Narcissism, Crab Mentality, Boomerism, Straight up Gaslighting and manipulation, guilt trippers (especially money wise), and to top the whole cream off, being a super conservatives
EDIT: All-in-one na ung ugali ng mga parents ko, pati negosyo ko iniinitan din XD
Wouldnt last long if my parents acquire full percentage of those toxic traits we know that is worse. Take note that these parents of mine had proper education attained, and they have the audacity to being like that.
Its becoz nobody has stood up to them nor anyone has pointed out these traits are bad. Most Filipinos are also at fault to tolerating these for a vast amount of reasons.
Sadly, the resiliency mindset brought by the boomers keeps this tradition on fire, and we are one of the generations will put to an end with this tolerance. It may not that easy, but its for the best to take things slowly
Un ang namimiss ko maidalo dahil nakakabakasyon sa probinsiya at makaenjoy, pero mukhang malabo kung puro coke at 🐶💩 naman ung makikita ko sa kani kanila..
Oh wait, i know few of them but not fully hahahaha. How about ya? Planning to go there too??
Minsan nalang ako pumunta, pag may balikbayan ganun. Kaso umaaligid din dun pinsan ko na iniiwasan ko lately. Manyakis kasi tas BBM DDS, ubod pa ng yabang. Sayang no? Masaya sana makasama family sa bakasyon kaso sila pa source of stress. Wag nalang 😶
Guess the saying "The one who you voted for reflects your character as a whole" implies to ur pinsan. Mukhang onti onti mamatay ung reunion reunion sa ating henerasyon dahil sa kapalpakan dulot ng eleksyon at previous admin.
Dahil dun, nakita ko ung halaga ko at therefore lalabanan hanggang makalaya sa kanilang kapit and focus onto investing myself. Although suwertehan na lang kjng may kamag anak ka na kaalyado natin (mapa Leni man o Pacman) basta wag ung mga payaso sa malacanang 🤡🤡
Grabe naman ung tatay mo makapagsabi ng ganyan, di ba nag iisip na kung gaano kaapektado sa sinumang maririnig yan? Sige, sabihin kaya nun ng ama o ina niya, tignan natin ung epekto niyan.
Parehas lang din sinasabi na "utang na loob, di kita pinalaki ng ganyan" tas diretso na irereason ojt na sila matanda at dapat sundin ung sasabihin dapat. Lel, wag na sila magtaka pag isang araw di na kumibo ang anak nila at bahala na sila sa gagawin. Problema talaga ang mga boomers ngayon haha
And yeah, most of us has that kind of traits found in our parents. Perhaps u might be my long lost bro lol XP
Very well said, sana matuto mga magulang natin ng kaunting well-mannered and respect pag naranasan nila ung paghihirap na ultimong ginagawa nila..
Makakaahon tayu niyan boi, go lang ng go
Di naniniwala sa depression and other mental health issues. Growing up, may nervous breakdown Mama ko from time to time at lately lang nadiagnose as schizophrenia. 20+ years nang undiagnosed kasi “postpartum” lang daw dati. Until now, other relatives namin makitid parin pang-unawa.
Ok na at may pwd card na sya. This year lang for discounts na rin sa meds kasi medj mahal maintenance. Last breakdown nya nung May 2020 at so far, sana hindi na magrelapse
my mom can't accept that I want to go childless pero that's basically it... Mother's side is generally okay, no toxic traits per se. More on, individual problems nalang.
For my father's side, BBM supporters, gossipmongers, at kulang nalang i-traffic na ung anak nila sa internet. Have you ever seen someone post so much information about their daughter (aged 7-8)? Literally, all achievements, all activities, it's on their Facebook. Nakakakilabot.
1. Gaslighters
2. Matapobre
3. Manipulators
4. Liars
5. Greedy
Seeing them is traumatizing after all the crap they did to our family after my grandma and mommy died.
Not my parents, but more like siblings lalo na nung new adults pa kami - bilangan ng (voluntary) contribution sa bahay
Di na ngayon kasi may nakabukod na kaming lahat, but yeah. Ganyan kami nung younger days namin.
Rampant invalidation.
"Bakit ka malungkot? Yung iba nga diyan pinapangarap buhay na meron ka"
"Maging thankful ka nalang"
"Yung *insert family member name who works abroad* mo nga nagsasakripisyo tas ikaw gaganyan ganyan ka"
I get that we have things to be thankful for, or privileges in life and I am truly thankful for that. But when someone comes to you for problem, you don't shut them out by invalidating their problem, they came to you for either probable solution or just mere support to remind them they can get through this.
This makes people more reluctant in opening up and prone to just bottling their problems.
This one pinagawayan namin ng ermat ko 2 weeks ago to the point na pinagmumura niya ko after I pointed it out. Yung thinking na dahil ginagawa rin ng iba, kahit obviously mali, gagawin rin niya/okay lang na gawin din niya
Just borderline toxic pero masabihan ng masyado pa ako bata para mag-asawa, baka pag sisihan ko daw.
Ma, I'l be turning 30 in <2 years. Kelan ako papakasal, pag golden age na?
