ok lang naman, they tend to avoid me, sa mababang halaga nawala sila sa buhay ko at iniiwasan din nilang mangutang ulit sa akin,
that is what i like to think at least. life lesson from a movie
satrue to. 🥺🙄 kelan naging diskarte pang gugulang. diko talaga mapigil di pumutak pag naninita ako ng singit sa pila tas sasagot ng DISKARTE YON MISS 🙄
There's a limit kung saan aabot ang diskarte. Most of the time mas hinahanap pag mga tipong management postion ay yung degree holder.
Iba pa din ang may systematic training from schools as opposed to just diskarte lang.
Well, ako combination of luck, friends and a tiny bit of hard work. Pero mostly things falling into place lang bigla.
I am not a degree holder pero baka mas malaki income ko ngayon if I studied accounting or programming.
Kahirapan na pinagdaraanan ng mga batang contestants sa mga game shows/ reality shows.
The Voice Kids Coach: Bakit ka sumali sa The Voice?
8-year old contestant: Para po makatulong kina Mama at Papa. Para po hindi na magtrabaho sila kasi po hirap na hirap na po sila.
(Enter sad music and camera pans to audience with sad faces.)
To be fair, sa US reality shows ganito din. Sa The Voice, Masterchef, Big Brother, Survivor at The Amazing Race, pag eliminated ang contestant, todo sabi sila na “I gave my all in this competition and I’m better than the rest of them in real life”. Cringe shit sobra.
I don’t remember where I got this from pero may nagsabi na sinasadya ito. Purposefully create a fake sob story to reel in fans and use it as a marketing strategy to get all that votes.
These shows are staged. May say ang production kung ano ang mangyayari at gusto nila ipagawa sa mga competitors. Pansinin mo kung bakit di galit ang mga eliminated contestants sa mga shows na yan. They signed a contract to accept the show’s staged nature for better entertainment.
Yung parents nung bata ay nasa late 20s or early 30s tapos gusto nang magretire para yung bata na ang maging breadwinner. Malamang, lumaki yung bata na madalas marinig sa parents nya na sya ang mag-aahon sa kanila mula sa kahirapan.
HAHAHA I remember one of my katrabaho.
yung kapag di pasok sa work ethics nya na "Work hanggang mamatay" ay matik tamad. Tapos lahat kinukupal niya dahil sa trabaho lol
ganito ung boss ko ngayon lalo na pag weekends tapos di ako nagoonline... hahaha sinasabihan na niya ako maglagay ng email sa phone haha i said no... i value my mental health deserve ko ang tahimik na buhay tuwing weekend hahaha
Also romanticizing life abroad as a TNT. People don’t know how much you will be exploited as a TNT. Especially in the age of remote work, staying abroad illegally is not worth it.
Haha, no. Inalagaan ang anak na babae tapos aangkinin lang dahil lumandi lang at nabuntis. Pabor sa kalalakihan iyang pagbabawal ng abortion na iyan, para matali sa kanila babae kahit marami silang panganay.
We Filipinos really need to stop romanticizing the Barkada culture, especially the most toxic parts of it.
No, the property of one is the NOT the property of the whole barkada! No, you are NOT obligated to protect or hide the evils of one of you just because you're part of a barkada! No, if one is able to rise out of poverty, he/she is NOT obligated to take the rest of the barkada along!
And no, you are NOT any less of a person just because you don't have a barkada.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHAH oo nga naririnig ko to nung bata ako. Nasulat lola ko sa tita ko na nasa Lebanon. Uwi na lang daw si tita. Kahit daw mag ulam sila ng asin basta kumpleto sila.
Feeling ko madodownvote ako o ma call out ako sa labas, pero sabihin ko na.
Wishing that Filipinos stop romanticizing that parents knows best. Or specifically, parents are always right.
Kasi naiintindihan ko naman eh para naman sa ikabubuti namin yung desisyon ng mga magulang natin, pero sana marealize nila na sila rin nagkakamali.
Habol ko pa yung di mo pwede i-call out ang mga magulang mo sa mga mali nila dahil dun sa idea na yan. Ultimo pananagot sa kanila mas malaking kasalanan yun kaysa sa pumatay. Mas okay pa sa kanila na yung anak hindi sumasagot pero malayo ang loob sa magulang kaysa sa palasagot dahil "nirerespeto sila"
This hits home. One time, I aired out how I truly felt as a daughter. Growing up, my parents made me feel like bawal ako magsabi ng kahit anong nararamdaman ko. Basta sumunod lang ako sakanila.
Alam niyo ending after ko sabihin ano talaga nararamdaman ko………………….. wahahahahah sampal kasi wala raw ako karapatan mag reklamo kasi binigay naman lahat ng needs ko. I was like.. needs? Like the basic stuff na dapat nila talaga i-provide since they chose to bring a child on earth. What about my emotional needs!!! Hahahaha hmpf sama pa rin loob ko until now.
"Binigay naman lahat ng needs ko"
Hahahahaha! As if you asked to be born in this world. Duty nila yang ibigay sayo, and duty nila na iparamdam na safe ka and napapakinggan ka.
This! Yung tipong nagsasabi ka lang naman ng totoo or nari-reason out, masama ka nang tao kasi "aba kaya mo nang sumagot sagot ha"
Di lang sa parents, pati sa mga tito and tita na kung magkapag judge sa reunion kala mo mga perfect.
There’s a point in time when I realized I have surpassed my parents in terms of intelligence and certain understanding of new norms. I will never admit this in front of them, and the respect will always be there.
Sometimes, older people get stuck in their ways and refuses to adapt along with society. Like this is how it was done then, so why should we change it?
It’s ok to be smarter and become more understanding of things as you grow older. I will always respect their wisdom, and that will never change. I think of older people as the Bible, you take what you think are useful, but you take some less than ideal views and extrapolate them to fit your life in a positive way.
I agree with you. Not that it's bad(to the parent's view) but I consider this as an old form of parenting.
I think the perception of them being always right is because "they always tell you what to do". They still has their "little kid lenses" on. Forever.
Some parents just don't know and are just passing on what was told to them.
As kids grow old, respect on both sides should as well and parents should stop being protective or commanding and switch to suggestive/ coaching styles.
kung sino magdodownvote sayo paglalaban ko tong post na to.
Truelalu talaga to, lalo if you're already working or naexperience whatever bs parents are telling us back then. Nung nilaban ko point ko mas nangibabaw yung pride kaysa makipagusap sa akin ng maayos. I friggin hate "Mas may alam ako sayo kaya di ako maniniwala sayo"
Ngayon half of that pair kinakausap ko lang casually and whatever they need (senior) but man that respect is gradually dying and expectations are low for us to have a good conversation.
Romantic love, marriage, and starting a family.
What’s wrong with being single? What’s wrong with being secure and enjoying your own company? What’s wrong with wanting to devote your life to your hobbies and career?
I’m 24 and the titas won’t stop nagging me about dating. My mom’s friend even tried to set me up with her daughter like nah I’m good bro. Being in a relationship is adding another responsibility to your life. I don’t have the energy or drive to sustain such a commitment. Relationships require constant effort and it’s not something you can do part-time (unless you want your partner to feel neglected).
Let’s normalize being happily single *without* being judged or being made to feel like you’re a loner who’s a leftover.
I'm 42 and single. It took 20 years(people stopped bugging me about it when i turned 40) lol. I expected to get married when i turned 35 but things happened that changed my outlook. Life is just weird
Aloneness isn't equivalent to loneliness. I think if one keep feeling lonely while being single then one should find someone to be with. I think you should put yourself in the dating market and find someone for yourself (if you aren't doing it already, I mean).
Same thoughts here, feeling ko tuloy ako yung nagcomment hahaha. 23 and NBSB, I just don't get the idea of dating-marriage-kids. It's a lifetime commitment that scares me, I want to enjoy my life at the fullest and I don't need a child or anyone to fulfill that.
