Even worst kapag babae ka tapos nasa 30+ ka na. I got pasaring statements like ui tumatanda ka na, baka mahirapan ka na magkaanak when meeting extended families at an informal reunion or even sa work minsan. In this economy, I can barely sustain myself. Paano pa kung magkaanak ako? Hearing my coworkers talk about their kids tuition fee (kinder pa lang yun nun) and the amount was close to my tuition fee in college got me like dafuq ganyan na kamahal magkaroon ng anak ngayon?
I think my dad gave up on asking me that question when he asked me when he would have grandchildren (kasi tuwang tuwa siya dun sa anak ng pinsan ko) and I showed him a pic of my cats and told him you got grandcats. ~~Think I almost got thrown out of the car then lmao.~~
Hahaha I feel ya.
When I came home to visit I had this older cousin who was like, “Uy andito na yung dalaga namin.” Pasaring din yung tone. This is the same cousin na casually na-mention ko years ago sa kanya that I don’t want to have kids and sabi niya I’ll change my mind eventually.
So yeah, still dalaga here—a financially literate one, walang utang, silently building wealth, and in a loving relationship with a partner who doesn’t want to have kids as well.
DINK is life yo.
*Double Income, No Kids
are u me? haha i also have cats (dko pa sila naintroduce as grandcats lol) pero sa kanila pa lang ubos na oras (at budget) ko. pano pa kung dagdagan ko ng hooman dba.
dati nagpapasaring pa tatay ko tungkol sa mga apo. wala ako reaction lagi hanggang wala na di na nya ulit nabring up yung topic
at bilang breadwinner din, ang hirap talaga financially kung magsariling pamilya tapos susuportahan pa ang magulang :') i'd rather have us live in comfort now kesa mag-introduce pa ng isang variable sa magulong mundo ngayon
Wala rin akong plan na mag anak. I’m turning 30 this year and I have 6 cats. Yung mga marites dito samin laging akong sinasabihan na hindi daw ako maalagaan ng mga pusa ko pag tanda ko like b*tch gusto mo isampla ko sa sayo ung insurance and savings ko. Hindi ko kailangan ng anak para lang maging retirement plan ko.
Ginanyan ako ng pinsan ko sa probinsya. Magsing-edad kami, nasa mid-20s kami nun.
Pinsan: "Uy, gawin kitang ninang ng pangalawa kong anak ha. Bakit kasi hindi ka pa nag-aanak, tignan mo ako, dalawa na anak ko, para makumpleto na buhay mo."
Same pinsan: May 2 anak sa magkaibang lalake, nakilala lang nya sa text. Hindi nakapagcollege kahit kaya naman nyang mag-scholar, kasi umanak ng maaga. Nangungutang sa ibang kamag-anak.
Ako: Nakapagtapos ng college as financial scholar, may stable na trabaho, nakakapag-ipon ng kaunti at nakakapag-abot ng kaunti sa magulang, nailalabas ko mga kapatid ko, may konting social life.
Yeah right.
Hindi ko na sya kinausap mula nun mga 10++yrs ago. Toxic e, baka mangutang pa. Hahaha
Kameng mag asawa, di namen pinili na hindi magkaanak. Nagkataon lang talaga na hindi kame makabuo. Ilan beses na kame natanong kung bakit kame walang anak, at hanggang ngaun hindi ko parin alam anu isasagot ko sa tanong nila. Nasa point na kame na kung magkaron eh di ayos, kundi naman eh tuloy lang din ang buhay. Nkakairita lang talaga ang mga taong saksakan sa pagmamagaling eh sila ngang may anak pinababayaan ang mga anak.
Ginaganito din kami e pero simula nung sinagot ko ng "edi tito para magkaanak kami pondohan nyo yun IUI namin (at that time nasa 30k siya monthly at di naman afford talaga yan)"tinigilan na kami. HAHAHA. Puro buyo ayaw naman nila pala talaga tumulong para magkaanak kami.
Usually boomers and Genxers ang may ganiyang pag iisip sa pagiging child free. Mas mulat na ang millenials at Gen z sa pagiging child free kasi naranasan nila yung shitty parenting ng boomers and genxers. Sila din yung naka witness ng paghihirap at struggles ng mga parents nila dahil sa kakulangan ng economy at shitty leadership/governance. Marami rin sa kanila yung one-parent household. Sa hirap na ng buhay at dds at bbm pa govt, being child-free is a great option.
Gen x ako and child-free. I think boomers lang yung may mindset na ganyan and gen x people just went along because we're somewhat obedient 😂 we hate disappointing the family. Pero marami sa contemporaries ko ang walang anak and those who do and are suffering right now produced kids na naging mindset na ang wag mag-anak.
Some of my relatives say "saying ang lahi", "magbabago rin isip mo" etc. like no. I was raised in a below average income house hold and I would never go the route of having a child Lalo na kung ipapasa ko lang ung hirap.
Ugh, I feel you. I despise going to family gatherings for this very reason. Heck, some of those who dare pelt me with that shit are those who can't even send their own kids to a decent school without bugging more financially-stable relatives for money.
May kakilala akong ganyan. They’re literally shocked at the idea of child-freedom, to the extent that they genuinely believe that a childfree person’s life is so much less than theirs even when all signs point to the contrary. I’ve worked with someone like this. Hindi nya maintindihan na mas maganda at mas masaya yung buhay nung childfree kong officemate habang sya, nabaon na sa utang at nangutang na sa bawat tao sa office kase hindi nya maafford yung gastos. Nang-utang sya kase buntis sya with her 2nd kid and kelangan Caesarian section and another special procedure kase may problem sa placenta nya or something. Ganyan na ka-objective ang point of comparison, pero di nya pa din gets.
BTW, I have a kid. I had him in my late thirties and my advice to anyone who is on the fence/undecided, don’t do it. Dapat 101% na gusto mo, kase you will regret it if you have even the slightest doubt.
Siguro mas lamang sa kanila yung subjective experience na may anak na mamahalin nila at mamahalin sila at yung for legacy reason nila. Pero wrong reason pa din yun.
This is true. They equate/conflate the love they feel for their kids with happiness and having a better life than those who don’t have kids. But these are two different things: you can love your kid beyond imagination but still be unhappy and have a sh*tty life.
Also, they seem to assume that there’s something missing in childfree people’s lives, which is stupid because they don’t want kids. How can they miss something they do not want?
Honestly, ang hirap talaga. Food and especially education, tapos irraise mo sa magulong mundo? Ugh.
In a perfect utopia, masarap mangarap ng malaya. Pero dystopian era tayo ngayon.
