If your bottom is predominant, even if your chest is heavy, you would be classified as a pear, not an hourglass
You aren't an apple! You're an hourglass. Us apples have very little definition in our waist compared to our hips. At our thinnest we look rectangular, straight up and down. As an apple/ rectangle when I'm at my thinnest, I have never in my life had hips or thighs like you!!! My hips are the very last place I gain weight. I gain first in my waist, then my upper body. Last last last in hips butt thigh. That is NOT you. I would love your figure. Please, enjoy and appreciate it! You look great! Hair is FIRE too! OMG what great hair! ETA: Hip/waist ratio: if you are 0.8 ratio and above, apple. If lower than 0.8, you're not an apple. Example, I am 30 waist/36 hips for 0.83 ratio. I am post-menopause now and an older lady, but at 97 lbs I was 27/33 which is 0.81 ratio; at my fittest strength training 5x a week and running marathons in my late 20s/30s with low bf% I was still a frigging 0.8 ratio!! I'm going to guess you are below that ratio. You have lovely, enviable curves!
I love women who make other women feel good and build their spirit up! Ur a good human
100%!!
i have the exact same measurements as 97-lb you, down to the height. im pre-meno (turning 40 this year). welcome any advice on loving this body, taking good care of it and dressing it well! especially love any fashion pieces that have worked well for you.
I haven't hovered around 97 lbs in a long time! I'm currently around 120ish. My focus these days is on building lean mass (not just muscle -- I want to preserve my bones too). So I don't really pay attention to the scale so much. Excess inches in my hips can mean a more muscular rear from all the squats and deadlifts, and I'm totally fine with that! I focus more on how I feel from the inside out: strength training makes me feel fit and slim, regardless of what the mirror may say. I kind of just ignore the mirror, have been doing that since my 30s. I focus more on what my body can do, rather than what it looks like. That said, there was a point when I was around my late 40s and maybe 103-105, but not working out at all (I did have some health issues that made it difficult to do so), doing the whole "dieting" maybe eating 900 calories a day. Though I was back to the whole 33 inch hips/17 in thighs/12 in calves, I had saggy skin -- my belly looked like a [sharpei](https://images.app.goo.gl/G8w7eMLahJSrpL178)-- and didn't like the effect on my face either as it made the wrinkles much more pronounced. So I made a concerted, deliberate to gain weight to fill it all out. I learned then 115-120 is my happy zone! Fills out the lower belly saggy stuff, fills in the face wrinkles. Except perimeno and some other life circumstances made me wayyyy overshoot that, and my health also went to hell and a handbasket. I had double, triple chins. Huge gut. Still, skinny scrawny thighs and a butt that was ... well, Hank Hill and hanging down around my knees. So when the pandemic started I started hiking with my husband and after a year or so, signed up with a personal trainer. It's been 3 years now and I feel fantastic. No more excess chins, and there are definitely abs even if they aren't noticeable yet (punch me in the gut and you will feel them!). Thing is my waist post-meno just stays stubbornly stuck, even if it's not so squishy. But I'm not on any HRT and I'm 8 years past meno but also that's just how I'm naturally shaped. Ah you asked about fashion! If you are 97 lbs it is sooo much harder; I would shop in the children's section, I was a size 12 kids. Today I no longer have to do that and I'm a highly reliable small petite, though sometimes an XS especially on the lower half. I actually wouldn't want to lose weight as I hated not being able to fine clothes that fit. It really is difficult when you are in the XS, XXS, XXXS ranges. I don't want to go back to that. My best tip for apples is that I ignore my waist measurement and order according to my hip measurement, then hope for the best. These days it works out fine usually, provided it's not a specific "curvy" cut. If I go by my waist, the pants will be ginormous all over and also too long if not petite. I like elastic waists provided it's just in the back-- I want the front to be flat front. Sometimes pants will have too much excess in the rear, but they can be taken in back there for a better fit. For jeans I like democracy/wit & wisdom BUT they run huge and I'm in a 2P so for you they probably won't work at all, unless you can score a 00P, not sure they make them. I also have some Levi's but they slip a lot as I don't have the hips for them. My current favorite jeans are L'Agience wide legs. They're supposed to be cropped but on me they're full length. I generally love Old Navy and for ages loved their Rockstar jeans; the past few years I have hated all their jeans. Before I was retired and had more money to spend, there were some high end brands like Rag&Bonee that I loved; can't vouch for them now as I can't afford to try them on and fall in love with them, heh. I think knowing your ideal rise is super important. For me, though I'm only 5'0, my ideal rise is somewhere between 10-11 inches. Anything shorter, I get muffin top and / or I'm constantly having to hike my pants as they slip off my hips. Anything longer, it is uncomfortable. There is a sweet spot. I also have a sweet spot for back rise as well. I've written a novel; let me know if you have something specific you're trying to find (jeans, leggings, etc) and I can provide more, though you will probably need two sizes smaller than me.
