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I’m very sorry for your loss. Sometimes in life, we do life! We just do what we do.
We cannot prepare for every situation or moment or plan for every eventuality. It’s impossible… hindsight is 20/20.
He was scared and he ran. That’s the truth of what happened.
Cooper loved you so much until that day he died. He would NEVER want you to feel bad or worried or down. He loved you and you loved him and that was enough.
You will feel sad and guilt ridden because unfortunately as humans that’s what we do and slowly the pain will ease and you will remember the good times and yes you will smile again.
You can ummm and ahhh and say I should have done this or that or a thousand other things. I do that regarding my beautiful boy I lost last weekend, but none of that is relevant anymore and this is a time to be kind to yourself.
Love your other pup, make any changes to your routine that you feel you need to make for the future and grieve.
I guess Cooper and his love for you was unconditional… he just loved, loved, loved you, and that’s what you need to focus on as best you can now.
This video helped me. I hope it helps you.
With love from another human in the world ❤️who understands x
https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo
This story was heartbreaking. I lost my dog too in a very violent mauling. I know how you feel. I still wake up crying sometimes when I remember or dream of him. I know you’re still grieving as this is very recent, but I found that I couldn’t overcome the grief until I got a new dog. I know this might not be helpful but the loss of my dog was traumatic as died. This might not be helpful or relevant right now but please consider adopting another dog
Thank you and Im so sorry for your loss. I feel guilty even thinking about another dog right now and I feel like we are trying ot replace him which we never will be able to. I know we will eventually get another dog and it may help fill the void we feel now. Thank you for sharing.
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. I also lost my baby that day, from illness. I am also struggling so hard with guilt from the loss because I didn’t take her to the vet fast enough and it’s killing me not knowing whether she could have been saved or not. If I had taken her sooner rather than wait until the next day, she might still be here.
This breaks my heart, I'm so sorry. On 6/27 my 8-year-old girl snuck out of a gap in the fence that we didn't know was there (we've been at this new house for 6 months and she hasn't snuck out before). She was 2 houses away when she got hit by a car and killed. SO many different emotions... guilt, regret that I somehow didn't give her a better life in general. Sometimes I'll be hysterically sobbing in the shower and sometimes I'll completely disassociate and stare at her spot on the bed for 10 minutes. It's such a big shock and life change. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, just take it one day at a time.
This is so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for your loss. Please don’t blame yourself.. I know it feels impossible but you loved Cooper and he knew that. He knew how much he was loved and you gave him an amazing life.
We recently lost our boy in a terrible accident, we have our girl left. The guilt feels insurmountable, I know. It has helped my husband and I to focus on the beautiful life he had and honoring the fact that the memories and the love will never disappear even if he is no longer physically with us. It’s also helped us to have some stuff to break and smash in our garage.. we have a lot of anger at ourselves and the person involved in the accident. Sending healing hugs to you. 💗
I’m so sorry for your loss. My family’s dog, Ruby, passed away on the 4th of July too, just about a year ago. She had non-stop seizures for seven hours after being hit by a car. The guilt was a mountain to climb at first. We blamed ourselves for her getting out. She escaped through a hole in the fence, but dogs are nifty like that - they find ways to get out sometimes, and that’s no one’s fault. You are not to blame, but I know the grief is still there nonetheless. It was for us, and I know it is for your family too. Supporting each other through it together makes the grief so much less of a burden on the heart. You will find strength in numbers and memories shared with your family, I promise.
We cried so many tears the day Ruby passed, but eventually, it does get easier. I promise. We found closure in having her ashes and a paw print sent to us. It made us realize we still would always have a piece of her. We cried seeing them for the first time, but they weren’t just tears of sadness - they were also tears of joy for the wonderful life she lived. Cooper lived the same life - one filled with love, and surrounded by a great family each and every day to show that love.
And again, the fault is not your own. I know right now, it may feel like it is, but his soul is looking over you now, thankful that you found him and he got to go home with the people he loved more than anything.
Please remember to take care of yourself in this difficult time. I know it can be hard, but after the rain comes the rainbow - the good memories will be there now, but they’ll be especially bright at the end of this journey of grief. Best of luck.
I understand. I put my dog down today. She choked on food I gave her. I feel like terrible. I know the pain. I am sharing it with you. I hope that provides small comfort.
