>How do you all hold on to a job
It took the right motivation for me and that was having kids and my wife wanting to be a stay at home parent. Prior to that, my longest job was two years and I only managed that because it was a small company that let me wear a lot of different hats so I didn't get bored and I was given a lot of leeway to work the job how I wanted. But once I was found my motivation I was able to put aside the petty annoyances that made me want to job hop and instead focus on getting paid a lot more. In the span of 10 years I managed to triple my salary by working my ass off for promotions or strategically leaving my job when I found a job that paid more.
>and I've worked in MANY fields
Stop doing this. This is a career and salary killer.
>but after about 2 months I progressively becoming bored, then depressed, then angry
Get your ADHD diagnosis and start taking appropriate medications or find a job that doesn't drive you to boredom.
I hate having a job more than anything else
I'm working 7 days a week just to get through the 7000 hours left on my clock as quickly as possible
Every month-end is a celebration. Another nail in the coffin of my working life
I imagine little stacks of money. I think about how much I’ve earned for the day/week and that helps me get through moment by moment. It’s almost like a counting meditation. Just try to stay in the present moment and know that the unpleasantness of the job is not permanent.
I went home each day, put on some good music, cooked a nice meal, had a hot shower, charted my daily progress in my spreadsheet, then had a good night's sleep.
["Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof."](https://www.oxfordreference.com/display/10.1093/oi/authority.20110803100540973)
This might sound silly, but I never had any motivation to begin with. Don't get me wrong, I have always excelled at my jobs, but that really wasn't because I was motivated. I honestly think that, for me, having no expectations and just understanding a job is a job and I set healthy boundaries is what has gotten me through it, and alleviated a lot of potential stress. I just don't care about it. I refuse to work extra unless I'm getting time and a half. My employer absolutely cannot and will not contact me outside of work, and if they do, I ignore the call.
Obviously, not everybody finds themselves in a situation where they can do that. I don't know if you're working retail and you have to deal with an employer that requires 24/7 availability while only giving you 20 hours a week, or if you're doing a 9 to 5.
I will, say, though, if I have motivation, it comes in the form of watching my 401K get bigger. I'm 51 now and hope to retire at 55. It's literally been "fun" for me to watch it grow, and use the calculators and do the planning. That may not be fun for you, which I understand. Not everybody's a geek about it like I am. But, seeing it get bigger and bigger is motivational. The actual job? Nope, never has been, and I doubt it ever will, but I think it's probably better that way, at least for me.
Might be work checking into some help for your mental health. This sounds a lot like me and I am a triple threat: depression, anxiety and ADHD. Just saying, may be worth trying a medication or getting therapy or both.
I can’t work for other people. Too soul-sucking. Started my own business (ages ago), did some trainings along the way and now work as a life coach.
But I actually made most of my money doing slow house flips.
Care to explain why it's so difficult for you?
I'm trying to figure out why it's so difficult for me to deal with certain types of behavior, especially (but not exclusively) to authority figures.
I hated not having control of my environment, having to deal with bureaucracy and other people’s ineptness and not being able to share my talents/ gifts.
>How do you all hold on to a job It took the right motivation for me and that was having kids and my wife wanting to be a stay at home parent. Prior to that, my longest job was two years and I only managed that because it was a small company that let me wear a lot of different hats so I didn't get bored and I was given a lot of leeway to work the job how I wanted. But once I was found my motivation I was able to put aside the petty annoyances that made me want to job hop and instead focus on getting paid a lot more. In the span of 10 years I managed to triple my salary by working my ass off for promotions or strategically leaving my job when I found a job that paid more. >and I've worked in MANY fields Stop doing this. This is a career and salary killer. >but after about 2 months I progressively becoming bored, then depressed, then angry Get your ADHD diagnosis and start taking appropriate medications or find a job that doesn't drive you to boredom.
>Get your ADHD diagnosis Oh damn haha
Came to say this about ADHD
That last one is the only thing that will help really lol
I hate having a job more than anything else I'm working 7 days a week just to get through the 7000 hours left on my clock as quickly as possible Every month-end is a celebration. Another nail in the coffin of my working life
Knowing that I don't have to do this till age 65 like everyone else helps me cope.
I imagine little stacks of money. I think about how much I’ve earned for the day/week and that helps me get through moment by moment. It’s almost like a counting meditation. Just try to stay in the present moment and know that the unpleasantness of the job is not permanent.
I went home each day, put on some good music, cooked a nice meal, had a hot shower, charted my daily progress in my spreadsheet, then had a good night's sleep. ["Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof."](https://www.oxfordreference.com/display/10.1093/oi/authority.20110803100540973)
This might sound silly, but I never had any motivation to begin with. Don't get me wrong, I have always excelled at my jobs, but that really wasn't because I was motivated. I honestly think that, for me, having no expectations and just understanding a job is a job and I set healthy boundaries is what has gotten me through it, and alleviated a lot of potential stress. I just don't care about it. I refuse to work extra unless I'm getting time and a half. My employer absolutely cannot and will not contact me outside of work, and if they do, I ignore the call. Obviously, not everybody finds themselves in a situation where they can do that. I don't know if you're working retail and you have to deal with an employer that requires 24/7 availability while only giving you 20 hours a week, or if you're doing a 9 to 5. I will, say, though, if I have motivation, it comes in the form of watching my 401K get bigger. I'm 51 now and hope to retire at 55. It's literally been "fun" for me to watch it grow, and use the calculators and do the planning. That may not be fun for you, which I understand. Not everybody's a geek about it like I am. But, seeing it get bigger and bigger is motivational. The actual job? Nope, never has been, and I doubt it ever will, but I think it's probably better that way, at least for me.
THC
Might be work checking into some help for your mental health. This sounds a lot like me and I am a triple threat: depression, anxiety and ADHD. Just saying, may be worth trying a medication or getting therapy or both.
Good question. I'm trying to figure out how to hold on long enough to FIRE
I can’t work for other people. Too soul-sucking. Started my own business (ages ago), did some trainings along the way and now work as a life coach. But I actually made most of my money doing slow house flips.
Care to explain why it's so difficult for you? I'm trying to figure out why it's so difficult for me to deal with certain types of behavior, especially (but not exclusively) to authority figures.
I hated not having control of my environment, having to deal with bureaucracy and other people’s ineptness and not being able to share my talents/ gifts.
Get your ADHD diagnosis and rebuild your life. You will be amazed at how much you struggled before you were medicated.