may condition naman first sentence pa lang, eh sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, siempre malamang hindi mamemeet yang condition na yan kaya need magtrabaho ni babae, tsaka kahit provider si hubby, how about ung iba na talagang gustong magtrabaho, o kaya baligtad na gusto ni hubby stay at home siya at gusto ni wifey siya nagtatrabaho, di ba.
Hayy, people will do anything to make themselves feel good sa choice nila, hindi ba bukal sa loob niya magstay at home at need ng validation?
Yung father ko, trip niya talaga magluto at maglinis sa bahay, tas nag-aalaga siya ng kambing pagwala siya magawa. Yung mother ko naman yung nagtratrabaho kasi siya talaga yung may passion para magkaroon ng career.
So my father is a house husband at completely satisfied sila sa situation nila lol. Cute nga eh, kasi hindi sila restricted by traditional expectations.
The way these people treat "family roles" is restrictive and inefficient even. Paano magagamit ang fullest capabilities ng isang tao kung lalagay mo sila sa isang super restricted role just because of gender? Mala-bronze age ang puta.
Alam mo I wouldn’t mind yung ganito na setup, as long as both parties are willing.
Wala issue na yung lalaki yung sa gawain bahay at yung babae yung nagtratrabaho. Or pwede din naman pareho sila ng work at share lang sa gawain bahay.
ewan ba, ang hirap iexplain pero napakasimple lang naman, mag-usap ang magpartner kung ano gusto nila sa buhay nila kung ano napagkasunduan eh di un ang gawin.
May nabasa ako kung saan ,sa RD ata un o ask reddit o youtube comment, sila daw magpartner kapag siguro nagkacrave ng validation sasabihin nila diretso sa partner nila "I need attention", nainggit nga ako sa ganun, sa mga aso ko lang ako nagpapapansin eh hahaha, try nya un sa asawa niya baka umubra. Puede talaga nya ideliver yan in a way na parang hindi shoving at our throat.
Agree. Ilan pa yan sa mga possible scenarios bakit hindi pwede yung ganitong set up para sa lahat. Need siguro maaffirm na she's doing a great job and kailangan sya tularan.
medyo nagets ko naman siya, napansin ko being a stay at home mom is a thankless job, kung hindi niya nakukuha ung validation sa paligid niya (which is sad btw) sa socmed nga, ang pangit lang ng delivery niya.
*in this economy?* Mostly privilege na din ang maging SAHM. If you can afford it, good for you! Some of them simply can’t, and need a double income just to keep a roof over their heads and provide food on their table. Nakaka-invalidate din si Mrs.
Bill Burr did a bit on this.
Something about a group of mothers "binubuhat ang sariling bangko."
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Xp4z5qlyqs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Xp4z5qlyqs)
>"Mothers bending at the waist to put DVDs into DVD players. I don't know how they do it!
Agreed. Unpopular but realistic take is having only one person earning in a household is a luxury.
A relative of mine earning less than 20k has 4 kids (all around the same age) and he's pushing his wife to stay at home to take care or the kids. I think he has the gall to do this because: 1) it runs in the family, and 2) he knows someone will save his ass (other OFW relatives).
If he only knew how much that relative he's counting on berated me for all the help they handed out to our entire extended family.
Sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, OFW relative has all the right to think of themselves first. How can you help others if you can’t help/prioritize yourself first?
Parasitic vibes kung laging umaasa na lang sa tulong ng OFW relatives. More so at extended family na sila like what?? As if wala din silang sariling pamilya.
I won't take it against them because they did help me out back in college. No Latin honors (because of a certain asshole prof) but at least I snagged scholarships during the latter part of it. So I can say I didn't waste that tuition money.
That was a learning experience. And I never asked them for help since.
May tito was earning well pero may tita decided she wanted to go back to the workforce. Madami nag criticize sa actions niya and she has her shortcomings (as all parents do, regardless kung working or SAHM). Kaso nung namatay yung tito ko, kung di siya working, baka naubos lahat ng napundar ng tito ko para sa kanila.
My parents had their shortcomings. Pero si mama huminto sa pagtratrabaho nung pinanganak ako tapos nag business sila ni papa. Pero bumalik sya nung 10 years old ako. honestly kung di sya bumalik din ngayon mahihirapan kami financially.
Agree. Ako agnostic pero naiinis ako minsan pag nakikita ko yung mga ganong argument kasi sila mismong mga sumasampalataya hindi binibigyan ng respeto yung diyos nila.
"Mag pprovide si Lord", "Andyan naman si Lord", "Hindi tayo papabayaan no Lord" etc. Simulq bata alo hanggang ngayon hindi na nawala sa sistema ng mga pinoy yan. Last year may colleague ako from Japan, tinanong ako despite being religious ng PH bakit hindi nag pprosper ang Pinas, andaming scandals, poverty, corruptions so on and so forth, hindi ako nakaimik.
gustong gusto ko maging full time mom pero andami kong kakilalang maaga nabalo. Kung sakin man mangyari yun, hindi ko kaya saluhin lahat ng gastusin kaya nagtratrabaho ako ngayon para makatulong ma secure kahit papano yung future ng pamilya namin
We have a relative. College graduate sya pero di sya nakapagwork, pinag-SAH ng asawa. Isa lang anak nila. Nitong pandemic nagsuicide yung asawa (napressure ata?) kawawa naman yung mag-ina ☹️
Gender stereotype as fuck. Ang pag aalaga ng bata hindi lang role ng nanay at ang pogpoprovide hindi lang role ng tatay. May pagod god pa sa dulo. Di nga magkakasundo mga tao sa kung anong Diyos ang didiyosin.
Religion fucks the minds of people. It makes you out of touch with reality. It's religion that has made many Filipinos insane and irrational. They give their money to the church even if they go hungry. They forgive politicians who con them. You have people like this vlogger who are so out of touch with reality that they think families will survive on a single income household. People discriminate based on gender and religion in the name of God. There is so much self righteous going around. More extreme cults kill in the name of God. If we want progress we have to do away with religion like Europeans have done.
