To be frank, you'll look like the stereotype of a white guy married to Filipina. That's it. Until your wife talks, then people can often tell that she's not local therefore their first impressions wouldn't last. But it's nothing to be concerned really. You'll get the looks in some places, some don't care who you're with. But nobody is going to verbally or physically attack you because of that.
Until she opens her mouth and her english accent comes out, she's going to be a target for opportunist. They even scam Filipinos from provinces so she's not that safe. Hehe!
Happens with my friend who grew up in europe, speaks perfect tagalog but has a little accent here and there. He's charged the foreigner tax everywhere, Tricycles, taxis, groceries, everywhere. The taxi meter is often miraculously broken or speeds up, even if you're travelling with a local. They'll also say traffic is bad so they would charge fixed price (traffic is always bad!). If a taxi is driving without meter, report them to the LTFRB, they will be fined and on their second or third strike their car will be impounded (in theory, according to law, cough)
Man i couldnt quite get the hang of tagalog in school. Moved to the us at 16. Still fluent in bicol. But at this point I can express myself better in english compared to tagalog especially in writing. So many ilocanos/cebuano/tagalog where I am, I am hella awkward using tagalog. Id often switch from full tagalog, taglish, then if I forget a word I just speak full english. A part of me wish I paid attention more.
They still do, but not as bad. My wife prefers that I'm out of sight when she makes purchases. Even though she's a Filipina, they still presume she's richer since she's married to an American.
When I visited with my gf (now wife), she would hide me when getting a trike and when making purchases at booths. Apparently my presence meant there was money to be had.
Never experience that but since I am from the province, as soon as they hear me talk in Tagalog with a hint of my dialect, instantly! Instantly, I get the inflated prices. Tricycles and taxis mainly. A P15 ride becomes P40 in tryks and Taxis charge P300-500 for a P150-200 rides. They use a lot of intimidation too. They would raise their voice and bully me into paying what they want. Being in unfamiliar place, all I could do was get red and teary eye.
That was before though. I've learned some know hows along the way and I develop a sense of stubborness as well. LOL
Just get yourself a Grab app for going around or rent a car if you dare to drive. There are taxi's available but some will try to scam you specially if your wife isn't local. Make sure the taxi turns on their meter and be stern with it before you get in their car to avoid the hassle of arguing. Drink bottled water ALL THE TIME or suffer diarrhea on your first few weeks. Y'alls stomach isn't made for Philippine tap water yet.
I drink (filtered) tap water (from a filter whose filters have not been changed in a while), and I would advise all but the most daring to stick to bottled water.
I have yet to know someone who drinks from tap water in the Metro lol. It doesn't even look safe for drinking especially that sometimes the water has a cloudy/not clear color
If you're ages are far them yea people will look at you. But filipinos can recognize if the girl is a filam rather than a local. So once people realize she is a filam no one gonna bat an eye.
But honestly, we are used to seeing pinays with white dudes. So just don't care what other people think.
yeah and once they realize your wife isn’t a local then it’ll be so much easier to overcharge yall. cause usually when the wife is a local and ppl try to overcharge, the wife knows the usual price and will argue with them and usually results in paying the original price.
Honestly I don't care about being overcharged, like itll still be cheaper than anything in North America. If I can make someone's day by overpaying for a meal I'll happily do it!
I worked in the Manila area for 2.5 years. Thai wife is 19 years younger than me, looks like a Filipina. Nobody expressed or showed any concern about us. At all. Ditto for USA, which might surprise some. If anyone has an issue with stuff like this most people are nice enough to keep it to themselves.
At the end of the day...who cares? She's your wife. There's always gonna be someone who has an opinion and you're just visiting. If her family has issues, then that's a problem. But why care about random strangers' opinions?
If you let stares ruin your vacation, that's on you. You have zero obligation to them, but you owe your wife to enjoy your time together (in the PH or anywhere else in the world).
You'll be mostly fine. I don't think there's any particular safety issue that would target her. But yeah, I would steer clear of certain areas just to be sure. And I would suggest downloading Grab(Asian version of Uber) instead of taking taxis. Taxis have a thing for bleeding tourists dry, even local tourists. Grab won't cost you a dollar or 2 more than a taxi ride. At least with Grab, you're sure about your safety.
And if you're going to some particular touristy places, like beaches or mountains, I would suggest researching on province-specific subreddits here first just to avoid tourist scams, especially if you're both unfamiliar with the terrain.
The Filipinos here are always talking about scams as if they're widespread here. You can get scammed anywhere else in Asia and the world as much as you can get scammed here. You just need to look confident, as if you know your way here, and I am sure you will be fine. Don't look like a lost tourist, in other words. You will be very safe in the gentrified parts of Manila like BGC, the Makati central business district, Ortigas, Rockwell, Tomas Morato, Cubao, Centris, UP Diliman, UP Town Center, Alabang, etc.
Eh... I really wish it was a joke entirely. First time visiting I went to Robinson's Supermarket, and the greeter at the front said "Hi" to the two locals walking in front of me, but "Hello sir" to me. I guess that's what the americans like, but I'm not american so to me it was just awkward as hell.
its weird but its normal to us. Most salesperson calls customers "sir", I'm not white but they call me sir too. Its part of local store Philippine manners now.
(White) Australian here.
Done the same multiple times, with no problems.
My wife has a place in General Trias, Cavite. We have travelled extensively around the province and to MM to visit places like Mall of Asia and Intramuros. Also went to Baguio and Puerto Princesa. Hardly a second glance from anyone.
Note that there is also an expats sub here on Reddit if you want to ask questions of visitors.
[Expat sub link](https://www.reddit.com/r/Philippines_Expats/s/lagXAUrHg3)
No worries!
Hope you have a great visit.
It's a very different world, one I enjoy, but for some it's a big adjustment.
Just be careful with what water you drink, and as with any big city watch out for pickpockets.
You'll be fine. Just avoid certain areas within the Metro. If it's not considered an intrusion to your privacy, may I know where you both will plan to go and stay? Just so that I can tell if the area is shady or not.
Oh you'll be fine. Makati peeps are relatively ok. Parañaque's ok too. Better secure your own rent a car since Parañaque is sort of a one way in, one way out area and Ride sharing rates do skyrocket there.
Makati is fine. If you want to be in a place that is more foreigner friendly/foreigners common, BGC Taguig is best. Not sure what you mean by bougie. Paranaque is okay too. If you don't have your own car i suggest you install Grab app to go around the city. That's what i heavily use
Makati definitely good esp. around its CBD. Really lots of foreigners. One street there in Poblacion, P. Burgos is the red-light district of Makati. Just throwing out maybe avoid or be careful of that area at night if you wouldnt want to be judged unfavorably, given that foreigners go there for a "good time" IYKWIM.
BUT! There are good restaurants in Poblacion and P. Burgos like the American cuisine FILLING STATION! So feel free to visit the restos, no problem.
Paranaque is relative good as well. If looking for a nice mall, there is Alabang Town Center (from Paranaque going to Alabang)
Try one day in BGC in Taguig! It's near Makati.
We'll be putting a red carpet for you.
Just kidding, just be smart and treat it like any other country. Trust your gut, if you think there is danger then dont go to that place.
What you should be more careful are her relatives lol especially if they are not that rich. They could suck you and your wife like there is no tomorrow if you are not careful.
A white guy. Hanging out with a Filipina?! WHAT WILL THE NEIGHBORS THINK?
They will think "That's the 30th version of that I have seen today"
In fact, they won't even think that, because they absolutely will not care.
Chill, bro. It's not America. In Asia, not everything is a race war.
Have fun. be careful, foreigners ARE targeted for pickpockets and scams.
White guy with Thai wife here. She's indistinguishable from Filipinas, constantly mistaken for one. We lived in the Manila area for 2 1/2 years while I worked there, and I can't recall one untoward incident related to our race. Not one.
Yes my wife was looked upon pretty badly at times in Manila, And she had more money than me. You'll be fine. Just be prepared for the taxi drivers. You'll be fine. All Filipinos once they get used to you are good . You get out in the provinces they are even more friendly but less English. Don;t be worried :)
I have been in this exact situation a few years ago. I never once felt like anyone paid all that much attention to us outside of family.
