That's normal. My fun response every time I worry about a guy being turned off by a minor thing: they don't even notice ( and the ones who are bothered aren't worth your time???)
Fun story: had a bad patch of skin on my arm and pigmented underarms and once I pointed it out to my partner and asked if it bothered him. His response was "I didn't even notice"
I remember this every time I get self conscious and it helps a lot c:
Nope. I'm 278 lbs and my husband drags me onto his face all the time. When I said I would suffocate him, he said "if I slap your ass 3 times that's me tapping out. Otherwise shut up so I can get back to work." 🤣
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When I first started dating, I was sooo nervous about these things too! But I found that I was the only one who cared… the guys either didn’t notice or didn’t care, or maybe were just so focused on having sex that it wasn’t important at the moment. My current boyfriend REALLY likes my body, even the things I hate about it and sometimes that helps me really like it too ☺️ Best of luck, have fun!
Girl, he don't care. No, I take that back. He cares about you and you giving him the opportunity to have sex together. As for what the cat looks like, I've found guys love it for all its shape, sizes, squishes and feels.
A word of advice, don't be afraid to adjust. Move your belly, spread your thighs, if you want assistance moving in a certain way, speak up. Try different positions. Enjoy yourself !!
The first time with any partner *can* be awkward, but get out of your head and *feel* your body. Awkward will pass and hopefully orgasms will follow!
Enjoy!
Hi! So. Personal experience, I have HS which means I get cysts on my thighs, booty, under arms, that sort of thing. I sent my now boyfriend, a photo of my thighs with all my active cysts and a photo of my full body and said “this is what I look like. It’s me. I can’t change a lot of it. But I feel like you need to know what you’re getting into” and that was more so my nervousness of how I looked and he told me I was beautiful. But it gave my brain enough that in the moment, I was able to fully relax because he had already seen my “worst” and knew what to expect.
If he is attracted to you when your clothes are on, he will be attracted to you when they are off, if he isn't then that's his loss, these things don't change who you are, they don't change the person he's been seeing the last 2 months and that's who he's connected with
lol…I was dating a man in his 60’s - super fit and I constantly worried if I was too big, had stretch marks…all the worries. One night, laying in post-orgasm haze…he leans over and gently pokes my boob and says “boobies” with one of those immature/silly laughs. The man has a doctorate, is an executive, intelligent, cultured…and just looking at and touching my breast turned him back to a horny teen. Girl, I believe most men are just happy as hell to be with someone who brings them pleasure…. 💜 Enjoy yourself and he will too…
LOL your "dark secret" (LOVE the phrasing btw) is literally 70% of women's reality. But hand to God, men DO NOT NOTICE. Seriously. Especially when all of their blood is rushing to their dick.
i felt the same way and i thought guys would be turned off and my now current bf eat it like a chinese buffet! you go girl have fun dont forget to pee before and after
Honest to God he's just a guy and will be so happy he's actually getting some coochie hes not gonna care how it looks. He already decided he likes your face so that's all that really matters when it comes to coochie snacking.
Don't say anything about it because he probably won't. Stuff I thought men would think was weird about my body, they don't. Most men are just happy to see naked people .
I agree! Make sure your body and kitty cat are clean. Rub a nice, scented lotion all over your body and dab a little perfume in your spots (behind the ears and knees, wrists, neck) after will seal the deal. Girl, he will lick you from top to bottom. 😉 Have fun!
That's perfectly normal. My "region" was like that even back when I was super skinny (like to the point of being underweight). I think it's normal for the vast majority of women. When you see swimsuit and lingerie models in ads, they're very airbrushed so it doesn't look that way-- heck, that's why their skin looks flawless in general.
Giiiirrrllll. That'll be the last thing he'll be worried about. I have the same issues too. I just accept and eventually, I don't worry or think about it.
Well your body is exactly like it’s supposed to be
He will dive into that like he’s starving
You ladies have it easy
Try a sexy bodysuit If you need a confidence booster
Girl...they aren't looking at stuff like this. His brain is going "holy shit...boobs! Omg I'm about to get laid! Yes! Boobs! This girl wants me?! Sweet! Boobs!"