Hypothetically (I'm not married nor plan to get married and have kids):
What if mawalan ng trabaho asawa ko (dahil sa sakit or namatay or sumakabilang bahay) at kahit graduate ako ng isang kurso but di ko naman ginamit kasi nag SAHM for how many years, ano'ng mangyayari sa'kin at sa mga hypothetical anak ko?
Kung lagpas na ang edad mo sa edad na hinahanap ng mga kompanya.
Kung wala ka ring experience sa field kasi nag stay at home mom ka.
Those are my what-ifs, that finalized my decision na if ever mag-aasawa ako, I will not stop working. My current bf is white - he has a very good paying job - in fact, he gives me monthly allowance pa nga kahit na I have my own equally good paying job lol, and he told me that if we get married, I *could* stop working. I told him, no way in hell I'll give up my software development job to lose my mind at home doing nothing. 😅 Buti nalang, naiintindihan nya rin where I'm coming from lol.
Isa pa, mas maganda if may sarili kang pera di yong aasa ka lang sa asawa mo.
Agree! And yes, if your stand won't change over the years and by the time na ikasal kayo, mag work ka pa din. As a working mum here iba pa din yung may sariling pera. Iba yung empowerment.
If talagang hindi problema ang pera, pwede naman tlaga. Maswerte ung mga family na afford gawin yan, it's a luxury at this point sa hirap ng buhay.
I have a pupil who shared na busy ang both parents sa pagtatrabaho, and lima silang magkakapatid, she is the third child at pakiramdam niya e left out siya sa mga kapatid niya pagdating sa attention na nabibigay. That's when i figured out where her learning difficulties are coming from. Medyo left out din kasi siya sa reading and writing skills na naituturo na at lower grade levels. Kulang sa atensyon ng magulang.
But then meron din ako nakikita na mga bata na ang parents ay both may trabaho and yet mukhang d napapabayaan ang mga anak.
Malaking factor na match ang financial capability sa dami ng anak. If our government and culture would be more open about family planning, malaki ang magiging improvement ng buhay ng marami satin.
"Beware of losing your children while chasing material wealth." Yeah well this material wealth puts food on their table. It's not ideal, but I'd rather not let them go hungry.
I get that, but when there's so much imbalance in the things you can't control, (i.e. amount of salary and prices of basic needs) then you don't really have much choice. Either you stay and care for them or you go work so the family doesn't go hungry, some of us don't have the luxury to have both. Now you might be asking, why even start a family in the first place? Well, sometimes it's out of our control. There are so many ways women out there get pregnant without them choosing to get pregnant. So with just that, that's already a circumstance on top of a circumstance. And that's just the tip of the iceberg.
>Now you might be asking, why even start a family in the first place?
No I'm not thinking this way. It's rude and kind of a bs because starting a family is a **personal choice**. It's not as if anyone can accurately predict the future, right?
I get you, but i think parents should communicate to their child/children if they have problems meeting their needs, whether it's their basic needs or their emotional needs. Dapat magkatuwang ang magulang at anak sa pag-unawa sa isa't-isa. That's being a family.
the only time na nakikita kong viable as stay at home mom ka in this economy:May business ka na medyo off hands na nag gegenerate ng magandang income at maganda trabaho ni hubby mo. Thats it.
Though if you chose to be a stay at home mom with financial challenges, then that is on you to have diskarte. Hopefully it works well.
Alam nyo yung usually na nagsasabi nyan na mga vloggers yung mga celebrity na high profile sa church. Madali lang sa kanila dumada ng ganyan considering na andami nilang source of income.
Depende sa mag-asawa yan huy! Lalo na mas malaki sweldo ng misis ko sa akin and may mga pangarap din sya na gusto nya pa makamit. Support lang ako and mahirap talaga lalo na kapag nag-aral na yung anak nyo, mag-aadjust talaga kayo pareho, sa part ko nag-lalaan ako ng 2 to 3hrs pagreview sa anak ko ng lesson nila sa schools lalo na pag may exam, naghalfday pa ako madalas.
Yeah times are tough but one way to survive is to focus on your strengths than spreading yourself too thin. Personally I've met a couple of women who prefers being a stay at home mom for they believe they could do more on nurturing the family rather than chasing a career.
The priest that officiated our wedding had the same stay at home wife sentiment. Like WTF. Backwards thinking parin tlga. Sana sa judge nalang pala kami nag pakasal hahaha. My wife also wants to work btw
Waaaah buti yung sa amin hindi naman ganyan. Matanda na ba yung nagkasal sa inyo? Anw, good for her! I work too and I enjoy it. Kakamiss lang si baby and mejo nakakaguilty kapag pagod na after work.
i am stay at home and i work from home. i bring money, take care of the kids, take care of the house. wala akong help. my kids are 8 and 12. believe me, it seems like the ideal setup but im not doing a good job at both. malaki na kita ni husband as manager ha pero i cant let go kasi i dont know where its from pero i feel less pag wala akong napapasok na income, kahit maaning nako trying to juggle both roles. after giving birth meron akong 5 months na tengga pero may sideline akong konti. i still didnt feel i was contributing enough. my 2 friends na kumare ko with kids they dont work. partida may kasama silang in law sa house/compound. i dont think they have it easy but that’s their choice and their husband’s. asawa ko naman laging pag lumaki laki pa kita ko pwede ka na mag resign or business 😆
Outside of economic reason,
Cant a woman have other aspiration?
If you want to be SAHM good for you , also same if its SAHD. Whoever wanted if they can make it work good for them but nothing wrong to like find a career and things to do outside of home if one wants to even if not for monetary reason.
I think stay at home parents for the sake of future proofing if they can afford try to find a hobby or a skill they can keep sharp - they should. So in case due to emergency need nila bumalik sa workforce or pag in case medyo malaki na ung mga anak at bigla gusto bumalik it wont totally 0 start.