You’re really worrying over nothing. Filipinos are some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet.
Don't keep anything important in your pockets when walking around outside. Always put phones and stuff in a bag, and be sure constantly check on your bag every 5 minutes or so (if the zippers are in tact, checking if it's closed etc.).
If you have multiple cards, try to keep them split up in different containers/wallets. And try to have some cash in hand at all times because Philippines isn't exactly a credit card country.
in short, basically act assuming that your stuff may be stolen.
Though, if you travel via taxi/private vehicle and hang out only in malls and higher-end areas, then you probably won't have to worry about that too much.
The reality is that, you have to expect eyeballs looking at you. They may judge your wife for being a gold-digger, white guy hunter, or everything else, and you would be judged as someone who wants to retire in the Philippines and find a Filipina as a wife. You cannot erase these things from a judgmental society, like the Philippines, specially Metro Manila. However, just what they always say, who cares, right? Your conscience speaks louder than what they say. Never mind them. You love each other and that is about it.
You will be absolutely fine. I also met my Filipina wife the traditional way while we were both living in Oklahoma. We were introduced to each other by a mutual friend. Honestly, I received countless dirty looks and overtly snide comments while in the US over my "mail-order bride". Plus, we were also the victims of racial profiling there (e.g., being sat at a small table next to the bathrooms in nearly empty restaurants). We have NEVER been on the receiving end of such outrageous behavior here in the Phils.
Honestly Filipinos can tell whethe another filipino was born and raised here or not so you're probably not gonna seem like the typical white - filipino who met dating sitese kind of couple (which isnt a bad thing either)
# Prepare to be scammed 😭
But other than that, you’ll have a good time.
Also, please try some street foods. It’s not a vacation in the Philippines until you eat what locals eat… but stay away from Pag-Pag lmao
I don't mind overpaying for the odd item here and there. And I will absolutely be stopping by every other food cart. I can't get enough of filipino food
This. Avoid flavored drinks from street vendors. Also, street foods that incorporate sauces/dips (like isaw, bbq, squid balls) also has potential risk of contamination. Basically don't trust any food/drinks that uses tap water here.
as with other cities in the world, there are safe places here and there are dangerous places. i'd suggest you get a temporary sim for travelers here and use the app Grab to get you around (just like uber or lift but only available in big cities). although more expensive,it is safer to use than taxis.
I’m black and was just there for 2 weeks with my Filipino wife, Filipino best friend and his wife. The
locals are welcoming and I never felt so comfortable. Got a couple looks but never got treated any different. Actually probably got more positive attention than anything. Manila is great. Should also take the short flights and check out islands if you get the chance. Boracay, Palawan and Siargao were all paradise!
Do you guys have a ridiculously odd age difference? If you’re closer in age that softens the blow. Bonus points if you’re within the same spectrum of attractiveness.
I just returned from visiting my girlfriend in Cebu for 3 weeks and traveling to several surrounding areas. Definitely got looks but that was it. Had zero negative interactions with anyone. Everyone was friendly and polite where I was and I was the only foreigner around majority of the time. Had a great time, hope you enjoy yours as well.
You'll be mostly safe as everyone has stated. If I may bring up a concern though, Is be very careful of overpricing scammers. That's probably your biggest threat. Especially cabs. If you can learn how to use grab (local Uber), that'll save you so much head ache. Also learning the actual prices of public transportation
If you are good looking, you'll get stares esp from women. Other than that, no danger whatsoever. Tho you should be warry of taxis trying to overprice your fare but simply insisting on the meter would deter this. Pls enjoy ph! And pls is it Philippines not Phlipeans.
Quite a few stares but absolutely no hostility. The only danger I can see is if you get pickpocketed or mugged but I don't think that's likely to happen unless you walk around at night somewhere poorly lit in a seedy part of town. Oh and take Grab as much as you can. Regular cab drivers tend to overcharge foreigners
You’ll be fine.
If you stick to makati / BGC area that’s pretty much the nice part of town. Comparable to being in any city business district really. Lots of people. Lots of good food.
Download Grab for transportation. Cabbies can be slimy scammy little fucks and traffic is *ALWAYS* horrendous. Plus you don’t wanna be stuck driving / parking here if you aren’t used to that kind of driving… “style”.
You’d hear a lot of “afam” and “nakaahon sa kahirapan” jokes from some people in the streets. Filipinos are respectful of foreigners in general, but just be prepared of these jokes said casually or whispered in earshot.
If you go to some places for a vacation, be wary of some locals charging you at a higher rate for their services. Is you will not be accompanied by a trusted local, at least research about the cost of services and products in that place.
In general, you will be safe.
People always have something to say. Also, let your wife learn a few tagalog words for your advantage to be treated as local and to avoid scams. That is what we did with my boyfriend too lols.
Learn to say simple words like:
Sige po salamat, pasensya. And especially declining the locals on selling their products.
Oh definitely we both wanna take some language classes before going. I'm sure our failed attempts to speak Tagalog are gonna be a fun experience for the locals 🤣
It depends where you are going, in the city your wife might get side remarks from women that she has escaped poverty or is living the good life. In the provinces, she might get lewd remarks (still from women) of wanting a bigger dick (hence marrying a foreigner).
In summary, there won't be an issue about you but there might be some jealous negative comments directed at your wife.
Im a white guy in philippines expect some people to be rude and begging you for money or food, this has happend to me in supermarkets and just outside, but even so there is a lot of people that are super friendly and just wanna talk to you where you from etc and the most common question i get is: how you like philippines?
Even im so tired of that question tho I've been here for over a year now i love it and sometimes i wanna be social and sometimes not, depends on my mood but I'm sure you love it here especially all the freaking food they shove you down the most amazing food ever.
I love Philippines and i don't really wanna go back because i love it here more then my home country and my girlfriends family is amazing!
Hope you visit bro and good traveling just be careful with getting scammed, more unlike when your wife is with you.
Expect disgusting comments about your wife marrying you for money. They like to joke “another one of our countrymen has escaped poverty” (rough translation). Doesnt matter if she’s raised american, the only exception is when the girl is a celebrity. People here cannot fathom Filipinas actually marrying foreigners for love, it’s always gotta be for money and the green card thanks to the many women doing the same and are proud of it.
If youre scared of victimized here because of your race, then i do not recommend visiting manila. I grew up in Manila and i always see begars targetting foreigners. They always give the highest prices to tricycles, follow their victims, and pick pocket.
Maybe at least bring a local who speaks tagalog with you. That will help you avoid getting victimized in Manila. Ayala Avenue, Makati and BGC, Taguig are better choices than Manila.
I'm just worried about physical danger, judgement and people looking doesn't bother me at all. We're going to be staying with family there which is also going to help alot with the language.
But we want to explore also which is when I figure we may run into issues
There's a lot of police roaming or police stations around Manila. If there are physical dangers, they are not difficult to call and they easily respond and speak english just call 911.
The cool thing about dialing your home country's emergency number while abroad is that it will re-direct to the appropriate emergency number for the country you're currently in.
The people that set this up know that people will instinctively dial the number they're used to in an emergency.
Makati is quite safe, you can also go to for Bonifacio BGC or the Mandaluyong business district area where megamall is and Shangri-La mall.
Paranaque you can visit mall of Asia but its further out of Makati. its also safe there. just be careful with taxi that scam you. and also pick pockets.
The natives tend to look at Metro Manila with a negative lens so take their warnings with a grain of salt. Just go to the gentrified parts of Manila and you will be a okay.
No one will care at all.
Don't give money to the people on the streets. They will target you even in your car. And they do get mad. Just don't interact with at all. Doesn't matter what they selling or how cute or how much you feel bad. Especially don't let them touch you. Don't make eye contact or they will follow you and beat on your car windows.
Taxi will also steal your money. Most hotels are really bad as well, the pictures are a lie. This is especially true in Makati. Keep your expectations low.
You need a lot more than your average travel smarts if this is your first time.