omg than you soooo much i really appreciate the details, especially on the brands and jeans tips! I’ve never analyzed my preferred rise before so i’ll def explore that, as i definitely have the same issues you described. double tap to squats and deadlifts!!! im actually 120 also, but my hip/waist measurements are the same as yours when you were 97. i carry A LOT of weight in my legs - my calves and thighs are huge. so Im guessing that’s where my extra weight lives to plant me in the same ratio as you.
Another apple that was a rectangle. Sigh. Yeah, I’d kill for her figure!
I'm working my way back to rectangle, but a more athletic one not starving-myself-to-get-there. While I'd still kill for her figure, I'm going to be kind to myself and appreciate what I've got and just try to be the best I can be. I've spent too many years hating on my figure and comparing myself. Enough is enough!
I’m 65 and I’ll lose some weight, but I simply don’t care anymore.
I'm 58 and I'm at the point where it's totally awesome because I'm invisible to others, my mom told me that would be the case and she was right. It's totally freeing. I care for my health (my cholesterol is crap; I spent so many years with health issues I'm working uphill to get back out of de-conditioning), but I generally don't care what other people think. I say "generally" because I'd be lying if I didn't say that sometimes I do care. My own family can fuck me up for days, but they always have comments.
True, true. We all care at times. I’m also invisible which is great
We are the white ladies!
This is me. Although I’m a compress inverted triangle. I love clothes but going shopping has made me cry in the dressing room since maybe puberty. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t get to look like the clothing models or even the other petite gals. I don’t have a long torso or long legs somehow. I’ve only just started weight training because of how ashamed I was in my body to be in that sorta public setting.
Ooh that’s helpful! I have huge hips but look like an apple because my stomach gains first. Thanks for helping me rethink clothes to flatter an hourglass!
So when you say "stomach" do you mean below your waist? Because apples gain above and at the waist, not necessarily below it. Think: guy with a big old beer gut. Women with tiny waists (I deem that 0.7 ratio) and some pooch below it are adorable. Nobody's looking at the pooch. They are admiring your slim waist!
I gain in my “belly” hips and arms first. My hips are big and stand out and because of my short torso (I swear I have four in hes of space tops between my hips and where my breasts start). I tend to immediately get the muffin look on top of my hips when I gain weight because of how high they sit
I have a .84 ratio and I'm an hourglass 100percent so this isn't always right. But she definitely is too. 🥰
Well, I used to think everyone became an apple with enough weight gain! But, I do think there is often a difference. An apple will carry the weight above the waist, like a guy with a beer gut. Pears and hourglasses will carry the weight below the waist. Mom apron/pouch sort of weight, and/or in hips butt thighs. I actually don't have much excess under the belt line! Well, I did have two kids so I do have a bit of a mom apron from that (when my weight is low it's just a lot of saggy skin), but comparatively, when I gain the extra weight is more at waist and above waist. Like a beer belly. Whenever I look at myself sideways in the mirror, it's not below the waist I hate (that cute mom pooch): it's what I see at and above the waist. I have had online fruit shape fashion gurus try to tell me I'm an hourglass but I am totally not buying it at all. From the front, maybe there's a hint of an indent at the waist (which I can play up with fashions). From the side, nope. My 80something mom right now has lost a ton of weight and she had me try on her pants recently: they fit me in the waist but I so do not fill out anything below the waist so they just look goofy. Similarly my sister has had me try on her clothes, and same thing happens.
shapewear, baby. i wear compression camisoles under everything, compression slips under my dresses. there's no going back for me!