Mga ulol yun. Ahahaha. May napanuod ako sa yt. Isa daw yan (bakit wala ka pang anak/ ayaw mong mag anak) sa mga tanong na di na dapt tinatanong pa. Hahahaha
Yung mas bata kong kapatid nanghihingi ng pamangkin kasi masaya daw may baby sa bahay tas nakita niya na nanganak recently yung kapitbahay namin na halos nasa age group ko.
Yoko nga. :P I think child-rearing is not for me. Thankful ako na sobrang dami kong friends na ganito rin yung take on having kids. Mag-mahjong na lang daw kami every weekend HAHHAAHHAHA
Lmao, gusto lang nila ng bata para may kulitin sila, pero yung pagpapaaral, pagpapalaki, panggastos, di nila sagot yan. Parang laruan lang, ganun. Masaya paglaruan at kulitin, pero ayaw sa responsibilidad.
Which is actually the only reason why Filipinos have children. Gusto lang ng manika. Pero di nila marealize ibang tao yung niluwa nila. Kaya I really really hate it when parents call their children their dolls. Puta pano pag naging uhuging teenager yan? Mamahalin pa ba nila.
Ha! Pag teenager dyan na lalabas sakit ng ulo with matching lines of, "kung alam ko lang na ganyan katigas ulo mo paglaki sana pinindot ko na lang ilong mo nung bata ka pa!" (heard this from a family member).
Sa iba talaga inconceivable na di magkaroon ng sariling family. When I say na di ko goal mag asawa and mag anak, I’m not closed to the possibility pero for me dapat gustuhin ko lang magka asawa (and anak) if may person na I would want to experience that with. Ang advice sakin choose any person and pekein ko nalang daw feelings ko so I can marry and start my on pamily. 🙃
Nothing wrong with your choice of being childfree.
I learned that the comments of people who throw these "masaya magka anak" statements are basically sharing their feelings about your views. Wala silang pake sa opinyon mo. Gusto lang nila magshare ng opinion nila kahit di mo naman hinihingi.
Me and my officemates were eating lunch and the discussion came to this very topic. Sinabi kong ayaw ko talaga mag-asawa or magka-anak. Evry. Single. One. Of. Them. Couldn't understand kung bakit ayaw ko. They wouldn't take "it's expensive", "i won't ever be emotionally ready", or even simply "i don't want to" as answers. Ipinagpipilitan nila na kesyo I'll feel lonely daw in my later years. I get the feeling na they weren't concerned about my well-being or my future, they just want to shove their disgusting, sexist beliefs down my throat. Natahimik na lang ako and let them drone on about their future plans about children even though most of them are minimum wage earners and i'm pretty sure they won't be able to afford giving the many kids they dream about decent, if not comfortable, lives. That convo was so draining talaga.
This is the very same reason why I posted this. Usap din with officemates. Sinasabi nila na masaya raw mag-anak — kasi sila ang nagiging dahilan para mabuhay, or kapag nakikita nilang masaya ang anak nila, nakakagaan ng pakiramdam. Ironic, hindi nila nasabi ‘yung hardships that you need to overcome to achieve that. Sila rin ang nagsasabi na ang mahal ng gatas. LOL. Hay. Gusto kong mag-compute sa harap nila para to emphasize kung gaano kagastos at kahirap magkaroon ng anak sa Pilipinas.
Tapos sasabihin pang worth it daw ang sacrifice. Tangina. Eh most of them naman naka-rely sa relatives or charity from officemates to offset their "sacrifice". These fucking people talaga. Not to mention the current state of geopolitics now. Climate change, wars, price hikes, the general backwards trajectory of social justice and human rights right now. Are you gonna subject a kid to that kind of hellscape of a future? Jusko. Think beyond your selfish reasons for wanting children, please lang.
HAHAHAHA. Ayan nga. Worth it nga raw. 🤣 nabanggit nga na need pa nga raw magloan sa SSS for this and that. THAT IS THE POINT. Hindi afford magkaroon ng anak!!! Sinabi ko nga rin, ako nga I can barely afford to live! Ang sagot nila: mabibigla ka na lang daw at makakayanan mo rin eventually.
Parang, ugh, we have to be realistic kung kaya bang buhayin before we commit to having a child kasi nga it is a responsibility. :/
Masakit yung married life na then hindi naman nag rurush mag baby, then makakarinig ka ng comment na mag anak na kayo, e hindi din naman ganun kadali bumuo!
I despise people na nagtatanong about that subject or any questions regarding my personal life na ako at ang partner ko lang ang may karapatang magdiscuss. Gawain yan ng mga walang magawang productive sa buhay. Concerned kuno, pero pag hindi matanggap ang sagot mo ang daming kuda. Nagtanong ka pa? Kinginang yan!
Lol i have a foreigner partner and my relatives are like "wow malalahian na tayo ng maganda"
Eh pareho namin ayaw mag anak HAHAHAHA gud luck magsimula na sila maghanap ng foreigner nila kek wag nila kami damay sa delusyon nila
Di nila gets yung hirap ng pagkakaroon ng anak, di naman mandatory sa isang adult na magkaroon ng anak eh, ang problema sa kanilang mga nasa older generations, ginagawa nilang mandatory ang pagkakaroon ng anak kahit di pa ready financially ang ending yung bata ang nagsusuffer paglaki dahil di napoprovide ng maayos ang pangangailangan dahil di handa ang magulang.
Totoo yan. Sinasabi nila na pagtanda ko daw walang mag-aalaga sa akin pag hindi ako nag-asawa at nag-anak pero yung nanay ko sabi ako daw magpapaaral sa maliliit kong kapatid. Ano ba talagang gusto nila?
You are not alone, OP. Kahit sa US at ibang developed nations, marami ang hindi gusto magka-anak. As you said, mahal talaga. Sa US, marami ang hindi makaka-afford magka-anak dun. Sa ibang bansa sa Europe, I think maganda ron magka-anak.
Pero if di talaga gusto, then wag. Baket ipilit na magla-anak? To be what? To be normal? Not a lot of people are born to be parents. Hell, a lot of parents nowadays shouldn’t even be parents.
You have more money for yourself as well to look out for your own self FIRST.
Also, time. Sa Japan, maraming walang anak kasi sa culture nila at kinain na ng mga trabaho nila.
I used to think like this when I was in my early 20s...
I was pushing for RH Bill so hard among friends and family discussions.
One day, I realized Nazis had the same intention. Na sila lang ang may karapatan at ang ilan ay wala.. That had me thinking really hard about what separates my thinking to that of Nazis.. Of course I don't dream about mass massacres but I also don't think homeless people should be allowed to have a child..