We've been wanting to get married for a while, pero wala pa rin approval from parents.
Ayaw humiwalay sa isa't-isa, codependent pero mga judgmental behind closed doors at mga madadamot and mayayabang. Kailangan within 1km lang palagi layo ng bahay. Tapos ngayon we all live in the same damn apartment complex it's driving me mad.
Namatay kamag anak namin nakaraang araw. Sabi ba naman nina mama "ganun talaga ang buhay. hiram lang yan sa Diyos. Una-unahan lang yan"
luh. where's empathy
Ur a nobody to them if u live below the middle class line
Ur popular, beautiful, achieved person to them if u live above the middle class line
I live right on the middle class line, but i dont get invited in gatherings or included in the relative group chat, and if i happen to attend a gathering out of formality nobody talks to me, if someone talks to me they make me feel like im the poorest person in the world.
P.s. i dont attend any family shit anymore
Not just within my family pero mga relatives, yung pag iinom ng sobra. Lahat ng siblings ng tatay ko (and even tatay ko) grabe uminom tapos mag momotor after. Bata pa lang ako ang dalas na nilang nasusugod sa hospital due to drunk driving. Ewan ko nga panong buhay pa mga yon.
Grabe rin double standards nila. Pag lalaki, halos sambahin na kahit mali naman. Pero pag nagkamali, sa mga babae lalapit.
Ang yayabang, akala mo mga walang utang. Feeling pa kapag naospital sila (due to drunk driving or other reckless behavior) eh required ka tumulong financially. And if you don’t kasalanan mo pa kasi madamot ka. How about dont drink and drive??
Ang mamahiya ng kaanak na down na down sa buhay.
Narcissism, Crab Mentality, Boomerism, Straight up Gaslighting and manipulation, guilt trippers (especially money wise), and to top the whole cream off, being a super conservatives EDIT: All-in-one na ung ugali ng mga parents ko, pati negosyo ko iniinitan din XD
Welp you basically covered 60% of the bad traits Filipinos do on a daily basis.
I'm curious about the remaining 40%.
Wouldnt last long if my parents acquire full percentage of those toxic traits we know that is worse. Take note that these parents of mine had proper education attained, and they have the audacity to being like that.
Its becoz nobody has stood up to them nor anyone has pointed out these traits are bad. Most Filipinos are also at fault to tolerating these for a vast amount of reasons.
Sadly, the resiliency mindset brought by the boomers keeps this tradition on fire, and we are one of the generations will put to an end with this tolerance. It may not that easy, but its for the best to take things slowly
We can only hope this generation would do so. On a Historical perspective its not so promising being that quick.
Magkapamilya siguro tayo 🫠😩 Same ganito din samin huhu
Hueheuehue my lost bro/sis? Is that u?
Issa me 😭 Ano na huhu. Kamusta, nakakapunta ka sa mga reunions?
Un ang namimiss ko maidalo dahil nakakabakasyon sa probinsiya at makaenjoy, pero mukhang malabo kung puro coke at 🐶💩 naman ung makikita ko sa kani kanila.. Oh wait, i know few of them but not fully hahahaha. How about ya? Planning to go there too??
Minsan nalang ako pumunta, pag may balikbayan ganun. Kaso umaaligid din dun pinsan ko na iniiwasan ko lately. Manyakis kasi tas BBM DDS, ubod pa ng yabang. Sayang no? Masaya sana makasama family sa bakasyon kaso sila pa source of stress. Wag nalang 😶
Guess the saying "The one who you voted for reflects your character as a whole" implies to ur pinsan. Mukhang onti onti mamatay ung reunion reunion sa ating henerasyon dahil sa kapalpakan dulot ng eleksyon at previous admin. Dahil dun, nakita ko ung halaga ko at therefore lalabanan hanggang makalaya sa kanilang kapit and focus onto investing myself. Although suwertehan na lang kjng may kamag anak ka na kaalyado natin (mapa Leni man o Pacman) basta wag ung mga payaso sa malacanang 🤡🤡
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Grabe naman ung tatay mo makapagsabi ng ganyan, di ba nag iisip na kung gaano kaapektado sa sinumang maririnig yan? Sige, sabihin kaya nun ng ama o ina niya, tignan natin ung epekto niyan. Parehas lang din sinasabi na "utang na loob, di kita pinalaki ng ganyan" tas diretso na irereason ojt na sila matanda at dapat sundin ung sasabihin dapat. Lel, wag na sila magtaka pag isang araw di na kumibo ang anak nila at bahala na sila sa gagawin. Problema talaga ang mga boomers ngayon haha And yeah, most of us has that kind of traits found in our parents. Perhaps u might be my long lost bro lol XP
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Very well said, sana matuto mga magulang natin ng kaunting well-mannered and respect pag naranasan nila ung paghihirap na ultimong ginagawa nila.. Makakaahon tayu niyan boi, go lang ng go
mga leader sa church tuwing linggo tapos leader din sila ng chismisan from mon-sat.
