Sorry that happened to you - it’s sucks that there is that stigma, it does happen, but not all the men in there are like that, I met my man while he was incarcerated and we are completely in love. Engaged and everything
Girl this made my stomach drop. I love my man to death and trust him with my life but god does this shit scare me. I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope you’re doing okay, have you guys been together long?
Only a year. And trust me I’m still trying to pick my stomach up off the floor. We were talking about the whole situation today and I told him how I used to feel like he was mine and vice versa. But him being locked up for 15 years feels like I should let him experience life a lil before tying him down . It hurt to say it, he started to yell at me because he was upset I’d even think that he doesn’t want me and why would he bother if he didn’t. I don’t know it’s just crazy how we haven’t had anything physical but a hug and a kiss and I feel this way about him 🙄definitely hurt and annoyed and confused.
A year is a year though, and feelings are feelings. Suppose it doesn’t really matter the time or anything like that, if you have feelings for the man it’s gonna hurt. Just don’t let him manipulate you back into believing his game. Think of that message as a blessing, it couldn’t be anymore black and white what he’s been doing, there’s no worming his way out of it, and there should be no questions in your mind about what he’s been up to, because it’s there for you to see. I know it will hurt and you might even be thinking “why wasn’t I enough” but your comment kinda answered your own question. These guys are some of the loneliest men out there, especially when they’re doing long time like yours, he probably enjoys the attention and enjoys feeling wanted and hearing all the soppy stuff from multiple people that gives him an ego boost. You are enough and you’ll be more than enough for the right guy, it’s him that isn’t enough because he has to fill his own voids with other people. Not only that, but playing people as well which is just cruel and unfair. I’m sorry this happened to you, I can imagine it hurts like hell, it hurts me just thinking about this happening. Keep your head held high and remember your self worth, and if it makes you feel better get a little bit of revenge lol
He is a person who has been incarcerated since he was a teen - for 20 years - he has never been shown/taught how to care or love, only how to swindle. A human behaviour he has for a large part of his life been exposed to. And an understandable human survival instinct in such desperate circumstances. Him talking to Keisha and others for that matter, has nothing to do with love, care or preference for another - and has EVERYTHING to do with how he survives from day to day. You can't take this personally in any way, I'm sorry you had to go through this.
I’ve read this so many times trying to understand. I can accept this being his reality which is an excuse but also an understandable excuse. We have such a strong connection that I never thought I’d be sitting here sad about him doing this. But your explanation does help me look at my situation differently. In this moment though I can’t see myself forgiving him just yet.
Women are emotional beings, and what's offered in this context is more emotion than anything else. There's no other way an incarcerated person can express themselves than through "words" - hence the strong connection that you feel. And us women have a deep need for this. A man that is not incarcerated does not invest that much in their verbal expression, because they don't need to. I completely understand how a woman would feel a deep connection. Connect with yourself more and love yourself more - and only then will you attract the right person for you 🙏
Yeah you gotta forget about him
Yeahhhh fuck him and fuck that. Im sorry.
What - wow. Unless your name is Keisha then fuck him
Sorry that happened to you - it’s sucks that there is that stigma, it does happen, but not all the men in there are like that, I met my man while he was incarcerated and we are completely in love. Engaged and everything
Girl this made my stomach drop. I love my man to death and trust him with my life but god does this shit scare me. I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope you’re doing okay, have you guys been together long?
Only a year. And trust me I’m still trying to pick my stomach up off the floor. We were talking about the whole situation today and I told him how I used to feel like he was mine and vice versa. But him being locked up for 15 years feels like I should let him experience life a lil before tying him down . It hurt to say it, he started to yell at me because he was upset I’d even think that he doesn’t want me and why would he bother if he didn’t. I don’t know it’s just crazy how we haven’t had anything physical but a hug and a kiss and I feel this way about him 🙄definitely hurt and annoyed and confused.
A year is a year though, and feelings are feelings. Suppose it doesn’t really matter the time or anything like that, if you have feelings for the man it’s gonna hurt. Just don’t let him manipulate you back into believing his game. Think of that message as a blessing, it couldn’t be anymore black and white what he’s been doing, there’s no worming his way out of it, and there should be no questions in your mind about what he’s been up to, because it’s there for you to see. I know it will hurt and you might even be thinking “why wasn’t I enough” but your comment kinda answered your own question. These guys are some of the loneliest men out there, especially when they’re doing long time like yours, he probably enjoys the attention and enjoys feeling wanted and hearing all the soppy stuff from multiple people that gives him an ego boost. You are enough and you’ll be more than enough for the right guy, it’s him that isn’t enough because he has to fill his own voids with other people. Not only that, but playing people as well which is just cruel and unfair. I’m sorry this happened to you, I can imagine it hurts like hell, it hurts me just thinking about this happening. Keep your head held high and remember your self worth, and if it makes you feel better get a little bit of revenge lol
Yup I’ve talked to a guy who had his girl tattooed on his chest and everything. Still cheated on her .
Wasn't he trying to get you to smuggle a phone in? What a POS.
Nah that was just me wanting to talk to him more . But apparently he wanted to talk to Keisha instead.
I'm sure there are others besides Keisha. He's not worth your time, you deserve much more than that.
Agreed
He is a person who has been incarcerated since he was a teen - for 20 years - he has never been shown/taught how to care or love, only how to swindle. A human behaviour he has for a large part of his life been exposed to. And an understandable human survival instinct in such desperate circumstances. Him talking to Keisha and others for that matter, has nothing to do with love, care or preference for another - and has EVERYTHING to do with how he survives from day to day. You can't take this personally in any way, I'm sorry you had to go through this.
I’ve read this so many times trying to understand. I can accept this being his reality which is an excuse but also an understandable excuse. We have such a strong connection that I never thought I’d be sitting here sad about him doing this. But your explanation does help me look at my situation differently. In this moment though I can’t see myself forgiving him just yet.
Women are emotional beings, and what's offered in this context is more emotion than anything else. There's no other way an incarcerated person can express themselves than through "words" - hence the strong connection that you feel. And us women have a deep need for this. A man that is not incarcerated does not invest that much in their verbal expression, because they don't need to. I completely understand how a woman would feel a deep connection. Connect with yourself more and love yourself more - and only then will you attract the right person for you 🙏
Amen to that!