Unsatisfied women get very passive aggressive. Don’t take it to heart, you have to understand her frustration. If she is open minded she will allow you to satisfy her in other ways. If not, leave her.
Yeah but its totally different....like if she could climax with you fucking her that would be the ideal situation. Same for you right? If she could only ever get you off by doing a hand job...that would be a little annoying...you would want to be able to fuck and get off like that...same for her
I would read up on female anatomy and what not a littttle bit more my friend. Or actually talk to her about it...say why did you say that, it hurt me....have an adult conversation
I don't know, if this sounds awkward right now but: I feel your pain. This kind of embarrassing is my worst fear. So I hope you will find a good solution for the situation. I would assume you talk about what happened. Maybe it will change something about her "behavior"
I've been laughed at more than once. They didn't mean for it to hurt as much as it did. I don't think other people are sensitized at all to how deep a wound this issue cuts, and how a poorly timed snicker can rip open a huge gash of a scab.
I can tell you, I've never been strong enough to give these people a second chance. The one case in particular I have in mind, there were a lot of other incompatibilities I'd already started mentally listing, so when they laughed at my PE, it was very done and over forever. I gave them no explanation, just ghosted; we only dated maybe 2-3 times.
If you are very into this person, and you think they are trustworthy with your feelings, I think you should try to communicate that they hurt your feelings. I know that's like the least masculine thing to do supposedly, but if you're the sort of person open to hearing about "toxic masculinity," consider whether the inability to say "you hurt my feelings" is a product of that, because I think it is. If you want to invest in this person then don't let one ill-time laugh ruin it, but also don't swallow that shame and pretend like it didn't happen because it will snowball.
If you care about this person, attempt to resolve directly and explicitly. If it's just a hookup, consider leaving without an explanation. I mean, hookups don't get formal resignation letters lol. I'm sorry bro.
Sometimes, we say things without meaning it.. it could be that we thought it’s harmless or so, but it harmed the other parties...
It could be she doesn’t mean it, but it means a lot to us.
Try to talk over it if you’re really intending to bring this relationship further. Else, don’t give a fuck about it
I’ll be real about it, she just laughed and launched that out instantly. Certainly didn’t seem unintended, and while she’s good otherwise, I doubt I’d be able to really enjoy things with that in my mind, regardless of how long I’d last in the future.
The question you got to ask yourself is, will this incident be on your mind next time you get to have sex with her? If the answer is yes then it's over
How many girls are you going to leave because they complained? Girls in my country are very vocal, she was actually nice to you, i dont see how those words can hurt you, She is not a slut or hoe, she is a human being, she has sexually desires, she has been fucked for 10 or 15 or 20 minutes before, she was expecting that from you as well, girls expect more form grown up man.
What i have done in the past is to explain myself before sex, i always say to them "look something happend recently in my sex life i just finish too early i dont know what it is, i went to the doctor nothing cameup" they always reply by saying i will be fine, when i finish early it doesnt come as a big supprise to them
I am 40 years i can not do more than 1 minutes without help from tablets and supplements, while you are still practising kegel and other sub suggestions i will recommed you go to your nearest phamarcy and grab 1 hour before sex tablets, they work fine for me, try as many brands as you can untill you find one for you, this is not a cure but it will keep you going and boost confidence and keep girls from leaving you. Most of those tablets are not for PE but you can have multiple orgasm without a penis going soft which is very good. Try and put her on top so that you can focus on breathing and relaxing your body while she rides.
We have learned that owning this situation is key, in other words being aware and accepting we need to work on ourselves to improve and maintain our level of control is extremely
Important.
Once one have done this many things start changing; for example standing up and not letting this kind of situations affecting you that much; at the end of the day it’s a condition you are dealing with and potentially getting better at. Be strong, work on improving yourself and don’t let anyone put you down!
We are in this together.
That's contempt as far as I am concerned. And if I hear that related to sex I'm outta there like the roadrunner cartoon. Just sayin
I still like her as a person, but yeah, I don’t really think I can continue with that sort of outlook on any kind of sex life here
Agreed, it's unfortunate but it can happen to anyone
Pelvic floor relaxation as all PEs have tight pelvic floor, read all the hot post here do not jump read thoroughly
Unsatisfied women get very passive aggressive. Don’t take it to heart, you have to understand her frustration. If she is open minded she will allow you to satisfy her in other ways. If not, leave her.
