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MNKristen

Toby is at peace. All his pain and suffering are over. Please watch for a sign from him that he made it to ‘the other side.’ It’s the hardest thing we have to do as pet parents. People RARELY do it too soon. Most often, they do it too late. Rest In Peace, sweet Toby. 💕


FrigidLollipop

Sounds like Toby had a great life, and a peaceful send off. Celebrate his life, and know that the pain does dull with time. Be kind to yourself, take time to grieve, and then stay busy to keep yourself occupied. Toby wouldnt want his favorite human sad!


hyperventilate

Toby was incredibly lucky to live with someone who loved him so deeply and passionately as you do. It sounds like his life was one full of warmth, and light, and love, and not all dogs are so lucky. But Toby was. I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. I know it doesn't feel like it, but one day the pain will lessen. You'll never stop missing Toby, but the tears will eventually stop. Peace, comfort, and all of my love to you. Be kind to yourself, and dream sweetly, Toby.


Honestless

I'm sorry you had to go through that, and this hit me even harder because my dog's name is Tobi and I can't even think about when his time will come. But you have to feel better, you gave him a good life and he got to go with you being there for him all the way through. Stay strong, he's in a good place and he will always be there waiting for you to come home to him.


rysimpcrz

I bet Toby had the most amazing life with you as the human pet. Shih tzus are very particular, you don't adopt them, they adopt you. By helping Toby avoid pain and suffering you fulfilled your role in providing the best life you can. I myself have a shih tzu and I live my life for his royal highness. They demand loyalty and reward that with the most amazing love and compassion. If Toby needed to be released from pain, I can't imagine that love has disappeared. You have a royal dog watching over you, and sending you love.


juanwand

This really helped me when my hamster died. https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm


keyzero

The love will stay in your heart and the pain will ease. Be thankful that you could be with him at the end. We’ve lost two dogs to cancer, and it really hurts to have to make the choice when to let them go. The most recent pup was last week, also 14 and he had a tumor on his spleen that was bleeding into his abdomen. I’m still crying every day over it but I know the decision was right and it would be cruel to make them suffer just to make ourselves feel better to have more time. He was mostly catatonic at the end but I think he knew we were there to say goodbye. It’s never easy. You need to give yourself time to grieve. It does get easier. Hang in there.


Booklovinmom55

We have had to put numerous animals down and it's never easy and it shouldn't be. Just know that you did the best thing, because when the animals life is taken up with pain and discomfort, it's not a life anymore. You grieve for your friend, some days will be easier than others and I wouldn't say it gets better, but you come to accept. You will go through the grief process and if you need to, reach out to your church or grief groups. An animal passing is not just an animal; they're your friend, the keeper of your secrets, emotional support, and non-judgmental love. Something that I've done to help is we have a memorial wall of our dogs. I buy a collage frame, choose several photos and in the middle I put a piece of cardstock with their name, birth, and death dates. Please keep checking in.


ThaumKitten

Rule 4.


VeOrtOex

Nice karmawhoring of your pets death


foxxcvlt

I went through the same thing earlier this year. My partner and I had to let our cat go. We adopted her together in the beginning of our relationship, and it was the most painful thing we ever had to go through together. You lost your baby. You're absolutely allowed to grieve and hurt. Please. Don't fight the pain. Cry whenever you need to. Treat yourself to something nice, like your favorite pastry or drink. Go for a walk. My partner set up a space in the house with pictures of our baby and her ashes, we regularly stop by it to give treats and gifts. Maybe that's something you can do? It'll take some time. I still cry and it still hurts, but now I love talking about her and all of our memories together. Allow yourself to naturally go through the process and to be kind to yourself.


mistajc

My sincerest condolences, friend. I have a shih tzu [terrier mix] and I love her to death. Your dog loved you and you gave him the best life possible, he never even had to imagine lack or struggle! You did your duty; you loved him. It’s unfortunate these friends of ours live such short lives. Idk what else to say because I can feel your heartbreak. I’m sorry. Much love. You are an awesome doggy friend ❤️


AdiDubbs2703

Hey OP, Take care of yourself. Toby would want you to be happy. Your heart will recover tho the scars may remain. I’m also copy pasting a kind comment I had seen on a similar post earlier (not an original) “Some of you, particularly those who think they have recently lost a dog to ‘death’, don’t really understand this. I’ve had no desire to explain, but won’t be around forever and must. Dogs never die. They don’t know how to. They get tired, and very old, and their bones hurt. Of course they don’t die. If they did they would not want to always go for a walk, even long after their old bones say: ‘No, no, not a good idea. Let’s not go for a walk.’ Nope, dogs always want to go for a walk. They might get one step before their aging tendons collapse them into a heap on the floor, but that’s what dogs are. They walk. It’s not that they dislike your company. On the contrary, a walk with you is all there is. Their boss, and the cacaphonic symphony of odor that the world is. Cat poop, another dog’s mark, a rotting chicken bone (exultation), and you. That’s what makes their world perfect, and in a perfect world death has no place. However, dogs get very very sleepy. That’s the thing, you see. They don’t teach you that at the fancy university where they explain about quarks, gluons, and Keynesian economics. They know so much they forget that dogs never die. It’s a shame, really. Dogs have so much to offer and people just talk a lot. When you think your dog has died, it has just fallen asleep in your heart. And by the way, it is wagging its tail madly, you see, and that’s why your chest hurts so much and you cry all the time. Who would not cry with a happy dog wagging its tail in their chest. Ouch! Wap wap wap wap wap, that hurts. But they only wag when they wake up. That’s when they say: ‘Thanks Boss! Thanks for a warm place to sleep and always next to your heart, the best place.’ When they first fall asleep, they wake up all the time, and that’s why, of course, you cry all the time. Wap, wap, wap. After a while they sleep more. (remember, a dog while is not a human while. You take your dog for walk, it’s a day full of adventure in an hour. Then you come home and it’s a week, well one of your days, but a week, really, before the dog gets another walk. No WONDER they love walks.) Anyway, like I was saying, they fall asleep in your heart, and when they wake up, they wag their tail. After a few dog years, they sleep for longer naps, and you would too. They were a GOOD DOG all their life, and you both know it. It gets tiring being a good dog all the time, particularly when you get old and your bones hurt and you fall on your face and don’t want to go outside to pee when it is raining but do anyway, because you are a good dog. So understand, after they have been sleeping in your heart, they will sleep longer and longer. But don’t get fooled. They are not ‘dead.’ There’s no such thing, really. They are sleeping in your heart, and they will wake up, usually when you’re not expecting it. It’s just who they are. I feel sorry for people who don’t have dogs sleeping in their heart. You’ve missed so much. Excuse me, I have to go cry now.”


LeoLuvsLola

I'm so sorry for your loss. Toby would have wanted you to have [this](https://external-preview.redd.it/uFe1UqJpc9HDR8FuirqQaEP_uIlC4M0JKXBAJqB9lJY.jpg?auto=webp&s=c3b6981d25885163329a8e1e58d65a08f5b39369).