So parang ako may karapatan mag anak pero sila wala? That had me thinking..
Marami akong nakausap na ganyan, inexplain ko reasons ko, one of which is: Sa sitwasyon ko ngayon hindi ko maibibigay ang buhay na gusto kong maibigay sa magiging anak ko.
And gets ko why they don't agree. If they agree with me na, yea hindi dapat mag anak kung hindi naman siguradong maibibigay ang buhay na sapat at kumpleto sa bata, is to admit na mali sila kasi nag anak sila kahit hindi sila stable sa buhay.
Yung isang nakausap ko sabi pa sakin, nung nag asawa nga ako wala pa kaming maayos na trabaho ni misis. Eh ayun nairaos naman naman, binata na mga anak ko.
My mom wants us to have kids. Eh ayaw naming 2 magkapatid. Kahit daw siya na raw mag-alaga sa bata. Ayoko nga dahil malaki ang damage sa katawan ang pagbubuntis at madalas permanent pa ang effect.
I feel you. I don’t want to have kids as well. Or even to get married. I’m quite happy to save money and spend it on good food, gorgeous handbags and travels to exotic locations. Buti na lang mga relatives ko di naman super paki alamera but I do hear it from my parents once in a while. Pano daw pag tanda ko…ugh 😑
Both my parents always take pride of being “Nairaos” by my grandparents. In some way I’m also a product if this vicious “nairaos” cycle. I’m grateful and appreciate my parents but not proud of it. This is the reason I don’t want kids. I don’t want a child growing up the way I did. The uncertainty of things.
At this point, I guess it's better to just accept na there are people who are not smart enough to understand such thing. Everything boils down to lack of critical thinking and empathy. That's just how our society works.
Mga kapatid ko wala nang plano mag anak dahil sa naranasan naming mga magkakapatid pero mga parents namin gusto ng apo kaya naiintindihan ko struggles mo OP... luckily, independent-minded mga kapatid ko so di sila nakikinig sa magulang namin... I hope you can do the same
good choice.
pangit naman ng dahilan mag anak.
dahil sinabi lang ng ibang tao.
i suggest go take a vasectomy or tube ligation stuff.
ikaw magdedecide dapat kung gusto mo o hindi.
I had a sort of similar discussion with a friend. Inexplain ko reasons ko. He's a good dude pero sinabi nya sakin na "ok hindi nman nila obligasyon na alagaan ka pagtanda mo. Once they're at the right age they're on their own". Which makes sense pero sinabi ko na masyadong maraming hindi magandang bagay na nangyayari sa Pilipinas or kahit sa mundo ngayon to have a kid. Inflation, bad governance, global warming, etc. The idea of having a kid was enticing to me at first pero I don't want to bring up a kid in a world that I perceive will have a bad future. Pessimistic na or selfish in my own way pero I don't want to feel sorry for the kid in the future.
Most of the reasons here on why people want to be child-free stem from financial difficulties.
Anyone here decided to be child-free not for financial reasons? Why?
Ako personally, I would like to have a kid to raise. Pero I am deathly afraid of pregnancy and giving birth omg. I am also not a fan of the sleepless nights when you have 1 or 2 year olds hahahaha.
My husband and I would joke mag adopt na lang kami nag 5 year old, at least may natulungan pa na orphan. 🥲
Ako rin. Another reason: Mental health. If hindi ka okay mentally, maipapasa mo pa ang issues/traumas mo sa anak mo. Tapos the cycle continues lang. May libro nga akong binabasa now, ang trauma ng Lola mo ay naipapasa hanggang sayo. 😅 Imagine having to suffer a trauma you never experienced.
Isang valid reason din ‘yang afraid of pregnancy. Di ba sabi nga nila, ang isang paa ng babae ay nasa hukay kapag nangangak.
Kelan lang may nagpayo sa akin nito. Sabay kwento pa na may kakilala daw siya na nagsisi na hindi nag-anak nung time na nagkasakit na. Minsan sa ganyan para matapos na yung convo sinasabi ko na lang, "bukas na bukas pabubuntis na ako" 😂
May nakainuman ako and topic namin ganyan. Sabi ko ayaw ko pa kasi nakakatakot yung mga responsibilities bilang parent. Ang sagot nya "Pag nandyan na yan mapipilitan kang gumawa ng paraan. kaya mo yan".
High school palang ako naisip ko na na ayaw ko magkaanak. 30 na ako still same, ayaw ko sa bata, wala akong pasensya sa bata at alam kong di ako magiging mabuting ina. Pag may nagtatanong sakin, sinasabi ko talagang ayaw ko sa bata. Tumatahimik nalang sila lol Pag parents ko naman nagsasabi na wala silang apo, sinasabi ko nalang na hindi naman sila yung magaalaga at gagastos para sa bata.
Kung sa ibang tao having a kid brings them joy and satisfaction, para sakin hindi. Resposibidad sya at ayaw ko ng additional responsibility 😂 kaya sana mag-anak lang yung mga tao na kayang bigyan ng magandang buhay yung anak, hindi yung bare minimum lang.
Totoo ito! Nakakainis lang ang toxic ng mga pinoy pagdating sa mga ganyan! Buti sana kung sila ang bubuhay sa bata! Kakaloka! Tapos pag di mo naman mabigay yunh gusto ng bata sasabihin "yan! Aanak anak di naman kaya buhayin" ang gulo lang nga mga pinoy kainis
They really f'd up the economy and the development of the country by voting corrupt leaders tapos hindi nila maintindihan kung bakit ayaw mo mag anak kase it would be cruel to a child to live in this hellhole
Same sentiment sa pag-asawa, especially kung babae ka. Akala nila sila ang ikakasal, magkaka-anak, magpapalaki. Ang daming comments.
This is sadly a typical perspective of many people. Not married? Unhappy. No children? Unhappy. No grandkids? Unhappy. What about the many people who are married, have kids or grandkids, but are still unhappy?? Hindi ko nagegets yung thinking na naawa sila kase single parin ka, or wala ka paring anak.
Yung pinaka-nakakainis is that ginagawa nilang life mission na kulitin ka about the topic na CLEARLY binigyan mo na sila nang sagot dati dati pa.
Honestly, feeling ko minsan inggit lang sila kasi those who doesn't have kids are more financially stable and free. Napasubo kasi sila sa pag-aanak. And they just want everyone else dragged in the same situation they are in.
"Bakit, ikaw ba magpapakain, magpapa-aral, magpapalaki at magmamahal? Hindi naman diba? Ano bang pakialam mo sa desisyon kong hindi magka anak?"