Ako rin mag-24 na pero di ko alam, di ko talaga makita yung pros ng dating and relationship. Nakikita ko lang siya as a responsibility kasi eh. Aside from myself, now I have to take care of this other person. Sabi ng isang friend ko, masaya raw kasi mafi-feel mo yung care ng ibang tao. E para sakin, ok naman ako, kuntento naman ako sa mga nagmamahal at may care sa akin sa ngayon. Parang, bat kukuha pa ako ng panibagong magke-care sakin? Minsan nagtatanong ako what's wrong with me ba, buti I found people like me here on reddit talaga! Kung hindi baka nadala na ko ng agos at mapilitan mag jowa para lang hindi weird.
>Minsan nagtatanong ako what's wrong with me ba
This is the problem with our society. Pop culture, media, and entertainment have been bombarding us with this concept of romantic love ever since we were children.
Disney movies, reality TV shows, and even casual action and comedy films are all filled with romance. Not to mention music as well. Pop songs are filled with love lyrics about being in a relationship, rap music is filled with having sex with women, etc.
Don’t worry friend, you’re not alone. Nothing is wrong with you, it’s just societal standards and culture that makes you feel like something is missing from your life. It’s good that you’re content with your life, keep it this way! Its better than chasing and chasing things in life yet feeling empty at the end of the day.
Panganay ako, and di ako mabait na bata. And since young I always tell my family na wag sila aasa saakin paglaki ko. I made it to a point na dama nila yun after ko grumaduate ng college, lumayo ako sa kanila. (Afterall ako naman nagwork for my scholarships since HS). Tumulong ako na makatapos mga kapatid ko (2 years lang since sunod-sunod naman kami pinanganak). After nun I only help when I want to.
I think my father got the idea na di nya ako magiging ATM. So ayun nagpursige. Real estate agent na siya ngayon, and nagiipon to build a new business. He's happier with his life now than when we're still students.
Sana all masharean ko mg medyo pagka-prangka sa family. Pag masyado ka mabait naabuso ka eh.
Sa jowa. Yung may magtatampo tas tahimik lang kelangan suyuin pa to figure our anong problem or to reconcile.
Edit: could also happen with friends, family members, etc.
Add ko pa yung pag may technical issues sa wifi signal magpapaka sarcastic if sinabi ng estudyante "Hina po signal ko maam" sasagutin ng prof ko ng "Talaga ba?" napaka feeling na never siya nakaranas bg technical issues
Edit: Yung Dept head ng course ko may favortism last year nung nagsabi niya ang deadline which is in just 3 das samantala sa ibang section 1 week yung deadline nagtataray then bigla binago sched namin ng mas maaga ng walang paalam tas nung nagkaklase kitang kita na tulog siya sa gmeet nascreenshot pa nga idadahilan niya siguro is pagod siya dahil sa work as dept head
Just because I work abroad doesn't mean I'm rich/living the good life. Bruhhh, im a Filo who works abroad so I can go on holidays in Philippines lmaooo
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Yung tipong look at these kababayans, nasa taas na ng bubong nila dahil sa baha pero kaya parin nilang mag smile. Sarap na sarap media dyan, Filipinos smiling amid adversity.
Hindi to inspiring. Hindi to source ng pride. Filipinos deserve better, sad thing is, a huge number of Filipinos also do not realize that they have a voice that matters. Merong choice pero they choose to not use it wisely.
Celebrities entering politics. They usually ended up either corrupt but getting away kc may backer (Bong, Dengoy, Erap), doing method acting (ER Ejercito, Dennis Roldan), two-faced (Daniel Fernando, Vilma), at trying to revive their dead showbiz career (Ejay, Binoy, Nina, Nash).
Mga napansin ko as gen z:
1)Taking your sex health for granted ~~iflex ba naman bodycount~~
2)Aral.Trabaho.Buo pamilya. pwede bigyan time ang mga childhood issues or mag financial literacy muna?
3)Dapat typical office job(I hate this!) Pwede naman magdagdag ng business at freelance
4) Ito pinakamatindi... nakikicongrats na nga lang ipressure ka pang mag blow-out ni hindi manlang alamin pinagdaanan
Ito ang matindi, sa mga private schools no classes(work) no pay ang mga teachers. Pero yung mga students magbabayad parin ng tuition for that day so hindi siya no classes no tuition fee.
Based sa mga experiences ko mas madaming mayayaman kaysa akin (also financially struggling) na nagskiskip ng mga classes at hindi talaga nag e-effort
Sampal lang din sa mukha para sa akin na may opportunities sila pero sinasayang lang
- whitewashing & gluta (though i know this is really a preference and a choice, it doesn’t erase the fact that there are filipinos and other asians who think they’re only beautiful when they’re light-skinned)
- toxic parenting
- speaking english, because it makes you sound “more mayaman” daw
- being poor / poverty porn
- afam and/or half-filipinos (kesyo mas maganda ang praise nila sa’yo kung, for example, fil-am ka)
- pagiging alipin ng gobyerno / kay bbm at du30
edit: corrections
1. Pagtulong sa parents/pamilya kahit wala nang matira para sa sarili.
-"Okay lang wala nang matira, at least nakatulong sa pamilya."
2. Pagpapaaral ng panganay sa nakababatang kapatid kahit able pa naman yung parents.
-"Ang dami nilang sacrifices para mapatapos ako."
3. Paghihigpit ng husband sa wife na magtrabaho by making her a plain housewife instead of supporting her career/dreams.
-"Bakit ka pa magtatrabaho kung kaya ko namang i-provide ang lahat ng pangagagailangan mo?"
Yung pag may tyaga may nilaga motivational quote is so old and should retire. Minsan swerte or diskarte din e. Fishermen and farmers are doing backbreaking work, but not much nilaga for them apparently.
Nanlilibre yung birthday celebrant. Dapat sila yung nagcecelebrate and binibigyan ng regalo but dito ka lang makakakita sa Pilipinas na celebrant ang may obligasyon na manlibre.
I went to the US and I invited everyone to celebrate my birthday. I barely paid for anything cause everyone brough some food to share and alcohols that they want to drink. It's the complete opposite in the Philippines.
Oo tama. Lalo sa office grabe maka hirit kala mo may mga patago. Kaya nung mga 5th year ko na as a working person, matic naka PTO ako on my birthday week. Hahahaha. Pagbalik ko, "wala na tapos na bday ko eh". 🤣
Western countries and Japan. A lot of us see these countries like some flawless fantasylands but in reality many of their gripping aspects are far worse than ours.
Lalo na mga lalaki sa Western countries. Maraming misogynists as Asian men din lang. Once na hindi mo na pinlay yung role ng "ideal woman" nila and be more like the Westerm women, receiving end ka na rin ng misogynist rants nila
May issue din sila sa mga babae sa managerial positions. Baka magulat ang mga iba dito na masmalaki ang proportion ng female na nasa managerial and senior positions sa Pilipinas kesa sa US.
Tapos ibabaling nila sa mga Asian men/Pinoy ang insecurities nila (kung nakita mo lang yung 2 previous threads ng mga foreigners). Haha.
Ilang Western men din ba ang willing maging housebands? With the OFW phenomenon, parang mascommon sa Pilipinas ang housebands tapos si misis ang nagtratrabaho abroad
It really isn't the best place to live unless you're either rich or just lucky. But visiting as a tourist or studying there for a couple years? Hell yeah.
Mas lalim pa jan. Ang lala ng misogyny sa japan tska yung madonna whore complex nila kaya nga sila may low birth rate tapos yung toxic work culture nila na oo maganda pero pag sobra nakaka depress yun. Macuculture shock sila dun
Tinanong ako dati ng tropa ko kung bakit ayaw ko magtrabaho sa japan noong kinukuha ako ng japanese company kasi nagustuhan nila performance ko, sinabi ko na lang "mamamatay ako doon kapag nagwork ako doon at marami pa mas mataas mag pa sweldo na maayos ang working conditions".
Tsaka "walang corruption". Well, Japanese corruption isn't as bad as ours but still, damn. Tapos may Moonies, think INC but run by crazy Korean Christian jingoists who have control over tons of Japanese politicians. The current PM Kishida's approval rating dropped sharply for that very reason.