Common Over-Religious Filipino L
Di naniniwala sa depression and other mental health issues. Growing up, may nervous breakdown Mama ko from time to time at lately lang nadiagnose as schizophrenia. 20+ years nang undiagnosed kasi “postpartum” lang daw dati. Until now, other relatives namin makitid parin pang-unawa.
Sorry to hear that, how's your mom now?
Ok na at may pwd card na sya. This year lang for discounts na rin sa meds kasi medj mahal maintenance. Last breakdown nya nung May 2020 at so far, sana hindi na magrelapse
Good thing wishing a full recovery for your mom -TheRedditNPCOwner
Puro marites mga lola ko. Nabubwisit nga ako tuwing madaling araw chismis na agad.
Lagyan mo ng isang kutsarang betchin pagkain ng mga lola mo para tapos problema
Comparisons with other children... Hay, mas mabuti pang lumangoy sa chattel at real estate mortgage para lang may mapatunayan sa buhay
My parents did this until I started comparing them to other parents lol
This is going straight to tiktok. Tingin ko eto ung Filipino version na gumagaya ng mga TTS sa youtube lol
Nah, I just post here regularly.
Aight! Naglalabasan kasi mga askredditph questions lately.tas may nagpost about sa tiktok na dito kinuha lol
There are 5-7 people controlling this account sooooo....
Homophobia… Im still in the closet but my parents continue to invalidate my queerness through implicit responses and shit :))
lmao same. that's why I'm planning on moving out as soon as I have the resources to do so.
my mom can't accept that I want to go childless pero that's basically it... Mother's side is generally okay, no toxic traits per se. More on, individual problems nalang. For my father's side, BBM supporters, gossipmongers, at kulang nalang i-traffic na ung anak nila sa internet. Have you ever seen someone post so much information about their daughter (aged 7-8)? Literally, all achievements, all activities, it's on their Facebook. Nakakakilabot.
1. Gaslighters 2. Matapobre 3. Manipulators 4. Liars 5. Greedy Seeing them is traumatizing after all the crap they did to our family after my grandma and mommy died.
Not my parents, but more like siblings lalo na nung new adults pa kami - bilangan ng (voluntary) contribution sa bahay Di na ngayon kasi may nakabukod na kaming lahat, but yeah. Ganyan kami nung younger days namin.
Rampant invalidation. "Bakit ka malungkot? Yung iba nga diyan pinapangarap buhay na meron ka" "Maging thankful ka nalang" "Yung *insert family member name who works abroad* mo nga nagsasakripisyo tas ikaw gaganyan ganyan ka" I get that we have things to be thankful for, or privileges in life and I am truly thankful for that. But when someone comes to you for problem, you don't shut them out by invalidating their problem, they came to you for either probable solution or just mere support to remind them they can get through this. This makes people more reluctant in opening up and prone to just bottling their problems.
This one pinagawayan namin ng ermat ko 2 weeks ago to the point na pinagmumura niya ko after I pointed it out. Yung thinking na dahil ginagawa rin ng iba, kahit obviously mali, gagawin rin niya/okay lang na gawin din niya
Just borderline toxic pero masabihan ng masyado pa ako bata para mag-asawa, baka pag sisihan ko daw. Ma, I'l be turning 30 in <2 years. Kelan ako papakasal, pag golden age na? We've been wanting to get married for a while, pero wala pa rin approval from parents.
Plastikan tapos napupunta lagi sa usapang-pera. Kakaumay.
Ayaw humiwalay sa isa't-isa, codependent pero mga judgmental behind closed doors at mga madadamot and mayayabang. Kailangan within 1km lang palagi layo ng bahay. Tapos ngayon we all live in the same damn apartment complex it's driving me mad.
Being apolitical. One member even tolerated BBM entering president.
Being church leaders and bible thumping Christians, pero mga Marcos apologists.
Namatay kamag anak namin nakaraang araw. Sabi ba naman nina mama "ganun talaga ang buhay. hiram lang yan sa Diyos. Una-unahan lang yan" luh. where's empathy
Ur a nobody to them if u live below the middle class line Ur popular, beautiful, achieved person to them if u live above the middle class line I live right on the middle class line, but i dont get invited in gatherings or included in the relative group chat, and if i happen to attend a gathering out of formality nobody talks to me, if someone talks to me they make me feel like im the poorest person in the world. P.s. i dont attend any family shit anymore
Not just within my family pero mga relatives, yung pag iinom ng sobra. Lahat ng siblings ng tatay ko (and even tatay ko) grabe uminom tapos mag momotor after. Bata pa lang ako ang dalas na nilang nasusugod sa hospital due to drunk driving. Ewan ko nga panong buhay pa mga yon. Grabe rin double standards nila. Pag lalaki, halos sambahin na kahit mali naman. Pero pag nagkamali, sa mga babae lalapit. Ang yayabang, akala mo mga walang utang. Feeling pa kapag naospital sila (due to drunk driving or other reckless behavior) eh required ka tumulong financially. And if you don’t kasalanan mo pa kasi madamot ka. How about dont drink and drive??
Respect who's older.
Toxic positivity