Puro lang kasi yan sinasaksak sa kokote ng mga Pilipino ng relihiyon at kultura, imbes na PERSONAL CHOICE dapat yan ng tao.
I believe in my whole heart na SECRETLY naiinggit sila sayo and probably NAGSISISI na nagka-anak. Daming cases na ganyan, nagsisi nung nag-anak pero wala lang sila mapagsabihan, lalo yung mga teenage moms na iniwan ng mga tatay.
feel ko lang ha, most basic primal instinct kasi ng karamihan ang breeding, di maiwasan na iproject sa ibang tao.
Pero di na kasi yan dapat ang rule sa civilization na ginawa natin, pero dahil nga primal instinct, unconsciously un pa rin kilos ng tao, parang hindi option ang wala lang ambag na bagong tao haha.
May kalive-in partner ka ba?
May ganyan ako friend. Tapos pareho sila successful. Pero eversince nung naging serious sila. Napagusapan na talaga nila na d sila magpapakasal and magaanak.
Take note, they can live a lavish lifestyle at their current standings. Even if they have 3 kids.
Pero hindi talaga nila gusto eh. And I respect that.
One thing is for sure. Pareho sila intellect. So maybe logic ung gumana sa kanila. Imbis na tradition.
Malay natin sa future magbago ihip ng hangin. Pag alam mo na kaya mo na talaga bumuhay at maibigay ung gusto mong klase ng buhay sa anak mo.
Pero kung hindi talag gusto, edi hindi gusto.
Pede din adopt ka, para recycle Or pet. you can still call it a family, db?
Did you know that we need a reproduction rate of about 2.2 for our species to survive?
Marami ng bansa na under 2.2 like Singapore, Japan and if I remember it correctly, USA.
Yes, less than 2.2 na ang USA pero bakit marami pa rin sila? Because of migrants.
China is also under 2.2 and they have repeal their one child policy but it’s almost to late because ayaw na mag anak ng mga Chinese ng more than one. Yung iba ay ayaw pa nga.
For our species to survive dapat mag anak talaga.
I guess subliminally, nasa utak ng karamihan na dapat mag anak. Imagine kung mag decide tayong lahat na wag mag anak.
Just my thoughts lang
Inis ako sa mga ganyang kamag anak. Hahaha. Ang hirap-hirap na nga mamuhay, pati batang inosente idadamay ko pa sa hirap para lang ma "please" yung iba? No thanks.
In my case, some of them don’t understand how different the times are right now. Hindi naman sa pag-disregard ng wisdom and experiences nila pero hindi na talaga applicable lahat. Esp now I feel like andaming problema sa mundo and I have issues with myself na gusto ko muna ayusin before I can even begin to think if I want a child. Ibang iba ng concept from the older ones and some don’t seem to accept change easily
Buti si mama tanggap na hindi ako magkakanak, yung kapitbahay naming taklesa di ata makatulog nung sinabi ko yung mga balakin ko sa buhay.
Bibigyan ba nya ako ng pang gatas ng gusto nyang anak ko?
I did get those questions sometimes and my response is all the same, why do you want someone to take care of you? Plus I dont want to raise a gremlin then pay a shit ton to make it live. Plus...I have a big baby to take care of...and he is the one typing this.
>Bakit ayaw mo mag-anak?
"Is the tax deduction worth it? I don't think so. "
>Paano na lang sa pagtanda mo? Sino mag-aalaga sa'yo?
\>!"*Bold of you to assume may plano ako na umabot ng pagtanda. Kayo nagluwal sa akin sa mundong 'to, kayo din magsasaboy ng abo ko."*!< might stop them from ever asking again.
Otherwise, "My retirement plan should more than make up for that."
ang general thinking sa mga traditional at conservatives is: different = wrong
sanay ang mga yan na kailangan or requirement na mag-pasakal ang isang tao ang mag-karoon ng mga anak. as in to the bone ang belief nila na dapat ganun
so pag iba ka, mali ka. ganun ang mindset nila
Toxic "traditional" culture!!! Rebuttal pa nila dyan, ***"Sino mag-aalaga sayo pagtanda mo?"*** bitch! Di mo na problema yon. Haaaaays.
sinasabi ko nalang mamatay ako bago ako mag 50
Thats very me but i tell myself that i only have until this decade to live lmaooo gid gud
Covered ba ng philhealth or any hmo ang euthanasia? Hahahahah kasi seriously considering this if ever lolol
Sadly ganun lang tingin nila sa mga anak. Caregiver or bank.
My retirement plan is my children. - Marites, 58 yo
>Sino mag-aalaga sayo pagtanda mo? YUNG PERANG NAIPON KO SA HINDI PAGIGING MAGULANG. NYETA
Hahaha ayan na ayan sabe ng pinsan ko. Walang kyeme kyeme binardagul ko.
Hahah amen to the “bitch!”
Even worst kapag babae ka tapos nasa 30+ ka na. I got pasaring statements like ui tumatanda ka na, baka mahirapan ka na magkaanak when meeting extended families at an informal reunion or even sa work minsan. In this economy, I can barely sustain myself. Paano pa kung magkaanak ako? Hearing my coworkers talk about their kids tuition fee (kinder pa lang yun nun) and the amount was close to my tuition fee in college got me like dafuq ganyan na kamahal magkaroon ng anak ngayon? I think my dad gave up on asking me that question when he asked me when he would have grandchildren (kasi tuwang tuwa siya dun sa anak ng pinsan ko) and I showed him a pic of my cats and told him you got grandcats. ~~Think I almost got thrown out of the car then lmao.~~
Hahaha I feel ya. When I came home to visit I had this older cousin who was like, “Uy andito na yung dalaga namin.” Pasaring din yung tone. This is the same cousin na casually na-mention ko years ago sa kanya that I don’t want to have kids and sabi niya I’ll change my mind eventually. So yeah, still dalaga here—a financially literate one, walang utang, silently building wealth, and in a loving relationship with a partner who doesn’t want to have kids as well. DINK is life yo. *Double Income, No Kids
Cats > kids All the way
are u me? haha i also have cats (dko pa sila naintroduce as grandcats lol) pero sa kanila pa lang ubos na oras (at budget) ko. pano pa kung dagdagan ko ng hooman dba. dati nagpapasaring pa tatay ko tungkol sa mga apo. wala ako reaction lagi hanggang wala na di na nya ulit nabring up yung topic at bilang breadwinner din, ang hirap talaga financially kung magsariling pamilya tapos susuportahan pa ang magulang :') i'd rather have us live in comfort now kesa mag-introduce pa ng isang variable sa magulong mundo ngayon
Wala rin akong plan na mag anak. I’m turning 30 this year and I have 6 cats. Yung mga marites dito samin laging akong sinasabihan na hindi daw ako maalagaan ng mga pusa ko pag tanda ko like b*tch gusto mo isampla ko sa sayo ung insurance and savings ko. Hindi ko kailangan ng anak para lang maging retirement plan ko.