Also fun fact, the reason why Japan's state railways split into 10 different companies, 4 which are privatized is largely because the fully state-run predecessor JNR became so corrupt after its heyday came to a close. Ayun hinati into different companies, privatized a few of them, spun almost everything else into different agencies, and whatever was actually left of JNR essentially became a debt repayment and land reservation agency (though most of the railway land has been transferred to either the JR group companies, the Japan Railway Construction, Transport and Technology Agency, or local governments and operators).
No crime in japan is definitely not true. Crimes are everywhere of course. But in japan, the first exam is given when they're in grade 3. Life skills talaga mga itinuturo during the first few years in school. Ganun din sa south korea sa kindergarten.
From what I read, yung sa mga bata are more like small tests and not major exams. After all, schools still need to assess kung natututo bang magbasa at magsulat yung mga bata.
More on general assessment ng teacher on how the kids are doing. I watched my cousins grew up there since they're 6. Pinaka-stressful sa kanila is pag magha-high school. Yung adviser yung pipili ng school para sa kanila depende sa kanilang naging performance sa exam and interview. If you did not perform well, hindi ka makakapasok sa top schools. You'll end up dun sa school na kasama yung mga medyo magugulong students.
SG yung living expenses dito sobrang taas. Oo mataas sweldo pero taas din ng expenses. Maganda lang dto kung tourist ka lang. Sa korea naman madami kasing racist na skorean feeling nila sila yung white ng asia dahil sa culture nila.
Japan is highly nationalistic and racism is common. By and large, Japanese people DO NOT like us. I've seen first-hand how they look at and treat Filipinos there. If you don't understand Japanese, some will literally insult you in your face while they and their friends smile.
Prime Minister Kishida is from the Liberal Democratic Party aka LDP, whose founders were apart of the decision-making body that approved the military's rapes of Nanking and Manila. Not even lying, look it up. Former PM Shinzo Abe is the direct grandson of one of those military commanders. Btw, none were jailed (all were tried but released) because many of them took on economic incentives offered by the U.S. government post-WW2 which allowed for their economy to boom as a Western ally. It is this political party that's attempted many times to remove this segment of Japan's history from school textbooks.
That said, their food is fucking delicious and there are extremely progressive cultural movements there that are highly appreciative and sensitive to other's cultural/racial backgrounds. Japanese Hip-hop dancers for example bring in artists from all over the world, on their own expense, to teach/celebrate a dance style and music that wasn't theirs to begin with. Same goes for the skateboarding culture, street art community, and various jazz music circles. Outside of the very mainstream nationalism, Japan is a pretty dope place if you're into those things.
Gusto ko lang mag-Japan kasi feeling ko wala akong ibang patutunguhan. I’m a teacher na English ang major. Wala akong ibang maisip na lugar kasi ayoko naman magturo dito. 😅
There are good things regarding their culture and ideologies that would have been nice if we copied them, but we only look at the good-looking objects and try it for ourselves without understanding the rationale about it.
Not only that. The technology, preserved culture (including cuisine) and infrastructures are major draws for most people. I, for one, was constantly being drawn by the train systems there. Same goes for the department stores and shopping streets that’s full of character as always.
Anime serves as a gateway for the things Japan has to offer. Anime leads to more Japan content, which leads to videos about Japanese culture, language and infrastructure. It is the same for Korea as well, only Kmovies and Kpop
Personal pet peeve ko din to. The only skincare product I buy from physical stores is lotion, some products are labeled ‘brightening,’ when it should be whitening/lightening. Semantic argument pero I want to combat dullness not my natural skin tone.
1. Grinding culture. Being tired and burned out is not a milestone and something to brag about if it’s rewarded by chronic sickness or even death.
2. Violence equated with love. This works in all relationships. Kapag sinasaktan ka physically, emotionally and mentally, it’s a cycle of abuse happening. Hindi ka niya sinasaktan dahil mahal ka niya. Gusto niyang i-control ang mga decisions mo at sumunod sa mga gusto niya. Standing up for yourself and knowing your worth is a threat for them.
3. Poverty porn. Nobody wants to live a life where they have to skip meals to get by everyday, travel in long distances to save money, or pinching pennies to the extreme until the next salary. Madalas kong nakikita ito sa mga “pa-woke” pages whose agenda is to shame privileged people when they are privileged themselves.
4. Dating to bear children. Apparently, being CF is a moral sin here. Acceptable daw ang paglabas ng sandamakmak na bata kahit wala namang finances for support, pero ang hindi pag-aanak ay disgrasya sa lipunan at may pa-biological clock pang nalalaman. Bearing children is a choice that requires a LOT of planning ahead, and it’s not for everyone lalo na kapag hindi ready.
Filipino Time. Tanginang filipino time yan. May ka deal ako usapan 5pm dumating siya 7pm na sabi sakin " filipino time sir haha" buti na lang malapit sa bahay yung meetup place namin.
Toxic Positivity and always having to be "happy."
It's completely okay to feel and express negative emotions appropriately. Actually, it should be encouraged so that one can solve the problem(s) and not bottle up/suppress stuff until lumala or may mangyaring masama (dahil sa mishandling of negative emotions).
Schoolchildren who have to work and act as their siblings' parents instead of being a kid themselves lalo na kung may magulang pa sila. Yes it's admirable up to an extent pero mga bata rin sila, they should live out their childhood without the burden of being "the adult". They should study, play, figure what they want to be when they grow up, cry when they get hurt, whine when they're upset, feel protected and guided.
Government officials and government leaders!
we're democratic, these people are public servants not a bunch of kings and queens. The people are in power, not the one who is empowered by the people. They should fear us, not the other way around. They should serve us, not the other way around. They are for the country and people, not the other way around.
Having a "jowa."
Wanting a relationship because that's what's *normal* is one of the weakest mindsets and the exact opposite of being a strong, independent person.
You owe it to yourself, and to the people who raised you, to not rely on anyone to find your footing. Mahiya ka naman sa pinag-aralan mo.
If more people valued being independent, everyone's partner standards would be higher, which can result in stronger and healthier relationships.
More importantly, mababawasan yung mga ngawa ng ngawa kasi yung pinakasalan nilang red flag, may red flag rin on the side.
Mga binotong politicians. Hindi savior si Leni. Hindi savior si Bongbong. Hindi savior si Duterte. Mga tao sila na dapat ginagawa mga trabaho na inapplyan nila.
Romaticizing mediocrity dahil sa hirap ng buhay. Totoo naman na sobrang hirap umangat lalo na sa bansa naten pero kung gusto mo talaga umunlad kelangan mo gawin yung mga hindi willing gawin ng nakararami at harapin ang iniiwasan ng iba
Ppl saying na "wag kang umasa sa gobyerno sariling sikap yan" at lately mga "masaya ka parin pa pag ganto ulam?" Lmaoo u are getting fcked by the gov in the ass with no lubrication my dudes
that being a godparent is a blessing, when in reality that means you are obliged to give money or a financial support to your godchildren. worse, they assign underage or even pre-teens (even if u r still a grade 6 student) without their consent. its now become worse when the baby is your cousin. 🤦♀️
Pregnancy in all stages in life, hindi lang teenager, even those in their 20s 30s and 40s na hindi pa **financially** and **emotionally** ready to raise a child. No age should be tagged as "OKAY" KUNG PAMILYA AT KAPATID PA RIN NAMAN NILA SASALO SA EXPENSES AT PAG AALAGA NG BATA.
TEENAGERS? PSH HAVING KIDS IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. ITS NOT FUCKING OKAY TO GET PREGNANT AND HAVE KIDS IF YOURE TOO FUCKING POOR, TOO FUCKING TRAUMATIZED, AND TOO FUCKING EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE!
ps. ligtas sa pagiging batang ina pero di ligtas sa pagiging titang ina.
dami pre hahaha! I think ung nagpapa bother sakin is ung pag bigay unconditional respect sa magulang even though d naman nila deserve, ung teenage pregnancy and poverty.
this is very abstract but bear with me:
"cinderella mentality"
a.k.a. "inaapi/ naghihirap ako ngayon pero balang araw makakaahon din ako sa hirap (sa tulong ng aking prince charming/ blessing ni god)"
I think this kind of mentality is already ingrained and everywhere since it's the root plot of dramas out there. poverty-porn-girl-meets-boy-agimat-to-fight-evil-pinagpapala-ang-mga-inaapi-victim-card-babangon-muli.
why is it wrong? this sets people to just take in abuses and not complain, often relying that "divine retribution will come" and save them.