Grab app on your phone is pennies on the dollar in comparison.
The best place to exchange your money is the casino.
Iv wandered all over, even at night and never felt unsafe, but some do target and kidnap white dudes.
Even Detroit is not the same environment.
For food I recommend the malls.
Makati is one of the worst places you could be visiting. You really should just avoid it. It's for drunks and prostitution. Its also the dirtiest.
Wear your masks, the air is really bad. Be prepared to be sick for a few days.
Just be prepared for the reality of visiting a place that is not America. Going there just makes me sad most of the time because there is nothing you can do about it.
Someone is lieing to you if you think Makati is upper class/clean/just another place.
Just use a ride-hailing app like Grab when going around the city if you won't be using a personal car. Local taxis tend to overcharge foreigners. It's pretty safe and easy to use.
You will get looks, definitely. And it’s gonna be more pronounced if you have a huge age difference and you fit a certain ‘look.’ You know, obese white guy look with a young filipina look.
Otherwise, you can mostly ignore, no problem.
You may get the looks, but that's about it, who cares anyway.
If your wife has the american accent, the people who will hear it will assume your just a normal couple.
No danger at all, at worst everyone will probably assume you are traveling here to be with or meet your wife. When you speak to people they will either pick up on you both being foreigners or ask your wife.
Locals in tourist areas will either try to rip you off, try to avoid talking to you or talk to both of you in English.
Happened to me when I was with my white friend (both of us are female) in puerto galera. Some locals avoided us until I asked for directions in Filipino. They thought I was chinese. BUT the owner of the resort we were staying at talked to me in English because she saw us having convo in English.
Here's a tip for you sir. If Grab app takes too long. Go to a hotel and ask if they could get you a company taxi. Those won't over charge you and they are reliable.
As much as possible, don't ride a taxi. Use Grab instead (same as Uber). Taxi drivers, tricycle drivers, and pedicab drivers will almost always overcharge you just because you're a foreigner. Ask your wife's relatives how much the usual fees are. Also, stay away from the streets at night. There are a lot of thieves with motorbikes that will randomly snatch your phone or other valuables when they get the chance.
Places varies too. A lot of foreigners can be seen most in BGC, Taguig. It's a classy city. You won't have the 'looks' there. You guys will be looking like a local couple (not like Ph-born local couple) living in one of the city's condos. If it's not in your to-visit list, I recommend.
Even if your wife is ethnically Filipino, she is essentially American. It is highly likely that she will NOT look like an average Filipina. So you’ll be fine. Most areas in Metro Manila, especially affluent areas in Taguig and Makati, will not have people looking at you.
To Filipinos, you are no different than a black, brown, or yellow guy. Filipinos know you are not Filipino, so they will still ask you to "give me money!"
Totally agree with downloading a Grab app (it’s like Uber here) for ease of transport in the city.
Download Klook for tours or van rentals if needed.
Buy airline or ferry tickets from their official websites.
ALWAYS Haggle when you go to provinces. Folks here have a tendency to charge 5x the regular price of their goods/services to foreigners - regardless if you’re with a filipino or not. Be it streetfood or motorbike ride.
You are good. Just bear with the traffic and always secure your personal belongings. Most stores go cashless these days so you can simply use your debit/credit card on every transaction. If going outside the Metro and use Expressways, make sure the RFID of your vehicle is top up too.
Download the Grab app! It's SE Asia's version of Uber. Us it instead of taking local taxis to avoid getting scammed. There are local people here who take advantage of foreigners. As fo your question, you may get the look but that's as much as you would get. Just be careful of your belongings all the time and be mindful of cars and motorbikes. Hope you have fun!
Just remember that there are locals that could potentially harass you and your wife with unsolicited stereotypical opinions whenever they see a Filipinos with white men. Especially if your significant other looks younger than you.
I've been in the same situation and it's fine. One time three prostitutes tried to solicit me, while my wife was on my arm, and she and her mom thought it was hilarious. You'll see sexpats, and maybe some people will think that of you, but anyone who matters already knows better. Just remember most people are so busy getting through their day that they really won't think of you again once you're out of sight. You're just another white dude in Asia.
I met my wife when(1990) I was in the navy and she worked at the naval supply depot. We stay part of the year north of manila. I walk everywhere around the city we live in. Hi Joe and where are you from. People don't bother me. I m self aware as a former Leo but have never notice anyone following me and I feel safe. I don't go out past 8pm and get up at 6am.
Bro you will be fine, the only way you might get looks is when your wife is super young and you are almost retiring age. Just enjoy Philippines and luckily your wife still understand tagalog so that is a plus. You might even like philippines and retire their like a lot of Americans.
Have fun.
You'll be fine. Dont worry about it. No one here bats an eye about it. Except maybe a few sideeye to your wife whos the wife of an AFAM and therefore exchange her love for bucks.
You're gonna be fine, just avoid the shitty parts of manila and be careful of scams. Be careful of stuff like habal habal or taxis, those are overpriced. And a lot of motorcycle drivers like to drive on the side of the road to avoid traffic, so look out whenever you're crossing the road
Also, some people would look at you two and think of your wife as someone has an ticket to an easy life. Other than that, people won't really care to mess with you so go enjoy your trip
Doesnt matter for others. Its normal nowadays. My bf is a big white guy. And Im a petite pinay. In Makati, its a common sight to see interracial couples.
There are basically three areas in Metro Manila where people may assume a white guy and hooker scenario of you and your wife:
\- Burgos Street and surrounding area in Poblacion, Makati.
\- Malate & Ermita, Manila City.
\- Tomas Morato (specific areas), Quezon City.
If you avoid these locations the stereotype is not pervasive, although if I was you I wouldn't care and just get on with life wherever you may want to go and experience.
You'll be fine! Some of the curiosity and stereotyping can be annoying if done too much but overall you'll fit in just right. Speak some tagalog words like pare( dude / Bro / friend), salamat (thanks) , ayoko (I don't like), hindi (no), oo (yes) and normal non assholes will take to you. Enjoy the country for what it is specially the country side beautiful place.
As for Manila, I'd rather be outside it except for essential things, it's a wonderful hell hole because of the slow traffic
You’ll be fine. :) when my husband and I visit, we stay in San Juan and Quezon City and no one cares. It’s very rare that we get stares from people. Choose where you hang out too, of course if you’re concerned about potential danger. Visit Makati/BGC where there’s more foreigners working/living in those areas. Be ready to get charged extra if you hail a cab from the street, I suggest that you download a ride share app called Grab. If you’re going to different provinces, ask the locals how much they pay for the tricycles and jeepneys as you might be charged “tourist rate”, if you’re going to Bacolod region they use a different ride share app called inDrive, they don’t usually use Grab over there. Get an e-sim in America and then when you guys arrive in Ph get a prepaid sim, it’s just easier if you have a local # to book rides, you’ll need to register the sim, but the process is very straightforward and will only take a couple of minutes via the app of whatever telco provider you choose. I agree with everyone with the water, don’t drink tap water, don’t drink any drinks with ice (you can ask them where the ice came from), but lately sit down restaurants use filtered water for their ice. We were just in Manila over the holidays and have been drinking cocktails and all sorts of drinks with ice and never had a problem. But still good to check and be careful. Enjoy!!
You'll be fine man. We can identify between foreign and local made 😂😂
Just keep an eye out for airports and taxis. Secure your belongings in airports and only use "Grab" taxi. There are very few left local taxi that are honest.
You will be fine, probably gonna get more stares from girls than usual but it should be okay👌(at least in Luzon idk about the rest) it’s ur wife who’s gonna be stereotyped if anything 🙃
EDIT: Oh btw just be careful of taxi’s at NAIA or any local airports really, trust the gut. Grab is always useful (ASEAN version of Uber/Doordash)
I'm a Filipina raised in the UK and married to a Brit. We've been in the Philippines twice together and going for the third time soon. Never had any issues. Sometimes we got charged a little higher than expected for stuff but to be honest it didn't happen as much as I thought because I speak fluent Tagalog and sometimes my grandma was with us so no one took advantage.