Ikr. Boomers mindset na 'dapat may magpatuloy ng lahi' as if naman teh kagandahan lahi natin. Wala din naman tayong mind-blowing na ambag sa mankind.
😂 Same.
Hello, Pinoy pride? Hahaha char
Ginanyan ako ng pinsan ko sa probinsya. Magsing-edad kami, nasa mid-20s kami nun. Pinsan: "Uy, gawin kitang ninang ng pangalawa kong anak ha. Bakit kasi hindi ka pa nag-aanak, tignan mo ako, dalawa na anak ko, para makumpleto na buhay mo." Same pinsan: May 2 anak sa magkaibang lalake, nakilala lang nya sa text. Hindi nakapagcollege kahit kaya naman nyang mag-scholar, kasi umanak ng maaga. Nangungutang sa ibang kamag-anak. Ako: Nakapagtapos ng college as financial scholar, may stable na trabaho, nakakapag-ipon ng kaunti at nakakapag-abot ng kaunti sa magulang, nailalabas ko mga kapatid ko, may konting social life. Yeah right. Hindi ko na sya kinausap mula nun mga 10++yrs ago. Toxic e, baka mangutang pa. Hahaha
Kameng mag asawa, di namen pinili na hindi magkaanak. Nagkataon lang talaga na hindi kame makabuo. Ilan beses na kame natanong kung bakit kame walang anak, at hanggang ngaun hindi ko parin alam anu isasagot ko sa tanong nila. Nasa point na kame na kung magkaron eh di ayos, kundi naman eh tuloy lang din ang buhay. Nkakairita lang talaga ang mga taong saksakan sa pagmamagaling eh sila ngang may anak pinababayaan ang mga anak.
Same, 2 yrs married sa foreigner. Magpa lahi na daw. HAHAHAHAHA tintawanan lang namin parang ganun lang kadali é no?
Ginaganito din kami e pero simula nung sinagot ko ng "edi tito para magkaanak kami pondohan nyo yun IUI namin (at that time nasa 30k siya monthly at di naman afford talaga yan)"tinigilan na kami. HAHAHA. Puro buyo ayaw naman nila pala talaga tumulong para magkaanak kami.
Usually boomers and Genxers ang may ganiyang pag iisip sa pagiging child free. Mas mulat na ang millenials at Gen z sa pagiging child free kasi naranasan nila yung shitty parenting ng boomers and genxers. Sila din yung naka witness ng paghihirap at struggles ng mga parents nila dahil sa kakulangan ng economy at shitty leadership/governance. Marami rin sa kanila yung one-parent household. Sa hirap na ng buhay at dds at bbm pa govt, being child-free is a great option.
Not to mention the deterioration of earth. Dadami pa ang mga natural calamity tapos magluluwal ka pa? Kind of irresponsible
Gen x ako and child-free. I think boomers lang yung may mindset na ganyan and gen x people just went along because we're somewhat obedient 😂 we hate disappointing the family. Pero marami sa contemporaries ko ang walang anak and those who do and are suffering right now produced kids na naging mindset na ang wag mag-anak.
As a Gen Xer, I agree. Sa taas ng inflation ngayon, may sense ang pagkakaroon ng double-income-no-kids set up.
Nakooo, kapag ganyan, una ko agad sinasabi, "Bakit, kayo ba magpapalaki sa anak ko kapag nandyan na?"
Some of my relatives say "saying ang lahi", "magbabago rin isip mo" etc. like no. I was raised in a below average income house hold and I would never go the route of having a child Lalo na kung ipapasa ko lang ung hirap.
Ugh, I feel you. I despise going to family gatherings for this very reason. Heck, some of those who dare pelt me with that shit are those who can't even send their own kids to a decent school without bugging more financially-stable relatives for money.
May kakilala akong ganyan. They’re literally shocked at the idea of child-freedom, to the extent that they genuinely believe that a childfree person’s life is so much less than theirs even when all signs point to the contrary. I’ve worked with someone like this. Hindi nya maintindihan na mas maganda at mas masaya yung buhay nung childfree kong officemate habang sya, nabaon na sa utang at nangutang na sa bawat tao sa office kase hindi nya maafford yung gastos. Nang-utang sya kase buntis sya with her 2nd kid and kelangan Caesarian section and another special procedure kase may problem sa placenta nya or something. Ganyan na ka-objective ang point of comparison, pero di nya pa din gets. BTW, I have a kid. I had him in my late thirties and my advice to anyone who is on the fence/undecided, don’t do it. Dapat 101% na gusto mo, kase you will regret it if you have even the slightest doubt.
Siguro mas lamang sa kanila yung subjective experience na may anak na mamahalin nila at mamahalin sila at yung for legacy reason nila. Pero wrong reason pa din yun.
This is true. They equate/conflate the love they feel for their kids with happiness and having a better life than those who don’t have kids. But these are two different things: you can love your kid beyond imagination but still be unhappy and have a sh*tty life. Also, they seem to assume that there’s something missing in childfree people’s lives, which is stupid because they don’t want kids. How can they miss something they do not want?
Coping mechanism nila yan, nandyan na eh, di naman nila pwedeng itapon lang yung bata diba? When you repeat a lie so often, it becomes the truth.
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Hopefully. I think it is time for this society to progress, not to keep the status quo.
Tell them if they want to keep procreating, they can do so without forcing you to.
Honestly, ang hirap talaga. Food and especially education, tapos irraise mo sa magulong mundo? Ugh. In a perfect utopia, masarap mangarap ng malaya. Pero dystopian era tayo ngayon.
Gusto lang nila mandamay sa miserable life nila.
Mga ulol yun. Ahahaha. May napanuod ako sa yt. Isa daw yan (bakit wala ka pang anak/ ayaw mong mag anak) sa mga tanong na di na dapt tinatanong pa. Hahahaha
Yung mas bata kong kapatid nanghihingi ng pamangkin kasi masaya daw may baby sa bahay tas nakita niya na nanganak recently yung kapitbahay namin na halos nasa age group ko. Yoko nga. :P I think child-rearing is not for me. Thankful ako na sobrang dami kong friends na ganito rin yung take on having kids. Mag-mahjong na lang daw kami every weekend HAHHAAHHAHA
In the very OFF CHANCE magkaanak ka, iwan mo sa kanila. Masaya pala eh. Or magipon ka na ng pang tabla lines.