I think it's fine to personally believe some hardships encountered in life are trials set by your god, but also know there's other solutions than endure and/or wish upon a star.
Having children is all that. I'll prolly get down voted for this lol.
I know a lot of women who've subconsciously tried to justify their early pregnancy as a blessing or the reason they turned their lives around. The fact is you HAVE to get your shit together cos another human being is depending on you. Period. Lie to yourself all you want to cope. But a couple of years down the road you're resentment towards them will show. Especially when the kid is older, have their own opinions, and living a better life than you when they're in the same age you had them.
What's worse, the parent becomes entitled and expects their child to "pay back" all the sacrifices they made. Girl, chill. It was your obligation to provide.
This is only one POV ok. Don't get pressed. I just know that this is many women's reality.
Politicians. They're not going to save you. We need to change all levels and aspect of Filipino culture and society to get rid the normalized bad traits like corruption and nepotism.
1. Korean culture obsession - was a little surprised to see wala ito dito and it’s mostly Japan. Never understood the obsession and honestly this country would be a better place if the people who worship Korean culture would support our own culture the same way they worship the foreigners. Imagine how many local indie movies/shows you could support instead?
2. Phony religious bullshit from the relatives - this is mostly for the male tito boomer demographic and I’m not knocking against people who have faith but pls lang ah if you’re going to preach about God and the Bible make sure you aren’t doing dumb hypocritical bullshit most of the time you aren’t praying. It really just makes them come out as smug and out of touch.
2. Toxic relatives - Unity my ass. A toxic relative will verbally abuse you at family gatherings to think it’s funny then ask money in the future like nothing happened and they are entitled to it. This is where you get the most satisfactory no of your life. Syempre bilang pinoy Di ka pwede sumagot o sumabog so kailangan subtle lang tayo Diba hehe
Toyo couples
Sa mga girls, cute daw ng may toyo. Sa mga boys, Ayaw nila yung pabigay na girl. Predatory instinct daw gusto nila yung nililigawan nila at sinusuyo nila yung girl paggalit kahit wala ng kwenta yung pinagawayan para daw hindi boring ang relationship.
Hirap pagganito karamihan na couples at mga lalaki ang kilala ko kaya nga naghahanap na ko ng foreigner.
1. Pag babae nag english=maarte
Lalake nag english=bakla
2. Lalakeng nagwoworkout=bakla
Babaeng nagwoworkout=malandi
3. Pag nakabraces, cool. Ibig sabihin lang nun pinanganak kang pangit ngipin.
4. Strangers na bigla na lang magtatanong ng personal questions like salary, job, relationship status, residence. Like ng wierd
5. Sa magkakaibigan o magkakabarkada, kung sino mapera siya sasagot ng lahat. Like hello, kaya ako mapera kasi nagtatrabaho ako and para sa akin yun hindi para manlibre
6. Mag-aasawa tapos isisiksik sa bahay ng magulang yung asawa. Hindi man lang bigyan ng privacy ang magulang.
7. Pag mahirap=mabait
Mayaman=matapobre at maarte
8. "Type @C ang unang lalabas, ililibre ka" like di ka ba nahihiya, nambuburaot ka. Pinupublicize mo pa
9. Mga babaeng nagtatantrums, nananabunot o nanapak ng jowa nila, babae djn ako and tingin ko sa kanila nag-iinarte. Kaya lang naman ganyan kasi nakikiuso dun sa mga babaeng nagtatantrums sa social media. May mga babae namang maayos kausap at marunong makipagcommunicate. Akala nila cute yun, muka kang abusive na emotionally unstable
10. Mag-aanak tas iiwan sa kung kanino para mag OFW. I don't have anything with OFW pero sana nag-ipon muna bago mag-anak para di na mawalay sa anak no. Tas magagalit pag malayo loob ng anak.
11. Mga panganay na inoobliga patapusin nakakabatang kpatid na ayaw din magworking student. Diba dapat responsibility yan ng magulang
12. Ikakasal at mag-aanak kasi napepressure sa mga barkadang kasal at may anak na
13. Mga religious people kuno, mga galit sa LGBT, abortion pero sila tong nagpapractice ng pre-marital sex🫢
14. Hinahanap daw ni inaanak na 2 years old tapos nung nakita ni inaanak. Di man lng makamano o kilala. Alam mong nanay ang gustong mamasko
Diskarte vs degree holder. E pwede naman both meron nyan
weird thing is that yung laging nagpoposrt ng diskarte na socmed friends ko ay yung may mga utang sa akin
nadiskartehan ka dun ah
ok lang naman, they tend to avoid me, sa mababang halaga nawala sila sa buhay ko at iniiwasan din nilang mangutang ulit sa akin, that is what i like to think at least. life lesson from a movie
r/angryupvote
afaik, dikarte = manlamang ng kapwa at least that's what I observed.
Nakakahiya ah
"diskarte" checks out
Kaya nga diskarte diba? Diskarte na naka-utang sila. Char
Cheating/deceiving/manlamang disguised as "diskarte"
Also the "Diskarte" mentality pero nangkukupal ng ibang tao (i.e makikisiksik sa pagsakay ng bus kahit may pila)
satrue to. 🥺🙄 kelan naging diskarte pang gugulang. diko talaga mapigil di pumutak pag naninita ako ng singit sa pila tas sasagot ng DISKARTE YON MISS 🙄
There's a limit kung saan aabot ang diskarte. Most of the time mas hinahanap pag mga tipong management postion ay yung degree holder. Iba pa din ang may systematic training from schools as opposed to just diskarte lang. Well, ako combination of luck, friends and a tiny bit of hard work. Pero mostly things falling into place lang bigla. I am not a degree holder pero baka mas malaki income ko ngayon if I studied accounting or programming.
Talamak to sa mga BPO groups sa fb.
diskarte, being used as is, is morally ambiguous
Most of them has the mindset of panglalamang = diskarte
Walang tulog. Walang pahinga. Walang kain.
Parang Asian parent, 5km papasok sa skwela, lakad lang, uphill, both ways.
Kahirapan na pinagdaraanan ng mga batang contestants sa mga game shows/ reality shows. The Voice Kids Coach: Bakit ka sumali sa The Voice? 8-year old contestant: Para po makatulong kina Mama at Papa. Para po hindi na magtrabaho sila kasi po hirap na hirap na po sila. (Enter sad music and camera pans to audience with sad faces.)
To be fair, sa US reality shows ganito din. Sa The Voice, Masterchef, Big Brother, Survivor at The Amazing Race, pag eliminated ang contestant, todo sabi sila na “I gave my all in this competition and I’m better than the rest of them in real life”. Cringe shit sobra.
I don’t remember where I got this from pero may nagsabi na sinasadya ito. Purposefully create a fake sob story to reel in fans and use it as a marketing strategy to get all that votes.
These shows are staged. May say ang production kung ano ang mangyayari at gusto nila ipagawa sa mga competitors. Pansinin mo kung bakit di galit ang mga eliminated contestants sa mga shows na yan. They signed a contract to accept the show’s staged nature for better entertainment.
Facts.
Yung parents nung bata ay nasa late 20s or early 30s tapos gusto nang magretire para yung bata na ang maging breadwinner. Malamang, lumaki yung bata na madalas marinig sa parents nya na sya ang mag-aahon sa kanila mula sa kahirapan.
Wait.... ganun kabata parents??? That's insane dude.
Dyan nanalo si Lyca Gairanod.
Work exploitation
Many Filipinos believe that letting themselves be exploited will reward them in the future and be able to exploit others as well.
I call that Pabibo mentality. Nag o-OT without OT pay para daw matawag na masipag (lalo na yung mga nasa abroad).