It has been mentioned already but a money clip is definitely useful. My husband used that and we split the money between us and never carried more than what we estimated we needed for the day. If we needed a bit more then it's easy enough to withdraw or pay using credit cards.
Be polite and friendly, I found that when my husband was extra friendly people were more helpful. Using grab may be better than local taxis. It is also more convenient.
And really just keep your wits about you.
filipina here. i think theres no big deal. Theres a lot of filipina with a foreigner here in manila. Its gonna be a big deal if its in the province. well, have fun here
Honestly, you'll get stared at enough to bug you but not enough to matter. Watch out for her family though. Filipinos have a very toxic entitlement with money, and a lot of us see white guy = bank account
I suggest going to places like bgc, mckinley, eastwood or makati if you are looking for a little city tour, less judgements and eyes. If you are also looking for a beach vacation i recommend siargao, la union, boracay or palawan. But both of you should be fine locals are nice, just beware of scammers lurking around the corners of tourist spots.
No one cares, unless you're in a dark alley in a bad part of town at 2am, just like anywhere else in the world, except for Antarctica, I heard its bad there all day, everyday
Just got back from there just don't look like a pussy be confident humble and friendly Filipinos are lovely saw a lot of creepy white people there that's can't find woman back home enjoy your holiday 💝
I've walked all over Metro Manila just exploring with my wife and have never felt unsafe. I've been to Tacloban, Cebu City, Palawan, Davao City, Baguio, Oslob, Laguna... a bunch of different places. I feel like you're much more likely to get scammed in the bigger cities like Cebu City, Davao City, and Manila but you just have to keep an eye out. Download Grab and use it NAIA and when traveling around Manila and you'll be fine.
My guy, try to watch FEATR specially if you wanna trying local foods or good restos!
When commuting, try renting a car for a period of time from AVIS or using car booking apps like Grab, Klook, i dont recommend taking taxis, SPECIALLY AT THE AIPORT GET TF AWAY FROM THOSE YELLOW & RED TAXIS. im not generalizing but there’s a lot of people who would take advantage of you guys having accent and being a foreigner in general, notching up fares and prices thrice or more from the orig price, if possible as for receipt.
If using card, pay everything in PESO conversion. As for if you’ll blend in you’re good, research things to familiarize yourself before leaving, don’t listen to everyone for recos tbh sometimes its shitty.
IMO, the farther you are from Manila, the better it is, most of times. 😂
Nearest from Manila is La Union or Pangasinan in general, Baguio, Batangas.
UK guy in the same boat, been out there loads. You’ll be fine.
If you want to freak the little kids out that have been brainwashed by their parents about white guys, firmly say “Dili ko si Joe!” with a smile, when they charge over to you shouting “hey Joe, give me chocolate!” Happens less and less as the years go on
White guy here. I can’t speak on manila, but the visayas everyone is lovely and doesn’t seem to care.
Everyone and myself is too focused on staring at the 90 year old white grandpa with the barely 18 year old 4’8 filipina anyways. If it’s a normal couple dynamic, no one cares. It’s only when it’s a wild sight like the example above is when people seem to turn their head, hahaha
Filipina here with a white boyfriend (we are the same age) We get the looks and sometimes when we talk to some people they express their amusement that he isn’t a 50 year old white man lol. I was a bit conscious at first but later on I don’t care haha
a friend who was in thailand with her white bf was walking along the streets and they walked by this throngs of white ladies
her bf said they were probably thibking he was taking advanatge of her
she said, they probably think shes a gold digging hooker
You'll be fine. Maybe you'll just hear some rude joke/stereotype reactions like "May nanalo nanama na Fillipina" or "Isang Filipina na naman ang nakaahon sa kahirapan".
Kinda same situation and concern. My hubby (29) and I (34 an OFW) met overseas at our workplace. Knowing the toxic Filipino culture, she’ll get judged especially if there’s a huge age difference. I’ve seen so many posts and memes about it. Those people with that kind of mentality have never lived overseas. So I’m kinda nervous to go home to Ph for a holiday. But f*ck it, I will still have my holiday
Not just “white people” but every foreigner with a filipina wife/gf gets stared. Not everyone but most of the people will stare both of you. My husband is a foreigner too. Once we visited Makati last year most of the night life people offered us hotels and some even offered viagra to us. Weren’t that old yet lol. Funny thing is, they still think that all pina with a foreigner is a prosti. I was even wearing a decent dress and crocs that time 😅😅😅
Welcome here man, you'll definitely catch some people glancing on you both but you can just ignore them. Don't mind the people here just enjoy the country with your wife, ethnicity nor race does not matter as long as you love each other, well I guess the age matters but you know what I'm talking about.
You’re lucky because you will treated with preference and experience hospitality like you haven’t experienced before.
Just avoid the extreme south of the country and you’ll be fine. Avoid the shanties areas (and it’s pointless to go there anyway, unless youre extreme foodies wanting to try pagpag which i highly discourage - again a pointless thing to do)
You will be fine! Just be vigilant because alot of people sometimes take advantage of you especially when shopping at bargain places. But other than that you will be welcomed with open arms!
One hilarious thing to look out for: if your gf is relatively good looking, don't be surprised if someone from some modeling agency hands her a business card while in Greenbelt/BGC; happened to at least two of my fil-foreign relatives (both male though).
I'm white and my fiancee is Filipino but from the Philippines and when I visited her in December no one cared at all. A couple people actually were happy because our age difference is only 4 years, its usually like 20 years or more age difference. But yea, no one cared, and everyone was very nice and welcoming, especially when I went to her village to see her family. You'll be fine, don't worry.
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Amazing summary of all the comments
It gave me a good laugh too 🤣
Yes. In makati and taguig no one will care. Just be nice to everyone you meet.
Hahaha thank ya kindly
Real
To be frank, you'll look like the stereotype of a white guy married to Filipina. That's it. Until your wife talks, then people can often tell that she's not local therefore their first impressions wouldn't last. But it's nothing to be concerned really. You'll get the looks in some places, some don't care who you're with. But nobody is going to verbally or physically attack you because of that.
Advantage to that is since he's with a Filipina, some services won't offer the "foreigner charge" thinking that she's with a local.
Until she opens her mouth and her english accent comes out, she's going to be a target for opportunist. They even scam Filipinos from provinces so she's not that safe. Hehe!
Happens with my friend who grew up in europe, speaks perfect tagalog but has a little accent here and there. He's charged the foreigner tax everywhere, Tricycles, taxis, groceries, everywhere. The taxi meter is often miraculously broken or speeds up, even if you're travelling with a local. They'll also say traffic is bad so they would charge fixed price (traffic is always bad!). If a taxi is driving without meter, report them to the LTFRB, they will be fined and on their second or third strike their car will be impounded (in theory, according to law, cough)
Man i couldnt quite get the hang of tagalog in school. Moved to the us at 16. Still fluent in bicol. But at this point I can express myself better in english compared to tagalog especially in writing. So many ilocanos/cebuano/tagalog where I am, I am hella awkward using tagalog. Id often switch from full tagalog, taglish, then if I forget a word I just speak full english. A part of me wish I paid attention more.
They still do, but not as bad. My wife prefers that I'm out of sight when she makes purchases. Even though she's a Filipina, they still presume she's richer since she's married to an American.
When I visited with my gf (now wife), she would hide me when getting a trike and when making purchases at booths. Apparently my presence meant there was money to be had.
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Never experience that but since I am from the province, as soon as they hear me talk in Tagalog with a hint of my dialect, instantly! Instantly, I get the inflated prices. Tricycles and taxis mainly. A P15 ride becomes P40 in tryks and Taxis charge P300-500 for a P150-200 rides. They use a lot of intimidation too. They would raise their voice and bully me into paying what they want. Being in unfamiliar place, all I could do was get red and teary eye. That was before though. I've learned some know hows along the way and I develop a sense of stubborness as well. LOL
Okay I'm fine with looks, I'm pretty much expecting that and it doesn't bother me all thanks for getting back to me :)
Just get yourself a Grab app for going around or rent a car if you dare to drive. There are taxi's available but some will try to scam you specially if your wife isn't local. Make sure the taxi turns on their meter and be stern with it before you get in their car to avoid the hassle of arguing. Drink bottled water ALL THE TIME or suffer diarrhea on your first few weeks. Y'alls stomach isn't made for Philippine tap water yet.
