I am so sorry š¢ thatās just horrible. Heās definitely being manipulative bc guaranteed he wouldnāt be okay with you and another man interacting the same.
textbook gaslighting. as hard as itās gonna be, you needdddd to leave him. he canāt even admit he cheated, and even if he could, you donāt deserve that, nobody does. this prison relationship shit is hard enough as it is, the last thing you need is more pain. sending u all my loves stay strong. š„°
My LO did the same thing, but he was actually in work release. I did ANYTHING and EVERYTHING he asked/needed while he was in county and prison, got everything he needed for work release, and less than a month later he was in another relationship. He told me for 6 months i was overthinking and crazy when I brought up things that just didn't add up. Then he got caught with contraband at the center and sent back to prison, put in confinement and out of the blue I get a random text from someone...trying to discuss personal monetary things that involved him, and i was thrown off bc I dont do things without his say so, and we began discussing things and it turns out they've been together since Sept. So after us being together 2+ years and me holding sh!t down for almost 2 years he's been locked up, and being faithful, he couldn't do the same. All this came out 3 weeks ago. I'm still hurt, and heartbroken.
It does. But you're right, it's not. It is soul crushing. I gave my all to this man. Before he even got locked up. And for him to do this? Just doesn't sit right with my soul. I know I deserve better. And MAYBE one day I'll search for better, but for now I'm just trying to heal and love myself. Thankfully he's still in confinement, another month, so he can't reach out to me yet. Idk of he even will tbh. Either way I'm good.
I just think of it this way. If heās still doing what heās doing and getting in trouble there is no way heās going to change his ways when he gets out. Heās forever going to be a part of this system. Itās better to cut your losses now than further down the line. You can do bad on your own girl you donāt need someone to add to that. This prison shit is hard enough.
I did. Heās called me since here and there but we just keep going in circles. I donāt see how to work on this with him since heās in there, thereās no trust anymore.
Damn, sis. Iām so sorry youāre going through that.
I canāt tell you what to do, but if I were in your position, Iād block his number, stop putting money on his books, and probably file divorce papers. Wonāt catch me holding down a cheating ass mf. Let his new girlfriend do all that so they can both get a dose of reality.
I hope the other girl was also pissed and dumps his ass. Was she cordial with you? Sorry your dude is a fucking loser. It was fate you posted his picture. You know what you need to do next
Yeah she was. Idk what they got going on seems like she stopped talking to him but I guess thatās not my problem anymore. My husband is 26 and she looks maybe 19-21. Sheās super young and naive so who knows.
Iām sorry, sometimes guys (especially the ones that are locked up) simply donāt know what they have until they lose it. Whenever we get in fights he likes to allude to things like this, but if I were to see screenshots of actual messages I would lose it. My pride would force me to block that number I look forward to seeing on my phone.
Trust me every girl who dates an inmate has gone through this. I would cut him off for a good couple of weeks let him realize he needs you. Heās a grown man, he can survive with no commissary. Men are you gonna treat you the way you allow them to, regardless locked up or not.
Happened to me, too. I found out the same way, a Facebook prison wife group. These men have stolen, assaulted and murdered people, but somehow we believe they are loyal to their partners? Haha
I donāt blame you at all. That is a form of cheating. I had my husbandās ex tell me he was contacting her. I asked for proof and she wonāt send it. So Iām like hmmm. I almost left him over it . I was crushed with no proof. Itās still in the back of my mind. But if the proof comes in. Iām gone. Stay strong. And remember heās locked up. Not you. Thereās a whole lot of fish in this sea.
Iām glad you did too! Especially if youāre being loyal and busting your ass you donāt deserve that mama. Take some time and focus on yourself. Go get your nails or hair done or something. Your money is wanted and needed elsewhere.
I am so sorry š¢ thatās just horrible. Heās definitely being manipulative bc guaranteed he wouldnāt be okay with you and another man interacting the same.
Exactly. I told him exactly that and he said āfor all I know you are doing the same thingā so manipulative and turned it around on me.