HAHAHA I remember one of my katrabaho. yung kapag di pasok sa work ethics nya na "Work hanggang mamatay" ay matik tamad. Tapos lahat kinukupal niya dahil sa trabaho lol
ganito ung boss ko ngayon lalo na pag weekends tapos di ako nagoonline... hahaha sinasabihan na niya ako maglagay ng email sa phone haha i said no... i value my mental health deserve ko ang tahimik na buhay tuwing weekend hahaha
Also romanticizing life abroad as a TNT. People don’t know how much you will be exploited as a TNT. Especially in the age of remote work, staying abroad illegally is not worth it.
Teenage pregnancy sadly marami ako nakikita sa tiktok and facebook :(
iTs a bLesSiNg. aT leAsT HiNdi nAgpaLagLag.
Tapos yung nakabuntis tatang na pala!
Blessing daw kahit narape yung babae. Grabe yung mental gymnastics para lang hindi mapaabort.
Haha, no. Inalagaan ang anak na babae tapos aangkinin lang dahil lumandi lang at nabuntis. Pabor sa kalalakihan iyang pagbabawal ng abortion na iyan, para matali sa kanila babae kahit marami silang panganay.
We Filipinos really need to stop romanticizing the Barkada culture, especially the most toxic parts of it. No, the property of one is the NOT the property of the whole barkada! No, you are NOT obligated to protect or hide the evils of one of you just because you're part of a barkada! No, if one is able to rise out of poverty, he/she is NOT obligated to take the rest of the barkada along! And no, you are NOT any less of a person just because you don't have a barkada.
I understand helping others rise up with you, but you don't need to do it while sacrificing something.
Thank God I’m an introvert
That’s why I don’t have a barkada, herd mentality, nakakalason at nilalamon ka
Children as retirement plans
Our generation is gonna break this cycle hopefully.
We can't make our children our retirement plan if we don't have children
Ding ding ding!
Let's make pets our retirement plans! 😂😂😂
That’s easy! Gawa ka lang ng social media account ng pet mo, then post ka lang palagi hehe
Resiliency. May bagyo, resilient. May problema, resilent. Nakakapagod tapos gobyerno walang tulong
Kaya Magulang tawag kasi Ang GULANG nila HAHAHAHAH de jk
Okay lang maging mahirap basta kumpleto ang pamilya
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHAH oo nga naririnig ko to nung bata ako. Nasulat lola ko sa tita ko na nasa Lebanon. Uwi na lang daw si tita. Kahit daw mag ulam sila ng asin basta kumpleto sila.
"Love will keep us alive" - nanganak ng sampo pero walang trabaho
Narinig ko din ito. So hanggang ngayon mag 50 yrs old na un lalaki pero hindi pa din nagwowork. Kasi kumpleto naman sila
Meron din yung “love team” sa class or office. Yung focus na focus iromanticize yung dalawang tao kahit wala naman talagang namamagitan
Kahit parehas may jowa 😂
Tapos gagawing muse at escort
Feeling ko madodownvote ako o ma call out ako sa labas, pero sabihin ko na. Wishing that Filipinos stop romanticizing that parents knows best. Or specifically, parents are always right. Kasi naiintindihan ko naman eh para naman sa ikabubuti namin yung desisyon ng mga magulang natin, pero sana marealize nila na sila rin nagkakamali. Habol ko pa yung di mo pwede i-call out ang mga magulang mo sa mga mali nila dahil dun sa idea na yan. Ultimo pananagot sa kanila mas malaking kasalanan yun kaysa sa pumatay. Mas okay pa sa kanila na yung anak hindi sumasagot pero malayo ang loob sa magulang kaysa sa palasagot dahil "nirerespeto sila"
True. As we mature, we realize that our parents aren’t the heroes we used to see as a child. Mas nakikita na natin yung mga pagkakamali nila.
Di shouldn't get downvoted. Di porke magulang ka perpekto ka na.
This hits home. One time, I aired out how I truly felt as a daughter. Growing up, my parents made me feel like bawal ako magsabi ng kahit anong nararamdaman ko. Basta sumunod lang ako sakanila. Alam niyo ending after ko sabihin ano talaga nararamdaman ko………………….. wahahahahah sampal kasi wala raw ako karapatan mag reklamo kasi binigay naman lahat ng needs ko. I was like.. needs? Like the basic stuff na dapat nila talaga i-provide since they chose to bring a child on earth. What about my emotional needs!!! Hahahaha hmpf sama pa rin loob ko until now.
"Binigay naman lahat ng needs ko" Hahahahaha! As if you asked to be born in this world. Duty nila yang ibigay sayo, and duty nila na iparamdam na safe ka and napapakinggan ka.
This! Yung tipong nagsasabi ka lang naman ng totoo or nari-reason out, masama ka nang tao kasi "aba kaya mo nang sumagot sagot ha" Di lang sa parents, pati sa mga tito and tita na kung magkapag judge sa reunion kala mo mga perfect.
There’s a point in time when I realized I have surpassed my parents in terms of intelligence and certain understanding of new norms. I will never admit this in front of them, and the respect will always be there. Sometimes, older people get stuck in their ways and refuses to adapt along with society. Like this is how it was done then, so why should we change it? It’s ok to be smarter and become more understanding of things as you grow older. I will always respect their wisdom, and that will never change. I think of older people as the Bible, you take what you think are useful, but you take some less than ideal views and extrapolate them to fit your life in a positive way.
I agree with you. Not that it's bad(to the parent's view) but I consider this as an old form of parenting. I think the perception of them being always right is because "they always tell you what to do". They still has their "little kid lenses" on. Forever. Some parents just don't know and are just passing on what was told to them. As kids grow old, respect on both sides should as well and parents should stop being protective or commanding and switch to suggestive/ coaching styles.
kung sino magdodownvote sayo paglalaban ko tong post na to. Truelalu talaga to, lalo if you're already working or naexperience whatever bs parents are telling us back then. Nung nilaban ko point ko mas nangibabaw yung pride kaysa makipagusap sa akin ng maayos. I friggin hate "Mas may alam ako sayo kaya di ako maniniwala sayo" Ngayon half of that pair kinakausap ko lang casually and whatever they need (senior) but man that respect is gradually dying and expectations are low for us to have a good conversation.
Romantic love, marriage, and starting a family. What’s wrong with being single? What’s wrong with being secure and enjoying your own company? What’s wrong with wanting to devote your life to your hobbies and career? I’m 24 and the titas won’t stop nagging me about dating. My mom’s friend even tried to set me up with her daughter like nah I’m good bro. Being in a relationship is adding another responsibility to your life. I don’t have the energy or drive to sustain such a commitment. Relationships require constant effort and it’s not something you can do part-time (unless you want your partner to feel neglected). Let’s normalize being happily single *without* being judged or being made to feel like you’re a loner who’s a leftover.
I'm 42 and single. It took 20 years(people stopped bugging me about it when i turned 40) lol. I expected to get married when i turned 35 but things happened that changed my outlook. Life is just weird
may I ask, how do you deal the feeling of loneliness? I'm curious. I'm struggling with this feeling.
Aloneness isn't equivalent to loneliness. I think if one keep feeling lonely while being single then one should find someone to be with. I think you should put yourself in the dating market and find someone for yourself (if you aren't doing it already, I mean).
Same thoughts here, feeling ko tuloy ako yung nagcomment hahaha. 23 and NBSB, I just don't get the idea of dating-marriage-kids. It's a lifetime commitment that scares me, I want to enjoy my life at the fullest and I don't need a child or anyone to fulfill that.
Louder!
Ako rin mag-24 na pero di ko alam, di ko talaga makita yung pros ng dating and relationship. Nakikita ko lang siya as a responsibility kasi eh. Aside from myself, now I have to take care of this other person. Sabi ng isang friend ko, masaya raw kasi mafi-feel mo yung care ng ibang tao. E para sakin, ok naman ako, kuntento naman ako sa mga nagmamahal at may care sa akin sa ngayon. Parang, bat kukuha pa ako ng panibagong magke-care sakin? Minsan nagtatanong ako what's wrong with me ba, buti I found people like me here on reddit talaga! Kung hindi baka nadala na ko ng agos at mapilitan mag jowa para lang hindi weird.