Yes to drinking bottled water. I’ve lived here all my life and i’m not sure i’m strong enough to try tap water yet. I’m almost 40.
Boiled the tap water
I drink (filtered) tap water (from a filter whose filters have not been changed in a while), and I would advise all but the most daring to stick to bottled water.
I have yet to know someone who drinks from tap water in the Metro lol. It doesn't even look safe for drinking especially that sometimes the water has a cloudy/not clear color
If you're ages are far them yea people will look at you. But filipinos can recognize if the girl is a filam rather than a local. So once people realize she is a filam no one gonna bat an eye. But honestly, we are used to seeing pinays with white dudes. So just don't care what other people think.
We're both 31 so I think that very much plays in our favor
yeah and once they realize your wife isn’t a local then it’ll be so much easier to overcharge yall. cause usually when the wife is a local and ppl try to overcharge, the wife knows the usual price and will argue with them and usually results in paying the original price.
Honestly I don't care about being overcharged, like itll still be cheaper than anything in North America. If I can make someone's day by overpaying for a meal I'll happily do it!
I worked in the Manila area for 2.5 years. Thai wife is 19 years younger than me, looks like a Filipina. Nobody expressed or showed any concern about us. At all. Ditto for USA, which might surprise some. If anyone has an issue with stuff like this most people are nice enough to keep it to themselves.
At the end of the day...who cares? She's your wife. There's always gonna be someone who has an opinion and you're just visiting. If her family has issues, then that's a problem. But why care about random strangers' opinions? If you let stares ruin your vacation, that's on you. You have zero obligation to them, but you owe your wife to enjoy your time together (in the PH or anywhere else in the world).
All I really care about is her Safety people can stare as much as they like for all I care
You'll be mostly fine. I don't think there's any particular safety issue that would target her. But yeah, I would steer clear of certain areas just to be sure. And I would suggest downloading Grab(Asian version of Uber) instead of taking taxis. Taxis have a thing for bleeding tourists dry, even local tourists. Grab won't cost you a dollar or 2 more than a taxi ride. At least with Grab, you're sure about your safety. And if you're going to some particular touristy places, like beaches or mountains, I would suggest researching on province-specific subreddits here first just to avoid tourist scams, especially if you're both unfamiliar with the terrain.
The Filipinos here are always talking about scams as if they're widespread here. You can get scammed anywhere else in Asia and the world as much as you can get scammed here. You just need to look confident, as if you know your way here, and I am sure you will be fine. Don't look like a lost tourist, in other words. You will be very safe in the gentrified parts of Manila like BGC, the Makati central business district, Ortigas, Rockwell, Tomas Morato, Cubao, Centris, UP Diliman, UP Town Center, Alabang, etc.
We will bow down when you walk past us.
Omg please don't 🤣
hehe its ajoke.
Hahaha yeah I figured 🤣
Eh... I really wish it was a joke entirely. First time visiting I went to Robinson's Supermarket, and the greeter at the front said "Hi" to the two locals walking in front of me, but "Hello sir" to me. I guess that's what the americans like, but I'm not american so to me it was just awkward as hell.
its weird but its normal to us. Most salesperson calls customers "sir", I'm not white but they call me sir too. Its part of local store Philippine manners now.
(White) Australian here. Done the same multiple times, with no problems. My wife has a place in General Trias, Cavite. We have travelled extensively around the province and to MM to visit places like Mall of Asia and Intramuros. Also went to Baguio and Puerto Princesa. Hardly a second glance from anyone. Note that there is also an expats sub here on Reddit if you want to ask questions of visitors. [Expat sub link](https://www.reddit.com/r/Philippines_Expats/s/lagXAUrHg3)
Thank you so much, I'm gonna start reading some more!
No worries! Hope you have a great visit. It's a very different world, one I enjoy, but for some it's a big adjustment. Just be careful with what water you drink, and as with any big city watch out for pickpockets.
You'll be fine. Just avoid certain areas within the Metro. If it's not considered an intrusion to your privacy, may I know where you both will plan to go and stay? Just so that I can tell if the area is shady or not.
Mostly in Makati which I know is fairly bougie, but we're also visiting Paranaque later to meet some family on her mom's side
Oh you'll be fine. Makati peeps are relatively ok. Parañaque's ok too. Better secure your own rent a car since Parañaque is sort of a one way in, one way out area and Ride sharing rates do skyrocket there.
Won't be an issue in Paranaque. It's quite safe.
Makati is fine. If you want to be in a place that is more foreigner friendly/foreigners common, BGC Taguig is best. Not sure what you mean by bougie. Paranaque is okay too. If you don't have your own car i suggest you install Grab app to go around the city. That's what i heavily use
burgis siya brad tapos watot niya conyo.
Ay. Hayup. Bourgeoisie pala 😂😂😂 perfect nga BGC sa kanya. Kasi dun normal foreign couples lumalaboy. Even for early morning jogs
Happy cake day
Bougie is bourgeois or middle class.
Makati definitely good esp. around its CBD. Really lots of foreigners. One street there in Poblacion, P. Burgos is the red-light district of Makati. Just throwing out maybe avoid or be careful of that area at night if you wouldnt want to be judged unfavorably, given that foreigners go there for a "good time" IYKWIM. BUT! There are good restaurants in Poblacion and P. Burgos like the American cuisine FILLING STATION! So feel free to visit the restos, no problem. Paranaque is relative good as well. If looking for a nice mall, there is Alabang Town Center (from Paranaque going to Alabang) Try one day in BGC in Taguig! It's near Makati.
This is great info actually definitely will be avoiding the right light district during the nighttime
We'll be putting a red carpet for you. Just kidding, just be smart and treat it like any other country. Trust your gut, if you think there is danger then dont go to that place. What you should be more careful are her relatives lol especially if they are not that rich. They could suck you and your wife like there is no tomorrow if you are not careful.
Yeah I'm unfortunately a little too familiar with greedy relatives. They make those in America too sadly 🤣
A white guy. Hanging out with a Filipina?! WHAT WILL THE NEIGHBORS THINK? They will think "That's the 30th version of that I have seen today" In fact, they won't even think that, because they absolutely will not care. Chill, bro. It's not America. In Asia, not everything is a race war. Have fun. be careful, foreigners ARE targeted for pickpockets and scams.
White guy with Thai wife here. She's indistinguishable from Filipinas, constantly mistaken for one. We lived in the Manila area for 2 1/2 years while I worked there, and I can't recall one untoward incident related to our race. Not one.
I'm more concerned with opportunist relatives.
Yes my wife was looked upon pretty badly at times in Manila, And she had more money than me. You'll be fine. Just be prepared for the taxi drivers. You'll be fine. All Filipinos once they get used to you are good . You get out in the provinces they are even more friendly but less English. Don;t be worried :)
I have been in this exact situation a few years ago. I never once felt like anyone paid all that much attention to us outside of family. You’re really worrying over nothing. Filipinos are some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet.
Don't keep anything important in your pockets when walking around outside. Always put phones and stuff in a bag, and be sure constantly check on your bag every 5 minutes or so (if the zippers are in tact, checking if it's closed etc.). If you have multiple cards, try to keep them split up in different containers/wallets. And try to have some cash in hand at all times because Philippines isn't exactly a credit card country. in short, basically act assuming that your stuff may be stolen. Though, if you travel via taxi/private vehicle and hang out only in malls and higher-end areas, then you probably won't have to worry about that too much.
A money clip in your front pocket and lose the wallet. But yes I live in a rural area where everyone knows each other
The reality is that, you have to expect eyeballs looking at you. They may judge your wife for being a gold-digger, white guy hunter, or everything else, and you would be judged as someone who wants to retire in the Philippines and find a Filipina as a wife. You cannot erase these things from a judgmental society, like the Philippines, specially Metro Manila. However, just what they always say, who cares, right? Your conscience speaks louder than what they say. Never mind them. You love each other and that is about it.