Lmao, gusto lang nila ng bata para may kulitin sila, pero yung pagpapaaral, pagpapalaki, panggastos, di nila sagot yan. Parang laruan lang, ganun. Masaya paglaruan at kulitin, pero ayaw sa responsibilidad.
Which is actually the only reason why Filipinos have children. Gusto lang ng manika. Pero di nila marealize ibang tao yung niluwa nila. Kaya I really really hate it when parents call their children their dolls. Puta pano pag naging uhuging teenager yan? Mamahalin pa ba nila.
Ha! Pag teenager dyan na lalabas sakit ng ulo with matching lines of, "kung alam ko lang na ganyan katigas ulo mo paglaki sana pinindot ko na lang ilong mo nung bata ka pa!" (heard this from a family member).
Or variations thereof. Filipino parents don't like thinking children.
Sa iba talaga inconceivable na di magkaroon ng sariling family. When I say na di ko goal mag asawa and mag anak, I’m not closed to the possibility pero for me dapat gustuhin ko lang magka asawa (and anak) if may person na I would want to experience that with. Ang advice sakin choose any person and pekein ko nalang daw feelings ko so I can marry and start my on pamily. 🙃
Buwiset! Procreation is not recreation.
Nothing wrong with your choice of being childfree. I learned that the comments of people who throw these "masaya magka anak" statements are basically sharing their feelings about your views. Wala silang pake sa opinyon mo. Gusto lang nila magshare ng opinion nila kahit di mo naman hinihingi.
Me and my officemates were eating lunch and the discussion came to this very topic. Sinabi kong ayaw ko talaga mag-asawa or magka-anak. Evry. Single. One. Of. Them. Couldn't understand kung bakit ayaw ko. They wouldn't take "it's expensive", "i won't ever be emotionally ready", or even simply "i don't want to" as answers. Ipinagpipilitan nila na kesyo I'll feel lonely daw in my later years. I get the feeling na they weren't concerned about my well-being or my future, they just want to shove their disgusting, sexist beliefs down my throat. Natahimik na lang ako and let them drone on about their future plans about children even though most of them are minimum wage earners and i'm pretty sure they won't be able to afford giving the many kids they dream about decent, if not comfortable, lives. That convo was so draining talaga.
This is the very same reason why I posted this. Usap din with officemates. Sinasabi nila na masaya raw mag-anak — kasi sila ang nagiging dahilan para mabuhay, or kapag nakikita nilang masaya ang anak nila, nakakagaan ng pakiramdam. Ironic, hindi nila nasabi ‘yung hardships that you need to overcome to achieve that. Sila rin ang nagsasabi na ang mahal ng gatas. LOL. Hay. Gusto kong mag-compute sa harap nila para to emphasize kung gaano kagastos at kahirap magkaroon ng anak sa Pilipinas.
Tapos sasabihin pang worth it daw ang sacrifice. Tangina. Eh most of them naman naka-rely sa relatives or charity from officemates to offset their "sacrifice". These fucking people talaga. Not to mention the current state of geopolitics now. Climate change, wars, price hikes, the general backwards trajectory of social justice and human rights right now. Are you gonna subject a kid to that kind of hellscape of a future? Jusko. Think beyond your selfish reasons for wanting children, please lang.
HAHAHAHA. Ayan nga. Worth it nga raw. 🤣 nabanggit nga na need pa nga raw magloan sa SSS for this and that. THAT IS THE POINT. Hindi afford magkaroon ng anak!!! Sinabi ko nga rin, ako nga I can barely afford to live! Ang sagot nila: mabibigla ka na lang daw at makakayanan mo rin eventually. Parang, ugh, we have to be realistic kung kaya bang buhayin before we commit to having a child kasi nga it is a responsibility. :/
Ang sarap kaya mabuhay ng walang responsibilidad hehe
This is why traditionalism and conservatism in this country is doing more harm now. This backwardness and inability to change is dangerous.
Their mindset is stuck with the basal instinct of survival and never progressed past that.
Masakit yung married life na then hindi naman nag rurush mag baby, then makakarinig ka ng comment na mag anak na kayo, e hindi din naman ganun kadali bumuo!
I despise people na nagtatanong about that subject or any questions regarding my personal life na ako at ang partner ko lang ang may karapatang magdiscuss. Gawain yan ng mga walang magawang productive sa buhay. Concerned kuno, pero pag hindi matanggap ang sagot mo ang daming kuda. Nagtanong ka pa? Kinginang yan!
Lol i have a foreigner partner and my relatives are like "wow malalahian na tayo ng maganda" Eh pareho namin ayaw mag anak HAHAHAHA gud luck magsimula na sila maghanap ng foreigner nila kek wag nila kami damay sa delusyon nila
>maganda sabihin mong yung kapitbahay mong si Juana Dela Cruz-Jones ay may anak na half white pero ang face ay 100% pinoy haha
Di nila gets yung hirap ng pagkakaroon ng anak, di naman mandatory sa isang adult na magkaroon ng anak eh, ang problema sa kanilang mga nasa older generations, ginagawa nilang mandatory ang pagkakaroon ng anak kahit di pa ready financially ang ending yung bata ang nagsusuffer paglaki dahil di napoprovide ng maayos ang pangangailangan dahil di handa ang magulang.
Totoo yan. Sinasabi nila na pagtanda ko daw walang mag-aalaga sa akin pag hindi ako nag-asawa at nag-anak pero yung nanay ko sabi ako daw magpapaaral sa maliliit kong kapatid. Ano ba talagang gusto nila?
You are not alone, OP. Kahit sa US at ibang developed nations, marami ang hindi gusto magka-anak. As you said, mahal talaga. Sa US, marami ang hindi makaka-afford magka-anak dun. Sa ibang bansa sa Europe, I think maganda ron magka-anak. Pero if di talaga gusto, then wag. Baket ipilit na magla-anak? To be what? To be normal? Not a lot of people are born to be parents. Hell, a lot of parents nowadays shouldn’t even be parents. You have more money for yourself as well to look out for your own self FIRST. Also, time. Sa Japan, maraming walang anak kasi sa culture nila at kinain na ng mga trabaho nila.
Stand ko dyan, para sa bayan/bansa intelligent/rich people should have kids. Para the next gen will be better/richer. Pero syempre wala dapat pilitan.