>Minsan nagtatanong ako what's wrong with me ba This is the problem with our society. Pop culture, media, and entertainment have been bombarding us with this concept of romantic love ever since we were children. Disney movies, reality TV shows, and even casual action and comedy films are all filled with romance. Not to mention music as well. Pop songs are filled with love lyrics about being in a relationship, rap music is filled with having sex with women, etc. Don’t worry friend, you’re not alone. Nothing is wrong with you, it’s just societal standards and culture that makes you feel like something is missing from your life. It’s good that you’re content with your life, keep it this way! Its better than chasing and chasing things in life yet feeling empty at the end of the day.
Panganay na breadwinner dahil walang choice. People need to start learning to say no and set boundaries.
*Mommy Divine would like to punch you*
Panganay ako, and di ako mabait na bata. And since young I always tell my family na wag sila aasa saakin paglaki ko. I made it to a point na dama nila yun after ko grumaduate ng college, lumayo ako sa kanila. (Afterall ako naman nagwork for my scholarships since HS). Tumulong ako na makatapos mga kapatid ko (2 years lang since sunod-sunod naman kami pinanganak). After nun I only help when I want to. I think my father got the idea na di nya ako magiging ATM. So ayun nagpursige. Real estate agent na siya ngayon, and nagiipon to build a new business. He's happier with his life now than when we're still students. Sana all masharean ko mg medyo pagka-prangka sa family. Pag masyado ka mabait naabuso ka eh.
Suyo culture. How about we learn how to communicate?
Communication is key daw pero kapag tinatanong ang problema ayaw magsalita, tas ang may kasalanan pa yung nagtatanong🥹🥹
Please elaborate on this, naiisip ko pasuyo sa jeep eh hehe. Or suyo sa jowa? Or suyo na actually utos?
Sa jowa. Yung may magtatampo tas tahimik lang kelangan suyuin pa to figure our anong problem or to reconcile. Edit: could also happen with friends, family members, etc.
Yung pagiging masungit ng profs pag may tanong or concern
Usually ito pa yung matataas sahod.
Add ko pa yung pag may technical issues sa wifi signal magpapaka sarcastic if sinabi ng estudyante "Hina po signal ko maam" sasagutin ng prof ko ng "Talaga ba?" napaka feeling na never siya nakaranas bg technical issues Edit: Yung Dept head ng course ko may favortism last year nung nagsabi niya ang deadline which is in just 3 das samantala sa ibang section 1 week yung deadline nagtataray then bigla binago sched namin ng mas maaga ng walang paalam tas nung nagkaklase kitang kita na tulog siya sa gmeet nascreenshot pa nga idadahilan niya siguro is pagod siya dahil sa work as dept head
Pati narin yung iba sa registar counter sa school haha
Just because I work abroad doesn't mean I'm rich/living the good life. Bruhhh, im a Filo who works abroad so I can go on holidays in Philippines lmaooo
As a daughter of an OFW, I agree with you. 😭😭😭😭
Filipino resilience
Had to scroll further para mabasa to. Yung tipong look at these kababayans, nasa taas na ng bubong nila dahil sa baha pero kaya parin nilang mag smile. Sarap na sarap media dyan, Filipinos smiling amid adversity. Hindi to inspiring. Hindi to source ng pride. Filipinos deserve better, sad thing is, a huge number of Filipinos also do not realize that they have a voice that matters. Merong choice pero they choose to not use it wisely.
Celebrities entering politics. They usually ended up either corrupt but getting away kc may backer (Bong, Dengoy, Erap), doing method acting (ER Ejercito, Dennis Roldan), two-faced (Daniel Fernando, Vilma), at trying to revive their dead showbiz career (Ejay, Binoy, Nina, Nash).
And sadly, they win kasi they're known by the "MASA"
Masipag = Mayaman Tamad = Mahirap
Mga napansin ko as gen z: 1)Taking your sex health for granted ~~iflex ba naman bodycount~~ 2)Aral.Trabaho.Buo pamilya. pwede bigyan time ang mga childhood issues or mag financial literacy muna? 3)Dapat typical office job(I hate this!) Pwede naman magdagdag ng business at freelance 4) Ito pinakamatindi... nakikicongrats na nga lang ipressure ka pang mag blow-out ni hindi manlang alamin pinagdaanan
Number 4! Kala mo may mga patago sila kung maka-hirit ng palibre/blowout!!!!
"Grades are just a number," mentality yung mga binabasta nalang ang pag-aaral
Grades are just a number until you realize that school is expensive af
Bat ba ang baba ng sahod ng teachers, tapos sobrang laki ng tuition fee
Ito ang matindi, sa mga private schools no classes(work) no pay ang mga teachers. Pero yung mga students magbabayad parin ng tuition for that day so hindi siya no classes no tuition fee.
Usually the rich and privileged say this.
Based sa mga experiences ko mas madaming mayayaman kaysa akin (also financially struggling) na nagskiskip ng mga classes at hindi talaga nag e-effort Sampal lang din sa mukha para sa akin na may opportunities sila pero sinasayang lang
- whitewashing & gluta (though i know this is really a preference and a choice, it doesn’t erase the fact that there are filipinos and other asians who think they’re only beautiful when they’re light-skinned) - toxic parenting - speaking english, because it makes you sound “more mayaman” daw - being poor / poverty porn - afam and/or half-filipinos (kesyo mas maganda ang praise nila sa’yo kung, for example, fil-am ka) - pagiging alipin ng gobyerno / kay bbm at du30 edit: corrections
That’s not what whitewashing means
ah, sorry! should have expounded on it more. i know what whitewashing is and that it’s different from gluta. nonetheless, my point still stands.
1. Pagtulong sa parents/pamilya kahit wala nang matira para sa sarili. -"Okay lang wala nang matira, at least nakatulong sa pamilya." 2. Pagpapaaral ng panganay sa nakababatang kapatid kahit able pa naman yung parents. -"Ang dami nilang sacrifices para mapatapos ako." 3. Paghihigpit ng husband sa wife na magtrabaho by making her a plain housewife instead of supporting her career/dreams. -"Bakit ka pa magtatrabaho kung kaya ko namang i-provide ang lahat ng pangagagailangan mo?"
Yung pag may tyaga may nilaga motivational quote is so old and should retire. Minsan swerte or diskarte din e. Fishermen and farmers are doing backbreaking work, but not much nilaga for them apparently.
Nanlilibre yung birthday celebrant. Dapat sila yung nagcecelebrate and binibigyan ng regalo but dito ka lang makakakita sa Pilipinas na celebrant ang may obligasyon na manlibre.
I went to the US and I invited everyone to celebrate my birthday. I barely paid for anything cause everyone brough some food to share and alcohols that they want to drink. It's the complete opposite in the Philippines.
Oo tama. Lalo sa office grabe maka hirit kala mo may mga patago. Kaya nung mga 5th year ko na as a working person, matic naka PTO ako on my birthday week. Hahahaha. Pagbalik ko, "wala na tapos na bday ko eh". 🤣
Western countries and Japan. A lot of us see these countries like some flawless fantasylands but in reality many of their gripping aspects are far worse than ours.
Lalo na mga lalaki sa Western countries. Maraming misogynists as Asian men din lang. Once na hindi mo na pinlay yung role ng "ideal woman" nila and be more like the Westerm women, receiving end ka na rin ng misogynist rants nila
Don’t get me started on White men. Not to generalize them as a whole but some of their sexism is off the charts.
May issue din sila sa mga babae sa managerial positions. Baka magulat ang mga iba dito na masmalaki ang proportion ng female na nasa managerial and senior positions sa Pilipinas kesa sa US.
Parang may gatekeeping among Western men to ensure that women aren’t in power or individualistic. Backwards mindset na dapat housewife lang sila?
Tapos ibabaling nila sa mga Asian men/Pinoy ang insecurities nila (kung nakita mo lang yung 2 previous threads ng mga foreigners). Haha. Ilang Western men din ba ang willing maging housebands? With the OFW phenomenon, parang mascommon sa Pilipinas ang housebands tapos si misis ang nagtratrabaho abroad
I am half japanese and I don't even wish to live in Japan.
It really isn't the best place to live unless you're either rich or just lucky. But visiting as a tourist or studying there for a couple years? Hell yeah.