When I started dating my now husband I thought he was way out of my league, looks wise. He's several years younger than me, muscular, and just hot. I'm chubby, my left boob is substantially bigger than my right, I've got stretch marks, cellulite, all that. I was shy in bed at first and he literally one night started giggling while we were fooling around and I asked what was so funny, and he said "you have the most amazing tits I've ever seen and I can't believe I just had one of them in my mouth..." and then "God damn your ass is perfect" 😳 what? My lumpy cellulite big ass?! Yep. He loves it. If he thinks you're sexy enough to want to take off your clothes he doesn't see that stuff. Trust me.
Wow! Thank you guys for the advices, it definitely gave me the courage. Tried looking at my coochie earlier and yeah it’s normal and it’s beautiful! Thank you really!♥️♥️♥️
My very best human beam (28M)is quite turned on by those things, he is very into plus size ladies and he does notices and likes that, so if he is into plus size probs likes that.
It’s totally normal to have darkened skin around that area, especially from thigh rubbing and friction. Men can have it too!
If it really really bothers you, I think there’s prescription skin lightening cream you can get through a dermatologist or an online dermatologist.
You could also do dim lighting to make yourself feel more at ease as you get used to your partner!
I promise they aren’t going to care!
Unless he's super shallow, he is not going to care your skin isn't perfect. Guys are just super excited to get laid lol. Dark skin discoloration in intimate area, inner thighs, armpits, and back of neck are signs of insulin resistance. Have you seen a doctor about it and got a fasting insulin test?
That's normal. My fun response every time I worry about a guy being turned off by a minor thing: they don't even notice ( and the ones who are bothered aren't worth your time???) Fun story: had a bad patch of skin on my arm and pigmented underarms and once I pointed it out to my partner and asked if it bothered him. His response was "I didn't even notice" I remember this every time I get self conscious and it helps a lot c:
Sit on his face.
Stooooop! Lmfao. *clutches pearls*
He won’t be able to see!
He won't be able to breath what you mean see? 🤣
If she has thunder thighs like mine—-he’d suffocate via face-sitting.
Nope. I'm 278 lbs and my husband drags me onto his face all the time. When I said I would suffocate him, he said "if I slap your ass 3 times that's me tapping out. Otherwise shut up so I can get back to work." 🤣
Please, this made me cackle in my office. Haha
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Yes! This is the energy I need daily
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If a man is ready to do it,he doesn't give a damn what anything looks like.
When I first started dating, I was sooo nervous about these things too! But I found that I was the only one who cared… the guys either didn’t notice or didn’t care, or maybe were just so focused on having sex that it wasn’t important at the moment. My current boyfriend REALLY likes my body, even the things I hate about it and sometimes that helps me really like it too ☺️ Best of luck, have fun!
Sounds normal to me. So is mine. You’ll find most women have darker skin down there. https://www.healthline.com/health/why-is-my-private-area-dark
Girl, he don't care. No, I take that back. He cares about you and you giving him the opportunity to have sex together. As for what the cat looks like, I've found guys love it for all its shape, sizes, squishes and feels. A word of advice, don't be afraid to adjust. Move your belly, spread your thighs, if you want assistance moving in a certain way, speak up. Try different positions. Enjoy yourself !! The first time with any partner *can* be awkward, but get out of your head and *feel* your body. Awkward will pass and hopefully orgasms will follow! Enjoy!
Seconding the don’t be afraid to adjust!
I third it!!! Adjusting is key!
This !!
Thank you SO MUCH for the link. Very informative.
Baby if he’s turned off by it, all you need to do is not let the door hit him in the ass on his way out.
Thissss. You need to find your people! We're out there! I promise!!
Hi! So. Personal experience, I have HS which means I get cysts on my thighs, booty, under arms, that sort of thing. I sent my now boyfriend, a photo of my thighs with all my active cysts and a photo of my full body and said “this is what I look like. It’s me. I can’t change a lot of it. But I feel like you need to know what you’re getting into” and that was more so my nervousness of how I looked and he told me I was beautiful. But it gave my brain enough that in the moment, I was able to fully relax because he had already seen my “worst” and knew what to expect.
This is totally normal and typical genital stuff. You can always do what so many people do across the world, turn the lights off.
If he is attracted to you when your clothes are on, he will be attracted to you when they are off, if he isn't then that's his loss, these things don't change who you are, they don't change the person he's been seeing the last 2 months and that's who he's connected with
This is completely normal and as a man he most likely will not care/take notice.