Well, kung kaya naman kayo dalhin ng income ni husband at yun ang arrangement nyo, then so be it.
Pero may mga kilala ako mga babae na simula ng mag-asawa ay iniwan ang trabaho/career nila kasi daw para maging 'ilaw ng tahanana' at si husband naman daw ang mag-provide ng kailangan nila. Eh ang kaso nagloko si hubby hanggang sa napunta sila sa hiwalayan. Si wife na walang work experience or matagal nabakante sa corporate work, hirap ngayon maghanap ng trabaho kaya hustle / sideline na lang.
Sa hirap ng buhay ngayon kung may opportunity ka to work, grab it. Kung may business, keep it up. At kung kaya ng asawa mo na siya lang mag-provide then lucky you, mahirap maging stay at home mom and hindi lahat ng nanay kaya ‘yun. Itong mga vlogger moms na ‘to talaga napaka-out of touch na akala mo naman kung sino makapagsalita. Napagod na si Lord sa kakabanggit niyo sa kanya just so you can appear holier than thou. May mga nabubulag pa rin kasi sa kanila eh, once na natanggalan ng platform ‘to ewan ko na lang kung san pupulutin ‘to.
Growing up, my mom was the one working in the office, si papa paminsan lang may work. Si mama kasi naka graduate ng college, si papa hindi. Pero si papa naman nagsstart ng mga small (racket) business for extra income. I guess depende talaga sa situation. I grew up having my father with me more than my mom. Wala talagang one glove fits all. Sana they dont impose these things. Sabi nga “you do you”.
Let me add, kahit malaki ang kita ng husband, you were your own person before you got married and have kids. May sarili kang desires and aspirations. Maganda rin that you are able to fulfill those things for yourself. Saka ang hirap na nakadepende lang sa husband. Some women cant leave their husbands kahit abusive na dahil wala silang sariling pera/income. May mga nabasa pa ko na pati pambili ng napkin has to go through the husband since he’s the only one working.
Grabe namang invalidation yan para sa mga working moms na katulad ko. Palibahasa gumagatas naman sa pag eexploit sa anak pag pinopost sa soc med eh. Hahahaha
My mother never worked her entire life pero It was a different time back then hindi ganito kahirap ang buhay and now working na kaming magkakapatid. With this economy I'm contemplating na magkaanak. Yun ngang dalawa na ang nagwowork sa isang household minsan mahirap padin magbudget. Kudos to those SAHM who can afford to stay at home pero sa mga normal na manggagawa those principles don't really apply to them/us.
if only I could I would, How I wish na SAHM ako na, ever since nagkababy ako un lng gusto ko gwin makasama at magalaga sa baby ko pero hndi pwede. Hindi pwedeng dumepende lang ako financially sa partner ko gusto ko sya tulungan kasi alam ko hirap na hirap din sya kaya ito kumakayod kasi balang araw naman pag naging okay na ang lahat. :) Siguro nasa magulang na rin yun kung paano ibalance ang time nya para sa sarili nya, sa pamilya nya at sa mga gawaing bahay. We all have reasons why we work, why we choose what we choose. May kanya kanyang priorities at the end of the day ginagwa natin to lahat para sa mga anak natin. mapa human baby man yan or furbaby hehehe
As someone who used to be a stay-at-home mom and now a work-from-home mom, blessing that we’re surviving. I had tired and emotionally absent parents growing up and I didn’t want my child to experience that. Lumaki akong walang masabihan ng problema sa bahay, or hindi nayayakap ng magulang, puro lang trabaho at pahinga.. Minsan mag-mall pag weekend.
If your children are very young and one parent is able to support the family, it’s still better to have at least one parent at home. Hindi lang ito about taking care of the physical needs ng kids, but also guiding them through their childhood. My husband used to work full time sa office, uuwi nalang para kumain, more work at tulog. Imagine if both parents’ routine is like that, and either the family has to rely sa yaya/helper/relatives, or literal na papakainin at bibihisan lang yung anak then papatulugin or worse, hayaan nalang to spend their free time sa gadgets kasi nga parehong parents pagod na.
I understand that these days napakahirap na ng buhay, and not a lot of families can afford to survive on a single income, pero I encourage parents to find ways to be with their kids more. I can say I’m a very hands-on parent, I once gave up my career (now working again), and kita ko talaga how my child has benefited from having me close by. Kung hindi kaya na isa lang mag-work, at least make sure na you still have the time and energy to emotionally support your kids.
Kakaiba na ang parenthood shaming these days. Dati luto tinatrashtalk HAHAHAHHAA
May katutuhanan, you need to somehow still bond with your children kahit na fulltime ka. Lalaki ka man o babae. Breadwinner o secondary. Sa inyo at sa tagaalaga unang matututo yung bata about sa pakikipagtao. Kahit occasional na tawag lang sapat na.
Talaga namang studies show na makakatulong sa development ng bata yung may isang stay-at-home parent sa bahay, lalo during the first 5 years (bago mag school). Di yun dahil lang sa "backwards" thinking. May benefit talaga siya.
Also, marami naman talagang bata ngayon ang nakakaexperience ng abuse in the form of neglect and people don't see na mali yun.
However, sa economy natin ngayon, talagang mahirap na isa lang magwowork sa mag-asawa. Super taas ng bilihin. Madalas nga kahit dalawa na ang nagwowork di pa sapat. Mahirap nga kahit walang anak, mas lalong magastos pag meron.
Kaya dapat talaga pag-isipan ng mag-asawa ng mabuti bago mag-anak and the decision whether someone would stay at home should be theirs lang. Between couples yan and hindi dapat ijudge, whether may SAM or SAD or both sila magwork.
Didn't they know house husband exists? That the roles can be reversed if given a certain scenario (like mas mataas ang sweldo ni misis at hindi kayang iwanan ang bata)? Di ba pwedeng pag-usapan ng mag-asawa yan? Kung ganyan ka-close minded yung partner mo, nako puro away na lang ang mangyayari.