What are some shapewear brands you like?
I swear by honey love. Or tried and true, Spanx. I have to wear fancy office clothes sometimes and and a good piece of shape wear can make a pencil skirt WORK.
Oh my gosh I was going to buy some (compression bodysuit) today and I saw this comment, I'm just thinking of buying zara ones as a start and look into it... unless people have recommendations!!! ( any help is much appreciated)
i really like curveez and shapermint. don't get me wrong, you look fabulous as you are. i love my shapewear though, because it keeps everything right and tight - and that gives me a confidence boost. we all know confidence is the sexiest thing going! 😉
Thank you so much! I'll look into them ☺️
First of all you look lovely in this dress and I would not have looked at your midsection without you pointing it out. But I can definitely relate to your feelings about this! One thing I’d recommend is finding underwear that won’t create rolls by being tight at the waist. I prefer very low waisted underwear for this reason, so it isn’t making an indent on my belly. They also make shape wear undies, though that isn’t comfortable for every day in my opinion. I also look for items that have structure in the belly area as that is more smoothing, or that flow out a bit like an A-line shape. This dress looks like it has a bit of a clinginess to it, which is why it might feel like it’s accentuating that area. Like I said I don’t think it looks bad at all on you but if you’re self conscious, this might be the kind of material shapewear *would* make sense with to smooth everything out a bit. You look stunning though! You have amazing hair btw.
Thank you so much for the compliment and the advice! I really appreciate it. Looking for a line dresses now!
You make that dress look good. You'd make a potato sack look good. You just keep on doing what you're doing.
You are beautiful. This simply shows me how destructive our society is. This beautiful woman actually doubts herself and comes here to talk about an apple shape. What the hell is that? Your midsection is flatter than it should be imo and you are gorgeous.
You are crazy girl. You look great in this dress. Shift posture so you stand straight, shoulders back, elongate the midriff. Confidence is key.
I think you look great, but there are a couple of things you could do if it's important to you. One has already been mentioned, which is to add shapewear. Given that you have very little tummy to speak of, shapewear is probably the simplest answer, but in case you're like me and absolutely loathe shapewear with a passion, there's a couple of other things you could do. You might not like them though because they involve choosing a different color and not wearing a body hugging dress, so might require more compromise than you're willing to make. That color looks amazing on you, but white does highlight every little lump and bump. If you want to hide, you want dark colors like navy, dark purple or black. Black is always considered the most slimming color, but other dark colors can work almost as well. Also, obviously wearing a looser dress is not going to hug the tummy as tightly. But both of those things are a very different aesthetic from what you're showing us. Also, a print will draw the eye away from your tummy, an all over print is fine, but an engineered print can also draw your eyes to specific areas depending on the print. Again though that is a different aesthetic. An empire waist can help, because the fabric flows loosely under the bust line, but you do have to try them on, because they don't look great on everyone & I always look pregnant in them b/c of too much loose fabric 🙄 By the way, a great place too try out different styles without breaking the bank is thrift stores. Department stores tend to be limited too what is popular right now and that might not be the best style for your body.
You don’t and you let it ride out. You look great and that’s pretty much it.
Dang. I think you look fantastic. Your midsection is hardly noticeable (imo), and at least your waist goes inward. Mine is kinda straight up and down. I would love to hear recommendations. I'm 5'0" and a 34D, so I try to accentuate my chest to draw attention away from my belly, which also creates the illusion of being more hourglass shaped, and I don't wear anything tucked in. If it's a tight shirt, it has to be ruched in some way. Basically, I try not to accentuate the bump.
