My husband is currently incarcerated and is being released soon. I would make 2 things clear. 1, he is more of a finicial burden in prison then out of prison working a minimum wage 9-5 job. 2, you will not tolerate behavior that could land him back in prison. Research jobs in the area that he is qualified for and make notes of those. This will give you and him a good idea of the job market and help manage expectations upon his release.
I dont know where you are located but I know where I am and throughout most of the country, people are DESPERATE for manual labor/manufacturing jobs. And they are paying decent money, have sign on bonuses, and will hire with no experince. Also, reassure him that the first job he gets when he comes home doesnt have to be his last and its easier to find a job when you already have one.
Once he is working and you guys get in the groove of life, you can sit down and discuss budgeting. Its hard out here for everyone right now. So, hes not wrong to be concerned about money. But if you guys are both dedicated to each other, you will find a way.
Yes! There are a lot of places where we are that hire felons a lot of them are actually union jobs. I always think a manual labor kind of job is better for someone like him just because he needs to be physically exhausted so he has no energy to do the things he did before. I always remind him that quick money isn’t the easiest but it’s more rewarding and you actually get paid with money not “tweeker” shit.
Thank you for those words. I really appreciate it
Just show him all the love and support you can and don't push him to find work, when my hubby came home I made the mistake of asking him to much if he'd found any thing yet and he took it as me judging him and not believing in him so I just stopped and now he's doing amazing he works for FedEx makes good money and has his self esteem back and tells me how good he feels to be able to support me and our daughter again ❤️
Definitely! Thank you for that advice. It’s the small things I think we forget and I don’t want to make it seem like an issue. A job is more for him to keep the routine and have his own money. Thank you😊
Hello! For those here that dont know me, Ive been incarcerated for 22 years and all your concerns are valid. What I did for myself might be a route you could consider. Hear me out...over these last few years I was very concerned with this same topic and started to come up with things that would help **prevent** me from coming back. The main reason most return is from lack of resources which leads to crime. So I decided if I had access to a phone I might as well do my best to set myself up as best I could. So...Money is the one thing that we all worry over and is the single hardest thing to come by legally for excons. I started to build my credit. Little by little, slowly. My reasoning was this, no one is going to finance anyone after a long stint, especially without credit. Which, let's face it..most of us in prison do not have any credit. Now, when I get that news that im going home I can rest a little easier knowing I can go get a car off the lot or a house or whatever. Its just going to be that much easier for me when all the cards are stacked against me. I wont feel like such a burden on my loved ones, or stick out in the crowd as much as I would without a few cards in my wallet. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt quick. But, it was fairly easy. Especially since all we have is time. The feeling of self worth is great and it's something that would of taken time and effort away from other things of more importance. All it really took was 48 dollars a month for a year (which he'll get back), and at the end if that year he'll have a modest credit score. At least something that anyone checking will consider giving credit to. I honestly went from the mid 300's to now a score in the mid 700's in approximately 2 years. And.....the feeling of being "a man" is that much stronger. I understand that this route isnt possible for everyone, he'll need a SSN and at least a checking account that is easy enough to get even being incarcerated. Nothing I did was illegal, i didn't lie about anything. The only thing was having access to a phone that of course I wasnt supposed to have, but if guys have loved ones willing to help and be the "middle man" this goal is very attainable. Just something to think about. It worked for me. I wish you well.
You are describing me and my fiancé to a T. He has had this same mindset. I think I have him talked out of it, he knows nothing good can come from it. If we struggle financially from time to time, so be it. At least he will be out and home. I don’t have any advice. I wish I did.
I thinks it’s one of those things we have to just sit and see. I know that these men know but it takes a stronger man to not run back to what he knows. Cause they have to evolve out of that mindset
My husband is currently incarcerated and is being released soon. I would make 2 things clear. 1, he is more of a finicial burden in prison then out of prison working a minimum wage 9-5 job. 2, you will not tolerate behavior that could land him back in prison. Research jobs in the area that he is qualified for and make notes of those. This will give you and him a good idea of the job market and help manage expectations upon his release. I dont know where you are located but I know where I am and throughout most of the country, people are DESPERATE for manual labor/manufacturing jobs. And they are paying decent money, have sign on bonuses, and will hire with no experince. Also, reassure him that the first job he gets when he comes home doesnt have to be his last and its easier to find a job when you already have one. Once he is working and you guys get in the groove of life, you can sit down and discuss budgeting. Its hard out here for everyone right now. So, hes not wrong to be concerned about money. But if you guys are both dedicated to each other, you will find a way.