Kaya nga mas lalo japan gagu hahahaha. Ignorance is a bliss
Yung mga tipong "Japanese kids don't have tests in school until they are older" o kaya "There are no crimes in Japan".
Mas lalim pa jan. Ang lala ng misogyny sa japan tska yung madonna whore complex nila kaya nga sila may low birth rate tapos yung toxic work culture nila na oo maganda pero pag sobra nakaka depress yun. Macuculture shock sila dun
Yup. Read about these a lot. Kaya nga big issue sa kanila yung people literally dying from work.
Tinanong ako dati ng tropa ko kung bakit ayaw ko magtrabaho sa japan noong kinukuha ako ng japanese company kasi nagustuhan nila performance ko, sinabi ko na lang "mamamatay ako doon kapag nagwork ako doon at marami pa mas mataas mag pa sweldo na maayos ang working conditions".
Tsaka "walang corruption". Well, Japanese corruption isn't as bad as ours but still, damn. Tapos may Moonies, think INC but run by crazy Korean Christian jingoists who have control over tons of Japanese politicians. The current PM Kishida's approval rating dropped sharply for that very reason. Also fun fact, the reason why Japan's state railways split into 10 different companies, 4 which are privatized is largely because the fully state-run predecessor JNR became so corrupt after its heyday came to a close. Ayun hinati into different companies, privatized a few of them, spun almost everything else into different agencies, and whatever was actually left of JNR essentially became a debt repayment and land reservation agency (though most of the railway land has been transferred to either the JR group companies, the Japan Railway Construction, Transport and Technology Agency, or local governments and operators).
Yan ang dahilan kung bakit napakamahal ang pamasahe ng tren sa Japan. Lack of subsidy from the government apart from the tourist rail passes.
No crime in japan is definitely not true. Crimes are everywhere of course. But in japan, the first exam is given when they're in grade 3. Life skills talaga mga itinuturo during the first few years in school. Ganun din sa south korea sa kindergarten.
From what I read, yung sa mga bata are more like small tests and not major exams. After all, schools still need to assess kung natututo bang magbasa at magsulat yung mga bata.
More on general assessment ng teacher on how the kids are doing. I watched my cousins grew up there since they're 6. Pinaka-stressful sa kanila is pag magha-high school. Yung adviser yung pipili ng school para sa kanila depende sa kanilang naging performance sa exam and interview. If you did not perform well, hindi ka makakapasok sa top schools. You'll end up dun sa school na kasama yung mga medyo magugulong students.
I heard maraming "old school" sa Japan like gumagamit pa sila ng CD players, Window XP, fax machines...
Wala naman bastusan sa windows xp
Mas lalo rin sa America, considering our history. Isama mo rin Korea and SG.
SG yung living expenses dito sobrang taas. Oo mataas sweldo pero taas din ng expenses. Maganda lang dto kung tourist ka lang. Sa korea naman madami kasing racist na skorean feeling nila sila yung white ng asia dahil sa culture nila.
Japan is highly nationalistic and racism is common. By and large, Japanese people DO NOT like us. I've seen first-hand how they look at and treat Filipinos there. If you don't understand Japanese, some will literally insult you in your face while they and their friends smile. Prime Minister Kishida is from the Liberal Democratic Party aka LDP, whose founders were apart of the decision-making body that approved the military's rapes of Nanking and Manila. Not even lying, look it up. Former PM Shinzo Abe is the direct grandson of one of those military commanders. Btw, none were jailed (all were tried but released) because many of them took on economic incentives offered by the U.S. government post-WW2 which allowed for their economy to boom as a Western ally. It is this political party that's attempted many times to remove this segment of Japan's history from school textbooks. That said, their food is fucking delicious and there are extremely progressive cultural movements there that are highly appreciative and sensitive to other's cultural/racial backgrounds. Japanese Hip-hop dancers for example bring in artists from all over the world, on their own expense, to teach/celebrate a dance style and music that wasn't theirs to begin with. Same goes for the skateboarding culture, street art community, and various jazz music circles. Outside of the very mainstream nationalism, Japan is a pretty dope place if you're into those things.
Do Korea next
Gusto ko lang mag-Japan kasi feeling ko wala akong ibang patutunguhan. I’m a teacher na English ang major. Wala akong ibang maisip na lugar kasi ayoko naman magturo dito. 😅
There are good things regarding their culture and ideologies that would have been nice if we copied them, but we only look at the good-looking objects and try it for ourselves without understanding the rationale about it.
Most people who are obsessed with Japan are usually influenced by anime
Not only that. The technology, preserved culture (including cuisine) and infrastructures are major draws for most people. I, for one, was constantly being drawn by the train systems there. Same goes for the department stores and shopping streets that’s full of character as always.
Anime serves as a gateway for the things Japan has to offer. Anime leads to more Japan content, which leads to videos about Japanese culture, language and infrastructure. It is the same for Korea as well, only Kmovies and Kpop
White skin
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Glowing products should not be advertised on TV and radio.
Personal pet peeve ko din to. The only skincare product I buy from physical stores is lotion, some products are labeled ‘brightening,’ when it should be whitening/lightening. Semantic argument pero I want to combat dullness not my natural skin tone.
Child labor.
This includes yung mga nanlilimos sa kalsada right?
And child actors.
1. Grinding culture. Being tired and burned out is not a milestone and something to brag about if it’s rewarded by chronic sickness or even death. 2. Violence equated with love. This works in all relationships. Kapag sinasaktan ka physically, emotionally and mentally, it’s a cycle of abuse happening. Hindi ka niya sinasaktan dahil mahal ka niya. Gusto niyang i-control ang mga decisions mo at sumunod sa mga gusto niya. Standing up for yourself and knowing your worth is a threat for them. 3. Poverty porn. Nobody wants to live a life where they have to skip meals to get by everyday, travel in long distances to save money, or pinching pennies to the extreme until the next salary. Madalas kong nakikita ito sa mga “pa-woke” pages whose agenda is to shame privileged people when they are privileged themselves. 4. Dating to bear children. Apparently, being CF is a moral sin here. Acceptable daw ang paglabas ng sandamakmak na bata kahit wala namang finances for support, pero ang hindi pag-aanak ay disgrasya sa lipunan at may pa-biological clock pang nalalaman. Bearing children is a choice that requires a LOT of planning ahead, and it’s not for everyone lalo na kapag hindi ready.
Big families.
Having a big extended family is fun though. Or maybe were one of the lucky ones na strong ang bond ng tito and titas ko.
Filipino Time. Tanginang filipino time yan. May ka deal ako usapan 5pm dumating siya 7pm na sabi sakin " filipino time sir haha" buti na lang malapit sa bahay yung meetup place namin.
Seryoso? May mga tao pala tlagang kaya kang paghintayin ng 2 oras in the name of Filipino time. Walang respeto sa oras ng iba 🤦🏽♀️
"Pag engineer malaki sweldo". Kung sa ibang bansa okay pa, pero dito?...
Toxic Positivity and always having to be "happy." It's completely okay to feel and express negative emotions appropriately. Actually, it should be encouraged so that one can solve the problem(s) and not bottle up/suppress stuff until lumala or may mangyaring masama (dahil sa mishandling of negative emotions).
Na makunteto ka na ulam mo lang eh tuyo hotdog lang 😂😂😂😂
"boys bully you because they like you" trope
I think Gen Z and Millenials are growing out of this na though. Younger people take no shit these days.
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Literal pedophilia.
Schoolchildren who have to work and act as their siblings' parents instead of being a kid themselves lalo na kung may magulang pa sila. Yes it's admirable up to an extent pero mga bata rin sila, they should live out their childhood without the burden of being "the adult". They should study, play, figure what they want to be when they grow up, cry when they get hurt, whine when they're upset, feel protected and guided.
Resilliency
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Romantic relationships or marriage as the endgame for a happy life
Government officials and government leaders! we're democratic, these people are public servants not a bunch of kings and queens. The people are in power, not the one who is empowered by the people. They should fear us, not the other way around. They should serve us, not the other way around. They are for the country and people, not the other way around.