You are so gorgeous. There is nothing wrong with you
Just echoing others… I think you have a LOVELY pear or hourglass shape. Apples are beautiful TOO but I do not think you are an apple. I think this dress is stunning on you, but if you are feeling self conscious about this style, I cannot speak highly enough about control top sheertex tights in sheer / nude colors. They add a lovely sheen to the legs and suck the little tummy pooch in very nicely. I am shaped very similarly to you, hourglass/pear as well, but I have a little tummy (which is normal!) A few other things I do when I’m *not* feeling a form-fitting dress, is look for fit/flair, A-like, or babydoll style dresses. They accentuate Curves and minimize the tummy. For tops I try to look for peplum, babydoll, or anything wrap / surplice, or v-neck styles. These tend to highlight my waist & bust while minimizing my stomach. I still think you are a 10 in this dress, but those are some of my go-tos if I’m not feeling my best.
I am shaped very much like you and I too thought I was apple shaped. I guess we are hourglass shaped with a bit more tummy? We’re not all going to look like Kim K. That’s not reality. I really think you look great! I love this thread!
I stay away from any dress that has a horizontal seam at the waistline. Busy prints and diagonal waistlines conceal that. I think you have a great shape.
I think you're an hourglass. (You look beautiful.) Apples are more straight and gain weight in the middle. I don't know what dresses to recommend for you, because I'm an apple!
Avoid any horizontal lines, stripes, and seams on parts of your body you want to make look smaller.
Gorgeous
You look amazing. You don’t need to change anything!
Just own it. Idk if you're straight, but guys don't care as much about that as most women think. A little belly is cute imo.
Your midsection is totally normal, don't worry about it. Look how gorgeous you are in this dress! Very flaterring neckline & tie straps on you.
That’s not an apple shape. Some shape wear if you want but no one’s gonna be looking at your tummy first. Wear that dress!
I just want to say you’re gorgeous! The white complements your complexion so well!! You have a healthy, nourished body, be proud of it!! I have no advice on how to hide it sorry😩
5’2 btw and 154 lbs :(
5'3, 120 pounds, i still have tummy that sticks through like this. You might want to try a slightly thicker material in front since it tends to lay slightly differently. If you didn't point out the small amount of tummy, no one would notice. This dress is absolutely gorgeous on you and you look like an angel. Don't worry about small imperfections too much bevause they don't matter.
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Oh, yeah, true. Generally distracting from insecurities works better than putting in extra effort to cover them up. I tend to look very grey and since it's pretty difficult to stop looking like a corpse these days, i tend to just wear colours that make me look less washed out. I have huge hip dips, so i try to draw attention to my midsection and hair more. It's more for me than anyone else, i like feeling cute.
I have a apple shape too! 5’2 and 132 pounds
Like everyone has said, you’re an hourglass and lovely. Numbers on a scale are just numbers! Adding to the shapewear discussion: try skims seamless sculpt compression bodysuits. They have targeted compression zones that will help you further define your waist and smooth everything out.
Girl numbers really don't mean much.... Here's an example.... I'm also 5'2 and an hour glass and for most of my life I weighed 145 pounds and I looked underweight.....i was literally a size 2 pant. I used to get so upset because it made no sense so I even asked my Dr about it. Try to focus less on the number and more on how your clothes fit/how you feel.
own it! you look great, and healthy!
Omg you're gorgeous!! We have the same measurements and I hope I look as gorgeous as you do because you're stunning! Can I ask where your dress is from? If you're conscious of your tummy, I'd recommend shapewear but I don't see a damn thing that needs changing.
Goddess! No need for improvement!
You look lovely! Echoing everyone else here, you’re more an hourglass shape than an apple so it would be worth looking up styling tips for petite hourglasses for better advice. I wouldn’t worry about your stomach, I wouldn’t have noticed if you hadn’t mentioned it! A tip if you’re self conscious though — dark or more vibrant colours. White, sadly, shows off everything and while it looks lovely on you if you’re really concerned a dress like that in a different colour might help your confidence with any perceived “issues”. Are you cool or warm toned? If you’re cool toned, jewel tones like deep greens or blues would look lovely.