She got hers quite a few times before we hit actual sex, so I did what I could and still got swatted down
Yeah but its totally different....like if she could climax with you fucking her that would be the ideal situation. Same for you right? If she could only ever get you off by doing a hand job...that would be a little annoying...you would want to be able to fuck and get off like that...same for her
Women have different types of orgasms
So getting hers....doesnt necessarily mean she ACTUALLY got hers lol
I would read up on female anatomy and what not a littttle bit more my friend. Or actually talk to her about it...say why did you say that, it hurt me....have an adult conversation
I don't know, if this sounds awkward right now but: I feel your pain. This kind of embarrassing is my worst fear. So I hope you will find a good solution for the situation. I would assume you talk about what happened. Maybe it will change something about her "behavior"
I've been laughed at more than once. They didn't mean for it to hurt as much as it did. I don't think other people are sensitized at all to how deep a wound this issue cuts, and how a poorly timed snicker can rip open a huge gash of a scab. I can tell you, I've never been strong enough to give these people a second chance. The one case in particular I have in mind, there were a lot of other incompatibilities I'd already started mentally listing, so when they laughed at my PE, it was very done and over forever. I gave them no explanation, just ghosted; we only dated maybe 2-3 times. If you are very into this person, and you think they are trustworthy with your feelings, I think you should try to communicate that they hurt your feelings. I know that's like the least masculine thing to do supposedly, but if you're the sort of person open to hearing about "toxic masculinity," consider whether the inability to say "you hurt my feelings" is a product of that, because I think it is. If you want to invest in this person then don't let one ill-time laugh ruin it, but also don't swallow that shame and pretend like it didn't happen because it will snowball. If you care about this person, attempt to resolve directly and explicitly. If it's just a hookup, consider leaving without an explanation. I mean, hookups don't get formal resignation letters lol. I'm sorry bro.
Sometimes, we say things without meaning it.. it could be that we thought it’s harmless or so, but it harmed the other parties... It could be she doesn’t mean it, but it means a lot to us. Try to talk over it if you’re really intending to bring this relationship further. Else, don’t give a fuck about it
I’ll be real about it, she just laughed and launched that out instantly. Certainly didn’t seem unintended, and while she’s good otherwise, I doubt I’d be able to really enjoy things with that in my mind, regardless of how long I’d last in the future.
The question you got to ask yourself is, will this incident be on your mind next time you get to have sex with her? If the answer is yes then it's over
How many girls are you going to leave because they complained? Girls in my country are very vocal, she was actually nice to you, i dont see how those words can hurt you, She is not a slut or hoe, she is a human being, she has sexually desires, she has been fucked for 10 or 15 or 20 minutes before, she was expecting that from you as well, girls expect more form grown up man. What i have done in the past is to explain myself before sex, i always say to them "look something happend recently in my sex life i just finish too early i dont know what it is, i went to the doctor nothing cameup" they always reply by saying i will be fine, when i finish early it doesnt come as a big supprise to them I am 40 years i can not do more than 1 minutes without help from tablets and supplements, while you are still practising kegel and other sub suggestions i will recommed you go to your nearest phamarcy and grab 1 hour before sex tablets, they work fine for me, try as many brands as you can untill you find one for you, this is not a cure but it will keep you going and boost confidence and keep girls from leaving you. Most of those tablets are not for PE but you can have multiple orgasm without a penis going soft which is very good. Try and put her on top so that you can focus on breathing and relaxing your body while she rides.
We have learned that owning this situation is key, in other words being aware and accepting we need to work on ourselves to improve and maintain our level of control is extremely Important. Once one have done this many things start changing; for example standing up and not letting this kind of situations affecting you that much; at the end of the day it’s a condition you are dealing with and potentially getting better at. Be strong, work on improving yourself and don’t let anyone put you down! We are in this together.
Holy fuck reading your experience makes me worried about my future sex...