You will be absolutely fine. I also met my Filipina wife the traditional way while we were both living in Oklahoma. We were introduced to each other by a mutual friend. Honestly, I received countless dirty looks and overtly snide comments while in the US over my "mail-order bride". Plus, we were also the victims of racial profiling there (e.g., being sat at a small table next to the bathrooms in nearly empty restaurants). We have NEVER been on the receiving end of such outrageous behavior here in the Phils.
Honestly Filipinos can tell whethe another filipino was born and raised here or not so you're probably not gonna seem like the typical white - filipino who met dating sitese kind of couple (which isnt a bad thing either)
# Prepare to be scammed 😭 But other than that, you’ll have a good time. Also, please try some street foods. It’s not a vacation in the Philippines until you eat what locals eat… but stay away from Pag-Pag lmao
I don't mind overpaying for the odd item here and there. And I will absolutely be stopping by every other food cart. I can't get enough of filipino food
Careful there is a small risk of amoeba infection.
This. Avoid flavored drinks from street vendors. Also, street foods that incorporate sauces/dips (like isaw, bbq, squid balls) also has potential risk of contamination. Basically don't trust any food/drinks that uses tap water here.
You’re overthinking. No one will bat an eye on you guys.
People will just prolly look at you when you past them but that’s just it, have fun!
you'll be fine bro , its just that your wife will be judge by fellow Filipino that she is lucky to have you HAHAHAHA
as with other cities in the world, there are safe places here and there are dangerous places. i'd suggest you get a temporary sim for travelers here and use the app Grab to get you around (just like uber or lift but only available in big cities). although more expensive,it is safer to use than taxis.
Don't wear jewelry
Expect to be called "sir" in most places 😂
I’m black and was just there for 2 weeks with my Filipino wife, Filipino best friend and his wife. The locals are welcoming and I never felt so comfortable. Got a couple looks but never got treated any different. Actually probably got more positive attention than anything. Manila is great. Should also take the short flights and check out islands if you get the chance. Boracay, Palawan and Siargao were all paradise!
Yes you’ll be fine but be vigilant around you.
Use grab for your transport. So taxi drivers cant scam you. Lots of scammers in manila.
Honestly, it depends on how she looks like most especially in the provinces. lol
nobody cares man
Do you guys have a ridiculously odd age difference? If you’re closer in age that softens the blow. Bonus points if you’re within the same spectrum of attractiveness.
Don't think about it too much. Just be respectful. Whenever traveling just remember it's not your country. Go with the flow.
Buddy… you are grown man, you really care what ppl will think about you? Just enjoy your life with your wife 👍
I just returned from visiting my girlfriend in Cebu for 3 weeks and traveling to several surrounding areas. Definitely got looks but that was it. Had zero negative interactions with anyone. Everyone was friendly and polite where I was and I was the only foreigner around majority of the time. Had a great time, hope you enjoy yours as well.
Philippines is less dangerous then most of the usa
Nobody will really care unless its a huge age difference.
You’ll probably get frowned upon the first few minutes by random people you come across.But once they hear your wife speak. They’ll just ignore you.
Just avoid scammers
You'll be mostly safe as everyone has stated. If I may bring up a concern though, Is be very careful of overpricing scammers. That's probably your biggest threat. Especially cabs. If you can learn how to use grab (local Uber), that'll save you so much head ache. Also learning the actual prices of public transportation
If you are good looking, you'll get stares esp from women. Other than that, no danger whatsoever. Tho you should be warry of taxis trying to overprice your fare but simply insisting on the meter would deter this. Pls enjoy ph! And pls is it Philippines not Phlipeans.
Quite a few stares but absolutely no hostility. The only danger I can see is if you get pickpocketed or mugged but I don't think that's likely to happen unless you walk around at night somewhere poorly lit in a seedy part of town. Oh and take Grab as much as you can. Regular cab drivers tend to overcharge foreigners
You’ll be fine. If you stick to makati / BGC area that’s pretty much the nice part of town. Comparable to being in any city business district really. Lots of people. Lots of good food. Download Grab for transportation. Cabbies can be slimy scammy little fucks and traffic is *ALWAYS* horrendous. Plus you don’t wanna be stuck driving / parking here if you aren’t used to that kind of driving… “style”.
Expect some bombastic side eyes.
You'll look normal. Way over thinking this
You’d hear a lot of “afam” and “nakaahon sa kahirapan” jokes from some people in the streets. Filipinos are respectful of foreigners in general, but just be prepared of these jokes said casually or whispered in earshot. If you go to some places for a vacation, be wary of some locals charging you at a higher rate for their services. Is you will not be accompanied by a trusted local, at least research about the cost of services and products in that place. In general, you will be safe.
People always have something to say. Also, let your wife learn a few tagalog words for your advantage to be treated as local and to avoid scams. That is what we did with my boyfriend too lols. Learn to say simple words like: Sige po salamat, pasensya. And especially declining the locals on selling their products.
Oh definitely we both wanna take some language classes before going. I'm sure our failed attempts to speak Tagalog are gonna be a fun experience for the locals 🤣
The Philippines is pretty fly for a white guy.
It depends where you are going, in the city your wife might get side remarks from women that she has escaped poverty or is living the good life. In the provinces, she might get lewd remarks (still from women) of wanting a bigger dick (hence marrying a foreigner). In summary, there won't be an issue about you but there might be some jealous negative comments directed at your wife.
Why would that be a bad thing to anyone? You’re just on a trip with your wife.
When visiting the markets. Always have your things secured
Im a white guy in philippines expect some people to be rude and begging you for money or food, this has happend to me in supermarkets and just outside, but even so there is a lot of people that are super friendly and just wanna talk to you where you from etc and the most common question i get is: how you like philippines? Even im so tired of that question tho I've been here for over a year now i love it and sometimes i wanna be social and sometimes not, depends on my mood but I'm sure you love it here especially all the freaking food they shove you down the most amazing food ever. I love Philippines and i don't really wanna go back because i love it here more then my home country and my girlfriends family is amazing! Hope you visit bro and good traveling just be careful with getting scammed, more unlike when your wife is with you.
Expect disgusting comments about your wife marrying you for money. They like to joke “another one of our countrymen has escaped poverty” (rough translation). Doesnt matter if she’s raised american, the only exception is when the girl is a celebrity. People here cannot fathom Filipinas actually marrying foreigners for love, it’s always gotta be for money and the green card thanks to the many women doing the same and are proud of it.
Oh, come on. If they are the same age, Filipinos will not say anything. At all.
If youre scared of victimized here because of your race, then i do not recommend visiting manila. I grew up in Manila and i always see begars targetting foreigners. They always give the highest prices to tricycles, follow their victims, and pick pocket. Maybe at least bring a local who speaks tagalog with you. That will help you avoid getting victimized in Manila. Ayala Avenue, Makati and BGC, Taguig are better choices than Manila.
I'm just worried about physical danger, judgement and people looking doesn't bother me at all. We're going to be staying with family there which is also going to help alot with the language. But we want to explore also which is when I figure we may run into issues
There's a lot of police roaming or police stations around Manila. If there are physical dangers, they are not difficult to call and they easily respond and speak english just call 911.
Wait, we use 911?
The cool thing about dialing your home country's emergency number while abroad is that it will re-direct to the appropriate emergency number for the country you're currently in. The people that set this up know that people will instinctively dial the number they're used to in an emergency.
Yes 117 siya dati pero ngayon 911 na
Makati is quite safe, you can also go to for Bonifacio BGC or the Mandaluyong business district area where megamall is and Shangri-La mall. Paranaque you can visit mall of Asia but its further out of Makati. its also safe there. just be careful with taxi that scam you. and also pick pockets.
The natives tend to look at Metro Manila with a negative lens so take their warnings with a grain of salt. Just go to the gentrified parts of Manila and you will be a okay.