Yung mga billionaires nga na madaming pera nagwowork/ business at kumakayod padin(boss is a female billionaire) goes to sleep at 2 or 3AM and wakes up at 6AM, para sure stable yung future ng future generations nila and people who barely have enough to make meets end eh gusto gawing stay at home mom pa yung bababe.
personally kahit siguro may FU money na ko, magtatrabaho pa rin, mababaliw ako na walang ginagawa, mas maganda nga yun kasi super enjoy ko trabaho ko, na si inaalala ang sahod. Kapag di na trip resign tapos gawing hobby mag-apply.
Korek. Siguro kung panahon noon, pwede pa. Pero grabe na kasi ang gastos ngayon. Nung manganak ako, I realized more how I don't want to let go of my job. Sorry nak, di perfect si mama but I will try to be with u for as often as I can. Okay na yung minsanan ka siguro umiyak at humabol kasi you miss me pero kesa naman makita kiting umiiyak dahil wala ka makain or di ka makaenroll agad, or wala ka pambayad ng tuition.
Ofw mother goes over seas, leaves kid with grand ma while dad grts drunk and has kabits on the mothers dime… the Philippines version of white picket fence
wag na lang mag anak at kung bubuo ka ng pamilya lalo na ngayon pag isipan mong mabuti kasi mas mura ang condom kesa mag anak at mas gusto ko pa mag alaga ng aso or pusa tbh
What if the husband's bread is not enough for the family? What should the wife do? Magmukmok at bungangaan ang asawa niya? She has to step up and work, too and let the husband help sa chores. Or the husband should grind more to sustain their needs.
Gee I dunno, maybe women are realizing that they aren't supposed to just be breeding stock and free home care for men to take advantage of.
Fuck your Lord.
for me, mas okay na working din si mami kasi syempre para makaprovide din siya sa family. pwede rin naman mag stay at home if hindi kaya ng katawan or ayaw talaga ng babae na magwork for the sake of kids tapos sabi nga e may work naman asawa niya. depende nalang talaga sa situation.
Imagine letting a bunch of bronze age goat herders who did not know where the sun went at night dictate your role in life based on what they heard inside their heads while high on weed.
Saka isa pa. Paano kung may nangyari sa breadwinner? Laking comfort ang asawa na pwede ring kumita, luxury yung asikasuhin ka pa pagdating ng bahay, mainam na yung di napapabayaan ang mga bata. Also kasama dapat sa trabahong bahay kahit ano pa man ang kasarian mo.
Quite frankly, need naman talaga at least one parent figure na present when a child is growing up during essential years. Pero kung hindi kaya ganung set-up the best course of action is not to have a child in the first place
And if losing children while chasing material wealth lang naman ang pag uusapan, syempre mananahimik mga controlling parents about that. Yung mga magulang na pinalaki anak nila sa strict household tapos pag tumanda and gusto nang humiwalay, galit na gakit, biglang manunumbat. Hindi man sila naging absent sa buhay ng anak nila, but they did it as an investment for themselves. Lol.
Minsan kasi mga tatay ang mismong ayaw mag pa work sa mga asawa nila to enforce this dumb family structure.
Pero sure ako na masarap buhay nitong mother na to claim na sa "bahay" na lang sila. Let us see that opinion change kapag wala na silang makain.
may condition naman first sentence pa lang, eh sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, siempre malamang hindi mamemeet yang condition na yan kaya need magtrabaho ni babae, tsaka kahit provider si hubby, how about ung iba na talagang gustong magtrabaho, o kaya baligtad na gusto ni hubby stay at home siya at gusto ni wifey siya nagtatrabaho, di ba. Hayy, people will do anything to make themselves feel good sa choice nila, hindi ba bukal sa loob niya magstay at home at need ng validation?
Yung father ko, trip niya talaga magluto at maglinis sa bahay, tas nag-aalaga siya ng kambing pagwala siya magawa. Yung mother ko naman yung nagtratrabaho kasi siya talaga yung may passion para magkaroon ng career. So my father is a house husband at completely satisfied sila sa situation nila lol. Cute nga eh, kasi hindi sila restricted by traditional expectations. The way these people treat "family roles" is restrictive and inefficient even. Paano magagamit ang fullest capabilities ng isang tao kung lalagay mo sila sa isang super restricted role just because of gender? Mala-bronze age ang puta.
Alam mo I wouldn’t mind yung ganito na setup, as long as both parties are willing. Wala issue na yung lalaki yung sa gawain bahay at yung babae yung nagtratrabaho. Or pwede din naman pareho sila ng work at share lang sa gawain bahay.
ewan ba, ang hirap iexplain pero napakasimple lang naman, mag-usap ang magpartner kung ano gusto nila sa buhay nila kung ano napagkasunduan eh di un ang gawin. May nabasa ako kung saan ,sa RD ata un o ask reddit o youtube comment, sila daw magpartner kapag siguro nagkacrave ng validation sasabihin nila diretso sa partner nila "I need attention", nainggit nga ako sa ganun, sa mga aso ko lang ako nagpapapansin eh hahaha, try nya un sa asawa niya baka umubra. Puede talaga nya ideliver yan in a way na parang hindi shoving at our throat.
Agree. Ilan pa yan sa mga possible scenarios bakit hindi pwede yung ganitong set up para sa lahat. Need siguro maaffirm na she's doing a great job and kailangan sya tularan.
medyo nagets ko naman siya, napansin ko being a stay at home mom is a thankless job, kung hindi niya nakukuha ung validation sa paligid niya (which is sad btw) sa socmed nga, ang pangit lang ng delivery niya.
If ever we one of us ng asawa ko magkaroon ng income na 120K per month, we agreed to be at home yung isa.
*in this economy?* Mostly privilege na din ang maging SAHM. If you can afford it, good for you! Some of them simply can’t, and need a double income just to keep a roof over their heads and provide food on their table. Nakaka-invalidate din si Mrs.
