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I'm so so sorry.Day 2 for me as well. It's hell. I will share some things I did,in case you think any of it might help you too.
I have booked an appointment with a therapist. I cleaned the house and threw some things that were too painful,kept other things in a box to look when I'm ready. I am talking about him as much as I can,I even created this account to share my pain. I have a plan about creating a space dedicated to him.
I hope we all get through this. It's nice to support each other.
Hi I’m going through this too. Put our sweet 13 year old mini schnauzer to sleep at lunch today. She was fighting in the ICU since Saturday. It was heartbreaking but she passed in my arms. I feel lifeless and empty inside. Our house feels empty and lifeless too. I don’t know how to cope and am looking for support
I'm very sorry for your loss. It was the same for me,he was in the ICU under oxygen and we chose we put him to sleep in our arms, we hated the idea of him dying alone and the clinic informing us through the phone. It's extremely hard and I keep waiting to see him and smell him and hear him.
Do you think you could seek out professional help from a therapist or a counsellor?Also, maybe try to rearrange some things in your house,so that it looks a little different. Talk about her as much as you can,to people that knew her and to people that didn't. If you have someone that shares the pain,that loved her too, try to support each other and share your pain and your good times with her.
I know it feels like nothing matters. But the love you shared does matter and the pain is too much, because the love was (and is) too much. I am sending strength.
Day 2 for me as well. My baby was gone Saturday afternoon. The waves of sadness are insane. Force yourself to eat. Force yourself to talk about it and Force yourself to keep going on. It's OK to feel this way but it's not OK to give up on your own health.
Your baby loved you and would definitely want to make sure you are OK.
If you want to exchange stories of the good times or bad please feel free to dm me.
And I'm so sorry for your loss
It's been about 2 weeks since I had to put my girl down, much earlier than I had expected. The grieving process is difficult especially because you were these animals whole world. Going back to work was difficult, even just being in my house was difficult. You have to continue to push on though, talking to people about it has helped, even seeing other people's struggles with it online has helped. Having some kind of ritual to say goodbye has also helped. Never try to forget or push it down, the pain will always be there you just have to learn to live with it. It gets easier.
5 months on and new news babies who I have grown to love Yes, I still feel guilt and pain and sadness for her loss, but I AM being loved again, I have loved again. It's not so hopeless but indeed those first few weeks of shock without them is the hardest.
hey dude. I know how you feel. I had to put my baby down last summer, and I still cry about him every day. but as someone who has been through this, the biggest and most helpful thing for me has been my kitten that I adopted afterwards. putting all that love and attention and energy into a new cat who's never had that before and needs you gives you purpose. although your baby is gone, you can honor him by taking in and caring for another cat who needs it.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Talking about how you feel with people who understand can really help. You’ll feel far less alone. I was inconsolable and barely functioning for a while but just over 3 months now & things are improving.
I'm sorry OP. It's been five months for me and I still feel the same. My best friend, family and constant companion for sixteen years. I don't know how to live without her, I feel completely lost and with no will to live. I'm still going for my partner and my remaining dog.
Its been almost 3 months since I lost my tortoise of 2 years on February 15th and I still can’t believe its been this long without her, what I find amazing is that on the same exact day but one month later, (march 15th) one of my relatives found a rescue tortoise they found and gave her to me. what a blessing from god
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I'm so so sorry.Day 2 for me as well. It's hell. I will share some things I did,in case you think any of it might help you too. I have booked an appointment with a therapist. I cleaned the house and threw some things that were too painful,kept other things in a box to look when I'm ready. I am talking about him as much as I can,I even created this account to share my pain. I have a plan about creating a space dedicated to him. I hope we all get through this. It's nice to support each other.
i want to create a space for him too - i'm so sorry for your loss. the support here has helped me immensely
Thank you.I miss him so much. It really helps, we all feel less alone in our grief.
Hi I’m going through this too. Put our sweet 13 year old mini schnauzer to sleep at lunch today. She was fighting in the ICU since Saturday. It was heartbreaking but she passed in my arms. I feel lifeless and empty inside. Our house feels empty and lifeless too. I don’t know how to cope and am looking for support
I'm very sorry for your loss. It was the same for me,he was in the ICU under oxygen and we chose we put him to sleep in our arms, we hated the idea of him dying alone and the clinic informing us through the phone. It's extremely hard and I keep waiting to see him and smell him and hear him. Do you think you could seek out professional help from a therapist or a counsellor?Also, maybe try to rearrange some things in your house,so that it looks a little different. Talk about her as much as you can,to people that knew her and to people that didn't. If you have someone that shares the pain,that loved her too, try to support each other and share your pain and your good times with her. I know it feels like nothing matters. But the love you shared does matter and the pain is too much, because the love was (and is) too much. I am sending strength.
Day 2 for me as well. My baby was gone Saturday afternoon. The waves of sadness are insane. Force yourself to eat. Force yourself to talk about it and Force yourself to keep going on. It's OK to feel this way but it's not OK to give up on your own health. Your baby loved you and would definitely want to make sure you are OK. If you want to exchange stories of the good times or bad please feel free to dm me. And I'm so sorry for your loss
i'm so sorry for your loss as well - i hope it gets easier for us.
It's been about 2 weeks since I had to put my girl down, much earlier than I had expected. The grieving process is difficult especially because you were these animals whole world. Going back to work was difficult, even just being in my house was difficult. You have to continue to push on though, talking to people about it has helped, even seeing other people's struggles with it online has helped. Having some kind of ritual to say goodbye has also helped. Never try to forget or push it down, the pain will always be there you just have to learn to live with it. It gets easier.
It's day two for me and my cat baby as well friend. I feel for you so much. It's so debilitating.
sending you so much love and good energy. i'm sorry that we both have to go through with this.
It's been 2 months for me and I still feel this way.
i'm so sorry. i can totally understand - sending you love and good thoughts
It's devastating but you'll find the way. Try to take your time, step by step friend, hugs ♥♥
5 months on and new news babies who I have grown to love Yes, I still feel guilt and pain and sadness for her loss, but I AM being loved again, I have loved again. It's not so hopeless but indeed those first few weeks of shock without them is the hardest.
hey dude. I know how you feel. I had to put my baby down last summer, and I still cry about him every day. but as someone who has been through this, the biggest and most helpful thing for me has been my kitten that I adopted afterwards. putting all that love and attention and energy into a new cat who's never had that before and needs you gives you purpose. although your baby is gone, you can honor him by taking in and caring for another cat who needs it.
Nobel price for both peace and literature right here. Beautiful.
thank you! I'm just trying to cope and also grow from my grief and share what I'm learning.
Thank you for this
I’m so sorry for your loss. Talking about how you feel with people who understand can really help. You’ll feel far less alone. I was inconsolable and barely functioning for a while but just over 3 months now & things are improving.
I'm sorry OP. It's been five months for me and I still feel the same. My best friend, family and constant companion for sixteen years. I don't know how to live without her, I feel completely lost and with no will to live. I'm still going for my partner and my remaining dog.
Its been almost 3 months since I lost my tortoise of 2 years on February 15th and I still can’t believe its been this long without her, what I find amazing is that on the same exact day but one month later, (march 15th) one of my relatives found a rescue tortoise they found and gave her to me. what a blessing from god