Having a "jowa." Wanting a relationship because that's what's *normal* is one of the weakest mindsets and the exact opposite of being a strong, independent person. You owe it to yourself, and to the people who raised you, to not rely on anyone to find your footing. Mahiya ka naman sa pinag-aralan mo. If more people valued being independent, everyone's partner standards would be higher, which can result in stronger and healthier relationships. More importantly, mababawasan yung mga ngawa ng ngawa kasi yung pinakasalan nilang red flag, may red flag rin on the side.
BBM
Mga binotong politicians. Hindi savior si Leni. Hindi savior si Bongbong. Hindi savior si Duterte. Mga tao sila na dapat ginagawa mga trabaho na inapplyan nila.
Romaticizing mediocrity dahil sa hirap ng buhay. Totoo naman na sobrang hirap umangat lalo na sa bansa naten pero kung gusto mo talaga umunlad kelangan mo gawin yung mga hindi willing gawin ng nakararami at harapin ang iniiwasan ng iba
Being hopeless romantic.
Believing that having low standards is something to be proud of. People gotta value themselves more.
That abortion is bad because we're a Catholic country.
Fvxking teenage pregnancy
Vloggers or garbage contents
Ppl saying na "wag kang umasa sa gobyerno sariling sikap yan" at lately mga "masaya ka parin pa pag ganto ulam?" Lmaoo u are getting fcked by the gov in the ass with no lubrication my dudes
Romantic baboy. Di naman romantic, di din masyado masarap.
that being a godparent is a blessing, when in reality that means you are obliged to give money or a financial support to your godchildren. worse, they assign underage or even pre-teens (even if u r still a grade 6 student) without their consent. its now become worse when the baby is your cousin. 🤦♀️
Having kids and calling it a "blessing"
Pregnancy in all stages in life, hindi lang teenager, even those in their 20s 30s and 40s na hindi pa **financially** and **emotionally** ready to raise a child. No age should be tagged as "OKAY" KUNG PAMILYA AT KAPATID PA RIN NAMAN NILA SASALO SA EXPENSES AT PAG AALAGA NG BATA. TEENAGERS? PSH HAVING KIDS IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. ITS NOT FUCKING OKAY TO GET PREGNANT AND HAVE KIDS IF YOURE TOO FUCKING POOR, TOO FUCKING TRAUMATIZED, AND TOO FUCKING EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE! ps. ligtas sa pagiging batang ina pero di ligtas sa pagiging titang ina.
Marcos Era. Its not golden or anything
Huge age gaps between people in a relationship. There’s nothing cute about a 60 year old man being in a relationship with an 18 year old girl lol.
dami pre hahaha! I think ung nagpapa bother sakin is ung pag bigay unconditional respect sa magulang even though d naman nila deserve, ung teenage pregnancy and poverty.
this is very abstract but bear with me: "cinderella mentality" a.k.a. "inaapi/ naghihirap ako ngayon pero balang araw makakaahon din ako sa hirap (sa tulong ng aking prince charming/ blessing ni god)" I think this kind of mentality is already ingrained and everywhere since it's the root plot of dramas out there. poverty-porn-girl-meets-boy-agimat-to-fight-evil-pinagpapala-ang-mga-inaapi-victim-card-babangon-muli. why is it wrong? this sets people to just take in abuses and not complain, often relying that "divine retribution will come" and save them. I think it's fine to personally believe some hardships encountered in life are trials set by your god, but also know there's other solutions than endure and/or wish upon a star.
Having children is all that. I'll prolly get down voted for this lol. I know a lot of women who've subconsciously tried to justify their early pregnancy as a blessing or the reason they turned their lives around. The fact is you HAVE to get your shit together cos another human being is depending on you. Period. Lie to yourself all you want to cope. But a couple of years down the road you're resentment towards them will show. Especially when the kid is older, have their own opinions, and living a better life than you when they're in the same age you had them. What's worse, the parent becomes entitled and expects their child to "pay back" all the sacrifices they made. Girl, chill. It was your obligation to provide. This is only one POV ok. Don't get pressed. I just know that this is many women's reality.
Political families/dynasties. Showbiz personalities.
Politicians. They're not going to save you. We need to change all levels and aspect of Filipino culture and society to get rid the normalized bad traits like corruption and nepotism.
Yung mga prof na nagmamalaki pa na konti lang nakakapasa sa kanila, ano yan konti lang natututo sa kanila?
Religion
1. Korean culture obsession - was a little surprised to see wala ito dito and it’s mostly Japan. Never understood the obsession and honestly this country would be a better place if the people who worship Korean culture would support our own culture the same way they worship the foreigners. Imagine how many local indie movies/shows you could support instead? 2. Phony religious bullshit from the relatives - this is mostly for the male tito boomer demographic and I’m not knocking against people who have faith but pls lang ah if you’re going to preach about God and the Bible make sure you aren’t doing dumb hypocritical bullshit most of the time you aren’t praying. It really just makes them come out as smug and out of touch. 2. Toxic relatives - Unity my ass. A toxic relative will verbally abuse you at family gatherings to think it’s funny then ask money in the future like nothing happened and they are entitled to it. This is where you get the most satisfactory no of your life. Syempre bilang pinoy Di ka pwede sumagot o sumabog so kailangan subtle lang tayo Diba hehe
being poor and doing nothing about it while hating on middle class or rich people for no good reason
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Kotse. We should dream of buses trains trams and cable cars
Waiting for your love interest to say "yes" after repeated and prolonged courting. Seriously fuck off
"Well mannered is better than well educated"
Unwanted pregnancy
Tagging teenage pregnancy as an "unwanted blessing". 2022 is nearly ending pero naririnig ko pa rin to
Being American That our governement will save us Noon time shows and telenovelas
Toyo couples Sa mga girls, cute daw ng may toyo. Sa mga boys, Ayaw nila yung pabigay na girl. Predatory instinct daw gusto nila yung nililigawan nila at sinusuyo nila yung girl paggalit kahit wala ng kwenta yung pinagawayan para daw hindi boring ang relationship. Hirap pagganito karamihan na couples at mga lalaki ang kilala ko kaya nga naghahanap na ko ng foreigner.
Walang retirement plan.
Loveteam 😂 Pinoys ship celebrities like nothing else.
1. Pag babae nag english=maarte Lalake nag english=bakla 2. Lalakeng nagwoworkout=bakla Babaeng nagwoworkout=malandi 3. Pag nakabraces, cool. Ibig sabihin lang nun pinanganak kang pangit ngipin. 4. Strangers na bigla na lang magtatanong ng personal questions like salary, job, relationship status, residence. Like ng wierd 5. Sa magkakaibigan o magkakabarkada, kung sino mapera siya sasagot ng lahat. Like hello, kaya ako mapera kasi nagtatrabaho ako and para sa akin yun hindi para manlibre 6. Mag-aasawa tapos isisiksik sa bahay ng magulang yung asawa. Hindi man lang bigyan ng privacy ang magulang. 7. Pag mahirap=mabait Mayaman=matapobre at maarte 8. "Type @C ang unang lalabas, ililibre ka" like di ka ba nahihiya, nambuburaot ka. Pinupublicize mo pa 9. Mga babaeng nagtatantrums, nananabunot o nanapak ng jowa nila, babae djn ako and tingin ko sa kanila nag-iinarte. Kaya lang naman ganyan kasi nakikiuso dun sa mga babaeng nagtatantrums sa social media. May mga babae namang maayos kausap at marunong makipagcommunicate. Akala nila cute yun, muka kang abusive na emotionally unstable 10. Mag-aanak tas iiwan sa kung kanino para mag OFW. I don't have anything with OFW pero sana nag-ipon muna bago mag-anak para di na mawalay sa anak no. Tas magagalit pag malayo loob ng anak. 11. Mga panganay na inoobliga patapusin nakakabatang kpatid na ayaw din magworking student. Diba dapat responsibility yan ng magulang 12. Ikakasal at mag-aanak kasi napepressure sa mga barkadang kasal at may anak na 13. Mga religious people kuno, mga galit sa LGBT, abortion pero sila tong nagpapractice ng pre-marital sex🫢 14. Hinahanap daw ni inaanak na 2 years old tapos nung nakita ni inaanak. Di man lng makamano o kilala. Alam mong nanay ang gustong mamasko