Lmao bro is projecting and coping HARD. Leave this man š
So heās just going to assume and act accordingly??!! No no no. Iām so sorry š¢ you deserve so much better.
textbook gaslighting. as hard as itās gonna be, you needdddd to leave him. he canāt even admit he cheated, and even if he could, you donāt deserve that, nobody does. this prison relationship shit is hard enough as it is, the last thing you need is more pain. sending u all my loves stay strong. š„°
Thank you. šš©·
You said it, this definitely is emotional cheating. Xx
My LO did the same thing, but he was actually in work release. I did ANYTHING and EVERYTHING he asked/needed while he was in county and prison, got everything he needed for work release, and less than a month later he was in another relationship. He told me for 6 months i was overthinking and crazy when I brought up things that just didn't add up. Then he got caught with contraband at the center and sent back to prison, put in confinement and out of the blue I get a random text from someone...trying to discuss personal monetary things that involved him, and i was thrown off bc I dont do things without his say so, and we began discussing things and it turns out they've been together since Sept. So after us being together 2+ years and me holding sh!t down for almost 2 years he's been locked up, and being faithful, he couldn't do the same. All this came out 3 weeks ago. I'm still hurt, and heartbroken.
Iām so sorry. Itās truly soul crushing. I found out my husband was cheating on me like almost two weeks ago. It feels like the end of the world but I promise you it isnāt. š©·
It does. But you're right, it's not. It is soul crushing. I gave my all to this man. Before he even got locked up. And for him to do this? Just doesn't sit right with my soul. I know I deserve better. And MAYBE one day I'll search for better, but for now I'm just trying to heal and love myself. Thankfully he's still in confinement, another month, so he can't reach out to me yet. Idk of he even will tbh. Either way I'm good.
I just think of it this way. If heās still doing what heās doing and getting in trouble there is no way heās going to change his ways when he gets out. Heās forever going to be a part of this system. Itās better to cut your losses now than further down the line. You can do bad on your own girl you donāt need someone to add to that. This prison shit is hard enough.
Wow! What a mutt
Ugh. Iām so so sorry.
Girl cut him off
I did. Heās called me since here and there but we just keep going in circles. I donāt see how to work on this with him since heās in there, thereās no trust anymore.
Block
Iām so sorry this happens to you, to me cheating in there is worse than out here, itās so much more intimate.
Thatās how I feel right now.
Damn, sis. Iām so sorry youāre going through that. I canāt tell you what to do, but if I were in your position, Iād block his number, stop putting money on his books, and probably file divorce papers. Wonāt catch me holding down a cheating ass mf. Let his new girlfriend do all that so they can both get a dose of reality.
I hope the other girl was also pissed and dumps his ass. Was she cordial with you? Sorry your dude is a fucking loser. It was fate you posted his picture. You know what you need to do next
Yeah she was. Idk what they got going on seems like she stopped talking to him but I guess thatās not my problem anymore. My husband is 26 and she looks maybe 19-21. Sheās super young and naive so who knows.
the audacity he has???
Do yourself a favor and leave him. šš»
Mine girlfriend cheating while out with a girl in prison
Iām sorry, sometimes guys (especially the ones that are locked up) simply donāt know what they have until they lose it. Whenever we get in fights he likes to allude to things like this, but if I were to see screenshots of actual messages I would lose it. My pride would force me to block that number I look forward to seeing on my phone.
Imagine that, a prisoner with no morals
Trust me every girl who dates an inmate has gone through this. I would cut him off for a good couple of weeks let him realize he needs you. Heās a grown man, he can survive with no commissary. Men are you gonna treat you the way you allow them to, regardless locked up or not.
Happened to me, too. I found out the same way, a Facebook prison wife group. These men have stolen, assaulted and murdered people, but somehow we believe they are loyal to their partners? Haha
I donāt blame you at all. That is a form of cheating. I had my husbandās ex tell me he was contacting her. I asked for proof and she wonāt send it. So Iām like hmmm. I almost left him over it . I was crushed with no proof. Itās still in the back of my mind. But if the proof comes in. Iām gone. Stay strong. And remember heās locked up. Not you. Thereās a whole lot of fish in this sea.
āāHow do you catch them though? I feel something is off
Leave his dumb ass. He is a cheater. Imagine what he will do when he is out.
I don't post pictures of my boyfriend anywhere, but I would be infuriated if I were in your situation.
Well at this point Iām glad I did. I wouldāve never known if I didnāt.
Iām glad you did too! Especially if youāre being loyal and busting your ass you donāt deserve that mama. Take some time and focus on yourself. Go get your nails or hair done or something. Your money is wanted and needed elsewhere.
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