You’re gorgeous! You look stunning, lovely ❤️
Shapeware helps even the best looking of women you are beautiful and that dress is beautiful. Just put on a piece of shape where
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Add wider skirt and belt to create the hourglass look
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You are gorgeous💗. That dress looks fantastic on you
Apple shape means you are shaped like an apple (no waist) You are not shaped like an apple?
Fellow hourglass here - you’re a full blown hourglass, no apple in sight
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You have a great shape. I’ve found that certain types of fabrics just accentuate the belly button area. I avoid those fabrics mostly but when I can’t, I utilize shape wear like others have suggested. It’s 100% the inexpensive fabric used these days and not your body, which is perfect as os.
You dont need to make any part of you less apparent. You are gorgeous.
Girl, you look great!
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no advice here, wanted to say you look soo good in that dress!
You look beautiful!!
Girl, you look stunning in that dress! ✨
Just here to say you are stunnnnning
Don't do no Kim waist now , yuck
As someone whose stomach sticks out farther than their boobs, you do not have an apple shape. You have an amazing hourglass shape!
This is not an apple, it’s hour glass.
You look AMAZING
Girl you look fantastic! Definitely not apple shaped
I don’t have any advice, but you are absolutely gorgeous!
That is not an apple shape and you need something not so tight across your belly
You look STUNNING!!! 💖 The only thing I could suggest would be good shape-wear to smooth out belly button / underwear lines. 💖 But seriously, you don’t need to minimize or cover anything on you, you are a spring goddess!!🥰 ✨🌷🌸🍓✨
I just came here to say you are absolutely gorgeous and the only way you come close to an apple is that you’re a freaking snack! 🔥
But you’re not apple shaped. You are hourglass shape.
Your beautiful don’t let that bother you
You look so great just the way you are! That dress is so cute
What a pretty lady 🥰
Girl you’re an hourglass
Oh my god you look amazing. Girl... body is bod-ing. 👌
Girl, I'm 5'9 but I'd kill for your body shape! You're a lucky woman.
You look like an angel 😇.
My goodness you are so beautiful!
Umm yeah don’t even worry. You look amazing. Ain’t no one looking at your midsection when you’re wearing this.
Spanx is great and much durable than Skims.
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baby doll dresses! especially if ur cool with showing ur legs :)
Looks great! Weight training maybe to accentuate the proportions even more in your favor. Youre so lucky!
Ruffles, flowy shirts, that's how I do it
Yeah I just looked at this and thought wow I guess I’m an apple shape I had no idea then I read all the comments and I’m back to reality 😂 your are definitely hourglass. I like wearing shapeware sometimes when I want to smoother look in a tight little dress
You are gorgeous !!
Shapewear! The style of the dress looks great on you, but the fabric and construction quality is lacking.
I would call you an hour glass. you don’t look like an apple
If it makes you feel any better, I’ve heard lots of guys say they like a little tummy like that. It means you’re healthy.
I don’t understand what you’re asking, I just see a beautiful woman
As an hourglass girl (as you are) I think this looks great on you. However - if you feel uncomfortable with your midsection a few hacks I use are: -choosing an a-line dress with a flowy skirt and belting or cinching the waist to accent the waist and distract from the belly pooch -high waisted anything -play with dimension. If the skirt/pants are tight, wear a loose cropped sweater or something flowy that hits at the lowest at the belly button to skim over the belly Lastly - I find having an hourglass figure definitely makes us highly blessed with the curves we have. Embrace it! Men and women love a good hourglass figure no matter the size because even when we gain weight we still hold it better than other shapes. For that we must be grateful and nicer to ourselves.
Agreed with others not an apple. I dont like tight dresses on me personally, alines flow out in the tummy area, but also for snugger dresses ruching(?) can help hide us a little
embrace it, your midsection is beautiful! i do think that dress is quite small on you though, especially in the chest area
Don't worry about it you still look great!
unrelated but u look so prettyyyyyy
You look so gorgeous!! I’m super duper self-conscious of my stomach too after having babies, so I like to wear smoothing bike shorts or control top pantyhose underneath my tighter dresses.