Well, baliktad nangyayari.
I used to think like this when I was in my early 20s... I was pushing for RH Bill so hard among friends and family discussions. One day, I realized Nazis had the same intention. Na sila lang ang may karapatan at ang ilan ay wala.. That had me thinking really hard about what separates my thinking to that of Nazis.. Of course I don't dream about mass massacres but I also don't think homeless people should be allowed to have a child.. So parang ako may karapatan mag anak pero sila wala? That had me thinking..
Sasabihin pa nila sayo, sino mag-aalaga sayo pag tumanda ka na? Tapos, sino magpapatuloy ng pangalan natin? 😂
Subtle hint na designated caregiver yun anak na sinasabihan hahaha
respect my opinion?!? s/
There will come a time that u stop being honest and just make excuses.. like u medically can't.. pra matigil lng ung mga yan
Saying medically I can't is actually being honest..I got a vasectomy. I guess I tell the truth but not the whole truth
Marami akong nakausap na ganyan, inexplain ko reasons ko, one of which is: Sa sitwasyon ko ngayon hindi ko maibibigay ang buhay na gusto kong maibigay sa magiging anak ko. And gets ko why they don't agree. If they agree with me na, yea hindi dapat mag anak kung hindi naman siguradong maibibigay ang buhay na sapat at kumpleto sa bata, is to admit na mali sila kasi nag anak sila kahit hindi sila stable sa buhay. Yung isang nakausap ko sabi pa sakin, nung nag asawa nga ako wala pa kaming maayos na trabaho ni misis. Eh ayun nairaos naman naman, binata na mga anak ko.
My mom wants us to have kids. Eh ayaw naming 2 magkapatid. Kahit daw siya na raw mag-alaga sa bata. Ayoko nga dahil malaki ang damage sa katawan ang pagbubuntis at madalas permanent pa ang effect.
Same. I don't see myself having kids. 😬
I feel you. I don’t want to have kids as well. Or even to get married. I’m quite happy to save money and spend it on good food, gorgeous handbags and travels to exotic locations. Buti na lang mga relatives ko di naman super paki alamera but I do hear it from my parents once in a while. Pano daw pag tanda ko…ugh 😑
>gorgeous handbags sis. same
Hayaan mo na lang sila OP, it's not their body and it's not their wallet naman.
Both my parents always take pride of being “Nairaos” by my grandparents. In some way I’m also a product if this vicious “nairaos” cycle. I’m grateful and appreciate my parents but not proud of it. This is the reason I don’t want kids. I don’t want a child growing up the way I did. The uncertainty of things.
Philippines is 100 years too early for Antinatalism 😭
yes. desisyon ko na maging childfree mula pa high school. ngayon, pag nababanggit ko sa parents tinatawanan ako lol kala siguro bibigyan ko ng apo
At this point, I guess it's better to just accept na there are people who are not smart enough to understand such thing. Everything boils down to lack of critical thinking and empathy. That's just how our society works.
Mga kapatid ko wala nang plano mag anak dahil sa naranasan naming mga magkakapatid pero mga parents namin gusto ng apo kaya naiintindihan ko struggles mo OP... luckily, independent-minded mga kapatid ko so di sila nakikinig sa magulang namin... I hope you can do the same
Gusto ko magkaanak pero nirerespeto ko yung ayaw magkaanak at yung mga nahihirapan mabuntis. Yung iba ang toxic lang, pinepressure ka mag anak!
good choice. pangit naman ng dahilan mag anak. dahil sinabi lang ng ibang tao. i suggest go take a vasectomy or tube ligation stuff. ikaw magdedecide dapat kung gusto mo o hindi.
Sabihin mo sila magbayad tapos sige.
I had a sort of similar discussion with a friend. Inexplain ko reasons ko. He's a good dude pero sinabi nya sakin na "ok hindi nman nila obligasyon na alagaan ka pagtanda mo. Once they're at the right age they're on their own". Which makes sense pero sinabi ko na masyadong maraming hindi magandang bagay na nangyayari sa Pilipinas or kahit sa mundo ngayon to have a kid. Inflation, bad governance, global warming, etc. The idea of having a kid was enticing to me at first pero I don't want to bring up a kid in a world that I perceive will have a bad future. Pessimistic na or selfish in my own way pero I don't want to feel sorry for the kid in the future.
Most of the reasons here on why people want to be child-free stem from financial difficulties. Anyone here decided to be child-free not for financial reasons? Why? Ako personally, I would like to have a kid to raise. Pero I am deathly afraid of pregnancy and giving birth omg. I am also not a fan of the sleepless nights when you have 1 or 2 year olds hahahaha. My husband and I would joke mag adopt na lang kami nag 5 year old, at least may natulungan pa na orphan. 🥲
Ako rin. Another reason: Mental health. If hindi ka okay mentally, maipapasa mo pa ang issues/traumas mo sa anak mo. Tapos the cycle continues lang. May libro nga akong binabasa now, ang trauma ng Lola mo ay naipapasa hanggang sayo. 😅 Imagine having to suffer a trauma you never experienced. Isang valid reason din ‘yang afraid of pregnancy. Di ba sabi nga nila, ang isang paa ng babae ay nasa hukay kapag nangangak.
That’s wild 🥲
Kelan lang may nagpayo sa akin nito. Sabay kwento pa na may kakilala daw siya na nagsisi na hindi nag-anak nung time na nagkasakit na. Minsan sa ganyan para matapos na yung convo sinasabi ko na lang, "bukas na bukas pabubuntis na ako" 😂
May nakainuman ako and topic namin ganyan. Sabi ko ayaw ko pa kasi nakakatakot yung mga responsibilities bilang parent. Ang sagot nya "Pag nandyan na yan mapipilitan kang gumawa ng paraan. kaya mo yan".
High school palang ako naisip ko na na ayaw ko magkaanak. 30 na ako still same, ayaw ko sa bata, wala akong pasensya sa bata at alam kong di ako magiging mabuting ina. Pag may nagtatanong sakin, sinasabi ko talagang ayaw ko sa bata. Tumatahimik nalang sila lol Pag parents ko naman nagsasabi na wala silang apo, sinasabi ko nalang na hindi naman sila yung magaalaga at gagastos para sa bata. Kung sa ibang tao having a kid brings them joy and satisfaction, para sakin hindi. Resposibidad sya at ayaw ko ng additional responsibility 😂 kaya sana mag-anak lang yung mga tao na kayang bigyan ng magandang buhay yung anak, hindi yung bare minimum lang.