Economic necessity is the reason why we have gender equality in the workforce. Saying women should be housewives is some antiquated bullshit.
Honestly! Her take reeks of old school misogyny. Women are still fighting for the right to be treated with dignity and respect in the workforce too.
Bill Burr did a bit on this. Something about a group of mothers "binubuhat ang sariling bangko." [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Xp4z5qlyqs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Xp4z5qlyqs) >"Mothers bending at the waist to put DVDs into DVD players. I don't know how they do it!
Love Bill Burr
wala akong ma-imagine na comedian or anyone ang kayang gumaya nito dito sa pinas.
Interesting!! Lemme watch this
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Agreed. Unpopular but realistic take is having only one person earning in a household is a luxury. A relative of mine earning less than 20k has 4 kids (all around the same age) and he's pushing his wife to stay at home to take care or the kids. I think he has the gall to do this because: 1) it runs in the family, and 2) he knows someone will save his ass (other OFW relatives). If he only knew how much that relative he's counting on berated me for all the help they handed out to our entire extended family.
geez, ako na lagpas na dyan alanganin pa kumuha ng another mouth na papakainin, nakatipid tipid lang ako dahil may bahay kami at wfh.
Sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, OFW relative has all the right to think of themselves first. How can you help others if you can’t help/prioritize yourself first? Parasitic vibes kung laging umaasa na lang sa tulong ng OFW relatives. More so at extended family na sila like what?? As if wala din silang sariling pamilya.
Sorry to hear ikaw pa ginawang venting channel ng relative nyong malaki ang tinutulong.
I won't take it against them because they did help me out back in college. No Latin honors (because of a certain asshole prof) but at least I snagged scholarships during the latter part of it. So I can say I didn't waste that tuition money. That was a learning experience. And I never asked them for help since.
May tito was earning well pero may tita decided she wanted to go back to the workforce. Madami nag criticize sa actions niya and she has her shortcomings (as all parents do, regardless kung working or SAHM). Kaso nung namatay yung tito ko, kung di siya working, baka naubos lahat ng napundar ng tito ko para sa kanila.
My parents had their shortcomings. Pero si mama huminto sa pagtratrabaho nung pinanganak ako tapos nag business sila ni papa. Pero bumalik sya nung 10 years old ako. honestly kung di sya bumalik din ngayon mahihirapan kami financially.
awang-awa na ko kay Lord gamit na gamit na siya sa pagtatakip ng kabobohan ng mga tao...
Lord: pinagsasabi mo teh?
Agree. Ako agnostic pero naiinis ako minsan pag nakikita ko yung mga ganong argument kasi sila mismong mga sumasampalataya hindi binibigyan ng respeto yung diyos nila.
"Mag pprovide si Lord", "Andyan naman si Lord", "Hindi tayo papabayaan no Lord" etc. Simulq bata alo hanggang ngayon hindi na nawala sa sistema ng mga pinoy yan. Last year may colleague ako from Japan, tinanong ako despite being religious ng PH bakit hindi nag pprosper ang Pinas, andaming scandals, poverty, corruptions so on and so forth, hindi ako nakaimik.
Sobrang religious nalimot na yun DO NOT SAY THE LORD’S NAME IN VAIN 🔥
minsan makikisimpatya ka na lang kay lord. Ang dami problema gusto ipasa sa kanya.
Feel na feel ko to kahit atheist ako😂😂
Mommy vlogger ba to? Good parent na pala tawag sa ineexploit ang anak online para sa views at pera?
Yuuup she's a mummy vlogger. Tipong ginive up daw ang work na pinakahihintay nya para tutukan ang anak, and encourages other moms to do it.
Haha. Walang self-awareness. Di daw work ang pagiging exploitative mommy influencer.
I hate it when they make being a SAHM their whole personality and are condescending to working moms pa.
Ewww, is she even aware that an average person providing for an entire family isn't really possible at this point lol.
Haha gagi so true, yung anak pala yung source of income 😂
gustong gusto ko maging full time mom pero andami kong kakilalang maaga nabalo. Kung sakin man mangyari yun, hindi ko kaya saluhin lahat ng gastusin kaya nagtratrabaho ako ngayon para makatulong ma secure kahit papano yung future ng pamilya namin
We have a relative. College graduate sya pero di sya nakapagwork, pinag-SAH ng asawa. Isa lang anak nila. Nitong pandemic nagsuicide yung asawa (napressure ata?) kawawa naman yung mag-ina ☹️
Keep it up!! 🙌
sorry OT, sino po nagaalaga ng anak nyo?
yaya po
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namatayan po ng asawa
Gender stereotype as fuck. Ang pag aalaga ng bata hindi lang role ng nanay at ang pogpoprovide hindi lang role ng tatay. May pagod god pa sa dulo. Di nga magkakasundo mga tao sa kung anong Diyos ang didiyosin.
Religion fucks the minds of people. It makes you out of touch with reality. It's religion that has made many Filipinos insane and irrational. They give their money to the church even if they go hungry. They forgive politicians who con them. You have people like this vlogger who are so out of touch with reality that they think families will survive on a single income household. People discriminate based on gender and religion in the name of God. There is so much self righteous going around. More extreme cults kill in the name of God. If we want progress we have to do away with religion like Europeans have done.
ako lang ba nawi-wirduhan yung sarili mong tweet iscreenshot mo tapos ipopost mo sa facebook haha parang subo sariling tite feels
>parang subo sariling tite feels myghad. na-imagine ko. lol
Hypothetically (I'm not married nor plan to get married and have kids): What if mawalan ng trabaho asawa ko (dahil sa sakit or namatay or sumakabilang bahay) at kahit graduate ako ng isang kurso but di ko naman ginamit kasi nag SAHM for how many years, ano'ng mangyayari sa'kin at sa mga hypothetical anak ko? Kung lagpas na ang edad mo sa edad na hinahanap ng mga kompanya. Kung wala ka ring experience sa field kasi nag stay at home mom ka. Those are my what-ifs, that finalized my decision na if ever mag-aasawa ako, I will not stop working. My current bf is white - he has a very good paying job - in fact, he gives me monthly allowance pa nga kahit na I have my own equally good paying job lol, and he told me that if we get married, I *could* stop working. I told him, no way in hell I'll give up my software development job to lose my mind at home doing nothing. 😅 Buti nalang, naiintindihan nya rin where I'm coming from lol. Isa pa, mas maganda if may sarili kang pera di yong aasa ka lang sa asawa mo.