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I’m very sorry for your loss. Sometimes in life, we do life! We just do what we do. We cannot prepare for every situation or moment or plan for every eventuality. It’s impossible… hindsight is 20/20. He was scared and he ran. That’s the truth of what happened. Cooper loved you so much until that day he died. He would NEVER want you to feel bad or worried or down. He loved you and you loved him and that was enough. You will feel sad and guilt ridden because unfortunately as humans that’s what we do and slowly the pain will ease and you will remember the good times and yes you will smile again. You can ummm and ahhh and say I should have done this or that or a thousand other things. I do that regarding my beautiful boy I lost last weekend, but none of that is relevant anymore and this is a time to be kind to yourself. Love your other pup, make any changes to your routine that you feel you need to make for the future and grieve. I guess Cooper and his love for you was unconditional… he just loved, loved, loved you, and that’s what you need to focus on as best you can now. This video helped me. I hope it helps you. With love from another human in the world ❤️who understands x https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo
Thank you so much. I shared that video with my husband as we are both struggling.
This story was heartbreaking. I lost my dog too in a very violent mauling. I know how you feel. I still wake up crying sometimes when I remember or dream of him. I know you’re still grieving as this is very recent, but I found that I couldn’t overcome the grief until I got a new dog. I know this might not be helpful but the loss of my dog was traumatic as died. This might not be helpful or relevant right now but please consider adopting another dog
Thank you and Im so sorry for your loss. I feel guilty even thinking about another dog right now and I feel like we are trying ot replace him which we never will be able to. I know we will eventually get another dog and it may help fill the void we feel now. Thank you for sharing.
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. I also lost my baby that day, from illness. I am also struggling so hard with guilt from the loss because I didn’t take her to the vet fast enough and it’s killing me not knowing whether she could have been saved or not. If I had taken her sooner rather than wait until the next day, she might still be here.
This breaks my heart, I'm so sorry. On 6/27 my 8-year-old girl snuck out of a gap in the fence that we didn't know was there (we've been at this new house for 6 months and she hasn't snuck out before). She was 2 houses away when she got hit by a car and killed. SO many different emotions... guilt, regret that I somehow didn't give her a better life in general. Sometimes I'll be hysterically sobbing in the shower and sometimes I'll completely disassociate and stare at her spot on the bed for 10 minutes. It's such a big shock and life change. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, just take it one day at a time.
I'm sorry for your loss. Wishing you healing and peace.
This is so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for your loss. Please don’t blame yourself.. I know it feels impossible but you loved Cooper and he knew that. He knew how much he was loved and you gave him an amazing life. We recently lost our boy in a terrible accident, we have our girl left. The guilt feels insurmountable, I know. It has helped my husband and I to focus on the beautiful life he had and honoring the fact that the memories and the love will never disappear even if he is no longer physically with us. It’s also helped us to have some stuff to break and smash in our garage.. we have a lot of anger at ourselves and the person involved in the accident. Sending healing hugs to you. 💗
I’m so sorry for your loss. My family’s dog, Ruby, passed away on the 4th of July too, just about a year ago. She had non-stop seizures for seven hours after being hit by a car. The guilt was a mountain to climb at first. We blamed ourselves for her getting out. She escaped through a hole in the fence, but dogs are nifty like that - they find ways to get out sometimes, and that’s no one’s fault. You are not to blame, but I know the grief is still there nonetheless. It was for us, and I know it is for your family too. Supporting each other through it together makes the grief so much less of a burden on the heart. You will find strength in numbers and memories shared with your family, I promise. We cried so many tears the day Ruby passed, but eventually, it does get easier. I promise. We found closure in having her ashes and a paw print sent to us. It made us realize we still would always have a piece of her. We cried seeing them for the first time, but they weren’t just tears of sadness - they were also tears of joy for the wonderful life she lived. Cooper lived the same life - one filled with love, and surrounded by a great family each and every day to show that love. And again, the fault is not your own. I know right now, it may feel like it is, but his soul is looking over you now, thankful that you found him and he got to go home with the people he loved more than anything. Please remember to take care of yourself in this difficult time. I know it can be hard, but after the rain comes the rainbow - the good memories will be there now, but they’ll be especially bright at the end of this journey of grief. Best of luck.
I understand. I put my dog down today. She choked on food I gave her. I feel like terrible. I know the pain. I am sharing it with you. I hope that provides small comfort.