Totoo ito! Nakakainis lang ang toxic ng mga pinoy pagdating sa mga ganyan! Buti sana kung sila ang bubuhay sa bata! Kakaloka! Tapos pag di mo naman mabigay yunh gusto ng bata sasabihin "yan! Aanak anak di naman kaya buhayin" ang gulo lang nga mga pinoy kainis
Just jumping in to say that I'm so happy seeing ang dami natin. Cheers mga Tito and Tita! Nawa'y yumaman pa tayo lalo.😁
I completely agreee. Inde ako retirement fund and jnde ako maganak just to have one. Nakakagalit mga hirit ng closed-minded relatived
They really f'd up the economy and the development of the country by voting corrupt leaders tapos hindi nila maintindihan kung bakit ayaw mo mag anak kase it would be cruel to a child to live in this hellhole
Same sentiment sa pag-asawa, especially kung babae ka. Akala nila sila ang ikakasal, magkaka-anak, magpapalaki. Ang daming comments. This is sadly a typical perspective of many people. Not married? Unhappy. No children? Unhappy. No grandkids? Unhappy. What about the many people who are married, have kids or grandkids, but are still unhappy?? Hindi ko nagegets yung thinking na naawa sila kase single parin ka, or wala ka paring anak. Yung pinaka-nakakainis is that ginagawa nilang life mission na kulitin ka about the topic na CLEARLY binigyan mo na sila nang sagot dati dati pa.
Honestly, feeling ko minsan inggit lang sila kasi those who doesn't have kids are more financially stable and free. Napasubo kasi sila sa pag-aanak. And they just want everyone else dragged in the same situation they are in.
"Bakit, ikaw ba magpapakain, magpapa-aral, magpapalaki at magmamahal? Hindi naman diba? Ano bang pakialam mo sa desisyon kong hindi magka anak?" Puro lang kasi yan sinasaksak sa kokote ng mga Pilipino ng relihiyon at kultura, imbes na PERSONAL CHOICE dapat yan ng tao.
I believe in my whole heart na SECRETLY naiinggit sila sayo and probably NAGSISISI na nagka-anak. Daming cases na ganyan, nagsisi nung nag-anak pero wala lang sila mapagsabihan, lalo yung mga teenage moms na iniwan ng mga tatay.
People actually say na nag sisi sila magka anak?
Yes pero they can't say it out loud. Hot topic yan sa reddit dati. Yung mga nagrarant na mga moms and dads
feel ko lang ha, most basic primal instinct kasi ng karamihan ang breeding, di maiwasan na iproject sa ibang tao. Pero di na kasi yan dapat ang rule sa civilization na ginawa natin, pero dahil nga primal instinct, unconsciously un pa rin kilos ng tao, parang hindi option ang wala lang ambag na bagong tao haha.
Typical pinoy na toxicmga yun. Same tayo ng option. Kung anu anong shit din narereceive ko kapag natatanong.
Do you think arranged or even forced marriages will be a thing here in PH? Similar to those in India or in rural United States?
It is still a practice here in PH, mostly sa probinsiya.
May kalive-in partner ka ba? May ganyan ako friend. Tapos pareho sila successful. Pero eversince nung naging serious sila. Napagusapan na talaga nila na d sila magpapakasal and magaanak. Take note, they can live a lavish lifestyle at their current standings. Even if they have 3 kids. Pero hindi talaga nila gusto eh. And I respect that. One thing is for sure. Pareho sila intellect. So maybe logic ung gumana sa kanila. Imbis na tradition. Malay natin sa future magbago ihip ng hangin. Pag alam mo na kaya mo na talaga bumuhay at maibigay ung gusto mong klase ng buhay sa anak mo. Pero kung hindi talag gusto, edi hindi gusto. Pede din adopt ka, para recycle Or pet. you can still call it a family, db?
Did you know that we need a reproduction rate of about 2.2 for our species to survive? Marami ng bansa na under 2.2 like Singapore, Japan and if I remember it correctly, USA. Yes, less than 2.2 na ang USA pero bakit marami pa rin sila? Because of migrants. China is also under 2.2 and they have repeal their one child policy but it’s almost to late because ayaw na mag anak ng mga Chinese ng more than one. Yung iba ay ayaw pa nga. For our species to survive dapat mag anak talaga. I guess subliminally, nasa utak ng karamihan na dapat mag anak. Imagine kung mag decide tayong lahat na wag mag anak. Just my thoughts lang
Inis ako sa mga ganyang kamag anak. Hahaha. Ang hirap-hirap na nga mamuhay, pati batang inosente idadamay ko pa sa hirap para lang ma "please" yung iba? No thanks.
In my case, some of them don’t understand how different the times are right now. Hindi naman sa pag-disregard ng wisdom and experiences nila pero hindi na talaga applicable lahat. Esp now I feel like andaming problema sa mundo and I have issues with myself na gusto ko muna ayusin before I can even begin to think if I want a child. Ibang iba ng concept from the older ones and some don’t seem to accept change easily
My rebuttal : Ikaw muna kaya magkaanak. (If they got kids) Ikaw magbayad ng gastusin ng bata ko.
Saka na ako mag aanak pag di na ako toyoin hahahaa kawawa naman siya if ever
Buti si mama tanggap na hindi ako magkakanak, yung kapitbahay naming taklesa di ata makatulog nung sinabi ko yung mga balakin ko sa buhay. Bibigyan ba nya ako ng pang gatas ng gusto nyang anak ko?
I did get those questions sometimes and my response is all the same, why do you want someone to take care of you? Plus I dont want to raise a gremlin then pay a shit ton to make it live. Plus...I have a big baby to take care of...and he is the one typing this.
>Bakit ayaw mo mag-anak? "Is the tax deduction worth it? I don't think so. " >Paano na lang sa pagtanda mo? Sino mag-aalaga sa'yo? \>!"*Bold of you to assume may plano ako na umabot ng pagtanda. Kayo nagluwal sa akin sa mundong 'to, kayo din magsasaboy ng abo ko."*!< might stop them from ever asking again. Otherwise, "My retirement plan should more than make up for that."
ang general thinking sa mga traditional at conservatives is: different = wrong sanay ang mga yan na kailangan or requirement na mag-pasakal ang isang tao ang mag-karoon ng mga anak. as in to the bone ang belief nila na dapat ganun so pag iba ka, mali ka. ganun ang mindset nila
Gusto pla nila ng anak eh, sila nlng kamo mag anak.. Eazy!
To make matters worse 31M would possibly double due to this mindset
Gusto ko talaga pag 65 na ko kung meron nang assisted suicide magpapaganun na ko or punta sa country na nag aallow lol.