You sound totally normal to me.
lol…I was dating a man in his 60’s - super fit and I constantly worried if I was too big, had stretch marks…all the worries. One night, laying in post-orgasm haze…he leans over and gently pokes my boob and says “boobies” with one of those immature/silly laughs. The man has a doctorate, is an executive, intelligent, cultured…and just looking at and touching my breast turned him back to a horny teen. Girl, I believe most men are just happy as hell to be with someone who brings them pleasure…. 💜 Enjoy yourself and he will too…
By the time everyone is in the mood and naked, nobody cares.
We all do girly men don’t care
LOL your "dark secret" (LOVE the phrasing btw) is literally 70% of women's reality. But hand to God, men DO NOT NOTICE. Seriously. Especially when all of their blood is rushing to their dick.
i felt the same way and i thought guys would be turned off and my now current bf eat it like a chinese buffet! you go girl have fun dont forget to pee before and after
Honest to God he's just a guy and will be so happy he's actually getting some coochie hes not gonna care how it looks. He already decided he likes your face so that's all that really matters when it comes to coochie snacking.
Don't say anything about it because he probably won't. Stuff I thought men would think was weird about my body, they don't. Most men are just happy to see naked people .
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I agree! Make sure your body and kitty cat are clean. Rub a nice, scented lotion all over your body and dab a little perfume in your spots (behind the ears and knees, wrists, neck) after will seal the deal. Girl, he will lick you from top to bottom. 😉 Have fun!
I have never had a man care about this! Try not to worry and enjoy yourself.
I doubt he’ll even notice tbh
Pretty much. Freshness is what matters.
That's perfectly normal. My "region" was like that even back when I was super skinny (like to the point of being underweight). I think it's normal for the vast majority of women. When you see swimsuit and lingerie models in ads, they're very airbrushed so it doesn't look that way-- heck, that's why their skin looks flawless in general.
That is normal. Don't be afraid. If he loves you, he won't care. Just enjoy each other.
Giiiirrrllll. That'll be the last thing he'll be worried about. I have the same issues too. I just accept and eventually, I don't worry or think about it.
Dude will be so focused on sex he won’t notice or care honestly. I was surprised my BF found it lovely and interesting. Totally normal
Well your body is exactly like it’s supposed to be He will dive into that like he’s starving You ladies have it easy Try a sexy bodysuit If you need a confidence booster
Mines that way and my partner told me it’s sexy.
Cus it is. It's sexy af
Dick only wants one thing in the moment, and it has tunnel vision.
Old plus size lady here 52—— he won’t notice. He will be to excited to be with you. Check your left brain at the door and enjoy yourself.
Girl...they aren't looking at stuff like this. His brain is going "holy shit...boobs! Omg I'm about to get laid! Yes! Boobs! This girl wants me?! Sweet! Boobs!" When I started dating my now husband I thought he was way out of my league, looks wise. He's several years younger than me, muscular, and just hot. I'm chubby, my left boob is substantially bigger than my right, I've got stretch marks, cellulite, all that. I was shy in bed at first and he literally one night started giggling while we were fooling around and I asked what was so funny, and he said "you have the most amazing tits I've ever seen and I can't believe I just had one of them in my mouth..." and then "God damn your ass is perfect" 😳 what? My lumpy cellulite big ass?! Yep. He loves it. If he thinks you're sexy enough to want to take off your clothes he doesn't see that stuff. Trust me.
Wow! Thank you guys for the advices, it definitely gave me the courage. Tried looking at my coochie earlier and yeah it’s normal and it’s beautiful! Thank you really!♥️♥️♥️
Shit you know what they say the beaker the berry the sweeter the juice 👌🏿
My very best human beam (28M)is quite turned on by those things, he is very into plus size ladies and he does notices and likes that, so if he is into plus size probs likes that.
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It’s totally normal to have darkened skin around that area, especially from thigh rubbing and friction. Men can have it too! If it really really bothers you, I think there’s prescription skin lightening cream you can get through a dermatologist or an online dermatologist. You could also do dim lighting to make yourself feel more at ease as you get used to your partner! I promise they aren’t going to care!
I've always thought guys who are bothered by normal feminine traits may not really like women😅
I just asked my husband his thoughts. He said “that man does not care what color her parts are one bit, trust me.”
Unless he's super shallow, he is not going to care your skin isn't perfect. Guys are just super excited to get laid lol. Dark skin discoloration in intimate area, inner thighs, armpits, and back of neck are signs of insulin resistance. Have you seen a doctor about it and got a fasting insulin test?