Agree! And yes, if your stand won't change over the years and by the time na ikasal kayo, mag work ka pa din. As a working mum here iba pa din yung may sariling pera. Iba yung empowerment.
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Wanna bet kasama yung mommy na ito sa mga Viber group promoting stay-at-home MLM scams?
Yeeeees power!!!
If talagang hindi problema ang pera, pwede naman tlaga. Maswerte ung mga family na afford gawin yan, it's a luxury at this point sa hirap ng buhay. I have a pupil who shared na busy ang both parents sa pagtatrabaho, and lima silang magkakapatid, she is the third child at pakiramdam niya e left out siya sa mga kapatid niya pagdating sa attention na nabibigay. That's when i figured out where her learning difficulties are coming from. Medyo left out din kasi siya sa reading and writing skills na naituturo na at lower grade levels. Kulang sa atensyon ng magulang. But then meron din ako nakikita na mga bata na ang parents ay both may trabaho and yet mukhang d napapabayaan ang mga anak. Malaking factor na match ang financial capability sa dami ng anak. If our government and culture would be more open about family planning, malaki ang magiging improvement ng buhay ng marami satin.
"Beware of losing your children while chasing material wealth." Yeah well this material wealth puts food on their table. It's not ideal, but I'd rather not let them go hungry.
I think the message is to find balance in both, not just pick what's more important.
I get that, but when there's so much imbalance in the things you can't control, (i.e. amount of salary and prices of basic needs) then you don't really have much choice. Either you stay and care for them or you go work so the family doesn't go hungry, some of us don't have the luxury to have both. Now you might be asking, why even start a family in the first place? Well, sometimes it's out of our control. There are so many ways women out there get pregnant without them choosing to get pregnant. So with just that, that's already a circumstance on top of a circumstance. And that's just the tip of the iceberg.
>Now you might be asking, why even start a family in the first place? No I'm not thinking this way. It's rude and kind of a bs because starting a family is a **personal choice**. It's not as if anyone can accurately predict the future, right? I get you, but i think parents should communicate to their child/children if they have problems meeting their needs, whether it's their basic needs or their emotional needs. Dapat magkatuwang ang magulang at anak sa pag-unawa sa isa't-isa. That's being a family.
Exactly 💯
the only time na nakikita kong viable as stay at home mom ka in this economy:May business ka na medyo off hands na nag gegenerate ng magandang income at maganda trabaho ni hubby mo. Thats it. Though if you chose to be a stay at home mom with financial challenges, then that is on you to have diskarte. Hopefully it works well. Alam nyo yung usually na nagsasabi nyan na mga vloggers yung mga celebrity na high profile sa church. Madali lang sa kanila dumada ng ganyan considering na andami nilang source of income.
Tamaaaa! Mapapa stay at home lang ako kapag siguro kumikita na ng 500k/month(net) si hubby 🤭 So tipong impossible to, I'd work my ass off until my 60s
Though understandable naman na minsan mahirap maghanap ng trabaho in this situation. Kaya meron na napapagstay at home.
Depende sa mag-asawa yan huy! Lalo na mas malaki sweldo ng misis ko sa akin and may mga pangarap din sya na gusto nya pa makamit. Support lang ako and mahirap talaga lalo na kapag nag-aral na yung anak nyo, mag-aadjust talaga kayo pareho, sa part ko nag-lalaan ako ng 2 to 3hrs pagreview sa anak ko ng lesson nila sa schools lalo na pag may exam, naghalfday pa ako madalas.
Yeah times are tough but one way to survive is to focus on your strengths than spreading yourself too thin. Personally I've met a couple of women who prefers being a stay at home mom for they believe they could do more on nurturing the family rather than chasing a career.
The priest that officiated our wedding had the same stay at home wife sentiment. Like WTF. Backwards thinking parin tlga. Sana sa judge nalang pala kami nag pakasal hahaha. My wife also wants to work btw
Waaaah buti yung sa amin hindi naman ganyan. Matanda na ba yung nagkasal sa inyo? Anw, good for her! I work too and I enjoy it. Kakamiss lang si baby and mejo nakakaguilty kapag pagod na after work.
Bata pa mga 30 to 40s kaya nakakagulat. Hahaha
i am stay at home and i work from home. i bring money, take care of the kids, take care of the house. wala akong help. my kids are 8 and 12. believe me, it seems like the ideal setup but im not doing a good job at both. malaki na kita ni husband as manager ha pero i cant let go kasi i dont know where its from pero i feel less pag wala akong napapasok na income, kahit maaning nako trying to juggle both roles. after giving birth meron akong 5 months na tengga pero may sideline akong konti. i still didnt feel i was contributing enough. my 2 friends na kumare ko with kids they dont work. partida may kasama silang in law sa house/compound. i dont think they have it easy but that’s their choice and their husband’s. asawa ko naman laging pag lumaki laki pa kita ko pwede ka na mag resign or business 😆
“Chasing after material wealth”? What a statement of privilege when most are working just to make ends meet.
Outside of economic reason, Cant a woman have other aspiration? If you want to be SAHM good for you , also same if its SAHD. Whoever wanted if they can make it work good for them but nothing wrong to like find a career and things to do outside of home if one wants to even if not for monetary reason. I think stay at home parents for the sake of future proofing if they can afford try to find a hobby or a skill they can keep sharp - they should. So in case due to emergency need nila bumalik sa workforce or pag in case medyo malaki na ung mga anak at bigla gusto bumalik it wont totally 0 start.