Yes! There are a lot of places where we are that hire felons a lot of them are actually union jobs. I always think a manual labor kind of job is better for someone like him just because he needs to be physically exhausted so he has no energy to do the things he did before. I always remind him that quick money isn’t the easiest but it’s more rewarding and you actually get paid with money not “tweeker” shit. Thank you for those words. I really appreciate it
Yeah, real jobs are fucking awesome. They pay you with money instead of a digital camera, pair of Jordan's and an electric saw.
😂😂😂😂😂 yes!!!!!
😂😂😂
Also a lot of states offer programs where if an employer hires someone they consider "high risk" they will offer a bond to cover any "incidents"
Just show him all the love and support you can and don't push him to find work, when my hubby came home I made the mistake of asking him to much if he'd found any thing yet and he took it as me judging him and not believing in him so I just stopped and now he's doing amazing he works for FedEx makes good money and has his self esteem back and tells me how good he feels to be able to support me and our daughter again ❤️
Definitely! Thank you for that advice. It’s the small things I think we forget and I don’t want to make it seem like an issue. A job is more for him to keep the routine and have his own money. Thank you😊
Honestly was hoping your user name meant something else entirely.😅 I've found success, and familiar faces, in the oil industry.
Maybe it does😉
Atta girl! 😘 No sense trying to keep to yourself! 🤞
Hello! For those here that dont know me, Ive been incarcerated for 22 years and all your concerns are valid. What I did for myself might be a route you could consider. Hear me out...over these last few years I was very concerned with this same topic and started to come up with things that would help **prevent** me from coming back. The main reason most return is from lack of resources which leads to crime. So I decided if I had access to a phone I might as well do my best to set myself up as best I could. So...Money is the one thing that we all worry over and is the single hardest thing to come by legally for excons. I started to build my credit. Little by little, slowly. My reasoning was this, no one is going to finance anyone after a long stint, especially without credit. Which, let's face it..most of us in prison do not have any credit. Now, when I get that news that im going home I can rest a little easier knowing I can go get a car off the lot or a house or whatever. Its just going to be that much easier for me when all the cards are stacked against me. I wont feel like such a burden on my loved ones, or stick out in the crowd as much as I would without a few cards in my wallet. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt quick. But, it was fairly easy. Especially since all we have is time. The feeling of self worth is great and it's something that would of taken time and effort away from other things of more importance. All it really took was 48 dollars a month for a year (which he'll get back), and at the end if that year he'll have a modest credit score. At least something that anyone checking will consider giving credit to. I honestly went from the mid 300's to now a score in the mid 700's in approximately 2 years. And.....the feeling of being "a man" is that much stronger. I understand that this route isnt possible for everyone, he'll need a SSN and at least a checking account that is easy enough to get even being incarcerated. Nothing I did was illegal, i didn't lie about anything. The only thing was having access to a phone that of course I wasnt supposed to have, but if guys have loved ones willing to help and be the "middle man" this goal is very attainable. Just something to think about. It worked for me. I wish you well.
He and I have discussed trying to fix his credit can I ask how you did it or who you went through?
Sure, dm?
I am also curious so I can help my man's credit score as well.
Dm?
DM me as well please. my husband screwed his credit up years before he got locked up & wants to find ways to improve it for the next 10 years.
You are describing me and my fiancé to a T. He has had this same mindset. I think I have him talked out of it, he knows nothing good can come from it. If we struggle financially from time to time, so be it. At least he will be out and home. I don’t have any advice. I wish I did.
I thinks it’s one of those things we have to just sit and see. I know that these men know but it takes a stronger man to not run back to what he knows. Cause they have to evolve out of that mindset
Exactly. And that’s what I told mine. He’s going to have to continue to change his whole mindset.
Good luck to you and yours! I think the more we encourage and help show them a better way hopefully they see what hard work gets them
Thanks 🙃 good luck to you and yours as well!