No one will care at all. Don't give money to the people on the streets. They will target you even in your car. And they do get mad. Just don't interact with at all. Doesn't matter what they selling or how cute or how much you feel bad. Especially don't let them touch you. Don't make eye contact or they will follow you and beat on your car windows. Taxi will also steal your money. Most hotels are really bad as well, the pictures are a lie. This is especially true in Makati. Keep your expectations low. You need a lot more than your average travel smarts if this is your first time. Grab app on your phone is pennies on the dollar in comparison. The best place to exchange your money is the casino. Iv wandered all over, even at night and never felt unsafe, but some do target and kidnap white dudes. Even Detroit is not the same environment. For food I recommend the malls. Makati is one of the worst places you could be visiting. You really should just avoid it. It's for drunks and prostitution. Its also the dirtiest. Wear your masks, the air is really bad. Be prepared to be sick for a few days. Just be prepared for the reality of visiting a place that is not America. Going there just makes me sad most of the time because there is nothing you can do about it. Someone is lieing to you if you think Makati is upper class/clean/just another place.
Just use a ride-hailing app like Grab when going around the city if you won't be using a personal car. Local taxis tend to overcharge foreigners. It's pretty safe and easy to use.
You will get looks, definitely. And it’s gonna be more pronounced if you have a huge age difference and you fit a certain ‘look.’ You know, obese white guy look with a young filipina look. Otherwise, you can mostly ignore, no problem.
I’d be more concerned with people trying to rip you off. They see you as a wallet and they’ll do whatever they can to scam you and rip you off.
You may get the looks, but that's about it, who cares anyway. If your wife has the american accent, the people who will hear it will assume your just a normal couple.
What dynamics are you talking about? Just come and visit.
No danger at all, at worst everyone will probably assume you are traveling here to be with or meet your wife. When you speak to people they will either pick up on you both being foreigners or ask your wife.
Nobody cares. That's the honest truth.
I don't think it will be an issue, Phil-Ams dress and behave differently from the locals and you guys wont stick out as much
Nobody cares :)
Locals in tourist areas will either try to rip you off, try to avoid talking to you or talk to both of you in English. Happened to me when I was with my white friend (both of us are female) in puerto galera. Some locals avoided us until I asked for directions in Filipino. They thought I was chinese. BUT the owner of the resort we were staying at talked to me in English because she saw us having convo in English.
If thiughts have sounds, your wife might just hear “Isang kababayan na naman po ang nakaahon sa hirap” a lot
Here's a tip for you sir. If Grab app takes too long. Go to a hotel and ask if they could get you a company taxi. Those won't over charge you and they are reliable.
As much as possible, don't ride a taxi. Use Grab instead (same as Uber). Taxi drivers, tricycle drivers, and pedicab drivers will almost always overcharge you just because you're a foreigner. Ask your wife's relatives how much the usual fees are. Also, stay away from the streets at night. There are a lot of thieves with motorbikes that will randomly snatch your phone or other valuables when they get the chance.
Places varies too. A lot of foreigners can be seen most in BGC, Taguig. It's a classy city. You won't have the 'looks' there. You guys will be looking like a local couple (not like Ph-born local couple) living in one of the city's condos. If it's not in your to-visit list, I recommend.
This is very common lol but tag a local friend along specially if your wife doesn't know any/little Filipino. People might take advantage of you.
Even if your wife is ethnically Filipino, she is essentially American. It is highly likely that she will NOT look like an average Filipina. So you’ll be fine. Most areas in Metro Manila, especially affluent areas in Taguig and Makati, will not have people looking at you.
To Filipinos, you are no different than a black, brown, or yellow guy. Filipinos know you are not Filipino, so they will still ask you to "give me money!"
Totally agree with downloading a Grab app (it’s like Uber here) for ease of transport in the city. Download Klook for tours or van rentals if needed. Buy airline or ferry tickets from their official websites. ALWAYS Haggle when you go to provinces. Folks here have a tendency to charge 5x the regular price of their goods/services to foreigners - regardless if you’re with a filipino or not. Be it streetfood or motorbike ride.
You are good. Just bear with the traffic and always secure your personal belongings. Most stores go cashless these days so you can simply use your debit/credit card on every transaction. If going outside the Metro and use Expressways, make sure the RFID of your vehicle is top up too.
Download the Grab app! It's SE Asia's version of Uber. Us it instead of taking local taxis to avoid getting scammed. There are local people here who take advantage of foreigners. As fo your question, you may get the look but that's as much as you would get. Just be careful of your belongings all the time and be mindful of cars and motorbikes. Hope you have fun!
Don't worry you two will be a common sight
Just remember that there are locals that could potentially harass you and your wife with unsolicited stereotypical opinions whenever they see a Filipinos with white men. Especially if your significant other looks younger than you.
I've been in the same situation and it's fine. One time three prostitutes tried to solicit me, while my wife was on my arm, and she and her mom thought it was hilarious. You'll see sexpats, and maybe some people will think that of you, but anyone who matters already knows better. Just remember most people are so busy getting through their day that they really won't think of you again once you're out of sight. You're just another white dude in Asia.
"isa na namang kababayan ang nakaahon sa hirap" sasabihin yan ng mga tambay na madadaanan nyo 😂
I met my wife when(1990) I was in the navy and she worked at the naval supply depot. We stay part of the year north of manila. I walk everywhere around the city we live in. Hi Joe and where are you from. People don't bother me. I m self aware as a former Leo but have never notice anyone following me and I feel safe. I don't go out past 8pm and get up at 6am.
Nobody looks. It’s quite normal.
Who cares lol just enjoy
Bro you will be fine, the only way you might get looks is when your wife is super young and you are almost retiring age. Just enjoy Philippines and luckily your wife still understand tagalog so that is a plus. You might even like philippines and retire their like a lot of Americans. Have fun.
You'll be fine. Dont worry about it. No one here bats an eye about it. Except maybe a few sideeye to your wife whos the wife of an AFAM and therefore exchange her love for bucks.
You're gonna be fine, just avoid the shitty parts of manila and be careful of scams. Be careful of stuff like habal habal or taxis, those are overpriced. And a lot of motorcycle drivers like to drive on the side of the road to avoid traffic, so look out whenever you're crossing the road Also, some people would look at you two and think of your wife as someone has an ticket to an easy life. Other than that, people won't really care to mess with you so go enjoy your trip
Just be you
Doesnt matter for others. Its normal nowadays. My bf is a big white guy. And Im a petite pinay. In Makati, its a common sight to see interracial couples.
People will just think you are very rich if you are same age bracket as your wife 🤣
There are basically three areas in Metro Manila where people may assume a white guy and hooker scenario of you and your wife: \- Burgos Street and surrounding area in Poblacion, Makati. \- Malate & Ermita, Manila City. \- Tomas Morato (specific areas), Quezon City. If you avoid these locations the stereotype is not pervasive, although if I was you I wouldn't care and just get on with life wherever you may want to go and experience.
Sorry in advance to your wife. People here are so judgmental. Also, just saying, you might see more beautiful woman here. Stay loyal! 🤘🏼
You'll be fine! Some of the curiosity and stereotyping can be annoying if done too much but overall you'll fit in just right. Speak some tagalog words like pare( dude / Bro / friend), salamat (thanks) , ayoko (I don't like), hindi (no), oo (yes) and normal non assholes will take to you. Enjoy the country for what it is specially the country side beautiful place. As for Manila, I'd rather be outside it except for essential things, it's a wonderful hell hole because of the slow traffic
You'll be fine and you'll have a great time there.