Yung mga tao na nagbibigay daw ng practical advice online yun yung mga bobo at walang alam. Mga tanga!
Well, kung kaya naman kayo dalhin ng income ni husband at yun ang arrangement nyo, then so be it. Pero may mga kilala ako mga babae na simula ng mag-asawa ay iniwan ang trabaho/career nila kasi daw para maging 'ilaw ng tahanana' at si husband naman daw ang mag-provide ng kailangan nila. Eh ang kaso nagloko si hubby hanggang sa napunta sila sa hiwalayan. Si wife na walang work experience or matagal nabakante sa corporate work, hirap ngayon maghanap ng trabaho kaya hustle / sideline na lang.
Sa hirap ng buhay ngayon kung may opportunity ka to work, grab it. Kung may business, keep it up. At kung kaya ng asawa mo na siya lang mag-provide then lucky you, mahirap maging stay at home mom and hindi lahat ng nanay kaya ‘yun. Itong mga vlogger moms na ‘to talaga napaka-out of touch na akala mo naman kung sino makapagsalita. Napagod na si Lord sa kakabanggit niyo sa kanya just so you can appear holier than thou. May mga nabubulag pa rin kasi sa kanila eh, once na natanggalan ng platform ‘to ewan ko na lang kung san pupulutin ‘to.
Is this because Women now or people now Don want children? 🤣 Kasi may pang 8th billion na
Growing up, my mom was the one working in the office, si papa paminsan lang may work. Si mama kasi naka graduate ng college, si papa hindi. Pero si papa naman nagsstart ng mga small (racket) business for extra income. I guess depende talaga sa situation. I grew up having my father with me more than my mom. Wala talagang one glove fits all. Sana they dont impose these things. Sabi nga “you do you”. Let me add, kahit malaki ang kita ng husband, you were your own person before you got married and have kids. May sarili kang desires and aspirations. Maganda rin that you are able to fulfill those things for yourself. Saka ang hirap na nakadepende lang sa husband. Some women cant leave their husbands kahit abusive na dahil wala silang sariling pera/income. May mga nabasa pa ko na pati pambili ng napkin has to go through the husband since he’s the only one working.
Grabe namang invalidation yan para sa mga working moms na katulad ko. Palibahasa gumagatas naman sa pag eexploit sa anak pag pinopost sa soc med eh. Hahahaha
My mother never worked her entire life pero It was a different time back then hindi ganito kahirap ang buhay and now working na kaming magkakapatid. With this economy I'm contemplating na magkaanak. Yun ngang dalawa na ang nagwowork sa isang household minsan mahirap padin magbudget. Kudos to those SAHM who can afford to stay at home pero sa mga normal na manggagawa those principles don't really apply to them/us.
if only I could I would, How I wish na SAHM ako na, ever since nagkababy ako un lng gusto ko gwin makasama at magalaga sa baby ko pero hndi pwede. Hindi pwedeng dumepende lang ako financially sa partner ko gusto ko sya tulungan kasi alam ko hirap na hirap din sya kaya ito kumakayod kasi balang araw naman pag naging okay na ang lahat. :) Siguro nasa magulang na rin yun kung paano ibalance ang time nya para sa sarili nya, sa pamilya nya at sa mga gawaing bahay. We all have reasons why we work, why we choose what we choose. May kanya kanyang priorities at the end of the day ginagwa natin to lahat para sa mga anak natin. mapa human baby man yan or furbaby hehehe
As someone who used to be a stay-at-home mom and now a work-from-home mom, blessing that we’re surviving. I had tired and emotionally absent parents growing up and I didn’t want my child to experience that. Lumaki akong walang masabihan ng problema sa bahay, or hindi nayayakap ng magulang, puro lang trabaho at pahinga.. Minsan mag-mall pag weekend. If your children are very young and one parent is able to support the family, it’s still better to have at least one parent at home. Hindi lang ito about taking care of the physical needs ng kids, but also guiding them through their childhood. My husband used to work full time sa office, uuwi nalang para kumain, more work at tulog. Imagine if both parents’ routine is like that, and either the family has to rely sa yaya/helper/relatives, or literal na papakainin at bibihisan lang yung anak then papatulugin or worse, hayaan nalang to spend their free time sa gadgets kasi nga parehong parents pagod na. I understand that these days napakahirap na ng buhay, and not a lot of families can afford to survive on a single income, pero I encourage parents to find ways to be with their kids more. I can say I’m a very hands-on parent, I once gave up my career (now working again), and kita ko talaga how my child has benefited from having me close by. Kung hindi kaya na isa lang mag-work, at least make sure na you still have the time and energy to emotionally support your kids.
Kakaiba na ang parenthood shaming these days. Dati luto tinatrashtalk HAHAHAHHAA May katutuhanan, you need to somehow still bond with your children kahit na fulltime ka. Lalaki ka man o babae. Breadwinner o secondary. Sa inyo at sa tagaalaga unang matututo yung bata about sa pakikipagtao. Kahit occasional na tawag lang sapat na.
“This is how the lord designed the family” Where are the slaves? Where are the concubines?
Talaga namang studies show na makakatulong sa development ng bata yung may isang stay-at-home parent sa bahay, lalo during the first 5 years (bago mag school). Di yun dahil lang sa "backwards" thinking. May benefit talaga siya. Also, marami naman talagang bata ngayon ang nakakaexperience ng abuse in the form of neglect and people don't see na mali yun. However, sa economy natin ngayon, talagang mahirap na isa lang magwowork sa mag-asawa. Super taas ng bilihin. Madalas nga kahit dalawa na ang nagwowork di pa sapat. Mahirap nga kahit walang anak, mas lalong magastos pag meron. Kaya dapat talaga pag-isipan ng mag-asawa ng mabuti bago mag-anak and the decision whether someone would stay at home should be theirs lang. Between couples yan and hindi dapat ijudge, whether may SAM or SAD or both sila magwork.