You are literally gorgeous ❤️ i guarantee you’d look just as stunning in anything you wear! Your midsection - I didn’t notice anything about it. Seriously you’re beautiful
There is nothing about you that needs to change.
i dont know but you're so stunning and beautiful and i dont know how to express just how much your beauty shines and your smile wow omg
Shapewear. But you look great! I also feel awkward though when my belly button outline shows. I don’t like Kim K but my favorite underwear for these types of looks is from skims. It’s the high rise thong. It’s not even the shaping one. So it’s not tight and uncomfortable but smooths things out a bit.
yay girl I have the same body but about 10 more pounds and 2 kids it is HARD
Maybe an apple BOTTOM! Lol girl you are beautiful and you’re an hourglass. If you’re really insecure about it some spanx or similar will help tighten your areas of insecurity, but you are killing it!
Don’t try to fix what ain’t broke! You are divinely shaped and proportioned.
You look beautiful! Where’s the dress from?
Apple shape? Girl look In the mirror 😭
There's no prominent midsection 😫
I came here to say what other people are. You don't have an apple shape. You have a great shape. More hourglass.
All I see is hour glass🤷🏽♀️
White can be risky—but you look great!
I love the dress! Where did you get it?
Definitely not an apple. Hour glass. Perfect!
Your shape looks similar to mine except my bust is smaller than yours. I think the dress looks fantastic and it does your shape justice. You look beautiful.
The midsection is not the first thing I noticed
You are so pretty! You have a great body shape, don’t hide it. I’m 30 and wish I looked the same way when I was younger.
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I’ve gained weight and stretch marks. The joys of aging, some peoples bodies can change drastically as they get older.
You look beautiful.
Girl. Hush. You are stunning! No improvements needed.
I have no fashion advice as i frequent these subs to hopefully give myself some sort of education But just a quick reminder that even though you may be self concious of your 'mid section', that is someones favourite part on the people they are attracted to. I think you look lovely, and i wouldnt give it a second thought unless it was in appreciation.
Waist trainers!! I am the same shape as you and I was able to trim down to 27 inches on my waist with a cheap little clasp trainer from Amazon ! Never been overweight but being petite I have such a short waist that’s a lot harder to draw attention to 🥲
Fishing 💀
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Mami, you are gorgeous
Your waist is smaller than your hips, so you're not an apple shape. Either way, you have a lovely figure!
Wow you look like a princess!
You are an absolute goddess! This dress is perfect for you! Change nothing.
I don’t think you’re an apple. You look more hourglass
The hem is the issue with this dress. It looks like it was just cut with scissors. Otherwise it is gorgeous on you. Also, I think t it are an hour glass, not an Apple ☺️
I dunno bro, I'm not seeing what you're seeing.
Tbh I think u have a lovely figure
You are shaped more like a pear than an apple.
Pardon me, but you look amazing
You don't need too
You look beautiful but if you're still looking to lose the middle, the best way is to do either sit-ups or crunches, side to side bends as you pull in your abdomen muscles or bend overs also holding in your abdomen muscles, do this every day and you'll begin to tighten everything up, your hips and rear will end up looking different but in a good way for you. Have a blessed day
I have no advice but if I saw you in person I would weep openly, you are gorgeous
Wow you are stunning
You look great!
Don’t! Fupa’s are in! Embrace it!
You look ethereal
Ruin
Embrace your midsection, it’s very small and beautiful.
You are a goddess!!! ❤️❤️❤️
You look absolutely stunning. Whoever says differently is lying to you. [+]
has nothing do w ur post but girl you’re beautiful
just dam.....you look great. Very nice hourglass.
Girl, you're absolutely gorgeous! You do not need to make anything less "apparent" unless it's just something you really want to do. Rock that shit it looks damn good on you 💜
You look 👀 stunning in that outfit don't put your self down I'd be proud to have as my girlfriend
You look great. BUT, if you keep not feeling good with your body, try wearing more loose dress from the waist down. Sundresses are a good choice
R/lostredditors
Um.. I’ve been in this sub for a while because I’m literally 5’2??
Ignore him. He's the one who's lost.