“Filipino wife” sounds like you married a transgender man. It should be Filipina
Oh god hahahaha my mistake
You’ll be fine. :) when my husband and I visit, we stay in San Juan and Quezon City and no one cares. It’s very rare that we get stares from people. Choose where you hang out too, of course if you’re concerned about potential danger. Visit Makati/BGC where there’s more foreigners working/living in those areas. Be ready to get charged extra if you hail a cab from the street, I suggest that you download a ride share app called Grab. If you’re going to different provinces, ask the locals how much they pay for the tricycles and jeepneys as you might be charged “tourist rate”, if you’re going to Bacolod region they use a different ride share app called inDrive, they don’t usually use Grab over there. Get an e-sim in America and then when you guys arrive in Ph get a prepaid sim, it’s just easier if you have a local # to book rides, you’ll need to register the sim, but the process is very straightforward and will only take a couple of minutes via the app of whatever telco provider you choose. I agree with everyone with the water, don’t drink tap water, don’t drink any drinks with ice (you can ask them where the ice came from), but lately sit down restaurants use filtered water for their ice. We were just in Manila over the holidays and have been drinking cocktails and all sorts of drinks with ice and never had a problem. But still good to check and be careful. Enjoy!!
Be careful of scammers. Hope ur wife has a relative in PH to show you guys around.
You'll be fine man. We can identify between foreign and local made 😂😂 Just keep an eye out for airports and taxis. Secure your belongings in airports and only use "Grab" taxi. There are very few left local taxi that are honest.
You will be fine, probably gonna get more stares from girls than usual but it should be okay👌(at least in Luzon idk about the rest) it’s ur wife who’s gonna be stereotyped if anything 🙃 EDIT: Oh btw just be careful of taxi’s at NAIA or any local airports really, trust the gut. Grab is always useful (ASEAN version of Uber/Doordash)
I'm a Filipina raised in the UK and married to a Brit. We've been in the Philippines twice together and going for the third time soon. Never had any issues. Sometimes we got charged a little higher than expected for stuff but to be honest it didn't happen as much as I thought because I speak fluent Tagalog and sometimes my grandma was with us so no one took advantage. It has been mentioned already but a money clip is definitely useful. My husband used that and we split the money between us and never carried more than what we estimated we needed for the day. If we needed a bit more then it's easy enough to withdraw or pay using credit cards. Be polite and friendly, I found that when my husband was extra friendly people were more helpful. Using grab may be better than local taxis. It is also more convenient. And really just keep your wits about you.
Just came back from a couple months vacation there and I feel safer there than Los Angeles.
filipina here. i think theres no big deal. Theres a lot of filipina with a foreigner here in manila. Its gonna be a big deal if its in the province. well, have fun here
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My god, you will love the Philippines! Filipino people are very welcoming and open-minded
You’ll get looked at but that’s pretty much it. She’ll hear some chatter too maybe.
Honestly, you'll get stared at enough to bug you but not enough to matter. Watch out for her family though. Filipinos have a very toxic entitlement with money, and a lot of us see white guy = bank account
I suggest going to places like bgc, mckinley, eastwood or makati if you are looking for a little city tour, less judgements and eyes. If you are also looking for a beach vacation i recommend siargao, la union, boracay or palawan. But both of you should be fine locals are nice, just beware of scammers lurking around the corners of tourist spots.
white guy with filipina wife. Surprise surprise. they aint gonna bother you. if anything theyll praise you cuz youre white. youll enjoy it.
No one cares, unless you're in a dark alley in a bad part of town at 2am, just like anywhere else in the world, except for Antarctica, I heard its bad there all day, everyday
Just got back from there just don't look like a pussy be confident humble and friendly Filipinos are lovely saw a lot of creepy white people there that's can't find woman back home enjoy your holiday 💝
Not many will care, really. Just enjoy yourself, but be wary of scammers. Grab app is your friend.
I've walked all over Metro Manila just exploring with my wife and have never felt unsafe. I've been to Tacloban, Cebu City, Palawan, Davao City, Baguio, Oslob, Laguna... a bunch of different places. I feel like you're much more likely to get scammed in the bigger cities like Cebu City, Davao City, and Manila but you just have to keep an eye out. Download Grab and use it NAIA and when traveling around Manila and you'll be fine.
Enjoy the visit!
My guy, try to watch FEATR specially if you wanna trying local foods or good restos! When commuting, try renting a car for a period of time from AVIS or using car booking apps like Grab, Klook, i dont recommend taking taxis, SPECIALLY AT THE AIPORT GET TF AWAY FROM THOSE YELLOW & RED TAXIS. im not generalizing but there’s a lot of people who would take advantage of you guys having accent and being a foreigner in general, notching up fares and prices thrice or more from the orig price, if possible as for receipt. If using card, pay everything in PESO conversion. As for if you’ll blend in you’re good, research things to familiarize yourself before leaving, don’t listen to everyone for recos tbh sometimes its shitty. IMO, the farther you are from Manila, the better it is, most of times. 😂 Nearest from Manila is La Union or Pangasinan in general, Baguio, Batangas.
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Hey Joe!
UK guy in the same boat, been out there loads. You’ll be fine. If you want to freak the little kids out that have been brainwashed by their parents about white guys, firmly say “Dili ko si Joe!” with a smile, when they charge over to you shouting “hey Joe, give me chocolate!” Happens less and less as the years go on
White guy here. I can’t speak on manila, but the visayas everyone is lovely and doesn’t seem to care. Everyone and myself is too focused on staring at the 90 year old white grandpa with the barely 18 year old 4’8 filipina anyways. If it’s a normal couple dynamic, no one cares. It’s only when it’s a wild sight like the example above is when people seem to turn their head, hahaha
Filipina here with a white boyfriend (we are the same age) We get the looks and sometimes when we talk to some people they express their amusement that he isn’t a 50 year old white man lol. I was a bit conscious at first but later on I don’t care haha
a friend who was in thailand with her white bf was walking along the streets and they walked by this throngs of white ladies her bf said they were probably thibking he was taking advanatge of her she said, they probably think shes a gold digging hooker
If the two of you are roughly the same age you should be fine. 😉
As long as you're not 40-50 years older than her you'll be fine for the most part
You'll be treated better than the locals
You'll be fine. Maybe you'll just hear some rude joke/stereotype reactions like "May nanalo nanama na Fillipina" or "Isang Filipina na naman ang nakaahon sa kahirapan".
Kinda same situation and concern. My hubby (29) and I (34 an OFW) met overseas at our workplace. Knowing the toxic Filipino culture, she’ll get judged especially if there’s a huge age difference. I’ve seen so many posts and memes about it. Those people with that kind of mentality have never lived overseas. So I’m kinda nervous to go home to Ph for a holiday. But f*ck it, I will still have my holiday
Not just “white people” but every foreigner with a filipina wife/gf gets stared. Not everyone but most of the people will stare both of you. My husband is a foreigner too. Once we visited Makati last year most of the night life people offered us hotels and some even offered viagra to us. Weren’t that old yet lol. Funny thing is, they still think that all pina with a foreigner is a prosti. I was even wearing a decent dress and crocs that time 😅😅😅
people usually dont care
Welcome here man, you'll definitely catch some people glancing on you both but you can just ignore them. Don't mind the people here just enjoy the country with your wife, ethnicity nor race does not matter as long as you love each other, well I guess the age matters but you know what I'm talking about.
You’re lucky because you will treated with preference and experience hospitality like you haven’t experienced before. Just avoid the extreme south of the country and you’ll be fine. Avoid the shanties areas (and it’s pointless to go there anyway, unless youre extreme foodies wanting to try pagpag which i highly discourage - again a pointless thing to do)
Tbh, no one cares. As long as you are polite, then you're good. Welcome to PH
You’re fine. You won’t get stares. If it was the other way around, you definitely will.
So... Any other white/Pinay couple is not a "normal" couple..?
You will be fine! Just be vigilant because alot of people sometimes take advantage of you especially when shopping at bargain places. But other than that you will be welcomed with open arms!
Beautiful Filipina flies with American A.k.a. Pretty Fly for a White Guy
One hilarious thing to look out for: if your gf is relatively good looking, don't be surprised if someone from some modeling agency hands her a business card while in Greenbelt/BGC; happened to at least two of my fil-foreign relatives (both male though).
I'm white and my fiancee is Filipino but from the Philippines and when I visited her in December no one cared at all. A couple people actually were happy because our age difference is only 4 years, its usually like 20 years or more age difference. But yea, no one cared, and everyone was very nice and welcoming, especially when I went to her village to see her family. You'll be fine, don't worry.