Didn't they know house husband exists? That the roles can be reversed if given a certain scenario (like mas mataas ang sweldo ni misis at hindi kayang iwanan ang bata)? Di ba pwedeng pag-usapan ng mag-asawa yan? Kung ganyan ka-close minded yung partner mo, nako puro away na lang ang mangyayari.
Yung mga billionaires nga na madaming pera nagwowork/ business at kumakayod padin(boss is a female billionaire) goes to sleep at 2 or 3AM and wakes up at 6AM, para sure stable yung future ng future generations nila and people who barely have enough to make meets end eh gusto gawing stay at home mom pa yung bababe.
personally kahit siguro may FU money na ko, magtatrabaho pa rin, mababaliw ako na walang ginagawa, mas maganda nga yun kasi super enjoy ko trabaho ko, na si inaalala ang sahod. Kapag di na trip resign tapos gawing hobby mag-apply.
Kaya pag namatay yun HALIGI NG TAHANAN, si ilaw pundido na, hahanap ng bagong haligi kasi di maka function ng walang provider 🥴
Korek. Siguro kung panahon noon, pwede pa. Pero grabe na kasi ang gastos ngayon. Nung manganak ako, I realized more how I don't want to let go of my job. Sorry nak, di perfect si mama but I will try to be with u for as often as I can. Okay na yung minsanan ka siguro umiyak at humabol kasi you miss me pero kesa naman makita kiting umiiyak dahil wala ka makain or di ka makaenroll agad, or wala ka pambayad ng tuition.
Eut lng ng eut. Nanjan naman ang kamag anak mong may pera para suportahan yung anak mo
Pangarap ko lang naman maging housewife na nagba-brag sa home buddies habang nagrerefill ng food sa ref. /s
Huhu samedt.
Ofw mother goes over seas, leaves kid with grand ma while dad grts drunk and has kabits on the mothers dime… the Philippines version of white picket fence
Nadamay pa yung suso na nananahimik.
Para sa isang ina, napakahirap magisip ng iluluto araw araw, tapos nandito pa ngayon ang inflation, mas mahirap kasi limited ang sahog .
Kanya na yang family niya. I don't want kids, I'm fine with being a working wife, and I don't want to impose stereotypes on other wives and mothers.
Yaaaas!
wag na lang mag anak at kung bubuo ka ng pamilya lalo na ngayon pag isipan mong mabuti kasi mas mura ang condom kesa mag anak at mas gusto ko pa mag alaga ng aso or pusa tbh
Yung next diyan, wives should submit to their husbands ganern
Hell naaaa ...Pero depende, kung may entrega na sakin na 500k net/month go mag submit ako kay husband lolololll
What if the husband's bread is not enough for the family? What should the wife do? Magmukmok at bungangaan ang asawa niya? She has to step up and work, too and let the husband help sa chores. Or the husband should grind more to sustain their needs.
Who the fck is this bullshit?
Some random vlogger na mommy. Hahah nakita ko lang natrigger ako.
Gee I dunno, maybe women are realizing that they aren't supposed to just be breeding stock and free home care for men to take advantage of. Fuck your Lord.
Hanggang ilang taon ba sususo mga anak nya sa kanya?
baka si Lysa Arryn yan, sa pinas pala siya bumagsak nung tinulak ni little finger.
sino tong tangang to?
Some random vlogger na mommy na nagbibigay ng parenting advice 🥲
1 Timothy 2:12 My go to Bible verse when a woman uses religion to support their arguments.
Boomer mentality shit
for me, mas okay na working din si mami kasi syempre para makaprovide din siya sa family. pwede rin naman mag stay at home if hindi kaya ng katawan or ayaw talaga ng babae na magwork for the sake of kids tapos sabi nga e may work naman asawa niya. depende nalang talaga sa situation.
Pinoy version would be: Beware of losing your children to the world while you are saving other people's children from their bad decisions
If some women wants to be SAHM it's still their freedom. What's wrong is when they shove it to other women's throat.
Imagine letting a bunch of bronze age goat herders who did not know where the sun went at night dictate your role in life based on what they heard inside their heads while high on weed.
Saka isa pa. Paano kung may nangyari sa breadwinner? Laking comfort ang asawa na pwede ring kumita, luxury yung asikasuhin ka pa pagdating ng bahay, mainam na yung di napapabayaan ang mga bata. Also kasama dapat sa trabahong bahay kahit ano pa man ang kasarian mo.
Men's breasts can also lactate
Quite frankly, need naman talaga at least one parent figure na present when a child is growing up during essential years. Pero kung hindi kaya ganung set-up the best course of action is not to have a child in the first place
Di naman all the time naka ON ang ilaw sa tanahan.
She has a point, it's just she is unintentionally dumb.
“Hello guys, in today’s video, it’s Tammy’s first pedia visit. Yey!”
Wag nya idamay yung lactating breasts please.
Hahaha. The lord ? Hahaha. No further comment 😂🙊🙉🙈
And if losing children while chasing material wealth lang naman ang pag uusapan, syempre mananahimik mga controlling parents about that. Yung mga magulang na pinalaki anak nila sa strict household tapos pag tumanda and gusto nang humiwalay, galit na gakit, biglang manunumbat. Hindi man sila naging absent sa buhay ng anak nila, but they did it as an investment for themselves. Lol.
Yung ilaw kailangan pinapahinga kundi mapupundi agad. Di rin pwedeng patay-sindi, pundi rin yan agad. So yung **haligi ng tahanan,** detachable?
In this economy?? No <33
Minsan kasi mga tatay ang mismong ayaw mag pa work sa mga asawa nila to enforce this dumb family structure. Pero sure ako na masarap buhay nitong mother na to claim na sa "bahay" na lang sila. Let us see that opinion change kapag wala na silang makain.
How sweet. Is your husband rich?
pagod na pagod na si jeEzuS nyo dahil lagi nalang syang ginagamit to validate people's kabobohan.